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Table of Contents 2020: FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Just Ten Posts (Jan.-July) and Its Only Page [Publ. May 18, 2021..]

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This post  is “in transition” (I am off-ramping introductory sections in order to feature more table, less talk).

Just now, I stopped mid-edit in a narrative section after adding some quotes on “stakeholders,” a bit of a sore point from my perspective. So-called “stakeholders” in national (and global) policies demand a closer look at usage of the term and who decides who is NOT a stakeholder, typically those most impacted by exclusion and/or decades of policy- and field-building without reference to things (we) know about, things easy to observe once attention is called to their existence, something (for efficiency and power reasons) typical stakeholders in the operations don’t particularly want.

I am NOT happy with this post just now, but not kidding myself about the level of traffic coming to it.  Will consider editing options…


Post revision will not happen immediately.  Thanks for your patience meanwhile.  The Table Of Contents is still here, and plenty of other reading material on the blog, accessible through main pages and sidebar widgets //LGH, 6/15/2021.

 

Title: Table of Contents 2020: FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Just Ten Posts (Jan.-July) and Its Only Page [Publ. May 18, 2021..] (short-link ends “-cKH”)

This is a “sticky” post.  For more on that and short-links nomenclature see my “Front Page” (just type “FamilyCourtMatters.org“). “Sticky” (pinned to the top) makes this now the top of 14 sticky posts accessible through the “Current Posts” doorway (page) to this blog. That’s why you get some introduction before the actual table of contents… Expect some post-publication revisions, including removing excess text where I feel it appropriate….

Some posts are marked sticky to provide access other years’ tables of contents. For example:

Reviewing those 14 sticky posts, which go back to January, 2017, to shorten their “teasers” (how much text before the “read-more” instruction), I found two I’d like to mention here. The first one (despite its wordy title) was top of the blog when I restructured it, with a “Let’s Talk!” message.  The two posts, both from April-May 2018, and so about three years old now, are:


May 2, 2018

Post Title In 2018, Clamors to Fix, Reform, or Make Kids Safe WITHIN Family Courts STILL (Abusively, Territorially, and Intentionally) Limit Possible Answers by Censoring Terms Admitting Other Historic Evidence — About The Courts (not “Batterers!”) AND Government Itself — while Coaching (even Certifying) Others to Imitate. (Published May 2, 2018) (case-sensitive short-link ending -8Ly,” about 10,700 words)


April 19, 2018

Post Title:Q1, 2018 Posts and “You Are Here,” on my Blog. Meanwhile, WE are Here, Collectively. (Or, From ‘Hewers of Wood + Drawers of Water’ To Functionally and Financially Illiterate** Consumers of Information, Products, and Social Services). (Publ. April 19, 2018) [Case-sensitive, WordPress-generated shortlink ends “-8X8” and this post ends after about 11,000 words]

**Explained more below in this post, and in a typical post. No apologies for failing to sugar-coat the news. Or for long sentences in the next few indented paragraphs, summarizing my understanding and explaining that comment. With additional “show-and-tell” relating to the rest of this post (and blog).

 

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May 18, 2021 at 7:00 am

CBMA and CFUF in #BlackLivesMatter: What’s Up Now, 2020, with (Famous-Foundations-sponsored-) Campaigns for Black MALE Achievement and (Still U.S. Gov’t-Sponsored-) Centers for Urban Families (fka “Fathers”)? [Started June 20, 2020, Publ. July 8].

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Today’s post:

CBMA and CFUF in #BlackLivesMatter: What’s Up Now, 2020, with (Famous-Foundations-sponsored-) Campaigns for Black MALE Achievement and (Still U.S. Gov’t-Sponsored-) Centers for Urban Families (fka “Fathers”)? [Started June 20, 2020, Publ. July_8]. short-link ends “-cVS”

CBMA — Campaign for Black Male Achievement.

CFUF – Centers for Urban Families (fka ‘Fathers’)

In case the acronyms CBMA and CFUF, are unfamiliar, I’ve started with two images of search results for these nonprofits’ tax returns showing the full names for each, and that the latter has a second related entity (CFUF Fund) and (when live links to tax returns are provided separately) the former did not incorporate (in New York) until late 2014, first gaining speed under a major (California) community foundation which itself was created through merger, only 2006, and which I’ve blogged (red-flagged, as also has the media) several times before.
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July 8, 2020 at 10:31 am

…Think About It: Will Any of These EVER Admit to AFCC’s Influence AND US-based Fatherhood | Access Visitation agenda for the (AFCC-promoted, specialized) Family Courts? (My Sentiments + Evidence May 29, 2020, Updated and Published June 26).

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Think About It: Will Any of These EVER Admit to AFCC’s Influence AND US-based Fatherhood | Access Visitation agenda for the (AFCC-promoted, specialized) Family Courts? (My Sentiments + Evidence May 29, 2020, Updated and Published June 26). (short-link ends “-crl”{<~last character “l” as in “lovely”), as drafted about 5,000 words, as published probably MUCH longer) (almost 21,000 words!).
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June 26, 2020 at 10:44 am

For Political Clout, Big Isn’t Always Best, as the National Fatherhood Initiative, Inc. (1993ff, EIN# 23-2745763) and its Disproportionate Influence Considering Its Small Size and Financially Fuzzy IRS Tax Returns Show. (Started Jan. 23, 2020, Published May 20.)

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This Post: For Political Clout, Big Isn’t Always Best, as the National Fatherhood Initiative, Inc. (1993ff, EIN# 23-2745763) and its Disproportionate Influence for its Small Size and Financially Fuzzy IRS Tax Returns Show (Started Jan. 20, 2020, Published May 20). (Case-sensitive, generated short-link ends “-c80,” that final character is a “zero” not capital “O”) (about 5,200 words). Minor copy-editing revisions May 29.

Explanation: Reviewing my most recent posts in draft status today, I chose this one and published as written with few changes.
This post holds some text I’d compiled in 2016 on a Page (published separately April 27, 2017 but before then on my home page, Sept. 2016), then moved here as a draft post, with updates, January 23, 2020 and SHORT intro. It had since then remained in draft status. //LGH 20May2020

For this post, recognize the acronyms “NFI” (see title) and “NGA” (for ‘National Governors’ Association,’)## and “QIC-NRF” (the Quality Improvement Center for Non-Resident Fathers” — searchable on this blog, and my post on misleading* terms including “QIC”).  

## Generally, also know that the “NGA” is an instrumentality of government but is a related entity to its very own private nonprofit organization, the  [NGA] Center for Best Practices.  They have two different EIN#s.  You can read the tax return of the latter, the former being part of government, doesn’t file tax returns.  Their audited financial statements (last I looked, LGH adds Oct. 2021) consolidate their information, so direct observation of the funding to the NGA isn’t really accessible to the public.  However, plenty of corporate and foundation entities can contribute their influence by donating, I gather, to the private nonprofit. When we consider what the NGA has been promoting over the decades (including nationalizing the education system, currently early childhood policy (see DevelopingChild.Harvard.edu), and of course “responsible fatherhood and healthy marriage” (federal policy ==>> federal ongoing funding ℅ HHS welfare appropriation diversions, that is, diversions from basic aid to families under TANF (Temporary Aid to Needy Families) (i.e., under USA’s Social Security Act of 1934 (as revised 1996 and following versions) Title IV-A.(For those who pay attention, the “Access and Visitation grants funding, which also basically promotes increased father-involvement, but via the family courts, is administered under Title IV-D).   These two paragraphs added during blog format updates, Oct. 22, 2021.

*Why are such terms”mis-leading”?  When it comes to tracking public funds to their private (or other public) grantees or other independent contractors, to the extent this information is supposed to be made available to the public, it’s the ENTITIES that must file and to read what they filed, you must find their names to look them up.  A program (including a non-entity “Center” at some large institution such as a university — or federal/state department) is not an “entity.”  See “example” section, next, but the concept in this paragraph (stemming from the “QIC-NRF” term) continues after the marked section with a few images.

This post holds some text I’d compiled in 2016 on a Page (published separately April 27, 2017 but before then a page published Sept. 2016), then moved here as a draft post, with updates, January 23, 2020 and SHORT intro. It had since then remained in draft status. //LGH 20May2020

That Page:

Do you Know Your NGA? Post-PRWORA, 1998 Stealth, Coordinated Expansion/ Diversion of Welfare Funds based on Sociological, Quasi-Religious Ideology on the Ideal Family Structure (the offspring of The 1965 Moynihan Report), Facilitated by (A) At least 39 of the Nation’s Governors and (B) as Coached by Wade Horn ℅ The National Fatherhood Initiative (Page Added Sep. 2016, Published Apr. 27, 2017) [<==with a case-sensitive shortlink ending “-4qs” ]

Title probably should’ve read “1996” — not sure why I put in 1998 at the time. PRWORA was passed in 1996.  Certain fatherhood-related, Congressional resolutions, etc. were also passed in 1998 and 1999 while the nation was changing its entire Social Security Act funding (and along with it, distribution methods for child support) in the years after 1996. [//LGH 2020 comment]

Two images (snapshots of a few paragraphs each) from my 2017 Page, next below, give more content.  I also see on review that this page dealt more with the NGA, while today’s post with the NFI.  On seeing substantial overlap (i.e., the ‘NFI’ part I’d obviously planned to transplant here a few months ago), I’m going to remove it from the 2017 page to be replaced with a link here. //LGH 20May2020.


(These links refer to the post from which two (fuzzy) screenshots below came:)
at shortlinks for pages use a capital “P” as in “http://wp.me/PsBXH-4qs.  By contrast, short-link for this post would be “http://wp.me/psBXH-c80“.  I usually provide just the last three characters as I more often write posts than pages…
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Privatization, Functionalism, the Complete Mental Health Archipelago.  It’s Here, So Why Should We Still Care? (May, 2020).

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ANY post (or page) may be further edited (copyedited, condensed, or expanded, or all of the above) after publishing. Blogger’s privilege!  THIS one should be: I tired of working on it amid so much else to blog. Publishing, “as is” but still worth reading, I say.  Another consideration:  I’m not paid for writing  — this blog isn’t an adjunct to a consulting career; it comes from the heart, mind and efforts of a family court (and domestic violence-) survivor parent and aggrieved U.S. citizen whose own government institutions (with all the private conflicts of interests so involved) trashed a family, my career, and didn’t even leave me a safe place to stand after our children turned adult.  Instead of restraining the worst in humanity, it seems to bring out and amplify that worst (greed, economic corruption, selfishness, arrogance, and dishonesty).  Re: this blog, I am looking for more efficient formats to communicate this information in, or ways to “index” what’s been researched (including the “drill-downs”) on here into key — but documented — topics.  

It’s actually a database technology issue.  I continue learning, but can’t produce at the same pace as I learn, or anything close to it. //LGH

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Privatization, Functionalism, the Complete Mental Health Archipelago.  It’s Here, So Why Should We Still Care? (May, 2020) (case-sensitive post short-link ends “-cmj, about 7,300 words”).  See also nearby (and just-[re-]published May 13) “The Giant APA and ABA Typify The People’s Problem…” which this came from)..

Others have applied the phrase “Gulag Archipelago” to prison and other institutions across the US, or used the word “archipelago” with other adjectives [1] but my usage here is “Mental Health Archipelago.”

[1] EvoS Journal (The J of the Evol’ary Studies Consortium) | …Human Behavioral Archipelago (Dept of Pshych SUNY New Paltz, 21013) Rachael A Carmen )(&9 others)_-Vol5Iss1 | 20pp 2020May8 (Click a second time on blank page icon to load the pdf)  Almost amusing.. An NSF grant (2009) helps promote the integration of “evolutionary psychology” into all academic disciplines, and comments on how the idea of “shifting the theoretical underpinnings of psychology” is meeting resistance.  Psychology (its representatives, including the APA) is ALWAYS seeking more prestige and r.e.s.p.e.c.t. when compared to other academic fields.

I just re-posted and updated (again, The Giant APA and ABA Typify The People’s Problem <~link) [2] on the size and extent of at least three American “psych” organizations (for psychology, psychiatry, and psychoanalysis, with the even larger legal association, the American Bar Association).  All of “[2]” is added the day after I published this post and relates more to the previous one, except to show how late filing and/or posting of tax returns enables the “chameleon corporation” activity.  Where is the concern for the public in all this?

[2} After posting May 13, 2020, what had puzzled me about the APA Services, Inc. entity, my own related post (WordPress generates these and shows at the bottom of posts) from two years ago confirmed by a shared EIN# that a name change had taken place.  The D.C. business filings do not provide uploaded, viewable pdfs to see actual images of any filings, so I was in looking there unable to see that fact.  Some states do (Massachusetts, California, Florida) to varying extents, but the District of Columbia does not.  That topic is another post and project (“feel free,” anyone… to take it on).  As I quoted the APA website on my recent post (but not in this color scheme)

APA is positioning our field to play a leading role in addressing the grand challenges of today and the future. In February 2019, APA’s Council of Representatives adopted a new strategic plan that provides a roadmap to guide and prioritize the work of the organization for the next three to five years. The implementation process will be transformative and comprehensive, with the association realigning itself and refocusing its work in concert with the new APA/APA Services, Inc. strategic priorities.

From (https://www.apa.org/about/apa/strategic-plan)

“APA Services, Inc.” is in fact at this time NOT new; the DCRA.DC.Gov record (I posted images) shows that entity dates back to 2000.  The wording is tricky:  the “strategic priorities” shared by BOTH organizations is new, so technically, the statement is true.  But it provides no links (or financials) to show APA Services, Inc.  And at first, as stated on the post,  I couldn’t find its EIN# from a name search (because the name had changed!)  Such situations irritate me…  However, after I published the post and saw WordPress’ auto-generated “related” posts, I did find the EIN# and about the name change…

That post:

Do You Know Your…ABA, APA (Founders, History, and via their Forms 990/O and Financial Statements, As Nonprofits?), Or How the ABA from its start maneuvered around Membership Admission for “men of color” despite existing suffrage and qualified men until long after women also got the vote? If Not, Then You Also May Not Yet Know Your [the Public’s] Assigned Place in the Tax Continuum Pecking Order. (Oct 2014 update, Pt. 3A) (Post title with case-sensitive shortlink ending “-76j”)

(I THINK this is the answer at least, as of now): Former name:  “APA Practice Organization.”  It’s a 501©6, purpose “To promote the mutual  professional interests of psychologists.”  There’s already an APA PAC (presumably 501©4)…NEW (trade)name, APA Services, Inc.

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May 17, 2020 at 3:22 pm

The Giant APA and ABA Typify The People’s Problem: Distinguishing PUBLIC (Gov’t Holdings and Operations, i.e., Assets and Cash Flow) from PRIVATE (Corporate Holdings + Operations, i.e., Assets and Cash Flow) So As To Hold Gov’t Accountable to Those It Taxes: the People Employed in Public and/or Private Sectors (Moved Here Dec. 25, 2019)

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The Giant APA and ABA Typify The People’s Problem: Distinguishing PUBLIC (Gov’t Holdings and Operations, i.e., Assets and Cash Flow) from PRIVATE (Corporate Holdings and Operations, i.e., Assets and Cash Flow) So As To Hold Gov’t Accountable to Those It Taxes: the People Employed in Public and/or Private Sectors (Moved Here Dec. 25, 2019) (case-sensitive short-link ends “-bXO,” last letter “O” as in “Ohio” not the symbol for zero (“0”) and about 9,000 words)

I off-ramped this material from the Front Page December 25, 2019 — it’d been up there quite a while but it seems I then left it in draft format.  Publishing it now just over five months later (mid-May, 2020),* I supplemented it extensively at the top, as usual.

*Part of the delay was until I could replace a dysfunctional (and decade-old) laptop and adjusting to the on-set of the “COVID-19” epidemic and business and public buildings, public gatherings shutdowns restructuring daily life and short-term, probably also longer-term plans to keep on living.  

Interesting to write then and now and (as always) I learned more in the process of writing.  You may be interested in the section

 The APA Website and its Self-Description, What’s Missing

..and watching me attempt to match up two APA entities registered in Washington, D.C., both non-profit,** with one tax return for each showing which is which. In the process of trying to do this, I found there ARE two tax returns labeled “APA” but the second one is APA Group Return for the many (about 54) divisions which, says its return, does NOT list all divisions.. and seems to have little to do with the second, more recent, nonprofit, registered only recently (relatively speaking for such an old association).

**(one is called “American Psychological Association Services, Inc.” and uses the tradename “APA Services, Inc.” [initials only] formed only in 2000, the other around since, per DC statement, 1925, although I the APA generally dates itself as far back as 1892 (corrected from “1875 as I just published it.  See next inset).

https://www.apa.org/about/apa/archives/apa-history

APA was founded in July 1892 by a small group of men interested in what they called “the new psychology.” The group elected 31 individuals, including themselves, to membership, with G. Stanley Hall (1844-1924) as its first president.
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So Many Web Addresses End “.org,” Even This One. But Notice Which Entity, If Any, Is Behind Each, How Transparent, Who’s Backing It. RE: ‘EJUSA.org’ and ‘TheAppeal.org’: One of Those Makes You Work Much Harder Than The Other to Find Its Owners/Backers. [Draft: Feb. 24, Published April 13, 2020].

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[This post specifically addresses websites ending “*.org”, not websites ending *.edu or *.gov which are more commonly understood.  That governments hire others to run “*.org” websites [1],[2] may be less obvious without follow-up.]

[1] Like this one, which also cites private foundation backers starting with the Annie E. Casey Foundation, but is or has since become a poorly developed site, as its “companion site” featuring the curricula and a short-list called “our panel of marriage experts“. A website (even one called a “resource center”) is not an person or corporation, so using the word “Ourinstead of identifying what entity, by its full legal business name, is basically dishonest.  This type of dishonesty seems to come with two related purposes: stealth & sales.  

[[The above text repeated below the “Read-More” link you see here. I just wanted the post title & link to show before my intro commentary. //LGH Oct. 22, 2021]]
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One Thread, Many Images, (My) Basic Drill-Down Messages Re: NFJCFJ, AFCC, CAFCASS, “Alienation,” “Domestic Abuse Trainings” (AFCC does, too..), “Arguing PAS, etc.” [Feb. 20, 2020]

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It’s time to declutter my home profile on another media platform; time to unpin (without losing content) that fine-print, multi-post thread which has been pinned to the top of my Twitter account for over a year now.  Hence this post:

One Thread, Many Images, (My) Basic Drill-Down Messages Re: NFJCFJ, AFCC, CAFCASS, “Alienation,” “Domestic Abuse Trainings” (AFCC does, too..), “Arguing PAS, etc.” [Feb. 20, 2020] [short-link ends “-ccQ”]

A “bitly link” to some of this (Oct. 2019 thread, http://bit.ly/2LW3JxV)(<~~corrected link) is now on my Twitter profile, however the part below starting Sept. 2018 had much more content which I want to move, not lose, including I see a section on The Greenbook Initiative and involvement of Jeffrey L. Edleson in the mix of Domestic Violence and Child Maltreatment, which the above (bitly link to Oct. 2019) thread doesn’t seem to include.

I also added (to that home page) http://bit.ly/2RUYOhw, a bitly shortlink to California’s “OAG RCT” (Office of Attorney General Registry of Charitable Trusts) “Verification” page, which has several fields to search — including corporation number (from Secretary of State database), FEIN# (which I wish to point out for non-USA people concerned about common issues with this blog; it’s a valuable identifier which can, many times (if not usually) overcome organizations’ tendency to:  regularly change their legal business names or use “dba’s” (doing-business-as or tradenames) instead, and when the databases you may wish to run entity name-searches on, don’t get them right, either (a frequent occurrence, I found….).

…These take time to assemble, still hold vital points of reference, and (as a whole) I believe also feature my value of following organizations as organizations (funded corporations, and/or government entities taking and dispensing public resources — in media campaigns of various sorts (“Healthy Marriage/Responsible Fatherhood” funding streams for ad agencies and technical support multinational companies like ICF, Incorporated, anyone?) and otherwise.

(“Oh yes, and a nod towards our concern about Violence Against Women and preventing Child Abuse.”)(The latter best done, so it’s being messaged abroad, by ensuring ongoing father-contact, for the most part, no matter what…)

“All of the above will be provided, mostly, tax-exempt for people whose income remains low, in part, because they must live NOT tax-exempt living in the jungle of “service provision” privatized government concerned with where to hide, excuse me, allocate their millions for “Building Healthy (or Purpose-Built) Communities” …


So, this is my formerly pinned, now unpinned, Tweet thread, started Sept. 2018.  It’s far from perfect, but contains many points of reference and images to illustrate them.  I.e., for example, AFCC collaborates and even trains (example from 2007) with NCJFCJ.  Both AFCC and NCJFCJ are tax-exempt organizations based in the USA.

For example, for those #ArguingPAS not promoting the public-interest values of “Reading Forms 990” and Doing the Drilldowns — Looking It Up (connecting dots, or showing where they just do NOT connect, on the various available databases, thus also revealing the completeness, functionality and currency (how long does it take any group to post its returns, beyond the legal deadlines, that is)…. of those databases, whether showing up on a *.gov website or a *.org or *.com one, …). if they were so concerned about the propagation of said Unsound Psychological Theory, they’d have long ago outed the AFCC that promotes it.

But they aren’t, won’t, and don’t do so.  This in itself tells you another operational value is in place for those individuals, and their associated platforms.

Without a question, not outing “AFCC” is core — essential — critical! — to the perpetuation of the domestic violence prevention initiatives across the USA.

With that geographic disclaimer, I can also say (because rather than join in arguing PAS, I actually do my drill-down/look-it-up homework, to the best of my (volunteer) ability, and have been for years — I can say (that is, I’ve seen) plenty of UK-based DV people (i.e., working or featured in various organizations titled after helping women, or preventing violence against women publicizing the problems with “domestic abuse” (as it tends to be called, rather than “Domestic Violence” in the UK) actually came from the USA, both male and female.

Particularly what may seem on the surface like wonderfully sensitive, empathetic, and concerned men (authors, consultants. and or program administrators) are loathe to out AFCC or point out how from the start (1980s?) the anti-violence programming was centrally organized and by mutual agreement (for the most part, without majority decision-makers being abused women) determined that a BUILD-IN of “Batterers’ Intervention Programming” was essential component.

i.e., ongoing Behavioral Modification, Trainers, Train-the-Trainers, Group facilitators (income streams off, frequently, public/government budgets) and of course more work for psychologists and counselors.  A key practice (among others) within the organization AFCC, historically and still.
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February 20, 2020 at 2:37 pm

Major Transform/Reform Campaigns [Regardless of Cause] Involve Branded, On-line Media Platforms. Keep an Eye on Who Owns Which Brands + Platforms: Do Periodic Drill-downs.. [Publ. Feb. 12, 2020, but Media Drill-Downs from my Feb. 2018 ‘Consolidated Control of DV Orgs’ Page].

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Post Title: Major Transform/Reform Campaigns [Regardless of Cause] Involve Branded, On-line Media Platforms. Keep an Eye on Who Owns Which Brands & Platforms: Do Periodic Drill-downs.. [Publ. Feb. 12, 2020, but Media Drill-Downs from my Feb. 2018 Page ‘Consolidated Control of DV Advocacy’]. (shortlink ends “-c9y, about 12,800 words;  Last revised Feb. 14th).

Blogger’s note: I wrote this post in sections some of which are marked by repetition of the post title.  Writing in sections is a function of the technology (laptop field of view is limited; I don’t write from home, etc.). As ever, I tend to add to the top, not the bottom, of any post.  Here, you’ll see the above title twice more mid-way and a fourth time at the bottom simply as a quick way to go back to the top.  Thought content within each section probably holds together more tightly than the order of sections.


About half (the top half of) the material is new. The newer part is more spontaneous and broad-view summaries, but also has specific details of interest on two media platforms from one current events story line out of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

To comprehend the context of the domestic violence organizations in the USA — which entails unacknowledged, built-in conflicts with marriage/fatherhood promotions and characterizing single-mother households as a social scourge to be handled in the name of public welfare by a national policy promoting fathers’ rights — is beyond urgent and I believe just not optional, even if one’s home country is not the United States of America.

Consider:

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February 12, 2020 at 6:01 pm

‘Divorce Mediation [and] Domestic Violence’ (per a 1997 NIJ-funded report by Jessica Pearson, Ph.D. of CPR, (and now, FRPN.org) raises the question: Do the DV Industry USA Orgs. know about AFCC? (Yes!) Since When (I DNK: 1980s?). Are They Acknowledging AFCC? (Generally, No!). So? (Know Your Organizations!) [A Nov. 19, 2019, off-ramp from ‘Oh Arizona!’ Post, Publ. Jan. 25, 2020].

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Post title and shortlink:

‘Divorce Mediation & Domestic Violence’** (per a 1997 NIJ-funded report by Jessica Pearson, Ph.D. of CPR, (and now, FRPN.org) raises the questions: Does the DV Industry USA know about AFCC? (Yes!) Since When? (I DNK). Are These Orgs. Acknowledging This? (Generally, No!). So…? (Know Your Organizations!) [This Nov. 19, 2019, off-ramp from Post ‘Oh Arizona!,’ Publ. Jan. 25, 2020′]. (short-link ends “-bE7”)

**As published, I didn’t copy the study’s title right.  I’m fixing it in body of post, and, belatedly, the title, which recurs a few times in the post contents below.  The links are provided my posts anyhow; working on other aspects, I didn’t catch the error until today, Feb. 2, 2020.  Next inset discusses perhaps why.

Wording corrected in body of post, not the title above: It reads, as the links and now images provided make clear, instead:  “Divorce Mediation & Domestic Violence” in that order. I had reversed the order of topics and omitted the word “Divorce.”  

This is a raw topic for me (as a survivor whose court-appointed mediator immediately up-ended — weakened, all but undid — the restraining order, my basic rights to function independently as a person (2nd round), and finally, years later, to validate an illegal, baseless-facts-alleged and sudden custody switch AFTER the father had stolen (by refusing to return) both our children, still minors, on a court-appointed visitation with which I complied, but he, obviously, did not, i.e., in not returning them to my care.  

The “access and visitation” (shared parenting) version that followed was far harsher to me than it was ever to the father, despite his identified battering and violent behavior towards me (over the course of a decade), in front of our young children, and not ONE incident of any thing close to that — or anything illegal or even in contempt of our existing court orders since — regarding me.  His was weekly; mine began every-other-week (never made possible), then reduced to phone calls (I didn’t get them anyway) then basically, contact with my by then adolescent children — gone.  Their education (and as a result, paths towards college scholarships, which they’d both been one) was radically revamped.  I went two years without a glimpse of one child (I say “child” to avoid specifying gender), and barely saw the other.  This didn’t change until the younger one turned 18.  THE SAME MEDIATOR was employed through-out.  Although my children had been, in fact abducted on a court-ordered overnight visitation, on having to see a mediator (the same one that handled the original protective order years ago — court-appointed), this (man) ignored that reality — while I was still obviously in shock from it — and failed to produce or give me any intake form where (I learned later) I might at least have put a check-mark on the issue “child-stealing.”That “child-stealing” is a check-mark on a family court services mediation form tells you that these courts are indeed handling criminal issues, routinely. [This and previous paragraph expanded during edit Oct. 22, 2021].

At the time, while in major trauma handling the situation (and my existing work/life commitments, which I’d built around raising the children, as I had been for years after divorce), it was made “abundantly clear” that I would not get TO court without going through, again, mediation, and that no way was a different mediator than the one who’d previously undermined my stability and basic rights to make life choices — twice in five years — if I ever hoped to see my kids again.  All this was without CPS involvement or any criminal charges or alleged abuse. This obviously impacted my overall view of family court-connected mediation (before I even knew of AFCC, who I then learned were efficiently and relentlessly promoting mediation/conciliation courts, etc. over the decades in California and in specific hotspots across the USA).//LGH Feb. 2, 2020.

The earlier (1997) study and Award#: Divorce Mediation & Domestic Violence, (<~~link to the pdf) Found at NCJRS, Doc’t. 164658USDOJ / NIJ Award# 93-NIJ-CX-0036.  (Lead author Jessica Pearson).

(Four images from the front matter of this 235-pager! added only Feb 1, 2020):
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January 25, 2020 at 7:54 pm

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