I told readers I couldn’t handle a lot more on the Garrido/Dugard case.

The fact is, kidnapping, abduction, and even “child-stealing” is indeed a crime, and affects the community horribly.  But it affects those kidnapped, abducted, and stolen the most, not to mention the families they were kidnapped, abducted, and stolen from.  It goes down to the next generation, generally BUT it seems in this case that the positive factor in the case was Jaycee herself, despite being stolen at age 11, raped repeatedly, impregnated twice by her kidnapper (!!), and I’ve not yet heard how or where these children were born, and then falsely imprisoned by the kidnappers’ WIFE, for 5 months, while he did time (again) for violating parole.

The story of Jaycee Dugard, and the Garridos has caught the public attention.  Jaycee and her two daughters’ escape, after 18 years of captivity and abuse,  is close to a miracle, given the odds.  The latest round indicates that, amazingly, the daughters turned out really WELL (Jaycee was a great Mom), and, even in prosecution, Mrs. Garrido is going to take a harder hit than Mr., charged with more crimes and be held to a higher standard.

As the public engages in self-flagellation in some categories (why wasn’t he caught?  We never knew!) and self-exoneration in others (what a creep!  That would never happen in OUR neighborhood).  After the sense of communal “monday night quarterbacking,” analyses, shock, awe, relief, heartwarming tales of family reunion and indignation (particularly with the female Garrido), and eventually, back to business as usual.  News has been sold, tales have been told, and we all must get on with life til the next shock, outrage, awe, and “we never knew” story hits the headlines.

Sometimes this won’t take long:

Cops:  Lodi Correction worker held wife captive 22 months

Published online on Friday, Sep. 04, 2009

The Associated Press

LODI, CALIF. A corrections worker is under arrest for allegedly abusing his wife while holding her captive in the couple’s Lodi home for nearly two years.

The victim’s ordeal ended Thursday when police arrived at the home in response to a 911 call. When they arrived, the 44-year-old woman ran toward one of the police cars and tried to jump through an open passenger window.

She told authorities that her husband, Michael O’Riley, had sexually abused her, threatened her and denied her food and money for nearly 22 months.

O’Riley, a counselor at the Rio Cosumnes Correctional Center, has been arrested on suspicion of kidnapping, false imprisonment, sex crimes and terrorist threats, among other charges. Police say they also seized nine firearms from him.

Police say his wife is being housed at an undisclosed location.

 

Was this just a normal marriage that went south?  Or had she been targeted for “use” before marriage, and actually feeding her was becoming bothersome?  Was it the economy, and lack of materials on what marriage is really about?  Well, speculate for yourself:

LODI, Calif. — A Northern California corrections worker is being held on suspicion of sexually abusing his Chinese immigrant wife and holding her captive for nearly two years.

 

Authorities say Michael O’Riley, 60, a social worker at a prison outside Sacramento, (!! ) (!! ) was arrested Thursday after his 44-year-old wife called police and reported he was threatening to kill her. The woman told police O’Riley forced her to perform sex acts, deprived her of food and took her places against her will over the last 22 months after he married her four years ago and brought her to the United States, said Cpl. Dale Eubanks, a Lodi police spokesman.

 

16 year age difference.  Kind of makes you wonder about what makes a social worker tick, eh?  There are some good apples, some bad apples in the bunch.

 

“It got to the point where she feared for her life,” he said.

 

When officers were near the home Thursday, the woman ran toward the patrol car and jumped through an open passenger window.

 

O’Riley was arrested as he was loading several firearms into his truck, Eubanks said. He was apparently carrying $23,000 in cash.

 

“Way to go,” Lodi. . . . 

Lodi is making news with the fight over whether or not city officials can invoke the name of Jesus in public.  Indignant Christian groups have taken up the noble cause.  {{Prayer Warrior former navy Chaplain exhorts “invite every Christian in California!”}}

But this woman was invisible, so no one took up HER causes:   (1) eating and (2) escaping.  I wonder whether she  invoked that name, called 911, or both.  I’ll bet it wasn’t easy to get to the phone (and take that risk) when dealing with a professional trained in the corrections industry.  How’d you like to weigh the odds between 9 firearms and a 911 call?

How about THIS woman, who didn’t have time for 9-1-1, besides her hands were full, holding her 4 year old daughter:

  “Suspect at large after shooting wife to death.“

 

Published online on Saturday, Aug. 29, 2009

The Associated Press

 

 

LOS ANGELES — Los Angeles police are searching for a man who shot his wife to death and wounded his 11-year-old son in front of three other children.

 

Lt. Walt Teague says 36-year-old Carlos Anibal Lopez opened fire during a family fight late Friday in the West Adams district.

 

Teague says the man’s 36-year-old wife was holding her 4-year-old daughter when she was shot in the forehead. The woman was pronounced dead at the scene. The child was uninjured.

 

At least one bullet grazed the head of a 11-year-old boy. He was taken to a hospital.

 

Teague says the couple’s daughter, a girl about 10, gave police an account of what happened.

 

11 yr old son + 3 other children = 4.    11, 10, and 4 yr olds = 3 kids, so another mystery child got to witness intimate partner assassination.  3 are now motherless and now at least temporarily fatherless.  So if they grow up to be at-risk,

so if they grow up to be at-risk, substance abusers, WOMAN abusers, self-abusers or engage in promiscuous sex, or any other risky behaviors, sooner or later they, too, are “at risk” of becoming the target population for another government study stating that the social crisis of our times is “fatherlessness.”  And this is indeed what they are “at risk” of becoming, unless there are some countering positive attachments and values they can create and get help healing from this experience.

Investigators have found Lopez’s vehicle abandoned with a gun left inside.

This family had a man in the home, too, like healthy marriages are supposed to:

Police: Man shoots wife, tells son, ‘Let her die’

Published online on Friday, Aug. 28, 2009

 

The Associated Press

 

YORK, Pa. — Police say a Pennsylvania man shot his wife then told the couple’s 18-year-old son to “just let her die.”

 

York police say 50-year-old Francis Plaza is heard in the background of the 911 call as his 18-year-old son was summoning help.

 

Authorities say Plaza can be heard saying, “Just let her die, boy. Let her die.”

 

Plaza is charged in the July 25 slaying of Michelle Plaza. He has admitted killing his wife but maintains it was not premeditated.

 

He is due in court for an arraignment on Sept. 25.

 

Everyone has their favorite causes to get indignant over.  While women like these are fighting for their lives (and sometimes losing that battle), our government has another goal in mind, and powerful policies & procedures to make it happen:

	Contracts	$310,620,677,722
	Grants	$402,220,049,067
	Loans	$38,911,442
	Insurance	$4,499,573,186
	Direct Payments	$59,147,547,147
	Other Assistance	$38,112,170,774

(See site for disclaimers, descriptions)

Of these grants, the LARGEST chunk is going to the Department of Health and Human Services, which is a VERY nebulous term to start with, and the NEXT largest chunk to the Department of Education, at which it’s acknowledged the U.S. is failing when compared to other “developed” countries.   Viewing the pie below, it seems clear that our Federal Government values several things higher than the most basic infrastructure of life:  Housing, Transportation, and Food (agriculture) and is more interested (or invested, for sure) in the ones dealing with values formation and endlessly studying and (re)defining the words “health” not to mention “humans.”

	DEPARTMENT OF HEALTH AND HUMAN SERVICES
	DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION
	DEPARTMENT OF HOUSING AND URBAN DEVELOPMENT
	DEPARTMENT OF TRANSPORTATION
	DEPARTMENT OF AGRICULTURE

Here is (only) prosperous business (out of Oklahoma) getting significant grants for promoting health in the marital & family arena:

Assistance to Recipient(s) “Public Strategies Inc.”
(FY 2000-2009)

Summary

While USASPENDING.GOV (when I searched on “Public Strategies Inc.”) came up with grants in 2007 & 2008 only, totalling “$8,397,864 “only,” the SAME “recipient” search on another site, http://www.taggs.hhs.gov produced another year of grants, and another $3,000,000 of them, too.  So much for the accuracy of the former site.  Incidentally, ALL of these grants come under 93.086, which is a searchable program on the TAGGS site and NOT a searchable program (readily) or even listed under HHS “programs” on the USASpending.gov site, which gets its figures from the gov’t to start with.  

Recipient: PUBLIC STRATEGIES INC  Recipient ZIP Code: 73116

I’m not sure whether the Garrido case is or is not representative of the level to which we have “developed” since 1776.

The post-mortems continue in an attempt to explain why they were a “THEM” but we are an “US.”  

 Here is some of Garrido’s ramblings, attempting to save the world and I guess to achieve some immortality (added July 2010), and the comments below responding to it run the gamut as well.  But I think it illustrates (to an extreme) where some people’s religious heads can get at when not tuned into the concrete practicalities of life — like LAWS

GARRIDO’S 1972 (NOT 1976, WHICH WAS MENTIONED IN LAST BLOG) RAPE CASE

 

(09-03) 15:58 PDT ANTIOCH — Antioch police said today that they do not intend to pursue for a second time allegations that accused kidnapper Phillip Craig Garrido raped and drugged a 14-year–old girl in 1972.

Garrido was charged by Contra Costa County prosecutors in 1972 after he allegedly assaulted the girl in an Antioch motel, but the case was dropped after the teenager decided not to testify, police Lt. Leonard Orman said at a news conference today.

The alleged victim contacted police after Garrido and his wife, Nancy, were arrested last week on charges that they kidnapped Jaycee Dugard in South Lake Tahoe in 1991, when she was 11, and held her for 18 years.

The woman was not interested in pressing her case, Orman said, but wanted to make sure that investigators looking into the Dugard matter were aware of the 1972 incident. Other investigators said the statute of limitations on rape in that era was three years.

Orman said the department had records showing that police arrested Phillip Garrido, then 21, on April 17, 1972, on suspicion of rape, contributing to the delinquency of a minor and providing drugs to a minor.

The girl told investigators that she and a female friend had met up with Garrido and another man at the Antioch Public Library and had gotten into a car with them.

OK, NO MORE GETTING INTO CARS WITH MEN AT LIBRARIES, GIRLS!!  MOMS, DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR JUST-TEENAGED DAUGHTERS ARE AFTER SCHOOL?  ARE YOU WORKING BECAUSE CHILD SUPPORT AIN’T COMING IN?  OR ARE YOU, AS OUR PRESIDENT WANTS US TO, GOING BACK TO SCHOOL?  OR ARE YOU MARRIED, AND STILL WORKING . . . .  WORKING  . . . . HOUSECLEANING . ..COOKING. . .  AND HAVING A HEALTHY MARRIAGE. . . . 

She said she had later awakened at a motel on East 18th Street and contacted her parents, saying Garrido had raped her and given her barbiturates, Orman said.

The police were contacted, and Garrido was arrested within days, police said.

Because many years have passed, the original case file was destroyed, police said. Orman said he did not know whether Garrido‘s reported companion had been arrested.  (THAT’S REASSURING….)

Garrido was convicted in 1977 of kidnapping a woman in South Lake Tahoe and driving her to Reno, where he imprisoned her in a storage unit and raped her repeatedly. He served just over 10 years of a 50-year sentence and was paroled in 1988.

Orman said police were releasing information about the 1972 case now to address questions from the media and to ask that reporters refrain from contacting the alleged victim. Her name was not released.

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DID the kidnapped, raped, held hostage, pimped out (at a minimum for Garrido’s printing business, it appears) young mother who had no “father” (other than the rapist, and any other men brought in contact with them, about which we have no definitive information) behave IRresponsibly as a mother?  After all, wasn’t that a female-headed household? Or did Phil Garrido count as a male role model?

(09-03) 12:13 PDT LOS ANGELES ––

Kidnap victim Jaycee Lee Dugard has done “a truly amazing job” raising the two daughters allegedly fathered by her abductor, giving them an education while all three were kept captive in a backyard compound in Antioch, her aunt said today.

. . . 

Dugard, 29, is with her mother, Terry Probyn, her two daughters, ages 11 and 15, and her younger sister “in a secluded place, reconnecting,” Tina Dugard said at a televised news conference at the FBI’s Los Angeles office. . . . 

“I was with them until recently,” she said. “We spent time sharing memories and stories and getting to know each other again. Jaycee remembers all of us.

Dugard’s daughters, the older one reportedly named Starlet and the younger one Angel, are faring well and are quite bright, despite never having attended school, Tina Dugard said.

She called them “clever, articulate and curious.”

“Although they have no formal education, they are certainly educated,” she said. “Jaycee did a truly amazing job with the limited resources and education that she herself had, and we are so proud of her.”

She declined to take questions or discuss her niece’s time with the Garridos.

NANCY GARRIDO:

 ”

“Participant: Nancy Garrido is facing more charges than her husband for the abduction and systematic abused (sic) suffered by Jaycee Lee Dugard”

THIS WOMAN MAY BE IN MORE TROUBLE THAN HER HUSBAND, PHILLIP…..

Garrido’s Wife Kept Jaycee While He Was in Prison

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=8468178

Nancy Garrido, the wife of Jaycee Dugard’s accused kidnapper, has a serious legal problem in her defense: She apparently kept the girl prisoner for a five month period while her husband Phillip Garrido went to prison for violating his parole, her lawyer acknowledged today.

 

A look at the role Phillip Garrido’s wife might have played in the kidnapping.

But Nancy Garrido’s lawyer suggested today that she was powerless to free the girl because she was under the control of Phillip Garrido.

 

I CAN’T WAIT TO FIND OUT WHETHER ANOTHER WOMAN IS GOING TO TRY THIS DEFENSE REGARDING MY DAUGHTERS….IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO THEM. . . . . 

“If she’s being controlled, he doesn’t have to be there physically. If she’s being controlled, she’s being controlled,” Nancy Garrido’s attorney Gilbert Maines told “Good Morning America” today.

“I guess I would say she’s a victim,” he said.

Maines said he has only had the case for five days and has met with Nancy Garrido twice. So far he has not seen “any evidence whatsoever” in order to formulate a defense for his client.

Nancy Garrido faces the same 29 felony charges her husband does for Dugard’s abduction in 1991, including committing a forcible lewd act upon a child. During her arraignment last week she repeatedly put her face in her hands and sobbed.

Maines said today that Garrido remains in an emotional state and said she misses the two girls, Angel and Starlet, that her husband fathered with Dugard.

 

A look at the role Phillip Garrido’s wife might have played in the kidnapping.

 

One of the many legal dilemmas Nancy Garrido faces is what she did during five months when Phillip was serving a prison sentence for violating his parole in 1993, just two years after Dugard was snatched off a school bus stop. Dugard was still only 13 when Phillip Garrido was returned to prison.

But Nancy Garrido clearly made no effort to send Dugard home during that time.

“If she was there alone with the girl for an extended period of time, then it would defy logic and common sense for her not to know that this is a stranger in their home and you know criminal activity is afoot,” said ABC News consultant Dana Cole.

Yeah, and we all run OUR lives by “logic and common sense, too.”  

Well, his job is to defend her.  The question comes up, where are all these easily controllable and gullible, and/or don’t know right from wrong WOMEN coming from?  ??  Are they being mass-produced in some institution, or is this just an inherent part of human nature that, but for the grace of God, there might WE go too?

Here’s a (sensationalist, and self-promoting, probably) opinion from a UK on-line.  The author wrote a book about a similar case:

Is this the new Rose West?  It’s beyond belief Nancy Garrido didn’t know what was going on.

• (Geoffrey Wansell.  Above photo from this source);  Aug. 31, 

2009, updated 6:43pm, the Mail On-line.

On Saturday, Californian prosecutors claimed she played an ‘equal role’ with her husband in their crimes, and charged her directly with kidnapping the blonde Jaycee Lee Dugard ‘for sexual purposes’. 

 

They also accused her of ‘forcible rape‘, ‘committing a forcible lewd act upon a child‘ and ‘false imprisonment by violence‘. She faces no fewer than 16 charges – three MORE than her husband.  

 

THIS IS SIMPLY NOT UNCOMMON IN ANY CULTURE — THE DOUBLE STANDARD.  I HAVE MIXE

 

As the case unfolds, the world will ask how this apparently ordinary Californian woman – who never had children of her own – could have participated in the enforced subjugation of Jaycee.

Just curious, I looked up “Oxytocin, Motherhood, bonding”  People were meant to feel good.  This includes sex, having children, nursing and taking care of them, and having intimate relationships with other human beings.  Hormones are involved in this.  Get people deprived too long, it can get kind of crazy, go in other directions, who knows and what not.  This is speculation on my part, but I KNOW how having children changed and empowered me, and in particular right after they were gone.

This is not going to be a pleasant topic to bring up, but SOMETIMES certain types of people cluster around professions that give them this feel-good feeling by being around children.  Now, because this includes me, maybe I can say it without too much flak.  But as a mother, I also SAW the reactions of people to our kids.  And different people handled it differently.  Some were FINE interacting with them (when little) and acknowledging me as their mother also.  And others, won’t mention names, had a serious issue with this and seemed threatened by this.  It’s a difference of approach one can sense.  Of the latter, many were teachers.

ANyhow, as to them hormones, we have a strait-laced Jehovah’s witness with an uncle in jail for (something), marrying a man in prison (bring out that motherly, helping instinct, pity?  which otherwise might go to one’s own kids…..)  

(HEY!  If this Brit can speculate from across a continent AND the Atlantic ocean, I can too, OK?)

Oxytocin, motherhood and bonding 

KM Kendrick

KM Kendrick

 
Experimental Physiology 85.90001 pp 111-124
© The Physiological Society 2000

Experimental Physiology, Vol 85, Suppl 1, 111S-124S
Copyright © 2000 by The Physiological Society

Release of the peptide hormone oxytocin in the brain has been shown to influence both maternal, sexual and social bonding behaviours although there are a number of species differences. This review summarizes findings on the distributions of oxytocin and oxytocin receptors in the brain, together with factors governing their expression, release of the peptide in the brain and its behavioural actions. A model of how oxytocin may act to alter maternal and socio–sexual behaviours is proposed which initially involves activation of oxytocin neurones in a single brain site, the paraventricular nucleus of the hypothalamus (PVN), following vaginal and cervical stimulation. {{Sex, Childbirth, eh?]] This causes a co–ordinated release of the peptide in the PVN and its terminal projection regions for up to 1 h and this promotes different behavioural components, primarily through modulation of classical transmitter systems. 

OK, back to the Nancy Garrido is in some serious trouble article from the UK:

 

But as the official biographer of the late serial killer Frederick West, I am utterly convinced that Garrido, like Rosemary, not only knew what her husband was doing but was an active participant in the depraved abduction of Jaycee.

 

But why does a woman take part in such depravity? Details of Nancy‘s life story are still sketchy, but from the scraps of information which have already come to light, a sinister pattern is taking shape.

 

Psychologists suggest that a woman such as this, who fell for a convicted sex offender and then married him in jail, is subconsciously putting herself into his hands for abuse. 

 

(This is not an apparently ordinary Californian woman)(Is that Male or Female Psychologists?  Or both).

 

Seeing him as glamorous, and worldly, {{according to??}} she would do anything he asked, even though – it is reported – he rarely had sex with her.  Nancy Garrido, like Rosemary West, might also come from an abusive family herself.

 

{{Well, what was her UNCLE in Leavenworth prison for??   That she was visiting.  Musta wanted a male role model, and been a sympathetic, empathetic kind of young lady?  SO – – – was it fatherlessness or abuse, that is causing the social ills of our time?  Or just the climate of the times??}}

 

It is significant that so far we have heard nothing from her parents or relatives – unusual in a high profile case such as this.

 

{{If you were an adult parent of this woman, would you come rushing forward to claim ownership?}}

 

What we do know is that Nancy seems to have been raised as a Jehovah‘s Witness.

 

{{BINGO!   OK, friends we are now learning something.  Anyone know how controlling this international witnessing proselytizing group is?  Particularly of women (let alone the men?  The rigorously prescribed behavior, the isolation from the mainstream lifestyle, the dress codes, the drills?  I‘ve seen some things in recent days, locally, that really concern me.  If you read this blog, you know I‘m a Christian, and kinda tough on the religious strains in general, but this one point speaks loudly to me.}}

 

She met Garrido – who was then serving 50 years for the rape and abduction of a 25–year–old casino waitress in Reno, Nevada in 1977* – while visiting an uncle who was also a prisoner at Le(a)venworth prison in Kansas.  {{*AND SHE KNEW THIS?}}

 

Psychologists think that Nancy, naive, impressionable and sexually inexperienced, would have been impressed, sexualised and then overpowered by Garrido‘s stories of sexual brutality.  {{I‘ll bet that‘s true, given the background}}

 

Meanwhile, she served an added purpose for Garrido – she was proof to the prison authorities that he was reformed.

 

Readers, you GOT that?  Now translate this into the Family Law Arena.  

2nd wife, 2nd women, etc., when there was abuse, I mean Violence!, the first time round?

 

 

The fact that they married behind bars in 1988, and he was released shortly afterwards, proves how valuable she was. She gave him what seemed like a family life, and, by implication, proved that he would not offend again.

 

You GOT it?    I know I do:  the author has a point.

No one has given me a Federal GRANT from the OVW or elsewhere for this common sense (yet), but let me EXPLICATE one possible (common) scenario of domestic violence in the custody arena.  

If I had a Ph.D. in this topic, I’d probably be considered an “expert” and get paid — a LOT — to miss the obvious.  However, I have a different kind of “Ph.D.” — experiencing excuses being piled higher and deeper for years, from this man, and later others, for years afterwards, in litigation in the family law arena.  And this one, “But I have a woman now” was indeed used (post-repeated violations of custody orders) – and worked like a charm.  It was a brilliant strategy, and in our FAMILY-oriented society, 

not to mention misogynist (that’s “sexist,” against the females, folks…) society, a man behaving badly with a woman in tow is worth a woman working and behaving reasonably without a man in tow.  I WONDER if this Garrido case is going to change that.  I doubt it….

Scenario 1: 

(NOTE:  I’m not personally aware of any such scenarios, but I guess they aren’t the ones showing up in family court arena, or thereafter on newspaper headlines).

Violence, domestic violence, did indeed cause separation.  The man who formerly was very violent indeed repented — had a GENUINE change of heart (not a feeling of personal sorrow that finally some consequences came his way, and interrupted whatever good feeling or other wierd perks that the violence — which is intended to control, generally — brought his way), and gets help.  The woman, after some time to heal, can indeed tell the difference, and welcomes the father of her kids back.

. . . . And with proper (ongoing, of course) therapy from the US Department of Health and Human Services, Responsible Fatherhood and Healthy Marriage grants (local service agency), and a bit of coaching from a faith-based community organization, they get it together again and live happily ever after, sparing the children, the next generation, from the dangerous, high-risk and traumatic situation of being raised in a fatherless (a.k.a. female-headed) household, i.e., not having a REAL man around.

Scenario 2:  (Much more common, I’d bet):

Violence, domestic violence, did indeed cause separation.  Frustrated and irate, the man changes for a while, meanwhile stewing how to get even and get back at this woman for upsetting the pattern of dominance that had served him (if not her, or the kids) pretty well up to date, in cluding social acceptance for having a family.  PARTICULARLY in religious circles or other places where this is highly valued and a gauge of success/character in life.  

What to do?  She got custody, temporarily, he did not.

Solution:  Find another woman to lend legitimacy, and help with the removal of children from first woman.  Added benefit to controllers:  .  

Gets to stand on the sidelines a bit (abuse takes diligence and work!  It gets tiring.  Batterers and child molesters need to take a break every now and then, when’s a guy to get some sleep??) and watch the catfight

Phillip Garrido (above) needed to take a break to go back to prison again:  3 hots and a cot for 5 months.  I wonder if he was worried that his former efforts would”ve been in vain, and he ”’d go have to kidnap, drug and domesticate ANOTHER 11 year old…  Rather than keep the home-grown ones about to come out of Jaycee.  Plus, he” d have to locate and charm another “enabler.”

 

Garrido took Nancy back to his mother Patricia‘s house in Antioch – Patricia was separated from Garrido‘s–father, Manuel.

The manipulative, shrewd Garrido would then have brought both women steadily under his spell – his mother would have become ever more dependent as she descended into dementia.

 

And it could well be that Nancy‘s religious upbringing as a Jehovah‘s Witness provided her new husband with another means of manipulating her – telling her, as he was to tell the world, that God spoke directly to him.

 

This author clearly hasn’t been hanging around Jehovah’s witnesses.  It’s not necessary to claim direct personal revelation.  She’d be groomed, by men and women both, by the general culture (which IS — and intentionally so — an alternate lifestyle) and there’s that verse applied universally to the men around, “go ask your husband at home.”  

 

Religion would be a powerful tool in the hands of a man who wanted nothing more than to manipulate – and ultimately humiliate – any woman with whom he had a relationship.

And if there IS a God (I believe there is…) these institutions will have a LOT to answer for why they didn’t protect women in their ranks from creeps like this — or at least how to tell a GOOD apple from a ROTTEN apple.

The fact is, many churches (cannot speak for the others) these days are desperate for men, so they have adjusted their teaching to appeal to this.  Men bring in tithes, too.  There is a backlash against being seen as at all “feminine.”  See the Catholic (Knights of Columbus, as I recall) “Fathersforgood.org” for some clues.  

Think I’m kidding?  See:  http://www.themanlymanconference.com/  “There will be no singing, crying, no holding of hands, and no altar calls

“

I’d tell you more about this one, but it appears to have a membership and log-in….

 

I am certain that Nancy Garrido, like Rosemary West, was groomed and manipulated by her violent husband. But that does not make either woman innocent – they did what they did willingly.

 

I certainly wouldn‘t be surprised to hear that Nancy helped her husband rape Jaycee Lee Dugard. Rosemary West did precisely that with her stepdaughter Anne–Marie, just as she did with her own daughters thereafter. Fred insisted he had to ‘break them in‘ for sex, as early as the age of eight – and Rosemary went along with it.

 

The ‘alternative universe‘ that Nancy‘s husband had created for her behind their tumbledown shack in Antioch had become the only world she knew – her reality. In that distorted reality, her treatment of Jaycee was normal.

They also accused her of ‘forcible rape’, ‘committing a forcible lewd act upon a child’ and ‘false imprisonment by violence’. She faces no fewer than 16 charges – three MORE than her husband.  As the case unfolds, the world will ask how this apparently ordinary Californian woman – who never had children of her own – could have participated in the enforced subjugation of Jaycee.  As the case unfolds, the world will ask how this apparently ordinary Californian woman – who never had children of her own – could have participated in the enforced subjugation of Jaycee.

But as the official biographer of the late serial killer Frederick West, I am utterly convinced that Garrido, like Rosemary, not only knew what her husband was doing but was an active participant in the depraved abduction of Jaycee.

But why does a woman take part in such depravity? Details of Nancy’s life story are still sketchy, but from the scraps of information which have already come to light, a sinister pattern is taking shape.

Psychologists suggest that a woman such as this, who fell for a convicted sex offender and then married him in jail, is subconsciously putting herself into his hands for abuse. 

(This is not an apparently ordinary Californian woman)(Is that Male or Female Psychologists?  Or both).

Seeing him as glamorous, and worldly, {{according to??}} she would do anything he asked, even though – it is reported – he rarely had sex with her.  Nancy Garrido, like Rosemary West, might also come from an abusive family herself.

{{Well, what was her UNCLE in Leavenworth prison for??   That she was visiting.  Musta wanted a male role model, and been a sympathetic, empathetic kind of young lady?  SO – – – was it fatherlessness or abuse, that is causing the social ills of our time?  Or just the climate of the times??}}

It is significant that so far we have heard nothing from her parents or relatives – unusual in a high profile case such as this.

{{If you were an adult parent of this woman, would you come rushing forward to claim ownership?}}

What we do know is that Nancy seems to have been raised as a Jehovah’s Witness.

{{BINGO!   OK, friends we are now learning something.  Anyone know how controlling this international witnessing proselytizing group is?  Particularly of women (let alone the men?  The rigorously prescribed behavior, the isolation from the mainstream lifestyle, the dress codes, the drills?  I’ve seen some things in recent days, locally, that really concern me.  If you read this blog, you know I’m a Christian, and kinda tough on the religious strains in general, but this one point speaks loudly to me.}}

She met Garrido – who was then serving 50 years for the rape and abduction of a 25-year-old casino waitress in Reno, Nevada in 1977* – while visiting an uncle who was also a prisoner at Le(a)venworth prison in Kansas.  {{*AND SHE KNEW THIS?}}

Psychologists think that Nancy, naive, impressionable and sexually inexperienced, would have been impressed, sexualised and then overpowered by Garrido’s stories of sexual brutality.  {{I’ll bet that’s true, given the background}}

Meanwhile, she served an added purpose for Garrido – she was proof to the prison authorities that he was reformed.

The fact that they married behind bars in 1988, and he was released shortly afterwards, proves how valuable she was. She gave him what seemed like a family life, and, by implication, proved that he would not offend again.

Garrido took Nancy back to his mother Patricia’s house in Antioch – Patricia was separated from Garrido’s-father, Manuel.

The manipulative, shrewd Garrido would then have brought both women steadily under his spell – his mother would have become ever more dependent as she descended into dementia.

And it could well be that Nancy’s religious upbringing as a Jehovah’s Witness provided her new husband with another means of manipulating her – telling her, as he was to tell the world, that God spoke directly to him.

Religion would be a powerful tool in the hands of a man who wanted nothing more than to manipulate – and ultimately humiliate – any woman with whom he had a relationship.

I am certain that Nancy Garrido, like Rosemary West, was groomed and manipulated by her violent husband. But that does not make either woman innocent – they did what they did willingly.

I certainly wouldn’t be surprised to hear that Nancy helped her husband rape Jaycee Lee Dugard. Rosemary West did precisely that with her stepdaughter Anne-Marie, just as she did with her own daughters thereafter. Fred insisted he had to ‘break them in’ for sex, as early as the age of eight – and Rosemary went along with it.

The ‘alternative universe’ that Nancy’s husband had created for her behind their tumbledown shack in Antioch had become the only world she knew – her reality. In that distorted reality, her treatment of Jaycee was normal.