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Ten Posts, Plus One, of nearly 600 published, Covering Basic Issues (+ abstracts)

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[I’m “unsticking” ten posts formerly held near the top of blog, a.k.a., redecorating..for functionality  ..and out of boredom looking at the same thing every day..This post is “sticky” and stays on top.  New posts are beneath the ones marked “This post is sticky.” Also note, I often revise or expand (alas) after (at times long after) publishing. WYSIWYG..] First, the “Plus One.”  Regarding biotech, pharmaceutical, and gene-tinkering disruptive technology corporations — don’t mistakenly think they have nothing to do with the family courts, or kids in foster care and other vulnerable populations.  SOMEbody has to fund studies, and someone has to become the subject matter of them; we are all interrelated — in our various assigned sectors. Read the rest of this entry »

What It’s Still About….(… in Summer 2013)

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(Post title changed to remove “Election Year Update 2012.” The message is still appropriate now….Also in reviewing this post (and adding some quotes) I’m temporarily moving the “more” link further down the page, (in other words, the “abstract” is almost post-length) to call attention to the material.)


[This post is “sticky” and stays on top.  New posts are beneath . ..Some additions, March 2013…(As I learn more, it shows up on the blog). ~ Or see “The Last Seven Let’s Get Honest Posts” links, on sidebar ~ better yet, See also my other blog Cold,Hard.Fact$]; 


This blog has VALUABLE INSIGHT on the family courts money trail (a trail of tears), and about many crisis intervention groups who are in on it (and hence, won’t blog it), and from some of whom I sought help, solace, or actionable information — and got NONE.  


Question: WHY would any group which truly wants to save lives withhold relevant information, tools to find that information, and prior ground-breaking conversations about that information — in the amounts of billions of dollars of federal incentives to the statesaffecting — custody outcomes (as to the child support system, HHS/OCSE) while feeding less helpful information to their clients?Another Question: You should also ask why — where is that money coming from, and why does our government always want to raise taxes when they can’t keep track of what they already collected (MUCH more than is commonly realized) and when a lot of that is simply fed to fraudulent or evanescent corporations that don’t stay registered at the state level?

When it’s a matter of eminent domain and someone gets sued over bribery, then it makes headlines and people get indignant. Daily News 2001, Los Angeles Area.

COURT MAY RECEIVE CLOSE AUDIT. 2001. Similarly, and around the same years, other people were asking questions about “court-connected” funds of a different sort. 2002, this one, there was a series of articles:‘SLUSH FUND’ PROBE POSSIBLE KUEHL MAY ASK FOR INQUIRY INTO JUDGES’ PROCEEDS.[one has to actually read these – I’m not outlining them for those who won’t….]
This one in PARTICULAR shows that in 1999ff Marv Bryer and others were doing what I do now — reading tax returns, looking at the fronts of checks, looking at the BACKS of checks, and noticing that what’s written out to ONE fund sometimes gets deposited into another, which fund happens to be a private judges’ association.

Here’s a yet more detailed one (best: read the series; see “related articles”):

GILDING THE GAVEL? SUPERIOR COURT PAYMENTS DEPOSITED IN JUDGES’ PRIVATE ‘COFFEE’ FUND.

(Now that you’ve read it, naturally, with attention…..)

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Children’s Institute, Project Fatherhood(tm), and Fatherhood Nonprofits that make you go “Huh?”

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(with respect to the late Dr. Hershel K. Swinger, I cannot respect using TANF and other funds to proselytize, and then cheating the California out of transparency and accountability).

(And I SURE as heck don’t respect anyone using the US Government to try to evangelize ANYone!)

This is a SHAMELESS transmigration from a long (project) I’ve been posting over at Scranton Political Times Kids for Cash thread.  ALthough it’s actually in response to Joe Pilchesky having posted a SAVING DAMON case (from Southern Cal / San Diego area, and with full panoply of Protective Mothers Rhetoric and groups) on there.  Totally out of character for him, but I then decided to look closer at the situation and open my big mouth.

(Better understood in the larger context) I feel sorry for mothers who are (like I was) led around by the nose to become activist before they activate common sense lookups of who they’re dealing with — both as advocates and as adversaries in the court system.  For example — get this — Cindy Dumas had somehow a declaration (on her behalf) on “William Eddy” complaint form, but signed by Erik Fox, Ph.D. (who runs sexual abuser treatment programs all over, and actually recommended “abuse inoculation” treatment for Damon, Mom & Dad.  I gather that hasn’t happened yet. [The Rest of This Comment on nonreporting [to California] $40million-budgetChildren’s Institute in Los Angeles, incl. its “Project Fatherhood(sm)”]: I’m trying to find out exactly what it is!

Outlaw_Wild_DoubleBill-KickbackCourts wrote:


Things that make you go “Huh?” In that chart below (TAGGS list of “fatherhood” grantees — at least a few of them) notice the one “Children’s Institute, Inc.” of Los Angeles?  Grant (for 2010) two different grants — $1,000,000 + $500,000 ???  That’s a hefty amount, right? I looked at this one before, and the pattern is just TO O o o o…. common: One has to usually check at least 3 to 4 sources AFTER seeing the HHS grant:

1. State Incorporation record (SOS),

2. State Charitable Record (if they’re a nonprofit or taking donations),

3. Sample check some IRS forms (I use “Foundationfinder” or “Nccsdataweb.urban.org”) — and actually look at a tax form (it gets easier with practice) . . . . and then

4.  what does their website say as well? 

Here we go: 1. California Corporation (Sec of State) registration — there are TWO with the exact same street address (which doesn’t match address on HHS grantee, either).

C3365104 03/30/2011 ACTIVE CHILDREN’S INSTITUTE OF LOS ANGELES MARY EMMONS
C0085636 12/13/1917 ACTIVE CHILDREN’S INSTITUTE, INC. MARK ENGEL
For Fiscal 2010 (year cited on Saving Damon fatherhood funds) they got: (“budget yr” = yr of that particular program:  1,2,3 etc.):

Progr Office Award Number Award Title Bud-get Year Action Issue Date CFDA # CFDA Name Award Action Type Principal Investigator Sum of Actions
CB  90CB0159 ABANDONED INFANT ASSISTANCE  05/03/2010  93551  Abandoned Infants  EXTENSION WITH OR WITHOUT FUNDS  MR LUKAS JAEGGI  $ 0 
CB  90CB0159 ABANDONED INFANT ASSISTANCE  09/13/2010  93551  Abandoned Infants  NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION  MR LUKAS JAEGGI  $ 475,000 
CMHS  SM058241 CENTRAL LOS ANGELES CHILD TRAUMA COLLABORATIVE  02  10/21/2009  93243  Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: Projects of Regional and National Significance  ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS)  LESLIE A ROSS  $ 0 
CMHS  SM058241 CENTRAL LOS ANGELES CHILD TRAUMA COLLABORATIVE  04  06/25/2010  93243  Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: Projects of Regional and National Significance  NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION  LESLIE A ROSS  $ 400,000 
HSB  09CH9080 EARLY HEAD START  06/04/2010  93600  Head Start  ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS)  KATY KELLEY  $ 2,261 
HSB  09CH9080 EARLY HEAD START  07/26/2010  93600  Head Start  NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION  KATY KELLEY  $ 1,590,930 
HSB  09SA9080 EARLY HEAD START ARRA EXPANSION  11/18/2009  93709  ARRA – Early Head Start  NEW  KATY KELLEY  $ 1,098,417 
HSB  09SA9080 EARLY HEAD START ARRA EXPANSION  08/31/2010  93709  ARRA – Early Head Start  NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION  KATY KELLEY  $ 1,403,640 
HSB  09YC0463 EARLY HEAD START  03/26/2010  93600  Head Start  OTHER REVISION  MANUEL CASTELLANOS, JR.  $- 9,269 
OFA  90FR0076 PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  09/24/2010  93086  Healthy marriage Promotion and Responsible Fatherhood Grants  NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION  HERSHEL SWINGER  $ 500,000 
OFA  90FR0088 PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD, COMMUNITY ACCESS PROGRAM  09/27/2010  93086  Healthy marriage Promotion and Responsible Fatherhood Grants  NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION  HERSHEL SWINGER  $ 1,000,000 

(per IRS form) 2009 salaries of key officers (5 highest) were plenty high: Mary Emmons (see corp. registration) — $310K; Nena Revoyr, $136K, Jeff Catania, $161K, Hershel Swinger, $167K, Kendis Heffley, $131K. (plus retirement & other income from this or related orgs.)). These are the US Trademarks still “LIVE” with the word “Fatherhood” in them.  I didn’t find the one mentioned in the Children’s Institute  descriptions, “Project Fatherhood” But it’s interesting one of them is from a PA corporation.  You can see the details, including first use, whose idea it was and see that someone showed real forethought.  Keeping in mind that welfare reform and the loosening up of federal aid to states for diversions into fatherhood & marriage promotion, both was anticipated — and happened in 1996.

Serial Number Reg. Number Word Mark Check Status Live/Dead
1 77602995 3738768 FATHERHOOD IS SACRED TARR LIVE
2 77013538 3474511 NATIONAL FATHERHOOD INITIATIVE TARR LIVE
3 75442962 2339732 IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD TARR LIVE

Quite a few, eh? PROJECT FATHERHOOD // Dr. HERSHEL K. SWINGER was started in 1996:

July 8, 2011

Strengthening relationships between fathers and their at-risk children

Children’s Institute Hosts 4th Annual Fatherhood Solution Conference 

(very nice youtube tribute to him at the link…)

“Due to the recent passing of Dr. Hershel K. Swinger, CII Senior Vice President and Founder of Project Fatherhood, the morning plenary was a special tribute to his life’s work and accomplishments. Project Fatherhood is a nationally-recognized program for disadvantaged fathers to become more engaged and effective parents. 

“Speakers included Dr. Ken Canfield, president and founder of the<> National Center for Fathering; <> Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis, Director of Pepperdine University’s Culture and Trauma Research Lab, an expert on partner and child abuse and societal trauma due to racism, sexism and poverty; and <> Charles Lee-Johnson, MSWCEO of the National Family Life and Education Center,…”

In reverse order:

  • Charles-Lee Johnson’s Nonprofit, that his father incorporated in 1993:

 

Entity Number Date Filed Status Entity Name Agent for Service of Process
C1724782 05/07/1993 ACTIVE THE NATIONAL FAMILY LIFE & EDUCATION CENTER JOYCE REECE-KITCHEN

EIN# 95-4423621 ; their charity is marked “CURRENT” however they haven’t filed an IRS with the state since 2007, or an RRF (state report) since 2008.  Received a Deliquency warning 6/5/2008:

WARNING OF IMPENDING TAX ASSESSMENT FOR WHICH YOU MAY BE PERSONALLY LIABLE ..The Attorney General has not received your organization’s annual report(s) as follows:…IRS Form 990, 990-PF, or 990-EZ report(s) for the year(s) ending: 06/30/03, 06/30/04, 06/30/06, and 06/30/07

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Fiscal Begin: 01-JUL-09
Fiscal End: 30-JUN-10
Total Assets: $113,732.00
Gross Annual Revenue: $312,375.00
RRF Received: 02-AUG-11
Returned Date:
990 Attached: Y
Status: Accepted
Related Documents
0034C251 Delinquency Letter
0034C25A Founding Documents
0034C25B RRF-1 2008
0034C25C RRF-1 2007
0034C25E IRS Form 990 2007

IRS inconsistent between two sites (State AG vs 990finder).  One year, the top 3 officers are receivng $65,73 & 95K; (is Joyce Johnson his wife?) another year, nothing, or something.  The 2006 tax return at 990finder was stamped received in 2011; etc. etc.  Very inconsistent.  The “2009” filing below is an empty form, basically… They have no direct HHS grants but some of the RRF forms show they did receive two or three sources of gov’t support, inl. DCFS (note:  they are dealing with foster care youth sometimes).  Assets — two chevy vans; — ??

National Family Life and Education Center CA 2009 $0 990R 1 95-4423621
National Family Life and Education Center CA 2010 $113,732 990 19 95-4423621
National Family Life and Education Center CA 2009 $58,470 990 31 95-4423621
National Family Life and Education Center CA 2008 $48,791 990 25 95-4423621
National Family Life and Education Center CA 2007 $136,014 990 24 95-4423621
National Family Life and Education Center CA 2006 $265,681 990 22 95-4423621

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  • the “Dr.” in “Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis” is licensed clinical psychologist:  Duke, Harvard, Princeton, Pepperdine (in Malibu, CA — this university puts out a lot of people who work in the courts also):

http://www.drthema.com/biography/

Dr. Bryant-Davis received her doctorate from Duke University in Clinical Psychology with a focus on the cultural context of trauma recovery, as well as the intersection of gender and racial identity. She completed her post-doctoral training at Harvard Medical Center’s Victims of Violence Program. From 2001-2004, she served as Senior Staff Psychologist and Coordinator of the Princeton University SHARE Program. Dr. Bryant-Davis is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University where she teaches on the topics of indivdiual and family development as well as intimate partner violence. She is a contributing author in the books The Psychology of Racism, The Complete Guide to Mental Health for Women, and Featuring Females: Feminist Analyses of the Media.

Dr. Bryant-Davis served for three years as an American Psychological Association representative to the United Nations where she advocated for mental health and human rights globally

MINISTRY:

Apparently also preaches at her brother’s Mega-Church also:

Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis is a licensed preacher in the African Methodist Episcopal Church. She preached her initial sermon at Empowerment Temple AME Church where the pastor is Rev. Jamal Harrison-Bryant.:

Wikipedia is a little less than neutral (top of page notes), however, after noting that he is a PK (Both Mom & Dad in Baltimore’s AME).  The reference page to where he got his MDiV has been removed as “Unambiguous advertisement, copyright infringement” — very unusual for Wikipedia” 

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“He is the leader of a new breed of ministers who embrace the idea of capitalizing on the ever-increasing marketplace of Internet and technological innovations to spread the gospel. With more than 7,500 members attending weekly services at Empowerment Temple in Baltimore, Maryland, and approximately 35,000 followers on Twitter, Facebook, and MySpace, he believes that “God is not just in the church; He is also in technology.” His mission is to “empower people spiritually, develop them educationally, expose them culturally, activate them politically, and strengthen them economically.”

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FAMILY:   Bryant has four daughters Topaz, Grace, and twins Angel and Adore. They reside in Baltimore. He is also the brother of Thema Simone Bryant Davis.

Mega church pastor Jamal Harrison Bryant and his wife Gizelle are headed to divorce court. After 5 and a half years of marriage Gizelle Bryant filed for a divorce in the Circuit Court for Montgomery County on January 9. The clergyman [i.e. Jamal] also filed divorce papers in Baltimore City Court on the same day, the Baltimore Sun reports.  . . . (then article launches into some more flattery….)

. . . Scandalous rumors of alleged affairs with several women have been rampant since the couple’s engagement. His supposed womanizing went overboard when he impregnated a church member said to be 17 at the time of the time of copulation. [“the time of copulation”deliberate    ]When accusations of this affair surfaced in the Summer of 2007, church leaders asked him to step down while they initiated an investigation and awaited paternity test results. Months after the investigation, Jamal Bryant remains the pastor of Empowerment Temple. Court records acquired from the Circuit Court of Maryland do indicate the pastor is the father of a least one other child who was born before he got married. The couple has a set of 1-year-old twins and a 3-year-old.

As Wikipedia shows, guess he had some of the “evangelizing” [Missionary Position?] (of other women while married) issues common to some in his field.  Baltimore Sun article, 2/16/08 by Samathi Reddy:

Bryant and his wife, a former model, are known for their flashy lifestyle, which includes a Bentley and a multimillion-dollar Canton waterfront property. Their lifestyle has attracted criticism from those who say the church is more about his business enterprises and building wealth than religion. Her original divorce complaint stated that he earned more than $350,000 a year.

He is seeking a “limited divorce,” while his wife has requested an “absolute divorce,” according to papers filed in Baltimore Circuit Court.  A limited divorce is a voluntary legal separation required in Maryland for a year before most absolute divorces. Absolute divorces, however, are allowed immediately under certain circumstances, such as adultery and cruelty. In Gizelle Bryant’s filing last month, she accuses her husband of adultery, cruel treatment and “excessively vicious conduct” that caused “reasonable apprehension of bodily suffering so as to render cohabitation unsafe.” [/spoiler]

One of MANY reasons I’m not too impressed with the concept of soliciting faith-based organizations to teach responsible fatherhood!  However, Dr. Thema Harrison-Bryant is not her brother . . . . More background on their parents’ involvement in civil rights, time in Africa, social justice concern, leadership over many churches

His efforts ( Back to Hershel K. Swinger of The Children’s Institute)  resulted in a major expansion of Project Fatherhood – through funding from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services – to 50 organizations located in various parts of Los Angeles County.”(Very nice obituary in the LA times notes what he did):

Hershel K. Swinger dies at 72; founded a program to aid urban fathers

The clinical psychologist who taught at Cal State L.A. created Project Fatherhood, which has provided therapy, support and training for more than 7,000 low-income urban fathers since 1996.

June 12, 2011|By Elaine Woo, Los Angeles Times

Swinger, a clinical psychologist, was a senior vice president of Children’s Institute who taught counselor education and directed a state-funded child abuse prevention center at Cal State L.A. for many years.

He was the founder and senior director of Project Fatherhood, a program that has provided therapy, support and training for more than 7,000 low-income urban fathers since its inception 15 years ago. Under Swinger’s leadership, it received a $7.5-million federal grant in 2006 to replicate the program in 50 agencies in Los Angeles County. It was recognized as a model program by the Obama administration last year.

Familiar with studies showing that children with absent fathers are far more likely to be poor, abuse drugs, drop out of school and enter the criminal justice system, Swinger believed that focusing on the fathers was a crucial part of the solution.

No mention of “present mothers” or of the fact that since 1996, one of the most dangerous places to be as a mother is attempting to leave violence with children and having a father contest custody — in other words, the climate towards women because of these programs, has become literally hostile.  If indeed those facts ARE so, who is to say or not say that the real cause was “father-absence” or not something else? Is that a universal truth, like gravity — or a social construction? It helps expand a grants program if you are on the advisory council to another foundation: Federal funding allowed Project Fatherhood SM to expand in 2006 across Los Angeles County. Now, through a community grants program*, small faith-based and community organizations have been empowered to replicate the Project Fatherhood SM model in their own neighborhoods. …*The Project Fatherhood SM Community Grants Program is part of the Responsible Fatherhood Initiative funded by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, and the Administration for Children and Families, Office of Family Assistance.

**National Center for Fathering — another Nonprofit:

ORGANIZATION NAME

STATE

YEAR

TOTAL ASSETS

FORM

PAGES

EIN

National Center for Fathering KS 2010 $414,597 990 28 48-1083848
National Center for Fathering KS 2009 $668,266 990 30 48-1083848
National Center for Fathering KS 2008 $541,246 990 29 48-1083848
National Center for Fathering KS 2007 $1,280,008 990 30 48-1083848
National Center for Fathering Inc. KS 2006 $573,780 990 45 48-1083848
National Center for Fathering Inc. KS 2005 $1,471,113 990 29 48-1083848
National Center for Fathering Inc. KS 2004 $719,773 990 23 48-1083848
National Center for Fathering Inc. KS 2003 $355,475 990 23 48-1083848
National Center for Fathering Inc. KS 2002 $241,183 990 22 48-1083848

Purpose of this group (KS location):

LIVE SEMINARS ON STRENGTHENING FATHERS. EDUCATIONAL MATERIALS PROVIDED FOR FATHERS. PROVIDE LEADERSHIP TRAINING FOR FATHERS. RESEARCH FOR ABOVE SERVICES. SEE ATTACHED SCHEDULE OF PROGRAMS.

One employee listed got $62K — that turns out to be severance pay:

“KEN CANFIELD, THE FOUNDER, RECEIVED PAYMENTS FOR SERVICES PROVIDED DURING 2007.

JIM MOORE RECEIVED PAYMENT IN ACCORDANCE WITH HIS SEVERANCE AGREEMENT. ($62K)”

The National Center for Fathering seeks to improve the well-being of children by promoting responsible fatherhood and equipping men to be more engaged in the lives of children. Programmingissummarizedinfourareas: Research,Training,ProgramsandResources.

Training (notice how many are trademarked. (from 2007 tax return: of its budget, $914K that year was “government grants.” So this is what our gov’t is sponsoring:

. TheNationalCenterforFatheringconductslivetrainingseminarstoequipmen for their role as fathers using its research-based curricula. Specific curricula developed by the National Center include : The 7 Secrets of Effective FathersTM,[+ Book, $12.99] Connecting With Your KidsTM Quenching the Father ThirstTM,Dads ofDestinyTM and R.E.A.D. to KidsTM The Center ‘s father training courses all include a version of its Personal Fathering Profile TM, a self-scored assessment that allows dads to compare their fathering practices with a national database. The Center also conducts train-the-trainer workshops to equip locally-based father trainers who work independently in their communities through faith-based,social service and other organizations to equip men.

I guess if all those fathers need train-train-trainers, maybe they ain’t nuttin’ but a hound-dog, and never will be, according to HHS!Either that, or there’s another reason for all this obsession.

~~~This group is in the business of SALES:  Income from Training:  $205K / Honorarium::  $52K (plural); Gross profit from Sales of INVENTORY:  $403K, and “MISCELLANEOUS:  $17K.”
Five highest paid employees (that year) — doin’ all right: (the 2nd # for each is deferred comp/benefits)
RONALD NICHOLS _ _ _TRAINING DIR.:  $91,362. $15 ,043. SCOTT-HUSE ———————— $83 ,650. 11 ,765. STEVE WILSON ___________ DIR. OF FIN:  $82 ,267. 13 ,109. AMOS_JOHNSON_______URBAN FATHERING DIR.: $61 ,551. 11 ,254. BROCK GRIFFIN _ _ _ _PUBLICATIONS DIR.:  $57 ,088. 11 ,456 Key officers make a (total) of $355K + $40K, split between three men: Carey W. Casey, Peter Spokes & Brian Blomberg.. . I noticed also some borrowing, including a $100K loan for which security was “CD of Peter Spokes” etc.  . . . (??)   Carey w. Casey and Obama Whitehouse get along just fine:

Carey Casey honored as a “Champion of Change” – Watch Video

  As Father’s Day approaches there are so many reasons to be encouraged here at the Center … One big reason is an opportunity I had to visit the White House. I was one of ten people honored as “Champions of Change” in the field of fatherhood.  This is an effort by the White House Office of Public Engagement and Office of Faith-Based and Neighborhood Partnerships to promote positive fatherhood, and it’s my privilege to be there and talk about Championship Fathering … “from the White House to the outhouse,” as I always say. I am also humbled. I know that I … [Read More…]

(ET . . .CET. . . eRA). . . .  here’s USPTO.gov — wonder how many of those “tm” items really are “tm” ed! Colorado State marketing a booklet ‘Connecting with your Kids” http://www.courts.state.co.us/userfiles/file/Self_Help/CO_Parenting_Time_Book2004.pdf

Connecting With Your Kids

Copyright © Colorado Foundation for Families and Children

But it thanks Ken Sanders of (the) “Center on Fathering” and a “Colorado Fatherhood Connection”

Notice that in the MIDDLE of “fathers.com” top row of hyperlinks (to other pages) is “STORE” The store page kinda reminds me of the “cooperative parenting institute” store page (Termini & Boyan):

Championship Fathering Wristband

Championship Fathering Wristband 2 Models / Great for Father’s Day Give-Aways!

The 21-Day Dad's Challenge by Carey Casey and others

The 21-Day Dad’s Challengeby Carey Casey & 19 others

Championship Fathering by Carey Casey

Championship Fathering by Carey Casey

52 Things Kids Need from a Dad by Jay Payleitner

52 Things Kids Need from a Dadby Jay Payleitner

52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands by Jay Payleitner

52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands by Jay Payleitner

Some are even on discount!

Monthly Specials For July


Boys! by William Beausay II Boys! by William Beausay II $14.99  $7.49 Save: 50% off


My Grandpa Loves Me! Kids' T-shirts My Grandpa Loves Me! Kids’ T-shirts $11.99  $6.00 Save: 50% off
The Way of the Wild Heart by John Eldredge The Way of the Wild Heart by John Eldredge $22.99  $11.50 Save: 50% off


 

There now — that’s WAY better than actually helping custodial mothers and the children in their house DIRECTLy through, say, child support enforcement — or TANF (food stamps / cash aid) — or else, who knows what might happen? Mom might pick up a pair of extra underwear for her kids, and start feeling more, er independent than is appropriate for faith-based, er, churches… **Re: the woman’s version of abstinence education (for those who don’t know this already) is I guess the counterpart to “every man’s battle” which is aimed at men, and the most obvious of the 10 commandments (in sex realm), thou shalt not commit adultery & I guess thou shalt not covet . . .. http://everymansbattlevideo.com/ While I could care less about the original book, here’s what another Christian commentary says about it, which seems apt:  “Psychoheresies”: http://www.psychoheresy-aware.org/emb112.html [PAL Vol11N2 Apr-May ’03] EMB is loaded with unsubstantiated information…There is no reference to research to support what Arterburn says. When important and critical statements like that are made, the reader is entitled to some proof beyond Arterburn’s personal experiences…”  Faulting Fred’s father is repeated and amplified throughout the book. It is sinful to give such details because it violates the commandment to honor one’s father. Such details also give the impression that it wasn’t really Fred’s fault that he sinned in this way. One gets the distinct impression that Fred is painting a picture of personal victimhood. “the authors do not just refer to these sinful activities by name; they spell out these sinful activities and explicitly express details of “ogling,” sexual dreaming, “sexualized acts,” and “rampant masturbation,” biggrin eeketc. Such explicit details feed the flesh and work to build camaraderie among those men involved in lust. … Author Stephen Arterburn is the founder of the chain of New Life Clinics (p. 3). The clinics are advertised on a number of pages in the book with a full-page ad on page 230. An underlying idea here is that, if the reader just can’t make it on his own with this self-help book, he can find help at one of these clinics. As far as insurance coverage is concerned, New Life Clinics function like other secular psychological and psychiatric clinics that dispense psychotherapy and drugs.

Substance-Poor, Repetition-Rich: Parsing ~ Parent Coordination ~ Rhetoric ~ and some Organizations..

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INTRO:

Overall, I seriously doubt that it’s possible to clean up or straighten up the family law system — at all, and I am utterly serious in saying this.  There is too much incentive for fraud, and too much need to “pay the mortgages” in the courthouses by ordering more services, and too little oversight and tracking of the funding.  There are too many public employees forming nonprofit corporations to franchise for-profit curricula (marriage, parent education, etc.) — in the old NonProfit/ForProfit combo.

There are too few tools in many states to track WHO is repeatedly forming corporations that go belly-up, only to have a partner or other person formerly on one board just go forth and from another one — in another state.   Many of these groups, as my last post showed, are membership organizations — membership is charged, conferences run, and we have some evidence from county payrolls or vouchers from court-connected professionals, that the public is billed to fund attendance at nonprofits whose ONE purpose is to expand their services.  Child support is one of the worst of these, but they come in all flavors.

Despite the bleak outlook — I still report and I am going to finish reporting on this field of Parent Coordination until it is CLEAR what the AFCC professionals’ intent is in establishing this field and, if possible, having it legitimized at the state level by establishing standards, or by mandate.

The Association for Family and Conciliation Courts runs many task forces at a time, as part of its strategic plan to expand (itself) and transform the “old” language of criminal law into more friendly-to-its-practitioners concepts.    One of them which they are taking VERY seriously in promoting — and I take VERY seriously in protesting — is Parenting Coordination.

Parents didn’t ask for this — it’s no grassroots movement, and from what I can tell how it’s been (1) advertised (2) pushed and (3) practiced — there’s no genuine NEED for it either.  For that matter, I see no historical record that parents as a sector (both male and female) asked for the family law system, either.

Why I’m addressing it — again:   

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AFCC PROMOTED IT – NOT PARENTS.  NO REAL NEED EXISTED, and SERIOUS ISSUES & OBJECTIONS DID.  The LizLibrary lists a page of them, and towards the bottom, some legal opinions, too:

Parenting Coordination:  A Bad Idea

Here’s less than half the list — and so far I agree with ALL of them.  Thank you, Liz (Kates, the FL Family Law attorney, not Richards, of NAFCJ.net)
© 1996-2011 argate.net        frcp:

  • Parenting coordination is an inappropriate delegation of the judicial function
  • Parenting coordination is an impediment to court access
  • Parenting coordination is a denial of due process
  • Parenting coordination violates privacy
  • The parenting coordinator concept encroaches on family liberty interests
  • Parenting coordination represents arbitrary dictate by a person, in denigration of rule of law
  • Parenting coordination is a make-work role newly invented by psychology trade promotion groups
  • No studies indicate parenting coordinators make good decisions
  • No studies indicate parenting coordination improves families’ lives or child wellbeing.
  • Nothing qualifies a stranger to make family decisions for other people
  • Nothing qualifies a mental health professional to interpret a court order or legal document
  • Nothing qualifies a lawyer to play at being an unlicensed, unregulated therapist for hire
  • Nothing qualifies any third party to “fill in the gaps” in someone else’s contract
  • There is no definition of what constitutes a successful parenting coordination
  • Parenting coordination does not, in the long run, alleviate court docket congestion
  • It creates additional issues and leaves the door open for return trips to resolve them
  • Parenting coordination provides a new forum for squabbling over petty disputes
  • Parenting coordination is an additional expense that many can ill afford
  • Parenting coordination enables one parent to spend the other’s funds
  • Parenting coordination is time-consuming and tedious
  • Parenting coordination is not confidential
  • Parenting coordination constitutes continuous government discovery, 4th Amendment
  • Parenting coordination constitutes continuous discovery by each parent into the affairs of the other
  • Parenting coordination can never be “voluntary” because it implements unwanted court orders
  • Parenting coordinators demand that the parties sign “consents” that give up constitutional rights
  • Some have demanded that parties give up the right to go to court, contact police, or involve their lawyers
  • They are hired or appointed under shadow of the threat of court sanctions or loss of custody
  • They are agreed to by parties ignorant of the repercussions, in fear, out of funds, or overwhelmed
  • Parenting coordination does not result in increased family well-being
  • Parenting coordination does not make children happier, healthier, or better adjusted
  • Parenting coordination is not therapy but coercion backed by the state’s police power
  • Parenting coordinators tend to be hostile to, and at odds with attorney-client relationships
  • They align with GALs and other court appointees in a pretext of “focus on the children”
  • They encroach on parental-child relationships and decision-making
  • They undermine the parental authority children require for a sense of security and well-being
  • Instead of at least one authoritative parent, children have no authoritative parent
  • Petty tyrants place a premium on the perception of who is cooperating with them
  • Cooperation with the parenting coordinator is court-ordered and
  • They alone decide if a parent is “cooperating” with them

From the same page, a case “Parenting Coordinator Out of Control” — and I have to note that it’s an appeal from an order at the FL (presumably 20th) Circuit Court Level bearing Judge Hugh Starnes‘ name!

The Hon. Hugh Starnes showed up in yesterday’s post, where I was simply blogging an AFCC judge, and also his nonprofit in FL with the initials AFLP (logo on the post).  I also happen to know he was quite active in FL-AFCC Chapter establishment, which seemed to have the primary agenda of getting parenting coordination passed in Florida.  They have since succeeded, I believe, too.
Like I keep saying — sometime others will acknowledge — parenting coordinators are themselves pushy, and AFCC pushed Parenting Coordination, in fact they are one set of bullies when it comes to getting THEIR priorities into practice, then law – citing it’s already in practice anyhow.  This is primarily what AFCC does.  From the organization’s point of view, this is phrased as “innovative” and “helping” and “problem-solving.”  The problem is always the recalcitrant parents, and the UNFORTUNATE vestiges of separation of powers (legal/judicial/executive branch) and little details like confidentiality in a lawsuit, and legal restraints.  Here’s a link to Parentcoordination.com’s complaint about the legal limits part – and their plan of PC as an end-run around those limits!

“The Court’s parenting coordinator orders unconsitutionally delegate judicial power and violate due process… The Special Master Order’s requirement that Appellant pay for the parenting coordinators to whom she objects violates law and public policy… The Special Master Order requiring Appellant to waive her medical privilege violates her statutory and constitutional rights to privacy…”

AFCC could care less.  They DEMANDED it and are still finishing up trying to get this mandated in every single United State.

  •  Even the brother of the Marriage Promotion President, the “Family” family, George Bush — as Governor of Florida, Jeb Bush, FL (2004) had the sense to object based on sound principles.  A newly formed (probably for this purpose) chapter of AFCC strategized, lobbied, publicized, practiced, and finally managed to ram it through, over his veto.  It only slowed them down slightly.

June 18, 2004   

Ms. Glenda E. Hood Secretary of State Florida Department of State

By the authority vested in me as Governor of Florida, under the provisions of Article III, Section 8, of the Constitution of Florida, I do hereby withhold my approval of and transmit to you with my objections, Committee Substitute for Senate Bill 2640, enacted during the 36th session of the Legislature, convened under the Constitution of 1968, during the Regular Session of 2004, and entitled:

An act relating to Parenting Coordination. . .

Committee Substitute for Senate Bill 2640 authorizes courts to appoint a parenting coordinator when the court finds the parties have not implemented the court-ordered parenting plan, mediation has not been successful, and the court finds the appointment is in the best interest of the children involved.

  • He lists 5 objections, two of which clearly recognize that it in effect allows a parent coordinator to function as both judge and jury of parents’ or children’s rights, and one of which is that it fails to protect victims of domestic violence.   I also note from the language that it looks like a Committee (not the general legislature) attempted to have this substitute for an existing Senate Bill. . . . . 

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  • The “Termini/Boyan Factor” — The People fixed on training parent coordinators have a terrible track record when it comes to staying incorporated(I found another one today — Seminars for Advanced Interdisciplinary Family Professionals, or “SAIF.”  Formed in 2006, it’s already behind in its filings, in the state of Indiana. And it appears that, again, a nonprofit/for-profit combo, originating not with litigants, but with the professionals, was set up to give (again) some family law attorneys the right to crow about their own parent coordination training seminars they helped run themselves.  By and large, that seems to be the situation in Indiana — which it seems New Hampshire liked a lot, too. Termini/Boyan are Georgia/Pennsylvania — but same general idea.

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The language of “parent coordination” is impoverished and repetitive.  Here’s an example, from a family law attorney, a bona-fide certified one  (although the nonprofit membership she cites all over is anything but “bona-fide” when it comes to filing charitable returns in the home state!)

it’s even from an Amicus Brief (I THINK it got filed, although this isn’t the stamped version). Actually, this is where the title to my post came from:

CASE NO. C064475

SUPERIOR COURT CASE NO. 34-3009-80000359

IN THE COURT OF APPEAL FOR THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA

THIRD APPELLATE DISTRICT

__________________

RANDY RAND, ED.D. Plaintiff and Appellant, v. BOARD OF PSYCHOLOGY, Defendant and Respondent. __________________

BRIEF OF AMICUS CURIAE

ASSOCIATION OF CERTIFIED FAMILY LAW SPECIALISTS __________________

In the statute of authorities for this brief, bearing the name “Leslie Ellen Shear” and “Stephen Temko” (although the certificate of interested parties form bears the name Shear, and is dated 1/27/2011), after the legal and rules of court list, comes:

“Treatises, Law Reviews and Other Authorities” – and on reading it, I see it quotes, among others:

  • The nonprofit ACFLS (which she’s head of Amicus Brief Committee on, or was)
  • AFCC itself (at least twice)
  • A host of people, known to be AFCC professionals anyhow, for those who pay attention — such as Ahrons, Coates, Deutch, Greenberg, Kelly, and who knows about some of the others.  These quotations include those from the AFCC publication, Family Court Review (joint with “Hofstra Univ. School of Law”) and AFCC newsletters, etc.
  • Herself, like 3 times, in:
  • Shear (2008) In Search of Statutory Authority for Parenting Coordinator Orders in California: Using a Grass-roots, Hybrid Model Without an Enabling Statute 5 Journal of Child Custody 88…………………………………………..5, 18, 25  (cited on page 5, 18 & 25).

Note title — trying to legislate parenting coordination.  Another set of professionals tried to write “Kids Turn” into law around 2002, right? (see my “Kicking Salesmanship Up a Notch post.”) then-Governor Gray Davis (properly!) vetoed even the version of it put out which didn’t overtly say “Kids’ Turn” on its face.

So here’s a sample section of this Amicus:

On page 4, quoting AFCC person Greenberg (whose writing I also ran across) cites who came up with the idea, vaguely characterized as:

In 1994, the concept of parenting coordination was spawned by a concerned group of professionals in California and Colorado who realized that some high conflict families remained chronically mired in conflict and required something different. . . For these families, the traditional tried and true approaches to containing familial conflict such as litigation, mediation, forensics, and therapy had not worked. Thus, the concept of parenting coordination was conceived as a different and needed dispute resolution intervention.

(Tried and True?  Try Tried and found seriously wanting.  Don’t believe me?  Look here.  I’ve already mentioned the Seal Beach (CA) massacre enough times, so here’s one fresh off the press — like YESTERDAY, in Florida.  Actually, it seems there’s an acquiescent mother in this one, even after Dad murdered the son, the surviving children (including one witness to that) miss their Daddy.  They shouldn’t be supervised, but be able to go to events like church, sports, etc.  Sounds like perhaps this is a stepfather (or second family) situation here, judging by age of the children:

Dad accused of killing son wants custody rights to surviving kids; judge lets him have unsupervised contact (Orlando, Florida)

POSTED: 5:56 pm EST December 13, 2011
UPDATED: 6:45 pm EST December 13, 2011

ORLANDO, Fla. — A former Orlando police officeraccused of killing his son was back in court, arguing for custody rights to his other children. 

Timothy Davis Sr. won a victory of sorts Tuesday when ajudge granted him the ability to pick up his younger children from school, including his 9-year-old daughter who authorities said witnessed the killing.

The retired police officer is accused of shooting his son, 22-year-old Timothy Davis Jr., to death at their Apopka home in what he said was self-defense after his son attacked him, injuring his knee in October.

Here’s another involving 3 children, and a custody hearing, plus prior assaults on the child and wife.  Dad managed to get himself shot (to death) after apparently attacking a state trooper.  I do not call this ‘tried and true.”  This was an American military, married in Germany, but the divorce action  appears to be HERE. He also was Marine Corps.   Here’s one from Texas; 40 year old father, who apparently had custody? (or certainly unsupervised visitation), emails nude pictures of his 12 year old daughter.   This man was living with his mother who, thankfully, was honest enough to do something about her pervert son, although somehow the courts weren’t alert to this in custody decisions:

by KHOU.com staff

khou.com
Posted on December 8, 2011 at 8:58 PM

KATY, Texas – A 40-year-old father is facing charges for allegedly distributing nude photos of his 12-year-old daughter online.
According to court documents, the suspect was living with his daughter at his mother’s house in Katy when the offenses occurred.
Investigators said that in August of 2011, the suspect’s mother found emails sent from the suspect’s gmail account that contained nude images of children.   Some of those images were of the suspect’s daughter, the grandmother said.

Sorry to bring up this very unpleasant reality-check, but when in Amicus Brief a parent-coordinator pusher talks about previously tried methods that work — the definition of “works” or “tried and true” generally just means “tried, sometimes resulting in death, physical or sexual abuse of minors post-separation, or having minor children showing up in child pornography in father’s possession.”  All of these were from December 2011 news articles, only.

Keep these incidents for a point of reference while I quote from p.12, a whole chapter on how parent coordinators have such difficult parents to deal with, poor them:

III. Parenting Coordinators Work With the Most Difficult Family Court Population – Those Most Prone to Assert Grievances and Challenge Decisionmakers

… cases are usually referred to parenting coordination because they are chronically litigious and difficult to manage.** These parents have often had several attorneys, evaluators, and mediators — professional hopping and shopping is rampant. Their court files are thick with motions, court appearances, and allegations of wrongdoing by the parents.

Coates, Deutsch et al. (2004) Parenting Coordination for High-Conflict Families 42 Fam. Ct. Rev. 246, 252

**Difficult-to manage parents are the bread and butter of the family court.  They are the income producers.  Assigning them to parent coordination is yet one more source of income for the professionals, taken from either the parents, or (looks like there’s some effort to make even broke parents participate in this too — AFCC-CA has a workshop or presentation, on the 2012 hearing on this).

Perhaps the professionals in question should re-think the business of “managing parents” to start with.

So, the opening quote to this chapter is from two long-time AFCC professionals (Coates/Deutsch) in an AFCC publication?, although it’s only 2004, using an AFCC-originated concept and term, “high-conflict families” (although I hear Bill Eddy now says they are high-conflict individuals — see my post on “yet another AFCC wet dream.” and his High-conflict Institute….)

The child custody cases referred to parenting coordinators are the most complex, acrimonious, difficult and demanding cases. Most parents regain their perspective and bearings within two years of separation, and do not need this kind of intensive and ongoing service model. Parents who continue to re- turn to court with enforcement and modification requests after completing co- parenting educational programs,* and after a child custody evaluation are can- didates for parenting coordination,

* perhaps this speaks to the quality of the co-parenting educational programs, more than the parents.

* or perhaps they are pissed at being forced to take co-parenting classes to start with, not mentioning affected if they also have to pay.

Parents who need a PC intervention are typically a special group for whom the passage of time has not reduced the rage and angry behaviors of at least one if not both parents.

A casual dismissal of whether it’s just one — or both — parents here.  We KNOW that many of these cases — not just some — are in fact cases involving danger, abuse, and etc.   These cases do NOT belong in family court at all — but they are there because of greed of professionals, and because of the fatherhood movement (backlash to feminism) that incentivizes and insists that single motherhood is bad for kids.  For that matter, even if Mom remarries happily, it’s still supposedly bad for the world if biological father isn’t in his kids’ life.

In short — Ms. Shear and Mr. Temko (whoever drafted this) — are, with their colleagues — unable to literally distinguish between one parent and another when discussing “parents” in front of others who have some privilege (like a statutory justification) or grant to give them.

BUT — their own handbooks, and some appellate cases already involving parenting coordination, show clearly that they are QUITE able to distinguish one parent from another, and not only do, but literally plan how to, target mothers, specifically, for badmouthing and possible intervention in the form of getting the kids away from her.  (I have two links to parent coordination handbooks on this post, you can check them out.).

The 10–20% of parents who remain in entrenched and high conflict two to three years after separation/divorce are significantly more likely to have severe personality disorders and/or mental illness (Johnston & Roseby, 1997).

You can’t see it here, but on the pdf it shows:  in this quote, we have a triple-layer AFCC site.  I believe Johnston is probably Janet Johnston (AFCC Board, or was).  Kelly, (below) who’s being quoted in the section, if it’s Joan B. Kelly, has been called the “grande dame” of AFCC and mediation promotion in the family law courts.  She runs a Northern California Mediation Center, and obviously publishes too.   And Shear is AFCC.  So — if so — that represents:

AFCC Shear quotes AFCC Kelly quoting AFCC Johnston, as to parent coordination, which is an AFCC idea.  (this is FAR more common than most people — who are less obsessive about looking things up than me — realize.  I have labored through some pretty detailed writings (NYState) where when they ran out of ideas, they simply restated them, and I literally read ALL the footnotes too, most of which were “ibid.”   

Understanding the characteristics of parents with severe borderline, dependent, narcissistic, and antisocial personality disorders, why these parents react so strongly to rejection and loss, how the child is used in attempts to re-stabilize their functioning and punish the other parent, and how personality disorders are exacerbated by stress, conflict and the adversarial system will facilitate more effective work with these difficult clients.

Kelly (2008) Preparing for the Parenting Coordination Role: Training Needs for Mental Health and Legal Professionals 5 Journal of Child Custody 140,149-150

I don’t know how to state this clearly enough.  The difficulty any professional has — who by definition holds an option to quit the profession (which they chose) in dealing with a ‘difficult client” is no comparison with the difficulty of dealing — year after year thanks to policies — with an “ex” who has threatened to kidnap or kill, who has beaten one before, or who may be and/or has molested children, possibly one’s own (dep. on the case) before.   Suppose the shoe was on the other foot?  Again, if professionals don’t like the difficulty they have an option — find another line of work.

But thanks to their insistence on THIS line of work, i.e., at public AND private expense, and explicit danger to the communities — almost no parent — and I’m going to say mother, specifically– can actually get free from real criminals they’ve had children with, even when he’s already in jail.

I know of one case where the person has already done time in an unbelievably severe situation, and this mother/daughter who already went through hell — is being stalked again.  Until she’s safe, I’m not naming names, but once she is/they are, I will – because this case was high-profile and has been in the news.

One point of view is dealing with comfort, and potential burnout, in the performance of one’s duties that have internationally networked, federally-funded, county-judicial-level endorsed, and more — support groups.  The other is of staying alive, housed, and after that, functional and employed at all.

If one continues to read the Amicus, it continues to complain and blame.  The next quote by Shear is of Shear.  Here’s a little further on in the Amicus:

Parenting coordination is a very intrusive model, inserting state authority into the daily family lives of parents and children. With those intrusive powers comes a duty to exercise restraint, discretion and wisdom.

This work often creates the perfect storm. Parenting coordinators struggle to avoid being triangulated into the family’s conflicts.

Well, they triangulated themselves in there to start with, intentionally!   Which shows a lack of:   “restraint, discretion, and wisdom” per se.

From page 18 (“just one more”!) – This chapter complains that California hasn’t legislated parenting coordination by stipulation (i.e., authorizing it by force)  yet:

The only thing that is clear about appointment of parenting coordinators in California is that family courts are without jurisdiction to make them without a stipulation. Moreover, no published case has upheld orders resulting from a stipulated appointment of a parenting coordinator.

The quote from Greenberg in this Amicus acknowledges that professionals in California & Colorado (two hotspots of family law leadership; Center for Policy Research/Jessica Pearson et al. are in Denver) “spawned” the concept.  Or rather, it “was spawned” — we can’t name an individual father, so perhaps it was a sort of psychological gang-rape that produced the idea (just kidding).  Unlike “collaborative law” which actually names a father, “Stu Webb” out of MN. . ..      And that this began in the 1990s.

We are now in 2011.  Perhaps it’s time to admit that it’s a bad idea to start with; if even in California — where AFCC originated — they can’t get it into law!

The text continues — and understanding that I don’t know the underlying case, have not read the entire brief and am not an attorney, I’m to add a comment to the next section:

Of course, courts have no power to modify statutes. Statutes prescribe and proscribe what courts may do.

Damn right they do! On the other hand, has that really slowed down AFCC initiatives, has it?  I think there’s been a track record of resounding success, if getting around constitutional and statutory limits pending changing the statutes to accommodate more income streams to court-connected (or formerly court-connected, like retired judges) professionals… is what’s intended.

The California Constitution (art. VI, § 22) prohibits the delegation of judicial power except for the performance of subordinate judicial duties. A trial court lacks either statutory or inherent power to require the parties to bear the cost of a special master’s services, even where it may have the authority to make the appointment. (People v. Superior Court (Laff) (2001) 25 Cal.4th 703)

The Court of Appeal reversed trial court orders delegating authority over the visitation schedule to a child custody evaluator, requiring one of the parents to participate in psychotherapy and requiring that all future custody mat- ters be heard before the same bench officer in In re Marriage of Matthews (1980) 101 Cal.App.3d 811, 816–817 because there was no statutory authority supporting such a delegation.

Just GUESSING here, but perhaps if over a 21-year period (in one state), it’s still being stated that there are Constitutional limits on delegating Judicial power, and three years later the Governor of Florida (Jeb Bush) brings it up in a reason for vetoing a parent coordination stipulation — there just MIGHT be a good reason!   Parent Coordination is hardly an Occupy San Francisco (or anywhere else in California) grassroots protest or demand, is it, either?

We’re third generation fatherhood programs out here, we are also probably at least second-generation post-TANF (1996), post fatherhood (i.e., about 15-16 years since they passed), and perhaps– just perhaps — the last thing this state needs is more ideas originating from this nonprofit and all its collaborators in therapeutic jurisprudence great ideas.

Perhaps — just perhaps — it’s a good thing if constitutional and statutory limits on out-sourcing the judicial function mean something around here, for a change! Be content with what you got so far, as authorized by access/visitation (three categories of potential program fraud enabled) and all the marriage promotion money too, plus lots of the nonprofits — like ACFLS — not even bothering to report into the state Registry of Charitable Trusts (OAG) anyhow!

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Moreover  — like most AFCC promotions — the language promoting parent coordination continues to refuse to think or talk in terms of legal rights to INDIVIDUALS as the Declaration of Independence asserted, which helped kickstart the USA, claims they are.   The language of parent coordination is continually pluralized, or group-talk.  It does not, really, acknowledge that a person could be a member of a family (like “parent” “father” or “mother”) and yet really have — and deserve — equal standing as an individual in any matter, before the law.

Here’s an example from ParentCoordinationCentral.com (Termini/Boyan site).  These are the supposed GOALS OF PARENT COORDINATION:

  1. Educate parents regarding the impact of their behaviors on their child(ren)’s development.

    [supports my thesis that AFCC members are often frustrated teachers.  They want to teach EVERYONE, and if people don’t agree, they are clever about figuring out ways to force this, and be paid for it, too.]
  2. Reduce parental conflict through anger management, communication and conflict resolutions skills. 
    [increasing the expense of divorce, treating parents like kids, undermining judicial authority, & due process, and invading one’s privacy sure will “reduce parental conflict”!! . .. And I haven’t even got (this post anyhow) to the training manual which has an openly hostile attitude towards mothers, it’s unbelievable).
  3. Decrease inappropriate parental behaviors to reduce stress for the child.
    [goes with AFCC goal of switching from a legally defined set of prohibited behaviors to an arbitrary, subjective, and personalized version of what is appropriate or inappropriate parental behavior.   Instead, how about just accept the basic definitions in the law, and as to court orders, compliance with them?]
  4. Work with parents in developing a detailed plan for issues such as discipline, decision-making, communication, etc.
     [Good Grief! — Go have your own children, and raise them — well.  Let’s see what fine examples they are, then parents can judge FREELY whether Mr. , Ms. & Mrs. Parent Coordinators are competent to make these plans.  I mean — the concept is ridiculous!  What about various cultures and family values, so long as they are not child abuse, domestic violence, or otherwise illegal?] [Even then it probably wouldn’t be a comparable situation, because the psychologists involved with the court, and AFCC professionals can usually drum up plenty of high-paying business, whereas a lot of the parents they are dealing with probably, by the time they are on the scene, absolutely cannot.]
  5. Create a more relaxed home atmosphere allowing the child to  adjust more effectively with the new family structure.
    [You want to have a more relaxed home atmosphere with children/  Again, go have your own and show it to us.  Then we can, awestruck by your competence – – and if we want to — copy it!]
  6. Collaborate with professionals involved with the family in order to offer coordinated service.
    [that’s closer to the real reason for it — more business referrals to colleagues]
  7. Monitor parental behaviors to ensure that parents are fulfilling their obligations to their child while complying with the  recommendations of the Court.
    [Children need due process, and they need an active, and respected Bill of Rights, for when they grow up.  One purpose of the Bill of Rights was to keep snoops out of one’s private business, so long as that business didn’t ramble over into the criminal arena.   It’s called LIFE, LIBERTY and PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS.  How can one pursue anything with the thought police on one’s heels?. . . . .
    Anyone who’s trying to function as a parent coordinator, and talking about children’s needs constantly (to justify it) apparently doesn’t comprehend what long-term dedication to one’s family AND country entails.  It entails respecting its laws.  I have before blogged an SF-area parent coordinator and family law attorney, who posted on his own site that the Constitution needs to be scrapped and rewritten, why revere it like Christians revere their Bible (guess he’s not one, and doesn’t understand how few Christians actually practice what’s in their Bible — or Constitution — to start with…)]
  • The NH “Parent Coordinators” Association of 2009 “FAQs” suggest a benefit is:
  • Q. What are the benefits of Parenting Coordination?

Parenting Coordination offers a much better way of resolving parenting plan issues than returning to court. And the resolution comes much faster than waiting for a court date and then the court decision. The Parenting Coordinator educates the parents about the harm to the children of hostility between parents, mediates issues as they arise, and if the parents are unable to resolve minor issues, makes the decision.

As ever, when selling their services, AFCC professionals see themselves as the mature adults on the scene, and the parents as a “plural,” and refuse to assign responsibility where it’s perhaps due.  They seem to utterly lack curiosity in fact-finding as to that matter.  This is understandable, because they deal in “psychology” more than law– which is the culture of the association.  While two individual parents are often involved, in the marketing prose, it’s always “the parents” v. “the helping professionals”

However, once in the door, and in practice — then they are quick to blame ONE parent, often the mother, and recommend severe intervention, often removing of contact with the children to counter supposed “alienation.”   In other words, they are hypocrites — professing neutrality and to be helping, but planning in advance (in this case) to do harm to one gender — the female, should she as a parent (mother) counter them.

I blogged this earlier, but again (from the same site) — here is their “sample” report from the handbook:

Handbook

A handbook for the purpose and practice of parenting coordination prepared by PCANH.

 Parts of this were credited (fn1 inside) to “Families Moving Forward, Inc.” in Indiana.  This is a nonprofit formed in 2005, EIN# 432074631 with principal listed c/o “Gloria K. Mitchell.”

So of course I looked this person up — she is a Rising Star Super Attorney, member of National Association of Counsel for Children, and works in a four-woman firm.  The nonprofit, however, is categorized as “exempt — earning under $25,000).  website’s “Divorce and Parenting Research Links” is typical, plus a direct link to the Children’s Rights Council” (hover URL).  CRC is pretty big in Indiana…  Six years after passing the bar, Ms. Mitchell was on the Executive Committee of Family Law Section of Indiana Bar Assoc., and chaired it in 2005.   The articles of incorporation show it’s a 501(c)4 (not “3”) and by address its place of business is another law firm in Noblesville, Indiana:  Holt, Fleck & Romini.  If the image (showing org.’s purpose) doesn’t show, it’s viewable for free on the site below.

Entity Name Type Entity Type City / State
FAMILIES MOVING FORWARD, INC. Legal Non-Profit Domestic Corporation INDIANAPOLIS, IN

Gloria K. Mitchell, and the four attorneys in the law firm, 
Though only incorporated in winter (February) 2005, by summer (July) 2005,  Indiana, “Families Moving Forward”** already had a “Parent Coordination Committee” and presented the following report in this context:

Indiana Continuing Legal Education Forum

3rd Annual Family Law Summer Institute

and Family ICO Training Session July 28-29, 2005*

 *Note:  the Nonprofit to present this was incorporated 2/14/2005, in time for this, 3rd Annual Family Law Summer Institute agenda (see link) doesn’t show anything about parent coordination, although certainly it could’ve happened.  Law firm page for Ms. Mitchell notes that she was “Executive Committee of the “Family Law Section” 1994-2005 and its chair in 2004-2005.     So it would make sense that her nonprofit would have a good shot at presenting at that summer institute.
I note that at Ms. Mitchell’s office, one of her associates began as Parent Coordinator in 2006.
Another very smart attorney with stellar credits is Amy Stewart  (valedictorian of her law class) is president of this nonprofit (FMF):  notice also collaborative law emphasis, plus an AFCC affiliation.   In 1999 she had an article published on “Covenant Marriage:  Legislating Family Values”  Good summary of the issues of religiosity in marriage by a UK author, here  Actually, it’s a good summary and a timely read of marriage/divorce, and role of rising religiosity (UK/America) in the mix.
But it was a search for “Families Moving Forward, Inc.” that brought her name up.
Here’s Ms. Stewart’s bio (notice “Collaborative Law”); she works at Bingham McHale, LLP, a large firm with locations in 3 Indiana counties.  She is a partner.

Amy concentrates her practice in matrimonial and family law matters. She was one of the first Indiana attorneys trained  in collaborative law, and she has been instrumental in introducing the approach in Indiana. She has practiced collaborative law since 2007, has attended several conferences of the International Association of Collaborative Professionals,* and has been trained by collaborative law founder Stuart Webb. In addition, Amy also practices traditional litigation.   

*Readers probably may not remember, so I’ll remind us.  the “IACP” is another incarnation, membership association — out of many — formed by AFCC-type professionals, as you can see by the description:

iacp,collaborative law,collaborative practice,collaborative divorce,international academy of collaborative professionals

ACP is the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, an international community of legal, mental health and financial professionals working in concert to create client-centered processes for resolving conflict.

I probably blogged it, too.  I remember looking up the various websites, corporate registrations, etc.   Here’s their About Us/History narrative.  I notice a good chunk of it (after inspiration by “Stu Webb” in MN) took form in the Northern California family court association nonprofit factor, aka the SF Bay Area, including Oakland (East Bay) and other well-known cities:

In May of 1999, the first annual AICP [=American Institute of Collaborative Professionals] networking forum was held in Oakland, California. The following year, a meeting was held in Chicago to discuss the state of Collaborative legal practice across the country. The nearly 50 practitioners who attended this meeting agreed that AICP should serve as the umbrella organization for our rapidly-growing movement. At the same time, they recognized that since Collaborative Practice was also developing exponentially across Canada, the organization needed a broader, more inclusive name and mission. Thus the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals was born in late 2000, officially changing its name in 2001.

The Collaborative Review has been published continuously since May, 1999. The work begun by initial editors Jennifer Jackson and Pauline Tesler. . . 

Jennifer Jackson (FYI, I’ve never met, spoken to, or dealt with her in court) is kind of branded in my mind as having helped start up Kids’ Turn (SF):

FYI — here is another Super Lawyer, high-profile, longstanding success.  Her “about” page lists many accomplishments. Notice which comes first; notice also the variety of terms which are basic to the field:  I’ll bold them:

About Jennifer Jackson

Before becoming a family lawyer in 1985, Jennifer Jackson was an illustrator and photographer, raising three children.

A LITTLE LOCAL COMMENTARY relating to this Super-Productive/Super Attorney and her many Nonprofits:  

I know artists, including photographers and illustrators.  It’s not that easy to make a living at; this speaks of either a good prior divorce settlement, (or not marrying) or some substantial education somewhere along the line, undergrad plus law school.  That’s quite a set of accomplishments, but I don’t think represents an indigence.  See Resume:

  • BA with Honors in 1966, became family lawyer (passed bar?)
  • 1985, with Professor’s Assistanceships (in law school) on child-related and mediation topics.  Maybe I can assume that almost 20 year gap is called “Mom” and “Wife” time.
  • In 1987, she helped found Kids’ Turn and was simultaneously involved in PTA Board at “Campolindo High School” where her kids probably attended.   Campolindo is — well, its site describes it well:

“Located in the hills east of the University of California, Berkeley, Campolindo serves the professionally-oriented and well-educated suburban communities of Moraga and Lafayette. Students, teachers and parents work together to provide a positive climate for learning where mutual respect, trust and esteem are valued. ” . . .”In statewide API (Academic Performance Index) ratings, for the fifth year in a row, both the Acalanes District and Campolindo are ranked in the very top percentiles of all public high schools in California with an API score of 919. Nationally, Campolindo is recognized regularly in Newsweek magazine as one of the “Best High Schools in America”.  The Association of Californa School Administrators honored Campolindo’s Principal, Carol Kitchens, as the Secondary Principal of the Year in 2009

This is my way — as is this demographics piechart** of saying, as fantastic as these achievements are for Ms. Jackson — something had her living (presumably) in Moraga around the time she passed the bar — and that’s a privileged community.   A neighboring one, Orinda, shows has a 2009 median household of $156K, and more than half the town earning that much, and the largest sector earning over $200K.
To get a general feel for housing in the area — this is my tactful way of saying that until the 1960s, some of these communities did not allow African-American housing loans, or greatly restricted them — read this thoughtful summary of Berkeley, including a lot on demographics and migration.
Essentially, people that might work as professors, or other high-paying jobs in SF or Berkeley (or even Oakland) would then leave those urban areas and commute straight past (on highways like as not) the dangerous and darker-skinned areas, right on back to the suburbs.  Just keep this in mind when someone from this area (however s/he got there) is all excited about helping poor kids, single mother or no single mother. And I don’t know specifically that Jennifer Jackson was; although no mention of a husband is made, or the children’s father.
(**scroll down to see race (total African Americans:  166, Hispanic, invisible — they are living elsewhere and working on the lawns and in the retail & domestic sectors no doubt (wikipedia, though, says 7% in 2010) — how few single parent households, and almost NO violent crime).  As of 2010, Moraga had a total population of 16,016 people.  As of the 2000 census, Moraga was the 79th wealthiest place in the US with a population above 10,000.   The median income for a household in the town is $98,080, and the median income for a family is $116,113. Males have a median income of $92,815 versus $51,296 for females.[almost 2:1!!] )

Blending this background of creativity, caring and flexibility with her legal training enhances her practice of family law and expands the options for her clients.

Jennifer believes that a lawyer must be actively involved in her professional community, and that life is about making a difference. Jennifer is one of the founders of Kids’ Turn, a program for separating families begun in San Francisco which has expanded exponentially in size and in quality of service to children and families.

(If you know my blog, you know EXACTLY why and how Kids’ Turn “expanded exponentially in size” — see family law attorneys, evaluators & judges on the board, see access/visitation funds “facilitating” parent education programs. . . . .As to the quality of service?  That’s debatable, but as I haven’t sat through any of the classes — except to note they use the word “parental alienation” a lot in stating benefits, i.e., “reduces parental alienation” type claims.  I’ll withhold judgment on this, as should others who haven’t  !!)

She is one of the founders of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals and served for eight years as co-editor of its journal, The Collaborative Review. She has had leadership roles in her professional organizations at local, state national and international levels, and is a past president of the Northern California chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.

Within five years of passing the bar, she is serving as a judge pro tem– how common is that? Or this?

Standing Committee on Custody, North: Chair 1988-1990

San Francisco Bar Association

Executive Committee, Family Law Section: Chair, 1992; Member: 1987-present
Fee Arbitration Panel: 1988-1990
Barristers Club, Co-Chair, Family Law Committee: 1988-1990
BASF Delegate to the State Bar Convention: 1989, 1990
Volunteer Legal Services Program Volunteer Attorney: 1986-2000  

[[This is almost another topic — I’ve footnoted it [VLSP* at bottom of post, a section in itself….]

Expert: Temporary Restraining Order Clinic

Jennifer has been given an “AV” rating by Martindale-Hubbell and has been named one of the top 50 female lawyers (“Super Lawyers”) in Northern California in all areas of practice by Law and Politics Publications for the past five years in a row. Jennifer practices alternative dispute resolution exclusively; she has trained extensively in mediation and collaboration, and is committed to keeping clients out of court and at the negotiating table.

The IACP has created Standards for practitioners, trainers and collaborative practice trainings. It has promulgated Ethical Guidelines for Practitioners, and continues to support excellence in collaborative practice through resources, training curriculum, practice tools, mentoring and a comprehensive website, allowing collaborative practitioners to continue our tradition of sharing and learning from one another.

Where we are going…

Today, the IACP has over 4,000 members from twenty four countries around the world. We are dedicated to educating the public about the Collaborative alternative. We are committed to fostering professional excellence in conflict resolution through Collaborative Practice. We invite you to peruse this site to learn more about IACP, our services and initiatives.

Amy is the past-chair of the Family Law Section of the Indianapolis Bar Association (2003) and is president of Families Moving Forward, Inc., a multi-disciplinary non-profit organization devoted to developing healthy approaches to family transitions.. . .[Law Degree summa cum laude Indiana Univ. School of Law, 1999; admitted to IN bar same year, graduate “with high distinction” in 1986. ]

5 years of work and/or law school, and within 4 more years she’s charing the Family Law Section of Indianapolis (that’s one city, not the whole state’s) Bar Assocation.  What a nice nonprofit and what accomplished professionals, and how successful they are.  As such, we should believe what they say, especially as the nonprofit “Families Moving Forward, Inc.” is DEVOTED to a HEALTHY APPROACH to “Family transitions.” (typically called divorces or custody matters).
 ** a name in other states used for purposes such as helping with homelessness, or infants with fetal alcohol syndrome, other issues, here it’s referring to divorce:

FAMILIES MOVING FORWARD, INC., is an interdisciplinary organization of attorneys, mental health providers, accountants, and other professionals committed to improving the process of family transition in Indiana, by reducing conflict and cost, creating healthier outcomes for children, and enhancing the satisfaction of professionals serving families.

(However, notice the articles of incorporation say it’s there to serve the families as well as the professionals serving the families)
This report is on-line at “SAIF” where it probably was presented:

Seminars For Advanced Interdisciplinary Family Professionals


They have a form for the (many) professionals listed to say which district they want to be parent coordinator in — PC has its own tab.  (Strategic planning)
This For-Profit group incorporated as below in Indiana, with the address “9000 KEYSTONE CROSSING, STE 600, INDIANAPOLIS, IN 46240 (which is “HuirasLaw,”  Wm. E. Huiras, although the Registered Agent is another attorney, Robin Brown Neihaus (LinkedIn)

Date Name (Type)
7/27/2006 SEMINARS FOR ADVANCED INTERDISCIPLINARY FAMILY PROFESSIONALS, INC. D/B/A SAIF  (Assumed))
(the entity filed one report in 2008, file notes, it owes 2010/2011 – perhaps IN is only every 2 years).

Segments from the Indiana 2005 Sample PC report (handbook):

The sample report begins with a situation between father and stepfather which was hostile.  Both wanted to coach on Little (10) Joey’s baseball team.

Therapy for both TOGETHER is recommended:

5. Mr. Smith and Mr. Doe should attend counseling sessions together to attempt to resolve their(For example, the mother did not want the father to volunteer on Fridays at school any longer. She maintained that the children were emotional and upset on those mornings and did not want to go to school. The teachers were contacted and reported that the children looked forward to and enjoyed their father’s presence.

AFCC CLAIMS CREDIT FOR HAVING DEVELOPING PARENT COORDINATION:

From their 5-year prospectus:

AFCC Guidelines for Parenting Coordination

In 2003, AFCC President George Czutrin appointed a Task Force to develop Model Standards of Practice for Parenting Coordination, following the first Task Force on Parenting

Coordination that conducted research and published the 2003 Report on Parenting Coordination Implementation Issues. The Task Force determined that the Parenting Coordination process was too new to use the term “Model Standards” and, in May 2005, proposed to the Board of Directors the AFCC Guidelines for Parenting Coordination. The Guidelines passed unanimously and are available on the AFCC Web site at http://www.afccnet.org/resources/standards_practice.asp.

AFCC Parenting Coordination Task Force: Christie Coates, J.D., M.Ed. (Chair), Linda Fieldstone, M.Ed., (Secretary), Barbara Ann Bartlett, J.D., Robin Deutsch, Ph.D., Billie Lee Dunford-Jackson, J.D. , Philip Epstein, Q.C., Barbara Fidler, Ph.D., Jonathan Gould, Ph.D., Hon. William Jones (ret.), Joan Kelly, Ph.D., Matthew J. Sullivan, Ph.D., Robert N. Wistner, J.D

. . . .

The following new publications have been developed since 2002 while dated products were been eliminated:

• Parenting Coordination: Implementation Issues

There are scholarly articles galore about this.  One by matthew Sullivan, Ph.D. (and a parent coordinator) uses the phrase repeatedly in the abstract — but to access the article one-time costs $34 and permanently $155.  Needless to say, not many people who have parent coordinators in their lives can afford to read up on it….

“In 1994 the concept of parent coordination was spawned by a concerned group of professionals in California and Colorado who

WHILE PROMOTION EFFORTS TEND TO PHRASE PARENT COORDINATION PASSIVELY (as if a natural development), IN PRIVATE PUBLICATIONS, IT TAKES RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE PROMOTION OF THE FIELD:

AFCC STAYS FOCUSED ON IMPLEMENTING AND PROMOTING PARENT COORDINATION:

And I am going to show you what apparent frauds some of the prime “trainers” are in this field too.     But first, let’s look at the upcoming 2012 conference called:

The New Frontier

Exploring the Challenges and Possibilities of the Changed Landscape for Children and the Courts:

This is an upcoming (Feb. 2012) meeting of the California Chapter of the AFCC.  An entire day is dedicated to a workshop on Parenting Coordination, and a secondary one talks about how to get it in there — even if parents are indigent.

Here are the presenters’ bios (please scroll through).  Some are more than a page, others short.  Notice the types of professionals involved (typical), Judges, Attorneys and Psychologists, Mediators, etc.    Some have been around forever (Joan B. Kelly, Dianna Gould-Saltzmann) others seem newer:

Abbas Hadjian, JD, CFLS

Graduate of Tehran University School of Law and Harvard…

Abbas Hadjian, Esquire devotes a substantial part of his family law practice to educating the Farsi‐speaking community on the comparisons between the American and Iranian legal system and recently published “Divorce in California,” which is written in Farsi. He is an expert on Iranian culture and laws.

(from his website, partial description of an amazing background):

Mr. Hadjian was born, educated and lived in Iran until 1980. Between 1959 and 1968 Mr. Hadjian was a professional journalist in Iran, with positions including editor, writer, reporter, translator and commentator in major Iranian publications and news agencies. His profession a journalist required and helped Mr. Hadjian’s foundational understanding of the Iranian legal, social, economical and political structure. Between 1962 and 1966, Mr. Hadjian attended the School of Law, Political Science and Economics in Tehran University. Among others, he received courses in Iranian Constitution, Civil, Family and Probate law, furthering his understanding of the legal, social, economic and political infrastructure of his native country.

Upon graduation. Mr. Hadjian became a political appointee in the Office of the Governor General, Iranian Southern Ports and Islands (Persian Gulf), where he acted as a ranking civil officer in the region until 1978, the year of the Iranian Revolution. As deputy to the Governor General in social and economic affairs, Mr. Hadjian relied heavily on his legal studies and implemented them in real life situations. In 1975, Harvard University accepted him to the renowned Edward S. Mason Program for Public Development on full scholarship, acknowledging five years of Mr. Hadjian’s services in developing the Persian Gulf region as one year of post-graduate studies. He was awarded a Masters Degree in Public Administration

A related site from “Culture Counts.net” (site has three diverse professionals) has a page about fatherhood, the new normal, which “surprisingly” reminds readers about:

Positive Effects of Father Involvement on Children

  • Children display increased self-confidence.
  • Better able to deal with frustration and other feelings.
  • Higher grade point averages.
  • More likely to mature into compassionate adults.
  • Paternal emotional responses to sons were associated with a 50% decrease in sons’ expressions of sadness and anxiety from preschool to early school age

Positive Effects of Father Involvement on Men

  • Helps men reevaluate their priorities and become more caring human beings who are concerned about future generations.
  • May reduce health-risk behaviors.
  • Decreases psychological distress as emotional involvement with children acts as a buffer against work-related stress.
  • Happiness and increased physical activity.
  • Sense of accomplishment, well-being, and contentment.
  • Men tend to be more involved with extended family and others in the community.
  • Over time, fatherhood increases marital stability.
_ _ _ _ _ _ _
Here is the rather short blurb of a long-time attorney in California, who in this conference is presenting an all-day workshop on Parenting Coordination:

Leslie Ellen Shear, JD, CFLS, CALS

Ms. Shear is a graduate of UCLA School of Law and admitted to the California Bar in 1976 and maintains her practice in Encino, California. A frequent lecturer in custody matters, she has been involved in a number of high-profile custody cases over the years – most recently, Marriage of LaMusga and Marriage of Seagondollar.

I note she was admitted to the bar fully 20 years before welfare reform and almost as much before VAWA.
These three are going to present on Parenting Coordination — an all-day institute.  It must be important:

9:00am – 5:15pm

All Day Institute (2)

(I2) Inside Parenting Coordination Practice in California: Managing Roles, Responsibilities, and Risks

  • Lyn Greenberg, Ph D
  • Alexandra Leichtner, JD
  • Leslie Ellen Shear, JD, CFLS, CALS
Apparently even indigent people need parent coordination — there’s a workshop on how to get it to them:
  • W1 Establishing a Local Parenting Coordination Program Including Pro Bono PC Services to Indigent FamiliesHonorable Lorna Alksne// Charlene S. Baron, JD, MA // Shirley Ann Higuchi, JD  // Lori Love, Ph D


http://www.link.cs.cmu.edu/link/submit-sentence-4.html

III. Parenting Coordinators Work With the Most Difficult Family Court Population – Those Most Prone to Assert Grievances and Challenge Decisionmakers

… cases are usually referred to parenting coordination because they are chronically litigious and difficult to manage. These parents have often had several attorneys, evaluators, and mediators — professional hopping and shopping is rampant. Their court files are thick with motions, court appearances, and allegations of wrongdoing by the parents.
Coates, Deutsch et al. (2004) Parenting Coordination for High-Conflict Fami- lies 42 Fam. Ct. Rev. 246, 252

The child custody cases referred to parenting coordinators are the most complex, acrimonious, difficult and demanding cases. Most parents regain their perspective and bearings within two years of separation, and do not need this kind of intensive and ongoing service model. Parents who continue to return to court with enforcement and modification requests after completing co- parenting educational programs, and after a child custody evaluation are can- didates for parenting coordination,

Parents who need a PC intervention are typically a special group for whom the passage of time has not reduced the rage and angry behaviors of at least one if not both parents. The 10–20% of parents who remain in entrenched and high conflict two to three years after separation/divorce are significantly more likely to have severe personality disorders and/or mental illness (Johnston & Roseby, 1997). Understanding the characteristics of parents with severe borderline, dependent, narcissistic, and antisocial personality disorders, why these parents react so strongly to rejection and loss, how the child is used in attempts to re-stabilize their functioning and punish the other parent, and how personality disorders are exacerbated by stress, conflict and the adversarial system will facilitate more effective work with these difficult clients.

Kelly (2008) Preparing for the Parenting Coordination Role: Training Needs for Mental Health and Legal Professionals 5 Journal of Child Custody 140,149-150

+ + + + = = = + + +  = = =

[VSLP*].  This footnote comes from a fragment of attorney Jennifer Jackson’s resume, which itself came from a bio of another nonprofit, Families Moving Forward, Inc. in Indiana.  I was following up in another nonprofit, “International Association Collaborative Professionals” and I guess you can see about how curious I am about the inter-relationships of various nonprofits.

I looked at the staff.  This one caught my attention — because of the specialties, not him personally:

Chris Emley (in 2011, or at least now on the website.)

Chris is a certified family law specialist and a Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, with 41 years of experience focusing on child custody litigation.  He has been included in Best Lawyers in America since 1991.  He has helped to govern VLSP since its inception in 1979.  He received the State Bar President’s Pro Bono Service Award in 1983, the Legal Assistance Association of California’s Award of Merit in 1989, and two Awards of Merit from The Bar Association of San Francisco (1977 and 2004).  He was a BASF board member from 1979 through 1981, and chaired the Lawyer Referral Service Committee.  Chris was Vice President of the San Francisco Child Abuse Council, Chairman of the Board of Legal Assistance to the Elderly, and Chairman of the Board of Legal Services for Children, Inc.

There happens to be one pro bono group in the SF Bay area which used to help women leaving violence and eventually in the news (and had I known at the time to check all these 990s, I’d have seen the notation that it specialized in helping NONCustodial, low-income fathers, I’d have realized why this group refused to help so many mothers stuck in the family law system.).   The presence of a Certified Family Law Practitioner on the board of VSLP, with his emphasis being on children’s rights, and without question, children in ANY institutional system these days need help and representation, does make me wonder who is helping with women’s rights when it comes to actual mothers who aren’t in jail for killing their batterers (which have some groups advocating) — but actually dealing with the horrors of year after year in a custody battle with a violent or abusive ex, and doing so without even a grasp of how it works, or who pays its bills.

General Comments:

I don’t see anything in VSLP which remotely deals with the situation, and was able to get no actual help (legal representation of any sort, pro bono) in my case either, not past the initial restraining order, and a perfunctory (and NOT in court) attempt to renew it, which I was told would be a non-issue, it’s often granted automatically!  No one came to court where I, like many, many other “custodial” mothers after leaving abuse, was blindsided by a prior ex parte movement consolidating renewal with a divorce and custody matter, thus shifting the case into the family law system, where it remained, and where the actual topic of ongoing DV was drowned by the type of talk we see in these realms — psychological states, not literal deeds!

The moral is, every program and every nonprofit has its target clientele.  As the target clientele (for keeping in their proper place) in so many federal grants to the states are fathers (when it comes to custody matters), it would make no “sense” for the government to also pay the opposing side, the protective mothers!

[[Interesting program, project of SF Bar: its family law person Chris Emley also on Board of “Legal Services for Children” which (as of 2001) got funding from City & County of SF, SF Dept. of Public Health, and SF Dept. of Children, Youth & Their Families.

Its address seems to be a few doors down from Kids Turn:  1254 Market vs. 1242 Market Street.  “Legal Services for Children” (2010) shows no Chris Emley on the Board, but its main purposes are:  1.  Guardianship for children wanting it; 2.  Helping kids dealing with expulsion and school-related issues; 3.  Immigration. . ..It also represents children in foster care and helps support LGBT youth.  200 Volunteer attorneys gave over $1mil worth of their help.    The group received over $1 mill. of contrib& grants, and gave $65,000 to a DC nonprofit, National Juvenile Defender Center (EIN# 02060456.  On “Foundation Finder” this EIN doesn’t pull up a tax return…..for any year.  Nor does a name search! However from NCCSdataweb, I see that it was incorporated in 2002 (legal services for children, in 1975).  This “National Juvenile Defender Center” interests me:  2002 income, 0.  A 2007 letter from Andrea Weisman, signed DC Dept of Youth Rehab. Services (“DYRS”)  (shares address with a Board member of NJDC, Mark Soler, 2002) expresses the serious problems of Youth in Adult Facilities.  Weisman and Soler (again, board member of the group which got $65K grant from the West-Coast “Legal Services for Children,” which takes funding from various depts. of SF and its city & county) worked together (1999?) on “No Minor Matter:  Children in Maryland’s Jails.”  Weisman notes she got a $1.6mil grant from OJJDP.   ]]

National Juvenile Defender Center:  

2002– income is zero.  By 2009 — they are into Technical Training and Assistance.  And ExDir. Patricia Puritz as only paid director, gets $134K salary) — and have landed over $5 million of grants, and earning $10K from investment income and have some serious program income in 2010 ($119K= almost (but not quite) enough to pay their own Exec. Director:.  Check it out.  So why, in the following year (revenues down to $405K — but probably some leftovers, wanna bet?) did a group in SF just grant them $65,000?  Or was that a sort of tax equalization between them both.  I live in the same state as “Legal Service for Children, Inc.” and we know that our K-12 schools are taking a serious hit?  Why should enough money to feed, clothe and house three families in this area for a year, be given to a nonprofit out of DC that just got $5 million the year before?

http://njdc.info/about_us.php

The National Juvenile Defender Center (NJDC) was created in 1999 to respond to the critical need to build the capacity of the juvenile defense bar and to improve access to counsel and quality of representation for children in the justice system. In 2005, the National Juvenile Defender Center separated from the American Bar Association to become an independent organization. NJDC gives juvenile defense attorneys a more permanent capacity to address practice issues, improve advocacy skills, build partnerships, exchange information, and participate in the national debate over juvenile crime.

They operate 9 US Regional Centers; the California one is in SF and among its projects is:

MacArthur Juvenile Indigent Defense Action Network (JIDAN)

In 2008, California was selected by the the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation as one of four sites in the nation to participate in the foundation’s Juvenile Indigent Defense Action Network (JIDAN).  The four JIDAN sites, Massachusetts, Florida, New Jersey and California, join the four MacArthur Models for Change “core” states of Illinois, Louisiana, Pennsylvania and Washington to form an eight-state network.

The California team is led by the Youth Law Center, and includes members from the Center for Families, Children and the Courts of the California Administrative Office of the Courts; the Loyola Law School Center for Juvenile Law & Policy; the Los Angeles County Public Defender’s Office; theSan Francisco Public Defender’s Office; the Contra Costa County Public Defender’s Office; andHuman Rights Watch.

The eight-state network is coordinated through the National Juvenile Defender Center (NJDC), and engages juvenile defenders, policymakers, judges and other key stakeholders in designing strategies to improve juvenile indigent defense policy and practice. California was chosen as a result of its demonstrated ability to achieve measurable reform on juvenile indigent defense issues.  California’s JIDAN work will be centered in the Pacific Juvenile Defender Center.

The Exec. Director of this “NJDC.INFO” nonprofit (inc. 2002) was in 2003 appointed by the Governor of Virginia to a Board of Juvenile Justice:

This bio/blurb places Ms. Puritz Professionally, prior to here, she was ABA Juvenile Justice Center, etc.

Much of this relates to the “OJJDP” and the Juvenile Justice Delinquency Prevention Act.  This is an entirely different category than “Parenting Coordination” through the family law center; it is dealing with things such as the US being the world largest per-capita jailor, that those in jail are disproprotionately minority, that horrible things are happening to youth while in confinement, etc.  By comparison, the “Parent Coordinator” issue seems like kids’ play unless one begins to wonder how many of the youth in detention had parents stuck in the family law system, which definitely cuts down on actual parenting time and focus!

p://www.americanbar.org/groups/child_law/policy/juvenile_justice.html

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A Straightforward Explanation of the Federal/State Child Protection Industry

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I think that at some level, this country (USA) has to be collectively held responsible for just “going with the flow” in this field, including tolerating Presidents that rule by Executive Order, giving tax perks (tax-exempt status) to religious institutions which historically (along with plenty of others) abuse boys and girls — with impunity for too long — and continue to fund departments such as the Health and Human Services, which  — while it dispenses valuable medical research, Medicaid, etc. — is entirely out of control.

Feedback from the post recommended the bottom section be moved to the top.  This 12/8/2011 revision does so.  Often the idea that inspires a post gets gradually removed to the bottom, as the front matter (including further explorations of the matter) grows, pushing the punch line further and further down the page.

 

Let’s look at a Massachusetts report detailing “The Money Behind the Madness” which is not so emotionally disturbing one misses it’s common sense, and that is where I’d like to end this post on a fine December day.

Thanks (anonymously) the friend who forwarded this.  I’m marking this section RED, which in the context of Traffic Lights (cf. “trafficking”) stands for, STOP!

See, there are the conservatives (Eagle Forum), and family preservationists — and they report on CPS stripping married couples of their kids, but are hard of hearing when it comes to an individual mother needing to flee an abusive husband or father — because they are father-oriented by virtue of religious inclinations.  (Not to mention the existence of plentiful fatherhood incentives as well).

Then there are people like me, who thought they were normal citizens with some sort of rights, only found differently when their case went from protection against abuse to fight for custody.  Into the family law system.  In this phase of life, being a “conservative” will not help one much — because conservatives aren’t much into, say, divorce.  You’re on your own there, baby…

Adoption Bonuses — Why Not Support the Biological Parents Instead?

After this article (including my comments during it) material below checks out some of the groups and funding.  Please note that funding continues even if audits show noncompliance; and who knows, really, where the difference between a monthly simple support of a family, to the (more than double the size) payments to the foster care contractor to find foster care parents to house the same kids.

Moreover, we KNOW — it’s not speculation, it’s pretty obvious by now — that SOME (and what %, only good accountability — which we don’t have — would tell) — that there is massive trafficking of children in compromised situations (foster care, or institutions like Boys’ Town, Nebraska) into sex slavery, to high-ranking officials, who can then be blackmailed with the photographs.  This also relates naturally to money, drugs, murder, banking (The Franklin Credit Union in this case) and politics.  Documentation by a U.S. Senator (John DeCamp) and subsequent court transcripts (cited) and a million-dollar award to one of the victims of trafficking from age 3 through 17 (Paul Bonacci) show that this extended to the White House parties after parties.  Other testimony of a young woman who reported, mentions George H.W. Bush.

This is not “sex, drugs and rock and roll” — it’s access to vulnerable kids, incentives to get them away from their parents, sex– with minors, including torture of some of them, drugs, money, blackmail – – – and politics.  Who can handle even thinking about this, or emotionally deal with the logical conclusion — that when these hearings came up, the Congress decided NOT to clean its own house; the legislators involved were not removed from office or named, and no attempt was sought by the judge involved to name them either?

Because knowing, from ethical persons, will result in seeking activism — or guilt, or numbing of the conscience to continue life AS IF it were normal, and business if all is well.  In an attempt to restructure one’s life somehow to make more time for civic activism.

 

So, that’s apparently legislative, and judicial leadership in this country.  Merry Christmas.  That, plus the other financial corruptions in the family court (systemic).

 

The Per-Capita Bounty on Breaking Up Families**

 

**Not to be confused with alternate bonuses for attempting to reconcile families which either did not exist, or have already voluntarily broken up, sometimes around abuse or desertion issues.  THOSE profits are for the family law practitioners and the various corporations involved, and also have separate federal financing streams.  Let me repeat:  If you are married but on the radar somehow as abusive, or if you are in particularly a single black woman raising children — it’s fair game.  Someone may find an excuse to call CPS and violate all due process rights.  After this article, I posted (again) on the black couple with children from Pennsylvania who ran afoul of a new “Child Safety Team” with an agenda to promote awareness of Shaken Baby Syndrome.  I found the grants on TAGGS as well.  A father was incarcerated wrongfully for a year (shortly after the program was up and running), they medical authorities apparently didn’t know about Rickets among African-Americans, and positive (defense) testimony by a doctor on the same team was suppressed; “experts” used this case to BECOME experts, and when the Dad went in jail — the other children were grabbed by foster care.

SOMEHOW, they managed to sue back, and get some help in doing so.  But those stories are further down in the post.  I also identified how HHS is helping some coordinated (multistate) adoption centers AND a resource center to create awareness of what a great field this is, to be in.

If growing children cannot bond with their own parents, they WILL find someone else to bond with, another peer group, or another powerful individual — if they are not literally kidnapped by powerful individuals and use in unspeakable ways.    Those peer groups are not likely to respect the biological bond between parent and child, and its defensive nurturing qualities.  This population is likely to be raised by a government willing to warehouse and label them, drug them (and some recent evidence, testing drugs on foster care kids), and other behavioral science “demonstration” projects funded by the public, and force them to become an ever-consuming (of services, trainings, products, etc.) population.

 

And for what purpose, what REAL purpose ?  to satisfy the IMF somehow? or global billionaires with time on their hands and worlds to revise?The more authoritarian and repressive a society becomes, the more it is simply asking for anarchy — and it will get this.  It is about greed, and sale of human beings for greed’s and merchandising’s sake.

 

In the Bible, “Babylon” is railed and prophesied against in Jeremiah (Ch. 51) Isaiah (21) and Revelations (14, 18).  Babylon being the nation that carried Israel away captive and the prophets declared that it had deceived the world (made it drunk, made the nations mad) and vengeance will come:

Flee out of the midst of Babylon, and deliver every man his soul: be not cut off in her iniquity; for this is the time of the LORD’S vengeance; he will render unto her a recompence.

7Babylon hath been a golden cup in the LORD’S hand, that made all the earth drunken: the nations have drunken of her wine; therefore the nations are mad.

 

Rev. 18 in particular details the greed, merchandising, profits from transporting goods, and in vivid terms pictures their responses when they realize from afar that Babylon is burning.  Then it squarely lames the blood of “all that were slain” upon this.

Apart from characterizing the city as a woman (very thinly disguised cultural hatred of women and their sexuality), it seems to me the analogy of drunkenness applies.  One of the quotes on this post literally says, “has the nation gone mad?”  Long ago, pre-internet, pre-all this — the same sentiment comes out.  Notice the contrast between the Merchants — but habitation of “foul spirits” (birds also signifies spirits).  I cannot think of anything much more foul than and industry which sells children, with funds collected from the community at large, while promising to help them. And which, when these children then report how they were handled, jails them (happened in the Franklin Coverup), or when it’s well-known that children are both disappearing and/or dying in foster care, the system simply seeks for more clients.  The system also currently (custody matters) jails mothers for protesting abuse, or for intervening by fleeing — rather than by the officially sanctioned method, which is having someone ordered into a program, like batterers intervention, treatment for sexual addictions, or other reportedly effective programs which get state adn federal funding.

(*I found another one yesterday, a continuation of one already found allegedly cheating, demanding payments in cash, in 1999, their charitable report is of doing over $6 million of business in Sacramento — California’s capital; the CEO earns $172,000 to oversee this, and psychiatric services of over $200K to one of the Board Directors.  It is the largest single contractor for these things.  I will report on it, too.).

MERCHANDISING, described . .. .

<< Revelation 18 >>
King James Version

1And after these things I saw another angel come down from heaven, having great power; and the earth was lightened with his glory. 2And he cried mightily with a strong voice, saying, Babylon the great is fallen, is fallen, and is become the habitation of devils, and the hold of every foul spirit, and a cage of every unclean and hateful bird. 3For all nations have drunk of the wine of the wrath of her fornication, and the kings of the earth have committed fornication with her, and the merchants of the earth are waxed rich through the abundance of her delicacies.

The merchants are waxed rich. . . .. not all the inhabitants.  I’m posting a chunk of this (short chapter) for effect — and notice, it’s those that have investments, that own ships, that tule nations, that have goods to sell — that are benefitting; not those who made the ships, or the goods  This is the Corporate & Government sectors.  The final verse notes that in her (sic) are all the slain of the earth.

There’s a truth to this — for what other reasons to nations go to war, or do people kill each other, besides individually, men may kill for jealousy or feeling betrayed.  But usually, it’s for greed.  The language is yes, pre-occupied with “fornication” and rejoicing in the destruction of a city (built by men, not women) characterized as female.

And the kings of the earth, who have committed fornication and lived deliciously with her, shall bewail her, and lament for her, when they shall see the smoke of her burning, 10Standing afar off for the fear of her torment, saying, Alas, alas, that great city Babylon, that mighty city! for in one hour is thy judgment come.

11And the merchants of the earth shall weep and mourn over her; for no man buyeth their merchandise any more: 12The merchandise of gold, and silver, and precious stones, and of pearls, and fine linen, and purple, and silk, and scarlet, and all thyine wood, and all manner vessels of ivory, and all manner vessels of most precious wood, and of brass, and iron, and marble, 13And cinnamon, and odours, and ointments, and frankincense, and wine, and oil, and fine flour, and wheat, and beasts, and sheep, and horses, and chariots, and slaves, and souls of men.

14And the fruits that thy soul lusted after are departed from thee, and all things which were dainty and goodly are departed from thee, and thou shalt find them no more at all. 15The merchants of these things, which were made rich by her, shall stand afar off for the fear of her torment, weeping and wailing,

16And saying, Alas, alas, that great city, that was clothed in fine linen, and purple, and scarlet, and decked with gold, and precious stones, and pearls! 17For in one hour so great riches is come to nought. And every shipmaster, and all the company in ships, and sailors, and as many as trade by sea, stood afar off, 18And cried when they saw the smoke of her burning, saying, What city is like unto this great city! 19And they cast dust on their heads, and cried, weeping and wailing, saying, Alas, alas, that great city, wherein were made rich all that had ships in the sea by reason of her costliness! for in one hour is she made desolate. 20Rejoice over her, thou heaven, and ye holy apostles and prophets; for God hath avenged you on her.

21And a mighty angel took up a stone like a great millstone, and cast it into the sea, saying, Thus with violence shall that great city Babylon be thrown down, and shall be found no more at all. 22And the voice of harpers, and musicians, and of pipers, and trumpeters, shall be heard no more at all in thee; and no craftsman, of whatsoever craft he be, shall be found any more in thee; and the sound of a millstone shall be heard no more at all in thee;

{Industries, including the entertainment industry, that supported the merchants and kings…}}

23And the light of a candle shall shine no more at all in thee; and the voice of the bridegroom and of the bride shall be heard no more at all in thee: for thy merchants were the great men of the earth; for by thy sorceries were all nations deceived24And in her was found the blood of prophets, and of saints, and of all that were slain upon the earth.

There’s some truth to this.   In 2011, we are watching a globally-designed (by the great men of the earth) monetary system based on strong-arm collection from wage-earners (income tax, child support enforcement also) and with jails and police force to back up the intimidation, shuddering and crumbling — it has expanded beyond the weight it can bear, and never was to hot on accountability either — which helped increase the wealth of some of the “great men of the earth.”

And yes, this is getting people of all ages killed, including people that spoke out against the injustice and what would happen if it didnt’ stop (cf. prophets) and those who simply lived ethcial lives within their means, without devising ways to get rich illegally (tax evasion) or massively rich (multiple income streams), believing in stead in the merits and honesty of working — a job, or a profession — to produce a product or honest service.  And they are losing their houses, and sometimes, offspring, while helping bail out banks.  The people who helped create the larger and larger income gap do not LIVE in the neighborhoods they helped design, with each other, for others.  In far off places (institutions, Institutes, at conferences, in on-line webinars, and on Congressional and other committees) — they design and plan yet more ways to control the population, either social science, behavioral change programs, or basically the threat of prison for noncompliance, and (let me just say it, OK?), abstinence programs – and no indication the leaders of our country pushing this are even faithful to their own wives ,whichever wife it may be at the time.  Marriage promotion programs, fatherhood promotion, and one-stop-justice centers — all a public expense with corporate injections.

And I have seen so many out of compliance corporations in the past year, I cannot count.  California Healthy Marriage Coalition, I admit, really got under my skin when I saw the two or three corporate suspensions, a Unification church staff member, that Bill Coffin & Dennis Stoica (and others) worked together to get more grants after what proof of any benefit from the first rounds?

 

So yes, at a certain level, I can see the truth in the angry prophecies of a future day of accountability from The Lord.  Some of this is simply about ethics.

I mean no offence to the many good foster care families that I’ll assume (?) are out there, and not making news headlines.  Still, the system you are part of, and taking payment from, has its priorities backwards.   It’s simply true of institutions — unlike families, which seem to have a certain natural limit (barring polygamy) — they seek to perpetuate and expand, infinitely, and when the society allows this, they do.

 

From “Massachusetts New” Political — May 5, 2000 (per url)

Adoption Bonuses: The Money Behind the Madness 

DSS and affiliates rewarded for breaking up families

By Nev Moore
Massachusetts News

Child “protection” is one of the biggest businesses in the country. We spend $12 billion a year on it. 

The money goes to tens of thousands of a) state employees, b) collateral professionals, such as lawyers, court personnel, court investigators, evaluators and guardians, judges, and c) DSS contracted vendors such as counselors, therapists, more “evaluators”, junk psychologists, residential facilities, foster parents, adoptive parents, MSPCC, Big Brothers/Big Sisters, YMCA, etc. This newspaper is not big enough to list all of the people in this state who have a job, draw a paycheck, or make their profits off the kids in DSS custody.

In this article I explain the financial infrastructure that provides the motivation for DSS to take people’s children – and not give them back.

In 1974 Walter Mondale promoted the Child Abuse and Prevention Act which began feeding massive amounts of federal funding to states to set up programs to combat child abuse and neglect. From that came Child “Protective” Services, as we know it today. After the bill passed, Mondale himself expressed concerns that it could be misused. He worried that it could lead states to create a “business” in dealing with children.

Then in 1997 President Clinton passed the “Adoption and Safe Families Act.” The public relations campaign promoted it as a way to help abused and neglected children who languished in foster care for years, often being shuffled among dozens of foster homes, never having a real home and family. In a press release from the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services dated November 24, 1999, it refers to “President Clinton’s initiative to double by 2002 the number of children in foster care who are adopted or otherwise permanently placed.”

Fiscal Appropriations for “Promoting Safe and Stable Families” for FY2011 was $565,000,000, Appropriations, $468,000,000.

It all sounded so heartwarming. We, the American public, are so easily led. We love to buy stereotypes; we just eat them up, no questions asked. But, my mother, bless her heart, taught me from the time I was young to “consider the source.” In the stereotype that we’ve been sold about kids in foster care, we picture a forlorn, hollow-eyed child, thin and pale, looking up at us beseechingly through a dirt streaked face. Unconsciously, we pull up old pictures from Life magazine of children in Appalachia in the 1930s. We think of orphans and children abandoned by parents who look like Manson family members. We play a nostalgic movie in our heads of the little fellow shyly walking across an emerald green, manicured lawn to meet Ward and June Cleaver, his new adoptive parents, who lead him into their lovely suburban home. We imagine the little tyke’s eyes growing as big as saucers as the Cleavers show him his very own room, full of toys and sports gear. And we just feel so gosh darn good about ourselves.

In other words, what sells it to the public is a good, warm, fuzzy feeling about helping strangers.  Open the pocketbooks…..

Now it’s time to wake up to the reality of the adoption business. 

Very few children who are being used to supply the adoption market are hollow-eyed tykes from Appalachia. Very few are crack babies from the projects. [Oh… you thought those were the children they were saving? Think again]. When you are marketing a product you have to provide a desirable product that sells. In the adoption business that would be nice kids with reasonably good genetics who clean up good.

. . . .

With the implementation of the Adoption and Safe Families Act, President Clinton tried to make himself look like a humanitarian who is responsible for saving the abused and neglected children. The drive of this initiative is to offer cash “bonuses” to states for every child they have adopted out of foster care, with the goal of doubling their adoptions by 2002, and sustaining that for each subsequent year. They actually call them “adoption incentive bonuses,” to promote the adoption of children.

“A Whole New Industry — A Sweet Marketing Scheme”:

Where to Find the Children

A whole new industry was put into motion. A sweet marketing scheme that even Bill Gates could envy. Now, if you have a basket of apples, and people start giving you $100 per apple, what are you going to do? Make sure that you have an unlimited supply of apples, right?

The United States Department of Health & Human Services administers Child Protective Services. To accompany the ASF Act, the President requested, by executive memorandum, an initiative entitled Adoption 2002, to be implemented and managed by Health & Human Services. The initiative not only gives the cash adoption bonuses to the states, it also provides cash adoption subsidies to adoptive parents until the children turn eighteen.

If Clinton had run this through the normal legislative processes, and gotten a public vote — would it have passed?  I bet lots of parents who lost children properly to the system ALREADY — would’ve voted NO!

Everybody makes money. If anyone really believes that these people are doing this out of the goodness of their hearts, then I’ve got some bad news for you. The fact that this program is run by HHS, ordered from the very top, explains why the citizens who are victims of DSS get no response from their legislators. It explains why no one in the Administration cares about the abuse and fatalities of children in the “care” of DSS, and no one wants to hear about the broken arms, verbal abuse, or rapes. They are just business casualties. It explains why the legislators I’ve talked to for the past three years look at me with pity. Because I’m preaching to the already damned. 

The legislators have forgotten who funds their paychecks and who they need to account to, as has the Governor. Because it isn’t the President. It’s us.

The author, Nev Moore, then contrasts the help, support (to “preserve families”) and perks foster parents get, as opposed to a welfare mother, who gets less, and is subjected to far more invasion in the process:

What an interesting government policy when compared to the welfare program that the same child’s mother may have been on before losing her children, and in which she may not own anything, must prove that she has no money in the bank; no boats, real estate, stocks or bonds; and cannot even own a car that is safe to drive worth over $1000. This is all so she can collect $539 per month for herself and two children. The foster parent who gets her children gets $820 plusWe spit on the mother on welfare as a parasite who is bleeding the taxpayers, yet we hold the foster and adoptive parents [who are bleeding ten times as much from the taxpayers] up as saints. The adoptive and foster parents aren’t subjected to psychological evaluations, ink blot tests, MMPI’s, drug & alcohol evaluations, or urine screens as the parents are. 

Adoption subsidies may be negotiated on a case by case basis. [Anyone ever tried to “negotiate” with the Welfare Department?] There are many e-mail lists and books published to teach adoptive parents how to negotiate to maximize their subsidies. As one pro writes on an e-mail list: “We receive a subsidy for our kids of $1,900 per month plus another $500 from the State of Florida. We are trying to adopt three more teens and we will get subsidies for them, too. It sure helps out with the bills.”

I can’t help but wonder why we don’t give this same level of support to the children’s parents in the first place?

The writer points out, correctly:

So, if the natural parents were given the incredible incentives and services listed above that are provided to the adoptive parents, wouldn’t it stand to reason that the causes for removing children in the first place would be eliminated? How many less children would enter foster care in the first place? The child protective budget would be reduced from $12 billion to around $4 billion. Granted, tens of thousands of social workers, administrators, lawyers, juvenile court personnel, therapists, and foster parents would be out of business, but we would have safe, healthy, intact families, which are the foundation of any society.

Thank God for writers like this, who in the article recommends boycotting a US stamp which sports a National Adoption Month, and concludes:

“I know that I’m feeling pretty smug and superior about being part of such a socially advanced and compassionate society. How about you?”

“Remember that children in foster care serve many public purposes — not good ones — but they do.  They are being USED, and it’s hardly surprising.  Children are big bucks — they can be trafficked to serve legislator’s (and others’) perverse passions, and in the process enabling very profitable blackmail of the same.  They can be apparently disposed of easier after use than children with involved biological parents and relatives.  They can be used to bill the public for unnecessary pharmaceuticals more easily than kids in the home can be, although from what I read, there’s too much of that going on.  How many unknown deaths or adverse reactions result from over-dosing kids in foster care?   When inappropriately photographed as minors (sometimes without their knowledge), this pornography has a market, too.

Are there good foster, and really bad parents?  Obviously.  But just as obviously, the system is ripe for abuse.  And it’s SYSTEMS we have to watch out for as citizens — or lose it all.    Is this country about material prosperity — absent due process? — or about liberty, which will allow individuals to band together freely and seek their mutual prosperity and safety?

When daily survival keeps the average and poor too busy to monitor those with multiple streams of income and time to lobby and devise favorable legislation for favorite projects (or simply by pass the legal process, as too many Presidents have done) — then we are going to compartmentalize the best of humanity away.   I see this as an institutional matter — and as such, more people need to stop letting others direct the institutions that direct their lives, and manipulate different segments of society to fight each other.

Justice doesn’t happen without some accountability, whether one believes in a just highest power (God) — or justice underlying the principles by which the universe operates — it seems to me that mass abuse of the young (and using adults as breeding stock) would be its own prophecy of a system and society that cannot survive, that is going to implode, explode, be taken over — or all three.

This article is 11 years old, and I don’t think I could’ve said it much better.

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Trouble with TAGGS.hhs.gov — the free HHS Database for the Public:

 

The only database available to the public (for free) to really track its grants system  — is obviously inaccurate, hard to manipulate even by people familiar with database use (let alone others).

HHS/ACF recently (Oct 2011) announced over $119 million of grant awards — without providing the grant# in the announcement, and (when this was later looked up, by me) it turns out the last names of all principal investigators of said grants — were omitted from the database, having been replaced by first names only!   I.e., a grant overseen by a John Smith would read in the printout “John John,” as I showed earlier.

Moreover, TAGGS.HHS.GOV allows search by grantee identifiers such as EIN# and DUNS# — but many grants lack DUNS.  The most obvious searchable numeric identifier of any grantee — is not available to search on in the Taggs database under “Advanced Search.”

CFDA# Selections

The website drop-down-type menu showing which of the multitude of program identifiers (CFDA#s) available to track — for those curious about what’s being done within a state, or inter-state — is narrow, long, one can key in a CFDA#, but not search by CFDA title.  For example — in this post, I’m talking about Adoption and Foster Care.

To look up which grant programs (CFDA#s) are involved I would have to either already know them, or scroll down the entire list looking for clues.

The list has two columns — it could have been made searchable by either column, or key-sensitive by either column (i.e., if I typed in “healthy marriage” or “Adoption” — the cursor forwards to the first occurrence of it).

The “Award Search Menu” has a list of all these, and one can select them all — but not copy them all, which seems offensive to common sense!  Try it yourself (see link).  They are not all visible at once, even.  The menu which allows one to search by CFDA numbers (select by year and state) requires one to somehow know which numbers first — and no visual reference for them on the page.  Why not?

Here’s a recent grant announcment from “Grants.gov”:

04/27/2011 Infant Adoption Awareness Training Grants Administration for Children and Families

If I go about 4 different places, the CFDA# it falls under will show up:

Funding Opportunity Title: Infant Adoption Awareness Training Grants
Funding Opportunity Number (FON): HHS-2011-ACF-ACYF-CG-0170
Program Office: Administration on Children, Youth and Families
Funding Type: Discretionary
Funding Category: Cooperative Agreement
Announcement Type: Modification
CFDA#: 93.254
Post Date: 06/02/2011
Application Due Date: 06/27/2011

Then, I could search CFDA 93254 by state, region, or locality — but would not get a numeric identifier of the grantee in the results!

In searching AWARD/CFDA# (and not selecting state or year), I come up with a chart showing this total:

Page Award Actions Count: 50 Award Actions Amount for this Page: $ 62,965,046
Total of 95 Award Actions for 28 Awards Total Amount for all Award Actions: $ 140,269,924

The results are displayed by individual award#s and zip codes — but not States! — are shown.  So, if one has a photographic awareness of all 50 states by zip code, one might recognize where the awards went.  Awards to a few key groups show up in different zip codes; here are some of them:

(1) Adoption Exchange Assoc. (MD)

Total Actions (under grantee) $ 39,674,027

Recipient: ADOPTION EXCHANGE ASSOCIATION
Address: 8015 CORPORATE DRIVE SUITE C
BALTIMORE, MD 21236-5917
Country Name: United States of America
County Name: BALTIMORE
HHS Region: 3
Type: Other Social Services Organization
Class: Non-Profit Private Non-Government Organizations

Showing: 1 – 18 of 18 Award Actions (1995 – 2011)

Total:
Total of all award actions: $ 39,674,027

Includes programtitles such as:

2005 90XW0010  HURRICANE KATRINA RELIEF 1 0 ACF 09-29-2005 DUNS# 140230892 $ 600,000 
 but also:
2002 90CQ0001  THE COLLABORATION TO ADOPTUSKIDS 1 0 ACF 09-04-2002 140230892 $ 4,438,959 
FY Award Number Award Title Budget Year of Support Award Code Agency Action Issue Date DUNS Number Amount This Action
2008 90CQ0002  ADOPTUSKIDS 2 0 ACF 09-16-2008 140230892 $ 3,669,500 

(2) Harmony Adoptions of Tennessee, Inc.

Total awards (this grantee) 2007-2011:  $ 5,434,761

(From the TN Corporations Search Site):

Control # Entity Type Name Name Type Name Status Entity Filing Date Entity Status
000365453 NCORP HARMONY ADOPTIONS OF TENNESSEE, INC. Entity Active 02/05/1999 Active

Website claims they were founded in 1996

Founded in 1996, Harmony Adoptions is a licensed, non-profit adoption agency offering programs nationally recognized for their clinical design, implementation and exceptional outcomes. We are highly trained and passionate about our work and we make a difference in the lives of children and families. Our greatest joy is when a child comes home to their forever family. Our work continues as we support them all along the journey.

 They also receive “Healthy Marriage Healthy Family” grants — that doesn’t refer to the biological family (see last article on this post), but adoptive:

The Healthy Marriage, Healthy Family (HMHF) program is a federally-funded program through the Children’s Bureau and was launched in 2006. HMHF was developed in hopes that, by stabilizing the relationship between caregivers, the entire household will stabilize which would result in fewer disrupted placements. By utilizing the existing statewide ASAP (Adoption Support and Preservation) program, HMHF is able to reach, train, and support resource (foster) families and adoptive families across the entire state of Tennessee.

In the TAGG grant (incidentally) the title of this program is mis-spelled for this grantee

NCCSdataweb shows they do have an EIN#  Purpose indicates a focus on orphans:

“TO ARRANGE FOR THE PLACEMENT OF ORPHAN CHILDREN LIVING IN THE US AND FOREIGN COUNTRIES WITH ADOPTIVE PARENTS AND TO PROVIDE COUNSELING AND SUPPORT”  but the Infant Adoption Awareness Training is focused on pregnant women — not orphans.

621772291 Harmony Adoptions of Tennessee Inc 5,546,738 700,199 2010
Recipient: Harmony Adoptions of Tennessee, Inc.
Address: 131 Cherokee Heights Drive
MARYVILLE, TN 37801-5413
Country Name: United States of America
County Name: BLOUNT
HHS Region: 4
Type: Other Social Services Organization
Class: Non-Profit Public Non-Government Organizations
FY Award Number Award Title Budget Year of Support Award Code Agency Action Issue Date DUNS Number Amount This Action
2007 90CG2659  INFANT ADOPTION AWARES TRAINING PROGRAM 2 0 ACF 07-27-2007 104115238 $ 1,013,434 
2007 90CO1032  THE HEATLHY MARRAIGE, HEALTHY FAMILY PROJECT 2 0 ACF 06-18-2007 104115238 $ 247,451 

The words “Awareness (one series), “Healthy” and “Marriage” were misspelled.  I wonder if there were similar errors or switching of #s in the amount$ columns…. The misspelling was not corrected for years of grants recordings….four years, to be exact…..

The Exec Director of “Harmony” (earns about $88K) also shows up (former?)University of Tennessee Legal Clinic Director:

Pamela L. Wolf – LCSW, MSW Founder and Executive Director of Harmony
Pam’s focus is the provision of quality services to children and families. As an instructor at the University of Tennessee Legal Clinic, Pam worked to identify comprehensive solutions for homeless families. Pam developed ‘The Parent Refuge’, a program designed to support single mothers. Following the adoption of her daughter, Pam founded Harmony Adoptions. Harmony provides comprehensive adoption services to adoptive families, birth families, adoptees and the community at large. Pam provides leadership for the Infant Adoption. Training Initiative (IATI) and is active with Harmony’s Adoption Support and Preservation (ASAP) program. Both programs tap into Pam’s passion for promoting comprehensive adoption services with her enthusiasm for education

Another director of Harmony in TN notes her background:

Pam Frye – Adoption Services Director for Harmony
She Received her MS in Educational Psychology, Community Counseling from the University of Tennessee. Pam comes to Harmony from the Helen Ross McNabb Center, where she spent 15 years counseling children and their families. Pam has a special interest in the needs of both rural and urban children. She and husband Kevin adopted their daughter from China. Pam’s work at Harmony combines her passions – meeting the needs of children, counseling, and parental education.

Among other things, the Helen Ross McNabb Center partners with TN Dept. of DCFS to help place children in Foster Care…

Foster Care Services

Helen Ross McNabb Center Foster Care and Adoption Program is a therapeutic foster care program operated in conjunction with the Tennessee Department of Children’s Services.

These children have been removed from their homes (and if they do not have appropriate relatives in their own family) are placed in protective custody of the state due to abuse, neglect, unruliness or delinquency. The program recruits and trains caring, structured foster homes to help these children who enter custody with a multitude of problems and needs. . . .A Helen Ross McNabb foster care specialist is a trained case manager with a Bachelor’s or Master’s degree in the children and families field. The specialist will help the foster family with behavioral interventions if the children exhibit any behavioral issues

The site — which is named Infant Adoption Training Initiative (pretty clearly after the grant series) features three of the recipients from TAGGS, and is copyrighted by them:

Copyright © 2005-2007  Spaulding for ChildrenHarmony & Arizona’s Children Association.
All rights reserved. Privacy & Terms of Use
 / ADA Statement

In fact, the initiative is pretty well described as simply a grant program from HHS, and 5 recipients are listed:

What is the Infant Adoption Awareness Training Program?
The Infant Adoption Training Initiative is funded by a grant from the US Department of Health and Human Services. Our Understanding Infant Adoption training program is designed to help health care professionals serving pregnant women and teens discuss adoption as an option with patients and clients who are not sure that they want to parent the child.


(3) Latino Family Institute (CA, Los Angeles area)

Total awards (grantee) since 2000 = $9,947,145

Recipient: LATINO FAMILY INSTITUTE
Address: 1501 W. CAMERON AVENUE STE 240
WEST COVINA, CA 91790-2724
Country Name: United States of America
County Name: LOS ANGELES
HHS Region: 9
Type: Other Social Services Organization
Class: Non-Profit Private Non-Government Organization

The first two awards show recruitment:

FY Award Number Award Title Budget Year of Support Award Code Agency Action Issue Date DUNS Number Amount This Action
2000 90CO0905  LATINO RECRUITMENT AND ADOPTION INNOVATIONS 1 0 ACF 09-14-2000 042325063 $ 250,000 
Fiscal Year 2000 Total: $ 250,000
Total of all award actions: $ 9,997,145

They incorporated in California 1996 (same year as welfare reform, before Harmony — above):

Entity Number Date Filed Status Entity Name Agent for Service of Process
C1967025 04/18/1996 ACTIVE LATINO FAMILY INSTITUTE, INC. MARIA L. QUINTANILLA

Their charitable status is also current, although there are no returns (state or federal) showing past the year 2007 in California for this amount: EIN#

EIN#
954587747
Fiscal Begin: 01-JAN-09
Fiscal End: 31-DEC-09
Total Assets: $1,344,706.00
Gross Annual Revenue: $2,388,114.00
RRF Received: 18-NOV-10
Returned Date:
990 Attached: Y
Status: Accepted

Their programs include Adoption, Foster Care, Kinship Care, Infant Adoption Awareness Training (above), Abandoned Infants Assistance, etc.:

Latino Family Institute is an Adoption, Foster Care, and Family Support agency dedicated to improving social welfare conditions leading to increased family functioning. We enrich society’s foundation by advocating for and implementing culturally effective interventions that elevate the collective well-being of our families.


Vision Statement:

The Latino Family Institute seeks to advance social welfare conditions facing Spanish dominant families. Our vision for every child to have love and permanency in their family of origin. We aspire to preserve the integrity of Latin American cultures among adoptive families and to promote kinship adoptions as a preferred alternative to family integration. We envision a social environment that is sensitive to the complex needs of children in Foster Care and one that is active in reducing the vulnerabilities of such delicate families.

Want more specifics?  Read this 2009 Los Angeles County audit of the institute’s compliance with its contract with the county, which also shows some $$ figures, for reference.  The Institute Contracts with the Department of Family and Children’s Services to recruit, train and supervise foster care parents.  Based on age, the institute received between $1,589 & $1,865 per month, per child of which parents were then paid between  $624 & $790 per month (2007-2008), approximately $352K that year. 
There’s the profit margin, now who is supporting the Institute, and what are its financials (multiply nationwide – this is the practice, do we know how often?)  $1,589 – $624 = the profit (overhead) is $965.   “Latino Family Social Workers did not make 3 out of the 5 required visits within the timeframe.”
The ACF report — Children’s Bureau Express — was glowing:
Children's Bureau Logo

Innovative Recruitment Strategies: The Latino Family Institute

A number of programs have received Adoption Opportunities grants from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Children’s Bureau to carry out demonstration projects designed to improve outcomes for children adopted from foster care. One highly successful program highlighted here illustrates how these grants can be used to find permanent families for specific groups of children, in this case—Latino children in Los Angeles.

In 2000, the Latino Family Institute (LFI) received a 3-year grant from the Children’s Bureau to place 40 Latino children with families. By the end of the project period, the results spoke for themselves: 69 Latino children had been placed in adoptive homes, and 198 prospective Latino families had been recruited. In addition, the awareness of the need for adoptive homes had been heightened in the Latino community, and more than 200 child welfare professionals had received training on using culturally responsive approaches to recruitment and placement.

Since the end of funding, LFI has continued to provide adoption services and was able to expand programs after receiving additional Federal grants. In 2005, LFI opened a new office following the award of the Abandoned Infants Assistance grant targeting families impacted by substance abuse and HIV/AIDS. In 2007, LFI finalized 76 adoptions. Currently, LFI conducts the Infant Adoption Awareness Training Program {{also an HHS-supported project}} in California and Puerto Rico.

 This sounds wonderful.  I am wondering how much HHS funding this particular (different) institute gets also from the HHS:
Site logo
http://www.nlffi.org/
(the group is new to me, but it appears to draw on a number of existing grant programs already):

NLFFI LOCALLY
At the community level, the Institute provides culturally competent curriculum, social and educational services with programs designed to:

  • Influence men to become strong Fathers and responsible men
  • Assist men is healing and preventing the issue of Domestic Violence
  • Strengthen and preserve families
  • Address the Issue of Community and Gang Violence
  • Promote Rites of passage and Youth Mentoring
  • Address the issue of Teen Pregnancy prevention
  • Provide culturally competent health and mental health services
In this context, what chance would a Latina mother, if compromised in any other way already, ever have in a custody situation?
This group (NFFLI) announced that in January 2011 it is launching a California Fatherhood Initiative, and first-up in organizations it wants to partner with includes the White House Office of Faith-Based and Community Initiatives:

About President Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative

The White House Initiative on Fatherhood & Mentoring Initiative recognizes that engaged and involved fathers have an incredibly positive effect on the lives of their children. The Initiative is a national call to action to address fatherlessness in America and includes the following steps:

• The White House Office of Faith-based and Neighborhood Partnerships and the Office of Public Engagement will host community forums on fatherhood and personal responsibility around the country, in concert with local groups.

• Organizations and Individuals who sign up for the Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative will receive e-newsletters featuring articles, tips and resources from prominent leaders in the fatherhood and family fields and information about model programs.

• Organizations supporting the Initiative will work to have an impact on responsible fatherhood, from local forums with the National Parent Teachers Association to community trainings by the National Fatherhood Leaders Group (NFLG). Partners from the National PTA to the head of the Council of Christian Colleges and Universities have signed up to advance the President’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative in communities around the country.

Will post separately on this one, I am rather disturbed, and want to find out of MY government is funding it also. . . . ..  

In addition there is another nonprofit in Maryland serving the region to coordinate information and efforts to adopt:

http://www.adoptionsupport.org/about/index.php

(In MD a page full of corporations (incl. Forfeited, Suspended & Dissolved names) shows how popular the “Adoptions” field indeed is ….) (EIN# 52-2100734, it does exist; year 2009 reporting $766K contributions & grants plus $716K program services — not bad (the previous year, the program services far exceeded the grants).  This, too, is incorporated as of 1998:

(Dept. ID) Entity Name Entity Detail Status
(D04974622) CENTER FOR ADOPTION SUPPORT AND EDUCATION, INC. General Info. Amendments Personal Property INCORPORATED

This too (per my EIN TAGGS search) got HHS support, starting in the year 2000.  As of 2001, faith-based groups (see my last post!) could apply, too, in fact no doubt encouraged to….

Recipient: THE CENTER FOR ADOPTION SUPPORT & EDUCATION, INC.
Address: 11120 NEW HAMPSHIRE AVE-STE205
SILVER SPRING, MD 20904
  (very busy address appears to be right opposite huge hospital? and many other businesses at same street address)
Country Name: United States of America
County Name: MONTGOMERY
HHS Region: 3
Type: Other Social Services Organization
Class: Non-Profit Private Non-Government Organizations
Recipient Name City State ZIP Code County DUNS Number Sum of Awards
THE CENTER FOR ADOPTION SUPPORT & EDUCATION, INC.  SILVER SPRING MD 20904 MONTGOMERY $ 900,000

WHAT A SHAME THERE ARE NOT MORE HHS GRANTS  OR PRO BONO GROUPS TO SUPPORT PROTECTION OF SINGLE MOTHERS FROM INAPPROPRIATELY LOSING THEIR CHILDREN TO ABUSIVE PARTNERS, OR TO THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM.  THE CHILD SUPPORT SYSTEM HAS VIRTUALLY FUNDED AN ATTACK ON THE STATUS OF SINGLE MOTHERS LEAVING ABUSE, AND IT IS MANAGED BY THE SAME ENTITY, HHS.. . ..

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GRANTS INCENTIVIZE — SO THEY AND THE NONPROFITS GETTING THEM SHOULD BE MONITORED BY THE PUBLIC — BECAUSE THERE IS A PERVERSE INCENTIVE NOT TO MONITOR TOO OFTEN.

This 8,400 word grant began with the following section.  What’s above here is (per my style) lengthy intro, combining my lookups with a statement of position.  What’s BELOW is what inspired the post.

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Grants and Programs Incentivize Action & Attract Traffic.  It’s a symbiotic relationship.  Their original purposes can be great — but once set up, the infrastructure is going to want customers.  Consider the father that apparenty spent a year in jail apart from his family, innocently, and the WHY wouldn’t have been unearthed unless they’d filed a lawsuit — as I blogged last October, in Courthouse Forum News:  Franklin County (PA) OCYF gets sued in Federal Court by Pennsylvania Couple.

By ERIN MCAULEY

HARRISBURG, Pa. (CN) – Parents say they lost custody of their children, were identified as child abusers and the father was jailed for more than a year because doctors and state officials falsely attributed their 4-month-old daughter’s childhood stroke and congenital rickets to child abuse.
Jamel Billups and Jacqueline Rosario, who are black, sued the Penn State Milton S. Hershey Medical Center, Franklin County and its Office of Children, Youth and Families and a long list of individuals, in Federal Court.
The parents say that when their daughter, L.B., suffered a stroke and showed signs of rickets on Oct. 19, 2009, the Child Safety team at Penn State Hershey Medical Centerfalsely blamed her condition on child abuse, and the state then seized her and her 2-year-old brother, T.R., and sent them to foster homes.

About the context:

The parents say the Franklin County Office of Children, Youth and Families “has a policy of relying upon doctors affiliated with the American Academy Pediatrics, whose opinions are tainted by a burden shifting medical presumption that the cause of any intracranial injury in a child under the age of one year is caused by abuse unless the parents provide an accidental explanation, to perform the medical investigation into whether injuries suspected to have been caused by child abuse were, in fact, caused by child abuse.”
They claim that agents of the Office of Children, Youth and Families, defendants Tammie Lay and Dawn M. Watson, “failed to conduct their own independent non-presumption tainted investigation” and “relied exclusively upon the conclusion of defendant Penn State’s Child Safety Team and defendants [Drs. Mark S.] Dias, [Kathryn R.] Crowell and [Arabinda K.] Choudhary that L.B.’s intracranial hemorrhages were caused by abuse on the afternoon of October 19, 2009 and rib fractures were caused by abuse 4 to 8 weeks prior to her hospitalization without conducting any independent medical review or confirmation of their own.”

It is horrible that this child suffered injuries.  However, there’s another kind of parent education program which might have been appropriate also:

They say that despite medical knowledge that Vitamin D deficiency can lead to rickets and weak bones in African Americans, Penn State’s Child Safety Team failed to require that L.B.’s blood be tested for abnormal clotting factors or that the child’s or mother’s blood be tested for vitamin D deficiency.

Another Doctor, Charles Pragnell — from outside the US — writes consistently on the problem with medical malpractice in presuming abuse, when it may or may not have been:

How children are suffering harm by those with a duty to protect them.

By Charles Pragnell

The abuse of children is a horrendous and unacceptable crime in any society and it is correct that when such acts occur, immediate protection is available for the children and appropriate action is taken in regard to the offenders.

However, what is also unacceptable is the high level of false accusation of child abuse which also has abusive effects on children and the families who are falsely accused.

According to statistical evidence in 1992 and 1997, over two-thirds of reports of child abuse in the U.K. have NO substantive basis i.e. False and wrongful accusations. [Dept of Health Statistics]. Similar proportions of false accusations were evident during the same time period in the United States of America and in Australia. There is evidence that false accusations of child abuse are occurring for mistaken, mischievous, and malicious reasons.

The current unproven medical theory which is resulting in many hundreds of families being wrongly accused of child abuse is Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy [MSBP], which is causing immense disruption, distress, and harm to children throughout the U.K. In these cases, physicians and social workers allege that parents (usually mothers) have fabricated or induced an illness in their child, yet on examination of such cases it can be found that the children have and are suffering serious illnesses. Groups which seem to have been particularly targeted for such accusations are families with children with Autism, Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder [ADHD] or Cystic Fibrosis. In other cases children have suffered adverse reactions to vaccines, or from medically prescribed drugs which have not been clinically tested on children by manufacturers prior to widespread distribution, or from birth injuries.

[[In other words, parents — esp. mothers — properly seeking medical care for their children, sometimes single, sometimes married — are told “it’s all in your head — you are the sick party, you have “Munchhausen’s by proxy” (search my blog)]].

Pragnell’s article seems to cover some factors relevant in the Franklin County Case…

Prosser’s research indicated that the major faults in child protection investigations are :-

  • The social workers perceived that abuse had occurred and the accused as guilty from the beginning of the investigation;
  • Thereafter the investigators only sought confirmatory evidence of their assumptions and disregarded evidence which would have cast doubt on the allegations;
  • Poor recording of evidence;
  • Inappropriate interpretations by investigators of statements or actions;
  • Idiosyncratic behaviour and interpretation of policies by investigators;
  • Investigators focusing on a single piece of evidence and ignoring contrasting sets of evidence;
  • Confusion over what constitutes a medical indicator of abuse and a “natural” condition [apparent in MSBP cases];
  • High status doctors (consultant) having substantial influence over other investigators. [apparent in MSBP cases];
  • Experts deviating from their areas of expertise [apparent in MSBP cases

Prosser identified three major areas of significant concern –

  1. “The imbalance of power within the investigating agencies;
  2. The abandonment of professional codes of conduct and practice by some investigators; and
  3. The failure of the system to adequately acknowledge or compensate the wrongly accused family for the trauma and losses suffered. This latter point is reflected in the statements of some child protection professionals who openly proclaim, “Who cares if nine innocents suffer, as long as we get the guilty one!”.

Finally, Prosser declares, “It is clear that the problem of false accusations remains endemic in both countries”. (U.K. and the U.S.A.).

When it comes to the case in Pennsylvania — I’ll bet the authorities had not expected to be questioned or challenged by a lawsuit!  But we can see the suit mentions the over-reliance on the “American Academy of Pediatrics” (AAP).  Well – the AAP just happened to be part of the cooperative agreement with Mark S. Dias’ (P.I.) project here!  (See below):  This is a financial and professional relationship.

(These quotes are from the Courthouse News Article, cont’d)

. . . About the Child Safety Team member’s expert testimony:

The parents add that Dr. Crowell, a member of the Penn State Child Safety Team, “qualified as an expert in child abuse for the first time in her life at the dependency hearing for L.B. and T.R on December 18, 2009. Defendant Crowell was qualified as an expert in child abuse for the second time in her life at Jamel’s preliminary criminal hearing on December 28, 2009. Dr. Crowell acknowledged under oath at Jamel’s criminal trial that she misrepresented medical evidence critical to L.B.’s case when she testified at Jamel’s preliminary hearing.”

She was a doctor, obviously — but was she an expert in identifying child abuse?

Thirty paragraphs later, the parents say that Dr. Crowell “testified falsely that L.B. had ‘an extensive screening’ for ‘coagulation problems’ and ‘an extensive screening for bleeding disorders’ that were ‘normal’ and that L.B.’s ‘metabolic workup was normal.’”

(LGH) Reminder:  The Child Safety Team had only been started a few months earlier.  Within one month of them being assembled, they had a black father in jail and two kids in foster care, erroneously.   The bail was set too high for this man to get out of jail.  How many times do we hear of people being quickly sprung from jail after domestic violence?    (or sent to diversionary programs instead of jail).  See my Toms River article for an example of this, when the woman victim was an employee of the DYFS herself….  But in this case, they kept the father.

This next part, if true, is disgraceful.  A medical doctor testifying FOR the family suffered restrictions that ones from the prosecution did not.  First, they point out that some doctors (for the prosecution) had liability insurance; while one wishing to testify FOR the family, did not:

The parents say that Crowell was also “paid by, and enjoyed the liability insurance, of Penn State” and was never their daughter’s treating physician.

(I looked up the HHS award for this, principal investigator Mark S. Dias.  This nonprofit hospital is a major grants recipient; most of the awards seem for technical clinical research…)

Showing: 1 – 9 of 9 Award Actions

Recipient: MILTON S HERSHEY MEDICAL CENTER
Recipient ZIP Code: 17033-2360

FY Award Number Award Title Budget Year of Support CFDA Number Agency Action Issue Date Amount This Action
2011 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 5 93.136 CDC 07-20-2011   $ 492,537 
2010 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 3 93.136 CDC 01-26-2010   $ 0 
2010 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 4 93.136 CDC 07-14-2010   $ 608,903 
2010 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 4 93.136 CDC 07-19-2010   $ 0 
2009 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 2 93.136 CDC 10-08-2008   $ 0 
2009 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 2 93.136 CDC 05-04-2009   $ 0 
2009 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 3 93.136 CDC 08-03-2009   $ 554,142 
2008 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 2 93.136 CDC 09-09-2008   $ 554,920 
2007 U49CE001274 PENNSYLVANIA ABUSIVE HEAD TRAUMA PREVENTION PROGRAM 1 93.136 CDC 09-10-2007   $ 561,414 
Award Actions Count: 9 Award Actions Subtotal: $ 2,771,91

The anticipated program enrollment was 300,000; it is an intervention program and as described, participants were voluntary:

This study is enrolling participants by invitation only.
First Received on July 30, 2008.   Last Updated on July 31, 2008   History of Changes
Sponsor: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Collaborators: Pennsylvania Department of Health
American Academy of Pediatrics
Information provided by: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
ClinicalTrials.gov Identifier: NCT00727116
  Purpose

This project is designed to evaluate a statewide, hospital-based parent education program to prevent abusive head trauma (AHT) in Pennsylvania, and investigate the additional effectiveness and cost-effectiveness of “booster” sessions of parent education delivered to parents at primary care provider offices in central Pennsylvania.

Specific Aims:

  1. Assess the effectiveness of an established statewide program of hospital-based postnatal parent education about violent infant shaking, provided at a single consistent point in time between the infant’s birth and hospital discharge, in reducing the incidence of AHT.
  2. Identify while [[I believe they mean “which“]] component(s) are the most important mediators of the intervention’s effectiveness; determine whether the intervention effect is more directly related to changes in perpetrator or caregiver behavior; and determine the effectiveness of the intervention among various socioeconomic groups.
  3. Determine the cost effectiveness of the hospital-based program.
  4. Establish the feasibility, additional costs, and effectiveness of a combined program of repeated exposure delivered both post-natally in the hospital and during follow up 2-, 4- and 6-month outpatient health maintenance visits with the pediatric care provider.
Condition Intervention
Injury
Traumatic Brain Injury
Child Abuse
Behavioral: PA Abusive Head Trauma Prevention Program: State-wide
Behavioral: PA Abusive Head Trauma Prevention Program Booster: Central PA
Study Type: Interventional
Study Design: Allocation: Non-Randomized
Intervention Model: Parallel Assignment
Masking: Open Label
Primary Purpose: Prevention
Official Title: Pennsylvania Abusive Head Trauma Prevention Program
Primary Outcome Measures:
  • Incidence of abusive head trauma in infants [ Time Frame: 3 years ] [ Designated as safety issue: No ]
Estimated Enrollment: 300000
Study Start Date: January 2008

This sounds like an excellent program, and obviously knowledge about the danger of  shaking babies in anger is vital.  But in application — something happened, which resulted in an innocently jailed father, and children wrongfully in foster care, for a year!

Detailed Description:

Upon the birth of the child, all parents (mothers, and whenever possible, fathers or father figures) will be asked to read written materials and view an 8-minute video on the dangers of violent infant shaking. Parents will be asked to voluntarily sign a commitment statement affirming their receipt and understanding of the materials; these commitment statements will be sent to the Principal Investigator. A random subset of parent participants will be asked to voluntarily answer a short questionnaire about their impressions of the materials. In addition, 31 counties in central Pennsylvania will be randomly divided into two groups. In 15 counties, the hospital-based intervention will remain as described above. In the other 16 counties, all primary care providers having offices in those counties will be asked to provide all parents of newborns at the 2-, 4-, and 6-month immunization visits.

Investigators
Principal Investigator: Mark Dias, MD, FAAP Penn State University Hershey Medical Center

+ + + + +    + + + + +   + + + + +   + + + + +   + + + + +  + + + + +   + + + + +

Did the additional state incentives for foster care parents play a role above as well?  Jail Dad, Mother separated from children, kids in foster care.

I focus more on the family court system (which is abusive to families, and the public through violations of due process, and more), moreso than “child abuse,” foster care, or adoption per se.  However, this system sometimes ends up with kids in foster care because one parent kills the other (one in jail, the other deceased) for a variety of reasons.  Then headlines also show cases of children escaping from brutalization in foster care, or dying in there.  Both happen.

And there seems there is no longer any question that children have been trafficked for sex abuse and used as entertainment by high-profile politicians, in numbers unknown — as the Franklin Coverup (Nebraska, Larry King, John DeCamp reporting, victim Paul Bonacci testifying, an investigator’s plane shot down in mid air (killing him and his son) as he returned with photos from an interview, involvement of Nebraska Boys’ Town, etc.).   No one normal can continue life “as normal” and retain an awareness of these activities, in our country; for sheer emotional survival, we back-burner it, and then believe that somehow CPS and other agencies will take care of the dirty business.  Yet in the subsequent investigation, the now grown Paul Bonacci was awarded $1 million for damages, yet not asked to identify the Congressional leaders involved!

This article is too disturbing, and not “casual conversation.”  As the point of THIS post is to expose the incentives for putting children needlessly into foster care and up for adoption — and to show an article neatly summarizing it from the year 2000 — let me just post the opening paragraph of the 2005  Article, detailing what is a curious lack of investigation by the highest investigatory powers in the US, or among them (not including Homeland Security, post 2001).   This is the summary of the matter — and please keep it in mind when one becomes aware of the immense foster care industry:  As this is talking about destinations of vulnerable kids and how they really cannot get out on their own, safely, once in this ring.  As posted on TomFlocco.com (this was shared with me, I didn’t look it up):

The Justice Department, acting through the FBI and the U.S. Attorney’s Office in Omaha, emerges from the record of the Franklin investigations not so much as a party to the cover-up, but as its coordinator. Rigging grand juries, harassment of witnesses, incitement to perjury and tampering with evidence -federal personnel were seen to apply all of those techniques in the Franklin case. (John W. DeCamp, Esq., The Franklin Cover-up, Second Edition, January 2005)

Bless the Beasts and the Children

Photographer for White House child sex ring arrested after Thompson suicide

by Tom Flocco

WASHINGTON—March 13, 2005—TomFlocco.com—Photographer Russell E. “Rusty” Nelson was recently arrested two days after journalist Hunter Thompson reportedly committed suicide four weeks ago on February 10, according to two phone interviews with attorney John DeCamp last week.

Nelson was allegedly employed by a former Republican Party activist to take pictures of current or retired U.S. House-Senate members and other prominent government officials engaging in sexual criminality by receiving or committing sodomy and other sex acts on children during the Reagan-Bush 41 administrations.

In other words, most likely for blackmail purposes….  Now this photographer was arrested after the journalist committed suicide:

Hunter Thompson’s death and the news blackout of Rusty Nelson’s simultaneous arrest raise questions that someone may be attempting to limit Nelson’s freedom or threaten him, since according to testimony, both men had allegedly witnessed homosexual prostitution and pedophile criminal acts in a suppressed but far-reaching child sex-ring probe closely linked to Senate and House members–but also former President George H. W. Bush. [In U.S. District Court testimony, Rusty Nelson told Judge Warren Urbom he took 20,000 to 30,000 pictures, 2-5-1999, p.52]

Pedophile victim Paul Bonacci–kidnapped and forced into sex slavery between the ages of 6 and 17–told U.S. District Court Judge Warren Urbom in sworn testimony [pp.105, 124-126] on February 5, 1999: “Where were the parties?…down in Washington, DC…and that was for sex…There was sex between adult men and other adult men but most of it had to do with young boys and young girls with the older folks…specifically for sex with minors…Also in Washington, DC, there were parties after a party…there were a lot of parties where there would be senators and congressmen who had nothing to do with the sexual stuff. But there were some senators and congressmen who stayed for the [pedophile sex] parties afterwards…on a lot of the trips he took us on he had us, I mean, I met some people that I don’t feel comfortable telling their name because I don’t want to — …Q: Are you scared?…Yes…”

DeCamp, a former Nebraska state senator and decorated Vietnam War vet, told TomFlocco.com “there are tons of pictures still left; law enforcement is currently looking for them,” adding, “you can also assume there are senators and congressmen implicated; otherwise this would not be such a big issue.”  But no federal official has stepped forward to protect Rusty Nelson’s life, as Congress would be reluctant to hold hearings or force a federal prosecutor to probe its own members for sex acts with children–still punishable by law.

I’m saying this because society keeps thinking someone else is going to protect both children and adults (women specifically) from abuse.  While my case has no foster care, adoption efforts, or child abuse allegations in it — the principles remain.  How many times do people have to reach out for help, only to find out most entities (including individual families & relatives!) — have their own priorities, and when one gets down to it, will sacrifice up to a point, but are not willing to literally sacrifice their comfort, and — most important — their myth that this country, where they live (sometimes quite nicely) is fundamentally just and good.  And that their TAXES are paid in order to delegate life’s tough problems to others, who are handling it pretty well.

Nope.

This is why I came to the conclusion (after years of this) that the best defence is a good offence; that although independence, self-sufficiency, and the ability to physically defend onesself are resented by systems that profit and exist on constant streams of the needy, SEEKING THIS STATE is always better  – for all! — than seeking protection.   

The Tom Flocco article (2005) states clearly testimony from the abused children, trafficked in one case through foster parents in Nebraska, connections to George Bush Senior and intentional use of these photos to get favorable legislation passed in Congress.  If there was opposition, Larry King could blackmail the opposing side.  The situation is entirely sick:

..If they wanted to get something passed through the legislature, he would put some people that were against it in a compromising position. By using us boys and girls…Judge Urbom: Was this by your being the sexual partner of that person?…Yes…Judge Urbom: …Any estimates of how often you participated as the sexual partner of one of these persons that he wanted to get some kind of control over?…There were times when it would be four or five in a night…on probably a couple thousand times…sometimes dozens of times with the same person…” [U.S. District Court testimony, 2-5-1999, pp. 146-151]

Curiously, Paul Bonacci told investigators that the sex ring was based out of Offutt U.S. Air Force Base near Omaha, having been taken there to be abused since he was three years old in 1970. At Offutt, Paul said he was “trained” by tortures, heavy drugging and sexual degradation. [Offutt AFB played a major role immediately following the 9/11 attacks as George W. Bush made the base his post-attack headquarters for a short period.]

(There is testimony from young women also on the article).

Perhaps keep this in mind when you are writing a Congressperson asking for help regarding child abuse.  WHY such a huge industry?  When a child wefare worker “Walters” reported, credibly — the report was ignored, as below:

Presidential indiscretions–or criminal acts?

According to a Nebraska state police report, Nebraska Foster Care Review Board letter to the Attorney General, Nebraska Senate’s Franklin committee investigative report, and a 50-page report by Omaha’s Boys Town welfare case officer Mrs. Julie Walters,

by my count, that’s 4 sources!

pedophile victims Nelly and Kimberly Webb detailed a massive child sex, homosexual and pornography operation run out of Nebraska by Larry King–but with close ties directly to the Congress and the White House. . . .

(paragraphs later, not easy reading):

In spite of four polygraph tests administered by a Nebraska state trooper who said he was convinced Nelly was telling the truth, in December, 1990, a Washington country, Nebraska judge [David Quist, I believe] ignored Julie Walter’s 50-page report, numerous debriefings of the girls by foster care officials and youth workers stating the sisters told the truth–specifically about George Bush Sr., and dismissed all charges against their foster parents Jarrett and Barbara Webb, who Nelly and Kimberly said had allowed them to be abused.

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Did you ever wonder where all these abusive parents came from?  Who raised them?  Since Child Abuse is obviously a heinous crime, why are there so many participants?  What is it about human nature that we collectively don’t understand about ourselves, such that there’s still a booming industry in Child Protection?

Why would a state Senator and her husband have to die while exposing this industry in Georgia?  This is the conclusion several people have come to who were close to the Schaefers, although the Georgia Bureau of Investigation quickly labeled it a murder/suicide. (see HERE, among other places).

I am simply coloring this section GREEN, regarding the Schaefer’s CPS expository work (with its links underlined) in green, to distinguish from what follows, after which we can end this difficult post – for a holiday season.  Perhaps state by state individuals can do their own work —  but it must be shared, as obviously children are being flown OUT of state for trafficking purposes too.  In the long run, this also becomes a FINANCIAL issue, as also the Franklin Coverup was — as in Franklin Credit Union.  Larry King did time for embezzlement, not child abuse.  It seems the two go together, and if major child traffickers are caught for money crimes, not child trafficking crimes — but it stops them — perhaps that’s a message on which direction to investigate.  Quite honestly, I don’t think most of us can handle the vicarious trauma even of consciousness of how far down is the ugliness (within America, ruling circles).  But, what is the cost of living unconscious lives?  Or our delayed bill when what we can’t face now, comes back stronger, later, and right next door?

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Regardless of how the couple may have died, former Senator Nancy Schaefer lived the last couple of years of her life dedicated to helping children and families who were victimized by the very government agencies that were supposed to be helping them.

Mrs. Schaefer had found during the last few years that:

– Georgia housed children in a foster home with a known pedophile who molested the children.

Habersham County failed to remove six children from a home where they were being abused and tortured.

– Georgia turned two girls over to a California father who had a pornographic video business.

A report that she produced on these remarkable cases can be found at the fight CPS web site:

http://fightcps.com/pdf/TheCorruptBusinessOfChildProtectiveServices.pdf

Nancy Schaefer was interviewed extensively by talk show host Alex Jones about corruption in Child Protection Services nationally. A multi-part series of her interview and an Eagle Forum presentation can be found on You Tube here:

http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=nancy+schaefer&search_type=&aq=f

More details on the video she was working on can be found on the Alex Jones Channel of You Tube at:

http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=WILLIAM+FAIN&aq=f

In addition, former Senator Schaefer led opposition to HB582 and SB304. These two bills, introduced by her fellow Republicans, would have likely increased child sex trafficking if passed during the 2009 or 2010 sessions. These bills would have made it legal for teenagers to participate in certain illicit acts. The bills would have effectively removed the legal authority that police have to pick up teenagers and get them into protective custody so that they can no longer be pimped for those acts.

PV Pop-Quiz: Who were the idiotic State Reps sponsoring HB 582 (analysis of HB 582 here by Sue Ella Deadwyler) in the 2009-2010 Legislative Session, and who were the idiotic State Senators sponsoring SB 304 (op-ed here on SB 304)? Inquiring minds should find out for themselves

The age of consent in Georgia is 16.


Yet another AFCC-style wet dream… Someone needs to mop up around here.

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HAVE YOU HEARD THE LATEST LANGUAGE BLIP FROM THE ASSOCIATION OF FAMILY & CONCILIATION COURTS CULT?

From the “High Conflict Institute”

CONFLICT HAPPENS

No longer are DIVORCEs or FAMILIES “high-conflict” but “People” are.  In fact, the issues are not the issues either.  When someone comes up to you with an issue — they don’t really mean what they say  and are not to be taken at face value (ask the forensic psychologists).  The REAL problem with family courts isn’t the family courts, and it isn’t even high-conflict families, or high conflict all by its rocky-mountain-high self.  The REAL problem is high-conflict people.  Buy this book to know if you’re dealing with one:

Splitting
Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

This book is advertised with others on alienation at the NCRC (more, below), as they are in the same professional circles.  In fact, it appears he’s on the payroll here (or is “Senior Family Mediator”) as well as his own split-off “High conflict institute” (see last sentence at the link I just provided).

NCRC: National Conflict Resolution Center

Books by William Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Bill Eddy provides Divorce and Family Law Mediation at NCRC as well as training for family law attorneys and other professionals at the High Conflict Institute. Please visit HCI atwww.highconflictinstitute.com for more information on Mr. Eddy’s trainings. He has written numerous books on the subjects of families and high conflict personalities, listed below.
  • High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
  • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist
  • Understanding & Managing High Conflict Personalities (DVD Set)
  • Don’t Alienate The Kids! Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce
  1. It’s All Your Fault!

Bill sure was ahead of his AFCC time.  While others were simply developing and lobbying for more parenting coordinator rights in Florida, Texas, and wherever — he was writing this book explaining that the Issue is not the Issue, and all the conflict in the family law venue really comes from disordered personalities in the court system.

Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse

Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better—many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way.

Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

I find it odd that he’s working with the author of “Stop walking on Eggshells” which someone gave me about halfway through the divorce fiasco, post-restraining order.  They meant well, but like Lundy Bancroft’s “Why Does He DO That” — and regardless of some truths it may have held, neither one (conveniently) mentions the custody racket, financial incentive, fatherhood funding, welfare reform or in short anything which would give me a concise narrative of why the courts don’t take death threats followed by family suicide, or a stalking combined with previous death threats and violence, seriously — and insisted on psychologizing all terms.  People who have lived with this (and I acknowledge it exists) don’t need guides — they need out of the relationship.

Which is precisely what people working with the organization Mr. Eddy helps market through, are not going to let happen.  Nope.  If we wish to detach from a borderline personality, abuser, or simply an ex (and birth happened in there somewhere), we WILL be forced, most likely, to deal with an AFCC-devotee somewhere along the way — or most of the way along the way.

I have the book “Stop Walking on Eggshells” and it didn’t take to long to recognize it was an updated rebuttal of a 1970s feminist classic, (shown in 2005 version) Women and Madness

Cover of Women and Madness

It asks:

Why are so many women in therapy, on psychiatric medication, or in mental hospitals? Who decides these women are mad? Why do therapists have the power to deem a woman mentally ill when she asserts herself sexually, economically, or intellectually? Why are women pathologized, but not treated, when they exhibit a normal human response to abuse and stress – including the lifelong stress of second-class citizenship?

Phyllis Chesler confronts questions like these and persuasively argues that double standards of mental health and illness exist and that women are often punitively labeled as a function of gender, race, class, or sexual preference. Based on in-depth interviews with patients and an analysis of women’s roles in myths and history, Women and Madness is an incomparable work.

Originally published in 1972, this classic has sold over two-and-a-half million copies. Passionate and informative, with a new introduction that examines the trauma of psychiatric labeling and envisions a psychology of liberation for the ages, this special twenty-fifth anniversary edition of Women and Madness remains frighteningly up-to-date.

By now there should also be one called “Children and Madness,” for the labeling children get when they report abuse, when they are active and assertive, and when they need to be controlled after any of the above.   That’s been documented elsewhere, and comes under

Psychotropic Drug Abuse in Foster Care Costs Government Billions  :

A troubled child who had previously suffered from neglect, sexual assault and abusive parenting, Gabriel spent the previous year shuttling among several foster parents while taking a constellation of anti-psychotic medicines, including Lexapro and Vyvanse, to control his depression and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Like most children in Florida foster care, Medicaid paid Gabriel’s medical expenses.  Just one month before his suicide, Gabriel’s doctor prescribed him Symbyax, an anti-depressant restricted for treatment of children. The medication’s FDA-requiredlabel features a warning that use of the drug by children or teenagers can lead to suicide.

Symbyax
 does not meet criteria established by Congress for Medicaid reimbursement, so it is illegal for Medicaid to pay for a prescription of the drug to a child. Sohail Punjwani, the doctor who prescribed Symbyax for Gabriel, received a stern letter from the FDA about his history of over-prescribing mental health drugs.

PERHAPS INSTEAD OF TRYING TO PSYCHOLOGICALLY RE-FRAME TRUE ABUSE, AND MEDICATE INTO OBLIVION — OR MARGINALIZE BY LABELLING “MAD” OR ANY OTHER INAPPROPRIATE TERM FOR RESPONDING (AS AND ADULT OR A CHILD, OR PEOPLE TRAPPED BY “FAMILY-FRIENDLY” POLICY INTO attempted CO-PARENTING WITH A FORMER TORMENTORS) — WE OUGHT TO JUST CALL IT WHAT IT IS, AND STOP IT, EVEN IF IT CAUSES “HIGH-CONFLICT” DYNAMICS WITH PEOPLE WHO DO NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT OR CALL IT WHAT IT IS. SPEAKING OF WHICH — I’M GOING TO BE QUOTING PLENTY OF THEM IN THIS POST.

AS QUOTED IN “SAFE RELATIONSHIPS (on-line) MAGAZINE”, which is from (inhale — it’s a long title):

The Institute for Relational Harm and Public Pathology Education

Sandra L. Brown, M.A., CEO of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education holds a Masters Degree in Counseling with a former specialization in personality disorders/pathology. She is a program development specialist, lecturer, community educator, and an award-winning author.

Her books, CD’s, DVD’s, and other training materials have been used as curriculum in drug rehabs, women’s organizations and shelters, women’s jail and prison programs, school and college-based programs, inner city projects, and various psychology and sociology programs and distributed in almost every country of the world.

(I notice she is on the board of EVAWINTL.org, End Violence Against Women International — which is having a San Diego Conference in 2012.  See fine print at the end, purple background) (Note:   I’m a little disturbed by not being able to find this as an EIN or as a corporation in NC (where EVAW listed her), or nationally, although there is an active speaker itinerary and clearly training for therapists at $635-$735 a pop in Hilton Head, SC this coming January.  So, is she paying taxes, and is this a fictitious name registered there — or anywhere? Just tried about 5 searches, including registered name, NC corporations, SC corporations, 990 finder, NCCSdataweb and even the IRS finder, plus USPTO (for registered mark )  I think the credentials bear checking out (and remember trying to some years ago also).  See claims on the site and this linkedin description:

Sandra Brown, M.A.

CEO at The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education

Asheville, North Carolina Area 
Professional Training & Coaching Current
  • CEO at The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education
Past
  • Executive Director at Bridgework Counseling Center
  • Pathologist at The Manors Psychiatric Hospital Education
  • Liberty University
Connections
286 connections

Websites

  • Company Website

(the linkedIn shows her a member of almost every mental health organization around — it’s unusually long string, and yet the only education shown is “Liberty University” (no state), M.A. — which doesn’t add up.  Sorry:

Executive Director Bridgework Counseling Center

January 1987 – January 1998 (11 years 1 month)

Founder and director of a large multi-faceted mental health program focused on trauma disorders and psychopathology.

Degree — M.A. in Counseling from “Liberty University” ? ? ?

Offered outpatient services, residential treatment, program consultant to inpatient hospital programs, and clinical training to therapitss.

Pathologist

The Manors Psychiatric Hospital  (“the Manor” ???in Santa Monica,  here?  or idea for the name from here?  Anclote Manor/The Manors/Northpointe Behavioral Health?, which was shut down in 1997, demolished in 2001 . . or ??????)

April 1993 – August 1996 (3 years 5 months)

Inpatient unit for Women’s Trauma Disorders.

Liberty University is a Christian University with huge on-line segment, apparently.  (Houston, I think we have a problem here)

Liberty University Christian College Education

www.liberty.edu/

For 40 years, Liberty University has been training champions for Christ.Liberty University is now the nation’s largest, private, non-profit Christian college and…

She is among some better-documented colleagues at the Relationship Training Institute (San Diego) as “Guest Lecturer”:

Guest Faculty:

Russell Barkley, Ph.D., University of Massachusetts Medical School
Sandra L. Brown, MA, CEO, The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Psychopathy Education*

William Eddy, JD, LCSW, President of High Conflict Institute (=original topic of this post).

*I personally think anyone that can make up a corporate name that long and call herself CEO, possibly has a personality disorder…. what, actually, is the work history? Who is the EVP of the “IRHRPE” — and if it’s a nonprofit, GIVE ME AN EIN#!!!  — Should I check the Liberty University degree, too?  Particularly distressing is lack of any geographical identification on Ms. Brown’s LinkedIn profile:

I have worked in the field of mental health, relationships, psychopathology, and personality disorders for the past 20 years. I have been involved in program development, program services, publishing, Model of Care development and treatment issues in a wide range of delivery modalities.
Author of six books and many e-books, CDs, DVDs, and other products related to pathology.
Therapist trainer, program consultant, key note speaker

It does not say she was actually a therapist, which has certification requirements.  She’s definitely adept as a publicist and getting speaking engagements.

Also, what — exactly – is “Founder and director of a large multi-faceted mental health program” (Bridgework Counseling Center)??  “program” like the word “Center” like the word “Institute” could mean almost anything, and the leader is left to fill in the dots and assume a real clinic, hospital, or other situation is involved.  I find the repeated use of all of them without tangible (real-world, not just on-line), well, odd.  Were there employees that she directed after founding this wonderful place that I can’t find any on-line identity for, either?

OK, in Florida, listed under “Survivor and Victims’ Resources, by Holli Marshall, Mar 21, 2009:

Bridgework Counseling Center, Inc. & Sanctuary

The Sanctuary Group Home
1634 Nebraska
Palm Harbor, FL. 34684
Attn: Sandy Brown/ph:(813)530-4199
The Sanctuary at Bridgework is for women who have sustained multiple emotional traumas beginning in childhood and extending through adulthood. They have developed disorders requiring assisted living and rehabilitation.

http://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/hollis-triumph-over-tragedy/survivor-and-victims-resources/menu-id-1897/

( . .  rrr:    A FL group Sandra L. Brown (agent/officer) called Bridgework Ministries, Inc. — EINV 592940904 — that got itself revoked for failure to file — DID have a NC address also.  I don’t feel like tracking it further).

ANYHOW ….Her theme is the the public is scandalously undereducated about the prevelance of pathology throughout our society:

The Problem of the Unrecognized Face of Pathology

We live in an age where ‘Positive Psychology’ has ingrained a mantra into society’s psyche–that if you think it (the psychopath needs to change his behavior), then you can make it happen (our relationship will be successful when he changes). That may be true when you begin with a person who has normal psychology. But it’s a long way from being true for those who have pathology.

That’s funny — because the courts are all into interventions & educations (whether marriage, parenting, co-parenting, etc.) and sure they can change behavior permanently for the best interests of the kids, right?

Sandra Brown just happens to be making up for the gap in the public’s awareness of the psychopaths next door (although from the newspaper headlines, this ought to be clear enough), and everyone responds afterwards “what a nice family they seemed to be” “but he was so devoted to his son!”  and so on.

WELL, moving on from the pervasive but puzzling personality with associations in:

Personality Disorders Appearing in Family Court

by Bill Eddy, Esquire, L.C.S.W.

Probably the most prevalent personality disorder in family court is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) 
more commonly seen in women. BPD may be characterized by wide mood swings, intense anger even at benign events, idealization (such as of their spouse — or attorney) followed by devaluation (such as of their spouse — or attorney).

Also common is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) — more often seen in men. There is a great preoccupation with the self to the exclusion of others. This may be the vulnerable type, which can appear similar to BPD, causing distorted perceptions of victimization followed by intense anger (such as in domestic violence or murder, for example the San Diego case of Betty Broderick). Or this can be the invulnerable type, who is detached, believes he is very superior and feels automatically entitled to special treatment.

I noticed this some months back, but didn’t get around to blogging it yet.  They had apparently been running out of ways to work the words “high-conflict” into a sentence (substituting for accurate descriptions of concrete events with identifiable actors), let alone names for conferences that pair the words “high-conflict” with alienated.  For example here’s a cute one (only from 2010):

AFCC 47th Annual Conference

Traversing the Trail of Alienation: Rocky Relationships, Mountains of Emotion, Mile High Conflict 

June 2-5, 2010
Sheraton Denver Downtown
1550 Court Place
Denver, Colorado

Conference Brochure (PDF)
Verification of Attendance (PDF)
Order conference audio CD’s or MP3’s 
Plenary Sessions Audio (MP3)
AFCC members can access these sessions by logging on to the AFCC Member Center.

I suppose this was kind of cute, about as cute as running a mock coronation in the U.S. Senate Dirksen building for a would-be world Messiah (the True Parents to the world) — or like some San Francisco family law judges at play, dressing up as the kings and queens of Camelot:    But it’s not cute, really…  I believe it shows an inner desire to actually BE royalty, which could be problemmatic when legislators and/or judges don’t have good boundaries.

Here’s from 2011:

Regional Training Conference

Working with High Conflict and Violent Families: A Race with No Winners

HyattRegencyIndianapolis • October27-29,2011

Home of the Indy 500.  How cute. SOmetimes they  just HAVE to let a word about violence slip in there — but not without “high Conflict” and of course Parenting Coordination (got to remember this market niche) and more Interventions.   Sometimes, they all kind of are just patched together for effect — I guess it works to those for whom this language is normal, but to me, it sounds kind of like kids throwing oil paint around — and they aren’t Jackson Pollock,** either:

5. integrating domestic Violence interventions with Parenting coordination to Protect children in high conflict Families

(interesting title capitalization for a brochure)

Though parenting coordination is designed to implement and monitor parenting plans for high conflict families, domestic violence in the parenting dynamic necessitates deeper professional intervention and refined conflict management skills. This work-shop is designed to train parenting coordinators in domestic violence interventions appropriate for individual and couple work, to facilitate necessary parenting communication in a safe manner that will allow for successful parallel parenting and the promotion of a healthy relationship between each parent and their children.

Jackson Pollock, “Action painting.”  There seems to be a parallel, although I’d rather look at a Jackson Pollock than wade through AFCC conference verbiage:

Pollock was the first “all-over” painter, pouring paint rather than using brushes and a palette, and abandoning all conventions of a central motif. He danced in semi-ecstasy over canvases spread across the floor, lost in his patternings, dripping and dribbling with total control. He said: “The painting has a life of its own. I try to let it come through.” He painted no image, just “action”, though “action painting” seems an inadequate term for the finished result of his creative process. Lavender Mist is 3 m long (nearly 10 ft), a vast expanse on a heroic scale. It is alive with colored scribble, spattered lines moving this way and that, now thickening, now trailing off to a slender skein. The eye is kept continually eager, not allowed to rest on any particular area.** Pollock has put his hands into paint and placed them at the top right– an instinctive gesture eerily reminiscent of cave painters who did the same. The overall tone is a pale lavender, maide airy and active. At the time Pollock was h[a]iled as the greatest American painter, but there are already those who feel his work is not holding up in every respect.

**”the eye is kept continually eager ,not allowed to rest on any particular area.” — with the AFCC rhetoric, it’s similarly for effect.  Resting — examining — the central concepts, most don’t hold water, and certainly not in the larger context of the real world to which these theories are applied.  There’s a craziness to the grammar also; words are made-up and assembled in officious-sounding terms which boil down to — “we want to do business as running your business, but have a judge approve this as somehow in the best interests of your children.”

(reread the workshop paragraph):

Excuuuuse me?  See how messy it gets when an AFCC person slips up and admits that domestic violence occurs?  They can’t speak straight.  High-Conflict is typically used to mask the word Domestic Violence, or dilute and distract from any focus on it.  The term doesn’t work so well in other applications.   For example, what is “domestic violence in the parenting dynamic” — exactly?  And when someONE perpetrates a domestically violent ACT (or series of acts) upon another or other(s), this is not “parenting dynamic” it is crime.  At that point, are or are not these professionals mandated reporters, or self-appointed euphemism devisers? And if these are reported and prosecuted properly, someone is going to be either in jail — or not “parenting.”

GRAMMAR — (this has been going on for decades in the same circles within family courts).   The phrase “domestic violence in the parenting dynamic” detaches the violence from its agent — and squarely distributes the blame on both parents, or (even more detached) on the abstract “parenting dynamic.”  Even the word “parenting” is a fairly recent piece of jargon, although widely accepted now.   People have been giving birth and living in families, or groups for millennia, but only recently was the artificial “parenting” developed to an art form and a segmented activity, opposed (I guess) to “schooling.”  The concept of warehousing people by age group is much more recent.  A person who has been targeted for abuse is NOT responsible for that abuse, yet grammatically holding them responsible justifies the “bring on the experts, the counsellors” which is what AFCC intends to do.  In this dynamic, civil & legal rights, including for the children, just walked out the front door.

How alienated that prose is.  Domestic Violence in the parenting Dynamic.”

Of course, thanks to many other “dynamics” in our society, these people often do NOT go to jail and DO end up “parenting” (samples provided below).   Part of the reason why they do relates to conferences like this by people who make decisions.  I find the passive descriptors taking the easy way out of a dilemma their (AFCC’s) forefathers committed years ago, i.e., trying transform language, stop divorce (and congratulate themselves for doing so0 and BRING ON the psychologists and counselors to make a better world.  (How’s that been going, incidentally, of late?)

What kind of thought process (“dynamic”) would lead any professional to include that he or she can truly promote a healthy relationship without stopping the domestic violence, first of all, by naming it and reporting it, then, to the extent possible, prosecuting it?  If we are still to believe it works, go ask a young woman from San Francisco, Anastasia Melitchenko.  Good luck on getting her opinon (and no children involved in this one, even….).  The workshop was in 2011 — and yet by 2005 in California, it had been repeatedly proved that domestic violence counseling (“intervention”) with habitual batterers can fool even the smartest counselors.

Perhaps they aren’t all that smart — perhaps “intervention programs” isn’t even a good idea to start with.  This idea also has an origin (can you spell D-U-L-U-T-H and “Collective Community Response”?)  Coordinating Community Response to Domestic Violence:  lessons from Duluth by Melanie Shepard, Ellen Pence (google book, see p. 42 or search DAIP)

It doesn’t seem to phase the collective organizations dealing with divorce at all when people die around this.  Just some language adjustments, that’s all.  By the way, you can’t ask Anastasia whether intervention worked for her man.  It didn’t, not even the Primary Male Center for Peaceful Living (2005).

It also didn’t work on Scott DeKraii this past fall either (although actually, after he beat up his stepfather, I don’t know whether he attended the 52-week batterers’ program, before going on to murder his wife — and 7 others .(2011)   But notice — the class was ordered.    The Huffington Post article is one of the few to actually track some history and quote his stepfather, “he’s never been held accountable; he’s always been bailed out of everything.” A restraining order meant, give up firearms — but it was only for a year.  “

When his stepfather, Leroy Hinmon, asked him for rent, Dekraai attacked him in front of his mother and 4-year-old son.

“He was beating him up, slapping him around,” Max Hinmon said. “He worked my brother over pretty good.”

The police were called and Leroy Hinmon got a temporary restraining order in August 2007.

Dekraai, who didn’t dispute the claim that he cut and bruised the older man,

Just imagine if that had been a 3-year restraining order, and some jail time.  Somehow, by Fall 2011, Scott had obtained – and used — plenty of firearms.  …. Also a little “under-reported” in the Seal Beach Shooting (which DeKraii committed), and although — to be clear — this attorney was NOT his attorney in 2011, one former attorney, Donald S. Eisenberg of Long Beach, CA — is definitely AFCC, and a supporter of Warshak, Sanford Braver, and many others who absolutely affirm equal parenting (some discussion below) and filed in 2003 to protest the “LaMusga moveaway.”:

Supreme Court Case No. S107355

Court of Appeal Case No. A096012

Contra Costa County Superior Court Case No. D95-01136

Application for Leave to File Amicus Curiae [i.e., they missed the deadline]

In re the Marriage of SUSAN POSTON NAVARRO (LAMUSGA) Appellant and GARY LAMUSGA,  Respondent

Donald S. Eisenberg (SBN 68859) 6700 E. Pacific Coast Highway Suite 220 Long Beach, CA 90803

Tel: — – – – – Fax: – – – – –

Attorney for Amici Curiae, Richard A. Warshak, Ph.D.; Sanford L. Braver, Ph.D.; Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D.; James H. Bray, Ph.D.; William G. Austin, Ph.D., et al.

It reads in part (in justifying why the court should hear them):

. . . Amici believe that the participation in this brief by so many leading experts from the social and psychological sciences is a reflection of the widely-shared conviction in their respective fields that it is important this Court not be misled by opinions and conclusions that are not shared by most eminent scholars, researchers, and practitioners who have spent long years conducting, evaluating and applying the research

In other words, their most eminent selves, who’ve been around a very long time, deserve a hearing.  Mr. Eisenberg, again, was the attorney, not those seeking to write the brief.

In their proposed amici curiae brief, they present the Court with the latest research available and the consensus thinking of the majority of social scientists on the causes and effects of unhealthy parental alignment with children, the consequences for families of parental relocation, the reasons for caution in considering children’s opinions, and many other issues that are highly relevant to the issues in this case…..

A total of 28 experts, including 18 Researcher/Authors or Practitioner/Authors and 10 Practitioners who apply research in their Family Forensic Practice have asked that their names be included as signers of this brief.

WELL, 28 experts, 18 researcher or practitioner authors (i.e., the wrote & published), and 10 Family Forensic Practice practitioners can’t all be wrong.

What Eisenberg (obviously was going to be quizzed after a former client committed a beauty salon massacre, including of the mother of his son) said:

Published: Oct. 12, 2011 Updated: Oct. 14, 2011 1:59 p.m.
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By DOUG IRVING and ERIC CARPENTER / THE ORANGE COUNTY REGISTER

HUNTINGTON BEACH – Neighbors of a house searched late Wednesday in connection with the deadliest shooting in Orange County history said one thing stood out about the man who lives there: His total devotion to his son.

Police identified Scott Dekraai as their suspect in the midday shooting at a Seal Beach beauty salon that left eight people dead; he was being held on suspicion of murder. Court records show he has been fighting his ex-wife – who colleagues said worked at the salon – for custody of their son since 2007

Dekraai married the woman who is now his ex-wife in Clark County, Nev., in early 2003, records show. He filed for divorce in Los Angeles County in 2007, a month after his tugboat accident, court records show.

His attorney at the time, Don Eisenberg, said Dekraai gave him “no reason to suspect a thing.” Another attorney has since taken the case, and Eisenberg said he hasn’t heard from Dekraai since 2009.

“I know they had a difficult relationship,” he said of Dekraai and his ex-wife. “But that’s nothing that would foreshadow a tragedy life this.”

That’s kind of interesting — because in August 2007 the same man got a restraining order for beating up his stepfather in front of his son.  That also puts another viewpoint on “devoted to his son” who — 4 at the time — witnessed this.  if I may gently propose, it is habitual in some circles — in the family law system, specifically — to underplay overt violence towards other human beings, not to mention threats to kill one’s ex.

Mr. Eisenberg presenting at an AFCC conference in 2008 (at which time, Mr. DeKraii would’ve been his client, no?

The Rosetta Stone of Child Custody:

The Bar, the Bench, and Mental Health Experts Decoding

Each Other’s Philosophy and Practice

Feb 8 – 10, 2008 in Santa Monica, CA

AFCC has consisted of “The Bar, the Bench and Mental Health Experts” from the beginning — and they are still working on “Decoding” each other’s language?

Mr. Eisenberg presented alongside the Supervising Judge of the Los Angeles Family Law Department in this conference.  For geographical reference, basically Long Beach is right next to Los Angeles, and Seal Beach is right nearby also:

Donald S. Eisenberg, Esq., past chair of AFCC-CA, is a certified family law specialist practicing in Long Beach California. He has 30 years experience devoted to “human issues” in divorce such as domestic violence, parent education and custody evaluations and is a frequent speaker on those issues. He extensive experience in international Child Custody Law and has published appellate decisions. He has been retained by mental health agencies to advise counselors and interns on their rights and obligations in problem custody cases.  [[he was also on this conference’s planning committee..]]

the judge involved:

Hon. Robert Schnider has been the Supervising Judge of the Family Law Department of L.A. County Superior Court since 2005. In 2000, he became the only judicial officer assigned to family law ever to receive the L.A. Bar Association Outstanding Jurist Award. He is on the Board of the AFCC California Chapter and is on the Family Court Review editorial board. He was an adjunct professor at Loyola Law School teaching Family Law, has lectured for the Continuing Judicial Studies Program to teach family law to incoming California family law judicial officers and made presentations to many other professional organizations. He has authored and co-authored articles [[supporting? about?  — a word missing here]] presumptions for custody, court-ordered counseling, and legislative issues in family law.

and

Matthew Sullivan, Ph.D., is on the AFCC Task Force on Model Standards for Parenting Coordinators and Special Masters and on the American Psychological Association Collaborative Working Group on Psychological and Legal Interventions with Parents, Children and Families. He practices in Santa Clara County, California, specializing in forensic psychology. He has done numerous trainings and presentations nationally and internationally to mental health, legal, and judiciary groups. His publications include, “Ethical, Legal and Professional Practice Issues involved in Acting as a Psychologist Parent Coordinator in Child Custody Cases, “ Family Court Review, Vol. 41, No. 3, July 2004; “Guidelines for Parenting Coordination,” co-authored with AFCC Task Force on Parenting Coordination, Family Court Review, Vol. 44, No. 1, January, 2006; “Family Systems,” chapter co-authored with Jamie McHale, Handbook of Clinical Psychology, Alan Gurman (Ed.) 2007.

And — at this time when one of his clients was having a “normal” divorce with “nothing to anticipate” such a tragedy — and subject to a restraining order which resulted from his having beat up his stepfather in front of a four year old boy, his son — this is what the workshop was on:

W8 You Call Yourself an Expert: Critical Evaluation of Expert Testimony in Family Law Cases

Judicial Officers and attorneys are frequently presented with testimony from expert witnesses regarding parenting issues that are before the Court. Testimony may purport to summarize the state of psychological research or clinical wisdom, or present information based on therapeutic contact with a parent or child. Such expert testimony may provide important information to the Court, or may be so incomplete or biased that the information and opinions are misleading.** Effective presentation and evaluation of expert testimony presents challenges to judicial officers, attorneys, and mental health professionals.

What guidelines exist for presentation of expert testimony to the Court? Does the expert have a responsibility to present contrary evidence? How can one differentiate between reliable and unreliable expert testimony? How can expert testimony be effectively challenged? Using commonly encountered examples, our interdisciplinary panel will address these and other cutting- edge issues regarding consideration of expert testimony.

Presenters: Donald S. Eisenberg, CFLS; Lyn R. Greenberg, Ph.D.; Honorable Robert Schnider; Matthew J. Sullivan, Ph.D.  (see elsewhere on my blog)

**I agree.  Of course, I don’t think that these presenters view the terms “so incomplete or biased that the information and opinions are misleading” quite from the same perspective!

OTHER, NON-AFCC TERMS USED TO DEFINE  NOT JUST ALLUDE TO — DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, IN ANY CONTEXT.  As this graphic list rolls out (sorry if it offends…) it should be clear that there is a HIGH-CONFLICT BETWEEN AFCC’S LANGUAGE (FOR THE SAME THINGS) AND THEIR VIEW OF THE RELATIVE IMPORTANCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS “ALIENATED” FROM THAT CONTAINED IN THE CALIFORNIA PENAL CODE — WHERE I GOT THIS FROM:

California Penal Code:   (since that’s my state):

13823.4.  (a) The Legislature finds the problem of family violence
to be of serious and increasing magnitude. The Legislature also finds
that acts of family violence often result in other crimes and social
problems.

[[I'm going to follow up on this section, which seems to be emphasizing 
more and more "centers" and alleging that they prevent something....]]

and

3823.15.  (a) The Legislature finds the problem of domestic
violence to be of serious and increasing magnitude. The Legislature
also finds that existing domestic violence services are underfunded***
and that some areas of the state are unserved or underserved.

Therefore, it is the intent of the Legislature that a goal or purpose
of the California Emergency Management Agency (Cal EMA) shall be to
ensure that all victims of domestic violence served by the Cal EMA
Comprehensive Statewide Domestic Violence Program receive
comprehensive, quality services.

[[** i’ll show below that DV services are actually well-funded —

but most of them are diversionary and put into education, training, and “Collective Community Responses”

which have had mixed results. Perhaps that’s why it is a problem of increasing and serious magnitude, when combined

with AFCC’s refusal to face it head on — and this is the group basically running the custody and divorce cases in the US]]

or, for example:

Family Code 3044 at least recognizes an actor in the “domestic violence” definition and doesn’t call it a “parenting dynamic”

  1. For purposes of this section, a person has “perpetrated domestic violence” when he or she is found by the court to have intentionally or recklessly caused or attempted to cause bodily injury, or sexual assault, or to have placed a person in reasonable apprehension of imminent serious bodily injury to that person or to another, or to have engaged in any behavior involving, but not limited to, threatening, striking, harassing, destroying personal property or disturbing the peace of another, for which a court may issue an ex parte order pursuant to Section 6320 to protect the other party seeking custody of the child or to protect the child or the child’s siblings.
(of course it then goes on to talk about batterer’s classes and parenting classes….)

 

 

 

 

 This section talks about mandated reporting and defines ASSAULTIVE OR ABUSIVE CONDUCT.  (NOTE:  Parental alienation and having “conflict” do not make the list…)

11160. (a) Any health practitioner employed in a health facility, clinic, physician’s office, local or state public health department, or a clinic or other type of facility operated by a local or state public health department who, in his or her professional capacity or within the scope of his or her employment, provides medical services for a physical condition to a patient whom he or she knows or reasonably suspects is a person described as follows, shall immediately make a report in accordance with subdivision (b): [all font changes are mine…] (1) Any person suffering from any wound or other physical injury inflicted by his or her own act or inflicted by another where the injury is by means of a firearm. (2) Any person suffering from any wound or other physical injury inflicted upon the person where the injury is the result of assaultive or abusive conduct. ..the behaviors are defined as follows:

(d) For the purposes of this section, "assaultive or abusive conduct" shall include any of the following offenses:
   (1) Murder, in violation of Section 187.
   (2) Manslaughter, in violation of Section 192 or 192.5.
   (3) Mayhem, in violation of Section 203.
   (4) Aggravated mayhem, in violation of Section 205.
   (5) Torture, in violation of Section 206.
   (6) Assault with intent to commit mayhem, rape, sodomy, or oral
copulation, in violation of Section 220.
   (7) Administering controlled substances or anesthetic to aid in commission of a felony, in violation of Section 222.
   (8) Battery, in violation of Section 242.
   (9) Sexual battery, in violation of Section 243.4.
   (10) Incest, in violation of Section 2...
(11) Throwing any vitriol, corrosive acid, or caustic chemical
with intent to injure or disfigure, in violation of Section 244.
   (12) Assault with a stun gun or taser, in violation of Section
244.5.
   (13) Assault with a deadly weapon, firearm, assault weapon, or
machinegun, or by means likely to produce great bodily injury, in
violation of Section 245.
   (14) Rape, in violation of Section 261.
   (15) Spousal rape, in violation of Section 262.
   (16) Procuring any female to have sex with another man, in
violation of Section 266, 266a, 266b, or 266c.
 (17) Child abuse or endangerment, in violation of Section 273a or 273d. 
(18) Abuse of spouse or cohabitant, in violation of Section 273.5.

Interjection — I’m going to show “Section 273.5, at the righthand margin, which defines abuse of spouse or cohabitant. note the verbs:

(a) Any person who willfully inflicts upon a person who is his or her spouse, former spouse, cohabitant, former cohabitant, or the mother or father of his or her child, corporal injury resulting in a traumatic condition, is guilty of a felony, and upon conviction thereof shall be punished by imprisonment in the state prison for two, three, or four years, or in a county jail for not more than one year, or by a fine of up to six thousand dollars ($6,000) or by both that fine and imprisonment.

(b) Holding oneself out to be the husband or wife of the person with whom one is cohabiting is not necessary to constitute cohabitation as the term is used in this section.

(c) As used in this section, “traumatic condition” means a condition of the body, such as a wound or external or internal injury, whether of a minor or serious nature, caused by a physical force.

(d) For the purpose of this section, a person shall be considered the father or mother of another person’s child if the alleged male parent is presumed the natural father under Sections 7611 and 7612 of the Family Code.

(e) (1) Any person convicted of violating this section for acts occurring within seven years of a previous conviction under subdivision (a), or subdivision (d) of Section 243, or Section 243.4, 244, 244.5, or 245, shall be punished by imprisonment in a county jail for not more than one year, or by imprisonment in the state prison for two, four, or five years, or by both imprisonment and a fine of up to ten thousand dollars ($10,000).

(2) Any person convicted of a violation of this section for acts occurring within seven years of a previous conviction under subdivision (e) of Section 243 shall be punished by imprisonment in the state prison for two, three, or four years, or in a county jail for not more than one year, or by a fine of up to ten thousand dollars ($10,000), or by both that imprisonment and fine.

(f) If probation is granted to any person convicted under subdivision (a), the court shall impose probation consistent with the provisions of Section 1203.097.


When women, or men, who have been assaulted & injured read this in the law, if they do, they understand clearly that the law is saying;
that type of behavior is criminal and is against the State, and not just a "personal dynamic" and not just a "family matter." Groups
(including religious groups) that wish to keep it under wraps, and all-in-the-family, have a serious logic / reality gap, which results
in serious danger for . . . as it turns out not just victims, but people associated with them. While the custody evaluators may not have
figured this out yet (judging by their dialogues) the public is starting to. Failure to prosecute these crimes leaves others in danger, and 
increases the isolation of those who have already been isolated by the abuse.
 
That "shall be" is apparently not happening. See "District Attorney Discretion"
District Attorney Power Still Unfettered  (written 11 years ago, still true today, apparently)
A critical area for victims of rape, domestic violence, and child abuse that has been left ignored by legislators this year and in years past is the district attorney’s absolute power to refuse to file charges no matter how solid the evidence. Even if a district attorney refuses to file charges on a whole crime category, there is no legal remedy for victims.  
 

For example, at this writing, we at Women’s Justice Center (Sonoma County, “wine country, in N. California) have a case of three days of spousal rape, sodomy and beatings which the district attorney has filed only as misdemeanor domestic violence. The detective in the case states there is ample evidence to file multiple felonies.  In another case of a woman beaten to the point of a fractured skull, the D. A. refused to file at all for five months until one day the perpetrator went out and committed another assault with a deadly weapon on another victim. I

© Marie De Santis
Women’s Justice Center

Instead, the D.A.’s seem to be going around to open expensive new “family justice centers” as I have blogged, including one in Sonoma County, “Sonoma County purchased the 20,000-square-foot building last year for $4 million. Remodeling was expected to cost another $4 million….”  This is precisely what JusticeWomen talked about in “How to Start an INDEPENDENT Advocacy center and why”  Around the country, some of these center are starting to be associated with some egregious violations of due process, both in the original San Diego one (I blogged) and a recent case from Harford County, MD (which I received an appeal on from Phyllis Chesler mailing) turns out also to have been a “Family Justice Center.”  The mother in question had a child put into foster care, where it was killed at 9 months, and she is herself in hiding after being assaulted (per the site) in the jail itself.  Meanwhile, in Ohio, they are upset (justifiably) about a supervised visitation center — turns out to be funded through a “Ohio Families & Children First” & a statewide Children’s Levy — let a little girl be raped – during a supervised visit.  “No Need for a Special Prosecutor in probe of child rape at CSB,” though…  When citizens came to the CSB board meeting to hear about the review of this incident, they were forced to sign in, apparently a violation of the Ohio Open Meetings law was violated:   “Meanwhile, an attorney for the victim’s grandmother says CSB committed a “clear violation of the Open Meetings Act” Tuesday by preventing several people from attending a board meeting. Atty. David Engler, who represents Loretta Banks of Warren, filed a civil complaint Thursday in Trumbull County Common Pleas Court seeking an injunction to prevent the agency from barring citizens from future meetings”
 
 
Continuing the list. 
(19) Sodomy, in violation of Section 286.
   (20) Lewd and lascivious acts with a child, in violation of
Section 288.
   (21) Oral copulation, in violation of Section 288a.
   (22) Sexual penetration, in violation of Section 289.
   (23) Elder abuse, in violation of Section 368.
   (24) An attempt to commit any crime specified in paragraphs (1) to (23), inclusive.

I'm sure you can get the general idea from reading the descriptions. Question is -- so why can't the AFCC? And why do they persist
in focusing on other, LESS relevant topics, and insisting (by silence and evasive language) they are somehow MORE relevant?

In a September 2011 joint conference between AFCC & AAML, held in Philadelphia, called
Advanced Issues in Child Custody:

Evaluation, Litigation and Settlement

Join AFCC and AAML for an outstanding program designed for advanced-level family lawyers, mental health professionals, judges and others who work in child custody.

• Learn the latest advanced practice skills and strategies • Earn continuing education credit • Expand your practice through unparalleled networking opportunities • An interdisciplinary faculty of leaders in the field • The latest research on children, custody, separation and divorce

Topics include:

Witness Preparation Direct and Cross Examination

Child Development and Attachment

Child Relocation Disputes

Mental Health Consultation  [end of left column]

[top of right column] Parental Alienation

Psychological Testing

Domestic Abuse

Bias and Opinion Formulation

Ethics: Best Interests or Zealous Advocacy?

(you can check the brochure), the word “alienation” occurs 7 times, “conflict” 6, “domestic abuse” 6 times — but only in one sessions and references to that session, and “domestic violence” a word that is out of favor in these circles, only once – in passing, in the opening paragraph.  Just to check, I saw if there were any words referring to what is often the reason custody conflict goes on for years — and that is issues of sexual abuse of children, or allegations (in AFCC terminology “false allegations”) of it.  the word “molestation” doesn’t occur, or “child abuse” or “sexual abuse.”  the word “sex” occurred once — in the section under “Domestic Abuse” and not particularly in regard to children.  I guess these are hard topics for divorce professionals to have to deal with — so, better let the kids just deal with it on their own.  after reunification therapy….

Sponsored by:

Sponsoring Organizations //Pennsylvania Chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers //Hofstra Law School (in NY)

No really — here’s the opening day, 2nd Pre-Conference Institute session of this Philadelphia Conference:

2. Advanced Mental Health Concepts: A Lawyers’ Guide to the DSM-IV-R and the Use and the Misuse of Psychological Evaluations in Litigation

Which sections of the DSM-IV-R are most relevant to family law cases and why? What are the pros and cons of having your client undergo a psychological evaluation? This session will provide a primer to the DSM for attorneys, highlighting those sections most applicable to a client’s parenting and co-parenting. Particular emphasis will be placed on the DSM Axis II (personality disorders) clients, who predominate high conflict custody cases. Procedural guidelines for psychological evaluation will be provided to increase its potential utility in a litigated child custody case.

Kenneth P. Altshuler, Esq., AAML President-Elect, Portland, ME

Matthew J. Sullivan, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, Palo Alto, CA  (search my site, under Parenting Coordination sections, the name comes up)

Personality disordered clients dominate “high-conflict” custody cases.  Either that, or one parent might just be fighting to protect something, which the professionals choose not to hear, as in the recent case of Scott DeKraii v. Michelle Fournier, Orange County California (home of “Orange County Healthy Marriage Coalition), which had “watch out!” written  ALL over it, including antipsychotic medications, previous assaults on stepfather in front of 4 year old son resulting in a restraining order and “batterers’ intervention” classes, a man for whom more than 50% custody was not enough, a young man who’d begun attempting to have sex at age 12, and a man who had previously come to his ex-wife’s work place and threatened to kill her, in front of witnesses — after which he did.  And the witnesses, this past October.   Dealing with Deafness regarding situations like this might GIVE someone a personality disorder, after too many years of it, just as war veterans have certain symptoms too.

Here’s one more sample, which just goes to demonstrate the concept of using a domestic violence expert as a “heat shield” in certain companies — from the same conference.  As we can see the theme of Alienation is the primary (and first up) topic.  The world is viewed from this high point, for AFCC professionals:

Plenary Session #1—Preparing the Expert Witness

Robin M. Deutsch, Ph.D., Massachusetts General Hospital, Harvard Medical School, Boston, MA; Ken H. Lester, Esq., Lester & Hendrix, Columbia, SC 2:30pm-3:00pm Break

3:00pm-4:15pm Concurrent Sessions 1-4

1. Understanding and Responding to Parental Alienation

There is much debate and controversy over parental alienation—how to identify it and how to intervene effectively, both therapeutically and through the courts.

This debate often comes from the “floor” — from people not present at the conferences.  From people who understand the origins of the term, and the application to which Richard Gardner put it, i.e., a circuitous way to characterize a child, male or female, who doesn’t like being raped or molested.  That child is “alienated,” which  means bring on the court-referrals, and reunification camps — at least one of them run by one of the presenters here, Matthew D. Sullivan, as I recall.  An informal rate-the-courts site gives him a solid “F” as an evaluator (NOTE:  I am not in particular favor of this site, and know who’s behind it, but just making the point).  He is in the business — this is the business he is in, and AFCC is a business conference for people who have, by fortune or long-term lobbying, become entrenched in public institutions such as the courts, or for example (in California), the “Administrative Office of the Courts” — and this includes as judges.

The passive term– “there is much debate and controversy over” just goes to show that ALL PR is good PR and good for business. The controversy continues because this group continues to promote, push, and prioritize the term, while others have discredited it as lacking scientific basis, while many now-noncustodial mothers understand it as simply a legal technique to justify a custody switch when no other reason exists.   This has been known for years.  It makes no difference, however, when the conferences continue and the appointees, judges, evaluators, mediators, and other mental health professionals — continue to hold positions of authority over young children and their parents.

Children may resist or reject a parent for many reasons. In this session the presenters will summarize the consequences of alienation and discuss how to differentiate alienation from other types of parent-child contact problems, including justified rejection. Highlighting the essential role of the court, the present- ers will provide an overview of mental health interventions for mild, moderate and severe cases as well as the legal responses and remedies available.

Barbara J. Fidler, Ph.D., Co-author, Challenging Issues in Child Custody Disputes, Toronto, ON, Canada

Catherine H. Petersen, Esq., AAML Parliamentarian, Norman, OK4

Thursday, September 15, 2011

“justified rejection” is about as roundabout a term as one can get for child abuse, or other harmful behaviors.

2. Parenting Coordinateen 9ion

The hybrid mental health/legal role of the parenting coordinator (PC) is becoming increasingly utilized in custody cases where high conflict continues post decree, thus elevating children’s risk of stress and adjustment issues

Or, as the case may be, kidnapping, abuse, and/or murder.  Example:  Here is a man. Christopher D. Curry (and not the only Christopher D. Curry, obviously) that was arrested in Cleveland — recently — for whipping (beating) his 5 year old daughter for failure to know her alphabet well enough.  (Which brings up the question of, why didn’t the people who called 911 intervene faster?).   I have yet to find any mention in any news report (although it’s all over) of where was the mother?  Being curious, I went to the court docket (Summit County, Ohio) and found out that in 2003 she had filed a restraining order against him; someone by the same name and about the same age in the same region (although it’s a common name) did jail time for receiving stolen property, misdemeanor assault and was in a drug rehab program.

So — why was he caring for a five-year old, where was that little girl’s Mommy?  and why didn’t the new reports ask this question even once?

Police say Ohio dad beat girl over alphabet lesson.

Nov 11, 2011  (co. Associated Press 2011, posted at “abclocal.com” under National/World)

AKRON, OH — Police in Ohio have accused a man of beating his 5-year-old daughter because she was having trouble with her alphabet homework.

Akron police say the kindergartner was struggling to recognize the letter D on Tuesday when 39-year-old Christopher D. Curry became angry.

According to police, he picked the girl up by the neck and struck her in the head repeatedly.

The Akron Beacon Journal reports the child was treated at a hospital for bruises and cuts, including a left eye nearly swollen shut.

Curry has been charged with felonious assault, child endangering and domestic violence. He was {{was??}}being held in the Summit County jail with bond set at $100,000.

IS this the same person (b. 1973, this is 2011 — age sounds about 39)?

Here’s the 2003 restraining order:

Filed Date Case Number Party Party Type
07/25/2003 DR-2003-07-2766 CURRY, CHRISTOPHER D
CURRY, KAISHA -vs- CURRY, CHRISTOPHER D
DEFENDANT


Case ID Name/Date Of Birth Party Type File Date (YYYY/MM/DD) Case Type Court
CR1992041064 CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 10/4/1973     
DEFENDANT 1992-04-29 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
CR1993123014 CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 12/13/1993     
DEFENDANT 1993-12-23 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
CR1994020470A CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 10/4/1972     
DEFENDANT 1994-02-28 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
CR1995020422 CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 10/4/1973     
DEFENDANT 1995-02-06 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
CR1996030585 CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 10/4/1972     
DEFENDANT 1996-03-13 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
CR1997061156B CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 10/4/1972     
DEFENDANT 1997-06-02 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
CR2001092383 CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 10/4/1972     
DEFENDANT 2001-09-18 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
CR2002041138 CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 10/4/1973     
DEFENDANT 2002-05-01 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
CR2005051932 CURRY CHRISTOPHER
DoB: 10/4/1973     
DEFENDANT 2005-05-31 SUMMIT COUNTY COURT OF COMMON PLEAS – CRIMINAL
Date 2/28/1994:
04/05/1996 NO ATTY. REQUIRED # ON 4/3, DEFENDANT PLEADED GUILTY TO PROBATION VIOLATION. ORDERED HE SERVE 6 MONTHS IN THE SUMMIT CO. JAIL FOR ASSAULT, A MISDEMEANOR OF THE 1ST DEGREE, TO BE SERVED AT DEPT. OF REHABILITATION, AND PAY COSTS. DEFENDANT TO BE CONVEYED TO LORAIN CORRECTIONAL. SENTENCE IN THIS CASE TO BE SERVED CONCURRENTLY WITH SENTENCE IN CASES #95-2-0422 AND #96-3-0585. CREDIT FOR TIME SERVED WILL BE FORTHCOMING. JE 1947-510 MFS No Image
 (apparently did 135 days in county jail)
04/05/1996 NO ATTY. REQUIRED # ON 4/3, DEFENDANT PLEADED GUILTY TO PROBATION VIOLATION. ORDERED HE BE COMMITTED TO DEPT. OF REHABILITATION FOR 1 YEAR FOR PASSING BAD CHECKS ON EACH OF 2 COUNTS, A FELONY OF THE 4TH DEGREE, AND PAY COSTS. DEFENDANT TO BE CONVEYED TO LORAIN CORRECTIONAL. SENTENCES IN COUNTS 1 AND 2 TO BE SERVED CONCURRENTLY WITH EACH OTHER AND CONCURRENTLY WITH SENTENCE IN CASE #94-02-0470A BUT CONSECUTIVELY WITH SENTENCE IN CASE #96-3-0585. JE 1947-512 MFS

Another sample of how AFCC //AAML conferences can handle “abuse” or at least refer to it, so no one can say, they just don’t talk about domestic violence, showed up in this conference:

From Sept. 2011 AFCC/AAML conference at Philadelphia, one more workshop:

Although this brings up, “would you know if your client was being (abused)?,” it looks like the only session in the conference that comes close to bringing the topic up:

5. Domestic Abuse in Separation and Divorce: Implications for Legal and Mental Health Professionals

If your client has been coping with domestic abuse or coercive controlling behaviors,** including forced sex,(1) would you even know it? Many abuse victims intentionally mask the violence in their relationship in the hopes of reducing the potential conflict (2) during the divorce process. But unidentified domestic abuse can have significant negative implications for the litigation and evaluation process, so it is imperative that lawyers and evaluators understand these dynamics.(3)  Very recent research has led to the development of new tools for practitioners to use in screening for and assessing the impact of such abuse. (4)Participants attending this interactive workshop will learn to better screen and assess the significance of the different kinds of abuse that occur in intimate relationships (5) and develop effective strategies that will lead to safer and more effective practice.

Loretta Frederick, Esq., Senior Legal and Policy Advisor, Battered Women’s Justice Project, Winona, MN

John S. Slowiaczek, Esq., AAML Vice President, Omaha, NE

The numbered footnotes are mine – for comment:

(1) forced sex with whom?  In this context, adult is implied — yet historically a hot issue in child custody contexts is abuse of the CHILD during (Unsupervised) parenting time.   I supposed in this conference, a decision was made just not to deal with the topic any more, not this time.   From 1998, a family therapist in Washington discusses “The Myth of False Allegations of Sexual Abuse in Divorce Cases” and lays out how Richard Gardner and “parental alienation” theory figured into this.   Merrilyn McDonald wrote:

It is commonly believed that false allegations of sexual abuse in the context of divorce are epidemic, that most allegations made in the context of divorce are made by vindictive mothers and that these allegations are almost always false. These beliefs are not supported by scientific evidence.1

It is widely believed that at least 50 percent of all allegations of child sexual abuse are false, and that an accused person appearing in a court of law is quite likely to have been falsely accused. Those who defend accused child sexual offenders want us to believe that 50 percent of individuals brought to trial are innocent. These beliefs are not supported by scientific evidence, either.2

. . . . 

A good scientist simply cannot claim that anecdotal case descriptions tell us about the population in general. If I were a forensic psychiatrist or psychologist who had a practice devoted exclusively or almost exclusively to serving those who have been accused of child sexual abuse, and if my criteria for determining that an allegation was false was to accept the declarations of the accused, then I could quite easily arrive at findings that 50 or 75 or even 100 percent of allegations of sexual abuse were false. My findings, however, would never be accepted by good scientists as anything more than a description of the people in my own practice. No good scientist would agree that my findings could tell them anything about all people or about all contested custody cases.

To put it another way, if I were to go to a prison and interview twenty men in maximum security, I might conclude, based on that sample of men, that 50 percent of men are murderers.23

. . .  (this relates to the subject line, and bears re-hearing)…

Many times when a mother believes and defends her children, she is accused of being insane by the offender’s defense team. It seems easier to believe that a mother is insane than that a clean-cut, handsome man would sexually offend his children.

I doubt that even the PENN STATE/ Paterno / Sandusky recent scandal will change this permanently.  Not unless institutional practices are changed.  Just imaging, had these two organizations not been so determined, for so many years, to re-frame domestic violence and child abuse as “HIGH-CONFLICT’ and those trying to remove children from it as “ALIENATORS” — would there have been a culture understanding it’s both OK and important to be aware of these situations and talk about them, or notice symptoms that might indicate such abuse has taken place?

The mother may present to the court as anxious, stressed and upset about the situation, which in some minds seems to support the idea of her insanity. If she has been battered by the accused herself, she may have a number of psychological issues and may, indeed, be in need of therapy. This does not mean that the allegations are false or that any pathology in the mother negates the existence of sexual abuse to the children. If there is pathology in the woman, it is important to have a competent, neutral professional determine first, whether the pathology has been caused by domestic violence, and second, whether the pathology has any relationship to the allegations of abuse.

. . .   The field has attempted to detach and distance itself considerably from Richard Gardner, while sticking to the basic essence of his concepts.  To put the out blatantly again (this was written before Gardner’s untimely death in 2001):

The situation of mothers is made even more difficult by the existence of instruments that claim to be able to determine if a mother is falsely accusing. Richard Gardner created the “Sex Abuse Legitimacy Scale,” which he claims can ferret out falsely accusing mothers and children.38This scale is often used against mothers and children. Jon Conte, editor of the respected “Journal of Interpersonal Violence,” had this to say about the Sex Abuse Legitimacy Scale: “Probably the most unscientific piece of garbage I’ve seen in the field in all my life.39It must be noted that Gardner self-published this scale (and most of his other writings as well),40and that this scale has never been subjected to peer review or any kind of scientific scrutiny. There is no basis in published, peer-reviewed research for anything claimed in this scale. Using it, many, if not most, mothers who behaved in a very typical, normal way after hearing a disclosure of sexual abuse would fail to meet the “criteria” for a genuinely accusing mother. Some of the criteria for inclusion in the category of false accusers are initial belief of the child’s disclosure, disclosure during custody or divorce dispute, anxiety about the child being seen alone with a psychiatrist or psychologist, and anger or suspicion toward the accused.41

This author (McDonald) goes on:

I looked to Gardner’s own writings to glean a bit of insight into his ideological position regarding sexual abuse. In his book, True and False Accusations of Sexual Abuse, Gardner, who does a great deal of forensic work for the accused, nationwide, said:

My final position on this matter is this: a pedophile is the name given to a person whom the judge and/or jury decides they want to put away. … It is of interest that of all the ancient peoples it may very well be that the Jews were the only ones who were punitive toward pedophiles. … Early Christian proscriptions against pedophilia appear to have been derived from earlier teachings of the Jews, and our present overreaction to pedophilia represents an exaggeration of Judeo-Christian principles and is a significant factor operative in Western society’s atypicality with regard to such activities.42

 Well, bravo for Jews and CHristians — although nowaday, I don’t know that we have the same brand of either religion (particularly the latter) in operation when it comes to letting little girls hit at least puberty before being groomed for or used for sexual purposes by adults, and little boys being able as well to keep other adults hands off their genital AND anal regions, as well as off other adult male private parts.   This — in blunt terms — is what children dont need more of.  Now let’s review the ONE workshop in a multi-day conference last September 11 with two major organizations who affect WHERE CHILDREN LIVE after, many times, accusations of abuse come up.  This was one 45- minute breakout session of 4 (during the time slot), Friday morning of a Thurs – Sat. conference.  If professionals are dealing with clients with any of the issues, and which “Advanced” skills and knowledge, this was the closest they’d come to it in the Philadelphia conference>

5. Domestic Abuse in Separation and Divorce: Implications for Legal and Mental Health Professionals

If your client has been coping with domestic abuse or coercive controlling behaviors,** including forced sex,(1) would you even know it? Many abuse victims intentionally mask the violence in their relationship in the hopes of reducing the potential conflict (2) during the divorce process. But unidentified domestic abuse can have significant negative implications for the litigation and evaluation process, so it is imperative that lawyers and evaluators understand these dynamics.(3)  Very recent research has led to the development of new tools for practitioners to use in screening for and assessing the impact of such abuse. (4)Participants attending this interactive workshop will learn to better screen and assess the significance of the different kinds of abuse that occur in intimate relationships (5) and develop effective strategies that will lead to safer and more effective practice.

Loretta Frederick, Esq., Senior Legal and Policy Advisor, Battered Women’s Justice Project, Winona, MN

John S. Slowiaczek, Esq., AAML Vice President, Omaha, NE

(2).  Let’s take statement 2 — why abuse victims “intentionally mask the violence in hopes of reducing the potential conflict.

Rebuttal (mine):  the statement is overbroad and vague — which relationship?  Clients of these people are in the divorce, separation custody processes, as such their “relationship” is as required by having children in common, by court decree, and or by whether or not one of them may be a stalker, etc.   What’s more, this phrasing (Grammar) excuses professional lack of awareness that abuse has been happening on the victim, and attribute it to the victim’s hope of not creating conflict.  Talk about not stepping on people’s toes!

Also, talk about projecting motives:  “in hope of not causing conflict.”  The street reality is, separation from, independence from, demanding any sort of anything from a partner who has formerly battered (see “Battered women’s justice project” so we know Ms. Frederick must be aware this happens) — AUTOMATICALLY causes conflict. Prior to this, in for example, a live-in relationship, the woman — or man — knows what showing independence does:  it causes conflict.  For someone who has been so brave as to start standing up and expect boundaries, that person — that abuse victim — already knows that conflict exists.

On the other hand, over time in the family law system, it doesn’t take “rocket science” to realize that talking about this is counter-productive, and talking about it MAY cause retaliatory judgments, and has been.  So I find that statement odd.  I don’t think a person totally aware of how things work would’ve made it, and wonder that Ms. Fredericks (more on her co-presenter) would even say that.  I am a woman who was battered — a lot — in marriage, and speculating that “hope to avoid conflict” may cause an abuser to “mask” abuse in the relationship absolutely does not represent my truth.  In fact — as I’m demonstrating in these quotes — it is HABITUALLY the AFCC’s (and this represents a good chunk of the court’s) INTENT & HOPE TO MASK ALREADY IDENTIFIED ABUSE, WHICH ITSELF CAUSES AN INNATE CONFLICT WITH THOSE WHO HAVE REPORTED IT AND ARE ATTEMPTING TO GET IT OUT OF THEIR FAMILIES’ LIVES & THEIR KID’S “NORMAL” EXPERIENCE OF LIFE.

Women in this situation are in a fight for survival and sometimes for their children — and that survival is more important than not offending someone else or causing “conflict.”  We are not afraid of conflict, because we have already been living with it for years.  We want peace — naturally — but not at the price of slavery, or of sacrificing children (or contact with them).  We should not have to run additional guantlets in this forum, virtual tightropes, to get that safety and freedom from ongoing abuse — in different forms, post-separation. We shouldn’t have to sacrifice child support, either.

(4)  Very recent research has led to the development of new tools for practitioners to use in screening for and assessing the impact of such abuse.

First of all, Ms. Frederick’s professional background shows that she does indeed know populations that have suffered severe violence and abuse.   And as she is also an attorney, surely she must know the legal definitions of it, as does Mr. Slowiaczek (more below).   I blogged last August about the BWJP / AFCC mutual project to study the “institutional ethnography” of the family court system:

CUSTODY PROJECT

Development of a Framework for Identifying and Explicating the Context of Domestic Violence in Custody Cases and its Implications for Custody Determinations

BWJP and its project partner, Praxis International, are expanding recent multidisciplinary efforts to more effectively protect the safety and wellbeing of children and their parents in the family court system by crafting a more practical framework for identifying, understanding and accounting for the contexts and implications of domestic violence in custody arrangements and parenting plans.

BWJP and Praxis staff  have formed a National Workgroup with representatives from the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (NCJFCJ) and the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts(AFCC).  In consultation with leading researchers and practitioners, they have begun to examine the institutional processes by which family courts commonly reach and/or facilitate crucial parenting decisions, including the use of auxiliary advisors such as custody evaluators, guardians ad litem and court appointed special advocates.

That’s all very nice (and professionally rewarding) — however, most parents I’ve had contact with, during the past TWELVE years my case has been IN the family court system — will agree that IN the family court system is one of the most dangerous places any parent can be when issues of violence and abuse were primary in the separation. We are on a different time frame.  ALL children, growing up, are on a different time frame.  And our needs definitely diverge from those whose livelihoods are IN the family court system.

When BWJP joined up with AFCC, I knew that it would no longer speak for such families.  As we can see, the speech has been sanitized, compartmentalized, neutralized and in fact purged of concrete terms in search of some mutually acceptable framework.  BWJP comes under DAIP, which comes under the MPDI (Minnesota Program Development Inc.) group, which — for reference — is paid this much (grants, HHS — not including any OVW/DOJ grants) to talk about frameworks and explicate what is — and is not — dangerous behavior and run (and sell) interventions for it:

Recipient Name City State ZIP Code County DUNS Number Sum of Awards
MINNESOTA PROGRAM DEVELOPMENT, INC  DULUTH MN 55802-2152 ST. LOUIS 193187069 $ 19,901,530

Ms. Fredericks, according to an interview in this book, began as a legal aid lawyer in a small MN town (Winona) and quipped, how could you not become a feminist:

books.google.comBonnie WatkinsNina Rothchild – 1996 – 352 pages – Preview
Loretta Frederick Loretta Frederick is a Legal-Aid attorney in Winona, a small city along the Mississippi River She has been active in family-law issues, and in the founding of the Women’s Resource Center there. Loretta, 40, has an 

(one can search, I can’t copy & paste).  She began in 1978 right out of law school, and quipped:  “you couldn’t, not unless you were really dense, practice poverty law for more than 10 minutes and not become a feminist” I recommend reading it, because I believe (judging by the choice of companions) this person — who really knows what happens behind closed doors — is not quite the feminist any more.  If the plan is to infiltrate an organization such as AFCC and influence it towards understanding that battering and rape still occur, I would have to say, that the purpose might be amiss at this point.  Rather, the presence of this group in a conference provides public rationalization that the Association of Family & Conciliation Courts actually cares about children that end up battered and/or raped, let alone tha adults involved.   

For context, Ms. Fredericks and Ms. Denise Gamache have both published alongside, quite a bit (google the names) in various contexts.  I’d thought Loretta had spearheaded an HHS grant — but for reference, historically, here are HHS Family Violence Prevention Grants with Ms. Gamache as principle investigator.  Notice the dates, titles, and amounts:

MINNESOTA PROGRAM DEVELOPMENT, INC.

ALL GRANTS FROM “FYSB”

 

Fiscal Year City Recovery Act Indicator Award Number Award Title Budget Year CFDA Number Award Action Type Principal Investigator Sum of Actions
2011 DULUTH NON 90EV0416 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION AND SERVICES 1 93592 NEW DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,000,000
2010 DULUTH NON 90EV0375 FOUR SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION & TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE 5 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,178,812
2009 DULUTH NON 90EV0375 FOUR SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION & TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE 4 93592 ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS) DENISE GAMACHE $ 50,000
2009 DULUTH NON 90EV0375 FOUR SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION & TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE 4 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,178,812 
2008 DULUTH 90EV0375 FOUR SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION & TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE 3 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,178,811
2007 DULUTH 90EV0375 FOUR SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION & TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE 2 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,178,810 
2006 DULUTH 90EV0375 FOUR SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION & TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE 1 93592 NEW DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,178,811 
2005 DULUTH 90EV0248 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES 4 93592 EXTENSION WITH OR WITHOUT FUNDS DENISE GAMACHE $ 0
2005 DULUTH 90EV0248 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES 5 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,343,183
2004 DULUTH 90EV0248 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES 4 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,343,183 
2003 DULUTH 90EV0248 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES 2 93592 OTHER REVISION DENISE GAMACHE $ 0
2003 DULUTH 90EV0248 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES 3 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,350,730 
2002 DULUTH 90EV0248 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES 2 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,331,291
2001 DULUTH 90EV0248 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES 1 93592 NEW DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,275,852
2000 DULUTH 90EV0104 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER 5 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,121,852
1999 DULUTH 90EV0104 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER 4 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 1,016,010
1998 DULUTH 90EV0104 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER 3 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 988,119
1997 DULUTH 90EV0011 P.A. FV-03-93 – SIRC 3 93592 OTHER REVISION DENISE GAMACHE $ 0
1997 DULUTH 90EV0104 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER 2 93592 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 800,000
1996 DULUTH 90EV0104 FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER 01 93671 NEW DENISE GAMACHE $ 589,908
1995 DULUTH 90EV0011 P.A. FV-03-93 – SIRC 03 93671 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION DENISE GAMACHE $ 385,541
1995 DULUTH 90EV0011 P.A. FV-03-93 – SIRC 03 93671 OTHER REVISION DENISE GAMACHE $ 0

 

 

(For meaning of CFDAs 936571 and 93592, look it up at TAGGS.hhs.gov)

How many resource centers and how much technical assistance does it take for a custody evaluator, attorney, mediator, or judge to recognize someone who has been abused in a court proceeding?

Are we there yet?   Have we forgotten that some abusers ARE judges and attorneys?   Or the Alanna Krause case?  Her father was a prominent civil rights attorney, and here’s part of her story.

From SF Weekly, 2002:

n many ways, Alanna’s academic and social success is unsurprising. She grew up in a well-to-do family in Marin County. Her mother, Lauren Simone-Smith, is an artist with multiple college degrees. Her father, Marshall Krause, a prominent civil liberties attorney before his third retirement in 2000, worked for the ACLU in the ’60s and has argued successfully before the U.S. Supreme Court six times.

Despite her pedigree, Alanna’s life before college was nothing short of hellish, fraught with physical violence, institutionalization, and running away — much of which could have been avoided. As a 10-year-old in 1993, Alanna had gotten tangled up in the crony-driven Marin family courts during a bitter child custody battle between her parents. Throughout the custody case, she begged to live with her mother, because, she claimed, her father was physically abusive and often left her at home alone.

But in the end, the system granted custody of Alanna to her dad, despite some troubling circumstances. According to a report submitted to the Los Angeles Juvenile Courts, Alanna’s therapist had had a “seemingly intimate” relationship with her father (which he denies), and both the court-appointed evaluator and her court-appointed attorney relied on questionable science in making their recommendations. Once he had custody, Marshall Krause checked Alanna into a locked residential treatment facility in Utah for five months, though she had no criminal history or evidence of mental health problems. When she returned to her father’s care at age 13, Alanna decided that she couldn’t live with what she attests were constant fights and the threat of physical confrontation, so she ran away to Los Angeles. A juvenile court there finally placed Alanna with her mother in Ojai, where she lived until she left for college last year.

Alanna believes her $135 million lawsuit will send the
message that children need a voice in family courts.

Actually — it was a very smart thing to run to another jurisdiction.  Had her case played out in L.A. with the same issues, she’d probably still have stayed with her Dad.  Another prominent case in reported (also in the SFWeekly) in 2001 involved a California/Texas custody fight, over the issue of child abuse (not Alanna’s kind, the other kind):

Law and Borders

Prosecutors, judges, governors, a sex offender, and a woman with a penchant for poor judgement entangle California and Texas in an epic child custody war with two sure losers — aged 7 and 9.

By Lisa Davis (published: November 14, 2001 — 10 years & 1 day ago EXACTLY — in SFWeekly)

Alameda County’s Santa Rita Jail is among the largest county jails in the United States; it holds thousands of women, including, since her extradition in September, Debra Schmidt, mother, grandmother, minor media star, accused kidnapper, former fugitive, and subject of a war  between Texas and California.

During the last several years, Schmidt has become entangled with a host of public and private characters — including prosecutors, judges, and even a couple of governors (one of whom went on to become president) — in an epic child custody war over the meaning of the most basic aspects of family, law, and family law. At the heart of the matter is Schmidt’s belief that her two youngest daughters are not safe with their father, a convicted sex offender to whom the California courts have, sometimes in apparent violation of the law, granted a variety of supervised and unsupervised visitation and custody arrangements. Her concerns seem eminently reasonable; public records show the father has exhibited a variety of anti-social behaviors, including child molestation and alleged spousal abuse.

Through a series of strategically ridiculous moves, however, Schmidt has managed to turn the legal tables upon herself, and to at least temporarily invalidate the agreements that are the foundation of interstate law and order. After fleeing to Texas with her children, Schmidt was able to gain the backing of authorities there — but in doing so, she sparked the ire of California family courts and a prosecutor who has filed child abduction charges against her.

Way to blame the mother, in that paragraph.  What options did the legal system leave her?

Also, re:  “the agreements that are the foundation of interstate law and order,” that law and order has been made a joke of more than once in this system, including when mothers want to try & get their abducted kids back.

I’ll let Cindy Ross tell how the Beltway Sniper’s (John Muhammad) attorney described him (cf. “Eisenberg,” above) a “normal, thoughtful, reasonable guy” frustrated by the court system. Earlier, he had abducted his children out of the country & changed their names.  When the mother caught up, she fled across country, and hid in Maryland.

Another parental kidnapping scenario from same general timeframe:

Despite concerns regarding John Muhammad’s potential for violence and his violation of court orders, attorney John S. Mills of Tacoma, tried to help him find the children and regain custody after Mildred was forced to go “underground”. According to the Washington Post (see previous linked article), Mr. Mills said of Mr. Muhammad:  “He was angry at how he was treated over his kids…He was never able to locate her. That went on for two or three months. Then he vanished” . . . “For three weeks in October, the “Beltway Sniper” terrorized the Metropolitan Washington, DC area. Ten people were shot to death and three seriously wounded while they were doing routine activities like shopping, mowing grass, pumping gas, or going to school. The “Sniper” left cryptic and chilling messages referring to himself as “God” and threatening that children were not safe “anywhere, at any time.

After 22 days, following leads that took them from Maryland to Alabama and New Jersey to Tacoma, Washington, authorities arrested two suspects. John Allen Muhammad, 41, and John Lee Malvo, 17 were found at a rest stop sleeping in their car. Rifles confiscated from Muhammad’s vehicle included an XM-15 and ballistic tests linked the rifle to the .223 caliber bullets used to shoot most of the victims.

Scared Silent

Excerpt from this book tells of the moment when (in DC area) she had to face that her ex was the Beltway Sniper.  The other people killed were a smokescreen, so when she was killed it’d be blamed on “the sniper” — yet he got caught.   She even had trouble reconciling this, but remembered his statements:   “Now I was recalling every frightening comment John had ever made to me. He once said, “When a man hits a woman, it means that he has lost all respect for her. It would be easy for him to kill her after that.”  But I did not foresee, not even in my wildest nightmare, that John would ever kill people who had nothing to do with me or our troubled marriage.”  ….”

More on this couple–he had military training, Nation of Islam, returns from Saudi Arabia war with PTSD, took the children — on a visitation.  Before they had a written custody plan, “nothing police could do to help.”

And yet to his attorney, he was just a guy frustrated over divorce.  He was also a convert to Islam, militarily trained, PTSD-exhibiting, prior death threats to wife, regular sort of man the family courts show bias against, and no real threat to her, or anyone else.  10/25/2002 extended Washington Post article shows more background, including 2 court martials, one for striking an officer.

ERGO — I say — there is no explication needed for battering, and no training interventions.  There are not 50 ways a man can repeatedly assault his wife, and some of them be simply “relationship violence” and not domestic violence, just “high conflict.”

All this was addressing the comment, “Through a series of strategically ridiculous moves, however, Schmidt has managed to turn the legal tables upon herself, and to at least temporarily invalidate the agreements that are the foundation of interstate law and order.”  I know the writer meant no harm, and probably was unaware of how often mothers in the courts, where violence was a factor, are indeed caught between a rock and a hard place.  Then again — what excuse is there for the lawyers being so unaware?

Back to the California/Texas case.

The cross-jurisdiction custody battle became so heated that one-time Texas Gov. George W. Bush and his successor, Rick Perry, refused to extradite Schmidt to stand trial in California — a transfer that is ordinarily a matter of routine legal courtesy. Eventually, a federal judge forced Texas to hand Schmidt over, and now a mother who claims her only interest is to protect her children from a sex offender waits to stand trial in Alameda County next week on a felony child abduction charge.

The fate of her children remains unclear.

A Texas court has ordered that the children not leave the Lone Star State, where they currently live. A California court is demanding the children return to the state of California. Neither state seems willing to budge, and no one seems to know the way out of a legal stalemate that better serves the needs of large legal egos than the interests of two girls, aged 7 and 9.

Even in jail and half a country away from her children, Schmidt says that she would do it all over again. “The California courts put me in the position of having to protect my children,” she says, utterly sure in her naive belief that because she is in the moral right, the legal system will eventually be on her side, too.

You can say that again, about the egos ….  (the story goes on to indicate she was raped by the husband in front of a daughter, threats to take the children out of the country, and so forth.  The court continues ordering the couple to mediation….)

In any event, the incident marked the last time Schmidt allowed Saavedra to visit their children. Between March and August 1997, the couple bounced back and forth between courts and court-ordered mediation, arguing about the custody and visitation of their children. Repeatedly, the court ordered Schmidt to allow her ex-husband to visit their children, and, repeatedly, Schmidt defied the order. At one point, the children were to meet with their father at the Walter Britten Center in Stockton, a county-operated center designed expressly for such court-ordered visits. Schmidt refused to bring her children to the center, saying that it was not supervised well enough, particularly because it included an outdoor playground that was not supervised at all.

In fact, according to Vicky Price, a counselor at the center, Walter Britten was not set up to handle visitation by sex offenders — federal guidelines require that they be seen and heard by a supervisor at all times — until at least 1999, two years after the court ordered Schmidt to take her children there.**

LGH note:  Looks like Walter Britten is one of the Access/Visitation grant recipients, in the Supervised Visitation Network; purpose:  “For Enhancing Opportunity and Responsibility for Nonresidential Parents.”  This is part of welfare reform and fatherhood promotion; Saavedra may was a sex offender, but also a Dad, and so this case very possibly had some money changing hands on it.  However clearly the mother said, “No!”

“Manuel called me the day before the second visit was supposed to happen and said, “Say goodbye to your girls,'” Schmidt says. “It scared me. I believed him [when he said he would abscond with the children], and I still do.”

This woman and Alanna Krause — and the fathers — are different generations and couldn’t be more different, but the court in both cases refused to protect children from abuse.

Here’s what AFCC was discussing in 2002, (2001 conference had to be postponed some because of 9/11 (apparently that size of disaster, they couldn’t ignore):

With AFCC staff and many members en route to New York for the 2001 Regional Conference, terrorists struck the World Trade Center on September 11.  The conference was cancelled, but the AFCC spirit was not to be daunted by these events.  With the support of AFCC New York members and Hofstra Law School, the conference was held five months later, and AFCC members worldwide contributed money and support to help the organization weather this challenge.

But in Baltimore, plans had been already laid to make sure fault was never assigned in custody cases; rather, the courts were to become “CONFLICT MANAGERS (as referenced at a Hofstra School, Selected Conference presentations by A. Schepard (AFCC):

The Transformation of the Child Custody Court: From Fault finder to Conflict Manager to Differential Diagnosis,

Second Annual Symposium on Family Law

of the Circuit Court for Baltimore City, Family Division, Baltimore, Maryland (November 14, 2001)

OR (2000)

Keynote Speaker on Children of High Conflict Divorce,

Wingspread Conference Sponsored by the Johnson Foundation

and the American Bar Association Family Law Section (September 2000)

(3) … unidentified domestic abuse can have significant negative implications for the litigation and evaluation process, so it is imperative that lawyers and evaluators understand these dynamics.

It is not “imperative” that lawyers and evaluators understand these dynamics to make it better for litigation and evaluation, but most of all so that one of their clients doesn’t get knocked off – or bankrupted and put homeless, in the litigation and evaluation process.   Their concern ought to be a LITTLE closer to their clients’ concern.  Which brings up another point:

A little reminder:  Who is an “officer of the court.”

**coercive controlling behaviors ARE a form of abuse, but there is always someone to shave off more situations to whittle down the definition of what is “Real” abuse a little more.  FYI, abuse happens on a continuum, and may start out with a bang, or it may be a constant paring down of options, til no options remain.  For example, it may start out economic, or in any other form — but if people cannot be together in mutually voluntary way — then coercion won’t make it better.

Now — I am going to address this workshop, some.  I didn’t know Mr. Slowiaczek, so looked him up.  Here is a Transcript of testimony — he was testifying (name shows up 3 times) apparently in support of — and Loretta Fredericks (not present, but mentioned by someone testifying against) what appears to be a bill stating joint custody as presumptive for the state of Nebraska:

Transcript Prepared By the Clerk of the Legislature Transcriber’s Office

Judiciary Committee March 25, 2009

[LB4 LB226 LB423 LB589 LB660]

The Committee on Judiciary met at 1:30 p.m. on Wednesday, March 25, 2009, in Room 1113 of the State Capitol, Lincoln, Nebraska, for the purpose of conducting a public hearing on LB660, LB589, LB423, LB4, and LB226. Senators present: Brad Ashford, Chairperson; Steve Lathrop, Vice Chairperson; Mark Christensen; Colby Coash; Brenda Council; Scott Lautenbaugh; Amanda McGill; and Kent Rogert. Senators absent: None. []

This attorney is prestigious  — a National Vice President  — within AAML, and sat on the 50th Anniversary National Committee (AAML)  on:

Bounds of Advocacy Revision – Special Committee
Officer(s)
Elizabeth Lindsey, Vice Chair
John Slowiaczek, Chair

(whatever that was about). He is now concentrating on (family law / domestic relations) and per his site, Mr. Slowiaczek is an experienced trial lawyer with a broad background. Mr. Slowiaczek now concentrates his practice in the field of domestic relations and is recognized as one of the leading domestic relations lawyers in this region. He frequently lectures on various domestic law issues. He serves on the Executive Committee and is a Fellow in the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers is a fellow of the International Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. Mr. Slowiaczek is also a Diplomate of the American College of Family Law Trial Lawyers. He is listed in The Best Lawyers in America and is rated “AV” in the Martindale-Hubbell Law Directory.and is named in the Great Plains Superlawyers list. :

SO here is part of his testimony, in 2009, in front of a whole lot of Senators, i.e., The Nebraska Legislature, 3/25/2009, on one of these bills:

He is opposed to the bill presumption of equal / shared custody . . on the other hand, he seems to think that mediation was working just fine.  Note this comment:

SENATOR COUNCIL: And one of the proponents alluded to the issue of child support. [LB589 LB423]

JOHN SLOWIACZEK: Yes. [LB589 LB423]

SENATOR COUNCIL: And in your experience, how often do these custody disputes boil down to the child support obligation? [LB589 LB423] 

JOHN SLOWIACZEK: I think a fair number of people want shared custody because they want to pay lower child support, but they don’t want to pay corresponding expenses associated with shared custody. I mean, the fundamental concept of shared custody is you’re going to share time and you’re going to share expenses, but they don’t do that. Too often one person will say, I’m paying child support, but I’m not going to pay any of the other expenses. And I think it’s fair to say that many people historically want shared custody because they don’t want to pay as much support. [LB589 LB423]

and this observation:

SENATOR ASHFORD: Thank you. Any questions? Thank you. Thanks for your comments. Opponents of either bill or both. [LB589 LB423]

AMIE MARTINEZ: Good afternoon. My name is Amie Martinez. I am an attorney in Lincoln. Martinez is M-a-r-t-i-n-e-z. About 90 percent of the work that I do is in the area of domestic relations, and I appear before you today as the chair of the house of delegates for the Nebraska State Bar Association. The Nebraska State Bar Association is opposed to both LB423 and LB589. We have a number of concerns specifically with regard to the presumption of joint custody. To be clear, we’re not opposed to the idea of joint custody or to orders that include joint custody, but to the presumption imposing joint custody in all situations. First of all, not all families have equal parenting time roles up until the time that they are divorced. So this would be a change many times in circumstances. The American Bar Association favors a case-by-case to determination without rigid presumptions for or against joint custody. The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges instruct judges not to presume that joint custody is in the best interest of children. In January of 2009, just a few months ago, Minnesota issued a joint physical custody presumption study group report.

In Minnesota, the legislature directed the state court administrators to consider a potential impact of an adoption of a statute similar to this, to these that are being proposed with regard to a presumption for joint physical custody. With a group of lawyers, laypeople, psychologists, various groups of folks they came up with six recommendations. And the primary recommendation was that there should be no presumption for or against joint custody with the exception that in cases involving domestic violence, there should be a presumption against. Several states have in the past created presumptions of joint custody only to later change their statutes to eliminate that presumption and to allow joint custody only when parents agree to the same. One such state is California who reported that more than…according to the judges, more than two-thirds of them found that the imposition of joint custody under the operation of the presumption led to mixed or bad results. Several states have encouraged joint custody but do not impose the presumption. One of those states is Iowa. I heard one of the remarks included a quote out of Iowa. And the Supreme Court actually in 2007 interpreted the legislation to not impose that presumption. Nebraska previously had a presumption that mothers should receive custody, and we eliminated that presumption. In sum, the presumptions take the place of individualized attention to determine the best result for the child. And our concern is with regard to that presumption. [LB589 LB423]

SENATOR ASHFORD: Thank you, Amie. It’s good to see you again. Next opponent. [LB589 LB423]

JOHN SLOWIACZEK: Good afternoon, Senator Ashford, Senators. My name is John Slowiaczek, it’s S-l-o-w-i-a-c-z-e-k. I’m an attorney. I’ve been practicing law in Omaha24for 35 years. My practice is devoted entirely to domestic work and it has had…I’ve done nothing but divorce law for all practical purposes for the last 25 years. I am very much opposed to the legislation. There should be no presumption one way or the other. The law as it presently exists works and it works fine. The presumption in favor of joint custody whether it’s legal or physical would be chaos in the legal system. And as far as I’m concerned, it would do nothing but exacerbate divorces. It would make it much more expensive, and people would be fighting when they otherwise wouldn’t fight. Right now we have a mediation program that is statewide that has been passed as a legislation last year. And that is working and I think it’s working well . . .

When you look at children and you look at homes, generally speaking most parents have similar goals for their kids. But within most homes people divide their responsibilities and they divide the determination as to who’s going to be performing certain roles. And in my experience, it’s a very unusual family that has equal sharing of responsibility for children. To make a presumption that you’re going to make equal responsibility is ludicrous. One thing I ask of you is ask yourself, do you want to spend one week in a bed in one home and one week in a bed in another home and go back and forth. People who want joint custody, whether…and they want to make a presumption, as far as I’m concerned are more concerned about their own best interests than the best interests of the children.

Very interesting …  now imagine if the reason for separation literally had something to do with domestic violence or child abuse — how that might work in application.  I don’t think the parent would sleep — at all — while the child was in the other home.

JOHN SLOWIACZEK: Well, last year we…there’s new legislation that was passed and there is mediation now mandated in the state for parenting with regard to all issues that involve custody of children. So within the context of the divorce process, everybody goes to mediation sessions in an effort to resolve parenting issues. [LB589 LB423]

SENATOR COASH: With the limited time we’ve had that in place, what’s your opinion on how well that’s working for the children? [LB589 LB423]25

JOHN SLOWIACZEK: Well, I’m a product of Douglas County, so we’ve had it in place for probably I want to say ten years and I may be a little bit off on that. It has cut down custody fights and it’s working fine. And I will admit, I went into the mediation process kicking and screaming saying it shouldn’t work, and it… [LB589 LB423]

So he was a divorcing father and mediation worked for him.

SENATOR ASHFORD: I remember that (laughter). That goes back to 1991, John, and that’s a dim, dim memory for both of us. [LB589 LB423]

JOHN SLOWIACZEK: It works and it’s working fine. I think it’s really working fine

AND — here’s the reference to Loretta Frederick, in this testimony:

ROBERT SANFORD: (Exhibit 13) Senator Ashford and committee members, my name is Robert Sanford, S-a-n-f-o-r-d, and I’m the legal director for the Nebraska Domestic Violence Sexual Assault Coalition. The coalition is a membership organization made up of 22 local organizations providing services to victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking across the state of Nebraska. I am here today to express the coalition’s opposition to both LB423 and LB589 because presumptions for joint custody can increase the risk of harm to children and victims of domestic violence. Joint custody is often seen as an ideal for both parents and children, and those who are best situated for it are going to agree to it regardless of whether the presumption exists or not. Our concern for the safety of the parent and child when there is conflict and the potential for violence as presumptions for joint custody often compromise a victim’s safety.

A presumption of joint custody requires more interaction between parents to negotiate the day-to-day life of a child, increasing the likelihood children will be exposed to high and moderate levels of conflict. Loretta Frederick of the Battered Women’s Justice Project also states that both the logistics of the child’s schedules and needs must be workable in order for joint custody to work. Why would Nebraska pass a law adopting a presumption for joint custody when states such as California, the first state to pass a presumption of joint custody, have moved away from it? While these two bills have language regarding the best interests…may I finish my sentences? [LB589 LB423]

SENATOR ASHFORD: Yes. [LB589 LB423]

ROBERT SANFORD: …regarding best interest of the child, best interest is clearly to be ignored if the parents are both fit. We stand in opposition to both of these bills. [LB589 LB423]

And one proponent brought up “parental alienation” — who was a father, who’d been through several divorces he said:

RUFINO VILLARREAL: Good afternoon. My name is Rufino Villarreal. It’s spelled R-u-f-i-n-o V-i-l-l-a-r-r-e-a-l. I’m a proponent, obviously, and I’m just a citizen. I’ve been involved in a few groups for equal parenting, but I’m commenting as just a citizen. {{sure…. thinking independently}}   I think we can all agree that most people believe and most psychologists believe that children need both parents. They need the role model of the father and the caring of the mother. And I think this bill is moving us into that direction. I think it’s really important. I’ve had a couple of divorces and so I’ve kind of been through the mill on this. And I think what our society is seeing as a whole is because the father is usually excluded from the family that it’s a negative impact on the child, which in turn affects our communities with more, you know, violence, drug abuse, and so forth when they don’t have the father figure or at least equal parenting for the children. {{real independent thinking:  fatherlessness is a social scourge}} Now, I was in the Fathers for a Lifetime group and there’s a lot of fathers out there that really want to get involved . . .

here was I guess it’s kind of like a power thing, but it’s not really a power thing. It’s just the kids need both parents. You know, I guess I learned about parental alienation syndrome the hard way with my divorce, my last one. And as far as the power goes, my wife has changed my son’s name, Rufino Junior, to Tony (phonetic) in her school. And I told the school, you know, his name is Rufino. They go, no it’s Tony (phonetic). And I go, why? They said because your wife has custody. You know, I don’t think that’s right. I think all we just need is some equality, you know, nothing more. And that’s about it. [LB589 LB423]

He learned the word “parental alienation” from somewhere.  Changing the son’s name — that’s tough, sure…  But now that the legislature is not listening, and AFCC is conferring, parental alienation talk is the theme…

Clearly, the language AND grammar of “high-conflict” and “alienation” is alienated from the world we live in — from reality

If AFCC wishes to sincerely help protect little children from assaults — as well as “alienation” — they had better start using real-world language, and let go of the made-up jargon, the purpose of which is to transform others’ reality in a way to keep justifying their existence in this world, and silence on situations like the one above.  It should be understand that the bulk of the AFCC conferences are hoping to pull in custody evaulators, parent coordinators, psychological testing, and a lot of other work that many individuals couldn’t even begin to afford the first time around.  For those who do go that right — they will be bled dry financially (one side, or both) which of course stacks the odds to or from one parent, and definitely compromises the well-being of the child, sometimes removing a parent entirely from his/her life by virtue of one parent can no longer afford to PAY to see his or her child (if supervised visitation is assigned).

From the “High Conflict Institute”

CONFLICT HAPPENS

NO — really? ??  You’re kiddin’ me….

Veteran’s Day Youtube

U.S. Air Force Staff Sgt. Dannielle Ritacco stands among headstones during the 62nd Annual Veterans Day Memorial Celebration at the Veterans Memorial Cemetery at Evergreen-Washelli in Seattle on Friday, November 11, 2011. Photo: Associated Press, Joshua Trujillo / seattlepi.com

These soldiers have rest.  But while they were alive, they had conflict — it’s part of life.  There is one way to get rid of it — kill off life, or figure out common values within a group, or pick a world ruler.  Now, I”m not in favor of the first and last options, so til those become mandatory, I’m more in favor of negotiating as many common values within any group (or relationship) I’m in; and if no reasonable — or NONlethal/destructive — resolution is possible, then I choose to detach from that relationship.

And I did this as a parent, being able to negotiate a very difficult separation (involving a DV restraining order) — until I learned that certain people had an innate concept with my right to detach (in order to live) and a more serious conflict with the US Constitution and its Bill of Rights.  These were to be suspended for more and more situations — the primary excuse for suspending them being, if one was a member of a “family” (i.e., participated in normal human behavior called reproduction).

ANYHOW — Back at the Ranch, I learned:

No longer are we actually calling murderous and violent relationships “high-conflict.”  We are to call them “Potentially high-conflict” and get judges to immunize families against Potential conflict through court-ordered participation in training by this licensed counselor.  I guess he’ll have to share air time with Parent Coordinators…..

While Penn State is reeling and reconsidering ‘what happened”  AFCC professionals have not skipped a beat in developing new ways to market the same old hogwash, that everyone actually wants their skills, and that the public should be supporting their marketing plan through the family law courts.

Oh yes — and that child abuse as in child porn, molestation and trafficking does not REALLY exist, hence the only child abuse really worth talking about is alienation, meaning one parent may not have access to another child.  In results, they end up frequently making sure that parent is the mother — not the father.  And when it doesn’t go that way, somehow, no matter how many fathers feel entitled to run off with their children and do a murder/suicide event — it doesn’t phase AFCC practices a bit.   Not hardly.  They are on a course, and none dare intervene.

The real problem with AFCC members, overall (this is not to say there aren’t nice people in there or decent ones.  Not in the leadership of course — there’s no excuse for subscribing to the group’s tax evasion practices (significant of the beginnings) — or even premises, which include that the language of criminal law should be dismantled in favor of better language of their choosing. But to continue membership and participation is to engage in denial about the purposes and practices of the group.

Sometimes  I think that the trouble is, some people really LOVED elementary school — and excelled at it.  If there is a teacher at the head of the room dominating the activities, then all is well with the world.  The thing is, to get in with whoever’s in charge, and not attract negative attention.  Then someday, you, too — can play teacher, to the World.  Because the world without a headmaster, a principal, a schoolmarm that really has it under control — can be a very, very scary place.  One might have to stand on one’s own too feet.  One might have to come up with original thoughts and justify them without friends nearby.   And those thoughts might not have even a leg to stand on, exposed to clear light.

That’s at least one theory I have of why this group still is around, after all that has been exposed about it starting around mid-1990s.  The other reason is that it’s figured out how to control things, is it only takes so many affiliates in high places to start reaching critical mass.  Plus, let’s not forget, when it comes to parenting classes, supervised visitation, court-ordered counseling, and mediation — a lot of the bills are paid by the public already, whether through federal grants, or local county courthouse payrolls.

(when reading the literature and reflecting on the practices of AFCC groups — including making up new professional niches, starting national organizations to promote them, and then citing these all over their personal websites as if it evidenced something much more than group memberships, or collections of associated group memberships (AFCC, CRC, APA, AAML, etc.)

So, here we have the theory of “HIGH CONFLICT PEOPLE” and of course, along with this is needed a “HIGH CONFLICT INSTITUTE”

High Conflict People aren’t just difficult people,

they’re the MOST difficult people.

They pick a Target of Blame and assault that person verbally, physically, financially, etc.* * * They promote high conflict divorces, lawsuits, complaints against co-workers, neighbors, friends and family. They sue professionals, gather negative advocates, cost employers lots of time and money. They convince everyone that it’s all your fault!   If you’re dealing with a situation like this then you’ve come to the right place to get information, resources and tools to help you.

**”THEY?”  As if the court system itself were not incentivized to cater to this, or inciting it when sometimes even the parent didn’t care about the issues!  Talk about the “Us/Them” divide….

Now (from the same page) about the “WE” — as opposed to the big, bad enemy, ‘They” — the “high-conflict people.”

  • We provide speakers and trainers
  • We provide consultations to organizations and individuals on an hourly basis.
  • We developed this program to help potentially high-conflict families stay out of court, while learning and practicing conflict reducing skills, teaching these skills to their children, and making decisions. It is designed to save courts time and parents money and offers a significant shift in attitude toward high-conflict cases.

First of all, doesn’t sound like anything new at all.  Second — I thought it was about high-conflict people – not high-conflict cases.

SOMETIMES though, it’s just off the deep end….  I believe these are self-explanatory irrational.

Goals of New Ways for Families™

  1. To immunize families against becoming high-conflict families during the separation and the divorce process.
  2. To help parents teach their children resilience in this time of huge and rapid change in the foundation of their family life
  3. To strengthen both parent’s abilities to make parenting decisions, while relying less on experts and the courts** to make their decisions for them.
  4. To assist professionals and the courts in assessing both parent’s potential to learn new, positive ways of problem-solving and organizing their family after a separation or divorce.
  5. To give parents a chance to change poor parenting behaviors (including abuse and alienation) before long-term decisions are made. This method emphasizes learning new skills for positive future behavior.
**Pay no attention to the fact that we assume ourselves to be the experts and wish the courts to recognize that status, and the privileges attached.
**Pay also no attention to the ASSUMPTION that neither parent is competent to make a “parenting” decision.

How It Works

Step 1:   Getting Started

Parents can agree to use New Ways, or a judge can order it while also making temporary parenting orders, support orders, and restraining orders.** First, each parent selects his or her own Individual Parent Counselor from a list of counselors trained in the New Ways method. Then, each parent prepares a Behavioral Declaration and a Reply Behavioral Declaration, which are the only declarations provided to the counselors, along with any related parenting orders, two business days before the counseling begins.

**That’s the wet dream.  A world in which this group — too — can avoid the competitive marketplace entirely and simply have a judge ORDER participation.  No more actually having to produce a product someone needs, wants, and would voluntarily buy with what’s left of their money — after all, in America, chances are their mommies and/or daddies already ran the family court gauntlet.

In short it’s NEW WAY, or the HIGHWAY.    Notice the “opt-out” option isn’t mentioned.  The concept of taking New Ways For Families while throwing an abuser out of one’s immediate reach, and dealing with the extreme danger this can mean to self, children, bystanders and/or him(her) is typical.  After all, is it a New Ways Counselor going to be in the crossfire?

Here are the speaker bios, predictable background and affiliations:

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the “High Conflict Personality” theory (HCP Theory) and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high conflict personalities and personality disorders. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners’ association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists and others. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, France and Sweden.

He developed a theory (using THE buzz-word of the AFCC, it’s all over their material, it dribbles out every time a member opens his or her mouth, or is faced with a seriously distressing situation, like anything involving a crime, especially if towards a child) and set up an “Institute” for it.   While the word “Institute” used to — I gather — mean something significant, it has been so cheapened as to mean almost anything some people put together – in whatever meeting place (including a website, or a hotel conference room, or a series of them).  It’s a nother robe put on the emperor  to make him look larger, significant and more impressive.

As an attorney, Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years’ experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics.

He is a therapist, his professional work life prior to becoming an attorney was in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics.  I can see why it’s important in such situations there not be too much conflict, particularly considering the pharmaceuticals that may be coursing through the clients’ veins.

The literature says the center started in 1983.  The State of California says it started in 1990, hardy suprising given the field:

Entity Number Date Filed Status Entity Name Agent for Service of Process
C1669325 07/24/1990 ACTIVE NATIONAL CONFLICT RESOLUTION CENTER STEVEN P DINKIN
Organization Name Registration Number Record Type Registration Status City State Registration Type Record Type
NATIONAL CONFLICT RESOLUTION CENTER 079054 Charity Current SAN DIEGO CA Charity Registration Charity
NATIONAL CONFLICT RESOLUTION CORPORATION 099851 Charity Delinquent SAN DIEGO CA Charity Registration Charity
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(sorry about the paste function and extra space there…).  EIN of the top group is 330433314.  Of the bottom, EIN#  330670516 (same address)

The top one has good income:  Its founding document show it incorporated in 1990 as “San Diego Mediation Center” and in 2004 changed its name to above, National Conflict Resolution Center” with a HOST of people on the board (including at least one judge), and partially supported by:Partial Funding County of San Diego, City of San Diego

Sponsored by San Diego County Bar Association

Fiscal Begin: 01-JUL-09
Fiscal End: 30-JUN-10
Total Assets: $832,868.00
Gross Annual Revenue: $2,510,272.00
RRF Received: 09-MAY-11

The lower one (“National Conflict Resolution Corporation”) shows same incorporator (Jeffrey L. Harris), date-stamped 1995 and (unlike the other one, which simply incorporates as a charitable organization) ”

The specific purpose of this corporation is to provide dispute resolution services

and educational training in communications and dispute resolution skills.

It showed assets of $14,829.83 and income (receipts) of “0” on the 2001-02 state filing, same for the previous year.  So I presume that this organization is not just “delinquent” but that it doesn’t exist — or isn’t producing any receipts in the above line of work:

 The top one, however in (for example) 2008 — had $741K grants and $2,254K (i.e $2.254 million) program service revenue (up about $700K from the previous year).  I recommend reading a 990 or so (for example, the tax-exempt public benefit service of this was nicely profitable — about $550K was actually earned providing mediation and also in PR:  “provide ongoing information and education to the justice system officials, members of the legal community, and policy makers as to the benefits of ADR.  Developing new applications for transferability of ADR to other regions.)  THERE ARE JUST UNDER 2 DOZEN MEMBERS (UNPAID) AND DIRECTOR STEVEN P. DINKIN PULLED IN $133K, OTHER DIRECTORS (all female, I think) between $62K – $84K in service of the public here….)

Training fees + ($40K) “Credentialing” brought in about $2 million, that’s not bad.  I can see why others like the model…  Part X lists some grants receivable, including $10K from the Superior Court, $5K from a law firm, Procopio, Hargreaves & Savitch $5K; County of San Diego DCHD ($3K), and miscellaneous others.    

DOES THIS (San Diego, California PO Box address) Institute exist as a corporation?  Because these groups — with california corporations with the words “Conflict Institute” in them — do, or (for some) did:

Entity Number Date Filed Status Entity Name Agent for Service of Process
C1876542 11/30/1993 SUSPENDED AMERICAN CONFLICT RESOLUTION INSTITUTE DOLLY DUFF
C2735961 03/23/2005 ACTIVE CONFLICT MANAGEMENT INSTITUTE MARK C RUTHERFORD
C2139489 05/20/1999 SUSPENDED CONFLICT MANAGEMENT INSTITUTE, INC. MYER J SANKARY
C2420682 05/28/2002 ACTIVE INSTITUTE FOR CONFLICT RESOLUTION DAVID CHRISTOPHER ANDRUS
C1674120 10/04/1990 ACTIVE LINDLEY INSTITUTE FOR CONFLICT RESOLUTION, INC. IVAN BERKOVICS
C1272058 03/20/1985 SUSPENDED THE MILITARY CONFLICT INSTITUTE DONALD S MARSHALL

Note the corporation survival rate is 50%.

Mr. Eddy has been Faculty for San Diego’s “Relationship Training Institute” — another San Diego group on my radar to also blog.  This group does business with the courts also:

THE RELATIONSHIP TRAINING INSTITUTE
4036 Third Ave.
San Diego, CA 92103

(self-proclaimed) “

“The World’s Authority on Relationship Development
and Domestic Violence Prevention, Training
and Consultation”

RTI really is a hot-shot group:   “The Relationship Training Institute is approved for Professional CE credits by the following organizations:”  (among them….)

  • Board of Registered Nursing
  • American Psychological Association
  • Certified Additions Treatment Counselor
  • Department of Consumer Affairs – Board of Behavioral Sciences
  • Judicial Council of California – Administrative Office of the Courts
  • National Board for Certified Counselors
  • NAADAC The Association for Addiction Professionals
  • State of Nevada Committee on Domestic Violence

GUEST FACULTY INCLUDE:  (it’s a long list — this is just a chunk of it):

Guest Faculty:

Russell Barkley, Ph.D., University of Massachusetts Medical School
Sandra L. Brown, MA, CEO, The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Psychopathy Education
Stacy W. Buhbe, Ph.D.
Constance Dalenberg, Ph.D., Core Faculty, Alliant/CSPP University
Leslie Drozd, Ph.D.**  [[SECTION ON DROZD BELOW]]
William Eddy, JD, LCSW, President of High Conflict Institute
Matt Englar-Carlson, Ph.D., CSU Fullerton
Brian Erickson, Esq., San Diego City Attorney’s Office

Terrence Real, LICSW, Family Institute of Cambridge

Gael Strack, J.D., Chief Executive Officer, National Family Justice Center Alliance


RE:  The RELATIONSHIP TRAINING INSTITUTE  & Dr. DROZD AS A GUEST LECTURER IN ITS CLE-APPROVED TRAININGS:

While I’m here, Leslie Drozd is very AFCC, and quite the activist/author/coacher:

She has conducted child custody evaluations for over 20 years. She works daily doing forensic work (including expert witness testimony, mainly in Family Law Court). . .She conducts post divorce work with families including reunification therapy when a child has rejected a parent. She works as a parenting coordinator and as a co-parenting therapist and she reviews the work of other colleagues and serves as a consultant to attorneys.

Dr. Drozd is a well-known expert on family violence, abuse, and alienation – especially in high conflict divorce cases. She has spoken for the Association of Family Conciliation Courts (international, national, and state conferences) as well as at conventions held by the American, California, Arizona, Minnesota, Missouri, Orange, Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Luis Obispo Psychological Associations, Alliant University and California School of Professional Psychology, Argosy University, University of California, Irvine, and Harvard University doctoral program in the School of Public Health. She is the co-author (with 6 others) of a bench book for judges* in how to deal with domestic violence in child custody cases

Yes, the BENCH BOOK FOR JUDGES (or at least one of them):

First of all note the URL:   http://www.afccnet.org/pdfs/BenchGuide.pdf

“NAVIGATING CUSTODY & VISITATION EVALUATIONS

IN CASES WITH 

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:

A JUDGE’S GUIDE”

{{ I keep having a nagging question —  why should parents who can’t keep their hands, threats, and abuse off another spouse (or kid) retain any parenting privileges?  Why is parenting more important than parenting WITHOUT domestic violence, and how can anyone — really — expect to STOP (let alone “prevent”) domestic violence without adequately calling it what it is?  I know what it’s like to have now over 10 years dealing fairly and equitably with an abuser in a custody situation who couldn’t accept being de-throned, and so got even in and out of court, until the children were in someone else’s care, after which he abandoned them.  The courts got their part, child support agency got ITS cut, the people who wanted my kids got them, and although this apparently meant him living off the radar — after a belated attempt to stalk (coerce) me into taking him back, when it looked like some inheritance might be involved — simply dumped them.  I saw no character change, nor did the court ever require any.  Those who took the hardest hits were my chidlren — who basically lost both parents, ALL child support, and had to deal with strangers who got them by breaking the law; who explicitly took advantage of no one around to enforce anything, and with a vengeance….  Would it be better to simply eliminate any pretense of giving a crap about domestic violence, then to drag it out like this, for fun and profit of the Ph.D.’s among us, not to mention the entrepreneurs in the welfare systems of the world?}}

**”The Family Violence Department would also like to thank the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) for helping to support this important endeavor. Much of the groundwork for this tool was done through the Resource Center on Domestic Violence: Child Protection and Custody, a project of NCJFCJ and funded by HHS.

Quotable parts:

“Ordering an Evaluation: When Is Domestic Violence Experience Necessary?”

What If There Are No Resources for an Evaluation?

If Resources Are Available, Should I Order an Evaluation?

The Clearest Cases

In the most egregious cases, it may not even be necessary to order an evaluation in order to decide that a child’s best interests would not be served by allowing contact with a violent and abusive parent. However, even a parent who is not an appropriate candidate for custody may desire visitation; and a careful evaluation may indeed be necessary to determine (a) the motivation for that request,** (b) what impact ongoing contact will have on the children, and (c) whether and how visitation can be structured to assure the safety of the vulnerable parent and the children.

**read that parent’s intentions.  So far, we are not as a whole doing too well in this category — and historically have not.  However, as Supervised Visitation has some federal funds behind it, ….

page 11 — if there is a history of physical violence and involvement of police or criminal system, order an evaluation:”

When Victims Have a History of Physical Violence

A history of physical violence in the parents’ relationship—and especially a history of police or criminal justice system involvement—almost always warrants an evaluation, if resources are available. In such cases, it is crucial that the history be subject to careful review and to supplementation, as appropriate. In particular, concerns are frequently raised that neither the standards governing the issuance of civil restraining/protection orders, nor the standards used by prosecutors in criminal domestic assault cases, sufficiently distinguish between the primary perpetrator of violence in an abusive relationship, and a partner who may be using violence defensively

Between the lines, this benchbook for the family law judge is saying, we can’t really trust the civil or criminal sectors of out justice system to do their job right and distinguish a perpetrator from a victim.  Hence then a person who received a protective order gets a real shock when they go to the family law venue, where it’s treated with disdain, although family judges do issue them as well.

I notice how the list of suggested readings alternates between DV acknowledgement and alienation-promotion:

Navigating Custody & Visitation Evaluations in Cases with Domestic Violence: A Judge’s Guide

Reading Material

AMERICAN PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION, VIOLENCE AND THE FAMILY: REPORT OF THE AMERICAN PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION PRESIDENTIAL TASK FORCE ON VIOLENCE AND THE FAMILY (1966).*

*This publication pre-dates:  No-fault divorce, the Violence Against Women act, and a good chunk of feminism.  If the date is correct here, sounds like it was written before the AFCC even got caught and forced to incorporate, which was around 1975, as I recall! !!

Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, {{of course…}}} Model Standards of Practice for Child Custody Evaluations at http://www.afccnet.org/pdfs/Child_Model_Standards.pdf.

LUNDY BANCROFT & JAY G. SILVERMAN, THE BATTERER AS PARENT: ADDRESSING THE IMPACT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON FAMILY DYNAMICS (2002).

[Bancroft’s well-written book as to the dynamics says nothing at all about TANF Reform as an incentive to extended “high-conflict custody” cases.  Alas..He also tends to be a little more out of the loop, as he has identified more with the protecting mothers movement than others.]

Carol S. Bruch, Parental Alienation Syndrome and Alienated Children—getting it wrong in child custody cases, 14 CHILD & FAM. L.Q. 381-400 (2002).

Jacquelyn C. Campbell, Danger Assessment (2003) at http://www.son.jhmi.edu/research/CNR/Homicide/Danger03.pdf.

Jacquelyn C. Campbell et al., Risk Factors for Femicide in Abusive Relationships: Results from a Multistate Case Control Study, 93 AM. J. PUB. HEALTH 1089-97 (2003).

Judging by the headline stats (and I’m familiar with the Campbell lethality risk assessment) — most people don’t believe it anyhow.

Clare Dalton et al., High Conflict Divorce, Violence, and Abuse: Implications for Custody and Visitation Decisions, 54 JUV. & FAM. CT. J. 11 (2003).

(note:  the word “domestic violence” does not appear in the title).

A 2004 answer to this writing (which I think I blogged long ago) is here:

High Conflict Divorce or Stalking by Way of Family Court? The Empowerment of a Wealthy Abuser in Family Court Litigation: Linda v. Lyle – A Case Study” (authors from San Diego)

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Massachusetts Family Law Journal, 22(1&2) 4-16.

Introduction

Virtually all coverage of high-conflict divorce assumes both parents are the source of the conflict.[1]Blame is assigned solely and equally to the parents in essentially all cases without much analysis. However, if one party is abusive and sufficiently wealthy to fund on-going litigation, the Domestic Court may be ideally suited to the spurned mate’s agenda.[2] The systematic assertion of ‘dominion and control’ via Family Court litigation would superficially mimic a high-conflict divorce because there would be ongoing litigation.[3][4] The interpretation is consistently that the parties cannot get along and they are using their children as pawns.[5] A closer look shows high conflict divorce has features common to both domestic abuse relationships and the stalking behavior displayed by abandoned abusers.[6]This fascinating case study illustrates how power is transferred from the abusive mate to the professionals, who are, apparently, also at risk to lose control.

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(continuing list from the Benchbook for Judges)

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THE LIVES OF CHILDREN: THE FUTURE OF RESEARCH, INTERVENTIONS, AND SOCIAL POLICY (Sandra A. Graham-Bermann & Jeffrey L. Edleson eds., 2001).

Leslie M. Drozd & Nancy W. Olesen, Is it Abuse, Alienation, and/or Estrangement? A Decision Tree, 1 J. CHILD CUSTODY 65 (Nov. 2004).

Suggested Resources  etc.

In short, Leslie Drozd is classic AFCC, and proud of it.    If you still don’t know what I mean by “Classic AFCC” and the use of the term “HIGH-CONFLICT” – here’s a sample in fact, why not just buy the book and read Chapter 1 from Drozd and be sure to click on the last parent coordination “Sample Decision” where Daddy doesn’t have to say where, within 60 miles, he is taking 4-year old Sarah, because he’s a responsible sorta guy and doesn’t want Linda (the ex) checking up on him and intruding on his parenting time.  (In certain situations, such a stipulation would give a real headstart on a kidnapping, and has, before………)…  This book gets a whole page.

Resources for Professionals


Innovations in Interventions with High Conflict Families

Edited by Linda B. Fieldstone and Christine A. Coates

This volume presents six very distinct approaches in working with high conflict families, and provides the reader with opportunities for adoption, replication or creative expansion of the models featured.  With six chapters (225 pp.), this is a must-read for every professional who works with high conflict, alienation, domestic abuse and child custody disputes.

Click here to purchase book

Innovations in Interventions with High Conflict Families

Contents and appendices:

CHAPTER 1

High Conflict, Domestic Abuse or Alienating Behavior: How do you know?
by Nancy Williams Olesen and Leslie Drozd

Appendix 1:
Domestic Violence Child Custody Protocol (PDF)

Appendix 2:
Alienation Child Custody Questionnaire (PDF)

CHAPTER 2

Children and Absent Parents: A Model for Reconnection
by Rhonda Freeman

There are no appendices for this chapter.

CHAPTER 3

A High Conflict Divorce Education Program: After the Storm: Surviving High Conflict Divorce
by James C. Billings, Gary L. Robbins and Donald A. Gordon

Appendix A:
After the Storm
 Intake Form (PDF)

Appendix B:
After the Storm
 Phone Screening (PDF)

CHAPTER 4

Bringing Co-Parent Counseling Services to High-Conflict Low-Income Families**
by Jeffrey Zimmerman and Elizabeth S. Thayer

(a.k.a. how can we parent coordinators get in on the TANF Diversionary programs like the marriage-mongers?)

Appendices A-G (PDF):
A: Intake form
B: Appointment form
C: Client record
D: Client information, release and privacy forms
E: Fee schedule
F: Exchange of information form
G: Focus on K.I.D.S. program description forms

Appendices H-L (PDF):
H: Meeting review examples
I: Parent follow-up survey
J: PEACE Program follow-up survey
K: PEACE Program executive summary
L: Letter of understanding/agreement

CHAPTER 5

Mental Health Consultation in Child Custody Cases
by Elena Hobbs-Minor and Matthew J. Sullivan

Appendix 1:
Consultant Agreement and Fee Policies Fee Policies (PDF)

Appendix 2:
Statement of Understanding and Fee Agreement (PDF)

CHAPTER 6

Parenting Coordination: An Emerging Role to Assist High Conflict Families
by Robin M. Deutsch, Christine A. Coates and Linda B. Fieldstone

Appendix 1:
Parenting Coordination Brochure (PDF)

Appendix 2:
FCS PC Intake Screening Form (PDF)

Appendix 3:
FCS Order of Referral (PDF)

Appendix 4:
PC Administrative Order (PDF)

Appendix 5:
PC Motion for Discharge (PDF)

Appendix 6:
Sample Introductory Letter (PDF)

Appendix 7:
Parenting Coordinator and Decision-Maker Agreement (PDF)

Appendix 8:
Screening for Domestic Violence (PDF)

Appendix 9:
Parenting Plan Checklist (PDF)

Appendix 10:
Decision of Parenting Coordinator (PDF)

We are in calling it high-conflict country.  So, again, exactly where (and who) is the

HIGH CONFLICT INSTITUTE

…that is doing business in California and no doubt elsewhere.

Let me see if the County of San Diego can find this famous group; has it filed for its fictitious name in San Diego, where its mailing address is?

REQUIREMENTS:

WHEN IS IT REQUIRED?

Any person who regularly transacts business for profit, UNDER A FICTITIOUS NAME, in the County of San Diego is required to file a Fictitious Business Name Statement with the Recorder/County Clerk, within 40 days of first transacting business.

PLEASE NOTE: Although registration of a Fictitious Business Name is required, this office serves ONLY as the central depository of these names, neither approving nor disapproving a particular name and CANNOT accept any responsibility for any omissions, similarities, or duplications among the Fictitious Business Names on file. Fictitious Business Names are filed ONLY in the county where the business is located. State-wide registries do NOT exist.

(unlike in states such as Georgia, or Florida, for example)

Mr. Eddy filed for this name only last June — right after father’s day, 2011:

Select Filing Number Business Name Owner Name Document Type Filing Date
  …  Certified  Non-Certified 2011-017379 HIGH CONFLICT INSTITUTE EDDY WILILAM AI STATEMENT 6/14/2011

and the fictitious name  does exist for RTI — started in 2005, good through — well, 2010:

Select Filing Number Business Name Owner Name Document Type Filing Date
  …  Certified  Non-Certified 2005-017394 THE RELATIONSHIP TRAINING INSTITUTE WEXLER DAVID STATEMENT 5/17/2005

(SITE:  San Diego Assessor-Recorder).  Another sample search — one can type a business name in the “Owner” field.  I typed the word “Marriage” which produced the alternate names for CHMC:

Select Filing Number Business Name Owner Name Document Type Filing Date
  …  Certified  Non-Certified 2009-019747 CALIFONIA HEALTHY MARRIAGES INITIATIVE CALIFORNIA HEALTHY MARRIAGES COALITION STATEMENT 7/7/2009
  …  Certified  Non-Certified 2008-033480 CALIFORNIA MARRIAGE INITIATIVE CALIFORNIA HEALTHY MARRIAGES COALITION STATEMENT 10/22/2008
  …  Certified  Non-Certified 2009-019745 CALIFORNIA MARRIAGE PROJECT CALIFORNIA HEALTHY MARRIAGES COALITION STATEMENT 7/7/2009

CHMC IS ITSELF A REGISTERED NAME, owned by . . . .

Select Filing Number Business Name Owner Name Document Type Filing Date
  …  Certified  Non-Certified 2011-002009 CALIFORNIA HEALTHY MARRIAGES COALITION HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS CALIFORNIA STATEMENT 1/21/2011

Background information from:”WhatIsCoParenting.com

Bill Eddy is President of High Conflict Institute based in Scottsdale, Arizona. Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California with fifteen years’ experience representing clients in family court, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with twelve years’ experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples, and families in psychiatric hospitals and out patient clinics. He is Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, California.

Mr. Eddy has been a speaker in over 20 states, several provinces in Canada, France and Australia.{{Which is to say, he is probably an AFCC member}}  He has become an authority and consultant on the subject of high conflict personalities for family law professionals, employee assistance and human resource professionals, ombudspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners associations, and others.

He obtained his law degree in 1992 from the University of San Diego, a Master of Social Work degree in 1981 from San Diego State University, and a Bachelors degree in Psychology in 1970 from Case Western Reserve University. He began his career as a youth social worker in a changing neighborhood in New York City and first became involved in mediation in 1975 in San Diego.

Case Western is (obviously) Ohio — and Psychology is one of the easiest bachelors on the planet to get, not that it doesn’t require work.  SOcial work in NYC, even more.  So how did he end up going to California from New York within 5 short years?  Any marriage (or divorce) in the works there?

So, if he’s been in San Diego all these years, then he lived through the “Enron by the Sea” years as well.   …Maybe it’s time to try a little variety in life.

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What is the High Conflict Institute?

High Conflict Institute (HCI) was co-founded in 2007 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., and Megan L. Hunter, MBA, to provide education and resources to professionals handling High Conflict disputes.

HCI believes that high conflict family law disputes are not driven by complex issues, but by High Conflict Personalities (HCPs)

Co-founder is form Arizona — home of “N.A.M.E.” (National Association of Marriage Educators”) and one of the few state legislators who is actually a member of the Unification Church (I don’t know if Mark Anderson is still in office, but blogged this).  It is also known for the man who shot a legislator this past year (Gabrielle Giffords) and nearly any domestic violence survivor who is fighting to retain or regain custody will also know about Arizona’s Dawn Axsom (deceased, along with her mother) because a family law judge there refused her and her infant daughter move-away privileges.  It is the state which got some serious study by some Columbia Journalism students in Battening Down Immigrants, Locking Up Profits (Corrections Corporation of America & privatizing of the prison system).  It is also — “coincidentally” — the new residence (Northern California being former) of Philip Stahl, well known AFCC person and Parental Alienation Preacher, as well as a chapter of AFCC.

Did I mention Maricopa County and Sheriff Arpaio?

If I were going to start a High Conflict Institute – and California had too many of similar organization — Arizona would be a great state to do it in, I doubt feminists have a stronghold anywhere near.  After all, Oklahoma has its statewide Marriage Initiative, and Minnesota has the Duluth Abuse Intervention Programs (not that they seem to have slowed down the “high-conflict” rhetoric much), Indiana and Ohio are as Faith-Based and Fatherhood as it’s possible to get (I hope), having a Commission of one (Ohio) and Faith-based Office (Ohio Governor’s office).

And here it is, or at least here is an LLC by the name founded in 2007:

MEGAN HUNTER
MEMBER
7701 E INDIAN SCHOOL RD STE D
SCOTTSDALE,AZ  85251
Date of Taking Office: 10/10/2007
Last Updated: 10/12/2007

Megan Hunter’s business management background along with 8 years as a Family Law Specialist with the Arizona Supreme Court, including policy formation, research and program development regarding court processes, parent education and court processes, provides a vast background and broad understanding of the issues facing both families and professionals in family law.

Her linkedIn shows serious involvement at the governmental level in family law issues, including child support — plus being past President of the Arizona AFCC (one of their larger chapters).  While this is commendable and substantial — as a litigant (even in another state) I would bring up serious concerns about Conflicts — of Interest, that is — in that the “New Ways for Families” dreams, hopes, suggests, and intends — that a family law judge might order their program in association with a restraining order!  As it says on the site, even.

Megan Hunter

President at unHooked Books

Phoenix, Arizona Area 
Professional Training & Coaching
Current
  • President at unHooked Books
  • Co-Founder and Vice President at High Conflict Institute
  • Founder and President at Family Law Solutions
Past
  • Past President & Board Member at AzAFCC
  • Child Support Specialist at FAMILY LAW
  • Family Law Specialist at Arizona Supreme Court

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Education
  • University of Phoenix
  • University of Phoenix
  • Chadron State College

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Connections
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High Conflict Institute

DETAILS (from Megan Hunter LinkedIn):
January 2007 – Present (4 years 11 months)

Professional training for people who handle high conflict disputes. Vice President and co-founder of High Conflict Institute. Developed the concept of the Institute after 13 years as the Family Law Specialist with the Arizona Supreme Court, Administrative Office of the Courts and Child Support Manager of the Dawes County Attorney’s Office in Nebraska.

As such, I’m sure Ms. Hunter is extremely well informed in diversionary purposes to which Child Support & TANF may be directed, including counseling and parent education….

August 1999 – July 2006 (7 years)

Judicial training, lead the review and revision of Arizona’s Child Support Guidelines, staffed two policy-recommending legislative committees, liaison between the courts, the executive and legislative branches and the State Bar to analyze and develop integrated strategies for system-wide improvements, managed various programs including parent education, conciliation court, case management, integrated family court, fatherhood and mediation, wrote educational brochures for the public, bench books for judges, member of federal child support task force responsible for creating national strategic plan, collaborated with academic institutions to integrate current empirical research into family law initiatives and laws, wrote and managed grants.

The background is Business and Economics, and clearly she’s good at it.  I WONDER how good that resume would’ve looked had she been the subject herself of an extended, high-conflict, violent, and dealing with a narcssistic personality disordered (sarcasm intended) “co-parent” and WITHOUT having anyone to voluntarily inform her — as most mothers leaving violence do NOT, because their advocates have sold them out for funding — the impact of the fatherhood programs upon her chances for justice — or any job stability — throughout the process?  Or for a coherent, rational — and economic — explanation of why the existing laws don’t mean much once an psychologizing-explicating-rationalizing-minimizing abuse professional is on the scene..

And what happened to this business outfit — not much verbiage under there for ”

Family Law Solutions (2006 -present, 5 years 11 months). 

I have gotten calls from women terrified that their police abuser was let out — or one recently, that the ex-kidnapper had served time and was back on the scene locally.  I do not have the means to help them, but if I DID have the means, I sure as hell would have the will, and I ahv SOUGHT the means to stop this insanity.

As President of the Arizona AFCC, Ms. Hunter even

mentioning “Family Law Solutions, LLC” would provide a wide readership, as in this fall 2006 newsletter

I forgot to mention another wonderful Arizona nonprofit, and an influential one in the family courts (and as to child support & custody):

Fathers & Families Coalition of America, Inc.
39 East Jackson Street
Phoenix, AZ, USA 85044

WELL, I hope this post left some food for thought, but I know it brought some links for looking at.  Again, there will have to be more and more “training institutes” and harder and harder efforts, as time progresses and the truths come out — to make sure that people outside the court system do not finish connecting the dots on WHY certain groups cannot describe abuse in its proper (which includes graphic) legal terms, and in just how much we are expected to sacrifice our children to the experts (or lose contact with them) for the sake of . . . .  “the children.”

We don’t need more “high conflict institutes.”  We need more honest and intervening neighbors, who KNOW their neighbors and are no longer misled into thinking the experts they paid for are doing their own dirty and emotionally distressing work for them — which is KNOWING better than to stand by while someone else is beat up or molested, in their home.  And KNOWING what really happens to kids who report to their teachers.   We cannot turn into a nation of “educators and educatees” – no sir!

I found this quote today (while looking for Sandra Brown, M.A.’s work background, which — unlike Ms. Hunters– is a lot harder to find).

It is listed under “THE BAKER ACT CONSPIRACY

A portion of the proceeds from the sale of this book
will be donated to the Citizens Commission on Human Rights of Florida and Amnesty International.
 
Chapter 1
 
The Manors
 
When I went to medical school, sixty years ago, there were only a handful of mental diseases. I think there were no more than six or seven. Now there are more than three hundred. And new ones are, quote, “discovered” every day. Labeling a child as mentally ill is stigmatization, not diagnosis. Giving a psychiatric drug is poisoning, not treatment. I have long maintained that the child psychiatrist is one of the most dangerous enemies, not only of children, but of adults, of all of us who care for the most precious and vulnerable things in life. And those two things are children and liberty. Now I ask again, how can parents protect themselves from the therapeutic state? That is from the alliance of government and psychiatry?
 Dr. Thomas S. Szasz Dinner Speech
(Used with permission of Dr. Szasz)
If you are adult enough to understand that by quoting something mentioning “scientology” this does not mean I am a Scientologist (likely one of the worst cults around, and similar in nature to the Unification Church which is why I keep blogging the latter’s role in the marriage/fatherhood movement.  It’s a slow sell, but people are beginning to notice the data I’ve provided — such as a member of the CHMC.org being a Unification Church member, etc.  Cults tend to resemble each other, when you get down to operational practices.  Anyhow, I’m going to go back and look at this site, which begins the book (if ever finished or not), like this — and it’s talking about psychiatric labeling of people for profit.
I saw you always within my walls. I felt you as you touched me. I could read your emotions and your thoughts. I never slept. I was made of bricks and mortar. I was the floors, the ceilings, the walls, and doors. I was five stories tall. I was The Manors. I was originally a public and later a private psychiatric hospital, located in Tarpon Springs, Florida, on the Gulf of Mexico. In the 1920s, I was built to be a golf resort, and I was gorgeous. Al Capone, in his drunken, syphilis-filled body, once shot me.
I became a public psychiatric hospital in 1953. I always attracted scrutiny for racketeering and patient abuse, but not even a federal grand jury investigation lasting over seven years could reveal my deepest and darkest secrets. No one saw the hundreds of millions of dollars obtained by my owners and their friends through Medicare, Medicaid, and private-insurance fraud. No one understood the extent of the abuse and manipulation of patients. No one, until now, knew the full extent of the abuse.
. . . If you think of organized crime as the Mafia and the Sopranos then you still live in the I Love Lucygeneration of mentality. The sole purpose of organized crime is making money, or, more accurately, acquiring it. I had observed organized crime operating within my walls for decades. It operated under the patronage of the pharmaceutical industry and through political donations to politicians in office. Vito Genovese would have been proud. . . .
 For those born to the very rich, the Kennedy or Rockefeller types, even insurance expiration provided no exit. Their families paid the $1,000 a day to keep them within my walls. Family peace of mind: a steal at $365,000 a year. The patient’s mind was a different matter: drugged daily for years, it was obliterated by mind-altering regimens of doctor-prescribed medication. Not even those who had committed themselves were allowed to leave. In the 1970s, the Florida legislature passed a law that stopped them: The Baker Act legalized involuntary psychiatric hospitalization. Once deemed a threat to themselves or others, those who sought to leave were Baker-Acted and kept within my walls against their will
(The writing is from point of view of the building and describes and undercover agent who ended up getting that building demolished.  The line, however, between psychologists (which cannot prescribe medicine) and psychiatrists and lawyers is being blurred, and the closer they begin to work together, IGNORING the cries of those abused and trafficked, the closer this entire country is to slavery — involuntary.
Stop swallowing things whole, stop ignoring who is running the “family courts” of america (let alone CPS), who is funding them, and (with me) start looking at some tax returns and corporate identities — for a change !!    ! !    ! ! ! !   New Ways for Families?
Here’s an old way:
“We hold these truths to be self-evident . . . . . ”  

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November 16, 2011 at 10:48 am

Exodus Lessons @ Passover — Phyllis Chesler . . .Let’s Reflect

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What does it take to free an entire nation, men, women and the little ones, from slavery?  Besides the help of God?

I can’t think of anyone more appropriate to write on this topic — and many others — than feminist author Dr. Phyllis Chesler, who has dedicated the article below to her parents.  

I dedicate this post to my children, my daughters, and hope anything they have gone through will produce insight, reflection and above all, honesty about the world they live in, and the value of respecting others’ understanding of the Abrahamic religions as they relate to history, politics, and their places as women.

Also to a Christian woman, fairly young (30s? 40s?), a mother of several children and one still breastfeeding I met a few months ago.  At the time, she appeared in semi-shock, and very distressed.

Why?

She’d separated from violence in the home, had gotten a restraining order, for physical protection.  ….The courts (i.e., whichever judge signed the order), predictably father-friendly, shared-parenting friendly and unbelievably cruel — had put her nursing baby on a 48 hours on, 48 hours off.  She was still attending the same church as her husband and the children’s father.  In order to honor this restraining order  — and fail to acknowledge the abuse — they had her excluded  from the sanctuary, and him sitting up front, in the place of honor.  Why?  I imagine money was a factor….  Churches have to pay mortgages, and they are most definitely patriarchal.  It’s behavior like that, like covering up mistreatment of wives and playing the system of laws in our land in reverse — that has me too disgusted with churches to attend, any more.  That church has already been judged, in my eyes, and will probably have to give an account in any resurrection, for how they handled their own, in this world….

This woman, this mother, may not run across this post, but she knows who she is, and I want to remind her that if Moses’ mother found a way in terrible times, with the help of the living God (not a fake one, not just empty religious traditions), she can too.  Any God worth worshipping will see — like Moses did, like Moses’ mother did, like Pharaoh’s daughter did — what’s really going on, and can part seas, and make a way out, can prepare an Exodus from the insanity….

PASSOVER

I barely noticed Passover.  I plan to barely notice it’s Easter weekend, either — except nominally.  I don’t do “congregations” these days. Holidays without family have definitely lost their flavor, and holidays within the family were also times of trauma and pressure when we all lived under one roof.  They are times of danger, trauma, or isolation for many, or facades for others — when home is not a safe place.

However, thinking about its significance, and in light of turbulence Africa, Arabian Peninsula MidEast, I’m going to acknowledge it this year.  The center of this post is from an article by Dr. Phyllis Chesler — and she is not responsible for how I may have fleshed it out, stuck it on a family law blog, and added my own interpretations of meanings before, after and some commentary inbetween.  I do not even know all the terms used in the post, but the message seems universal, and current.

EXODUS

Exodus, and the lives of Joseph, Pharaoh, Moses — the concept of slavery and escaping it — are my tradition of faith enriched by understanding of violence in the home, and whether this intent to break a (woman’s) spirit works — or fails.  I understand, as her article discusses, marvelling at how there was no “mensch” (person of spirit, compassion, humanity and true princely FIRE) to do anything much about this abuse, and I know understand how it’s actually profitable to maintain within the United States.

Exodus is set in a regime-change for the Israelites in Egypt — and the new regime both hated and feared the descendants of Joseph and his brothers.  While appreciating their labor, they feared their fertility and determined, based on fear, to keep the upper hand.

To understand the parallels today, one has to have read the U.S. Congressional Record authorizing fatherhood legislation targeted at low-income urban black men and women.  I was shocked when I began to read and comprehend that this came from a select group of rulers who literally feared being out-reproduced, as well as fearing and hating women (feminism in particular).  It has been indeed a regime change and sea-change (Administration changes?) over here as well.  I cannot convey this in a single post, but have sensed and seen it over time.

For example, when in 2000, in Ohio, A “Commission on Fatherhood” is legislated into existence, of the six members from the state representatives and senators, fully half   “must be from legislative districts that include a county or part of a county that is among the one-third of counties in this state with the highest number per capita of households headed by females.” . . . . And when a recent population study of 4,000 women over a 27-year time span also breaks it down by race:

…The data included detail on individual men in each household, capturing what demographers call “relationship churning.” For nonresidential relationships, Dorius triangulated information from mother and child reports to establish common paternity.

She found that having children by different fathers was more common among minority women, with 59 percent of African American mothers, 35 percent of Hispanic mothers and 22 percent of white mothers with two or more children reporting multiple partner fertility. Women who were not living with a man when they gave birth and those with low income and less education were also more likely to have children by different men.

But she also found that multiple partner fertility is surprisingly common at all levels of income and education and is frequently tied to marriage and divorce rather than just single parenthood.

I have a problem with populations described as to their breeding habits:  “multiple-partner fertility” studies such as:

Copyright © 2010 Population Association of America
LAURA TACH, RONALD MINCY, and KATHRYN EDIN
Laura Tach, Department of Sociology, William James Hall, 33 Kirkland Street, Cambridge, MA 02138; e-mail:….
Ronald Mincy, School of Social Work, Columbia University.
Kathryn Edin, Harvard Kennedy School, Harvard University.

Besides this being one class (highly educated and in positioned in universities and/or with funding to conduct such studies) studying another class, the  pre-occupation with how different races breed and at which rates, gets a little obsessive — it’s a close cousin to eugenics, and a distance offspring of what Exodus 1 talks about in the fear of the “foreign” population of slaves in the land:

Now there arose a new king over Egypt, who did not know Joseph9And he said to his people, “Behold, the people of Israel are too many and too mighty for us. 10Come, let us deal shrewdly with them, lest they multiply, and, if war breaks out, they join our enemies and fight against us and escape from the land.” 11Therefore they set taskmasters over them to afflict them with heavy burdens. They built for Pharaoh store cities, Pithom and Raamses. 12But the more they were oppressed, the more they multiplied and the more they spread abroad. And the Egyptians were in dread of the people of Israel. 13So they ruthlessly made the people of Israel work as slaves 14and made their lives bitter with hard service, in mortar and brick, and in all kinds of work in the field. In all their work they ruthlessly made them work as slaves.

I see & sense the fear of too many poor people, the fear of too many brown people having too many babies {Take a look at the U.S. Congress and see what I mean}, and at its bottom line, also a severe fear of feminism and women.  Yet despite that fear, there is no fear of keeping such people in low-wage jobs (and their kids in daycare), and inadequate schools, such as these people would not send their own children to.  (etc.)…..  As if this were not enough, when they separate, they must run the gauntlet of custody and mental health evaluations.

The entire network of fatherhood grants, funding, preaching, resource centers, nonprofits and legislation speaks of this.  This is not the 70s any more and feminism must GO!  Libertarians and Tea Party, and a lot of religious groups are also poised to help it do so….  The linkage of “Patriotism” with “Patriarchal” often leaves no safe place or community for those women who love civil rights, justice, AND their God.  And staying alive.  Between the social scientists/demographers, and the religious fundamentalist “divorce is a crime” groups…

Which brings up this question:

Can Atheists Handle Religious-based Misogyny by ignoring its roots?

Progressive, liberal, secular, etc. advocates and groups really do not comprehend what fires the religious mind to kill its own, and others.  They mistrust religion and miss its strengths.  Our country has foolishly thought that the Office of Faith-Based Initiatives is some sort of social solution to stop violence and poverty — failing to realize where some of the same tax-exempt groups cause more of it, if one is a woman, or a child.   I find this very disturbing and short-sighted.  For more, see Don Eberly & origins of the “National Fatherhood Initiative.”  He was co-founder.  Wade Horn was the HHS connection.  Don Eberly was the “Office of Faith-Based” connection…

It truly takes people who have lived in these systems to change them, but moreover,  takes a readiness to accept them as they truly are — and in the case of Egypt, the Exodus accont shows a genocidal Pharaoh who feared the fertility of the same slaves who built up the infrastructure, the monuments.

Consider Moses, Consider the first Passover:

As Dr. Chesler discusses the duality (Jewish/Egyptian) of Yosef and Moshe (Joseph and Moses, obviously) and how they might have responded to their own identities, I am thinking how her own status as a Jewish feminist unafraid to confront honor killings as honor killings, to warn, and to stand in her own strengths, knowledge, faith, and experiences — to talk about these things, still relevant today.

Below the writing, I’m putting another map to show how religiously isolated Israel is in the uproar now happening across northern Africa, Arabian Peninsula, and the Middle East.  This is no small matter for any woman, of faith or no faith, to consider.

Map = for reference only….

http://www.mideastweb.org/maps.htm

Drill down Map of Middle East - Middle East Maps

The Exodus’ Lessons

by Phyllis Chesler
Israel National News
April 18, 2011

http://www.phyllis-chesler.com/975/the-exodus-lessons


Time is short and the Jews are, as usual, in trouble. What does the Exodus teach us about what to do?

Yes, the Jews are in trouble both today and long ago, when we were slaves in Egypt. Apparently, Jews can be in trouble both as slaves and as citizens of our own Jewish state and as citizens of the world in an era in which a Jewish state exists. It’s like a bad Jewish joke.

In Egypt, we are literally enslaved and we cannot save ourselves. We need God to save us –and God chooses a redeemer for us. This is how we, the “Hebrews” are pulled out of “Mitzrayim.”

We have many midwives who free us from the narrow place of affliction so that we can be born as God’s people.

Moshe is not raised like all the other Hebrew slaves. In a memorable act of civil disobedience, Pharaoh’s own daughter saves the infant who cried out.

Let’s not forget, in this age where the word “mother” is almost a curse-word in the courts (and not on our current President’s radar, or vocabulary often, even when talking about families and children and parents, or for that matter his own mothers,  that the earlier act of civil disobedience was by Moshe’s mother  — who refused to kill her firstborn.  The practice of the day was oppression (slavery), and the oppressors feared the fertility of the enslaved.  So, the law of the land was genocide; the midwives disobeyed, and Pharaoh had set out the order:

And Pharaoh charged all his people, saying, Every son that is born ye shall cast into the river, and every daughter ye shall save alive.

(EXODUS 2)

And there went a man of the house of Levi, and took to wife a daughter of Levi. 2And the woman conceived, and bare a son: and when she saw him that he was a goodly child, she hid him three months. 3And when she could not longer hide him, she took for him an ark of bulrushes, and daubed it with slime and with pitch, and put the child therein; and she laid it in the flags by the river’s brink. 4And his sister stood afar off, to wit what would be done to him.


Never underestimate a committed mother with her firstborn….  She put her life on the line to keep her son alive…disobeying a direct command from the Pharoah to all, and this command was to murder your own offspring.  Can we imagine this?  Suppose it was you — or us?  What would you do?


For such a patriarchal book to credit Moshe’s mother — and not both parents — is telling.  Both were Levites — but would the father have been so brave, or approved?  Pharoah’s daughter risked disapproval -too — did she risk her life?      Just thought I’d mention this.  Back to Dr. Chesler’s writing:

For this act of hesed, or merciful kindness, she is midrashically and rabbinically re-named “Bat’ya, because by this act she becomes God’s daughter too. Pharaoh’s daughter adopts Moshe and raises him as if he is an Egyptian prince.

Moshe is a more evolved version of Yosef: someone who is both a Jew and an Egyptian. He is a Jew who knows his way around the larger, non-Jewish world –but he is also a Jew who breaks with that world with wrenching and utter finality. Ultimately, even though he has grown up away from his Jewish family, Moshe, rather paradoxically, remains close to, even dependent upon, his Jewish brother and sister, Aaraon and Miriam.

In a sense, Moshe is also the anti-Yosef. Yosef is born and reared as a Jew and remains a Jew–but he also becomes a powerful and assimilated Egyptian. Moshe is born as a Jew but is reared mainly as an Egyptian. Yosef helps Egypt store up food against a coming famine and Moshe is part of God’s plan to “spoil” Egypt and to render her bare of food, food sources, first-borns, gold, silver, and clothing which are all given or lent to the Hebrews–or are really, all back pay for the 210 years of slavery.

Still, it is Moshe-the-Egyptian who becomes miraculously Jewish and who becomes God’s greatest intimate.

How do we know that Moshe is Egyptian royalty? Moshe has unlimited access to Pharaoh’s palace. No one stops him when he enters. One wonders if his adoptive mother Bat’ya is still there; does she accompany him to his meetings with Pharaoh?

. . . . .

Therefore, this much is clear: Moshe has not been enslaved. He has, in fact, been reared as a Prince. This is very important. He has not been broken by slavery. He is not afflicted with “kotzer ruach,” a shortness of spirit , a lack of generosity, indeed an absence of humanity which slavery and oppression causes. He is fully entitled. (We find the phrase in Vaera 6:9 and I will return to it shortly).

What kind of spirit does it take to retain humanity while enslaved?  To not let it get to destroying one’s insides, hardening them?

Perhaps Moshe was even more arrogant than Yosef–although his alleged speech impediment speaks to us of his having also been marked by trauma, loss, “differentness.” In fact, Moshe never exactly fits in anywhere except in his relationship to God and in God’s plan.

I have not been through anything like this, did not live through the Holocaust, and have not been under a law of the land that requires genocide, human sacrifice of babies, to a dictatorship, a king….But I do know trauma, loss, and the “differentness” that comes from going through the family law courts, USA (west coast, even….) and stigma that comes from having had custody switched after leaving a personal hell, abuse & violence in the home like I thought didn’t exist in the second half of the 20th century.

I take courage that it’s possible to not fit in anywhere, and still be a leader, and to change society…

In Shmot 2:11-2:12, Moshe sees, he really sees, a fellow Eyptian (an “eesh Mitzri”) beating a Hebrew slave to death. Moshe first looks around. He turns “coh v’coh,” this way and that way. Some say that he is looking to see whether any other Egyptians are there watching him before he kills the Egyptian taskmaster and buries him in the sand. Others suggest that he is looking within himself as well. Who am I? Am I an Egyptian or a Hebrew? What must I do?

(More on this question, below….)

I do not think that Moshe is afraid of another Egyptian. He is a Prince and can possibly get away with murder. I think that Moshe does not yet understand what slavery is and can do. Moshe waits–but he sees that there is “no man” there among the Hebrews, no one who will come to his brother’s aid.

On the question of Moshe’s turning “coh v’coh,” Rabbi Yaakov Tzvi of Mecklenburg,** in his Ha-ketav Veha-kabalah, notes that “Moses thought that one of the other Hebrew slaves who were standing there would rise up against the Egyptian taskmaster and would save their brother whom he was beating to death.” But he saw that there was no man.” (Ain Eeesh). Moses saw that there was no “real man,” no mensch (“gever b’govreen”) amongst them, and no one was paying attention to the distress of his brethren to try and save him.”

Now, let me turn to a few important things that are specific to the end of the story. Bo is the parasha in which God unleashes the last three plagues: locusts, darkness, and the killing of the first-born and it is the parasha in which we gain our freedom.

However, as important, we also receive our first mitzvot, or holy deeds, (12:2) not as an individual, not as a family, not even as a tribe, but as a “nation.” We are given Rosh Chodesh to observe. We begin to count, and therefore control our own time, something that slaves cannot do. We are also told to observe the first Pesach, to teach it to our children, and to remember it as a festival forever after.

Here is where we are told to do so even before we leave Egypt and certainly before we receive the Torah. In this sense, Bo is an early precursor to “Na’aseh v’ Nishma” which we say in Dvarim and partly say while standing at Sinai. “We will do, and we will then listen or hear or learn.”

Finally, most interestingly: When Moshe asks Pharaoh for permission to leave for three days to worship our God, Moshe says that everyone must come: the old people, the young people, both the sons and the daughters. Moshe understood that both daughters and sons, women and men, are crucial in God’s worship.

As we continue to wrestle with Moshe’s duality in terms of his being both a quintessential Egyptian and a quintessential Jew, let us ask: Did Moshe learn that women were crucial for worship from the fact that women were priestesses in Egypt and that many of Egypt’s multiple Gods were also Goddesses–or was Moshe prescient, did he understand that one day,  Judaism would have women Torah and Talmud scholars, women rabbinic pleaders and kashrut supervisors, women-only davenning groups and a Jewish society in which both women and men are viewed as important in Shabbos service?

Possibly Moshe remembered that his mother had saved his life.  Possibly Moshe remember that Pharaoh’s daughter had continued to save his life, too.  Perhaps he’d learned of the civil disobedience of the midwives who refused to kill all sons, who found a way to JUST NOT PARTICIPATE IN GENOCIDE OF THEIR OWN….   Bridging two traditions, he claimed the one of courage, the one whose God was not a dictator, who didn’t enslave nations to build monuments to himself…  Who knows?

What a tremendous tradition, complex to this day as, and important to understand from more than one viewpoint, including the feminine as well, which certain Protestant Evangelical what-nots still fear, as we speak…  NOW and certain others are still partially clueless as to this, despite efforts to stop abuse of women and children.

I will leave you with this question.

I want to thank Nechama Leibowitz, Rabbis Michael Shmidman and Avi Weiss, and my friend and teacher, Rivka Haut, for their ideas and support.

This learning is dedicated to the memory of my parents and grandparents. May their memories be for a blessing.

Thanks to them for you, Phyllis Chesler…

Here’s another map from “GULF/2000”  It’s too small print to read, but the complexity of religion shows how small Judaism remains in this area of the world (green vs. Orange, overall).

This map found at:  http://gulf2000.columbia.edu/images/maps/Mid_East_Religion_sm.jpg

A more simplified version shows Israel in a sea of green, representing Islam….

Arab-Israeli Conflict – Role of Religion

Map of Arab Countries (green) vs. Israel (red)

From “Israel Science and Technology Homepage”

“Map of Arab countries and Israel.  note that Israel is a tiny island in a sea of Arab countries”

I don’t want to further dilute this message, or this evening, but quoting the page, but it is worth considering — and again, as a woman, a worldwide Islamic empire is simply not a good idea.  Empires, in general, have not been too kindly to women and children, no matter who or where they are.

{{Format note — the bold print paragraphs below, read as regular type.  Cannot seem to adjust it this evening, will try again tomorrow, laptop has been acting up today.}}

http://www.science.co.il/arab-israeli-conflict-2.asp:

Many Islamist groups already declare that their aim is to re-establish one Muslim Nation (Islamic ummah) encompassing all Muslim nations, ruled by Islamic law replacing secular governments. Many Arab, as well as non-Arab countries, such as Iran and Afganisthan are examples of this trend. The mass demonstrations of support for Osama bin Laden in many Arab countries are popular expressions of support for this wish for global Islamic unity.In historical perspective, the wish of Islamists for global rule is reminiscent of the communist ideology to establish a “world nation of proletariat” (the communist slogan was “Workers of the world unite!”). It is significant that at the peak of the power of the USSR empire, the Arab countries were strong natural allies of the USSR against the West.Like any ideology that wishes to establish a totalitarian global rule, Islamic Arab-fundamentalism presents a serious threat to the community of nations, including the non-Arab Muslim nations, such as Turkish republics.While the role of Christianity as a force in shaping International affairs has decreased, the role of Islamic Empire in shaping International affairs has greatly increased as a result of several factors:

  • Expansion of the Islamic Empire as noted above
  • Strong Arab electorates in European capitals formed by Arabs who emigrated mostly from North Africa (over 6 million Arabs in France alone)
  • The need to appease Arabs because of their financial power and control of global petrol prices
  • Combination of age-old anti-Semitism (remember European collaboration with Nazi Holocaust that killed 6 million Jews!) with Arab interests in the Middle against Israel.

Meanwhile, back in the USA, people are fighting and arguing psychology, custody, and “PAS” throughout the family court system, our own idolatrous government has proclaimed “family” as a new idol (hypocrites!  How many wars, so far? Wars definitely break up families….)   and our CEO (President Obama) didn’t even mention “women” (half the population), or anything about them, as a topic in his 2011 State of the Union Address.  Whitehouse.gov barely says “mothers” in connection with “Families” on its issues page.  “father” on the other hand, is mentioned 4 times:   See:  

Strengthen Families

President Obama was raised by a single parent (which gender?  Male or female?  If Female, how come not “his mother”???)  (the “how come” probably relates to campaign financing…..)  and knows the difficulties that young people face when their fathers are absent. He is committed to responsible fatherhood, by supporting fathers (not mothers) who stand by their (ownership, much?) families and encouraging young men to work towards good jobs in promising career pathways. The President has also proposed an historic investment in providing home visits to low-income, first-time parents by trained professionals. The President and First Lady are also committed to ensuring that children have nutritious meals to eat at home and at school, so that they grow up healthy and strong.

Overentitled men are being exploited by the mental health professionals and psychologists in the “Family Court” (how many shades away from Shari’a? ????),  conflict-reduction, forced-shared-parenting, and etc.  This is absolutely distracting and weakening the entire nation, and if it doesn’t wake up — serves ’em right, I say!  When it comes to entire nations, generally speaking, it’s leaders that will take a nation down, not the common man, the masses — who bad leaders fear and seek to manipulate, control, and particularly control the breeders among the masses, male & female.  

These leaders should take a lesson from Egypt, and remember Moses’ mother, a Levite — who were the priestly class.  But she was a woman….They should remember that gain and wealth gotten by a few hundred years of slavery will backfire….and can take down a nation — if there IS a God that hears, if there is justice, if there is a limit to evil.   It was Moses’ mother, not father, who goes on record as saving his life in a creative way, eventually leading an enslaved nation out of Egypt, and perpetuating the religion that has Israel, at this present day, surrounded by Islam….which hates it.

So Let’s remember Moses, Exodus, the Passover Lamb (scapegoat), and let’s be prepared, feet shod, looking to the future with hope and vision, but not forgetting where we came from. and who got us out of slavery (and, US, colonization/ taxation without representation…).

Let’s recognize the character of the times and the lands we (individually) live in. And that any future is going to require women, including Mothers,  of vision and courage, including courage to spare their children from insane, destructive, genocidal government policies based on the desire for glory & immortality (I’m thinking of the Pyramids..), and rooted, many times, in simple greed & paganism — excuse me, I mean, materialism….  What is all that stuff FOR?  and how much of it is really needed?    Who built  it?  Freedom is better, including freedom from debt.    Let’s remember that to worship ANY God properly, one needs women….I think about how Moshe was adopted of Pharaoh, and the religion stemming from the covenant in the wilderness talks about God adopting Israel.  The compassion in his life was framed by women, certainly….  Whereas Joseph’s own brothers, out of jealousy, sold him into slavery…

Moses/ Moshe had both worlds, could’ve chosen to stay as an adoptive prince.  But instead, he chose ethics and stood against an entire nation that dealt in unbelieveable slavery and glorification of death in pursuit of immorality.  No thanks!

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