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Table of Contents 2020: FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Just Ten Posts (Jan.-July) and Its Only Page [Publ. May 18, 2021..]

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This post  is “in transition” (I am off-ramping introductory sections in order to feature more table, less talk).

Just now, I stopped mid-edit in a narrative section after adding some quotes on “stakeholders,” a bit of a sore point from my perspective. So-called “stakeholders” in national (and global) policies demand a closer look at usage of the term and who decides who is NOT a stakeholder, typically those most impacted by exclusion and/or decades of policy- and field-building without reference to things (we) know about, things easy to observe once attention is called to their existence, something (for efficiency and power reasons) typical stakeholders in the operations don’t particularly want.

I am NOT happy with this post just now, but not kidding myself about the level of traffic coming to it.  Will consider editing options…

Post revision will not happen immediately.  Thanks for your patience meanwhile.  The Table Of Contents is still here, and plenty of other reading material on the blog, accessible through main pages and sidebar widgets //LGH, 6/15/2021.


Title: Table of Contents 2020: FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Just Ten Posts (Jan.-July) and Its Only Page [Publ. May 18, 2021..] (short-link ends “-cKH”)

This is a “sticky” post.  For more on that and short-links nomenclature see my “Front Page” (just type “FamilyCourtMatters.org“). “Sticky” (pinned to the top) makes this now the top of 14 sticky posts accessible through the “Current Posts” doorway (page) to this blog. That’s why you get some introduction before the actual table of contents… Expect some post-publication revisions, including removing excess text where I feel it appropriate….

Some posts are marked sticky to provide access other years’ tables of contents. For example:

Reviewing those 14 sticky posts, which go back to January, 2017, to shorten their “teasers” (how much text before the “read-more” instruction), I found two I’d like to mention here. The first one (despite its wordy title) was top of the blog when I restructured it, with a “Let’s Talk!” message.  The two posts, both from April-May 2018, and so about three years old now, are:

May 2, 2018

Post Title In 2018, Clamors to Fix, Reform, or Make Kids Safe WITHIN Family Courts STILL (Abusively, Territorially, and Intentionally) Limit Possible Answers by Censoring Terms Admitting Other Historic Evidence — About The Courts (not “Batterers!”) AND Government Itself — while Coaching (even Certifying) Others to Imitate. (Published May 2, 2018) (case-sensitive short-link ending -8Ly,” about 10,700 words)

April 19, 2018

Post Title:Q1, 2018 Posts and “You Are Here,” on my Blog. Meanwhile, WE are Here, Collectively. (Or, From ‘Hewers of Wood + Drawers of Water’ To Functionally and Financially Illiterate** Consumers of Information, Products, and Social Services). (Publ. April 19, 2018) [Case-sensitive, WordPress-generated shortlink ends “-8X8” and this post ends after about 11,000 words]

**Explained more below in this post, and in a typical post. No apologies for failing to sugar-coat the news. Or for long sentences in the next few indented paragraphs, summarizing my understanding and explaining that comment. With additional “show-and-tell” relating to the rest of this post (and blog).


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May 18, 2021 at 7:00 am

‘Family Court Matters’ Issues Summary, At This Time: Right Sidebar ‘GO-TO | Current Posts’ Widget (Publ. Dec. 21, 2019 as 13th Sticky Post).

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Post Title: ‘Family Court Matters’ Issues Summary, At This Time: Right Sidebar ‘GO-TO | Current Posts’ Widget  (Publ. Dec. 21, 2019 as 13th Sticky Post). (short-link ends “-bUM,” )

(Section (2) of (3) additions bring this to about 8,000 words as of 12/25/2019. (Detailing some footnoted organizations on the featured page… explained in context as it comes up). Though short, Section (3) was the main part — listing text boxes on Sidebar Widget for easier access.

This post further advertises the updated top right sidebar widget of my blog (by posting all its contents and marking the new post sticky) and features one of the pages which caught my attention during the update. The post was edited and/or copy-edited post-publication, adding mini-sections to the middle part, so while it no longer qualifies as “short” it still qualifies as I believe relevant.

For the straightforward list of Ten text boxes from the top right widget (titles and links) scroll or page-down to Section (3) of (3) announced by:

(3) (Lists Text Boxes; in diff’t background color):

However if you intend to eventually read this blog, what comes before it — sections (1) and (2)  — shows what you’re in for and where I’m coming from.  Expect to be challenged and to exercise reason (engage in plenty of reading), comparison, probably some basic vocabulary development (unless you’re an accountant or financial services advisor — and even then… the perspective differs) and to along the way acquire “non-partisan” insight into how our country is run.

WYSIWYG: At this point, I don’t do consulting, conference circuits, presentations, webinars etc. so what you see here (and on my Twitter account) is what you get from me, except for any personal contact, which I generally keep to a minimum, in part because of what I have to say about the system and in part for how personal privacy relates to personal safety as it has for years…  If you want more or appreciate what’s here, please consider that DONATE button (suggested minimum: $10.00).

//LGH Dec. 25, 2019 update…  
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December 21, 2019 at 8:17 pm

Table of Contents 2019, FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Posts + Pages: January 1 – Dec. 31(complete list).

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(Post updated month by month since first posted Aug. 5.  Some updates include explanations or commentary..//LGH Dec. 19, 2019

I added the last post published in 2019 (Dec. 21) to this Table on June 10, 2020; dates covered are later than date first published//LGH.

No single essay (post or page, even with the exhibits) can expose an entire network developed over the decades, expanding and evolving in its many roots, branches, tendrils above and below ground (direct public awareness ℅ storefront websites and periodic MSM feature stories). Understanding comes with exposure over time and seeing some of the basic operating principles in action, which I blog in a show and tell manner.  I’m just not focused on anecdotal narrative based on individual cases, not even my own. (See blog motto: “A Different Kind of Attention Develops Sound Judgment”).


Table of Contents 2019, FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Posts + Pages: January 1 – Dec. 31 (complete list).

(Shortlink ends “-ayV.” About 9,600 words (w/ monthly updates extending the table; word-count high in part because of the post “tags” added to the table as their own rows).  Last update Dec. 19, 2019, adds all Nov. posts and all Dec. posts so far (@12/19).

Post published August 5, and updated periodically as the blog grows.  The post shows on the table, chronologically under Aug. 5th, but being marked “Sticky”  remains in top position of “Current Posts.”   TOCs 2018 and 2019 are both recommended reading for my current research focus (browse titles) as is anything which made it onto my top right sidebar widget. Direct links to both this post and TOC 2018 show on my right sidebar, and both also are marked sticky, so TOC 2018 is also stationed among the top 12 posts. I’ll explain this again below with some images.

Within the table of contents, you’ll see this August 5 post easily from its white-on-black color scheme:

The Year in Posts  & Pages (so far, through Dec. 16)
(with approximate word counts for each and “tags” for some)
URL: short-link ends:
 (Normal color for a row containing a post title & link)
Aug. 5
Table of Contents 2019, Family Court Matters’ Posts + Pages: January 1 – Dec. 16 (so far).
(“Sticky.”  About 6,000 words initial; the word count growing month-by-month with each update of course)


Table of Contents Post PREVIEW

Table of Contents 2019 here, unlike TOCs for 2012-2014, 2016, and 2017, incorporates any new pages by date published. Individual TOCs for late 2012 – 2017 can still be accessed within the top dozen sticky posts through the one for “2017” which internalizes links to the others: full title:  2017 Table of Contents Continues Themes From 2016. See TOC for: (1) 2017 now thru March Sept. 21; (2) 2016 All; (3) Sept. 2012 – June 2014, Reverse Chrono, and (4) See Also More Info Below. Shortlink-ends 5qZ,first published Jan. 9, 2017.. 

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58 More Essays (Pages) on Essentials** of the Family Court Arena. **IMHO, as expressed 2009-2019.

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You are reading: 58 More Essays (Pages) on Essentials** of the Family Court Arena. **IMHO, as expressed 2009-2019(WordPress-generated, case-sensitive short-link ends -ar9. //LGH July 31, 2019.  About 8,000 words as updated Aug. 4, 2019)   This title will be repeated a few inches below (that time with a Footnote [1]).

ANY post may be further edited (as in, condensed, or expanded, or both) after publishing. Blogger’s privilege!

Speaking of which, I’m adding TWO HELPFUL LINKS here, Sept. 1, as you see here.  They are blog navigation (two years’ worth of tables of contents, only one of which (2018) is among these top “sticky” posts).  TOC for 2019 (“so far”) was published Aug. 5 and updated through August 31 (“so far”) as well as added separately to the blog sidebar widget, and (that’s new) TOC 2018 right underneath it.They are also inserted here to recommend browsing this blog’s titles (in table format) for a quick, informal, overview of subject matter and to better help understand where I’m coming from, taken as a whole.I may add this specific TWO HELPFUL LINKS  inset (with attached image) of information to about one post a month, moving forward, and have inserted it to some as far back as May, 2019.  //LGH September 1, 2019.

re: ‘TWO HELPFUL LINKS’ — Image from TopRightSidebar, ‘GO TO POSTS’ widget, shows TOC 2019 & 2018 + ‘Key Posts 2012-2017’ (LGH, @ Sept. 1, 2019)

TWO HELPFUL LINKS added Sept. 1, 2019 (for recent subject matter overview):

 Table of Contents 2019, Family Court Matters’ Posts + Pages: January 1 – August 31 (so far). (Shortlink ends “-ayV.”  About 6,300 words,posted August 5, updated Aug. 31) (You can also link to this TOC post any time from the top right sidebar, under”GO TO: All Posts, incl. Sticky, Tables of Contents..” widget, which holds several boxes for navigating to specific important places (posts or pages, incl. the home page), and, 

(Table of Contents 2018, Posts and Pages.. (publ. 24Mar2019, short-link ends ‘9y7’)


58 More Essays (Pages) on Essentials** of the Family Court Arena. **IMHO, as expressed 2009-2019(WordPress-generated, case-sensitive short-link ends -ar9. //LGH July 31, 2019.  About 8,000 words as updated Aug. 4, 2019) [1].

I had fun writing these; hope you enjoy reading them.  Browse their titles, pick somewhere and dive in!

The “58 Essays” referenced in the title came from ‘PAGES’ (widget) from off right sidebar with all the links. The list of those titles with links directly to each one, also a 3X3 (nine total screenshots index) of all titles as seen formerly on the sidebar widget are the only illustrated (images involved) items on this post and are at the bottom. Look for images with some colorful lines and arrows, a bit of side-line commentary like these next two:



All material is my writing except where quoted, and all 58 pages were previously written across that ten-year time span. Now pinned to the top of the blog (designation “Sticky”), this post features them as basic content (and shortens the sidebar considerably). 

As ever, I voice my concerns about and continue to raise awareness of both current developing and longstanding situations whenever/wherever I have opportunity, including while writing this introduction.

Having written too much while creating this administrative/index post, I then off-ramped extra introduction text to:

That post holds key content on current developments and actors seeking to change family court legislation “locally” (within certain United States) and, I see, the battle pro/con “parental alienation” continuing internationally, with some of the same players on the “opposed” side, regarding publication by WHO of another “ICD-11” nomenclature for diseases. … (July 10 2019, Collective Memo of Concern  to WHO … RE: Inclusion of “Parental Alienation[2]  

I just happened to write the material on my mind while setting up this post.  There are still some opening comments here, though; some navigation, some, just want I want to say: call it my opening spiel.  (That too may be condensed later)…

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July 31, 2019 at 6:21 pm

Acknowledgements, Executive Summary (Current Projects | Rolling Blackouts) and What Makes This Blog “What You Need to Know” (July 31, 2019).

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ANY post may be further edited (as in, condensed, or expanded, or both) after publishing.  Blogger’s privilege!

You are reading: Acknowledgements, Executive Summary (Current Projects | Rolling Blackouts) and What Makes This Blog “What You Need to Know” (July 31, 2019). (Shortlink ends “-auh”, marked sticky, this is currently 10,600 words.  That includes two lengthy footnotes, one of which I expect to remove to its own post.)

Most of this post’s content has been moved from: 58 More Essays (Pages) on Essentials** of the Family Court Arena. **IMHO, as expressed 2009-2019. (Published July 31, 2019; Short-link ends “-ar9”) after both posts were published “sticky.” Because of that, there’s an element of “patchwork” in the post; but each part I hope communicates.

This post describes current projects in process, re-iterates my rationale for the blog, and gives key examples, “clues,” with links to where more may be found, showing that such clues have been around for a long time.

My blog in general alerts people (it cannot fully cover, solo) to the existence of a major information gap in reporting on family court-related matters, a gap it seems has been maintained by those wishing for a global restructuring of family law (nation by nation, apparently under UN / WHO standards) to go a certain way without addressing what, in fact, happened in the United States of America, where we have an allegedly secular (or at least Congress shall establish no-national-religion) government but somehow want to maintain official fatherhood policy — moderated by “family violence services” — closely mimicking several major religions, including those historically at war with each other, while emphasizing compromise with criminality and systemic abuse of women and children as the norm … “for family unity…”

BOTH the “Pro” and the “Con” sides on any (gender-based or”faith-based”) issue seem to be profiting from it.  With this type of prolonged conflict an obvious question is, who stands to gain what from refusing to resolve it according to law, or common sense?  How genuine are the causes being put forth as put forth?

I see this as more than just a power struggle for the role and place of women regarding men.  It’s also a power struggle for control of future generations of workers, i.e., population regulation, and it’s a power struggle for economic dominance through infrastructures that continue to supersede and undermine from within (any jurisdiction, including country), the rule of law specific to that country.   So, I’m going to continue testifying in this media, if not allowed another, to what I have not only experienced, but also witnessed and have been documenting for ten years now (and taking historical look-backs by government agency, nonprofit organizations, where available, and also reporting changes “in action” as they occur).

Just two post sections reflected in post title:  

  • Acknowledgements
    • A significant part of the landscape, i.e. “The Problem” is a  “Rolling Blackouts” situation // a sarcastic thank you to those generating a need for this blog. it’s also in part a statement of the problem; could’ve gone under “Executive Summary” where I see the title has it.
  • Executive Summary
    • “Current Projects” just names a few themes (geographies of interest) I’m working on now, of enough significance they got onto this top-ranked (pinned) post.
    • Executive Summary contains quick summaries directed at people who may not “get” the role of the U.S. Congress in the current family court problems, and some exhibits (images).
    • While I might expect that from people who don’t live or work in the USA, it’s a sad testimony that it continues being under-estimated or ignored by so many who do. (See “Rolling Blackouts” reference).
  • Any footnotes to the same (or, they may be integrated into main text, if it flows right).  Right now I have one referring to the State of Pennsylvania only.

These categories were added after I wrote, providing handy but casual labels, not for hard and fast rules.

This post despite its beginnings as a placeholder is I feel appropriately still near the top of the blog (right now, in Position #2) because it references currently developing events in different states (USA) and countries, some of which demand urgent attention from people who may not be aware of them, or of what seems like a coordinated strategy across different countries and in different states, frequently involving people and organizations I’ve had to report on, and at times personally deal with regarding those strategic cover-ups Read the rest of this entry »

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July 31, 2019 at 6:12 pm

“The Family Court Franchise System” (Blogspot.com, 2012 only, 40 posts and 7 Pages) Is Now Grafted into FamilyCourtMatters.org here (WordPress.com) as of April 7, 2019 [Updated (shortened) July 2-5, 2019].

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THIS POST IS: “The Family Court Franchise System” (Blogspot.com, 2012 only, 40 posts and 7 Pages) Is Now Grafted into FamilyCourtMatters.org here (WordPress.com) as of April 7, 2019. (shortlink ends “-9Aj”)

Published April 19, 2019, last updated July 2-5, 2019.** Approx. 10,000 words including the index (table of contents) to the blog merger. (Case-sensitive shortlink ends “-9Aj.”).  Check back here periodically for which of those 47 indexed reports (post & pages) have been re-published on this blog (some with updates or reiterations of relevance to current context). (**Major deletion of prose, bringing index close to the top).  See also SOME HELPFUL FOOTNOTES below the Index.

…  [2021 update:  I never merged the blogs; the other one still seems functional, so links provided here should work…  It’s still good to know about…//LGH]

2020 FORMAT UPDATE: THIS POST EXISTS TO PUBLISH A TABLE OF CONTENTS REPRESENTING THE MERGING OF ANOTHER OF MY non-WordPress BLOGS into this one to preserve its contents.  I assigned short-links to the posts in anticipation of publishing them here, on my main (major) blog. However, as of July 28, 2020 (this update) most of them aren’t yet published (Life’s been busy…), and they may, or may not still be available in on prior blog.  At the time, I had some messages that domain was going down and so moved quickly to preserve content by moving it here.. Here’s a partial image of that table.  There’s a lot of explanation matter up front, for example, of why each title appears twice.  (links to old blog also preserved here).

The visuals will be clearer than shown on this image from the post below//LGH

A snapshot of the table on my sticky post with short-link ending “-9Aj” published April, 2019…

[END, July 28, 2020 Update, to add this image].

This post may not be the best one to jump in on for a general blog overview. It’s actually an overview of a blog I merged into this one in 2019, having written it several years earlier, while the material is still relevant because the practices (and organizations pushing them, such as the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts or similar entities) are still pushing similar programming, and the same federal agencies (U.S.) continue also to fund programs, and have expanded scope and quantity, it seems affecting family court (and “human development”) outcomes.

A historic look from a different perspective (which mine still is!) is always helpful. If the concepts are new, the index below still shows post titles as a kind of overview, but I have not written this post for the purpose of re-summarizing everything (or this blog).  I wrote it, as the title says, to merge two blogs and retain the record of post titles separately from my normal tables of contents.

This post is sticky because it serves a specific purpose for which I didn’t want it buried among all posts, however it’s only on [now, “near”//LGH July 28, 2020] the top (if it still is when you’re reading this) because it was published last.  If you need less complicated visuals, or more plain text and fewer section titles, I recommend start at the top right sidebar, or just continue scrolling further down on this page to browse tables of contents, or current post titles.  In mid-2019 I’ve been working on re-organizing and some streamlining of the blog, while continuing to write, and still many people just do not speak ‘economic’ when it comes to this subject matter, or in general, so explaining it gets a bit cumbersome….
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2018 Blog Posts and New Pages (Full List with Titles) in Standard TOC Format [provided March 24, 2019]

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Title of this post: 2018 Blog Posts and New Pages (Full List with Titles) in Standard TOC Format [provided March 24, 2019] (Shortlink ends “-9y7″…)…

Sept. 2019 update: preliminary “TWO HELPFUL LINKS” insert (may be found scattered on other posts, too)…

Because we had enough ‘sticky posts,’ when compiling a Table of Contents for 2019 (“so far”) in August, 2019, I didn’t mark it sticky — but did stick it on the blog sidebar as its own widget.  Then I added (right below it) the link to this post.  Then I took that information and patched it onto a few existing posts (from 2019) as a quick link to a general overview of the last two years of my writing.   As shown here:**

re: ‘TWO HELPFUL LINKS’ — Image from TopRightSidebar, ‘GO TO POSTS’ widget, shows TOC 2019 & 2018 + ‘Key Posts 2012-2017’ (LGH, @ Sept. 1, 2019)

TWO HELPFUL LINKS added Sept. 1, 2019 (for recent subject matter overview):

 Table of Contents 2019, Family Court Matters’ Posts + Pages: January 1 – August 31 (so far). (Shortlink ends “-ayV.”  About 6,300 words,posted August 5, updated Aug. 31) (You can also link to this TOC post any time from the top right sidebar, under”GO TO: All Posts, incl. Sticky, Tables of Contents..” widget, which holds several boxes for navigating to specific important places (posts or pages, incl. the home page), and, 

(Table of Contents 2018, Posts and Pages.. (publ. 24Mar2019, short-link ends ‘9y7’)

(** other versions you may see have same content but the light-green background.  I made this one light-pink for contrast with existing post). Thanks for understanding.  //LGH Sept. 1, 2019 update.

Again, the title of this post: 2018 Blog Posts and New Pages (Full List with Titles) in Standard TOC Format [provided March 24, 2019] (Shortlink ends “-9y7”; about 4,000 words. )

NOTE: This post updates a previously published Table of Contents called 2018: A Year On This Blog | Table of Contents (Posts) | This One is “Sticky” [@ Jan. 5, 2019] (Short-link ends “-9p3”) ” //LGH 3-24-2019.

[[LGH, shortening sticky post intro’s, I noticed this one has somme exchanged comments below. Most posts don’t, so these may be of interest to some people: it deals with an appeal to join a class action suit re: (as I recall) the family courts. I did not join and was dealing with housing issues, my exchange indicated, at the time…//May 18, 2021.]]
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2018: A Year On This Blog | Table of Contents (Posts) | This One is “Sticky” [@ Jan. 5, 2019].

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Post Title: 2018: A Year On This Blog | Table of Contents (Posts) | This One is “Sticky” [@ Jan. 5, 2019] (Short-link ends “-9p3.” This post is under 4,000 words).

This post lists, links to, and thereby publicizes, one year’s worth of posts.  It’s an informal TOC. By “informal” I mean you’ll be seeing my Administrative Dashboard versions of post titles (with published dates), by Quarters (Q1, Q2, Q3, Q4, 2018).

It does this in two different layouts.  Both Layouts follow short Introductions I and  II only because this ended up being the top “sticky” post on the blog (…which it no longer is // LGH July 28, 2020; it’s one of 13 sticky posts).

Layout by Date Only {{Short Form, no titles: Links by date only (Q1, Q2, Q3, Q4)}} precedes Layout by captioned images displaying full post titles & published dates {{The image captions show only dates published; click on the date wanted to read the associated post}}. 

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January 5, 2019 at 6:18 pm

In 2018, Clamors to Fix, Reform, or Make Kids Safe WITHIN Family Courts STILL (Abusively, Territorially, and Intentionally) Limit Possible Answers by Censoring Terms Admitting Other Historic Evidence — About The Courts (not “Batterers!”) AND Government Itself — while Coaching (even Certifying) Others to Imitate. (Published May 2, 2018)

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Welcome to my blog.

You are on nearly the top** post of the page which displays all posts. 

**Several posts are permanently (until I change my mind…) like this one, categorized “Sticky” = “Stuck to the Top.” Each time I add another sticky post, it always goes on top;they display in reverse-chronological order of dates created (or, tagged “sticky”). As you can see, I add others after this one, but THIS one in May, 2018, was intended as a main gateway to understanding the blog. I’ve made several ways to get here directly, such as From the Home Page or from the Sidebar “GoTo” widget near the top. The order really only matters if you get there by scrolling down from the top.  (I further revamped the blog in 2019, and am updating the sticky posts (shortening their lead-in texts) as of July 28, 2020.

You probably got here indirectly from the Main Page “FamilyCourtMatters.org” Sidebar “Current Posts”

or having been given the case-sensitive short-link “https://wp.me/psBXH8Ly” from social media (or me).

Labeling/Linking protocol:

I typically begin the body of posts now repeating the title (clickable – with active link), then for your — and my — convenience keeping them straight (because I often reference them on other platforms, such as Twitter) I identify in three characters the end of its short-link (here, that’s “-8Ly” as you see right above), date published and/or updated (if major updates or revision), and approximate word-count.  Remember the first part (wp.me/psBXH- for posts and wp.me/PsBXH- for pages) and you can copy (hint: tweet, share, etc.) any post without that long title.  Just pick a few words from it and get the link right). (This information is reiterated on my Front Page, too//LGH July 28, 2020).

I also try to consistently include the date published as an actual part of the title, for convenience and FYI.

For this post, then, its title with short-link, the last 3 characters of that shortlink posted openly, and approximate word-count:

In 2018, Clamors to Fix, Reform, or Make Kids Safe WITHIN Family Courts STILL (Abusively, Territorially, and Intentionally) Limit Possible Answers by Censoring Terms Admitting Other Historic Evidence — About The Courts (not “Batterers!”) AND Government Itself — while Coaching (even Certifying) Others to Imitate. (Published May 2, 2018) (case-sensitive short-link ending -8Ly,” about 10,700 words).

However you got here,

Let’s talk.


FamilyCourt Matters.org, this WordPress blog, has been available on-line now over nine years and as of today (Dec. 8, 2018) has 785 published posts and 45 pages. By posts, you’ll see quickly, I do not mean a few thousand words and quoting an expert, referencing a problem, and maybe including a link or two.  These posts have (I feel confident to say) as much detail and background links as the average mainstream media journalism reporting on even one aspect of similar issues. The overall purpose of the blog differs from the purpose of mainstream media or even many blogs focused on similar topics.  

I am calling out to concerned people to educate themselves— as I had to — on the structure and operations of the family courts which ties directly into other major topics — the structure and and operation of governments (plural) + the structure and operation of private corporations, especially in the nonprofit (tax-exempt) charitable, advocacy or “philanthropic” sector which has become the extra arm of government, not the altruistic, neutral mediator between government and citizens as it is commonly being characterized.

I keep blogging to name names and report developments (in this field) from an “outsider/consumer” point of view, while continuing to assert there are other places to look for more productive grounds from which to argue for or against specific agenda within and around the family courts

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Q1, 2018 Posts and “You Are Here,” on my Blog. Meanwhile, WE are Here, Collectively. (Or, from ‘Hewers of Wood + Drawers of Water’ To Functionally and Financially Illiterate** Consumers of Information, Products, and Social Services). (Publ. April 19, 2018)

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Full Post Title:Q1, 2018 Posts and “You Are Here,” on my Blog. Meanwhile, WE are Here, Collectively. (Or, From ‘Hewers of Wood + Drawers of Water’ To Functionally and Financially Illiterate** Consumers of Information, Products, and Social Services). (Publ. April 19, 2018) [Case-sensitive, WordPress-generated shortlink ends “-8X8” and this post ends after about 11,000 words]

**Explained more below in this post, and in a typical post. No apologies for failing to sugar-coat the news. Or for long sentences in the next few indented paragraphs, summarizing my understanding and explaining that comment. With additional “show-and-tell” relating to the rest of this post (and blog).

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Seven Posts from December, 2017 (Informal TOC Update @ March 14, 2018) [Short-link ends ‘-8MD’].

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You are reading:Seven Posts from DECEMBER, 2017 (Informal TOC Update@ March 14, 2018)(with case-sensitive, WordPress-generated short-link ending “-8MD”).

This post is about 7,000 words and will remain, being a Table of Contents (for a single month in 2017 only), near the top of this blog.  I’m repeating the olive-background section reminding new readers where to start the blog or to find Tables of Contents covering a larger time span — and in more condensed (titles-only) form — near the top of each Q4 2017 (Oct., Nov. and this one, Dec. 2017) sticky post listing that month’s published titles (with some intro text to each).

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March 14, 2018 at 4:57 pm

Eight Posts from November, 2017 (Informal TOC Update@ March 9, 2018) [Short-link ends ‘-8KE’].

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You are reading:  Eight Posts from November, 2017 (Informal TOC Update@ March 9, 2018) (with case-sensitive, WordPress-generated short-link ending “-8KE”). This post is about 10,000 words and will remain, being a Table of Contents for a single month only, near the top of this blog.  (June 29, 2019 update: The best place to start the blog now is at the top:  (FamilyCourtMatters.org) or as shown on the right sidebar, near the top “For Current Posts Most Recent on Top.”  This post is still helpful, so I’ve kept it “Sticky” still.  Thanks for understanding.//LGH)

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March 9, 2018 at 1:22 pm

Eight Posts Published in October, 2017 (Informal TOC Update @ March 6, 2018). [Short-link ends ‘-8Kh’]

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Title: Eight Posts Published in October, 2017 (Informal TOC Update) @ March 6, 2018. (short-link ends “-8Kh”). This post is only about 3,150 words.

Two similar posts for November and December,* 2017  were published later this month and because they too were marked “sticky,” they now display above this one on “Current Posts, Most Recent on Top”. (*holds access to another new page with more extended “abstracts” (post excerpts, summaries) for December 2017 only)  ~~~ Together with the main Table of Contents “2017 [TOC] continues themes from 2016” post, link shown immediately below, that makes four several separate ones held in the top position on the blog.  [Strikeout added June 30, 2019.  Even I’ve lost count.. WYSIWYG! //LGH].

I’m adding this preview (ivory background, blue borders) section just today (June 30, 2019):

Click image (this time) to access full newsltr., 16pp

To clarify, the NCJFCJ gets paid to do this newsletter, by the public (HHS Grant# shown)

Value-added on most Tables of Contents:  even short ones like this often have extra material, mostly because I can’t keep my mouth shut about whatever I am investigating and writing up at the time.  These two images are a sneak preview.

Also a new page announced below is still useful:

“…I finally published a related PAGE, How and When Problem-Solving (make that ‘Collaborative Justice’) Courts were Institutionalized and other Consolidate/Coordinate/Standardize/ PRIVATIZE Stories at Courts.CA.Gov  (Page started 8/29/2017, published Mon 9/18 evening. With case-sensitive shortlink ending “-7w9″)”

I also want to call attention to the post on anti-smoking (Tobacco Litigation) revenues which are still influential in subject matter areas overlapping with the family courts, and the one on “Chatham House Rule” (<~~a good concept to understand).

Tobacco litigation (master settlement agreement — billions over the years) and added-tax revenues are indeed also being used nationwide to continue promoting increased father-engagement (because of the focus on Zero to 5, The First Five Years, and/or Early Childhood Development).  They are well known about, I imagine through most state-level social services systems, so we might as well learn about it too and they are combined at the program level with existing HHS-sponsored incentives. I read tax returns EVERY day, and I’m telling you, there are (from what I’ve seen so far) MILLIONS of dollars slipping through the cracks, let alone used for dubious-based programs to be forced on parents when what they may need instead is food, clothing or transportation — not preaching and attitude adjustments!) in combination with chameleon corporations as service providers.  But that’s more current writing, so enough on that now…//LGH.

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March 6, 2018 at 4:02 pm

2017 Table of Contents Continues Themes From 2016. See TOC for: (1) 2017 now thru Sept. 21; (2) 2016 All; and (3) Sept. 2012 – June 2014, Reverse Chrono, and (4) See Also More Info Below. [Published Jan. 9 2017, last updated July 1, 2019] [Shortlink ends ‘-5qZ’]

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This post presents three different ways to view three different time spans’s tables of contents.  I had previously posted for two of those time spans, but never in page-sized (8X11) format for viewing or printing.  This post pulls it all together and put the links in one place to older tables of contents direct from here (in 8X11) or directly on their original posts (links to those posts).

POST TITLE: 2017 Table of Contents Continues Themes From 2016. See TOC for: (1) 2017 now thru Sept. 21; (2) 2016 All; and (3) Sept. 2012 – June 2014, Reverse Chrono, and (4) See Also More Info Below. [Published Jan. 9 2017, last updated July 1, 2019]. (case-sensitive, WordPress-generated shortlink-ends 5qZ, first published Jan. 9, 2017, second half of post title and substantial updates added in late September, 2017).  About 9,000 words.

Terrible title.  But, here you have:

Tables of Contents for:

  • 2017 (most) 
  • 2016 (all)
  • 2015 none (I published not one post that year for personal reasons).
  • 2012-2014 (some),** and
  • significant “Value-Added” content, the  (4) See Also More Info Below referenced in the title.***

**I got as far back as about Sept. 21, 2012, and after June 29, 2014, I stopped blogging, again, for personal reasons, basic limitations on one person’s waking hours.

For posts before about Sept 21 or 24, 2012 (i.e., March 2009 – 2010-2011 & almost ¾ of 2012), you must use Archives function by month or search individually if you’re aware of a post title or keywords…Earlier posts are in rougher format (I am a self-taught blogger and there is a technical, not just subject matter, learning curve!) but I believe the basic principles reported that far back still apply. While writing on new material, I sometimes still have occasion to quote from the earliest posts of this blog, sometimes even re-formatting them for better viewing (if I’m going to add a link to a current blog), etc.

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DV LEAP’s “Leap of Faith” Demanded of Moms From “Day 1” Didn’t Then, and (With its Founder’s Other Newer Projects) Still Doesn’t Pass This Mother’s and DV/FamilyCourt Survivor’s Basic Smell Test [Aug. 25, 2022, Publ. Oct. 16, 2022].

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Disclaimer:  This is my opinion and not legal or any form of consultant advice.  I am so fed up, currently, with attempting to complete proper posts (while managing living without a permanent address, week by week), I’m going to just publish the whole post “as-is.”  That probably represents later embarassment and excising about a third (or half) of it, BUT it’s still important information — it is just not polished and may have too much repetition for a casual reader.  Thanks for understanding!//LGH Oct. 16, 2022.

Post titles on this blog and on these topics tend to be long — full sentences, often with short acronyms.  For this one, DV LEAP, NFVLCgwu, NSPC (although that point or reference after my several posts changed its final word in the acronym from “Coalition” to “Organization”), or, see my Twitter threads for recent hashtags.

See also my May, 2019 Page (not “Post”), DV LEAP’s New Website Still Derails OPEN (Uncensored) Discussion of The PROBLEM, Digging A Deeper Hole for Survivors of Abuse and Their Children (Started Jan. 27, 2018 | Publ. May 19, 2019). (shortlink to this PAGE ends “-8um” | about 5,800 words)

I also mention GWLaw, DCCADV, and a few other acronyms [BWJP, DAIP] which should be known as USA-based domestic violence government-funded state coalitions or official (HHS-named) “DVRN” “resource centers” such as “NFVLCgwu” at a private university now seeks and likely intends (see its name:  “National”….”Center”) to become, although the current focus seems “international” for validation. But calling it “National” possibly sounds more loyal and patriotic to the country where it’s been made possible.

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To Reiterate, ‘Read My Lips: Read Their (and USA’s) AUDITED Financial Statements: Follow The Funding, Notice Data Base Degradation/Consolidations, Too!’ (Another @LetUsGetHonest Formerly Pinned Tweet) [Post Begun Sept. 25, 2022].

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This is one of my shortest posts ever — its purpose is just to move a pinned Twitter thread (and while at it, the previous one) from my profile there to a post on this blog. I said a few things in context, but not nearly as much as usual!  Total length on publication only about 1,300 words!//LGH

Well, with this Footnote I had to add (next image gallery), about 1,800 words.  You’ll see why it had to be added on the footnote..

Please also read an important and last-minute “ACFRs, f/k/a CAFRs” Footnote I must add, because (after my promoting this term for about a decade on this blog, on Twitter, and to people individually as I talk with them about family court, domestic violence, fatherhood, child-protection/welfare entities, enterprises, and of course about the philanthropic sector (sic) generally — these all, at some levels, generally file financial statements (audited ones, ideally), the Government Finance Officers Association (“GFOA”) which regulates how (what were formerly called “CAFRs”) should be produced and formatted, awarding “Certificates of Excellence” for doing so as appropriate — to governments, state, county and even the USA, has now changed its policy: they are to be called instead AFRs.  Actually, the policy changed a little over a year ago; I just hadn’t been “cc’d” on the announcement.  Understandable, as most government entities, while they often post such reports, don’t exactly feature them…  GFOA states the basics with a colorful “#EndTheAcronym.” here.

Moving on….

Although the two formerly pinned Twitter threads I’m moving both contain more than just  “US Treasury AFR (Audited Financial Report) FYE June 2021,” that link is a vital one.  Parts of its “report” (more than just the statements) are directed towards the public to explain its own terminology, who and what is reporting by type of entity, and the basic parts of any such AFR (“Audited Financial Report) include tables of contents to both front and back matter (i.e., the Notes and any accompanying schedules).

Of course a whole country’s report for just one year (and usually the prior year’s for comparison) is going to be massive, but it’s also informative.  It will have acronyms — but it defines those acronyms.

An AFR should never be confused with an “Annual Report” (often found instead of such statements and reports that enfold the financial spreadsheets that are the guts of it).  Annual Reports especially of private corporations, including tax-exempt foundations, whether public or private as to their categorization by the IRS (i.e., whether they’ll file a Form 990 or a Form 990PF) who wish to have a public profile and feature their grant-making or philanthropic traits, are sometimes (too often, in my opinion) offered up as a substitute offering — perhaps it’s expected the public will just go away and not ask for more details.

Again, “an Annual Report =/= an Audited Financial Statement” (whether “CAFR” for governments or just “Audited FS” for private businesses.  Then there are the financial reports (with embedded financial statements AND Notes to them, etc.) which may be found on public-traded corporations as provided for the SEC (Securities Exchange Commission), annually.  When I read them, I rarely read 100% of the words, but I do scan by sections and read a lot of them.

Anyhow, essentially “From Twitter to Blog and Back (again).”

Here’s the short-link to this post.


Basic Content: My formerly Pinned Twitter Thread (April 28, 2022) Moved Here Sept. 25.

Title: To Reiterate, ‘Read My Lips: Read Their (and USA’s) AUDITED Financial Statements: Follow The Funding, Notice Data Base Degradation/Consolidations, Too!’ [Sept. 25, 2022]. (short-link ends “-fhq“)

My Twitter Profile (currently) has a short-link to a post which (for now) I’ve embedded into the Twitter Profile: http://wp.me/psBXH-ccQ.  That short-link leads to this post: “One Thread, Many Images, (My) Basic Drill-Down Messages Re: NFJCFJ, AFCC, CAFCASS, “Alienation,” “Domestic Abuse Trainings” (AFCC does, too..), “Arguing PAS, etc.” [Feb. 20, 2020]

I did not know at the time, a global pandemic and lockdown was imminent..

Both times (Feb. 20, 2020 and now, Sept. 27, 2022), move is to declutter Twitter

without losing valuable (basic-principles-) content or a quick way to point to it.

My “Formerly Pinned Tweet (up since April 28, 2022, moved Sept. 27)” is a thread, the various tweets within including the first one had attachments; I tired of scrolling down below it to read current ones and so moved it here.  Since my post here has both links, to save limited character space on Twitter, I’m just replacing the short-link ending “-ccQ” with this one,  which as you can see, ends “-fhq.”  You getting a “two-for-one” link.  Please use them both, they are public and for public benefit for insight

It talks and exhorts all of us to focus more on talking economics  than “FamilyCourtReform,” “Family Court,” or (preventing) “Domestic (Family) Violence” Jargon, anyway… None of those fields would exist without some economic and accounting infrastructure to the extent they involve ANY government operations, or support. Therefore, literacy on how government (and private) entities account for themselves FINANCIALLY is essential to comprehending much at all about these other fields (or any other fields of personal interest).

I’m seeing more than I can keep up with the need to publicze (blog about) a move away from accountability for tax receipts (country-specific; my focus is of course the U.S.A. as where I live) to “platform” ownership, i.e., proprietary and digital collections, distributions and even ‘decision-making” within and by government.

Sophisticated and FAST movement of funds and information at some level, while increasingly “obfuscatory” (smoke screens, diverting attention, and defusing attempts for defined accountability FOR THE PUBLIC which PROVIDES THE BACKBONE OF THE PROFITS (business and governments both). We are used as a resource, not just serviced.  Burying data further and further away from us, and from formats which enable us to talk individually and collectively about it (I have years of experience witnessing how many layers of extraction and presentation are necessary to even provide a demonstration, a teaching example) while coordinating program dissemination and distribution for those “in on it” accelerates.

There’s not even a pretense of not “incubating, accelerating” or taking control of entire communities by public/private partnerships in which the public is essentially unrepresented, though we live in their buildings, and pay to finance their roads, downtowns, projects, and from time to time, billion-dollar-bailouts.  Why should we not be privileged to see the overview as the planners do?

Nevertheless, goth “formerly pinned Twitter threads” emphasize following the financing of government and private entities, and show ways these are de-emphasized or hidden, legally and at times illegally.  Information still relevant; I just had to realize, it’s not visually inviting.

Don’t know why yet, but Twitter is still claiming my own Tweets aren’t my own, therefore I can no longer view the analytics (i.e., see how many — more often, how few — people are engaging or viewing the Tweets).  Before this, Twitter began marking most (thgouth not all) my tweets as “Warning, May Contain Sensitive Material” and I still wonder how and why after nearly a dozen years and thousands of tweets, some short, some long, many responsive to others’ output, there are not even 500 followers,  or for that matter even 400.

I don’t believe it’s the material — or then, again, perhaps it IS the material:

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Historic Day Today, and Week, Last Week, Globally: Perhaps Now, Cross-Atlantic, Pan-Pacific, We Can Talk Public vs. Private Entity (Accounting For Their Respective) Assets and Liabilities? [Sept. 11, 2022].

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Post-publication update Thu. Sept. 15, 2022.

Sept. 17, I also added some thoughts just before the final quote (which is from my own Sept. 18, 2018 post on housing “community development” issues and “replicable purpose-built models” of the same).  Within the hour, I then realized these thought (my writing) was affected by my current stress levels, and moved most of it off-post.

As the inset introduction shows, despite my theme, “…Perhaps Now, Cross-Atlantic, Pan-Pacific, We Can Talk Public vs. Private Entity (Accounting For Their Respective) Assets and Liabilities? [Sept. 11, 2022]” (<~~not a link), the act of speaking anything at all quickly ran into some technical difficulties.

[This post is missing about 2,000 words as ALL contents were lost during repeated attempts to save right before publishing.

I finally published it 100% empty (except the title), that is, with word-count “0,” which went to Twitter.  On Twitter, I discussed that then (the next day I believe) managed to retrieve a prior saved version.  I also during the trouble saving had grabbed the entire html version and saved it off-platform.

I am still (Sept. 15, Sept. 17) hoping to retrieve and insert the missing section, which (as I recall) featured a law school journal’s article on Former U.S. President George W. Bush’s “Faith-based” agenda which, it said, would probably not stand a Constitutional challenge.

On re-reading the published version of about 5,500 words) I also see I’d referenced a footnote referencing my current housing search, looking for (Continued on “Footnote ^^Somewhere less blighted” at bottom of this post) which version didn’t get saved.  Of the two sections, the journal was more important. The whole situation “spooked” me some.  It was a WordPress first, and I was concerned that that content (I talked politics, religion AND money all in one post) might have been a trigger to the inability to save the post.  It was more likely a software issue (FYI the browser connection was fine), but I’ll be more re-assured when I find out what any technological cause was.  I work too hard to lose work already done; I save consistently while composing but do not save every 5 or 10 minutes while composing because the process always boots the cursor back up to the top fo the post. //LGH Sept. 15, 2022.

(I also submitted a comment to this effect the other day, comments show at the bottom of any post):

This post may read more like a newsletter, or just a letter with some visuals. It takes “informal” to a new level… It’s an experiment in how fast I can produce a single post with a short, basic message.

You are reading: Historic Day Today, and Week, Last Week, Globally. Perhaps Now, Cross-Atlantic, Pan-Pacific, We Can Talk Public vs. Private Entity (Accounting For Their Respective) Assets and Liabilities? [Sept. 11, 2022]. (short-link ends ‘-ffg’)

It’s personalized to show why I’m so annoyed with “business as usual” in purpose-built communities, place-based philanthropy and basically public-funded/private run & developed enterprises, USA, which business doesn’t really change for global events like, say, the resignation of a British prime minster and his replacement, the death of the world’s longest-reigning and well-respected monarch (just two days later), for wars not on United States soil or for the 21st anniversary of the shocking destruction and mass-murder in the heart of New York City that we simply call “9/11.”

Shock-and-awe, trauma, distraction, and even wars (or threats of them) aren’t necessarily bad for business. It just depends what businesses you, or your recent ancestors, were in and what role they played in operations, facilitations, and getting policy set afterwards to seize greater control of the main resources — the workforce.  People. Where they live, what they can do, and who gets to raise their own children after giving birth to or, I guess you could say for the fathers, “siring” them.

Business models evolve, regulations of them change, but it’s still business.  For every inhabited area that gets bombed, blighted, burnt-out, flooded or gradually become barely or uninhabitable for some reason, there always seem to be more enterprising personalities with their historic political and business connections, who have bright ideas on how to rebuild from scratch: on their home territory (or country) or someone else’s.

I am of course affected by the events of last week and Sunday, September 11th this week, the memory of 9/11 and what changed after it, but I am still in the business of surviving; finding new housing before resources run out, looking for somewhere less blighted.^^

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Accounting Literacy (Recognizing RICO and other Deceptive Practices) Is THE Language to Master and of the “Masters”; Cause-Based PolicySpeak is Deliberately Dissociative and Dysfunctional [Most Written Jan., 2020, Current Commentary, Sept. 10, 2022].

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Quickly written the first time, quickly updated the second.  Embeds two recent and one pinned Twitter thread.  References a lookup I did recently based on a phrase circulating on-line. I applied some of basic “find-the-entity” principles and, as often happens, uncovered more nonprofits involved than at first meet the eye. This example was Milwaukee (City and County, as it turns out)’s “Housing First.”

(At first I footnoted that discussion because it takes a while to explain, but on review (of just-published post here), I added an extended Foreword showing how it came up and some images).  So the 2022 comments sandwich the middle section, simply a statement of my position and reasoning on emphasizing basic public/private accounting literacy for the masses, written in January 2020, in the middle.

Post Title and Short-link:

Accounting Literacy (Recognizing RICO and other Deceptive Practices) Is THE Language to Master and of the “Masters”; Cause-Based PolicySpeak is Deliberately Dissociative and Dysfunctional [Most Written Jan., 2020, Current Commentary, Sept. 10, 2022].  (short-link ending ‘-c5h’).  This post is under 6,000 words long.. With post-publication (Foreword) additions, make that under 7,000 words.

Before I get to the main content (which I’ll announce; I’ll re-post the title above when I do):

FOREWORD (How I ran Across and BRIEF (not thorough) summary of why it matters.):

How I ran across it:

A Sept. 2, 2022 long (at least 25-post) Twitter thread by Aaron Carr (@AaronACarr) talked about Venice, California, with a reply Sept. 2 by David Graham-Caso (@dgrahamcaso) referencing the Los Angeles Times and Villanueva and another reply Sept. 3 by Jason Haas (@hazah) referred to Milwaukee.

Venice (Beach), California has some connections with my family history (and re: making lots of people suddenly homeless in the process of redevelopment). I didn’t hang out in Venice, but that’s why the thread caught my attention at first.

Regarding other geographies (cities across the country) and some years ago on this blog, I have looked at the housing and redevelopment models targeting specific cities, and how models in one place can migrate cross-country to another.  In some of these, I also did “drill-downs” just in the process of satisfying my own questions on what I was looking at.  One case originated out of Atlanta, but made it to Oakland, California (that’s in Northern California), and a civil grand jury had sued those running it.  Youth Outreach (of course) was also involved.  I’m not looking the posts up now, but estimate (my write-ups) were 2018 or earlier.

(Well, a search on ‘Atlanta’ brought up a Sept. 18, 2018, detailed post and reminded me that the phrase “purpose-built” might be a better searchable term on this blog next time I want to locate it): Replicable Models like ~Purpose Built Communities~ Already Have Their (public/private-sponsored) positive PR, but what are the Aftershocks of “Shaking Up Your City” and What, Really, is OUR Bedrock Bottom Line? (started March 14, 2018, edited for about a month; published Sept. 8, 2018) (shortlink ends “-8OV” and the middle digit is a capital “o”, not the symbol for “zero”) About 7,200 words, some of which are in the impromptu “EndNotes” added because of the long delay in publishing. [[In hindsight — check out the tags at the bottom of that post! Such as LISC and more//LGH Sept. 2022]]
(Incidental:  You see where  I said “started March, 2018″ but not published until Sept., 2018.”  Look at my Twitter profile. Between those two times, I had to flee California; was already pushed out of stable housing and into expensive LONG-term hotels; had I stayed I’d have to open an elder abuse lawsuit (on my own behalf) there but being mentally and physically competent and not (yet) institutionalized for alleged mental or physical incompetence, resources generally were not available. It was truly frightening the last month, but I decided the best decision at the time was to just go, and start over in more privacy and with it, sense of safety.  The levels and indicators of abuse were escalating.  Four years later, I still say it was one of the best decisions I’d made this century; the other one (right at the turn of the century) was to file for domestic violence restraining order with kick-out before it was too late. I’d been wanting and planning to leave for some time (my original purposes for being in California, and for staying there, no longer existed.  My children (now adults) weren’t there…they’d escaped, in different ways (turning 18 certainly helped!)… It was my turn.

(Back to the Sept. 2-3, 2022 Twitter thread):

There were several replies but at the time I was just browsing and chose Milwaukee’s example.  Carr’s 25th post (re: Venice, not Milwaukee) read:

While this thread mostly deals with chronic homelessness, the majority of homeless people in America don’t have mental health or drug issues (and keep in mind there’s some overlap between the two) – they just need housing: 25/

Another individual located the entity “HousingFirstInitiativeNY.org” where Carr was (still is presumably) an Executive Director. Revisiting this now (I always revisit my posts right after publishing them), I remember looking into that nonprofit also under “CharitiesNYS” (it’s undergone some name and website changes since, i.e., now HousingFirstUS.org, but it’s legal-domiciled on the East Coast (NY), not in California. I am not writing it up (or the Milwaukee one, which isn’t its own entity) for this post, but I did notice and wonder, how such a small (financially) organization formed only in 2016 expected to take something national.

Haas (for Milwaukee’s version) replied:

Housing First has made a tremendous positive impact here in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. It really works! https://county.milwaukee.gov/EN/DHHS/Housing/Housing-First

As you can see, that link leads straight to a county website, Dept. of Health and Human Services, but a quote says it was soliciting to donate to the Housing First Endowment ℅ “Keys to Change.”


Your contribution to the Housing First Endowment through the Key to Change program helps house the chronically homeless. It also ensures that the people we help won’t suddenly find themselves back outside due to political decisions made hundreds of miles away.

I looked for “Key to Change” and noticed that donations were ℅ Milwaukee Downtown, Inc., which I then looked for.  Solicitation is definitely creative (retracing some of the steps — looks different on different devices) I see that repurposed parking meters in certain areas (where’s a map) can take donations, which may be tried in other cities also. Hence the name “Key to Change” (double-meaning).

(Next images are from bottom of the same page as the map image, but expanded to show detail). For post spacing reasons, I’m showing them above, not below, the map:

2. Same page, bottom, notice it’s © 2022 Key To Change (which doesn’t show entity name)

3. Detail of bottom page shows the parking meter has been transformed into a giant Key, with solicitations (from the public) stating what purpose donations are for, but not (on its front at least) to whom they go. It also mentions “Flux Design” as the designer.

1. Meter Locations on a map of (downtown) Milwaukee; see fine print description to the right.

On the website KeytoChangeMKE.com the fine print doesn’t reveal this; only the Pledge Form does, and even that form, only at the bottom is Payee named.  I notice the pledge form url contains domain name “Shopify.” I’ll post two imore mages for the single page (top and bottom) to magnify the words.

KeyToChange. Pledge Form (TOP) Accessed Sept. 10, 2022 (for post I published today) from Milwaukee County DHHS website on Housing First)

KeyToChange. Pledge Form (BOTTOM, see “Make Check Payable To”; notice “I (we) would like our donation to go toward: with option to check “Housing First Endowment Fund,” i.e., within Milwaukee Downtown, Inc.) Accessed Sept. 10, 2022 (for post I published today) from Milwaukee County DHHS website on Housing First)


[END OF “FOREWORD” section.]

(MAIN CONTENT HERE; FOREWORD image overlaps some):

I often wonder whether if there were fewer nonprofits (effective, ineffective, warring, and or just “there” below the surface), there might be more tax revenues, more justice, and fewer people held artificially too long on the margins of society: many times on main street, but still living marginally.

Let me re-state that:  I often wonder whether if “non-profit” (i.e., tax-exempt) status for private entities — ALL of them — was removed– including for religious groups or other ones exempt from even having to file tax returns, not only churches — this sector wouldn’t attract so many unethical sorts and so effectively hide the money trails.

I know nonprofits also attract truly sincere volunteers (not that sincerity means diligence in exploring and considering the financials, the reports and statements in the appropriate forms)  we might be better off, over all.  Is it really necessary for a nonprofit executive to make, as some really do, salaries over $1,000,000 (or, even over $500,000 or $750,000) to outsource someone else to decide who gets the grants and who manages the investments, and how wide to spread the individual enterprise.  Sometimes that high-salaried person isn’t the chairman of the board, but an executive director.  Others don’t always make much — but what would these make in fair competition with people NOT working for well-endowed nonprofits backed by corporate wealth, government wealth, or a combination of the same?

I say this after a dozen years of diligently looking for and reading (thousands of!) tax returns, and probably thousands of audited financial statements, connecting the dots (where feasible) between and among nonprofit after nonprofit with an emotionally and financially closer relationship to government than to the people they are supposed to be helping.  I have a basis for saying:  “it’s NUTS out there!” and “you have NO idea” how many entities exist within the average state or county program, which may have been organized and promoted nationally to start with. //LGH.

Post Title and Short-link:

Accounting Literacy (Recognizing RICO and other Deceptive Practices) Is THE Language to Master and of the “Masters”; Cause-Based PolicySpeak is Deliberately Dissociative and Dysfunctional [Most Written Jan., 2020, Current Commentary, Sept. 10, 2022].  (short-link ending ‘-c5h’).  This post is under 6,000 words long.. With post-publication (Foreword) additions, make that under 7,000 words.

This post doesn’t show how to “recognize RICO” — there are sites that do outline it, define it, give examples, by lawyers who’ve prosecuted for it.  There are official descriptions of what it is.  I’m just here pointing out how ripe the field is for racketeering within and across government and private sectors when the public doesn’t become aware and maintain that awareness AND talk about (and in terms of) entities and in accounting terms besides the occasional word “budget” or, more often “budget deficit,” without reference to assets and liabilities.

Understanding what RICO is and can look like I believe is helpful in understanding what an UNcorrupt — or at least far less corrupt — system or enterprise would look like, and how we might recognize and correct when it goes off-course.

It’s a matter of basic awareness of operating terms, concepts, vocabulary and (as it were) “moving pieces.”

What is the bottom-line? What’s the lowest common denominator of government and of our lives in relationship to our governments?

It’s not just “government service effectiveness” by subject area.  

To understand the condition of any major public (i.e., government) cause, sooner or later you must understand that the involved actors (entities), at any point in time, are going to come from different sectors, and when these have names that are other than individual human beings’ names, these actors must link at some point, generally, to some recorded business (= private)* or some recorded government (=public) “entity.”  Private and public regulations differ.

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September 10, 2022 at 2:42 pm

Are (my) Slow-Roasted, Carefully Crafted Posts an Anachronism? Probably, But Not This One. Meanwhile, @OFAHMRF, Where Are The Biennial HMRF Grantee Conferences Archives? [Publ. Aug. 11, 2022.]

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(I will be revising this post sometime later today or tomorrow, FYI)

Just this morning, I saw an alert to a forum taking place this evening. I have that image on my cellphone, but looking to find it from my laptop (the two communicate, but it’s a little complicated to retrieve photos or images from cell to laptop), I just learned the group promoting it on Twitter has now blocked me.

Guess I reported just a bit too much on them, their filing habits, and probably insulted some of their friends, and only since February 2022.  I’m not the right kind of domestic violence and family court survivor, or blogger, apparently.  Maybe I should be flattered that the “we’re the ones!” even bothered to block me, probably I’m not collaborative enough…

I don’t (yet) have the tech savvy to get or get to screenshot (announcement by @NFVLCgwu retweeting @Safe_parents announcement promoting @NFVLCgwu’s Founder (sic — it’s a non-entity) Joan Meier, saved as a photo from the cellphone to my computer, so I instead grabbed a substitute (via laptop this time) from the same group’s website referencing today’s “Live Advocacy Event.”

They can block me on Twitter, but it’s a little harder to prevent individuals from viewing a website.  While at it, I grabbed a related (but not advocacy-event) image from a NationalSafeParents.org member, CPPA, which embeds the assumption that DV training will fix custody being switched to abusers, and avoid murder.

“Roadkill” and major drama is SUCH a draw, but the image (of a Tweet) reposting the headline entails an assumption that training judges is the solution WITHOUT showing who’s been training them — which would necessitate mentioning those nonprofits I’ve been blogging (in California, and after I fled the state a few years back) for a dozen years, and with good reason.

I’ll post these images gallery-style (side by side) right here, then finish my fast-post in fact, planned to be timed for that meeting coming up in a few minutes and for which it’s obvious I’m no longer qualified to participate:


Let me get right to it:  Embedding a thread I just today wrote:


This thread has 26 items, and most of them have images attached. Click to see’em all. I am referencing a conference which I believe just happened this week and may or may not be over with yet.//LGH.

I’ll re-post it at the bottom.  Anything between is just bonus information.

IF you plan to join in for this posted event (upcoming in about a half hour, I may or may not join in), give’ em my greetings, or this short-link:  http://wp.me/psBXH-f3k . It’s WordPress-generated and case-sensitive, so I didn’t assign the last three characters — but I think they’re highly appropriate to current domestic violence and family court advocacy policies and say so a few times below.


If the four letters “HMRF” or the three letters “HHS” are still new to you, go back to my front page, or somewhere else on this blog or off it, and figure it out!  I’m not the only person using #HMRF as a Twitter hashtag.

By “slow-roasted.. crafted” I mean, it takes time to assemble and upload and format the information — much, much more time than it does to find it, read it, or comprehend it — and I like to embed the proof, not just my opinions or (as in this post) sound-offs about what I’m seeing, year after year.

I also enjoy the process of investigating and writing such things up with a view to helping others understand; it’s personally satisfying just to understand things at an innate level, but being unable to share it efficiently is of course distressing.

Are (my) Slow-Roasted, Carefully Crafted Posts an Anachronism? Probably, But Not This One. Meanwhile, @OFAHMRF, Where Are The Biennial HMRF Grantee Conferences Archives? [Publ. Aug. 11, 2022.] (short-link ends “-f3k”) 

Know that if you are as tempted to say “what the -f3k is she talking about!?!” as I have been thinking “what the -f3k!?!” each time I go looking for certain financials and corporate registrations on domestic violence advocacy, fathers’ rights advocates (that’s essentially what “HMRF” represents, however much PR may wish us to believe otherwise) or university centers featuring either of the above, or child protection, poverty prevention, early childhood development as a solution to world peace (and, involving known fathers’ rights advocates,* which I found recently also) then this post has done its job.

Don’t be surprised that this is also endorsed at places like Harvard, Yale, and/or Cornell.

*Kyle D. Pruett, M.D., has been for years at the “Yale Child Study Center” (take a look at his c.v. (℅https://kylepruettmd.com/).

Besides how often those three words (“Yale Child Study Center”) and some variation of “father” (Fathers, fatherhood, fathering, etc.) feature on his c.v., [I also uploaded two annotated images below] please notice in 1975 he spent three months in London, England with Anna Freud at a clinic, which topic also raises where psychoanalysis and Freud meet the coverup and reframing of child-abuse (i.e., violent sexual assault by parents and those in positions of trust, “The Aetiology of Hysteria” (publ. 1895?), on which I posted on around 2013 and referenced on Twitter (again) recently, under “The Stunning Assault on Truth.” No, I’m not doing that legwork for you — use the Search function here to find the post.

It made me think, deeply:  What, really, were the origins (and still, the directions) of this field, of the psych- and mental/behavioral health fields as a whole? But, as to Freud, we’re talking psychoanalysis.  As usual, that post is full of internal links and quotes, and probably some nearby related coverage of the same topic. My driving interest in the development of this field and related fields stems from years of witnessing and experiencing how psychologists get involved and are drawn towards the family court fields, and into claiming allegations of abuse are “false.”  But that may be irrelevant anyway, when within the family courts (major reformations USA in the late 1960s-early 1970s) the paradigm was switched from OBJECTIVE to SUBJECTIVE, which facilitated “bring on the counselors.” this coincided with development of professional independent schools of psychology (enabling more to get their PhD’s in this field). IF after publishing, I locate my recent Twitter thread on that, I may embed, at the bottom of this post, which I started for a thread I only wrote today, August 11, 2022.

“Pruett,” searched on this blog, will also show, quickly, that his wife, too (Ph.D. psychologist, also goes by “Dr.”) is a long-time fathers’ rights advocate and activist AFCC. She even a personal mention on one of my post titles, preceded by the words “Good grief!”

That one, the so-called “Early Childhood Peace Consortium,” is also about accelerating process to the UN’s Sustainable Development Goals — i.e., it’s about DEVELOPMENT  and one-world government (i.e., globalism), I see, as much as about children.  But within that, when they’re talking certain fields, in public policy, this isn’t exactly feminist — more likely, the opposite.  Either way, fatherhood activists are welcome here, clearly…

I’ll upload an image to show why my “WTF” has been engaged over more than just the topic mentioned in the post, for many days now. And I was just looking for another “Working Group on Fatherhood” (℅, probably MAP-FI.org) where the website declined to link or provide identifying detail enough to see what the -f3k it was talking about… See image title!

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August 11, 2022 at 3:41 pm

Standard Journalism on Each New Family Court Fiasco Wastes Your Time, and Mine [Publ. July 14, 2022].

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You are reading:

Standard Journalism on Each New Family Court Fiasco Wastes Your Time, and Mine [Publ. July 14, 2022]. (short-link here ends “-eRJ”)  

As revised Nov. 13, 2022 to clarify #EndTheAcronym “CAFR” (a term I used 20 times below; it’s been a theme in this blog for a decade) about 12,000 – 13,000 words, in clearly marked sections).  You will detect my sense of irritation and feeling both a bit besieged and betrayed in that opening section, which is narrative and not detailed documentation; but detailed documentation describes What I Do; when I summarize, I’m speaking from that awareness and years of investigations, not free-lance, not on any sponsored fellowship, or for employment.  I’ve done it because it needs doing, and because I’ve yet to see anyone PAID for doing this who’s willing to expose the public/private enterprises or the philanthropic sector as a whole, which my studies have led consistently to over the years, as an issue of its own. I’ve also done it for future generations, and as a mother: even though my children are now fully adult, not even that young; I still care about what they may face down the road.  

I want a record preserved of what I have seen, and what I have also talked a bout year after year, “to the contrary” of typical advocacy, typical journalism and which reflects at the highest levels on policy-making; on what this country is doing to its citizens WITH their resources, and where that’s going.

More to the point (of why I want to call attention to it, again), this post lists titles of seven planned posts around this theme, talking about themes I believe deserve higher priority, and in this list also featuring the nature and major players of the family courts, by name and (as to Denver, Colorado, USA specifically and also naming specific entities or agencies, Commonwealth Countries Canada, the UK, and of course Australia) and “time for a re-cap” of what, exactly, is the AFCC.

If you read nothing else below, read those titles (probably the bottom half of the post) and what’s immediately before the listing, with comments in between.  Know that of that list ONLY this one has been published so far (so no links shown there except to this one will be active as of Nov. 2022)..

Nov. 13, 2022, update sections (plural, next) aren’t a separate post only because I have other posts and obligations (life tasks) higher in priority. These sections are probably a third of the total length.  

It’ will sound and it feels awkward to go back and update posts written months (or, sometimes, years ago) but I am not in a position to do several re-writes.  This fix, an extended “update” typed directly onto an already-published post, is a compromise.  In different conditions, I would have started a new post with better-written updates and just link back to this one.

These updates are more informal, summary and rushed than anything below it, which information and expression I still stand by, enough to be re-posting it (probably with images) on Twitter, even a platform now owned by Elon Musk and with an uncertain future. Sometimes I feel speaking out NOW pre-empts speaking out PERFECTLY  (as to expression, not as to subject matter or basic content which I say is decent and fair).  Of course it contains some of my feelings and sentiment about dealing, long-term, with the same dilemma and with coalitions of people of indeterminate number, influence (but seeking major influence) getting press coverage, but whom I know as beyond unethical in the reporting and approach. They are not “the good guys” in the situation, even when possibly talking about even worse guys.

Rather than talk ABOUT the problem issues, these (FamilyCourtReformists and their favorite journalists and/or cheerleaders from outside the USA when talking about things inside it) pick “substitute” issues and talk them up instead, get published somewhere — several “wheres” in fact, and relentlessly refer to each other each time.

Quantity over quality prevails throughout.

These operate like cults and I say because of that, are corrupt, obstruct justice and because impervious to reason (while publishing and social-media promoting as though exercising it), also dangerous to sound government (while proclaiming it’s what they really want).  If RICO (a single, overall, “Racketeer-Influenced and Corrupt Organization”) were the best and most accurate answer to this question: “what are the family courts and their peripheral operations as an enterprise?” this crowd would be LEAST likely to expose it, and are probably (therefore) IN on it, as it’s obvious they don’t want anyone else exposing it, either.

References to “cottage industry” (easier to dismiss or contemplate, minimizes) yes.  RICO? No.  But I’ve made and posted this comparison (Search RICO on the blog, top right sidebar).  The key concept behind “RICO” is “CRIMINAL” — organized crime.  That’s why when the problems keep showing up, it’s that organization that should be reported (how it’s’ structured — not individual laws or policies).  What do we do when government begins to resemble and act like “organized crime?”  Which is scarier — an individual abuser in a community, or that situation, which affects all of the communities, plural?

I don’t know exactly how, when, or by whom, these individuals and their respective entities (or, non-entities) were compromised, but that they have been (if they even started from a legitimate perspective or motive) is evident.  That this also involves Harvard, University of Chicago, at times Yale, Princeton, etc. graduates, law professors (east coast, west coast) and marriage/family therapists (like Mo Hannah, PhD,**) is no less disturbing, in fact more so.  With backing, often, by major tax-exempt foundations, or universities which have the same, in abundance not to mention institutional funds: large ones..

(** who co-founded the Battered Mothers Custody Conference, operating without incorporating, and  featuring, most years, a California nonprofit which has been since FTB/SOS suspended there, barely casts a fiscal shadow but shows up promoted on the “Safe Parents” website, welcomed as among the initial “members” while I’ve been blocked by both it and some of the (original) members, on Twitter).

Meanwhile, the IRS database (http://apps.irs.gov/app/eos/) even ProPublica.org admits isn’t current.  Beyond it not being current, its search results showing “location” aren’t always showing legal domicile; and entity addresses can change without legal domicile changing.  When there are many similar but not identical filings named after specific causes, how search by geography?

I’d love to take on THAT project; it is on my back burner to find out why.  A problem arises when the IRS isn’t posting the latest delivered tax returns; an entity may change its name before they do so.  Other data comes from those IRS returns.  I’ve read that, and some entities clearly understand (because their returns say so in a Schedule O (Supplementary info to a Form 990) they aren’t subject to questioning for tax returns older than three years.  If the postings are already two years behind, how is that supposed to help with open and transparent government?

<>Preview and Sound-Off, WHY I’m feeling a need to reference this post again:

(Nov. 13, 2022.  Yes, I voted!).

Although I never got to publish any of those seven posts, my describing them here with lengthy titles and some previews did announce aloud that this theme, in my voice, my words and with my (known) perspective was coming.

However small my followers are here or on Twitter (note:  there can be more readers who don’t “follow”), once published here, July, 2022, that word was out.  Between now and then I was again put homeless and am struggling not just for housing but also to not completely stop commenting and writing. I never stopped reading or researching these topics for long, no matter what else is on my personal plate, but life issues can and do impact quantity of output, especially with what (format, copy editing, clarity) quality standards I don’t feel I can compromise, knowing it’s already not Chicago or APA style, or even fully copy edited/proof read most times.  Other causes of delay may involved input devices (technology obstacles).  I have been negotiating hotel living a few (typically three to five) days at a time for over five months now, and keeping as close track on finances as possible.  Each hotel reservation, most of them, grab excess funds up front and then release them on check-out; up to 25 or 30%. Although (more expensive) hotels exists with full kitchens, I didn’t feel I could afford these and so have been without a kitchen sink, stovetop, or even a half-sized refrigerator since last June. In exchange for not having these, I mostly stayed at one place which I felt was physically secure, know was clean, and where my car (I do have a car) could be seen from the hotel room. It was not halfway across some large parking lot.

There has been another round of litigation in my name, out of state, which I had to let slide and did not participate in, although it affects my future deeply.

If you are noticing since July, 2022, some “news” on specific court professionals or programs from Colorado and specifically, Denver, (like “bad custody evaluators” being outed, or reunification camps) on-line SINCE I posted here, know that while most protective mothers groups involved in the DVCoalitions and being (used by, and volunteering for it apparently) the FamilyCourtReformists power players, have long been aware of this blog and of exactly where I stand on covering up financials needlessly, failing to talk about the networked nonprofits direct the public to investigate public-access information that they have every right to and ought to know exists and which information can and should be studied and talked about (such as the Family Values, Marriage/Fatherhood and Faith-based Initiatives movement; what these are and how they works, the role welfare reform played in sponsoring this at public expense, AND that CAFRs (excuse me “ACFRs” now) show that governments aren’t as broke as they talk at any level.


The so-called “protective mothers” nonprofits and group email/on-line forums at a minimum from California and those involved long-term in the Battered Mothers Custody Conference (2003f) and those they worked alongside for now about two decades (including but not limited to those featured now in the website NationalSafeParents.org and at least (as to leadership) Joan Meier of the so-called “National Family Violence Law Center,” previously of “DVLEAP.org” (see my recent post)) are reasonably aware (not naive about) what I blog.

Based on my early email communications, on-line commentary, some phone calls with the same, at least their founders and main spokesman, and my friendships with people loyally devoted to and hoping in this movement (formerly battered mothers, at least one then homeless, in-state and out of state) are (beyond those I specifically communicated with) aware of me as a person, and if not, of this blog.  I have communications dating back to 2009, but my domestic violence-family court case just preceded these times earlier in California.  Beyond these groups, I also know by acquaintance from having, first, sought help from (remember those lists of 800 referral numbers and websites handed out, women?) and later researched the filings of “resources” for women in this situation.  It has always seemed strange to me how groups in California would ignore parents in California while crossing state lines (whether in person or on-line) to recruit and solicit stories of broken parents and children about broken family courts, from across the nation, and work with equally SMALL (if the tax returns are to be believed) groups whose legal domicile often didn’t match their entity addresses, who weren’t even large enough to be required to file full-sized Forms 990 and who (of course) habitually (like “AFCC”) opted to NOT post those financials on their own websites.

WHAT made it necessary to favor nonprofits groups who don’t, don’t have to [i.e., university-sponsored “centers” or “institutes” whose funds and backers would be hard to track in detail) or barely file (even if something is shown on their websites), while the press often, uncritically, continues to cite their affiliations by name, as if a source of credibility? That’s what the Protective Mothers (and “Safe Parents” “Family Court Reformists” overall) have featured throughout to either seem financially and numbers-wise larger (and more grassroots) than they are — or at times to seem smaller and more representative of the “underdogs” in these situations?

(For more general take, see my June, 2014 post, “parades, charades and facades”)…

A decade or so ago I also worked for a few years in informal conjunction with Liz Richards (NAFCJ.net) of Annandale, Virginia, who also knew these individuals and was reporting on what, basically, they wouldn’t.  Basically, I developed this blog realizing she had chosen not to focus on developing her website further.  We split paths many years ago but before then, reviewing some of these earlier emails the other day (while looking for one I’d mistakenly archived), I was again reminded that she’d reportedly (based on how I was handled, I have no reason go disbelieve) frozen out long ago of mainstream DV and protective parents circles.  She was that early inquiring about what Joan Meier reasonably did or didn’t know, and (like me) corruption among DV advocates.  We later split, in part, after I found my email being shared without privacy among a very large group email which was a safety issue at the time.  I later heard that she called me names and cited another reason for my breaking off communications.  (Another one, although I understand the mannerisms and value someone with her “cut to the chase” aggressive phone manner, I got tired of being handled in this way.

Such groups if they even glances at my blog, realize I’m saying the financial trail and networked nonprofits should be handled before their favorite series of themes:  unsound psychological theories and flawed practices in broken family courts with “lack of oversight” and “inadequate training” and not enough federal — to be echoed at the state level (USA) legislation to demand more trainings (Kayden’s Law, Jennifer’s law in Connecticut) which — ultimately — this crowd OR their friends and backers who developed the “it’s NOT about the money, it’s about unsound psychological theory, especially Parental Alienation and Coercive Control and clever abusers outsmarting judges, or innocent judges fooled by mean custody evaluators (and so forth), will be involved in:  after all, it was their idea to report on it, right?

The “murdered children” theme featuring Center for Judicial Excellence (<~~Link to its latest IRS Form 990EZ, that’s FY2019, EIN#204892221, total receipts only $157K, no paid directors, yet its purpose is to, according to Part III:

To improve the judiciary’s public accountability and strengthen and maintain the integrity of the courts)

… wasn’t there from the start, but seems to have come seeking more dramatic impact and after several mothers noted that prior agenda was talking as though women (NOT just children) were in fact, being “murdered.”  I call this sometimes “roadkill” of the family court system, and am lucky (or, “by the grace of God”) none of my immediate family was killed by my ex, batterer, husband, and father of our children, either during or after I filed for and got a (CIVIL) “restraining order with kickout” as these are called in California.  I had been living in a war zone; a real waking nightmare, for the duration of the marriage. NO witnesses referred me to any legal help; I had to find it and go figure it out then this “help” neglected to mention welfare reform (or, naturally, AFCC) and what was predictably coming up next:  custody challenge, and custody switch, if we all were still alive after a few years.

When it comes to press releases and helping journalists continue to build their resumes, then talking about murdered children is OK.  When mothers who’ve known this for YEARS (I am NOT the only one; I may be one of the more vocal ones, but certainly not the only one) kept pointing out that we are dropping like flies —and it’s NOT only 58,000 children a year (a theme which has been resurrected again, I see) and probably never was — being switched to the custody of known abusers or getting “unsupervised visitation” with them —  that doesn’t merit our attention:  What political clout do we have that FamilyCourtReformists want?  They need fresh blood, new victims, aged-out children and parents (mother or fathers) who don’t look too closely at the financial incentives, and show others where to look such things up.

And, from time to time, one must switch away from the theme of incest (another prime issue — I doubt there’s relief for the victims) if it begins to lose its shock effect.

On Twitter and certain FamilyCourtReformists backing specific (sponsored by tax-exempt foundation through non-profit media, or other media) I have noticed more articles surfacing recently featuring Colorado. There is a sense of my posts saying “what’s up with Denver?” (And calling attention to what’s been there for years, specifically named) having been seen, but not acknowledged, as it’s preferable (for the FamilyCourtReformists) as to be seen as “leaders” and the first on any topic, and with that, of course, the most concerned about the human beings impacted by the disastrous erosion of justice in the family court system USA.

(From the post below, it shows there also):

Media awareness should also incorporate for-profit vs. tax-exempt awareness. Always look for the entity names and figure out which type it is or was. Media is often owned (and sponsored) by the powerful and well-connected. Access to or control of platforms as well as brands and entities are bought and sold, or rented (licensed). They may also be privately controlled, i.e. not public-traded.  They are rarely neutral.

That goes for universities too, though most are tax-exempt (private) or tax-exempt (because public); which is which also matters.


(The above quote, above the title, is my voice. Although this post isn’t published yet, I quoted enough from it for anyone who’s aware of what I was GOING to be talking about, such as the AFCC connection to IAALS.DU.edu, and the “Healthy Marriages/ResponsibleFatherhood dynamic duo (or, trio if you include Galena Rhoades) at the same DU’s “Center for Marital and Family Studies” (Scott Stanley, Howard J. Marksman, et al.) — not to mention the presence for FOUR decades now of the nonprofit “Center for Policy Research” run, in part, by Jessica Pearson, Ph.D. (Also now active in FRPN.org, which I keep bringing up, as attempting to establish state-wide Fatherhood Commissions nationwide, and while the website references Temple University in Pennsylvania, the HHS grants in this project (and, FRPN is a project, not an entity) goes to the University, not CPR, which in turn subcontracts with that university.

“Family Court Fiasco” reporting could come from any state.  Such cases exist in many states: pick one, you’ll find several.  That Denver and Colorado seem to be current and VERY recent focuses seems a bit extra “coincidental.”  Whether or not it is, DV advocates and family court people, as well as family lawyers and of course judges should be and no doubt are well aware what entities in Colorado play significant roles in addressing domestic violence and child abuse in courts nationwide.

(Still Nov. 2022 update; I expect I’ll have embarrassed myself enough here to have to move it to its own place soon, anyway.  But I still need to find housing, so …. Can’t predict when this may happen.

Written in installments and sections.  Read straight through or skip to any section (page down, I have no internal links to do so).  I may [re]move (or FOOTNOTE) one large section on a school district  (in Uvalde, Texas) added for purposes of comparison, not for coverage, a situation which certainly deserves coverage and where looking at the school district, city and county financial statements would add depth and context to the headlines, but that section is here for illustration and for basic vocabulary concepts: Entities vs. Projects run by Entities, which also applies to the family courts. BOTH, as the headlines show, can be venues for massacres: family courts just do it more gradually.  However, family courts are not “entities” and it’s the entities which most directly relate to the public, through taxation and how they handle and account for themselves.//LGH]

<>UPDATE Nov. 13, 2022  because this post references CAFRs.  

Since then the acronym has changed, but the reporting requirements continue.  Pertains to government entity financial reports — audited and showing the cumulative operations, not just a yearly budget).

I have since learned that the government (vs. private entity (see my revised motto: Identify the entities, find the funding, talk sense)  comprehensive audited financial report, acronym “CAFR” is now supposed to be called “ACFR” for political sensitivity reasons relating to how it sounds when spoken aloud.  I used “CAFR” 20 times in this post alone.  I posted this on discovering it (see nearby image/s).  

Whatever you call them, at least recognize they exist and start looking up reading (at least the tables of contents and introductory pages ,and at a minimum “Note 1” to the financial statements.

To locate ”ACFRs (fka “CAFRs”), I suggest use the updated search terms the governments reporting have been asked to — and these are supposed to come out every year for EVERY government…entity)… so you find them.  Either that, or search under “Comptrollers” offices or just Google it on-line with entity name and latest year you expect one to have been filed.  It’s my understanding these are produced nationwide USA, also Canada, but probably in other developed countries too. Also be aware, school districts tend to put forward almost everything BUT their own ACFRs.  Was true at Margery Stoneman in Florida after another mass shooting as it was of the one in Uvalde.  These are rich sources of information about local (and up through the federal level of governments … plural..) operations.  They are not the only necessary place to look, but they really are essential to cut through and recognize (in contrast with what these report — and EVERY legislator likely knows (EVERY legislator and heads of major news agencies, I’m told, get these EVERY year.  If they didn’t, they’d know to look for them.  

Example:  “Connecticut Audited Comprehensive Financial Report, 2021” and you might get a link to that, or the previous year’s.  //End Update Nov. 13, 2022.

Most media covering family court fiascoes doesn’t give much relevant context of the family courts or of the media platforms.  Concerned people will have to get it, to educate themselves. To do this is to  become aware of the practice of censorship and dissemination of confusion in a coordinated attempt to manipulate public opinion and policy. Certain options have historically been kept off the table, without any reasonable explanations why, and without discrediting those options.

By options, I mean the option in selecting what to report from among all possible and plausible explanations of why these courts function as they do.

It seems that where we can’t be persuaded or manipulated to campaign for that which isn’t in our best interests, we may be left in an ignorant or confused enough state to just not oppose those who’ve already decided what’s in our best interests, i.e., we might just be conditioned to remain passive and consenting through silence, to just “let it go with the flow” for the FamilyCourtReformists et al.

The family court arena is critical to the nation’s future; those seeking to profit from it long-term know this well and from everything I’ve seen over the years wish to restrict its control to a few, inter-related private parties catering to those already in power. Overall, this is literally an coordinated attempt to undermine due process and basic separation and balance of powers within the United States. An appeal to what other countries are doing as a better model, mostly because more behavioral health services are involved, ordered, and/or mandated, is incorporated, whether in the administration of the family courts, or as regards domestic violence and child abuse issues.

As I write, the continued coverage (not on Fox News, however!!) of an alleged attempted coup/riot at the White House, our nation’s capital, January 6, 2021, is constantly in the news and being processed, with much indignation. As serious as that is, what about the family courts?

The family court arena deserves a serious, sustained and close look and exposure from other than — from outside —  standardized journalism, and from outside the coordinated collaboration of experts and stakeholders often quoted in such journalism, who have identifiable interests in keeping confusion and obfuscation going: it’s called, their career curves, reputations, and typically salaries.

This is my second run at a preview of my post series written between May 30 and mid-July, 2022.  The first run at that preview (written about halfway through it) I’ve now placed seventh, so it’s a “Re/View” although in fact it brings up some more general topics.  (See bottom of this post).  It’s called:

These seven draft posts have substantial content and are almost publication-ready, so I decided to list them here and describe what to expect, especially for the first three.  Their seven titles and links are marked clearly at the bottom in the format you see above (except titles there are bold).  That section is also clearly marked as:

THE (so far) SEVEN POSTS IN THIS SERIES (Named, Numbered, and Described)*

*Not having a separate staff or editors, or even “interns,”  I usually re-read the published post the day after, and make alterations (copy-editing or otherwise clarifying). This version is July 15, 2022, “the day after.” Any serious writer (I’m serious about this blog and this subject matter) knows that composing and editing are different processes, usually best done NOT by the author.  I don’t have that luxury here, so focus on the writing (although revising and self-critique is always part of it, and often delays publication) until I publish; once that burden is lifted, I then (try to, most times) go back and polish it some more.  Even mainstream news articles get updates; some of them even have typos, so some updates here for clarity (and I mis-spelled one proper noun a few times) should be no big deal.

Their titles still show dates begun, not dates published: No link to any post now in draft becomes both active and accurate until I publish it, and these are all still in draft. My protocol in starting any post these days is to include a “Drafted” or “Begun” date because it takes me weeks, or sometimes months, to get them posted. Yesterday (July 14) I forgot to update the title, but corrected it today.

(NB: I am not funded or salaried for these; writing still has to be worked around other life events and logistics, which have recently become more complicated, and there are ongoing technical and platform issues I’m still working on).

About half this post discusses the family court fiasco journalism contrasting it with an alternative rarely seen (I haven’t seen it yet…): exposing the underlying backbone and skeleton of the family courts and domestic violence (and responsible fatherhood) fields. This series takes that discussion forward, documenting existing, older networks I’d previously called out, and connecting interests I’d felt existed but hadn’t yet verified.  I look forward to finishing the series especially on the entities centered in the Denver, Colorado area (see series list, below), although Posts (4) and (5) below will be excellent resources — and they are significant “call-outs” to the public and affected parents to wake up! about what is taking place under their noses.

Also, since I use the term “INFRASTRUCTURE” to indicate what’s absent from standard journalism on these topics — the INFRASTRUCTURE of the family courts —  I wrote a section on it into this preview, with some images, links to others definitions, and examples of its common usage. My use is a little more generic, but the basic meaning of the underlying, sustaining structure of the operation(s) applies.  The “INFRA” in “Infrastructure” refers to that which is underneath, upholds, and sustains.

If the family courts are indeed producing fiascoes and disasters, it’s time to look at the foundations, the infrastructure on which they are built — and not just continually look at what bubbles up to the surface, or look only at programs run THROUGH them.  it’s the difference between the plumbing, sewer and irrigation systems and what flows through them.  Sure, they interact, but there is always some engineer or designer and (as I say so often here) “blueprints” involved.

Can you imagine a structural engineer who doesn’t understand the physical properties of a building, or the importance of understanding geology, bedrock etc.?  (Perhaps take a look at San Francisco’s sinking Millennium Towers if this seems irrelevant,  searchable on this blog).  Well, I need a term which can refer to the subterranean issues of the family courts and their foundations:  that is the level we should be discussing openly and in public; so should those reporting on them, or training lawyers in family law, domestic violence, etc.

INFRASTRUCTURE is a repeat topic for this blog, and a key concept for understanding how systems work.  While it’s usually and typically referring specifically to physical attributes of some systems (like highways, roads, bridges, courthouses, school facilities, tunnels, etc.) I’m using it figuratively to refer to the economic systems and conduits by which both information and resources (funding) circulates between the employed public and government, and between governments and private companies involved in these specific, developed fields.


In this section, I quote Cambridge English Dictionary, Investopedia (of course), refer to Bentley Systems 500, and either show, quote, or link to earlier posts I’ve written (for example, in 2019, on an Australia-originated model for a new asset class; it’s called “The Macquarie Model” and understanding that this is occurring may (should) help more of us comprehend that as physical critical infrastructure is being sold off for leasing and investor returns (complex enterprise arrangements), so too the family courts are primed for referral to outside contractors, who may be in fact more “insiders” than is obvious.

Add to this the categories of tax-exempt and not-tax-exempt as sectors, we have a complex, but still understandable, system in place to keep both customers, mandated services (referrals) and proliferation of practices supported by tax-exempt organizations + (see “university centers” also) to keep systems going, and these systems are also in a process of change (i.e., “systems-change mechanisms” are built in).

For illustration of one principle, distinguishing operations and programs or projects of entities as opposed to the Entities themselves — this applies to the family courts — I began with the example of “School Districts” (the entities) versus Schools (which are their operations and projecst) and — it’s headline news now — Uvalde School District in Texas. However I’m just doing this for illustration of the concept and to show that neither coverage nor the school district’s own website, is exactly forthcoming on its financials (but, I did find them).

Think about it (Robb Elementary School, May, 2022). There was a school massacre of children in  Texas.  Is this a “gun control’ or “mental health” or “communications” problem?

The family courts also seem to get children murdered, just not so dramatically all in one place at one time.  Both in hindsight could’ve been if not avoided totally, handled better, with fewer deaths.  There are indeed parallels between the systems. Sometimes looking at a similar (but not identical) situation helps comprehend, for comparison, the one at hand — which here is those family courts.

My focus is on how essential it is to use sensible and functional vocabulary among ourselves (and I do NOT include “FamilyCourtReformists” in this group, but especially women and mothers who’ve experienced seen the results of this system). We ought to by now understand and accept that we’re NOT likely to find this in: standard journalism; even on many public OR private entity websites, although that (accounting, entity-speak, economics, and finances) is the language spoken among these entities, in public/private partnerships, by investors, and for those who either do, or seek to, dominate any field and control enough assets  (revenue-producing wealth, often warehoused cleverly to avoid taxation across enterprises) to drive, manage, and plan the futures of society as it pleases them and their colleagues.

The masses are not necessarily to be educated on how that works; it makes (us) less manageable. Confusion, distraction, entertainment, shock-treatment (repeated, applied and avoidable social traumas, such as school shootings), without connections that the public can independently verify, are routine.

Is there hope? Is time left in which to make a difference?

I don’t know, but I do know there is still wide opportunity (for those with Internet access and who can or will make the time) to self-educate on these matters, and to become aware of and alert to patterns of communication which, again, strategically omit references to the system infrastructure of any problem being addressed, although details, anecdotes (a key feature for the journalism and story line “hook”), and sampling (cherry-picking, in fact) expert commentary on the same.

Talking about problem outcomes as though no infrastructure for the venues (Merriam-Webster: place where the thing takes place, whether a music concert, an art exhibition, or a trial) in which they occur even exists encourages readers to grasp at straws, to speculate, form ungrounded and unsound theories — or become more gullible to believe others theories stated or, more often, insinuated and implied, in such reporting.


venue (n.)

c. 1300, “a coming for the purpose of attack,” from Old French venue “coming” (12c.), from fem. past participle of venir “to come,” from Latin venire “to come,” from PIE root *gwa- “to go, come.” The sense of “place where a case in law is tried” is first recorded 1530s. Extended to locality in general, especially “site of a concert or sporting event” (1857). Change of venue is from Blackstone (1768).

Family courts are government operations with venues (rooms in courthouses,  or their own buildings).  They are not corporate or government entities, but part of some other government entity; they have no “personhood.”  They are budgetary items on a number of financial statements.  As government operations, they also have legal domiciles for that government (apart from its financing) and that too is going to vary by country.  It seems to me that Commonwealth countries such as the United Kingdom (as least in England and Wales) and Canada differentiate between public and private law, with family courts being considered “private” but child protection and criminal issues, public.

This also impacts who gets some defense counsel when accused, and who doesn’t.

The term seems to have as many uses as the word “church” but one thing family courts are NOT are their own entities.  Therefore, they will show up accounted for (to the extent they’re legitimately run, and their supporting entities are behaving properly to report their accounts) on some other entity’s financials — as well as planning documents, etc.

There should be a paper trail, and the finances should be documented and visible to the public.  Yet that seems THE main thing the public is discouraged from getting to, getting at, and thinking about.

This series was prompted by such an article I discovered with a built-in IMPLIED explanation for why women reporting domestic violence so often lose custody of their children.  Who does “implying” help?  (Post 1 in the series addresses this).

I have been saying (for years) start with what you know or can know that’s NOT majority hearsay and the rest speculation; work from the (definable) lowest common denominator known as to government structure, look at how it portrays its own operations, and get some working definitions of how resources flow from taxes through government entities, and in doing this you’ll have to also consider the private ones. You’ll need to comprehend the concept of “entity” to start with, and “non-entity”  and other terms with associated concepts, most of which will never make it into a news article about a family court fiasco (“fiasco” at least from the mother’s point of view after reporting abuse of herself or her children). I sometimes publicize phrases that call attention to such terms and concepts:

  • A PROJECT IS NOT A PERSON (corporate or government entity).

For Example:  public schools are projects, operations, of school districts, which are category a special government entities.  As such, they must cough up some financials and we ought to read them!  

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More Ohio, Ah, ‘Evolving Situations,’ Like Capital University Law School’s NCALP, I mean FYouthLaw (to end Aug. 2022) with its Ohio IPV and The Wexner-Epstein (Yes, THAT Epstein) Connex. [Publ. May 29, 2022]

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This post started as a foreword, took on a life of its own for something which was on my mind, I beg readers to consider deeply as significant in what direction domestic violence advocacy is going, who’s running, and whether or not we really should allow Commonwealth country practices to be brought in the back door as “best-practices” by known father-engagement domestic violence professionals.

This foreword become its own post now also has its own “foreword” as I though I should explain… and as I continue to look at the situation (seek entities which I didn’t find yet) while describing it..

There is a “minor detail” here called legislative differences among countries.  Some find them an inconvenience; as a United States citizen, I happen to like the specific differences which lead towards MORE individual rights and liberties (for me to exercise responsibility) and LESS collectivism and simply delegating decision-making to appointed, not elected, authorities, and the financing of that delegated decision making to — in this example, it turns out — major corporate wealth in the hands of known sex-trafficker — running “Child” (or “Youth”) Advocacy centers.

As ever, I jam as many points of reference into a title as possible:

More Ohio, Ah, ‘Evolving Situations,’ Like Capital University Law School’s NCALP, I mean FYouthLaw (to end Aug. 2022) with its Ohio IPV Collaborative and Family Advocacy Clinic with Wexner-Epstein (Yes, THAT Epstein) Connections [Publ. May 29, 2022] (short-link ends “eBE” and is case-sensitive.  About 8,600 words — a lot of this is quotes, and some of it (towards the bottom) tables of tax returns. …I am dropping some “bombshell” information and felt I’d better include plenty of evidence to go with...)

While completing this post as a foreword to another in about only two sittings, I began to notice similarities on the topics covered between:

<>how New York-born Jeffrey Epstein ingratiated himself as financial advisor to one of the wealthiest individuals in the country (Leslie H. Wexner of L Brands, Inc., Victoria’s Secret, and more), at both the investment company AND foundation / philanthropic levels, and

<>how Connecticut-based (at least as to LLC filing) David Mandel with the Safe & Together Institute Model training in not only Ohio, care of the “Ohio IPV Collaborative” and other United States, but also in Australia and the United Kingdom.  At several points this may be a two-way street.

Neither could have been done without connections; but which ones, isn’t exactly obvious to me at first glance, at least for the second situation. I have wondered for the last few years, how such things could be.  I do know that states copy each others’ programs., but couldn’t see what “hold” Mandel has, how he got his hands into so many countries’ operations, with less than a PhD degree.  I think he played to known perceived needs in services, and mutual self-interests.

Again: compare:

One (Epstein) ingratiated himself with a billionaire (Wexner) and was shown to be a socio-path, expert liar, and con-man, who rapidly displaced others, including close friends and acquaintances who (if they are to be believed as interviewed now) repeatedly but to no avail warned the billionaire about the nature and character of his new close friend;

the other, inexplicably** somehow rapidly expanded influence in his favor (constantly referring to his work in other places) but instead of individual billionaires, targeted known sources of government funding at the state and (I’ll show it — “wait for it!”) county levels, which I presume are more than any single individual’s or family’s wealth, when taken together.  Note: I’ve stopped short of calling the latter a sociopath or con man, but there are disturbing qualities in common on both “evolving situations,” including rapid expansion and seeking places of power from which to self-promote.

**(I was looking, but could not see, what might cause such wild, seemingly uncritical acceptance of a single man’s project),


One (Epstein) targeted a U.S. billionaire; the other, with involvement of billion-dollar tax exempt foundations such as Casey Family Programs (which was listed in the Ohio IPV (Intimate Partner Violence Collaborative) primary focus on child welfare, child abuse prevention and (for Casey Programs) “foster care”), has managed to access far more than just a single billionaire looking for a project and (it seems) a younger, flashier, more exciting adviser: instead, (Mandel and his program) have accessed entire parts of governments, plural, which governments have social and political debts to pay regarding problems surfacing in both the child welfare and domestic violence fields.

That is, there was a need to save face and polish their public image and respectability with the public.

Mandel’s programming offers this in such a way as to not fully alienate (and certainly not “out”) the extent of existing fathers’ rights apparatus, or how it all works together NOT to the benefit of unwary taxpayers and consumers. He’s taken networking and promoting friends, and friends of friends (within the domestic violence field, this is evident).  What’s NOT to like about that, if you wish to maintain the image, but not the substance (i.e., not reveal the dual-purpose and conflicts-of-interest, gender-biased (because so unequal — and below, my links to a March 2017 post, do the drill-down on this even within the “DV” field) against adult women and mothers funding stream as we have, USA, in welfare-reform’s “Marriage/fatherhood, Family Values” programming.  Since 1996…

The billionaire and his wife still seek to (and do) influence public policy regarding vulnerable children, and seek (see Foundation website) communities with international agenda; the other, I can’t say, but it does seem to be so continually self-referencing, I often wonder…

Within the last several days, I was a little shocked to see that the realms of operation (at Capital Law School in Columbus Ohio) actually overlapped.  To understand more, finish this (and the related) post and read the extensive quotes, especially a June, 2021, article published by Vanity Fair...

The next sentences and paragraphs (illustrating) are in effect describing stations along a moving (and evolving) train.  They’re going to be long.  Try to keep up, however, I build repetition into most posts, and because, unlike others, I don’t constantly move my own posts around on the blog once they’re published, you can retrace any steps if it doesn’t make sense on the first reading — which it likely won’t. I’m summarizing what I already have visuals for in my mind, in recent memory because I just looked up many of these elements up.  Others, I have previously understood (up to a point) but in this post am also reviewing..

Be patient please (including with yourself, not just me)… the subject matter deserves patience AND attention.

I realized, and so here, show below that Capital University Law School was running its (see title) NCALP become FYLaw (both were dbas of the law school) while the law school’s particular center was taking donations from a local coalition against Family (not “Domestic”) Violence founded in 1996** or 1998 (but at the very bottom of the post, I found without funding until 2004) run by Wexner family wealth (under the wife), which later merged into (also run by Wexner family wealth, with the wife as Chairman of the Board) a children’s hospital…

(**Hmm.. 1996, the year of welfare reform when TANF Block grants provided more flexible funding for states, and 1994 VAWA had also been passed — “how to combine both funding streams…”) 

This “Coalition” (CCAFV.org) later (2011) merged into another (entity), thus completely losing any reference to domestic (or family) violence, and (so the PR goes) rebranded: TCFSH – The Center for Family Safety and Healing.  (Reality:  It had a dba, and retained that dba, before 2011)..

(Its latest annual report 2020 (strategy through 2025) says “TCFSH” (so stated) is a 501©3, shows types of programming run, and even a few pie charts as to revenues and expenses towards the end of the report. Again, that’s a FY2020 report, not 2021… The website shows no financials that I could see..

In these situations you will always find “partners of partners” and collaboratives with members (etc).

More images from the TCFSH Annual Report: Click either image to enlarge (“gallery” format).

Nice to see the piechart, but at the end of the day, it seems it’s filing a group return under its (huge) parent company (also nonprofit) anyway.  I got an EIN# but not one tax return to go with it.  Such “transparency” (or, is it salesmanship?).  Even though parent company tax return (which I did find, but am not posting here) showed it being granted over $2M directly.  That might be nice to see in something provided the IRS.. given its university ties within Franklin County, Ohio…

Here, “just for fun…” (i.e., curious..) I looked up just one TCFSH-identified “Collaborator” called “CHOICES” which (per its website) began as a shelter in 1977, got Title XX mental health funds from Franklin County (Ohio) in 1979, joined United Way of Franklin County in 1980, and (with no events listed between, however it’s seen now partnering with TCFSH) became a member of LSS (Lutheran Social Services) in only 2014.

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Got a Campaign, a Cause, an Advocate You Want (Me, Us, Others) to Promote, Support, Publicize or Volunteer For? FIRST, Understand “Entity” and Find Which One You’re Promoting. Investopedia, Defining “Accounting Entity” Shows The Risks of Failure to Comprehend the Concept. [Draft, Oct. 26, 2021, Publ. May 18, 2022: at 27K words…].

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ABOUT THIS LONG and LONG-DELAYED POST (You may want to read first!):
“WTF?”What’s going on here?

This is what’s going on: I’m in housing transition: I’ll be out of this place within the next 24 hours, literally, and still not exactly sure how to reach the next (safe place) destination about one state away. I know it will represent a blogging pause, so I went through my most recent drafts, looked for some which were most helpful, and least embarrassing in format. Three or four qualified, but I chose this one. The most embarrassing aspect is its obnoxious length. On the other hand, within the contents is plenty of useful information; people who may follow my writing will understand better. It’s focused on a key concept and I think illustrates it at length (literally…). It was drafted eight months ago — that’s a long time, but this is still a worthwhile post for the patient readers, or those who understand it may work better read in installments (some today, some tomorrow…).

Parts of it apply to different situations:  for example, (not its main focus, but) I see on scrolling through it today (5/18/2022), I’d shown the tax returns of what’s now called “Evident Change” but was then “National Council on Crime and Delinquency,” (inc. 1907 and I’d said, may just have been the model AFCC was following, only with family courts, not juvenile…)  NCCD began with associations of probation officers, definitely a focus on the juvenile (age group), which I’d just Tweeted on yesterday.  NCCD’s California Registry of Charitable Trusts “RRF” filings also show which governments — this usually shows which USA governments or government agencies — it was taking grants from. I still remember the shock of discovering, it was taking grants from a whole selection of governments OUTside the USA.  From yesterday’s Tweet, I recall (possibly post http://wp.me/psBXH-2KW, but check Twitter) I’d written in 2014 but (another long blogging pause, that time for family court aftermath litigation) only posted in 2017.  These delays happen at times, especially when your out put doesn’t keep up with your own research, which never stops…  NCCD (Evident Change) has an office not far from AFCC’s office in Madison, Wisconsin (by “not far” I mean, when I last looked, a very short WALK away, around the block).  I would say that’s an entity to watch although it’s not much in the news.  Learn who it’s been and what it wants to do:  this link will redirect:  https://NCCDGlobal.org

I may never get around to splitting or further developing the material on this post. I can’t see that far into my own future, but I hope its serious topic resonates with gut instinct that there HAS to be a better way to categorize and keep track of advocacy groups, and governments. Before 2022, VAWA Reauthorization and other media “events” and campaigns, this was where my blog was going: to revisit and re-emphasize the concept of “Entity.” (Without the entity you can’t track the money…Looking for them is its own set of lessons). Another example: I see I had a link to the California Secretary of State Business Entities Search site. This will redirect — the appearance and function of that state has since migrated into a whole new format; at some levels it has more functions, but in display, in many ways less, making communications on findings among (normal people) harder… Government (and private) databases migrating platforms and undergoing format changes will happen, but still important to notice as it happens.  “ENJOY…” //LGH May 18, 2022.

From California: (Businesssearch.sos.ca.gov website delineates what types can and cannot be searched on its main database, and how to find the other types of ENTITIES.

Post Title and Shortlink:

Got a Cause? Want to Promote an Advocate? Or Donate or Volunteer? Fine, but FIRST, Understand “Entity.” Investopedia Defines “Accounting Entity” and Why You Need to Get the Concept. (Oct. 26, 2021, Draft), Publ. ay 18, 2022 at 27K words. short-link ends -d2d even if this title may vary before I publish!

Let’s Talk “ENTITIES.”  Let’s speak “entity” and have some idea what one is — and isn’t.  This illustrates when someone or group of individuals, in self-descriptions (on-line) want to be seen as though “it” were.

Why Not Speak “Entity”? It’s the language of business, and government, of business doing business with government and/or with other businesses; it’s the language of governments doing business with other governments, and so forth, and it specifically deals with accounting.

That means, relevance to accountability.  And on this blog, we’re talking “family courts” which come under governments: that means accountability TO the public for use of things taken FROM the public, by consent or by force.

It just so happens that both businesses and governments are in the business of (are always) selling things: goods & services, and especially policies which sustain goods and services, and legitimacy.

The less most of us know about the language of entities, the easier such sales and the harder getting accountability will be. “A sucker [that is, a fool] is born every minute.” [Quote Investigator.com].

Why not talk entities when seeking policy change, or campaign funding for any righteous cause — like justice, instead of being foolishly “sucked in” by propaganda, i.e., accountability illiteracy or sloth (failure or stubborn refusal to fact-check presence or absence of alleged entity, or its profile indicators)?  

Most times, basically, a business search IS a business entity search.  Within the United States, Search websites in state after state make this clear.  The above example (image) is from California…. Search for (Google) “business entity search _______” and fill in the name of a state: or a country.  A variety of websites will surface; some search sties are run by private businesses, others government. Check the URL formats).  Either one could be charging fees to search, but most government sites don’t, at least for the very basic information.

On the other hand the types of data shown at least on initial level, changes over time and sometimes disappears from viewing and many state (and, generally, the IRS’s) entities’ search websites “summary results” are often NOT in formats conducive to taking screenprints to discuss with others in looking at or looking into who’s doing business where. In other words, functions may be added, while actual search fields are subtracted.  These changes are rarely explained or announced in advance: just show up the next time you visit the site.  Another reason I say, better to start looking before more data and data fields disappear or are buried even further from public access. 

But for now, databases do exist, and can and should be regularly searched for those concerned about any cause — because those causes will have driving entities promoting it, there will be some existing market niche (for most public policies) unless new ones are being carved out or spun off existing ones.

For California, (currently the search website is: BusinessSearch.sos.ca.gov), the word “entity” appears on both Business Search fields (and searchers, as in California, must choose which type of entity they are looking for) and in the search results, and on the Registry of Charitable Trusts ‘Verification Page.” One is run by the Secretary of State, (“SOS”) the other by the Office of Attorney General. 

The “Office of Attorney General/Registry of Charitable Trusts” (which will include search results with California entity numbers) web address is hard to remember/not intuitive, but If you can remember https://oag.ca.gov/charities, scroll down to “Resources & Tools” on right sidebar and click on “Registry Verification Search” This page and search results use the term “organization” not “entity” even when referencing the Corporate/Entity number (a searchable field) as you can see. I keep a link on my Twitter profile (@LetUsGetHonest).

Remember: these (state-level) government websites are not listing government entities but business ones, to monitor and control who does business or solicits funds/functions tax-exempt in a category which must register, within the state. It’s not a field to minimize or ignore.

To identify what government entities or authorities are in operation (at least USA), and knowing the which political jurisdictions define “USA”. Per Wikipedia, the United States is organized into:

…50 states, a federal district, five major unincorporated territories, 326 Indian reservations, and some minor possessions.[h]

Read the “minor possessions” link which further details incorporated territories and there are some helpful visuals. Rights vary among the parts that make up the whole called “U.S.A.”

When it comes to identifying “government entities (and their sub-parts),” for incorporated territories, all states, and presumably also the federal district (i.e., D.C.), there would be lists and organizational charts on each one’s annual “CAFR” (Comprehensive Annual Financial Report”) which is to be audited and posted for the public every year.  This awareness is helpful in any attempts to track finances or accountability among government and business entities.  There are also authorities (JPAs) etc. that cover more than one jurisdiction, i.e. government ENTITIES regionalized across state lines.  Example:  The Tennessee Valley Authority.

The word “entity” recurs throughout the financial statements (CAFRs) of the U.S. federal government, and on the Advanced Search (user interface) website  TAGGS.HHS.Gov on which one may search for HHS grants, at least from after about 1995 forward (HHS has existed under that name since 1980).

It’s a common word within businesses, especially ones doing business with governments.

Yet so many entities doing major, ongoing business with government in public-facing websites, and even government public-facing websites themselves (exception: on their own audited financial statements) use words interchangeably and inconsistently to the point of meaninglessness and to conflate non-entities with entities, public with private lists of the same, and to call non-entities in some lists ‘partners’ or “members” when by definition, they can’t be both at the same time.  

And that’s a shell game!

Thus anyone hoping to make sense of which is which on such public-facing websites, couldn’t figure it out by deduction.  The only way seems to be to have basic definitions going in, and then individually check out — for each name or label in a list — which and what it is.  Such an unnecessary burden IF there was a collective will for the public to tell its favorite charity (entity) from (a hole in the ground)!

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The Widening Credibility Gap between the Long-Term, Chronic, Family-Court-Beleaguered and the UNbeleaguered FamilyCourtReform/ist + DV Advocates Reporting on (Us) [Publ. May 14, 2022].

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(While published May 14, 2022, this post came from a related one, published May 12 but drafted Fall, 2021).




This dynamic,

The BELEAGUERED (first by in-home abuse and violence, then in the Family Courts, as people attempt to exit abuse) vs. the UNBELEAGUERED^ (by the family courts, “the beleaguered,” (their victims),

effectively excludes the former’s voices and with that, valuable insight or feedback (we) have to the field, which is typically dominated by the “Unbeleaguered.” The former are sidelined, and are not taken seriously (regardless of how valid any claims) except when, where, and as it suits the various experts…. to fulfill minimum token “survivor” representation in any organization, testimonies, or at a conferences, etc.

Post Title: The Widening Credibility Gap between the Long-Term, Chronic Family-Court-Beleagured and the UNbeleagured FamilyCourtReform/ist + DV Advocacy Experts Reporting on (Us) [May 14, 2022]. (short-link ends “-eus”)

This ever-widening discrepancy guarantees a bias in the information throughout the field which never self-corrects.  If it were corrected, careers would need to be restructured, people who have invested their lives and reputations in and on it discredited; they would have to find other lines of work in other fields.  I.e., function as the “beleaguered” have had to all along.

The next section is another summary, written May 14… which pushes my footnote (definition of) “Beleaguered” and “THEME #2: UNFREEZE – CHANGE – REFREEZE further down, but both are still there. Scrolling through the post for an overview before reading individual parts may help, or read it (patiently) in order. But understand what you read has been layered in sections over time; many sections simply develop a statement a little further, and reflect many ways to express what I’m thinking. This is a blog, not a fully-developed, complex website with many sub-menus and “portals” to information, so most of what’s on it is linear.

Exposure of major cracks in any form of advocacy potentially exposes even deeper cracks in all forms and if taken seriously by enough people who might act on their understanding could rattle the foundations much deeper. Those for whom such systems is working nicely (i.e., jobs, housing, careers, publications, citations, positions in life, etc.) are pitted against and naturally resist those for whom it isn’t.

Face it:  Advocacy as we understand it has typically meant “public/private partnerships” and involved tax-exempt organizations (with different names and tax processes in different countries).  When criticizing advocacy calls attention to its forms as innately unfair — that has a potential ripple effect.  It could be a subterranean earthquake which triggers a tsunami with far-reaching impact in such an interdependent world.  The categories of economic existence involved the taxed, the tax-exempt (including those working for them), government (the same) and their respective, pooled or allocated assets, either producing income now, (sometimes tax-exempt, sometimes not), or held for possible sale (for profit, is the general idea) elsewhere.  Selling profits to friends below-cost solidifies friendships; selling distressed assets (whether or not people wish to sell) is perceived as rescue.

Right now, distressed PEOPLE, and made so often through court systems, are a known (if unofficial) asset class.  Marketing to their “kind” and managing them is major business.  Those on welfare, those fleeing abuse across borders, OR those fleeing abuse individually (within a country) all create different kinds of opportunities…not just problems.  The question is:  for whom.

The assumption that, among advocates and survivors needing their services “we are all on the same page” is false, when the viewpoint is accounting and accountability.  A constant narrative (public advocacy and outreach) is maintained to encourage the referrals and continual application for help from advocacy organizations, while the same then go appeal for more resources and funding for the good cause/s.

I’ve read too many tax returns, experienced too much (I was never in a shelter, but I could’ve used some shelter and did need help) to mis-read the constant “we, us our — join us” branding from websites, individuals and individuals associated with websites and/or entities where funds ARE going in, but where they go (even as shown on a tax return) can’t really be tracked by the public — and even less so by the “beleaguered” among the public.

I’d love to post more Forms 990 and audited financial statements (including — again — ALL of the (corporate) entities and for each, most recent tax returns within the DV Advocacy field USA, and the DVRN regionalized networks), but between new developments (in this field, i.e., NationalSafeParents.org “coalition” website teaming with the National Family Violence Law Center at George Washington University Law School, (literally, Law.GWU.Edu/(description) pushing hard for the VAWA Reauthorization with “Keeping Children Safe IN Family Courts” (Kayden’s law) tweak), (as I recall about ten posts in late February/March on this, and a few more in April), my  NOT being on the same page as these (and hence getting not referrals or cites from them), and my private life events — I cannot out-produce or out-publicize solo when even top producers and websites (pick some and look at the publication “Acknowledgements” front matter, even for an annual report) which require many specialists for the output, and other sponsors to distribute. Case in point, why the post title.  See “Tactics: Divide and Conquer” below.  As a tactic, it works.  I still hope it may work both ways when enough people get sick of being mentored, monitored, lied to and betrayed — but this won’t be seen without looking outside the mainstream that is, looking to the accounts and accounting infrastructures.  Start SOMEWHERE to take those repeated snapshots and get a picture!)

Oh– and did I mention, most of these websites (USA) decline to post BOTH Forms 990 (reliable and current) AND audited financial statements.  I don’t even know whether or not the IRS even requires that they do post the latter — it just asks how they make them available.  I’ve seen responses such as “not available” (View IRS Form 990 Part VI.C. ‘Disclosure’; it’s near the bottom of a page). But I DO know that transparency and a sense of duty to the supporting public would’ve posted this information voluntarily (not shelter addresses of course, but the financials of those running the shelters, etc.)

Tactics: Avoid and distract:  rather than starting by considering ALL possible causes and choosing the most likely, advocates constantly raise and publicize less fundamental ones (such as “unsound psychological theories,”).

Tactics: Divide and Conquer: Manage Quarantine/Isolate veteran survivor dissidents, then emphasize “Solidarity” first for whoever is left, especially newcomers, and mentor them. Anyone, especially survivors, who’ve seen through that strategy and remain vocal about it, could potentially “contaminate” the ongoing fresh-blood of headlines and horror stories, which is a currency in this field.  Speaking of currency, almost any survivor who brings up and looks at the topic of “finances,” and calls attention to resources for investigating tax-exempt organizations (which the field is peopled by), becomes and is treated as a threat to its stability.

Major energy and money is poured into publicity claiming concern, advertising “progress” in problem-solving, ensuring those politically advantageous get a seat at the decision-making tables. How is that really the best use of public resources?

Tactic: Ignore the National: ALWAYS talk and go Global.  Within my country, you will not find any systematic discussion or “reveal” among advocates of their own funding and reporting policies, of welfare reform, of the potential of negative nonprofits (tax-exempts or trade associations) as an issue.  The focus is to be kept away from “accounting literacy” and a specialized shared language of “cause literacy” is the unifying force for system change.

What if the accounting systems locally, within any single country, are THE major facilitator of abuse, at the national, local and (guess what, also) familial/individual abuse? Are not access “resources” often what people (and countries) fight over most in the first place?

“The game seems to be not proving (actually, anything much) but persuading whoever “matters” to accept and invest, and casting a few crumbs to those who evidently don’t…

Persuade, publicize, legitimize, legislate, reproduce…. when problems surface, leverage that to further embed more investment — thus solidifying the same foundations.  That’s how reformISTS think and operate. (Cambridge Dictionary:”reformist” noun, verb; Wikipedia “reformism” as a movement within socialism, referring to gradual change rather than revolution — but the end goal is the same. At least read the “Overview”).

(Post title, and my related one just published are shown again below):

Post Title: The Widening Credibility Gap between the Long-Term, Chronic Family-Court-Beleagured and the UNbeleagured FamilyCourtReform/ist + DV Advocacy Experts Reporting on (Us) [May 14, 2022]. (short-link ends “-eus,” which seems appropriate to the topic here: EU vs. US… combined, is it “EUs?” (except for Brexit….).  Published imperfectly at about 12,000 words, the latter situation I hope to correct eventually, the former, “in my dreams..”  Any writer knows it takes longer and is harder to write a good short post than a halfway decent longer one.  

This weekend and next week I’m packing up a household and relocating (no new residence obtained yet, but a temporary safe place has been offered). If this post helps you and you can, please use the DONATE button and/or let me know. I’m not relying on Donations (or, a tax-exempt) but IF you appreciate it, small amounts help, and for those who might not, the DONATE button is not the forum. Read the fine print here:  

NB, Recently,  a certain man whose name appeared ONCE in this post in 2016 or 2017 as I recall, chose to use the “Donate” button (a second time) to, this time, threaten (or attempt to threaten) to defame me unless I removed his name. The name was mentioned — not featured, just mentioned — appropriately in context as a board member of a charity.  Via a second PayPal Donation of $20 (after I’d belatedly, saying why and with an apology for the delay, refunded his first one of $10) note to me, and a link was provided to a ‘substack” to threaten me with further publication if I didn’t comply.  His (rant) used the word “tarnished” several times and “conspiracy” (some form of it) even more, without proving I’d either tarnished the charity’s or his name, or proving that I was a “conspiracy theorist” (I’d quoted one). …. In the protest he at least included a link to my post complained about, showing that even the section on the charity was only the bottom half, and quoting none of it.  I.e., anyone who compared what he summarized to what was said, could see a difference. The guy actually started a “newsletter” to discredit the blog, based on his experience with me responding to a complaint about one of my posts (representing about 1/870th of the posts published). (this was the first and only post shown). Other than a street address he sent me (for which I found no direct connection to that name) and the association with the charity, very little about him shows on-line.

I posted a single response (yesterday), asked him to grow up (or prove his point, if he could), said I was returning the ($20) and did so.  I’m also looking into how I might block any further donations to deliver notes to (attempt to) bully me at the PayPal level.  FYI, in the post in question, I was looking at another individual (now deceased) who did talk “Conspiracy Theory” and asked for donations to an entity.  I looked up the entity, posted, and talked about it — as this led to other interesting topics. My post also mentioned that I’d done this on the suggestion of a friend (not as a normal part of my blogging).  People who join boards of any public charity which must file tax returns should understand that strangers, not only friends, may be reading those returns: it is public access information. The alternative if privacy is more important is to not join such boards. For example, so far, my privacy is important, and so far, I haven’t…

Therefore this notice is my way of saying:  if you want have issues with this blog, or any post on it come at me with something that holds water, but don’t use PAYPAL messaging to come at ME personally as its author or complain about it; I will return that donation and seek to block you. Substituting name-calling for a process that involves proof trying to get me to retract something truthful and (in that context, it was also innocuous) reflects more on the individual.  It’s also made me want to look even more into a single nonprofit he was on, based on what I’d found back then:  why is it even so important for this individual to have privacy, but not me? If you want the text of those exchanges, ask and I’ll provide links or full texts. For “defamation” the guy doesn’t have a legal leg to stand on and failed to state any falsehood I’ve posted about him; in fact it was disturbing to speculate, given no legitimate cause, why it was even worth a protest: but I if this keeps up, I may have one for harassment. RE: Donations:  I’ve made it plain in and around that Button that I have not organized a nonprofit (formed one or joined one) and FYI, historically Donations have been mostly inactive, year after year.  Occasionally someone who knows me may send $20 or $40, for example, on a birthday or otherwise.//LGH, May 14, 2022.

If people wish to debate either my facts or my conclusion from the facts (links, quotes, etc.) which result, mostly, from years of looking into things in this manner, go ahead:  PROVE me wrong, or mis-guided somehow.  I’d especially appreciate this from anyone with a background and mindset to understand the difference between proof and supposition.


Refer/Defer: (*meanings 1,2 or 3) (**to defer to” references to a person, i.e., out of respect for him or her as a person, his/her  authority and his/her more expert qualification. It’s a firm of submission. See vocabulary links.  Here, I indicate but decline to submit.)

By “UNBeleaguered” in this context, I mean:

^A category with a long label: FamilyCourtReformists and Domestic Violence/Child Abuse Advocates including their (respective) associated, sponsored^^ think tanks, and university centers, which feed them policy and ‘best-practices’ info and technical assistance and training, certifying courses, curricula, webinars, programs, etc. 

Typically the category of “advocates” (here) is meant to be at the state level, a series of 56 (as to DV) private (but public-funded) tax-exempt coalitions, ONE per jurisdiction, with funds (for how much or what percent — find and read ALL their financials, which typically aren’t even posted on their websites) along with sexual assault coalitions.  These are coordinated by specific “national” (so-called) websites, sometimes equated 1:1 with an identifiable nonprofit entity, but not always.

^^Such sponsorship includes both private and public funding where the universities (or the involved nonprofits) are also public-funded. For example, the DV advocacy field USA is essentially controlled by the federal government’s decisions how to redistribute (its) wealth state by state and regionally to special issue resource centers, which I’ve blogged (for years, i.e., repeatedly) elsewhere.  Tax-exempt anything in the USA (and I”m sure elsewhere) is also a form of public sponsorship: it’s a privilege.

(Again, the context is USA, because this post is an appeal to those NOT dealing with the consequences of [their] supporting and public endorsement of this crowd from afar).

To these, I say (and it’s a rhetorical question:  So many already have the answer):

Will you ever hear us, on the basis of common sense, reason, and that country economic and government differences exist for a reason and should not be set aside or undermined lightly?

To uninvolved observers, inside and outside the USA, ask yourselves:

Does our [the beleaguered] often less slick presentation and fewer social networking connections really mean we are less credible?

Are we ALL talking only anecdotal evidence/our horror stories, thereby becoming only “survivors” (unless we’re selling books or consulting services the existing field endorses), not real “experts”… or do many of us have other and possibly at least equally credible bases (than the ones you’ve fed us) for understanding the situations, appropriately labeling the situations, and recommending what to do about these situations?

Regarding the attempts to internationally align policy through privatized (but government-endorsed) nonprofits and charities backed by major wealth, or civil servant leadership (i.e., trade associations with judges, or as seen in CAFCASS), I challenge you:

Why is having good country boundaries as a country considered “bad” if not extremist and a danger to society — while poor personal boundaries is discussed cross-border as “healthy” and in the public interests — generating sponsored education and public awareness campaigns about healthy relationships vs. bad ones (coercive control, domestic abuse, etc.)?

My complaint and opinion:

–>I’m reporting and getting REAL tired of significant boundary violations (of the United States of America, the country I live in) which have nothing to do with a wall on our southern border (48 contiguous states) with Mexico or blocking truckers’ protests on the northern border with Canada based on vaccine status.

–>I am talking policy-setting, public-purpose boundaries being set from outside the reach of the people living here and without regard to circumstances long-documented to be occurring here, which are not and cannot be openly discussed in a common language with other countries where so many integral facets are not common:  our tax systems, our laws, and (after a few generations past welfare-reform) the forces driving social policy through our welfare system, parts of which derived from the UK to start with.

Briefly, some World War II-era history: “When so much infrastructure is wiped out, and resources depleted, how to rebuild?” (Did the USA ask to apply the UK model?  If not then, why now?)

(See “1942 Beveridge Report” (William Beveridge lived 1879-1963) and The Beveridge Report and the Foundations of the Welfare State” (75th Anniversary, 17 Dec. 2017 from UK National Archives).  Quote is from the second source (and from its cover page / summary only, all emphases added):

Now, when the war is abolishing landmarks of every kind, is the opportunity for using experience in a clear field. A revolutionary moment in the world’s history is a time for revolutions, not for patching..

Churchill received a copy of the report on 11 November 1942, but was no doubt quite busy conducting the war, so instructed the chancellor Kingsley Wood to ‘have an immediate preliminary, brief report made on this for me’. He soon received Wood’s ‘critical observations’, as well as comments from his close friend and adviser Lord Cherwell.

These two reports sum up the initial reception Beveridge’s ideas received from the Prime Minster’s inner circle. Wood described the plan as ‘ambitious’, but worried it involved ‘an impracticable financial commitment’. Wood said that ‘the abolition of want’ was an admirable objective that would have ‘a vast popular appeal’, but he was concerned that Beveridge’s plan was ‘based on fallacious reasoning’.

…Wood, as well as Cherwell, also raised concerns about how the United States (who were by and large bankrolling Britain’s war efforts at this point) would react to such bold proposals for state provision by a country brought so financially low by an all-consuming war. Cherwell pointed out that the US population might take umbrage at financing the creation of a far more generous welfare state than their own. Wood worried that it would appear that Britain was ‘engaged in dividing out the spoils while they [the US] are assuming the main burden of the war’.

Concluding, Wood expresses the cautious attitude the Report initially provoked

I say, the Social Welfare State USA and UK are NOT identical, nor should they be.

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