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LGH Top Picks, Themes, Tables of Contents, and Why My Gravatar is a Blue Jay Taking Flight (New, Publ. Jan. 27, 2018).

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You are reading the front page of my blog.  To learn more abut blog navigation and view a work sample, keep reading.  For more current posts, see sidebar “Current Posts” on top right, underneath the calendar (Archives) or, if seeking within the last ten published, “The Last Few[10] Let’s Get Honest Posts” widget on the right sidebar a bit further down.  

Or, from the top six posts on Current Posts page, access any Table of Contents which links to a full year’s worth (or more) of posts including both dates published and full titles.  There are several tables of contents pages and all are on “sticky” (top six) posts.   The blog does not generate these automatically, they take a LONG time to compile and upload through a few different applications when provided in 8X11 (pdf) format for browse & click or for printing.

First I have an introduction which explains why you don’t get much of an “About Me,” but in doing so, gives the general idea.  This section (which I may still move again) contains some more recent references and images to things I’m concerned about, long-term, and and watching on-line as they’ve developed and moved as standard “models” from the US (West Coast, East Coast, MidWest) to the United Kingdom and Australia (for starters), spearheaded by men (with women in the now established domestic violence profession) appropriating the “prevent domestic violence movement” with batterers intervention, involvement, and outreach as central to it.

Core to this model is NOT talking about what I wrote this blog for — to talk about.  Who’s funding what, and why is the US funding both sides, it would seem, of a gender war played out especially in the family courts (but not only), and forcing the public (we are still a large country…) to FUND both sides of the ongoing conflict of interests….  I also talk extensively about what the “protective mothers” movement which I put in quotes because the term has become common place (it’s been so promoted) and I believe that real protective mothers would acknowledge what’s been going on for a few decades and talk with each other about it.  However, talking about this doesn’t seem to match the chosen agenda of federalizing/standardizing and privatizing “best practices” in family courts which haven’t even been in existence that long, in the US.  Translated, from the start (2009) I talked openly on-line and on this blog about this organization and its membership (see next several images chosen, somewhat at random, from existing “Media library” on this blog, that is, ones I’ve already posted:

Click image to access webpage and be able to click on any of the subtitles (or menu items at the top)

AFCCnet.org, one of several events in a grid announcing them (M. Saini)

Five AFCC-named chapters (CT FL MA NY TX) SShot 2017Sep12 @1.43PM






This “Front Page” to this Blog serves three important purposes:

1) Navigation: To explain basic blog structure and navigation to the “Current Posts” page, and to the Tables of Contents on the Topmost (“sticky”) posts on that page.

I restructured it in January 2018, and may go a little overboard on explaining until it becomes more normal. I understand WordPress is now updating its program to make restructuring and placement of images, graphics and texts within the pages much easier.  That’d be great — another learning curve for this self-taught blogger.  Wonder what will happen to existing posts where placement was such a big deal.

2) To include a summary statement (short) and Table of key posts and themes (2012-2017 at least) with links to them (also short)

and below that,

3) To provide in a central place (i.e., “FamilyCourtMatters.org,” front page) extensive summary (as long as most posts) incorporating and combining major subject matter of the blog to date, and detailed drill-downs on a few symbolic organizations and people that most do NOT do drill downs on, or show how they connect with each other — but you should know.

FYI, Front Page Under (Re)Construction alert: I’d you happen to be reading this December 8-10, 2018, FYI, I am revising and moving sections around, taking some out, but as you can see, adding some too.  Doing this on a “live” page means saving between different revisions (mid-move) or risking losing that work, which may also means some sections or paragraphs may look or be out of sequence (more than usual!).  When I’m done, for now, I’ll remove this “FYI Front Page Under (Re)Construction” alert (paragraph).


LGH Top Picks, Themes, Tables of Contents, and Why My Gravatar is a Blue Jay taking Flight. (New, Publ. Jan. 27, 2018)

Entering the basic url (address) “FamilyCourtMatters.org” always brings up this page (brings you here). A WordPress-generated shortlink to this page also leads here: “https://wp.me/PsBXH-8o0”  It is case-sensitive (Capital “P” matters).

Who am I and Why Does This Blog Look and Talk So Different Than Others on “Family Court” matters?

I considered putting here an “About Me” “Who Am I” and “Why the heck this blog?” section but still don’t feel comfortable with it.  I am not functioning as, and this blog is not tied to, any nonprofit enterprise or soliciting tax-deductible contributions.  So far (and that’s a long time!) nor am I selling downloadable or print/electronic media product, coaching services, or (like many) certification on some franchise involving managing family court cases.

So, I am blogging, period.  If what I’m saying is worth consideration, then consider it, maybe even talk it up (if you quote it definitely provide links to THE page or post quotes and reference blog name — thanks!)   If not, then keep moving and find something more entertaining to do with YOUR free time.  I know what I’ve done with mine, most of it…

Speaking of “Conference Circuits” San Diego-based Alliance for Hope International (Formerly National Family Justice Center Alliance, before that some version of San Diego Family Justice Center (Foundation, or “Inc.”) i.e., Casey Gwinn & Gael Strack (paid officers) et al. on the conference circuits — including at BISC-MI (image, 2009 with long caption shown nearby on FamilyCourtMatters.org “Front Page”) 2003 George W. Bush White House approved and sponsored “model practice” caught, above in 2016 failing to provide proper documents (after ALL these years!) with a routine state-level charitable entity filing..The Specific info. omitted (for 2015 RRF) above gives exact names, addresses & contact info for any government grants once the filing org. checks “Yes” (Q6 Pt. B) on the otherwise one-page simple form..

[PREVIOUSLY POSTED CAPTION + IMAGE IS FROM, I THINK, the CALIFORNIA version of SVN (“Supervised Visitation Network”) after recent legislation establishing who is and is not a “professsional” provider//LGH Dec 9, 2018]]** “Pleasepayattention” commenter on the Tabachnik (5/11/2017) article re: Reunification camps directed readers to (her) website FamilyLawCourts.com. I looked again for any comprehension of the private associations organizing to work the funding and court-referred services. Shelly LaBotte is associated with at least two I know (not to mention AFCC): SVN (Supervised Visitation Network) and CASVSP (acronym, whatever order it occurs in, refers to professionalization at the California STATE level of those supervised visitation professionals who get paid for it. Training, and getting legislation in place to mandate it — just for the professionals of course — was involved. Having a trainer/provider/association organizer presiding over federal grants to the state to fund the same profession is one big red flag. Where’s any reference to (ANY of this) in this context, on the website? (See my TOC for more on this, 2016 or possibly back in 2014 or before…) **No:  The image is from FamilyLawCourts.COM (“No one over eleven believes it’s working”) the work of Bonnie Russell (San Diego area) who now has a wordpressblog under her own name)…She’s been focused more on media coverage and specifically (the last I looked), GPS for more effective restraining orders. Our styles and interests differ though some subject matter overlaps (also note — she’s been able to read my blog over the years too…. //LGH Dec. 2018

REGARDING PRIVACY: Several people (mothers, fathers, professionals) in this field already know my name. It shows up occasionally in very fine print on annotated image in the blog in part because, with all the trouble I take to look it up, take screenshots, annotated them, post them, caption them on the blog, I believe some credit is due…  One time in recent years (not this year or last) I felt so jeopardized, based on chronic and no signs of changing behavior of certain people (relatives), I went public to ensure a public record — and posted a petition elsewhere, referencing it on this blog.   I was being held economically hostage to people involved in aggressive destruction of income/profession during the post-DV/Family Court litigation years. …I still do not answer phone calls from any number or area code I do not recognize; seek to spend more time in public places than isolated even in where I sleep overnight. I am a “bear” about maintaining access to transportation and patronizing places with both a front and a back door.  Once you’ve been trapped in small places with (a batterer), stalked (as I was), or, as for a season I also was, in a street ending in a “cul de sac” or an apartment without a back door, all of which were taken advantage of, you plan ahead as much as possible.  So no, I am not ready to make this blog about “my story” — because it isn’t “my story.”  It’s about the systems.
If my position on further self-relevation changes, something will show up here, most likely.  Like many people who have tangled for years with the family court (that much will come out eventually on the blog, and has), I have certain safety concerns around specific individuals who NO government or government civil servants charged with protection has shown any inclination to protect me from and (specifically) California, “The Golden State,” certainly did not – nor did the belated (1994) Violence Against Women Act or the US DOJ “Office on Violence Against Women” charged with administering its (largely discretionary) grants.

In 2018 I am still fighting for the right and means to plan a future which involves anything more than two or three months in advance and does not depend on the mood, or professional ethics, of other human beings with no legal right to enforce their world views (and what place I should hold in them) upon me.   Evan Stark of Rutgers “The State University of New Jersey” and related, proprietary “Coercive Control” conferences in the UK have nothing on many of us who’ve been dealing with “coercive control” violent and nonviolent from many different sources  — not just an abusive spouse or ex-partner or even immediate family members — and for many years.

Regarding Professor Stark and co-author Anne Flitcraft, M.D.

…Evan Stark is a leading authority on woman battering and child abuse and has won numerous awards for directing The Yale Trauma Studies in the 1980s with Anne Flitcraft, M.D.

His new book, Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life won the excellence award from the American Publishers Association; it was named the 2007 best book in sociology/social work.

Dr. Anne Flitcraft is a 1977 graduate of Yale  Interesting “NLM.NIH.Gov interview with Dr. Flitcraft  (<+a good read) describes beginnings of her involvement (as post-doctoral intern) with using medical records to identify battered women before it became a “field,” and how again it was submerged under other issues (years later, “gender disappeared”).  It also references her having been with (at least working with) Evan Stark since the 1980s (met in California?) and his having gone to England (that long ago) on a Fulbright scholarship.  I recognize many, not all of the people named. 1996 “The Costs of Domestic Violence” ℅ Victim Services of NYC, Institute for Women’s Policy Research, & Domestic Violence Training Project (New Haven, CT), Sponsored by the Rockefeller Foundation (just found this one), lists Stark on the front cover, and Flitcraft (also on the Roundtable) in fine print at the very bottom among many other names. (The names at the back are alpha by last name).

QUICK COMMENTARY: I see from more recent testimony in Connecticut and (retrospective, Washington State, WSCADV.org) that Professor Stark is with (aligned in interests) with David Mandel in favor of “Safe & Together” and seems to set a bottom line that there MUST be Batterers’ Intervention; cutting funds for it somehow endangers women.  That bottom line goes back to at least the 1980s (if not earlier) and dissent with that position.  Why MUST we support all these professions which then have networked nonprofits, publications, policies and of course RoundTables with people basically in agreement with SOME of the basics — like the health paradigm, coordinated community response, and in general sticking the public with if not the costs of domestic violence, the costs of treating and “preventing” it… Follow-up is in order, particularly as David Mandel has made nice connections for his programming (as has Stark) around the Commonwealth countries (Australia, UK — Mandel; at least UK – Stark)…  (About: TheNewJournalAtYale, Oct. 16, 2017 “From the Ground Up” by Mark Rosenberg, like the 1996 Rockefeller Foundation-sponsored study linked above, starts with a story of domestic violence (this one, starting in 2013), then eventually gets down to business after the problem is stated as anecdotal evidence from a woman can’t safely be quoted or fact-checked, as she’s had to flee the area..  quoting experts, citing statistics and announcing (promoting) new programming: Another Family Justice Center because the real problem is that services aren’t coordinated and centralized enough.  They toured models in San Diego, Manhattan, Bridgeport and “hey, what a great idea!” — and this is being promoted to Yale students now, free of charge.  WHO follows up on them?

New Journal [at Yale] (10/16/2017 article “From the Ground Up” by Mark Rosenberg, referencing Stark & Flitcraft.

“It took Valerie over three years to escape her abusive partner. “I moved three or four times,” she said. “I had to start all over again. I had to change my job, the vehicle I drove, everything.” … In 2013, Valerie’s partner began to act erratically and stopped taking his medications. (Victims’ names have been changed to protect their identities.) She met with her partner’s mental health counselors repeatedly to try to stabilize their relationship, but he began to make verbal threats against her. In July 2014, she contacted the New Haven Police Department, seeking protection for herself and her two children, both under ten years old. An officer drove her to a police substation across the city from her home. But the officers she met there were unsympathetic… …

New Journal [at Yale] (10/16/2017 article “From the Ground Up” by Mark Rosenberg), announcing planned “Hope Family Justice Center.”

Today, The New Journal is published five times during the academic year by The New Journal at Yale, Inc. Two thousand five hundred copies of each issue are distributed free to members of the Yale and New Haven community. The New Journal is printed by Turley Publications, Palmer, MA; bookkeeping and billing services are provided by Colman Bookkeeping of New Haven

Many of us who’ve lived with in-home violence (rarely restricted to the home environment only) could “write the book,” on coercive control, probably without that label.   Some have written their own personal accounts, but the moment this goes into “the conference circuit” that’s not really in good company — and without the travel budget (etc.) impossible to keep up with AND manage one’s own life AND continuing research.

I may self-publish this blog, but as to conference circuits — I want my life back and am going to get it, too.  My life -pre-abuse, post-abuse was never about professionalizing how to deal with abuse and I’m just crazy enough to believe that this option still exists and I can get to it.

CONF on COERCIVE CONTROL (website) (Min Grob, Evan Stark, Lisa Aaronson FontesPhD (UMass-Amherst, U w/o Walls + IVAT)

Link is: biscmi.org/aboutus/history where BISCMI is a nonprofit. This image covers two diff’t conference dates.  Note participants of each. USDOJ/OVAW has accepted the Batterers Intervention field and a private business membership association of its providers. “CCR” is a concept pioneered by DAIP (theduluthmodel.org), Pence’s org.  Ellen Pence has been called the “rock star of domestic violence prevention” (or similar term), and died in 2012.  This conference ALSO has adopted the common practices of using names (“IDVAAC” written out) which do NOT represent any business or legal entity as if they did.  One cannot “partner” with a non-entity, so describing a “partnership” above is diversion from the underlying reality and shows a willingness to, basically, lie for the cause. That its partners ARE legitimate lends legitimacy to the non-entity… The word “Institute” has no business or legal definition, and can mean or be used to describe almost anything, anywhere, but here was associated with a major research university in MN, meaning, “good luck” tracking any financials.

The conference circuits/ created-professions professional networks are a basic part of the problem in the first place!  I know from years of having read (“waded through”) the rhetoric, looked up the participants, looked up the tax filings, corporate statements, registration habits, and (if available) often the financial statements of so many regulars in conference circuits (US, Canada, UK, Australia, the Netherlands, etc.) about how to handle things we deal with, in person, ongoing — all the time. If I were a dozen or more people, or managing a team of volunteers for a nonprofit, we could do an entire blog per cause-based conference circuit cause showing those financials — or the lack thereof– and at least a few slush-funding behaviors among them, including “chameleon-corporation” (changing names), state-jumping (getting confronted in one state, closing down or letting status get administratively revoked, then opening up again in a nearby — or distant — jurisdiction, and I’m talking cross-continent (USA) or transAtlantic.   And another blog to link them all together as they operate within the family courts (etc.) ..

Or, getting administratively revoked and NOT opening up (legitimately registered) anywhere — or at most under a “dba” where dbas are only recorded at (for example) the county level.

Until then, what you have is basically this blog.  Ongoing surveys of others around show classic “avoidance” behavior dealing with these situations — i.e., nonprofit behaviors (not philosophies, but behaviors and specific profiles).

Think about it: why would chameleon corporations, state-jumping corporations, “ghost” corporations (existed once then dissolved and went underground or ‘MIA”) or even habitually (a) late-filing and (b) incomplete filing — be necessary in the ethical conduct of an honest business enterprise?  I see it continually (often!).  

As to the FJC’s (Family Justice Centers) I believe that’s the real “model” involved, not the policies referenced. I’ve looked at several different instances of the model in US cities, not just the one in San Diego and posted on the problems with this model, “herein.” (earlier on this blog). I’ve gone down that rabbit hole (drilled it down, looked it up) and also walked in the door asking for help, was told to “write it up” and (no response thereafter).

The year the one in our area was breaking ground and publicizing its great self was the same year (in fact month), local law enforcement enabled a child-stealing event in our family’s life, and re-cycled us all back into family court, ℅ mandatory mediation (of course) again, which essentially ignored the felonious components of the current situation…  Later, that “Family Justice Center’s” first Executive Director (married to a famous, and I have to say, respected, career politician) ended up less than competent to keep herself (1) off drugs; (2) out of an abusive relationship herself and (3) faithful to that husband, (4) fully functional as her next major life responsibility, County Supervisor.  She was the 3rd husband of a man 30 years her senior and had a child with him; overall showing remarkable lack of judgment, common sense and leadership.  Yet the opening salary, we later heard, was $90K — while women I know in Family Court were not seeing their own children, some had become homeless (California and elsewhere) and supervised visitation was being turned against them instead of on the abusive partners.

Again — news of local failures and fiascoes is a little easier to cover up if you can run to another state and report only the good stuff, peddle some more “Hope,” like “Hope (for) Justice…”  There needs to be a database on ALL the Family Justice Centers created since San Diego and Indianapolis (I believe among the first).  Note it started in some very conservative cities…

Latest reported example of some of this CHAMELEON CORPORATION (etc.) behavior on this post, see my December 2018 post on Center for Divorce Education +  Family Works, Inc.  (Donald A. Gordon & Jack Arbuthnot).  While posting on one, another one (“Solutions for Families” co-parenting, taking court referrals in Southern California) run by an involved volunteer director) showed up and had already received an award (in 2011) although it’d self-dissolved back in 1999 two years after registering!

It takes my personal time (and if you do it, your time = our time) to find and even more time (time=life, wasting it sucks up life energy) to post on these corporate mazes and timelines.  NOT doing it then codependently enables the ongoing (essentially, fraud — deceit of taxpayers). … What I also found odd regarding so many welfare-reform enabled marriage/fatherhood grantees– the US DHHS seems to prefer if not even favor, such corporations.  What does that say about the largest grant-making agency charged with HEALTH and HUMAN SERVICES and under it  (1991ff) its ADMINISTRATION (for or of) CHILDREN & FAMILIES (“ACF”)?  //LGH.

This “Front Page” to this Blog serves three important purposes:

1) To explain blog structure and navigation to the “Posts” page,

2) To include a summary statement (short) and Table of key posts and themes with links to them (also short),

and below that,

3) To hold an extensive summary (as long as most posts) incorporating and combining major subject matter of the blog to date, and detailed drill-downs on a few symbolic organizations and people.

In that summary, and further below on this page (after 1) and 2) are handled) I show some tactics (chameleon corporations, cross-country globe-trotting conferences) and some timelines too all relating to why family courts function and operate as they do, at least in the USA  — and why this is so alarming to people who expect this country to represent is founding and stated legislative principles on our civil and legal rights.  After all, if we live here and financially and with our reproductive and work life energies support such infrastructures, should those infrastructures help us, or destroy us?

In the arena and through the “tool” of family courts, any one can be destroyed — if not killed when without the courts, the individual family members might NOT have been killed. I call it “roadkill.”  The media tend to pair it with words like “estranged” and “disputes” or exceptional, out-of-character behavior by the person (alive or dead also) accused of committing the murder.  Attempting to maintain work, household/home, and parenting while dealing with such possibilities year after year, is an insane and ridiculous state of affairs.  Ask me how I know that…  Or ask someone locally; these are widespread and known conditions.  Agencies and policies are built around handling it exist in many countries.  WHY is it now so normal?

Blog platform/technical limits: I cannot technically shorten this Static “Front Page” and, now it’s been up almost a year, don’t think I’m about to either.  Take it or leave it as a snapshot of my research and understanding nearly nine years into this blog. “Take it” is recommended.  The bottom section on the gravatar is human interest only, certainly not essential, if a high word-count scares off readers (which I’ve heard through the grapevine social media it does, although from a lawyer (!) complaining about the length.

(Was truth really just not worth the time of day, or was it that non-lawyers/colleagues couldn’t possibly have a handle on it?)

1) …Blog structure and navigation to the “Posts” page:

Screenshot of my blog Administration page shows one is labeled Home and the other “Posts” Note: The abbreviate (Click to “Read More” link after intro) function does not work on a page. It works and I use it for posts. Therefore this long “Front Page” could be treated as though it had such a link by simply clicking on “Current Posts” page, and reading this one as time allows or in stages.//LGH Dec. 9 2018 (image caption revised)

In January, 2018, I restructured this blog to have two home pages. One — this one — links to the other and has besides a LOT to say.

While it’s a substantial read, with many illustrations (annotated images and quotes), if you are really new to this subject matter OR to my approach to the subject matter and why it continues to bear (the juicy) fruit (of understanding), I still say it’s worth your time and patience to get to. Just jump in, immerse yourself for a while, and you’ll get a sense of the blog and identify (possibly recognize) many organization and professional’s names (and how they interact) which are leaders in the field, and most of whom I’m challenging on both assumed authority (versus granted authority, legitimate) and on their basic agenda and operating procedures — that is, organizing and rehearsing it in the private sector, to be applied on the public sector for (population control, exploitation and resource-extraction, ongoing).

My Administration page this blog recognizes the “Static” and “Posts” designation (see image) of two new Pages.

All Posts should be visible through the “Posts Page” (next link).  You’ll still see one sticky post,  “Table of Contents…” remaining at the top, which that the Posts Page” (next link) also explains…

For Current Posts, Most Recent on Top, Click Here. (Page short-link ends “-8v2”) (or use “-8Ly”…both work)

That should be explanation enough, however, here’s how I first introduced it while learning-by-doing how it functioned myself (as written about or not too long after January 2018)

If you know Twitter, a “Sticky” post is like a Pinned Tweet, except the blog allows several of them, not just one. It stays on the top.

This page is a “static” Front page replacing ten “sticky posts” formerly pinned to the top of the blog, each with its brief intro before the “click to read more” divider. This prioritizes more current writing without losing sight of what I still consider key posts and information, and have for years, as expressed by making the posts “sticky” in the first place.  The sticky posts also include more than one “Table of Contents.”

I have, after all, been blogging since 2009 and there are several hundred posts involved, plus pages.

The separate Posts page (Current Posts, Most Recent on Top..(short-link ends “-8v2”) (or use “-8Ly”…both work)) , also static (except its changing contents, the posts) now houses the posts, one after the other, most current on the top in the style of most blogs.

To handle that first, here are the most formerly sticky posts, in chrono order, starting with two on the same day, 9/22/201_,  which on the blog displayed in reverse chronological order (most recent sticky post on the top), but for this table I’m listing in chronological order (oldest first).  This list unfortunately skips abstracts which better explain the typically long, and sometimes sarcastic titles.

“SHORT-LINKS ending” comments on most posts & pages: I include shortlinks for my own (technical, cross-referencing) reasons; they are also useful for Tweeting because shorter. I include estimated lengths and published dates* as a courtesy to readers.

*Typically any post important enough to be on this list will have updates, or sometimes several, when I had occasion to quote them years later. Click on any title to get to the latest version of that post; all are within this same blog.   FYI, Later posts are probably better formatted and less likely to have expired links or missing graphics due to broken links (I’ve since switched techniques for posting images to avoid that). They show a learning curve on the subject matter, but most of the basics were grasped early on in the blog.

2) Summary statement (short) and Table of key posts and themes with links to them. (2A and 2B, if you will…)

2A:  I see that “Posts Page” is transparent (nothing typed on it actually displays when clicked) so here is the short message I’d included there:

[Title: For Current Posts, Most Recent on Top, Click Here. (Page short-link ends “-8v2″)]

Most Recent on Top” except one Table of Contents Post (a little complicated) remains “sticky” to the top.  It gives a quick visual and panaroma of the many post titles which I believe is helpful.

A list of formerly sticky posts is easily accessible now through the new Static Home Page,

LGH Top Picks, Themes, Tables of Contents, and Why My Gravatar is a Blue Jay taking Flight. (New Jan. 11, 2018)[Just published Jan. 27, 2018] {<~it’d been started 1/11!}

That new home page has major information to process a (long, panoramic) “birdseye” overview, I guess, at this point of major themes and current interests, while demonstrating how I do those drill-downs with specific organizations.  It leads into more subsidiary posts showing more of the international connections for this important subject matter.

All other posts should display right below the Table of Contents Page/s (so long as I leave it categorized “sticky.”).

I am a self-taught blogger.  Thanks for patience during transition, and submit feedback about the new format at any time through a comment.  All posts and pages should also have comments enabled.  Comments link is at the top of every post near the title.  “Like” or “Share” links near the bottom.  Once approved, comments show up at the bottom of each post.

“LGH” is me, the blogger “Lets’ Get Honest.” You’ll see “LGH” from time to time in posts or image captions, for example after some comment updating the information.  FamilyCourtMatters’ blog motto is still not properly visible on top right, separate from blog title.  It still references (bolded, below) what I consider two key posts from 2014, as well as listing the recent post and page counts and age of the blog.  One easy way to access those posts is using the “Archive” function (set to March, 2014 and choose those dates):

A Different Kind of Attention Develops Sound Judgment‘ | ‘Suppose I’m Right Here?‘ (@ March 23 & 5, 2014). More Than 745 posts and 45 pages of Public-Interest Investigative Blogging On These Matters Since 2009.

This NEW HOME PAGE (1 of 2 for blog reformat purposes) and its link: LGH Top Picks, Themes, Tables of Contents, and Why My Gravatar is a Blue Jay taking Flight. (New Jan. 11, 2018) (Or use WordPress-generated, case-sensitive Shortlink here: https://wp.me/PsBXH-8o0. Either link version should work).

Here’s that subsidiary page & title:

For added insurance, I copied this table to a separate page which can be linked to this one as its “parent” only when this one is actually published (!):  Are You New To This Blog? Want My Position Summary? Or Not, and Want a Review? These Ten Key Posts From 2012-2017 Should Help. (Under 3,000 words; basically just the table. Its case-sensitive short-link ends “-8tE”).

This list exists, and I originally started this page, so I could “un-stick” them soon, reformatting the main post area of this blog but without losing track of their group identity as key posts and top picks. One of those top pick, “formerly sticky” posts connects to blog Tables of Contents. Tables of Contents are for the posts only;  most of my 46 (so far) published pages are already listed on the right sidebar, so I’m not producing a table of contents for them.

2B …”Table of key posts and themes with links to them”

Ten key posts from 2012, -13, -14 (none 2015), 2016 and a few from 2017

~~ End, list of ‘formerly sticky’ posts~ ~

For added insurance, I copied this table to a separate page which can be links to this one as its “parent” :  New To This Blog and Want My Position Summary? Or Not, and Want a Review? These Ten Key Posts From 2012-2017 Should Help. (This Page’s short-link ends “-8tE” ).

3) …extensive summary … incorporating and combining major subject matter of the blog to date, and detailed drill-downs on a few symbolic organizations and people.


This page is anything but short.  I write “show-and-tell” with both links and many images which are part of the show-and-tell function of this blog, most, at least many, images have captions which contribute to the word counts listed at the top of any post.

WHY SO LONG: I am not personally available for on-line or dynamic interactive discussion, and so am laying out what I can find leaving as few questions as possible to from where (which evidence and types/sources of data) I came to my conclusions and declarations.  I blog primarily to compensate for information that has been under-reported, strategically, over several decades regarding these systems. People that may disagree with my interpretation may wish to provide another interpretation which dismisses far less evidence and types of evidence (to support the statements), or can argue — meaning, prove, logically — that somehow it’s irrelevant.  In my opinion, arguments that dismiss the most, and sometimes biggest and longest-standing, basic evidence around should be dismissed first, after pointing out the situation and asking, first oneself then others, why would any bona fide (truly concerned) advocacy group or movement only have premises valid under conditions of significant censorship?

And why can’t (so to speak, at times it doesn’t look like a genuine “can’t” but a “don’t” which leads to other questions “why not?”) some well-connected nonprofit leaders keep their corporations registered, and while doing so, fill out a tax returns following its basic directions, most of which deal with categorizing income and expenditures, and having supporting Parts supporting the Summary Page (for example in a Form 990, that’d be Part I). And why doesn’t the federal department of Health and Human Services leadership have more problem with directing millions of dollars to such organizations, year after year (speaking of healthy marriage/responsible fatherhood, “HMRF” for short, funding).

Meanwhile, groups which on the surface, and in some of the casework would seem to be advocating “against all odds” for battered mothers NOT to lose custody of their children, in asking why it happens IN the family law system, come up with explanations which ignore the afore-mentioned federal “HMRF” funding and say it’s lack of resource for appeals AFTER they’ve lost at the trial level (when in fact, many family law cases don’t even involve trials, but instead hearings)? One FVAP — Family Violence Appellate Project(referenced, but in passing, below) was formed 2012 in Berkeley, obviously after the model of a much earlier one in (I believe it’s) the DC area, “DVLEAP, which now has a menu link called “The Problem.”

SO MANY IMAGES, SO MUCH DETAIL ON THEM… I counted the individual images in one preview at about sixty (60), and those grouped within about a half dozen multi-image “galleries”  To view images in the galleries, click on any image, then either use cursors that appear to navigate within the gallery, or where no cursors do (meaning I didn’t choose “slide-show” option), just click the image again to bring up the next one.  Some on-line news articles, or some blogs or organization websites with slideshow home page banners use this function.  For me, this simplifies the image-to-text layout process by grouping. On this blog, those images are usually not there for decoration or “general impressions,” but typically will be full of both fine-print text and numbers (although some may be just a logo or other graphic), from which to better understand a particular element I am discussing at that time.

Such numbers often represent categories of public-funded projects, with receipts for public funding we know obtained in part from taxation, service fees, registration fees, and more (court-filings for those participating:  marriage certificates, birth certificates, etc.).  This page doesn’t feature tax returns, but does show at least one organization’s summary tables, to show size — the organization, a tax-exempt private (it files Forms 990PF) family foundation named after a well-known family lawyer isn’t that large, yet it shows long-term connections to other organizations, local and international.  The table is a visual which over time on this blog compares to other similar visuals of major tax-exempt foundations influencing the legal, judicial.court, and social service systems. It also has active links to underlying tax returns, a source of much more information.

In looking at family court and court-connected corporations, and how they operate, in protection of public interest, a basic sense of numbers here  is NOT optional.  Remembering the concepts of income/out go, and assets/liabilities in individual entities (private or government) matters AND, with this, an understanding that someone’s revenue is someone else’s expense (and vice versa).  One organization’s “assets” are someone else’s liabilities.  Functional adults understand this personally or go hungry or homeless, or dependent on others, which also means, controlled by them.  Sooner or later they have to pay bills.

(from Dictionary.com)

Why, then go “brain-dead” or “I’m too busy to consider it” or any other number of excuses, when the income/revenue, assets/liabilities are just recorded differently, are much larger (collectively) and involve actually identifying the To/From in the public/private partnerships about which we are constantly told and “sold” as essential — or told should be cut due to BUDGET deficits — when it comes to public (government) entities dealing with private ones, and with private (so-called) individual citizens?  Not for all, but for many, I believe it’s simply just not as entertaining and is “post-poned gratification” that won’t maintain or acquire social status, inclusion, or such.  We are not usually paid be curious about such things, but plenty of others, evidently are paid to ensure we don’t get too curious about them, or start learning the lingo — the “vocabulary or dialect of a particular subject or group of people.”

Mathematically expand that comprehension (One’s assets are another’s  liabilities, one’s revenues (or “income”) is another’s expenses, and the cumulative, compounding factors of time) by multiple grantees, participants, players in this routine and yes, you do have a kind of maze, and puzzle.

That’s simply some functional vocabulary in economic matters.  Anyone who doesn’t have it with effort can develop it. I have heard frequently “I’m a visual learner” and “I don’t have a number sense.” (How many fingers do you have?  That’s a number sense. Can you, making a purchase in a store with cash, count the change?  Or by some other matter, compare receipt to stated price?  That’s a symptom of having number sense. Can you cross in a traffic area without getting run over, possibly (where they exist) comparing not only any street signals, but also looking or listening (some are blind and can’t “look”) for oncoming traffic (i.e., potential danger)?   That’s a symptom of conceptual thinking for short-term survival in one’s current environment, and as a routine part of life.

I don’t buy the “completely unable to think conceptually, numerically: and I don’t like to read and process the written word, and compare one source of information with another  — give me some graphics, simplify it!” excuse any more.  Human beings are designed to think conceptually, and to survive as other than infants (and even as infants) we all must learn some basics and continue to learn throughout life BECAUSE our environments continue to change.

Right now, especially in “Family Court Matters” and related ones, we are dealing with entrenched systems of self-proclaimed experts, developed over time (In the US when it comes to a few of the professions here, over a century, with women LATE on the scene particularly when it comes to law, attendance at Ivy League (top) colleges, and even to the legal right to vote).  These experts collectively — and they do operate for the most part collectively, in associations and subsidiary associations —  who have a collective vested financial interests in dumbing down most people to comprehend government in terms of visuals, graphics accompanied by PR — buzz words, sound bytes, and politically expedient terms.  MINUS the accountability, although government entities MUST produce financial statements, and so must most private ones, for-profit or not-for-profit.

BUT, we are being constantly conditioned as to work, act like an adult (keep those tax receipts coming, and produce kids to continue the process) — but when it comes to raising our own children, knowing how to divorce, how to marry, how to co-parent, and how to THINK about life-and-death matters, including whether or not to put space between oneself and people who have injured, harmed, threatened to kill, threatened to kidnap, or otherwise shown destructive capacity towards ourselves, and/or our neighbors and immediate relatives, in THOSE categories, we are being condition to act like children.  To dissociate from understanding even the basic economic concepts of government and of public/private relationships which, these days, are how it operates.

We are essentially being discouraged from independent thought which might lead to independent action based on acquired individual assessment of what is, as coming from what was, and where it’s likely going.  We are also being coerced, in many fields, into consent to things not based on law, and as alleged to be in our own (again, group, collective) best interest.  The appearance of choice has been downgraded into the less important matters of life, and of self-government.

The concept of time as measuring degrees of change, and what kind of change: ALSO important to develop a sense of change over time to organizations whose maze-like financials matter should be developed if it’s not already there.  I have, both individually (people in my life) and as a US citizen (systems affecting that life course, damaging and derailing it, this century after I by choice left a dangerous relationship, likely just in time…). It’s counter-intuitive to survival and to the human spirit, which has no desire for ongoing enslavement, to go back into denial once one is aware of how things work and what some of the primary operators are.

My images often have added comments one or two ways — they may be annotated (look for the extra color, arrows, rectangles, ovals and, often, fine-print comments added to the image itself) — then I may add captions.  The added captions showing underneath a specific image may have their links to that image, or to elsewhere.

Here’s an extreme (heavily annotated AND has a superimposed image) example referring to one organization merged into another, which then changed its name and has continued running expensive court-connected parent education programs under the new name. The heavily annotated image is of a search results page from the US Patent and Trademark Office.

The name which formerly identified said network (shown as second owner in the trademark image, apparently as of about 2006) as part of a nationally known and well-organized (with “parent” corporation) network of interconnected nonprofits, on which I have both recent posts and a new page, was changed as recently as September 2017 (I write late January 2018), with a new name that conceals that connection.  Meanwhile, it is running classes targeted (see trademarks “Goods & Services”) to (a) children of separating or divorcing parents, and (b) to such parents.  Next to that I’ll show images of the new curriculum as claimed by the newly-renamed organization’s with logo (1st clean image), and then a listing of recent classes (2nd clean image) — although this hasn’t even shown up yet in the state Business or Charitable Registry pages (!!) and (3) the sliding scales shown costs for such (based on parent household incomes!) ranging from $102 to $1.2K (that’s over $1,000!!), and among other places, are run out of San Francisco State University.  Note: It looks like the USPTO trademark hasn’t caught up with the namechange yet, either… (Safe & Sound Organization website reflecting these classes).

USPTO.gov search for Kid’s Turn trademark, heavily annotated and with superimposed image of the curriculum as currently run by Safe and Sound (formerly SF Child Abuse Prevention Center).

Logo and description (in faint gray font; but read it anyway!)

Recent schedule of classes run (SF Bay Area) under organization that only changed its legal business name in late Sept. 2017), per state databases (SOS and RCT)

Sliding Scale breakpoints for Kids’ Turn curriculum fee hikes. Note: this is one of the most expensive areas in the country to live. NO parent with household income under $30K in the area should be charged that minimum to sit through a class originally concocted by family law judge, family lawyer, a UCSF Psychiatrist (I learned), and for purpose perfectly aligned with organization agenda of a private judges’ ~ lawyers’ ~ mediators’ ~ other mental health (Psy.D., PhD in psychology) etc. private association, none of which professions are exactly financially “strapped.” This (racket) has been going on since the late 1980s, at least as pertains to this parent education curriculum.. it is also taking place internationally, as shown below [on this new home page for FamilyCourtMatters.org].

I tend to go “above and beyond” in those categories of explanation, and do so knowing that I cannot expect a “just take it on faith” as so many subject matter experts with degrees, and a trail of publications in the field, may expect. I do this realizing I’m not on a national (or international) conference circuit, publishing and distributing books on my “to the contrary” analysis. Basically, it’s this blog, and interactions with people over the years on-line or in person, discussing the material on it.

There’s a lot to cover, and extracting sections in the middle to shorten it would complicates the detailed proofs and flatten some background “depth perception” although not strictly “proof” I feel necessary for what I know is an opposing position on the main directions being taken in this venue AND the main direction in which most court-reform has been taking for the last about two decades! I am in fact adamantly opposed to the current practices and policies, and how they are being carried out.

So this page also provides (more than) a representative sample of how I will systematically look at a single organization and connections through, for example, a board of directors, or known grantees, and just “drill down” until I have a basic grasp of where it connects with other, similar organizations, and how the connections have been maintained, whether through flying internationally to run trainings in another country, or an organization holding conferences in, coincidentally, wonderful vacation places to visit — like Hawaii, or (case in point below, and coming up next month, actually) the island of Malta just off Sicily in the Mediterranean.

How much of fees for parenting classes supplementing civil servant salaries goes into supporting such international flights by judges, custody evaluators, family law professionals, court-appointed mediators, directors of administrative sectors of the courts, and people who run centers, for example, at law schools as professors or associate professors? Even if the answer is “none” (which I doubt), what chance do people HERE (and I’m West Coast USA) have of informing the various international organizations — sufficiently — that, FYI, reports on the success and benefits of certain programs from the USA have been highly exaggerated, and are less than half the real story?  The situation is ridiculous!

So, I found writing this page (like most pages) more fascinating than exasperating because of the time it took to write (and will take to read, too).  I hope/believe that readers with the attention span and who are motivated will also find it so, and that those whose personal situations haven’t yet provided that motivation may start to wake up as well.

Indications are that many of the groups I’m reporting on (or at least government entities from which some of them are operating, as well as major universities, counties, cities, and international visitors) are also visiting.  So even if no one really “gets” this, a major part of my blog purpose in addition to PUBLIC interest is that leadership of these PRIVATE entities doing ever-expanding business with the public institutions (such as the courts, associated family court services, child support systems, social services, etc.) “get” that: as some of us have been left nowhere to hide from former abusers, or from being exploited through this court system for a decade or more while our children grow up, eventually they may have no place to hide for documentation that the profits from that, in my opinion, exploitation, have been made untrace-able.

…That the basic classification and categories of participants and their overall (and individual) financial inter-relationships has routinely been submerged, “obfuscated” or separated from the public relations parts, and in favor of consistent attempts to distract the public from following the money — in very real terms OUR money where public institutions are involved or where we are forced to consume services from them without corresponding genuine need, or real benefits from the consumption.

… That playing both sides of a Good Cop, Bad Cop routine, will eventually be seen for what it is, as well as will the obvious ongoing intents to undermine country jurisdictions and dilute what civil/legal protections might be left in the United States with policies from other (particularly but not only) Commonwealth nations, some of which still have national religions, and many of which have far different structures.

… And that telling the truth in functional language and vocabulary — as opposed to dysfunctional, misleading and appropriated/proprietarily owned language — is the START of public benefit.

Even if the blog strategy here of getting most people (including those who still don’t see where they are stakeholders even if they are not personally involved in the courts) doesn’t succeed in my lifetime, my posting is at least an ongoing witness. Sure, it’s personal, but over time I continue to write and documented in such a way it can’t be brushed off as just a private opinion, or a “disgruntled” parent or litigant. You may disagree with my interpretation of the evidence, or its relevance, but you can’t explain it away into complete non-existence.  My evidence comes from on-line sources available for free to anyone with on-line connections and the basic skills and mentality (persistence being the main one!) to find them.

In general, regarding the family courts, and part of the claimed subject matter, reduction or prevention (or even “treatments”) of domestic violence and child abuse,  in addressing those matters, basic and important principles have been violated from the start (DECADES ago) — not a good foundation for anything labeled “for the kids,” which it has been — and then these basic principle violations are “baked into the system” — with further modifications never addressing the originally broken principles, but providing an appearance of responsiveness to new developments, or, naturally, more applications by demography (culturally) or geography (rural/urban).


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While creating a page for this purpose, I also took time to provide a 2018 re-statement on the blog’s purposes, and sample of how I’m presenting information to emphasize documentation over rhetoric, and to call out rhetoric where I see it in light of the financial backgrounds of involved parties, speakers, promoters, etc.

Creating this new page has taken over two weeks, and unearthed more background information on an organization I historically paid attention to and have been recently blogging. Some of this recently unearthed background puts one individual designer (now deceased, and not much information on-line about her) of a basic and mandated parenting education class associated with divorce actions as also having worked for a Northern California nonprofit “the Center for the Family in Transition” (in the 1980s!) and as quoted in Parental Kidnapping: A Form of Child Abuse.

I discovered this individual’s name in a book about the organization founded in the mid-1980s to push parenting education  (psychoeducational curriculum and classes, both parents pay the fees) designed to reduce parental alienation. Excerpts from that (published 2002 and revised in 2009) book are shown below on this page featuring all three of those curriculum designers, AND I have an (extended) section on each of three designers.

Again, this came up reviewing one well-known (in the field) sponsor of a conference.  One reason I chose this sponsor this time was the connection to that parenting education nonprofit; another was the individual family lawyer’s simultaneous involvement in an overseas membership organization ALSO listed as a sponsor of the conference.  The constant push to internationalize United States law, practices, and in effect, government (my concern — I live here!) should not be underestimated just because it’s happening incrementally, piecemeal, and over time.

It’s also happening, when it comes to the matter of children and families and who controls their futures, in a well-coordinated, organized, networked, and with long-term goals becoming progressively clearer over time fashion. “Yesterday” would have been a great time to address this, but we are at “Now,” so I say 2018 is the time to take the blinders off, deal with the glare, and stop exploitation of the public interest for private purposes, and profits.  For many, this supplements for YEARS afterwards, existing public pensions at the expense of the low-income families the same are continually saying they’re intending to and are helping.

So, this particular drill-down, below, further reveals organization of the family courts, and professionals’ habit of constantly quoting their colleagues without fully revealing the private connections, when proving a point, typically the point that yet more interventions are needed, especially services of more psychologists and psychiatrists in helping make custody determinations, and other points, such as that the courts are so overwhelmed that services should be consolidated and combined, or further outsourced.

LGH Sept2012 post Another POV on the Center for Family in Transition (excerpt)

One of my older (9/2012) sticky posts is a “drill-down” on several versions (registered entities under the name) of the same Center/entity. That post is a long read which has undergone several updates in other years. In it I talk both about the use of “Families in Transition” as jargon (applied to divorcing families and other situations, i.e., families who became homeless and are moving back into housing) and about the rotation of registered entities by that name, not just in California.

I also, for the “suppose I’m right here” (in nearby image) defined my “supposition” simply, in large letters inside two thick-bordered, prominent boxes on the post. It’s numbered: Suppose I’m right that (1) and (2) are …. (1), (2) & (added later) (3). Those are broadly summarized based on years of detailed readings and I believe a broad sample of cross-sector data.  You might want to glance at that supposition before getting into this post (the page-down or scroll function will be necessary to get past text on the various updates) as its an underlying foundation of this post and reflects my observations over time).   There are many corollaries IF that supposition is even close to true — although I think it’s right-on.  That post link and title:

Another POV on “The Center for the Family in Transition” (and its funders) (Publ. 9/22/2012)(WordPress- generated shortlink ends in “-190” which is all numbers, no alpha character for the “0” which otherwise would look like this:  “O”).

(I recommend not getting lost in its details, as I have plenty more here, January 2018, with illustrations, and over time, have gotten gradually better at the show-and-tell.  Not to mention several of the databases those linked to have changed since also).

There have been, however, several entities within California by similar names apparently somehow connected to the key personnel involved in this Center for the Family in Transition (from which Dorothy Huntington in the 1980s worked on a Child Abduction project) — with different EIN#s, charitable filings, and etc. Some are called the “Judith Wallerstein Center for the Family in Transition,” at least one other has since then changed its name and another dissolved itself, with the major contribution (of about $25,000) going to the Association for Family and Conciliation Courts, per the paperwork on file and uploaded at the California Office of Attorney General.  That’s hardly surprising given who was running it.

The image above, again, just a screenshot of my earlier post, comments on the circulating sets of organizations that it seems originally concocted, appropriated, and continually publish and reference this jargon (and, over time, other specific terms), and do so while organized to disseminate trainings, treatments, or prevention programming for whatever the declared problems are — such as revised family structures.  The problem here is centralized control organized privately, and internationally, for “R&D” application domestically, cross-jurisdiction, and forced upon the public with the public paying at least three times:  

#1.  supporting public institutions; #2.  tax-exemption is a privilege, but the public NOT operating, for the most part, tax-exempt, through government continually funds tax-exempt partners (contractors grantees, consultants, etc.) and #3.  We are then charged ‘fees for services’ with the fees often going to private contractors with the courts (as in “Kids’ Turn: A Safe & Sound Curriculum,” shown above – parent education).

#4. Sometimes those service inflict further financial harm by violating basic human nature to raise and protect one’s own offspring, to move if necessary to work in geographies and schedules best for preserving the rewards of work and work/life (parenting) balance, and through this, even the ability to plan for more than the immediate situation, for ANY future, not having control of the variables introduced through policies that can rapidly disrupt or destroy ANY family.

Now I see more recently that the term “Transitioning Families” (simply a new tweak of the same, OLD idea —  “Families in Transition” — as applied to (a specific) referring one (now dissolved) LLC (business/company) running “reunification camps” is being popularized through conferencing.  And (I looked) it was trademarked about a decade before the business formed up as a California LLC, briefly.  (That specific name appears on an image below also, among sponsors of recent AFCC conference. I don’t deal much with it here because I already have in at least two recent posts on the topic. Look for the word “reunification” or “Transitioning Families” under January, 2018 Archive, if you’re reading this after they’re not longer displayed in “most recent posts” section on the right sidebar).

The above recently-unearthed information** squarely connects the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts personnel and with effective obstacles (beyond that put, domestically, by the family law system itself!) placed in front of women with children who really do need to flee domestic, and as it pertains to international conventions or treaties.

**(from above, I’d said “Creating this new page has taken about two weeks, and unearthed more background information on an organization I historically paid attention to and have been recently blogging. “)

This individual Dorothy S. Huntington was quoted in a later (1999) article by Nancy Faulkner, PhD, on the same topic, — while Faulkner was testifying before the UN Commission on the Rights of the Child in special session, I believe, to deal with this topic. [That area is not my focus; I’m still mastering some of the terms, and the timeline of specific laws, here, and conventions/treaties internationally, although writing this blog it’s impossible not to become aware they exist].

One place this Nancy Faulkner article citing, near the beginning, prominently to Huntington is now posted is on a Canadian “CRC” page which looks like this.  Please notice that the framework is “Parental Alienation is Child Abuse” and the website describes itself as dedicated to the enforcement on the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child.

Canadian Website on Children’s Rights quoting Faulkner Testimony (underneath “Parental Alienation is Child Abuse” and showing where the article was first delivered

Excerpt from Faulkner article as posted at Canadian CRC website. Click image to enlarge).Notice she quotes Huntington, and later references to other AFCC leadership (Johnston, Wallerstein) in this context.  “Dr. Linda Girdner” (unknown to me, until I looked further) was director of the ABA Center on Children and the Law, but has also published alongside some of the AFCC professionals; there seems to be some alignment. Notice the title is “Dr.” not “…Esq.


Canadian Website on Children’s Rights, About Us” page with left sidebar links). I suggest also clicking on some of their UN Convention links to the left, while noticing that “Fatherless” is a key theme…





Who else is quoting Nancy Faulkner, and the scarcity of information on her, including PhD in WHAT, is a whole separate story.  I learned through continued searching and some help from the WayBack Machine (Internetarchive.org) that an organization “SOC-UM” (Safeguarding Our Children-United Mothers) was formed ca. 1994? by Deborah Mahoney, a (single) mother in Tracy California who was shocked to find her Lawrence-Livermore-Lab engineering neighbor had been arrested for molesting children, including her 12-year old son; with others involved in “NAMBLA.” [Some of this information only shows up in “WayBack Machine,” i.e., earlier versions of posts no longer here.  The drill-down is complicated and requires patience, and the websites are not professionally put together, though the story is compelling. If you can’t wait until I post on this and want some links before then, submit a comment… But I will say that Faulkner’s over-riding concern seems to have been preventing not just child abuse, but particularly child sexual abuse, “Pandora’s box.” On the surface, she would not seem a good match for the many “fathers’ rights” organization prone to referencing her famous 1999 piece.]

How she met Nancy Faulkner, whose “C.V.” only as of 1993 I did find (it was not traditionally, or academically formatted, yet it did say, PhD in Developmental Psychology from Indiana State University), I don’t know.  SOC-UM doesn’t appear to have become a California entity (business or nonprofit) despite calling itself one.  Likewise, the organization P.A.R.E.N.T., referenced with Faulkner’s paper, I have yet to find (=/= it can’t be found, but how odd that a paper so well circulated — particularly among fathers’ rights groups on the net — doesn’t better define it or lay down a few clues — like what the acronym stands for, or, in fact, anything).

Nancy Faulkner, in turn, writing in 1999 quotes an earlier Dorothy Huntington who wrote in the early 1980s.

(Source url shown on image). See footnotes.

I only found about the Faulkner/Mahoney connection and ‘SOC-UM” from an (expired, but then I searched the newer version) url in a footnote from an ABA article also referencing the 1999 Faulkner piece.  Amazing how a single article, if quoted enough, will outlast other information about its author on-line. I also found it odd that an ABA article would use a consumer mental health marketplace url to reference Faulkner.  (See nearby image).

I also found Faulkner (same article) quoted on a site labeled “ICareFoundation” (which wasn’t a foundation) (apparently a 2012 post) by Peter Thomas Senese, who got arrested and sentenced to three years in prison (!) for preying on parents with abducted children, falsely claiming he had a foundation, and charging parents thousands of dollars to get their children back.  It didn’t take long to perceive (broken links and lack of geography helped) that ICareFoundation probably was no legitimate foundation (I run a series of standard checks in looking for this, not to mention the series of broken links), but only searching the individual’s name came up with this 2017 release by the USDOJ (link in this paragraph) that the guy had been caught.   The prosecution was in Southern District New York.  And he was citing to Nancy Faulkner in 2012.

(USDOJ Press 2017 Press Release found here or click (both) images to enlarge.

(see previous image for link, click this one to enlarge for comments).

Strange….I’ll try and post the “Faulkner and who quotes her” information separately; it does have its own lessons on what types of details to pay attention to FIRST when reading an organization claiming to be a nonprofit, and soliciting donations because of it. It’s a very interesting situation, because her background doesn’t seem to have much to do with the parental alienation promoters, and particularly when someone with such a sketchy academic background, and in the name of a scarcely-there organization, actually two of them, ends up testifying in front of an international UN Convention in 1999.

Additionally, I’ve already moved most of my other discussion on Parental Abducting and the Hague / UN (international) conventions context to a subsidiary page** (making this a “parent page,” the second one from this post so far), but I’ve summarized it here with an image and some points of reference under a “Personal Relevance” section because  parental child-stealing event, after separation from abuse through legal intervention and in the context of a family law case, has had so much to do with why I eventually felt it necessary to produce this blog, and to continue year after year posting information that lawyers, experts, advocates, and others, for the most part, simply refuse to, although it’s obvious they reasonably know.

Although one can see in hindsight, most were aware of it, something I’ve seen in feminist legal circles, not just in the family court reform coalitions which formed up later.  ** That subsidiary page is:

#These people, organizations and the organization’s websites historically and now, simply chose not to broadcast or publicize the information as in any way relevant to ongoing problems within the family law system, which they sought to adjust, reform, and improve through publications, trainings, training up new generations of lawyers in how to think about the problem and what would best help solve it (i.e. DIScouraging critical thinking) while collectively controlling as much of that field as possible.

Part of my own family history included a child-stealing event on a court-ordered overnight visitation many years ago, involving two children I had lived with and raised since they were born.  The basis for this having turned from a felony crime (which it is in California) to a financial boon for my in-arrears ex-batterer even though he immediately sought to completely eliminate my contact, visitation, and eventually, even phone calls to our minor children without any court order doing so (i.e., no protective order, no termination of parental rights — there was no basis for doing so).  I was falsely labeled an abduction risk, a ludicrous charge, thus a local family court system (organized in a metro area of nine counties including San Francisco) effectively altered the consequences of crime from penalty and dis-incentivizing, to reward, and encouraging it.

But that pales in comparison to what type of financial boon it is for “ancillary services” that can be court-ordered to help parents get along better.

So, as mentioned above, I have an “offspring” or subsidiary page to discuss the local coordinated network situation as it intersects with my personal case (now about a dozen years post-child-stealing event), but this section introduces it:

PERSONAL RELEVANCE / MY SITUATION (as to the unprosecuted Child-Stealing event subsequently steered back to family law venue)

I was the “left-behind,” not the abducting parent —  we exist; we are not always making headlines (less so the older any child is) but courts tracking runaway kids after they are ordered out of their mothers’ lives still are, and reunification programs for them are being actively promoted by AFCC membership, as I have posted recently.  I remember reading the Faulkner article at the time and (apparently, mistakenly) believing it might be considered relevant and helpful to this case in the subsequent family court hearings, to something I’d just witnessed involving my own children.  At the time, however, I was not aware and awake to the organizations and federal grants behind the innate conflicts between the family law system and the criminal (penal code) law.

Compounding my sense of distress, alarm, and fear at the time, itself a shock delivered during a time of escalating harassments and even HIS (not my!) threats to kidnap, was a sense of confusion and betrayal witnessing the conflict between public declared positions on domestic violence by prominent anti-DV groups and professionals in this area with the courts, law enforcement, and involved family court professionals’ experience of it post-child-stealing event by ex-batterer…and the refusal of prior interested DV nonprofits to lift a finger, or explain why they wouldn’t.

I sensed, saw, felt this within the courts, in our case earlier years also, particularly each time I talked (separately, because of the prior domestic violence restraining order) to a court-appointed mediator, but personally witnessing the legal, judicial, and law enforcement basic NON-response to a child abduction left “credibility” to the system nowhere to hide — without adequately explaining WHY even have such extensive operations (family courts, district attorneys and what seemed like dozens of nonprofit advocacy groups in the immediate area claiming concern about domestic violence, experts (as if we dealing personally with it weren’t good enough witnesses…), writers, lawyers, and politically active women, in particular, often quoted after each new related headline involving blood (of the “it bleeds, it leads…” and domestic violence-involved) when such an easy task (from law enforcement perspective, in our case) in preventing abduction, prevention was just bypassed.

It seems that the officers in two neighboring counties already had some prior practice in dismissing mothers’ complaints and concerns. 

To see the individual results progressively over time doesn’t explain the motivation, the incentives, or how and why might such behaviors be showing up in the public institutions. …Let alone that the motive …. but systemically just might be money,** and that it might be coordinated beyond the local level, or that private associations had already set up camp in public office within the State, and were working to coordinate this not just statewide or nationwide, but internationally, too, and that for this purpose, “Family Law” suits them just fine.

  • ** not just for a father who’d previously maintained control through a combination of battering AND economic coercion AND threats (i.e., classic “domestic violence”) while we were together..
  • and, as it developed, for other family members who stood to profit by discrediting me and helping bring on further chaos around these events.  Both these could be labeled “individuals” or “extended family” involvement — but that still doesn’t explain why the courts, law enforcement, and judiciary rule as they do when faced with identified criminal behavior.

especially as this had occurred in the politically progressive San Francisco Bay Area, home to a major player in the Violence Against Women Act passage (Futures without Violence, current name), and to one of the early “Family Justice Centers” also featuring its protective function, and an area long home to well-known domestic violence experts such as UCBerkeley “Lecturer in Domestic Violence Law/Director of [DV] Practicum” Nancy K.D. Lemon <==CV) who, literally, helped write the early DV curriculum, casebooks  — and, notably, existing (California) penal code criminalizing child-stealing by one parent EXCEPT with provisions for if that parent had been a victim of domestic violence. (I found the law after the event, not before…)…

What I’m saying above is somehow, the concept of “progressives” having women’s interests in place still held some water in my thinking, especially having come out of a battering relationship in the framework of traditional religious, patriarchal, and as such, “conservative” gender-based values, not that this was my personal background religiously or as shown in prior work or education (i.e. college).

C.V. for Nancy KD Lemon from law.berkeley.edu

**** Ms. Lemon passed the California Bar in 1980 (UCBerkeley Boalt Hall), as you can see, has been employed at UCBerkeley in this field since 1988; has a BA from UCSanta Cruz in Women’s Studies (a major she helped create) and helped create the nation’s first domestic violence law curriculum, while also working with a battered women’s groups, and over time, many well-known organizations in the field (Family Violence Education Fund, now Futures without Violence; California Partnership to End Domestic Violence, the Family Violence Law Center (before it was incorporated into the Alameda County Family Justice Center ca. 2005); Battered Women’s Justice Project (before it “came out” ca. Sept. 2011 or 2013, as its own entity, spun off from Duluth, MN’s “Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs” formed in 1980); Lemon has been published alongside Joan Zorza (of DVLeap), Legal Momentum, and many others.  Including the NCJFCJ, which is both a membership (focused on juvenile and family court judges) and a charitable organization formed (per main org’s tax returns) in 1975 in Nevada. See that link to CV near image or above (same link) with attention to years, organizations, and co-authors or editors.

Few women in the situations these laws address are privileged with such a steady platform and work life from which to speak about it — but still, that doesn’t excuse speaking FOR us without telling the whole, known truth about the field — all relevant parts of it.

Then (meanwhile) within the family court circles, we continue hear about limited resources, the need to outsource more services, the need to turn the digital (it comes up in this page if you’re still unaware), and, it seems endlessly, what to do about “difficult” (high-conflict) parents — what more programs can be ordered?   In practice, this goes beyond, speaking figuratively, “ambulance-chasing” (or, for general concept, NOT specific application, see Ambulance-Chasing Attorneys exposed for illegally soliticing clients, 8/24/2016 from WXYZ Detroit/ABC7 News) to, metaphorically staging the accidents, complaining about them, then soliciting more services (tax burden) or reduction of existing services, to handle the custody catastrophes, while, in solicitations for more programming, blaming it on the both drivers (parents) in a given “accident,” then, separately, ruling at times as if only one was the real cause.

On this Page

You will see on this page, and on a typical post, images from websites (often annotated extensively), excerpts from tax returns, tables of tax returns, quotations, and my comments and questions on the same.  The statements on this page include “show and tell” regarding, for example, the incorporation of “fatherhood” promotion as a key, and state-level feature of child abuse prevention (within California), references to Children’s Trust Funds (involved in this) and featuring the most recent annual conference brochure from the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts.

These situations continue to “morph” and evolve, as they are intended to, over time — and to expand.  They affect governmental policy at the federal, state, metro-regional, and individual county levels as they have for years.  They involve partnerships, understandings (written or unwritten) and movement of funds between and among the private for-profit sector, the private NOT-for-profit (i.e., tax-exempt, and for which, often though not always, donations to that sector also represent tax-deduction for the donors) with provision of government services — blending social services with family court services.

You will be able to see, clearly I believe how private associations organize and network to constantly promote their colleagues products and services, which products (as a byproduct of services) can and are force-fed to the public whenever and wherever a family court judge, or administrative judge with authority to set local rules (etc.) mandates individuals approaching the court for remedies to consume curricula which may not even originate within the state — or even within the country!  While sold as “in the public welfare” under conditions pretty close to extortion given the other options available, and using public funds in public institutions to promote practices that the FEW wish ALL to consent to, or be forced to consent to.

How this happens is fascinating, but it is also basic information I think ALL people should be aware of:

~ It relates to how much freedom, privacy, choice, and ability to exercise personal judgment and initiative exists now.

~ It relates also to people not exercising personal choice to engage basic life activities involving human reproduction (i.e., having kids!) themselves, their partners/spouses (staying or leaving them), their children, and what role individuals may be able to continue playing in their children’s lives before they become adults.

~ It also relates to where on the spectrum criminal behavior by individuals towards others they are related to (by marriage, parenthood, or by blood) is categorized within law.

If I’d seen more coherent and substantial writing on these matters over the years, I might have backed off some on personal energies put into this blog.  But I haven’t.  Reporting and teaching on these subjects has been sporadic, and it has been more often journalistic style, or soliciting memberships or donations to some advocacy group — or individual “stories” to tell justifying the cause.  Reporting on the problems surrounding “Family Court Matters,” issues such as divorce, child support, visitation, and high-lethality, dangerous scenarios around domestic violence and child abuse (including child sexual abuse) — which even references that private enterprise entrenched in the courts and social service systems might even BE the problem (and names specifics in such a way they might be recognized in other settings) still goes through phases and investigations often stops short of showing how the elements of networked organizations connect, or what are primary vehicles (structures) by which they do so.  I not only stay on it, but also report obvious (if one pays attention) practices of putting roadblocks into obtaining information on participating private enterprise within those court, i.e., disconnecting the dots on the money trail.

If that assessment is wrong, then show me someone else who, as a routine, expects others, average people, to identify and follow through on the tax returns of court-connected corporations, pay attention to their evolution in status, name, and size over time, notice when they’re habitually delinquent, call out (publish in posts like this one) falsehoods agreed upon among those operating or referring business (such as establishing systems, dockets or even separate “courts” which by design can steer more cases) to them, apparently, in sponsored conferences such as the one featured below.

Or show me who provides an alternate narrative accounting for the elements missing in the typical ones — but a narrative well-documented from what’s available to someone of my status, i.e., someone able to do the drill-downs, but without academic institutional connections or access to the range of on-line journals that might provide (except where these have been voluntarily made available, such as through “digitalcommons” and otherwise) discussing the fate of “commoners” i.e., those who are deliberately excluded from such exchanges, roundtables, councils, and so forth. I.e., someone not currently a professor, professor emeritus, graduate student, or even college student.  I went to college first, established a work and professional life in the field, THEN married and had children later; and I wasn’t working in academia.  I don’t remember ever having been interested in doing so, either.

We must have the stomach for the details and a willingness to look at numbers as relevant, labels as critical, and to where appropriate challenge arguments presented by those with a trail of degrees (or just one or two major ones:  PhD, J.D.) behind their names (which sometimes turn out to be just certifications, trainings they’ve sat through; other times, they are without question from Ivy League, well-respected institutions) not based on our social position, but based on the merits (logic) of the argument.

Having a decade or more of publications and/or recommendations from friends and colleagues is obviously an achievement, BUT this has to also be considered in light of who were the sponsors (including government grants from HHS, USDOJ, etc.), and how many of the recommendations and mutual cites are from private societies or associations the speakers/writers have joined to promote mutual business interests. And THAT can’t be known without looking.

Again, this page, and its shortlink: LGH Top Picks, Themes, Tables of Contents, and Why My Gravatar is a Blue Jay taking Flight. (New Jan. 11, 2018) (the link becomes “short” only after page is published).

What inspired me to reformat home page/s of the blog: I published a substantial (12,000 word, multi-topic) post recently and, reviewing the main “familycourtmatters.org” website realized how far down (inaccessible except through the sidebar “The Last 10 Posts” widget) it was, despite condensing the lead-in (before the “Read More…” links)  to the top ten “sticky” (meaning permanently stuck to top of the blog, pushing down all current writing beneath them) posts.  That’s a lot of work for my writing only to have it posted visually so far down on the main page of the blog. I feel makes readers work too hard to get to current writing.  The top ten posts are more for people new to the blog who may not otherwise see why I’m researching topics as I do, a sort of “consciousness-raising” introduction. It takes some time (exposure) to understand where I’m coming from, and keeping the introductory material constantly near the top, “in your face” for existing followers isn’t really fair.

Technically, on the WordPress platform, it seems there may be an alternative way to keep the introduction, top ten posts (including that Table of Contents, actually spread over more than one table), but not obscure current writing so far down on the main page.  Being just one person and a self-taught blogger (technically), I hadn’t seen it earlier, or didn’t see how this might be viable. WordPress instructions require picking one static and one changing page, the latter one I gather for the parade of posts, month after month (in reverse chronological order). In creating the “static” page I developed it and restated some key themes. a.k.a., spoke about what’s on my mind as of January, 2018.

So on this page, look for several different sections. One talks significant content (and will be continued in 2018 as a focus), another talks about the gravatar’s symbolism (for me), and another will be those formerly sticky “top ten” posts. Until I’m done writing, I don’t know in which order the sections will be. But I will number them.

(1) About my most recent post, a recent and ongoing theme:

Jumping through Hoops and Chasing One’s Tail, that is, if Conceptual Clarity on “CACs” ~>And Navigating The Money Mazes Set up By Them~> is the Goal. (This Example: Calico Center (San Leandro, CA) payees).  (Shortlink ending “-8ln” with the middle digit a lower-case “L” as in “l.”) Published 1/8/2018, about 12,600 words.

Besides the topic on its title, the post also contains — to juxtapose with the CAC Child Advocacy Center organized under a 1992-formed 501©3 with entity address, Washington, D.C., but legal domicile ALABAMA, the National Children’s Alliance, Inc. topics — a major section on: Reunification Camps (recent publications and news coverage, in part from an interview with several children campers now turned adults); the obvious AFCC connections and common rhetoric, affiliations among camp founders or “clinicians” promoting this type of intervention to counter “parental alienation; and some extended footnotes with images on the self-described background, inspiration and mentors ( the late Richard Gardner & UT-Dallas Professor and significant psychology textbook author over the decaces, John Santrock) of well-known fathers’ rights publisher Richard A. Warshak who advertises or runs one such camp (Family Bridges) and who since the 1970s has been talking parental alienation).

(See annotations on the image, it’s an excerpt from John Santrock (UTx-Dallas, mentored Warshak) ~ CV Images (but, see complete 15pg pdf also for greater scope)


Among the editors or publishers of books or articles (i.e., chapters in books) co-written with Santrock & Warshak (both operating primarily — excluding any conference circuits — for employment out of Texas universities, decade after decade…), which I found by simply looking at Santrock’s C.V. posted on his faculty profile page,  was one Carolyn Pape Cowan, which brought up the topic of “Strengthening Father Involvement (“SFI”) studies run through family resource centers, featured on a website “CEBC” which is operated, so it says, in part by the California OCAP (Office of Child Abuse Prevention).

“Strategies” has 3 regional offices of which ICFS is one I see. The other two are directly funded, per budget, by the State OCAP. The contact under “Strengthening Father Involvement” (per CEBC as I recall) training manual (see my 1/8/2018 post for exact details) was Danny Molina at Interface Family Services (middle regional office, above). “Strategies” appears to be a project, not a nonprofit, then…Notice the promotion, it says, is in BOTH “public and nonprofit” sectors.. The other two offices (one, Children’s Bureau, would seem to be a part of government, the other (I checked) is, like ICFS,  a nonprofit) and featured prominently on the Children’s Trust Fund budget (allocated funds).

The Children’s Trust Funds in different states have been running “father-friendly” programming for many years, and appear to also have their own nonprofit organization/association too. (Searchable on-line).

The “CEBC Clearinghouse” where “EB” stands for “Evidence-Based,” run by Calif’s OCAP (formed in 1977s) which also administers the State Children’s Trust Fund (formed in 1983) – showing SFI (which, on the website site, shows both the Pruett’s (Marsha Kline Pruett was 2017 President of AFCC) and Cowans involvemt” (in six images…)

CEBC oversight and funding lists a State Department (DSS), Division (Child and Family Services) and an Office (Of Child Abuse Prevention). OCAP apparently considers “Strengthening Father Involvement” and funding the programming run by Carolyn Pape Cowan (and her husband Philip), Marsha Kline Pruett (also AFCC-member and leadership over the years) and her husband Kyle, collectively representing: UCBerkeley, Yale and Smith (i.e., East and West coast powerhouse universities, only one of them public) to be part of “Child Abuse Prevention.”



The OCAP started in the 1970s also administers the Children’s Trust (for California, established as a separate fund in the state treasury (!)) in 1983. See that post, footnotes… and acknowledge that at the state, not just federal level, “father promotion” has been promoted AND funded for years — parallel to “women’s rights” and “domestic violence advocacy/family violence prevention” groups also.  And that the selling points for fathers’ rights are often labeled instead “family” or the “child protection” and citing (when it comes to evidence) often to the social science fields.


In this world view, judging by government policy (also matching AFCC values, and the domestic violence coalitions’ “coordinated community response” policies INCLUDING “Family Justice Centers** modeled on “Child Advocacy Centers or CACs) going along with this year after year) one of the most dangerous relationships on the planet  is between a mother and her own biological children not submitting to abuse of herself and/or them, or such a mother without a resident or non-resident adult male as supposed controlling, mitigating factor — if all males not cohabiting with the mothers of their children are trained “properly” in small-group facilitated, culturally-sensitive, psycho-educational classes — ideally with continued mentoring afterwards —  for this purpose which should saturate social services sector nationwide..and if possible, prisons, too (see “Re-entry services”)..

Such mothers evidently cause “family conflict” — and “family conflict” is almost always “bad” — harmony, no matter the cost, in this worldview, is almost always “good.” Just ask this association, which brings up the next section:

(2) Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, Inc.

AFCC has many creative ways of “resolving” their proclaimed major social scourge and danger to children — family conflict — besides out-of-state (or the country) mandatory reunification camps. The two major topics on my recent post are connected and inter-related through a specific nonprofit associated historically with AFCC membership (including judges) and as merged (in just 2014 after many years of operation countering parental alienation through court-ordered parent education; a San Diego version of that nonprofit still exists and recently raised its prices, starting March 2018, to $400/parent/class…) into a local “Child Abuse Prevention Center” (SFCAPC) which last September, 2017, has now changed its business name to “Safe & Sound.”  (See that 12,600-word post for more details).

Reading material, the rhetoric, the publications put out year after year (which I have done as it relates so closely to the topic of this blog, the family courts…) I get a sense of members’ collective beliefs that the world would be a better place if only it looked more like a very traditional elementary school classroom, run by themselves, or with themselves as teacher’s pets — not responsible ultimately, but with delegated power to pick winners and losers according to the rules that don’t apply outside the classroom, or in the rest of the world, or in any free or democratic society.

Look at the title of last spring’s annual conference, held in Boston, viewed from the organization web page:

“Turning the Kaleidoscope of Family Conflict into a Prism of Harmony (AFCC 54th Conference). Brochure link shown reveals conference sponsors (Platinum, Gold, etc.) and Collaborators..

The intense longing for such a realm doesn’t bother me.  I don’t grudge people their (infantile) fantasies… but the attempt to act out on them and force the rest of us into playing along — and subsidizing it — does.  It’s a major social hazard.

AFCC’s decades-long collective strategizing to flex, bend, or eradicate existing legal definitions and protections for individual citizens under their own state laws and/or the U.S. Constitution (or at least our perceived such protections and definitions — for example of what is and is not criminal behavior) to satisfy this [infantile] desire for importance, for the world-as-our-classroom in which they play a “presiding authorities” part, and the means to do so themselves, no matter the cost, is, in my opinion, “sick.”  It’s neither moral, ethical, beneficial overall, nor in the public interest.  It’s in the private interest of the few with intent to influence the many outside government itself, but with many members involved IN government in positions of authority and influence.

When government institutions didn’t provide a normal venue to act out such desire to dominate, lead, transform, and dictate standards for interpersonal relationships, the system of conciliation and family courts was created to accommodate that desire.

A few pages from the 2017 AFCC conference brochure — that already took place last summer (starting May 31) in Boston — gives clues to sponsors.  I annotated them heavily… Especially note, please, sponsoring organizations (or in one or two cases, projects, which is a misnomer.  Projects don’t sponsor — organizations do…) and collaborating organizations.  A more detailed review of this material and some of the presenters’ affiliations is appropriate, but won’t occur on this page.  Enough is included for a representative sample, after which I “drill down” specifically on a San Francisco-based family foundation, which occupies a significant part of this page.

(Click image to enlarge, or just keep reading; same image & annotations, but larger, show up below on this post). FYI here, see top line, “Diamond Sponsor” for the immediate context.

AFCC 54th (2017, Boston) Conference – Turning Kaledioscope of Family Conflict into a Prism of Harmony (brochure, printed to pdf Jan 10 2018, 32 pp) Note Sponsors, Collaborators (<== multi-page, pdf format, the whole brochure. Viewers may need to click a second time, on the blank page icon, to load/view it).

The next four images, and a quote or two, refer to the highest-paying sponsor listed on page 4 of the AFCC 2017 54th Annual Conference brochure (see miniature annotated image to left; larger display of the same one forthcoming below, soon), called “OurFamilyWizard.com”

A case in the Kentucky Court of Appeals challenging the right to mandate subscription to OurFamilyWizard in the context of divorce and custody action was lost. It could be mandated. This, of course, is key to any software connecting to the family court-mandated referral. Jai Kissoon is son of family lawyer in MN (Kathleen Kissoon; her husband? Deomarine also on there). In addition, what looks like a father-daughter combo is on board (Paul Volcker, co-founder being the father). They have been working the conference circuit, and focused on “high-conflict” divorces for many years now, with substantial success, which may account for it also quickly going so “global.”

Technically speaking, products such as a digital platform can’t sponsor — the real sponsor was the company whose product it is — currently “Avirat, Inc.” a Minnesota corporation; OFW is its product.  “Oh well…”

Our Family Wizard Lessens Parenting Disputes by Matt Havrevold (link leads to full article, or see KCBA newsletter here.

Kings County Bar Association, July 15 has a half-page promo for Our Family Wizard, referencing the Telek 2010 decision and citing a California judge that ordered parents communicate exclusively through “OFW” and barring email or phone communications.  Wow.. Here’s an excerpt (image) and the beginning (following quote).  Note that the inclusion of domestic violence cases into family courts exacerbated a need for protected communications, while effectively blaming both parents on “communication problems.”

Getting the DV cases OUT of family court jurisdiction remains continually off the table, thereby creating a continual income stream for “high-conflict parents” and associated custody evaluators, etc.:

Our Family Wizard Lessens Parenting Disputes by Matt Havrevold

For co-parents who are prone to conflict, long email exchanges and vague text messages often create ambi- guity or miscommunication, and make admissible records difficult for counsel to compile. [[Allegedly]] As a result, courts routinely order parent communication on the OurFamilyWizard (OFW) website in cases spanning all 50 states, Washington, D.C., and five Canadian provinces. OFW is even ordered in domestic violence cases to keep parents informed while reducing opportunities for coercive control and harassment.

In other words, the “conciliation/reconciliation/ treat the whole family” associations want to have their cake (control of cases involving criminal and dangerous behavior by at least one parent, and sometimes only one) and eat it too.  Not mentioned here (but on the website it’s clear) — OFW has an affiliate program advertising 25% commission (so who gets the markup then? … Parents) and professionals get bulk discounts.

Meanwhile, quoting again from the start of the King County Bar Association (Washington State, includes Seattle I believe) 2015 newsletter:

Lower courts’ orders for communication with OFW are regularly up- held. In a sealed 2011 opinion, Hon. Carolyn Tornetta Carluccio of Montgomery County, Pa., wrote:

(Our)FamilyWizard is utilized by courts in cases involving litigious parents whose credibility is lacking and who are unable to communicate with each other.

This judge (elected) judge was only sworn in on January 2010 at which time she’d had plenty of experience — but none in family law.  However, her uncle was judge in the same county. (I’ve off-ramped more of this discussion to a separate post and will show there.  Title with link also shown in the blue-green background section below).

Notice, in the “sealed order 2011” quote above (re: Our Family Wizard), the attribution of “unable to communicate” is credited, collectively, to both parents. According to this position, and as described in the generic here, BOTH parents are at fault.  Believe it or not, when two are involved, they are not always BOTH engaged in lying, harassing, or intimidating behavior, or inability to communicate, or in contempt of court orders (or the penal code).  However, in this case, it does not “take two to Tango” — it only takes one, to justify calling in the (so-called) peacemakers — who will then, typically, attempt to treat both parents, the children, or ideally the entire family, referring business to longstanding friends and colleagues, the “flora and fauna” of the family courts and “community-based resources” organized around them to, allegedly, de-clutter the courts. Charging fees all along the way.

Notice reference to “high-conflict.” I believe this is from a “Mediate.com” feature.

(Click Image to Enlarge) pg 4 from conf. brochure, with annotations. Board Members outside the USA marked with blue rectangles. Comment at lower-left refers to affiliations with some of those mentioned to reunification provider in “2008, MA, 2011 California” Overcoming Barriers, Inc. (which ran a Pre-Conference Workshop #1 here).

Our Family Wizard is owned by Avirat, Inc., was started in 2001, and has now offices in Minnesota and in London.

In 2016 and 2017, what’s more, two other companies with the key name “Avirat” (one of them at same street address as Avirat, Inc.) were formed, all of these for-profit.

Not further details on this page except for the above four images and two short quotes.

Separate post forthcoming on OUR FAMILY WIZARD(™) soon. The post title below describes my general impressions — The rapid promotion of this electronic platform again raises the main issue of why are DV cases being handled, year after year, within family court system in the first place? Obviously it’s not working…. and having a trademarked platform that the judges can mandate parents to use (while forbidding them to communicate in any other manner — and this has already happened) to “manage” the high-conflict, like sealing records and gag orders raises serious basic human rights for both mothers and fathers in an ongoing, widening networked landscape.

So I called it like I see it in the title, but will, as usual, provide supporting evidence. Showing up here, however, it’s as the (mislabeled — programs don’t sponsor; organizations DO) sole top-level / “Diamond” sponsor of yet another AFCC conference….

A(nother) RICO Case? Rapid Proliferation, International Expansion of Avirat, Inc.’s OurFamilyWizard® Exposes New Levels of Existing Private Enterprise Entrenched and Innate to the Family Law: Bar Associations, Courts, Judicial Trainings, and Various Nonprofits, starting with the AFCC. (Started  Jan. 14, 2018, case-sensitive shortlink ends “-8pp”)

Subtitle:Avirat’s Financial Success (2001ff) built and still relies for promotion upon Family Court Judges Mandating Parents to Subscribe, and Continued Jurisdiction over Domestic Violence, so-called “High-Conflict” Divorce, Custody and Child Support cases.

Avirat, Inc. incorporated only in 2001, but now lists offices in Minnesota and London, while at least one other privately controlled corporation by the same basic name (and at same address) dealing with “Global” registered recently 2016/2017 in Minnesota, per its Business Entity Search details.


Pre-Conference Institute features (without mentioning the nonprofit’s name) founders of Overcoming Barriers. Interesting situation as its Calif. 2011 registration papers say that for three years (2008-09-2010) another entity Common Ground Center (camp in Vermont) was its fiscal agent. Founders of the Vermont Campground come from a family incl. investment broker father (Ira Lebeck Mendell) and a sister who married the famous Whitewater prosecutor Kenneth Star (ALSO FORMER pres. of Baylor Univ. in Texas, Alice M. Starr somewhere in the process converted to Christianity). Steady contributions to Common Ground Center  flow from The Mendell Family Fund (which, after the father Ira L. Mendell died, was run three siblings:  Thomas G. Mendell (Goldman Sachs broker), James Mendell (with partner Peg Kamens, running this Vermont Campground, also Hogback Heaven Farms and Bristol Developmt, LLC in the area), and Alice M. Starr. Fascinating, but while the website to Common Grounds acknowledges Overcoming Barriers, none of the Form 990PFs particularly reference any funding to it, nor is the 2013 camp run there mentioned by name in the 2013 990PF..Not a major operation..QUESTION: Why would the well-known family court professionals (Peggy Ward, Robin Deutsch, Matthew Sullivan, and Ret’d Fam. Court Commissioner from SF, Majorie Slabach, (and, presenting here, Barbara Jo Fidler, also on board (of only three women, per its website) of Canadian reunification camp “Families Moving Forward Together,”), i.e, AFCC members from MA and CA (both states in which AFCC has an ongoing presence over the years), and CANADA (?/Fidler) opt to operate Overcoming Barriers “under the radar” and then relocate to California when finally deciding to register their outfit? Then (eventually) hire Exec. Director Mr. Donald Fann, with a background (per his resume — I added a link to this image) with post-undergraduate residencies in Esalen (Big Sur, CA), late 1970s, mid-1980s, ties to some Family Resource Association in NJ, but with a Florida contact address??

Next subsection led to the material introduced at top of this page: A book featuring a nonprofit associated with and (long-term) supported by the next foundation, also shown above as an AFCC 2017 conference sponsor, identified three curriculum designers. I sample each of their work in turn, as well as that of another individual referenced as involved, although not as having helped design the curriculum.

The Susie S. Thorn Family Foundation, (The fourth of four “Gold” Sponsors listed above) a private foundation (files 990PF) of moderate/small size (EIN# 943249680) and its relationship to Kid’s Turn (SF) came up many years ago, in part because Kids Turn was being run out of the same street address (building) as Ms. Thorn’s law practice (Schapiro-Thorn, Inc.) and the foundation (as annotated on image above).  The foundation isn’t that large, but as far back as 2001 it was regularly donating (minor amounts) to both AFCC and Kid’s Turn (and most years claiming “no relation” to Donee in both cases; I did see one where “Board Member” was acknowledged).

I learned then also that Ms. Thorn was involved overseas with the “ICCFR” (International Commission on Couples and Family Relations) you can see among the several AFCC conference “Collaborating Organizations” above.  Unfortunately, neither Sponsors nor Collaborators are listed with their countries, or if in the US, home states. ICCFR’s seems to be England and/or Wales, but I notice its next (2018) conference is in Malta.

The family foundation was on the 5th floor and Kid’s Turn on the 4th floor of a building which (as I recall) at some point was owned by the law firm or the Thorn family, at 1242 Market Street in SF.

In 2001, Susie Thorn donated $100K and two others, smaller amounts to [her family] foundation, which then granted out $43K. Year after year (until two of the donee organizations merged out into other ones), grants to, typically listed first, “Kid’s Turn” (in SF), “AFCC” (at a slightly different street address in Madison, Wisconsin), and “BASF DV Project” which I see is some version of one or another “Bar Association of San Francisco” foundation (exploring the various names, mergers, and relationships took some time.  For example, the former “Volunteer Legal Services Program” became “Justice and Diversity Center of the Bar Association of San Francisco) — while, at least currently, domestic violence hardly seems a priority as to committees, task forces, or even events/presentations over a the BASF.

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The Suzie S. Thorn Family Foundation CA 2015 990PF 19 $661,872.00 94-3249680
The Suzie S. Thorn Family Foundation CA 2014 990PF 24 $697,160.00 94-3249680
The Suzie S. Thorn Family Foundation CA 2013 990PF 24 $656,840.00 94-3249680

Another consistent grantee was “International Commission on Couples and Family Relationships,” a UK charity which has a trust on which Suzie S. Thorn continues to sit (at least the photo hasn’t changed for years).  It is having its 2018 conference in MALTA. ICCFR also recognized the 2017 recent AFCC Conference in Boston on its website.

ICCFR Feb 7-9, 2018 Malta Conf. announced (their website)

ICCFR has a trust, Suzie Thorn (SF lawyer, building hosted “Kids Turn” formed 1987, since 1992, KT merged into SFCAPC in 2014, which then changed its name in Sept. 2017 to “Safe & Sound”) has been on it for years

For the record (from NationsOnline/oneworld.org/malta.htm), Malta is about 50 miles south of Sicily, and is one of the most densely populated countries of the world (see “small size”).  Main religion, Roman Catholicism. What a nice tourist destination for such a conference.

The island-state of Malta is located in the Mediterranean Sea, south of Sicily (Italy), it consists of three islands: Malta, Gozo and Comino, of which Malta is the largest island. In its history the Maltese archipelago was strategically important for the domination of the Mediterranean. Malta became an EU member in May of 2004.

Great Britain formally acquired possession of Malta in the early 19th century. The island supported the UK through both World Wars and remained in the Commonwealth when it became independent in 1964. On 13 December 1974 Malta became a republic. Over the last 15 years, the island has become a major freight transshipment point, a financial center, and a popular tourist destination.
(Various Sources)  related countries: United Kingdom

Claire Barnes (MyFavoriteTeacherSF.com) talking about her 13 yrs as Exec Director of “Kids Turn” (while volunteering on board of a family foundation regularly donating to it, small amounts, but over time, every single year…)

I should also mention the consistent presence along with just a few others (Jim Thorn, Barney Whitehall, Barbara Burghardt, maybe a few others occasionally) of a “Claire Barnes on the board (volunteer) of the Suzie S. Thorn Family Foundation and Ms. Barnes’ current websiteMyFavoriteTeacherSF.com” (<==representative organizations where she trained or was lead trainer; check out the list…) says she was for  13 years Executive Director of Kids Turn.

The blog with a home-made look makes it clear how committed she’s been to taking Kid’s Turn international, and (with S. Thorn, who’s been on its “trust” for many years, acc. to the website) activity on the British charity (which also received regular though small donations from this family foundation) the “ICCFR” – International Commission on Couples and Family Relationships.  Barnes’ background and degrees are in Education (from where not shown) and she now has a 2016 book out “I’m still your Grandma…Grandpa.”  And, for those who maybe read my post mentioning Kids Turn partnering with a UK charity, to run its anti-parental alienation curriculum/curricula,  “Relate,” I see that Claire Barnes is also a board member there. Don’t underestimate THAT network either.  Searchable here (second step of the search) as UK Registered Charity. Click the top result, #20714, and there’s also a “Beta” button for more recent financials.  While ONE charity number is listed (in very fine print, at the very back of an annual report) a search of the register shows 59 results under that name (of which maybe two or three are not related).  I see the charity summary page says it operates in England, Wales and Germany (details say it’s services to British forces stationed in Germany), has revenue of over 4.6M pounds and larger expenses of (over) 4.9M pounds, and has these activities:


I see that in 2016 a Trustee includes Professor (emeritus) Janet Anne Walker, who is known AFCC over many years. I didn’t see Suzie Thorn in the current list.  Here’s a “thumbnail grid” (4 images wide) in miniature size of various images I just took (most from its YE 2017 annual report and audited financial statements (the FS starts only about page 23) available through the charity commission website; some about activities. The first few images show a list of about 56 branch organizations by the same name. (The annual report said some more were going to merge into national soon).

Similar setups (networking practices) seems common in the USA among nonprofits; independent organizations networked under the same name and delivering essentially the, perhaps trademarked, services but registered separately based on geography, for rapid proliferation and dispersal (and also making it harder to track, when one set of accounts doesn’t list all the networked branches…). Wonder which country borrowed the practice from which…(UK or elsewhere to the US, or vice versa).

So for the SF-based (merged out in 2014) and now a separate version still stands under the name in San Diego, the Southern tip of California) Kids’ Turn (business name “Kid’s Turn” similar, but not identical) to be connected with this network, possibly (?) with royalties, and the Relate network charging clients for services (main source of revenues as you can see by one of the images), well, that’s a real accomplishment for the California organization.

But is this the model we still want domestically?

“Relate” was first registered or formed in 1952, with many amendments since (says the same overview page). For the far smaller geography (England and Wales) compared to, say, the USA and Canada, it’s clearly NETWORKED.  They acknowledge operating as a “federation” with occasionally some branch merging into the national. I’ll be posting on “Relate” and already have in part, on one of the subsidiary pages. However, I think the next two images say a lot.  The first, the organization’s goal.  The second, how LITTLE one is encouraged to look at the details of operations shown by how tiny the print giving its charity and company numbers… This appears to be two qualities-in-common (based on typical nonprofit website) with AFCC and its membership spinoff nonprofits operating (primarily) from the divorce/custody/family courts as a platform (marketing base) over here.  Here they are:

U.S. Citizens should know that family law professionals, particularly those working within AFCC, are internationally positioned to share practice, curricula. It “might” be good to learn more about this UK charity whose “market niche” is, as it says, everyone, and periodically throughout their lifetimes. It’s also DPW (UK’s Dept. of Pension and Works).

This website look, feel, and layout is big on graphics, letters, photos, and claims, and small on revealing where its financials might be looked up (the annual report where this is found only gives piecharts, nothing audited, substantial, or viewable as changing over time). Bottom, barely visible, line of print says its Charity # is 20714 and Company Number (in England and Wales) is, I think, 394221, giving searchable numbers on respective UK websites which may lead to more perspective on size, sources of funding, history, etc.

So for Kids Turn curriculum to have come to some understanding to be run through this network is actually a Very Big Deal.

(more details on Claire Barnes from her website) note: no institutions mentioned alongside her basic and masters’ or post-grad education listing; also (bottom) volunteer at the Suzie S, Thorn Fndtn which, in this context, was among the “Gold” level sponsors of the 2017 AFCC conference…

(more details on Claire Barnes from her website) — see bottom para. re: Schapiro-Thorn, Inc.

(Very fine print on the “My Favorite Teacher” footer said it “is” (co. 2017) a registered LLC in Nevada.  Perhaps the next images may explain why, once looking at a situation, I so often like to take just a extra few steps to check things out. In this case make that, My Favorite Teacher, LLC “was” (briefly, in 2014) a Nevada LLC … until its status became “revoked,” apparently for failing to file — in 2014— while the person involved on the website labeled “My Favorite Teacher SF” (but with footer referring to the Nevada LLC) proudly claims to have been marketing consultant for Schapiro Thorn in SF since 2014… “go figure.” (?? Claire Barnes’ name shows up years earlier on the Thorn family foundation board of (volunteer) directors…)

I’d almost feel sorry for this woman if she weren’t pushing Kids Turn internationally and it seems basing a career off co-dependency with AFCC and others exercising major power over children through their separate academic accomplishments, and positioning, such as family lawyers judges, etc. Kids Turn (the one in San Francisco) was in 2014 absorbed (non-serving entity in a merger) into the San Francisco Child Abuse Prevention Center (SFCAPC) I recently blogged, which only this past fall (9/26/2017) officially changed its name — and with this, website — to “Safe & Sound,” while, so far, no financials matching that name have showed up yet.

My Favorite Teacher, LLC in Nevada status “Revoked” searched 2018

It seems that after the Articles of Organization, nothing else was filed. I DNK Nevada Law, but apparently more was needed).

(Confirms that status-revoked (in Nevada) LLC is indeed associated with Ms. Barnes of Thorn Foundation, Kids’ Turn (SF, for 13 yrs so it’s said), International Commission of Couples and Family Relationships (British charity whose first US member didn’t come on its board (as opposed to the ICCFR Trust, which S. Thorn was on) until 2014…but by 2017 is referenced as a “Collaborating Organization” on the Boston AFCC Conference brochure) and “Relate,” not to mention Schapiro Thorn, Inc. law firm in SF..






I found a book published in 2009 (in paperback, 2002) exclusively to promote and “distill” the lessons from Kids’ Turn curriculum, as well as talk about its history, “Good Parenting Through Your Divorce” by Mary Ellen Hannibal  (Found by basic internet search for anything more substantial on Ms. Barnes).  It’s 272 pages with “0” reviews; here’s the summary, and some images from a section written by Judge Ina L. Gyemant (known to be one of the founders of the nonprofit KT), revealing a few more details of who were its original benefactors, and thanks to Suzie Thorn for letting it run out of their building since 1992..  No opportunity to plug other AFCC members’ books or projects should be lost, so there are more on Joan B. Kelly and Isolina Ricci…

The Hannibal book images EXCEPT the 2002 cover here are presented as a “slide show.”  Navigation  (forward, backward, pause, or click triangle to just let it play) makes it easy to scroll, left or right, through the series.  The image quality, unfortunately isn’t that great.  Book is easily searched on-line at Amazon or elsewhere.

I already knew about the Judge connection, and some of the attorneys’ names, referenced in the “foreword” as associated with the parent education curriculum that parents can be ordered into.  Until finding this (on-line book with preview available), I didn’t, however, know about who designed the curriculum (listed in slideshow).   It also contains specific references to being housed at Suzie Thorn’s building (apparently the building is owned by the law firm, or a related company, I DNR exact details), and on looking up who was Jeanne Ames (1926-2011), in her obituary (also shown below — it was extensive!), some of the direction courts were taking in the 1980s, as acknowledged to be instituted with help from the AFCC.

Although I didn’t live in San Francisco during the time of the late Jeanne Ames’ influence (1980s, 1990s, 2000s until 2011), I did live in the region.  Some of the practices instituted through coordinated influence of judges, family court lawyers, directors of family court services (incl. Ames), and the presence of private trade associations to spread, popularize and promote some of those practices, have had a horrible influence on my personal life and family line. The same people promising to REDUCE the conflict involved in divorce and custody are effectively doing the opposite — in part through the incessant demand to get parents and children into counseling (constantly), taking advantage of having literal jurisdiction over a divorcing family to refer businesses to colleagues — mandated by court order! — and in general, diminishing the handling of criminal matters AS criminal matters — continues the conflict the problem-solvers constantly claim they want to solve.

Even though the general concept is not new to me, taking time to look closely at self-descriptions of programs those involved are evidently proud of shows me some of the ongoing subtlety and salesmanship employed, it seems innately.

I comment on some of it in these images, and more (should I also include them) chapter in a book (see FPAMed.org images) put out by one of the designers of the KT Curriculum (Sikorski), which waits to the very end to bring up “Kids Turn” and does so failing to reveal one of the two chapter authors author was involved in its design (as does, last I looked, the earlier websites), but includes as a final footnote, the Hannibal book I’m quoting excerpts from.

Coming from a respected, and well-known in the area (apparently — I don’t hang out with psychiatrists, but judging from the faculty profile and some awards) individual (John B. Sikorski, M.D.), and depending on the distribution (which isn’t at this point clear to me — it was just an uploaded document on the FPAMED.org website), it must have contributed to promoting the unified voice:  Let us all create more and more programming that courts can force consumption of….).(Discussed more below this slide-show from the Mary Ellen Hannibal book)…and more images on Jeanne Ames mentioned in it and involved with Family Court Services and pushing for more mediation as part of her career path.

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Of interest (and news to me), an MD Professor of Psychiatry at UCSF (University of California-San Francisco), a long-standing, well-respected one, John B. Sikorski, according to Judge Gyemant in her acknowledgements contribution to the 2009 book, designed the Kids Turn curriculum, together with Jeanne Ames and Dorothy S. Huntington, Ph.D. (who in the 1980s and while working at “The Center for the Family in Transition, Inc.” in the area, a nonprofit of either Judith Wallerstein (also referenced, plenty, in the book above) and in line with, in general, AFCC terminology and purposes.  My “sticky” posts deal with this nonprofit; … a May, 1984 writeup was found on-line. (but the upload reads “1982”), called “Parental Kidnapping, A New Form of Child Abuse.”  Where this was published or disseminated (and when) is unclear, but I see Nancy Faulkner, Ph.D., on the same topic and testifying before a special session (1999) of the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child (ABOUT parental abduction?), quoted Huntington.  Meanwhile Huntington, whose PhD (at this point, in what is unknown to me) was working for an AFCC-affiliated (in program contact, not fiscally) nonprofit pushing mediation throughout the family court system, and already made mandatory in 1981, in this state..

RE: KT Curriculum Designer (one of three mentioned), Dorothy S. Huntington, also known for:

(From the top of the article. Also any and all emphases (bold, italic, underline) in this or following two excerpts from this article are mine/added, not author’s. Original format was just as if a typed paper, B/W, without reference to any publication context or intended recipient/s or distribution list//LGH. If it were for a law review, I’d expect such a header, but none appeared.


by Dorothy S. Huntington, Ph.D. [1]

Parental child stealing–the abduction or unlawful retention of a child by a parent–has since the mid-1970s gone from being a virtually unrecognized problem to an issue of serious national and international concern. As the divorce rate and the rate of marital breakdown in this country have jumped dramatically, so have the number of cases involving child custody disputes and those culminating in parental kidnapping.

“Child custody disputes” minimizes the situations involved…

This omits relevant facts known back then, and in fact, probably still fresh in the news and among such professionals — no-fault divorce instituted in California (first), 1970s.  Women’s rights movement (NOW formed up only in 1966) following civil rights movement, and laws to protect from battering and domestic violence increasingly made known and visible.  NO-FAULT DIVORCE means that — the focus is deliberately shifted OFF, for example, felony behavior by one parent in the past (abandonment, mental cruelty, conviction of a felony, adultery, there were as I understand about seven causes) — making the parent who is dealing with and concerned about this the one now “stuck in the past…” as the courts wish to focus instead on “relationships” — initially, preventing divorce, and afterwards, continued co-parenting when it did at least happen.  And in the 1970s, AFCC discussed on its own website the “mediation explosion” (as though it had little to do with this, when it and its members did…as a focus) and talked about the desire to change the focus of words referring to criminal law — while inventing newer, better terms, incorporating a social science perspective. As Dr. Huntington was staff for a nonprofit (The Center for the Family in Transition, actually “The Judith Wallerstein Center for the Family in Transition,” known to be run by a major figure in AFCC leadership and often quoted in its literature, she must have known about the organization also, and its agenda of altering the language of criminal law into the “new words” from social scientists for the new future — within the family courts.

The damaging impact of child snatching on both children and parents has just begun to come to our attention.

{{“our” referring to ….?? Certainly the parents noticed, and the schools the children were suddenly removed from, friends, relatives, and when/if called in attempts to find or retrieve them, local law enforcement. What does this say about whatever cohesive group Huntington usedthe word “our” to refer to themselves here, that it took about a decade and a half to start taking the situation seriously to the point of studying it? Reminder — this was testimony before the UN CRC or similar body.}}

Despite the widespread public and professional interest in parental child stealing, there has been to date only one systematic research study (Agopian, 1979) on the topic, with only two other projects currently underway. One of these projects is being carried out at the Center for the Family in Transition and it is from this project that I will speak today.

The object of the child stealing project of the Center for the family in Transition has been to examine this until now almost invisible population of children and adults involved in child stealing, and to develop ways of helping the children and adults involved. ….

I looked for more on “Agopian.” He’s quoted often.  Perhaps this is why:  6 J. Juv. L. (1982) 1 | Legislative Reforms to Reduce Parental Child Abductionsby Michael Agopian and Gretchen L. Anderson as posted on HeinOnLine.com (pg1 only).  The * and ** by authors’ names give their backgrounds in the usual style, showing that a 2-year study on Parental Child Abductions was done at the Los Angeles County District Attorney’s Office (resulting in Agopian’s “pioneering book” on the topic).  Also that his degree was from (only) 1980, USC (a private university, not part of the state system) and currently (in 1982, that is) working on a Child Stealing Research Center possibly at a Lutheran College’s Justice Center.  … Agopian advised on the Federal Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act, and was influential in writing California’s Child-Stealing Laws. (See next 3 images.  Each has a caption; click the image to see the caption, I see you can also submit a comment on the image in this (Gallery) format.  Feel free…):

Huntington notes the goal (remember, the year is 1984…) — providing resources and training for judges, involved professionals, and of course parents, and children, incl. children after they are found and returned.  Notice which possible cause of “parental kidnapping” is mentioned first in the list… (Not on the list, but it should’ve been — financial motivations to reduce or eliminate obligation to pay child support.  Federal incentives for access and visitation date as far back as 1984 in that regard, and today are administered via the HHS/OCSE (Office of Child Support Enforcement) in the form of grants distributable, in each state (or territory) to a SINGLE agency to support the exact kind of programming this (crowd) has been promoting…  that means, federal grants to the states, which are then sub-granted to others (and in California it’s often been through the California Judicial Council, administered under the AOC/CFCC — where known AFCC members have been working over the years) to support such programming.  Just mentioning that now, but again, I’m quoting Dorothy S. Huntington, who was later associated with the curriculum design for “Kids Turn” which was intended and designed to be court-ordered (mandatory).

Are there certain family constellations or background patterns more highly associated with child stealing? Are there certain signs which could be recognized as warnings?

A final goal of the project is the formulation of information for the education of judges, attorneys, and court personnel specifically directed to their complex concerns, such as information on circumstances in which child custody might be granted to the “snatcher”; what sorts of visitation and under what circumstances visitation ought to be permitted after a child is  returned, and in what types of situations child kidnapping is likely to occur:family vioLence, extended and bitter litigation, cross-national marriages, cases where restrictive visitation rightshave been imposed, etc.

Child stealing is an issue that fits well in the context of The Center for the Family in Transition, which is a non-profit clinical and research center founded in 1980 to help families with children cope resourcefully with the problems and possibilities that are part of family transitions, such-as divorce and remarriage. The aims of the Center are to ameliorate distress and significantly reduce the psychological toll of divorce on families, with special emphasis on the children; to evaluate the efficacy of brief preventive services for these families; to generate new knowledge about families in the process of change; to catalyze needed supports for these families; to act as an advocate locally and on state and national levels for programs that support families during times of stressful change; and to join in the education and training of personnel who work with families in transition.

1 Dr. Huntington is Director of Research and Evaluation, Center for the Family in Transition, Corte Madera, California, and is Project Director of the Child Stealing Project. This work is supported by the James Irvine Foundation and the Morris Stulsaft Foundation.

This information goes high, wide and deep (for example, intersecting with the Hague Convention, US laws re: parental kidnapping, and related legal publications, some of them reminding readers of the impact of such conventions on the potential safety of women with children fleeing abuse, whether FROM or (back) TO the USA.  I found a helpful and extended article (although dated back in 2000) Fordham University Law Review on this topic, by Merle H. Weiner, called “Escaping Domestic Violence.”  This will become a separate post, with some of the above material from Huntington’s article, related.

RE: KT Curriculum Designer (one of three mentioned), John Sikorski, M.D. at UCSF:

Next, I include several images from a chapter uploaded to FPA MED website (<== the chapter, without annotations) Forensic Psychiatric Associates Medical Corp.), apparently a small-to-medium sized firm in Mill Valley, CA (just north of SF) only incorporated, I see, only in 2006.  Three images from FPA MED website also show it is tailored in part to testifying in child custody hearings, whether by forensic psychiatrists or by forensic psychologists. Black’s Law definition of FORENSIC is brief: for use in courts of justice. Or from US Legal.com:

Forensic Science Law and Legal Definition from USLegal.com

Also notice that in USLegal Definition of “Forensic Science,” while it does, below this, have links to “Forensic psychology” and “forensic psychologist” (but not “psychiatrist”), in explaining the term, as applied to criminal, first, or civil, it makes no reference to anything psychological or psychiatric — but to traces, physical evidence linking to either association with a crime, or (as to civil) things which might lead to damages, neither of which particularly describes the family courts or their purpose.

This time, the image is the link. Basically means, in public place, in common sight, based on “forum.” For psychologists in particular, it’s a prestigious term, helps with the “R.E.S.P.E.C.T.” although the debate over whether psychology is even a science continues. For some, it’s a “no-brainer” (like this guy in “Why Psychology isn’t a science” (who has a doctorate in microbiology), 7/13/2012 in the Los Angeles Times.

The underpinnings of family law, or so we are to believe in the realm of “no-fault divorce” and the “holistic approach” to helping people co-parent children in common, was to get rid of the concept of “guilt or innocence” as relevant a basis for divorce and custody, but focus more on the marriage, or once that’s beyond repair (“irreconciliable”) then the parenting, and co-parenting relationships.  However, effectively “guilt” or “innocence” once the “old” definitions are thrown out, can be then re-written, re-arranged, and re-framed from the psychological/behavioral viewpoints, transferring (significant through not 100%) authority to experts in that field.

This also matches neatly with the paradigm put forth within and by the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, and for which its decades of conferences are ongoing dress-rehearsals and mutual (private) working out within that membership family, differences, then working it outward (i.e., as activists) to have this policy, and framework, become the new laws governing children and families — essentially, governing the entire country.

Sikorski was co-author, and after looking closely at the content, references, and particularly conclusion — even though AFCC and Kids Turn only mentioned in passing in a long chapter, I may include those images also.  It’s clear the FPAMED team are often involved as expert witnesses in child custody cases.  It took a close reading and taking time to annotate it to realize how subtly the authors promote straightforward AFCC policy, particularly in the concluding paragraphs, while avoiding mention of personal involvement.  Framed in respected, psychiatric/ psychological terminology, well, it’s still a sales pitch and has “framed” the conversation failing to represent the interests of battered women or abused children, and includes subtle references to things outside this reference but known to be associated mostly with mothers (such as an “underground network” of “parents” [cf Faye Yager, the term used was “underground railway”] who don’t feel the justice system is fair).  If there is an underground network of fathers, I’ve yet to hear about — typically, custody-switch and forced reunification when children opt to run away rather than live with their fathers — seems to get the job done sufficiently….as an “above-ground” network of legitimized through the family courts, essentially, kidnapping.**

**Disclaimer on that last comment:  This “above-ground” court-facilitated kidnapping happened to my children and myself years after I left the abuser.  Meanwhile, lack of sufficient protections to move on in in life (and I was not interfering with HIS visitation, ever; in fact my hope at that time had been that respect for court orders would make the difference.).

John Sikorski receives UCSF Psychiatry award. This is the link or click image(s) to enlarge.

the link or click image to enlarge just what’s shown on it.

Dr. Sikorski (Psychiatrist at USCF Medical School, apparently since 1971) is well respected and won a Gold Apple Award this past summer. His specialty is child and adolescent psychiatry. (Two images; fine print under the second describes the department). He must have then designed the Kids’ Turn curriculum, alongside two others, one of about whom we can find almost nothing other than her references in the context of child abduction and by a Nancy Faulkner about who not much else is known (I did find her C.V., but it was a real hunt, and that was only until 1993.  DNK if she is still alive…) perhaps 14-15 years after being hired at UCSF.

I see he was also (at least in the 1990s) involved in international associations as well, one of which was run (at the time) by a director from the Yale Child Study Center; a 13th annual conference had been held in San Francisco in 1994; their (about to retire) president had died, leaving Donald J. Cohen (of Yale) in charge, and Sikorski mentioned as helping with the arrangements:  http://iacapap.org/wp-content/uploads/IACAPAP_Bulletin_April1995.pdf

In fact, here’s as late as July, 2007, from The New York Law Law Journal/Matrimonial Law (by  Harriet Newman Cohen and Gretchen Beall Schuman, a faded reprint of a single article from that journal? found online at “squarespace.com”), a single article STILL talking “Gardner” and with a series of footnotes that, where not primarily AFCC personnel, are citing to cases in which some mother was punished, financially or with removal of custody, for some version of “alienation.”

Included here because its Footnote #2 shows John Sikorsky, M.D. (sic — name ends in “i” not “y”) alongside an unidentified task force on what to do about alienated children, presenting at a 2001 GERMAN conference of an International organization for supervised visitation.  The pattern of the footnotes (some of which also shows up in the FPA MED article I’m getting to below… for the patient among readers!…) shows: citing several known (but not so identified) AFCC members, usually in groups (co-authors, or one citing others), and citing to divorce cases in which (I’d be willing to bet) one or more such professionals had a role, plus a few “ibids,” and eventually getting back to some quotes from the 1980s, in this case, some from <>Richard Gardner (who committed suicide in 2003 after about two decades of talking, writing, and also testifying in individual cases as an expert about parental alienation, and along the way inspiring the career track of Richard Warshak (according to Warshak’s bio on his own website — and this NYLaw Journal article was  2007) and<>Judith B. Wallerstein/Sandra Blakeslee’s famous** book on the long-term negative effects of divorce, and its update.   **Famous because it’s so often quoted and promoted among these ranks (!).

“Birds of a feather flock together,” and this does seem to be in part where our UCSF Psychiatrist has been supporting the overall concept of alienation as a diagnosable disorder to be treated somehow (or why agree to be on the unidentified (but not too hard to guess) “task force” referenced in Footnote 2 — as a dissenting voice, about fifteen years AFTER having designed a curriculum still in use designed as “early intervention” for parental alienation?  Hardly…)

In the next gallery there are seven images including the banner (title) and the rest is footnotes, annotated. While reading, remember that the year is 2007. Some of the print was so fine images may need to be “zoomed in” to read.  Some of my markings in the text near a footnote are identifying its authors.

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Looking for anything more descriptive on Dr. Sikorski, although he shows up plenty in medical listings, I searched with the additional phrase “Kid’s Turn” only to find an (obviously out of date by about 3 years, as KT has since ceased to exist through merger) that it’s still being run, says the website, out of “Children’s Home & Aid Society” in Illinois.  The website calls KT “early intervention,” references Sikorski, and seeks donations to run its $400 class, because most parents taking it (note: Probably as forced to…) are low-income, under $30K. (!!).   Children’s Home & Aid (Website footer address is Chicago: Note, AFCC is also an Illinois Corporation; side address lists Bloomington, IL) has consolidated operations, and shows it’s basic level of receipts is around $63 million annually — most of it (per those statements) government grants for services to clients.  In case you haven’t already guessed yet, the major activity is foster care.

I went looking for the “financials” page (at very bottom left sidebar) and noticed that while they post 990s, annual reports, and audited consolidated annual reports (good for them), the so-called “2016” 990 is not complete as posted, and, while technically “2016” is actually for Fiscal Year 2015, meaning, they’re slow to upload their financials.   A few images pertaining to the Kids Turn part, including the “history of it” and as referencing Sikorski, who by now is probably in his 80s… (A 3-image gallery follows. Two images contain a link for follow-up (i.e., where I found it).

This next gallery (these 8 images) from FPAMEd are best viewed in original page order.  I’ve tried to reproduce this within the gallery.  Images are not identical in size.  Cursor forward or backward once any image is displayed full-size. I didn’t indicate “slide show,” so they should not move on their own accord. Take time to read the annotations if possible and use “full-size”! I was working with an older pdf image to start with, so the clarity wasn’t that great to start with.

On the “resources” page above, anywhere you see ‘Family Court Review’ — the officially the journal (mouthpiece, “voice”) of AFCC as co-published with a private law school in New York (Hofstra).  Rough estimate, about 8 footnotes cited to this (or to  it as “Family and Conciliation Courts Review” and one simply to the AFCC itself. While the FCR in content and appearance looks like a regular law review in many respects (and it indeed is managed out of a center at a law school), and has obtained publishing on-line through a respected publisher, it still remains, officially and by definition, the voice of a small private membership association targeting the family law system, and seeking to dominate and define it.

It is not the voice of the American people, or even particularly of those representing and validating the US Constitution and associated state legislatures’ legal systems.  Their interest as judged by activities (words AND deeds) is transformation to better international alignment of systems and promotion of interests not just of US member, but those overseas as well — and that includes financial interests. With time, names of prolific (i.e., publishing frequently over the years — or their publications, even if the individuals, such as Judith Wallerstein, are by now deceased, are so well distributed, including promotion through government (court and other) websites becomes familiar.

In the above example (from FPAMed) within the first 9 footnotes, the Future of Children (Brookings/Princeton collaboration and deeply embedded with fathers’ rights, marriage promotion, family values (Ron Haskins) and Welfare Reform is quoted FOUR times.

Others in the first 9 included I see Herma Hill Kay (as “HH Kay”) well known, at UC Berkeley, and on the board of 2012ff nonprofit FVAP I referenced above); and that H. Rodham 1973 FN probably is to our former Secretary of State and First Lady (and US Senator), currently last name Clinton. Similar, but not identically named reference (and there’s no other listed under her name on from that publication):

This 1992 Editorial Opinion by a man from the University of Toronto, and a woman from University of Michigan, “What Hillary Rodham Clinton Really Said About Children’s Rights and Child Policy” (for journal and more information, see link) confirms that the Harvard Educational Review article was hers (although we know her undergraduate university was Yale, not Harvard), and says her position was essentially conservative.  The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child also comes up.

The late (2017) Herma Kay Hill, and late husband psychiatrist Dr. Carroll M. Brodsky

Page 2 of this 2016 Annual Report shows she was also an Honorary Board Member (one of only three) on the Family Violence Appellate Project (FVAP) which seems to be modeled, California-style, after DV LEAP (Post upcoming) in DC, formed in 2004, and founded by George Washington University law professor Joan Meier.

For a clean (and complete) page see here: FVAP 2016 Annual Rept

My image here does not show full board of directors, which would leave the font too small.  It shows some others (including co-founder Nancy K.D. Lemon and other co-founders (law students), and affiliation such as “Break The Cycle.org” (it’s been a project of the Tide Center I was looking at (its archived) pages recently, as DV LEAP had provided a number of “extinct links” including this one, or such as “Family Violence Law Project” (which itself is housed out of the Family Justice Center, which also has a representative on the board).  Several are major players in the statewide domestic violence apparatus (incl. people with backgrounds at the CAADV and elsewhere, incl. Lecturer Nancy Lemon) (although, noticeably, no one from Futures without Violence, also part of it, is showing up here).

(logo from the organization, outside its home page banner context, for which see main website). To their credit, they do give (in very fine print) their own EIN# 95-4582664, although I also see that Forms 990 are labeled “Financials” and the latest posted 990 is about FY2014, and the Annual report, only 2013. (Click here)

Correction: (above, strikeout) I mixed up (when recalling by memory) “StopFamilyViolence.org,” about which the strikeout portion is true, with the (still around) BreakTheCycle.org which focuses on healthy relationships.


StopFamilyViolence.org, a (now defunct) website many abused, “custody-challenged” or otherwise so-called “protective” mothers may remember from earlier this century,  was started in 2000 to push for full funding for VAWA (first passed only in 1994) and, as it turns out, operating as a project of the Tides Center, meaning, it used a fiscal agent.  My eyes were starting to cross, looking at “Wayback Machine” internet archives for just how long was this website (and others on the list) even functioning, in part from seeing DV LEAP website (itself new only in late 2017) was posting under “DV Organizations / Legal Resource Library/ (scroll down for…) National Resources” (feel free to check, I have an upcoming, hopefully, post on this) a number of extinct or broken websites, which is less than helpful for people who actually needed timely help.

As late as 2006 it was still operating without incorporating (though showing a NYC address), and calling itself “The People’s Voice for Family Peace” with a classic pink, white, and purple color theme.  I’d realized years ago it was not a legit organization, but was collating articles along certain lines, and was reminded of it recently. Some may remember the mothers who went before the IACHR to protest US Policy of human rights violations around mothers in the custody courts, including Claudine Dombrowski, and ten others.  Stop Family Violence publicized this. I see the petition has been preserved at a blog in the form of an archive from StopFamilyViolence.org, and now remember that an Irene Weiser was associated with the organization (or I should say, project). Notice who else was involved (from 2007 Press Release, with side-links to the petition and supporting organizations clearly showing the state “CADV” ones also, who are on the HHS and/or USDOJ grants).
[Image gallery and quote briefly posted here, then removed. Gallery may show up in another place, and you have the IACHR petition link (an archived from the defunct website) //LGH Jan. 28, 2018]

Herma Kay Hill’s iconic — and the word applies — life, and her early mentoring (helped kick some doors open, although she was obviously brilliant on her own…) Justice Traynor  are closely linked to the history of family divorce law and family courts NOT just in this state, but also nationally, since the 1960s.

Otherwise I’d off-ramp this extended section. It’s relevant, so I left this unanticipated (on my part) section in

I just discovered that Herma Hill Kay died last June (2017), <== age 82 after 57 years at UC Berkeley its second woman law professor and its first Dean (in 1992). I am sorry to hear this!  It was covered also in the New York Times, the Times Higher Education Section, the Wall Street Journal, the ABAJournal (of course), SFGate, AbovetheLaw and other places, as it should be for the history-making professor, and dean.

Relevant to this topic is not just her breakthrough as a law professor and the first female dean (of the law school) in its history is also her influence on the original no-fault divorce law. I believe I have previously (several years ago) posted and reflected on this:

Iconic professor, former (UCB) law school dean Herma Hill Kay dies at 82. Set out to, and effectively disproved her school mother’s opinion (no reference to input from minister father, in SC). Note Roger Traynor hired her to California Supreme Court — and (separately) his major role within the state on both the role of government and tax systems, but also family law (intent to remove the “recrimination” from divorce process) and considered one of the state’s most influential justices.(see Wikipedia)

[From Law.berkeley.edu] A co-author of the California Family Law Act of 1969, Kay also served as a co-reporter on the state commission that drafted the nation’s first no-fault divorce statute. She later co-authored the Uniform Marriage and Divorce Act, which has become the standard for no-fault divorce nationwide.“

It was never undertaken to achieve equality between men and women,” Kay said during a 2008 interview. “It was undertaken to try to get the blackmail out of divorce and I think it has accomplished that…. Marriage is no longer the only career open to women.”

Well, I don’t believe the blackmail has been taken out of divorce.  It may have moved from one sector to another….

Next, The Wall Street Journal on Herma Hill Kay.  She and Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg became friends (while Ginsburg was at Rutgers) back in 1971. She was among the first woman leaders (deans) of an elite law school.  At Chicago Law School (grad. 1959), she was one of only four women in the class.

Law Professor Herma Hill Kay helped usher in era of “No-Fault” Divorce : She led Berkeley law in an era dominated by men and became a pioneer in legal teaching. By Nicole Hong.

WSJ Herma Hill Kay (1934-2017) obituary, click here

…Ms. Kay, who married three times, was particularly focused on making marriage and divorce safer for women. In the 1960s, she helped draft and lobbied for a new law that made California the first state to allow couples to get divorced without showing a “fault,” such as adultery. Within the next two decades, nearly every U.S. state enacted similar laws

WSJ mentioned Kay’s late husband was Dr. Carroll Brodsky (1922-2014).  His legacy.com obituary mentions he was a psychiatrist, and that Kay had been his wife for 39 years. (2014 – 39 = 1975; so Kay had divorced or outlived two husbands by the time she was about  41?). Who was the mother of Brodsky’s three boys (see upcoming image on her Lifetime Achievement Award), and which wife was Kay for him at the time (#2, #3)? (12 year age difference…). Someone else.

You can see interests in common (next image shows only about half the obituary).

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Dr Caroll M Brodsky (1922-2014) was 3d husband of Herma Hill Kay (1934-2017) Iconic UCB Professor. **COMMENT about her marriage MY ERROR (image bottom left, in blue): My math was off: 2014-39 =1975, not 1955!!) Read More@Legacy.com obituary

Dr. Brodsky, a psychiatrist at UCSF (see bio at nearby obit. image) published a book The Harassed Worker, and was influential apparently in defining workplace harassment.  1/5/2016 in Forbes, Is Your Workplace full of Corporate Bullies? by Dan Pontefract:

Similar experiences to my encounter with the neighborhood bully seem to be cropping up in today’s workplace. According to Dr. Carroll M. Brodsky in The Harassed Worker, workplace bullying refers to “repeated and persistent attempts by one person to torment, wear down, frustrate or get a reaction from another. It is treatment which persistently provokes, pressures, frightens, intimidates or otherwise discomforts another person.” It sounds a lot like my former neighbor.

 Sounds also like a diluted description of an intimate partner bully, i.e., batterer/spouse-abuser, etc.  Also referenced in WorkplaceViolence911 (2011) as a 1976 book based in workers compensation appeals: The Mobbing Syndrome – Emotional Harassment and Bullying © 2011 Gail Pursell Elliott:

The mobbing syndrome is a malicious attempt to force a person out of the workplace through unjustified accusations, humiliation, general harassment, abuse, and/or terror. It is a “ganging up” by the leader –organization, superior, co-worker, or subordinate — who rallies others into systematic and frequent “mob-like” behavior. Because the organization ignores, condones or even instigates the behavior, it can be said that the victim, seemingly helpless against the powerful and many, is indeed “mobbed.” The result is always injury — physical or mental distress or illness, social misery, and often, but not always, expulsion from the workplace.

…Unfortunately some human resources professionals participate in the mobbing/bullying of employees. Some actually are under orders to do so, while others are inexperienced in handling conflict resolution, mediation or grievance procedures and trigger covert retaliation on the part of coworkers or supervisors. Dr. Carroll Brodsky, a psychologist and anthropologist, opened the discussion of workplace abuse in 1976 with his book The Harassed Worker which was based on claims filed with the California Workers’ Compensation Appeals Board and the Nevada Industrial Commission. These claims stated that the workers were “ill and unable to work because of ill-treatment by employers, co-workers, or consumers, or by excessive demands for work output.” He uses the term harassment as a behavior that “involves repeated and persistent attempts by one person to torment, wear down, frustrate, or get a reaction from another.

It is behavior that persistently provokes, pressures, frightens, intimidates, or otherwise discomforts another person.” Today, this behavior is aptly called bullying or mobbing and the environment in which it persists, toxic. It is important to distinguish between organizations that use mobbing as a strategy, i.e., top management participates in the mobbing, and those in which mobbing happens without the intent or knowledge of leadership.  [[Note: website is for the National Institute for the Prevention of Workplace Violence, presenting a trademarked training, and featuring W. Barry Nixon: “The NIX Model for Preventing Workplace ViolenceTM provides a framework for our work, which is a comprehensive approach to addressing occupational violence….The Institute is composed of a consortium of professionals with specialized expertise in the multiple disciplines impacting workplace violence (e.g., security, behavioral psychology, safety, human resources, law, anger management, conflict resolution, etc). Each consultant has experience working with companies of a variety of sizes and has held significant positions during their (sic.  Alternate to using “his/her”) career.

Website is notable for no financials, no board of directors, and no geographic location under “contact us.” It does not claim to be a nonprofit and is not seeking donations. Nixon’s bio claims he is “workplace violence consultant for the state of California.”  The website has a password-protected login. Oh well.

Re: Carroll M. Brodsky, MD, Psychiatrist, and author of “Harrassed at Work,” I found this ca. 1985? appeal for review of a denied petition before the WCAP (Workplace Compensation Appeals Board) interesting.  It’s in the form of a “Google book” (read the opening paragraphs, search for Brodsky by name).  The Petitioner was the individual who worked masking silicon chips for only about six (functional) to seven (span of employment) weeks for “Signetics Corporation” in 1978.  He seems to be claiming environmental pollution or perception of it exacerbated his psychiatric condition.  Brodsky here is representing the respondent, the WCAP of California.  This is Answer to Petition for Appeal.  Section describing schizophrenia (by Brodsky) is interesting. Note: I provided a link but no images.  Next images relate to something else.


Click image to enlarge or here for (unannotated) speech from the California Review. Image 1 of 3

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You can see references to Kay’s early decision to concentrate in Family and Conflict law, focus on inter-disciplinary teaching (with both psychiatry and law, fields her husband was then schooled and engaged in), and “making clinical education the mainstay of the curriculum,” thus facilitating long-term mentoring of especially women lawyers and framing the feminist issues.   January 3, 2015 presentation in DC by Associate Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg of the AALS (American Association of Law Schools) Section on Women in Legal Education’s “Ruth Bader Ginsburg Lifetime Achievement” award to Herma Hill Kay (in California Review, posted apparently 4-7-2016…). The presentation is only about 3pp, but I’m still showing images which show relevance to the subsequent handling of the field of family law especially when it intersects with domestic violence issues.

~ ~ End, Herma Kay Hill and late husband Carroll M. Brodsky, section ~ ~


Back to the FPAMed article, footnotes. See gallery of images above, or main document (unannotated). Based on the footnotes, the document was probably written after 2005 (FPAMed incorporated in 2006, but that doesn’t mean the article couldn’t have pre-dated it). I am looking at it thus about a dozen years later.

Then, references go to multiple AFCC authors interspersed occasionally with others known specifically for fathers’ rights and/or involvement in the PRWORA Welfare field (such as Paul Amato — see Oklahoma Marriage Initiative, or Michael E. Lamb).  Another one references “M. Pruett” (for Marsha Kline Pruett), also well known for her emphasis on fatherhood (see materials on “OCAP near the top of this page” — State funding is involved. She has been recent President of AFCC (See 54th Annual Conference brochure, “Message from the President” on this page) and is associated with Smith College of Social Work.  The Pruetts and Cowans (associated with UC Berkeley) have been collaborating (see “PapasSFI.org” website although it’s not current) on strengthening fatherhood involvement as  preventing child abuse for many year now.

In the above example, of a total of exactly 92 footnotes, meaning cites from the main text, the authors: <>J. Johnston (for Janet Johnston, Kelly (Joan B. Kelly), (multiple references; FNs 10, 13, 15, 16, 17 and (Kelly/Lamb) 48, and in one or another combination, FN 52, 58 etc. ).  <>P. Stahl (Philip Stahl, FN#49), and, in close association with the “Center for the Family in Transition” (N. California also named after Wallerstein) is Vivien Roseby  — most are AFCC members and/or presenters and or involved with nonprofits to promote the various causes with which AFCC is frequently associated.  (I DNK specifically about Roseby, except for her stalwart involvement in the project named after major AFCC guru/author/awardee Wallerstein). Roseby/Johnston cited in FN 20 & 78.

AFCC member news 2002 (from a Newsletter) includes Pauline Tesler, Isolini Ricci in association with her nonprofit (at some point she was also working for Calif. Judicial Council/AOC), Warshak, and others.

Also P. Tesler (for Pauline, FN#86 on Collaborative Law, who has a Harvard JD, but an LLM from a UK University (possibly Cambridge), and is now operating out of SF Bay Area, just north of the city).  One of my upcming subsidiary page on parental kidnapping documents this and goes into some detail on it as she was cited training family law professionals in the UK in a “radical new way” to handle divorce (i.e., “collaborative”), and of course a footnote to R. Warshak (Richard).  (see ‘AFCC Member News” to left.  I believe this is from 2002).

Incidentally, on the image to left, re: Isolina Ricci, she was also, as I recall (that’s a conditional) staff at the California Judicial Council/AOC/Center for Children, Families and the Courts, which itself was formed a bit earlier (around 1999-2002) through merger of two separate statewide service centers. See note below the double-line on “Holistic Divorce, LLC” (marketing her Co-parenting toolkit, only $15.39, offices on both East and West Coasts).

(2nd posting this image on this page; the first was within the FPAMed.com gallery above, John Sikorski (w/ co-author) article…

In addition, near the end of footnotes, representing also near the end of the article, is reference to the Mary Ellen Hannibal book citing Sikorski as one of the designers of the Kids’ Turn curriculum, and to the Kids’ Turn website, now merged into another organization in the SF area.  Yet the article makes no reference to his involvement (i.e., is written as if a distant, neutral, referral).


Coast-to-Coast Marketing of each others’ products by AFCC members (The Recipe?  *~>Someone in authority within the family court system or training next generation of lawyers, with emphasis on clinical, experiential education (i.e., mentoring, and the use of law students as interns to help a cause) *~>One nonprofit to promote and/or sell the product.  *~>Miscellaneous extra LLCs to sell the product (friends will help too).  *~>Control of media (ex: Family Court Review) for professional-sounding propagation and promotion (add in conferences, and academic centers with untraceable finances within local universities wherever possible and practical).  *~>Go overseas to train others and reference what good one was doing back home, or if overseas, how important the out-of-country visitor must be to represent such interests in another country.  http://holisticdivorce.com/brand/isolina-ricci-phd/

The “About Us” page of said LLC tells next to nothing about the LLC. It does have a very large photo, however. The bottom window frame tells a bit more (next two images):

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Holistic Divorce “About us” home page features a giant photo, and evasive self-description. Its two registered founders both work for Mavrides Law Firm (only a visit to MA Dept. of Corps and actually reading the Certificate of Incorp, 2014, produced the last name “Mavrides.” Julia Rodgers, there “Mavrides-Rodgers” may be a daughter. Meanwhile partner (30 yrs in the field) of the all-woman firm (judging by the website lists) acknowledges AFCC membership (Marcia Mavrides) and shows other symptoms of being AFCC-friendly (like featuring Parental Alienation, and minimizing DV, which will often come up in divorce, as they well know).

Not to mention: *~~>Minimize, forget, and hope others forget foundational concepts such as representative government, individual legal rights of citizens, such as the US Bill of Rights, where countries laws, policies, practices, and philosophies (religion, the role of women, the role of government, amount of taxation, TYPE of government, and protections (privacy rights, nationalized healthcare, etc.) may actually differ, and for reasons related to foundational, constitutional beliefs).

(Images from HolisticDivorce.com findings overlap with this previous section on Jeanne Ames).

RE: KT Curriculum Designer (one of three mentioned), Jeanne Ames (1926-2011):

I put this one in a different color because the long life, one of the marriages, and the continuing involvement in the family court system (again, San Francisco, California area) by Jeanne Ames, still signifies personal opinions and preferences having been allowed to drive the system — which should NOT be how we are doing government in this country.  It is not to be the rulership of the very few UNelected and organized in “secret” societies (not that they’re entirely secret, but it takes considerable “drilling” beneath the surface to discover where the connectivity is — again, symptoms more of cults, tribes, or gangs, than up-front, above-ground representation and government by INFORMED consent of the governed.

The multiple offices may be, as the SF one seemed to be, virtual offices or executive suites for rent (owned by Regus.com).  Other AFCC-author books for sale via this “resource” include a kids’ version of Mom’s House, Dad’s, House, some by Benjamin Garber (searchable on this post — he’s very emphatically involved), etc.

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Above (another gallery, sorry! 8 images, most from Mavrides Law, and an app it’s promoting, but two also from Holistic Divorce LLC Massachusetts Sec of State/Corp Div filings, and two individual images near this para.). Also a bit odd on the Mavrides Law Firm is its listing under “Resources” not the above website (a disconnect seems intended), but instead three apps, the first one a “2Houses” co-parenting app (sounds similar to Our Family Wizard, above, and founded by a father a few years after OFW) whose home, and staff, is in BELGIUM and having strategically ?? picked only 2 US partners, one in Virginia and the other in California.  Meanwhile, Mavrides acknowledges her AFCC membership (though not membership in the local chapter).  I’m aware there’s an ongoing push to get co-parenting apps distributed internationally, and take dispute resolution more on-line, but an all-woman Boston Family Law Firm promoting a Belgian-based app designed by a father?  While helping, POSSIBLY with her daughter, push AFCC materials on-line as a sort of side-line business also?

Note: I think you should look at “MyMicroInvest” which is a crowdfunding platform (helped 2Houses S.A.) with its startup in 2012, it seems, pairing professional investors with “the crowd” to help early startup entrepreneurs.  This app is now also on ITunes.  I should follow up separately (before there’s a readers’ riot for too many images!).  However, I just now learned of this (through the usual means — inordinate curiosity).  Again, where’s the domestic loyalty to THIS country?  This is a useful app, I’m sure, but its owners are based in Europe, not even North America, and only started up in 2011, but are being encouraged — at least through Marvides Law Firm (how many others across the USA?) to market for a Belgian startup, privately owned, profiting from “divorce distress” scenarios and forced co-parenting where parents may not do so voluntarily…and alongside people seeking to penalize, engage in name-calling (parental alienation, high-conflict) the necessary process for MANY parents of distancing themselves from dangerous people, if not prevent it.

MyMicroInvest explains on its website (as I said, look around) that it provides a tax shelter (up to 45,000 euros a year) for investors; it issues its own securities and simplifies for the entrepreneur to dealing with just ONE interlocuter (i.e., MMI). If the crowdfunding goal isn’t reached, MMI then lends the money to the entrepreneur, minus expenses.  Etc.

MyMicroInvest (helped 2Houses S.A. crowdfund through Belgian company-based platform) website — FAQs | Investors | tax shelters

MyMicroInvest (helped 2Houses S.A. crowdfund through Belgian company-based platform) website — FAQs | Investors | Why Invest?



Obituary, in gallery form: (Obituaries often tell life stories and are sources of places to find further, or previously unknown information on individuals). I’m providing from more than one source:

From SFGate (SF Chronicle), Tues . July 19, 2011 by Carl Nolte, Jeanne Ames Dies:  Mediator headed SF Family Court

Jeanne T. Ames, a professional mediator in child care disputes for many years, died July 8 of multiple illnesses at a rehabilitation hospital in Kentfield. She was 85.

Ms. Ames was the director of the San Francisco Family Court Services agency until she retired in 1985. {{starting when?___}} She then went into private practice as a mediator in children’s care cases and worked until within a few months of her death.

Ms. Ames was a fourth-generation San Franciscan. Her ancestors came to California by sea around Cape Horn during the Gold Rush. She was born on Feb. 3, 1926, in San Francisco. Her father was Robert Toner, who was the San Francisco public defender.

Ms. Ames attended local schools, graduated from Stanford University and married San Francisco Judge Fitzgerald Ames. Judge Ames died in 1970, and in 2002, Ms. Ames married Sam Kagel, a nationally famous labor arbitrator and mediator. || The two had been companions for years. “He wanted to elope to Reno, but I talked him out of it,” she said. “Instead, we eloped to Sam’s Grill.” Sam’s is an old-time San Francisco restaurant, and the couple were married in booth No. 4 by retired Judge Isabella Horton Grant.Frank Morelli, a waiter, and Gary Seput, who owned Sam’s at the time, were the witnesses.

It was a bit of a May-December marriage. The bride was 76 and the groom was 93. Kagel died in 2007 at the age of 98.

Sam Kagel (1909 – 2007) was written up in the New York Times; he married in 1933, they “separated” in 1971, but possibly didn’t ever divorce (she died in 2002), and had three children together.  He was obviously a powerful figure and featured in some major negotiations, as the article shows:

Sam Kagel, Mediator of the 1982 NFL Strike, is Dead by Douglas Martin, May 31, 2007 in the New York Times.

…Mr. Kagel married Sophia Hornstein in 1933. They separated in 1971, and she died in 2002. He is survived by their sons, John, of Palo Alto, and Peter, of San Francisco; their daughter, Katharine Kagel, of Santa Fe, N. M., five grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. He is also survived by his wife (since 2002), Jeanne Ames.

“..a good mediator never mentions that he might have made a mistake…” (top para.)

Here’s a more extended version of Ms. Ames’ obituary written by people who obviously loved and respected her. I have annotated in part because it gave me more insight into at least into the life and marriage/divorce habits of another person with whom a family court system focused on mediation and conciliation effectively dismantled domestic violence protections for women such as myself, when the one thing we most desperately needed AFTER separation was safe boundaries within which to reconstruct our OWN lives — and not necessarily after the government dependency, forever, model. In essence, many of us took the abuse because were were already independent in nature, competent (and knew it) and able to hold our own ABSENT ongoing criminal activity, or harrassment by those prone to it.

There were three marriages for Jeanne Ames. Her first husband is barely mentioned (or how long any marriage lasted). The second one, a judge, died not long after they married, likely providing some good sustenance (traveling the world is mentioned). It’s hard to find much on him (some, but not much) but I did see that he must have been born in 1904 (died at age 66 in 1970), which for comparison, shows that Jeanne had a tendency to partner with considerably older men, and men in power, and outlive them; in the case of San Francisco Judge Fitzgerald Ames, someone about 22 years older.  No sooner (almost) had he died (or Sam Kagel separated from his wife of many years) then she took up, 1971ff, with him, and remained (again being about 12 years younger) faithfully as a partner to the end of his life; however, it seems he never divorced his first wife (?); she died in 2002, and Jeanne Ames married him the same year.  I also learned (though not showing it here) that at one point in his (famous) career, he apparently was working for Jeanne’s grandfather (Timothy A. Reardon), who like her father (Robert Toner) who was in public works and commissioner of the State Highway System.  A descendant, also Timothy Reardon, I believe, is now a Justice also. But her passion for mediation / arbitration in the family courts MAY have been picked up in part from her third husband, who like the second, was born before women got the vote, in the first decade of the 1900s (!).

These are in gallery format. Click on any image to start the sequence; if there are not visible navigation keys (as in “slide show”) format, click on the image to move to the next one. Thanks.//LGH.

Essentially, it seems that very little respect for the law flows through this private society and membership association AFCC  targeting public institutions with a view towards privatizing them (esp. through referrals to “community services” — from the start.  As a society and in some of the chapters, and it is frequently noncompliant with state laws regarding incorporation, tax-exempt registrations, and essentially, commerce. I am not the first or only person to note this, yet it still continues publishing, conferencing, and collaborating.  For example, look who sponsored and collaborated for the 2017 conference in Boston:

It seems there is a workaround within WordPress, an alternate route to prioritize those posts without bumping new writing to the bottom of the stack.  So I’m reformatting the blog, which requires one “Static Page” (it’ll be this one) and one “Main Page” which has the posts marching by in chrono order, most current on the top. This is a major step, I hope it works!

While here (since I had to add a page for the purpose), I talk about the changing databases so often used in research, and the image I adopted a while back, which came up again under “customize” the blog options…

My intent is to have the formerly “sticky” (top 10) posts and including those Tables of Contents somehow be incorporated on this Static Page here, and let the main content area be only the most recents posts. Having done that, I’ll “de-stick” the same posts (remove that indicator)… This will probably occur in stages.  I’ve never done this before, so there may be some trial and error involved.

Thanks in advance for your patience (meanwhile, read the latest post, which links to the new page (published 1/2/2018) also! The latest post’s title doesn’t reflect this, but it has a major section and certain proofs re: Reunification Camps and commonalities between those who run them, as well as a footnoted, major section on “Dr. Richard Warshak’s” (he has the Ph.D., but like many PhD’s NOT MD’s, enjoys using that form of address) formative influences and mentors (two of them) which should speak loudly to anyone expecting gender neutrality as a component of justice and understood citizen’s rights, in the treatment-obsessed family courts. )

Link: Family Bridges. See also “About the Author” page for his political involvement on family law reform, custody, and involving the White House

Many of these professionals are, essentially, “inbred.” No wonder stopping domestic violence, child abuse (including incest) is not a long suit.  And, as so few of other professionals, their colleagues (by areas of practice and degrees) involved in the same courts, or in the domestic violence prevention & advocacy fields, seem to be calling them out on the in-breeding (and on the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts connections so symptomatic of the practices, such as forcing — court-ordering — children into “reunification camps” therapy founded and run as LLCs (compliant or noncompliant) or 501©3s by other AFCC members, and where possible, both parents too in my opinion, properly drawing such negative press), I’d have to say the silence on this obvious in-breeding indicates co-dependence and acquiescence.  Calling it out will have to come from some other quarter…

When people cannot speak things THIS obvious, they are avoiding it, or have been brainwashed/conditioned, or possibly threatened into complicit endorsement. In such situations, wiating on psychologists, or lawyers, or the best-known advocacy groups, to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing BUT the truth, defies logic and, in my opinion, common sense.
Some still have too much position, or possibly revenues, to lose. They have mortgages or landlords, and clients with hope of future clients.  Perhaps — just perhaps — it’s up to those of us who have already lost our own revenues, social position or niche (and although we too have mortgages and/or landlords and must live SOMEwhere, year after year) — to fill in the gap of information.
//LGH Jan. 9, 2019.

Truth Fuels Flight, Lies Ensnare. Don’t Hang With, Serve (or Donate to) Tricksters or Their Targets. It’s a New Year — but there is STILL no excuse for abuse.

Check out “Most Recent Posts” or the archives, and you’ll see I’m publishing more often, and continuing to correlate themes across multiple posts.

I intend this as a teaching blog; and ongoing repetition and many posts on a single topic or theme makes sense.

This blog is essentially the opposite of any major newspaper which seeks to correlate all interesting and CURRENT events, yet I’ve found in writing this over nearly nine years that the material illuminates a surprising amount of front-page news anyway, even to periodically having reported on some organizations or institutions before they make that front page.

It seems that’s what happens when you read tax returns and attempt to follow (taking “core samples” of specific foundations, or government “violence prevention” programs implemented over time).

Also, since I’ve started, databases that have radically altered their function and appearances include but are not limited to:

  • California Secretary of State Business Search (formerly kepler.sos.ca.gov; now simply “BusinessSearch.SOS.Ca.gov — but functioning quite differently)
    • So have other Secretary of State websites (not all, but some: PA, GA among them).  I just don’t recall which ones off-hand.  AZ has changed in some aspects, but still links to those lousy, barely readable images of file documents…
  • The U.S. Federal Department of Health and Human Services “TAGGS.HHS.Gov” database of grants.
    • A Major drawback in use:  Never rely only on “Basic Search results.”  Always repeat the same search under “Advanced Search.”  Differences in total grants shown can be in the millions, and sometimes ⅔ higher, I’ve found. But if you never use “Advanced” you’d never know.
    • The moral being:  Cross-check wherever possible.
  • In more superficial ways (initial search results fields now display EIN# and a few more columns), the California Office of Attorney General’s “Registry of Charitable Trusts” (or “OAG/RCT” as I sometimes call it on the blog) registry search (“Verification“) page.
  • And for looking up tax returns, years ago, in both color and content, a database I most consistently use for showing tax returns — the “990finder” (http://99finder.foundationcenter.org).  I retained the older color scheme for consistency, but will often include screenprints of search results showing the new one.
  • While listing these, the IRS Pub. 78 “Exempt Organization Select Check” page (choose one of three options)

All those links are also on my sidebar under “Vital Links” which they still are.  Some other states’ databases user interface pages have likewise changed over time.  The thing is, to remain aware they exist, and in each case what the limitations are, and any workarounds that might help over come some of those limitations.

For example, 990foundationcenter.org is truly “out there” in magically producing wrong “entity names” on a name search.  Do a basic search, acquire an EIN# (either here or off-site — if here, click through to see the entity name on the corresponding Form 990 or 990PF, 990EZ etc. shown) and repeat the search using the EIN#. AND know that no matter how much workaround, the data may also e not the most current, and may contain built-in search results errors of which you are simply unaware.

But those limitations are nothing compared to the fiscal blindness one has by never looking in the first place!

In addition, there is the ongoing evolution (sic) of organization names, and their websites … and at times of government structures within the state, and often in the “social services” parts of state government.  Within universities too, there will be ongoing establishment, funding, or sometimes winding up of various “centers” as I’ve continued to note, and sometimes attempt to study in detail — usually without much concrete results, as one of the key features of such “CENTERS” is difficulty in tracking their exact financing while they are seeking to restructure government operations from a position of academic presumed superiority and superior research skills and resources.

So, it should be no big deal if I restructure this blog to better accomplish my purposes, rather than just abandoning it and (not having the resources, or personal energy/desire) starting another one from scratch, or almost.  Been there, done some of that…

(2) About the Gravatar Image of a Flying Blue Jay.  

Its basic image to me is “flight” but I also consider the blue jay, crow and raven (below) for some other admirable qualities which I feel people, especially women and mothers, dealing with the many systems intended to continue ensnaring us in forms of abusive control AFTER we declared “No Excuse!” by filing for protection, and temporarily obtaining SOME….

Nothing too deep — it just helps me to consider the survival qualities of species common to North America.  For example, attempts to wipe out crows were made (and attempts to wipe out independent-minded mothers raising children without a resident controlling man — or “the state” instead of him — calling the shots, making major decisions, and substituting for our own good judgment and common sense, the “state” official policy towards our kind.  Meaning, mothers who don’t get or stay married to the fathers of their children and aren’t apologetic about it, either.  Moms who still believe they have a right to fight for what’s best for themselves and their children — and no innate duty to submit to further degradation, abuse, or domination by people who  don’t see what we see, haven’t experienced what we have, and may not comprehend when “NO!” means “NO!”

The professions, as an “economic habitat” attract certain fauna and flora.  The problem isn’t just the critters, it’s also the habitat.  And as to these, where the public contributes is through public institutions.  WE FUND THOSE.




Those are aspects I had to address in my own life, and make up for the information gap.  While learning myself, I also posted. IF I HAD KNOWN about the federal incentives, dating back a few decades, to set up and follow through with the “family court fiasco” post-domestic violence, and the aggressive, consistent attempts to saturate professional journals with minimization of it (when not running media campaigns ABOUT it omitting the same government agencies funding fathers’ rights movements specifically mandated — it’s in their original documents — to counter a perceived “maternal” bias in social services and in the family courts — I would have made even fewer compromises.  NOT KNOWING THIS prevents women from bonding around it.
That is also why I felt it necessary to post on the “Broken Courts, Flawed Practices” nonprofits, some from Northern California, (since 1999, 2006, respectively) on the “Battered Mothers’ Custody Conference” (since 2003) (and its adherents and regular presenters) and in the methods used to continually find new “poster child” cases to “throw under the bus” for more publicity to further the “technical consulting and training” conferences, webinars, and speaker resumes of the field.

This is, again, theater — it’s there for a reason, and that reason is NOT the ones stated on the front pages.  It is there to derail viewers from the bedrock realities of the system, lest they mutually organize to do something effective about it.  It is there to perpetuate the abuse systems, while “tweaking” and adjusting them slightly back towards “fair” — for which of course, SOMEONE has to train and sell publications.

IN CASE readers are wondering why I am adamant about certain things, and ready not to just “survive through compromise” but dismantling  any system which tolerates ram-rodding decent parents into as deep a hole as possible, and which doesn’t abide by its own definitions of the legal process, or justice, or anything approaching — to put it crudely and personified, “tear ’em a new one…”

I know experientially that compromise on the basic principles of life and relationships does NOT have a good ending.  The result is further compromise, followed by yet more, and yet more, and degradation of the neighborhood, while clearing the overall habit for increasing levels of built-in criminality. This doesn’t mean all are criminal, but those who are find great places to roost, and those who aren’t, don’t have, apparently, the integrity or ability to flush them out — which would also destroy their own habitats and incomes. I am talking about the penchant to refer-out to “community services” things that deserve a track record, and protection of due process.  In order to get rid of that, a whole different set of “courts” were created.

This appears to be a major thrust of the family court system itself an the enmeshment of behavioral/mental health “standards” as if they were solid, and science (rather than a combination of population control, individual coercion with a mix of religious beliefs and cults among the practitioners… This type of systemic change, I’ve found (through writing this blogs, and in dealing/networking with others about their experiences, but only as add-ons or emphases to what the research already proves) goes ALL THE WAY  to the top of government and relates to privatization, taxation and tax-exempt status.

Focusing on the family — and conciliation — courts as venues driven largely by a few private societies brought the situation into better focus.  I still feel that dealing with them as venues NOT subject to reform, or principles of honesty, integrity, and clean financials — EVER — would be one efficient way of “cleaning house” and reminding us that in this country, the “top dog” should still be law — not the “mental/behavioral health Archipelago.”  Have we learned NOTHING from history yet???  

Truth Fuels Flight, Lies Ensnare. Don’t Hang With, Serve (or Donate to) Tricksters or Their Targets. It’s a New Year — but there is STILL no valid excuse for abuse.





The Blue Jay Image (and recently added caption):  This image encouraged me at a low point in my post-domestic-violence life, when there seemed no end to the ongoing fight for independence from individuals insisting that a condition of leaving that batterer was to simply exchange one form of abuse and set of abusers for another.  While I live in California and blue jay habitat isn’t listed as Western United States, as a bird they have many admirable qualities appropriate, I feel, for people concerned about protecting our young, and keeping predators away.  They also contribute to the environment, and are probably a pretty smart (survival-minded) species.

Blue Jay Information, Photos & Facts (from “American Expedition.us”)

“Bluebirds will mimic the calls of predatory raptors to test whether or not their predators are nearby.”

Blue jays are highly beneficial to the flora and fauna in their ecosystem: their characteristic ‘jay’ call warns other birds of predators, and their fondness of acorns is credited with spreading oak forests across North America.

“Blue jays will attack humans if they get too close to their nesting area.”

BlueJayFacts from AmericanExpedition.US

The Blue Jay (Cyanocitta cristata) is a large, crested songbird native to North America with bright blue coloration. Blue jays are known to be beautiful, intelligent and highly aggressive birds. American Expedition is proud to present informationfactshabitat infobird feeding tips and pictures of the Blue Jay.







From the “Cornell Lab of Ornithology, “All About Birds” for this species.  A few of the “Cool Facts,”  This website also shows “habitat” and that the “Blue Jay” is more eastern US and Canada, while “Steller’s Jay” shows the Western coast.  The quote describes the Blue Jay, not “Steller’s”

From Cornell’s “Ornithology Lab” All About Birds – habitat of the Blue Jay.

This common, large songbird is familiar to many people, with its perky crest; blue, white, and black plumage; and noisy calls. Blue Jays are known for their intelligence and complex social systems with tight family bonds. Their fondness for acorns is credited with helping spread oak trees after the last glacial period.

  • Thousands of Blue Jays migrate in flocks along the Great Lakes and Atlantic coasts, but much about their migration remains a mystery. Some are present throughout winter in all parts of their range. Young jays may be more likely to migrate than adults, but many adults also migrate. Some individual jays migrate south one year, stay north the next winter, and then migrate south again the next year. No one has worked out why they migrate when they do.
  • Blue Jays are known to take and eat eggs and nestlings of other birds, but we don’t know how common this is. In an extensive study of Blue Jay feeding habits, only 1% of jays had evidence of eggs or birds in their stomachs. Most of their diet was composed of insects and nuts.
  • Tool use has never been reported for wild Blue Jays, but captive Blue Jays used strips of newspaper to rake in food pellets from outside their cages.
  • The black bridle across the face, nape, and throat varies extensively and may help Blue Jays recognize one another.
  • The oldest known wild, banded Blue Jay was at least 26 years, 11 months old when it was found dead after being caught in fishing gear. It had been banded in the Newfoundland/Labrador/St. Pierre et Miquelon area in 1989 and was found there in 2016.

Steller Jay takes the Western region, Blue Jay, Eastern US & Canada, it seems…

Blue Jays, the Audobon (Field) Guide to North American Birds tells us, belong to the family containing “Crows, Magpies, Jays,” which according to this site includes ravens.


I thought contrasts with the Common Raven (corvus corax, making a comeback in Eastern US) and the American Crow also interesting. I grew up in the Eastern US and while no formal birdwatcher, watched and heard plenty of them growing up. I still miss the sounds of so many types birds, all four season, but no longer so common… Then again, I’ve been living mostly in major metropolitan areas (a.k.a. large cities) as an adult.   (I’m partial to a diversity of birds — but also of people!!)


Ravens disappeared from much of the east and midwest before 1900.

In recent decades they have been expanding their range again, especially in the northeast, spreading south into formerly occupied areas.

Of the birds classified as perching birds or “songbirds,” the Common Raven is the largest, the size of a hawk. Often its deep croaking call will alert the observer to a pair of ravens soaring high overhead. An intelligent and remarkably adaptable bird, living as a scavenger and predator, it can survive at all seasons in surroundings as different as hot desert and high Arctic tundra. Once driven from much of its eastern range, the raven is now making a comeback. . Both sexes build nest and feed nestlings….

Typically forages in pairs, the two birds sometimes cooperating to flush out prey……regularly eats carrion and garbage.. [[Which means it helps clean up some of that crap!!] Imagine the  planet, whether dry land or ocean, without scavenger animals..]


THE AMERICAN CROW: (corvus brachyrhynchos)

Audobon.org, Field Guide to North American Birds / American Crow.(See bottom-right image detail for photo credit)

Audobon.org, Field Guide to North American Birds / American Crow.Habitat (red = breeding; purple= all seasons..

Attempts at extermination in past have included dynamiting of winter roosts. However, the crow remains abundant, and is increasingly adapting to life in towns and even cities. (!!)...

Woodlands, farms, fields, river groves, shores, towns. Lives in a wide variety of semi-open habitats, from farming country and open fields to clearings in the woods. Often found on shores, especially where Fish Crow and Northwestern Crow do not occur. Avoids hot desert zones. Is adapting to towns and even cities, now often nesting in city parks.

Crows are thought to be among our most intelligent birds, and the success of the American Crow in adapting to civilization would seem to confirm this. Despite past attempts to exterminate them, crows are more common than ever in farmlands, towns, and even cities, and their distinctive caw! is a familiar sound over much of the continent. Sociable, especially when not nesting, crows may gather in communal roosts on winter nights, sometimes with thousands or even tens of thousands roosting in one grove.


The image of a bird taking flight was metaphorically where I wished to be, vis-a-vis certain controlling personalities and tactics applied, and economic vehicles through which they were applied.  And I’m well aware of how it’s tougher now than it was two decades ago, in many ways, for women and mothers to exit battering relationships involving the father of their children — because official federal, state, and often passed down to local (I mean, for the United States geopolitical system, essentially county, or where it applies, regional metropolitan areas organized as such) social policy has continued to emphasize, families and children as father’s property, and those who take exception to this for violent behavior by the fathers as needing their heads examined, and their attitudes “adjusted.”
Where this isn’t the “in your face” practice, there’s still the constant pressure to compromise with rights of competent, law-abiding adults to function as independent human beings once they have given birth or sired children, so to speak.  And that’s outrageous!  Let alone archaic.

The only “respectable” way to institute such outrageous standards and enforce them is to continue to appeal to social science, and the behavioral health, mental health fields as THE standard — even though there’s plenty of sects within them, some are more overtly religious (again, new age or “fundy” would be to labels discernible among the fields), and among common practices is to pick a common theme, TWEAK it, TRADEMARK it, and of course MARKET it.  The movement to again subjugate half the human race (the female half) to male domination as “the norm” and female-headed households or families as “abnormal” is incrementally, and from positions which would seem to be, pardon the term, “impregnable” through academia, and through major control of publishing platforms specialized in the social sciences, and rapid sharing of these among those who “qualify” or can afford the subscriptions.

Another way of funding much of this is to have the public chip in through major support from the largest grant-making agency, at least int he federal government, which I understand is still the Department of Health and Human Services.  But when it comes to projects, the trends consolidating branches of government, place-based social services, and use of regionally based intermediary PRIVATE sector organizations to pump up the credibility.

So, in 2018, there is still no VALID excuse for abuse– that includes economic coercion too — although we all continue to hear the usual ones for it, including from some circles which have branded themselves as preventing it.  

By “abuse,” I’m also referring to abuse of power by those claiming to protect women, children and men, and exercising this power through concealment of their own resources and networks which serve to entrap ALL into financing, somehow, systems which can sustain the climate of “MIA” financial reports, dissociative thinking about how government enties interact with the private sector, dissociative thinking about actual resources available based on ACCOUNTING practices.

Likewise, in 2018 as in prior decades, an organization’s — or the US Federal government’s — budget is still NOT a comprehensive financial statement.   Whether it’s a nonprofit, a government entity, or the collective nonprofit wealth and/or collective government wealth (such as contained in institutional funds, pooled investment funds, and so forth). More people need to grasp this and demonstrate an insatiable curiosity to read these, using functional vocabulary, not that which has been spoon-fed, shrinkwrapped and censored and oversimplified (with distraction from how stated “truths” are only true in certain contexts, and as such, extremely limited when the larger context is even brought into the picture…).

So, I’ve continued working hard on posts and getting them and the occasional new page out there.  I realized that even in condensed form, those ten “sticky posts” in the main part of the blog still distract from current writing.  Unlike many of the nonprofits I’ve studied, I do not change my username, this blog domain name, service provider (it’s still WordPress) or basic appearance regularly.  And I’ve only changed the “Gravatar” (image associated with myself as a user) once over nine years.  The former one was a bumper sticker, cellphone snapshot of an unknown person’s car (vehicle license # not shown as I recall) which read:

“There’s No Excuse for Abuse!”

A statement I still believe.  Over time, I’ve just gotten wiser on how it’s implemented, structured, enacted, and rationalized nationally, and with that understanding, I still believe, a more effective way (other than just reporting) to discourage “business as usual” in the public/private partnerships, maintaining class systems, and attempts to put women back into the “dark ages” based on their reproductive biology and invented practices and world views masquerading as “science” to give the impression we are somehow progressing, and turning the United States into a paternalistic, patriarchal theocracy while in the name of “public welfare.”

Again, simple list of Top Ten (formerly “sticky”) Posts (very short post itself):

For added insurance, I copied this table to a separate page which can be linked to this one as its “parent” only when this one is actually published (!):  Are You New To This Blog and Want My Position Summary? Or Not, and Want a Review? These Ten Key Posts From 2012-2017 Should Help. (Page started Jan. 25, 2018, link activates when page is published). (Under 3,000 words; basically just the table).

And (3rd time shown in this Front/Home Page) to access current posts as they are written:

For Current Posts, Most Recent on Top, Click Here. (Page short-link ends “-8v2”)

As the image shows, from now on, there is a Front Page and a Posts Page. The name of and an active link to that posts page is directly above.

(Pages are fairly stationary, and are listed also on my sidebar titled “Vital Info/Chrono Alpha Links” (Far down on the right side).  Posts  can be found as above, some of them under “Recent Posts” and all of them — but without titles, and only a month at a time, under the Archives Function.  In other words, if you know what date it was published, that’s another way (and at the top right of blog) to get to a specific posts, or to click and review a month’s worth of posts, regardless of their titles.)

Recent snapshot from my WordPress Administrator Dashboard.

Image above, the page “For Example, National Children’s Alliance…” inbetween is also good reading, and connects to what I’m currently blogging on.



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    • What ?


      May 26, 2018 at 4:08 pm

      • Could you be more specific?

        If that’s a first response, OK, fine, and all you wish to say, fine. The rest of this comment addresses what may be a common concern (“too long”) or you don’t get the connections among the topics on this single home page.

        Below next two lines = my impromptu response to possible unasked questions above. I am not a mind-reader, so any response is a courtesy effort here. ____________________________________________________________________

        Typically what I say I mean. I write on what concerns and alarms me. Readers’ concerns should be: is it true, is it rarely reported (and if so, why?), and how relevant is it to the readers, to the general public?
        This static, “front” or “home” page could’ve (by my “administrative staff” which doesn’t exist) been broken up into perhaps 5 parts, at which point I’d have to add connectors between each part to explain — while restructuring the blog itself…

        Instead for now, I have it all in one place. It comes in sections. It follows certain topics. Too long? Forget the bottom section about my gravatar, the blue jay, if it doesn’t speak to you, and look at one section at a time.

        It also needs some editing from “In Transition” status. Unfortunately I am now also “in transition” as a blogger and will not be giving it that kind of sustained attention or a re-write, while continuing to post on current (related) events…

        I’m writing in English with periodic pictures, and with paragraphs and for the most part in complete sentences.

        I do “drill-downs” on specific court-connected organizations and sometimes on their boards of directors or founders (shown above for “Kids’ Turns.”) Many of these operate in networks, which I’ll also mention, which is good to know and consider as coordinating private efforts across state (or other jurisdictions, such as country) lines — along certain “functional” categories, like family courts, domestic violence, noncustodial parents’ rights.

        ====>>If you will put more effort into the question, I might put some more effort into an answer.

        Otherwise, for people who just don’t like the concentration involved in following a long post I can’t help with that just now. This post unravels associations which sometimes do not want to be “outed” as related. That takes time comparing one source of information to another. It also requires a functional vocabulary in that practice (of doing “drill-downs,” i.e., basic information look-ups).

        I’m not a graphic artist. Even if I were, the important part of pie-charts, graphs, maps etc. is the points of reference, the fine-print details of where it came from, who published it when, and conflict-of-interest-free (if it is such) backing for their production.

        ====>Check out my recent Twitter activity which gives information in short bursts with max 4 attachments per Tweet. If you came here from there, then jump in and stay a while, get your hands on the same databases I’ve been looking at and eventually it should start making a whole lot more sense without “personal coaching.”… HANDS-ON..

        If you already have these skills, then please consider applying them to some of these organizations for public benefit and blogging/publicizing it. Or reviewing my posts and re-posting them (with link to the original and as my work of course…). Use quotes where quoting… etc.


        Let's Get Honest

        May 28, 2018 at 2:20 pm

  9. […] presenter Garbarino’s Cornell background  — also search this blog for posts on “Yurie Bronfenbrenner Translational Center” and some connections to Elizabeth Loftus, Stephen Ceci (APA Distinguished Award for Science […]

  10. […] which in some times and places have often collaborated also with fatherhood groups (Search “Ohio IPV Collaborative” or “NCADV” herein. For the NCADV to “out” that situation OR to […]

  11. […] nearby (Denver-based, historically) nonprofit NCADV might have noticed and spoken out about, “Center for Policy Research” (Jessica Pearson, Nancy Thoennes, Jane Venohr, Lanae Davis, and a few others) formed about […]

  12. […] close ties also to AFCC via Dr. Pearson, and now with Pennsylvania’s Temple University in re: Fatherhood Research and Practice Network.  {Both links in this paragraph are actually search phrases on this blog — because […]

  13. […] presenter Garbarino’s Cornell background  — also search this blog for posts on “Yurie Bronfenbrenner Translational Center” and some connections to Elizabeth Loftus, Stephen Ceci (APA Distinguished Award for Science […]

  14. […] which in some times and places have often collaborated also with fatherhood groups (Search “Ohio IPV Collaborative” or “NCADV” herein. For the NCADV to “out” that situation OR to […]

  15. […] nearby (Denver-based, historically) nonprofit NCADV might have noticed and spoken out about, “Center for Policy Research” (Jessica Pearson, Nancy Thoennes, Jane Venohr, Lanae Davis, and a few others) formed about […]

  16. […] close ties also to AFCC via Dr. Pearson, and now with Pennsylvania’s Temple University in re: Fatherhood Research and Practice Network.  {Both links in this paragraph are actually search phrases on this blog — because […]

  17. […] ==> Significance of presenter Garbarino’s Cornell background  — search this blog for posts on “Yurie Bronfenbrenner Translational Center“). […]

  18. […] ==> Significance of presenter Garbarino’s Cornell background  — search this blog for posts on “Yurie Bronfenbrenner Translational Center“). […]

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