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Post Title: 2018: A Year On This Blog | Table of Contents (Posts) | This One is “Sticky” [@ Jan. 5, 2019] (Short-link ends “-9p3.” This post is under 4,000 words).

This post lists, links to, and thereby publicizes, one year’s worth of posts.  It’s an informal TOC. By “informal” I mean you’ll be seeing my Administrative Dashboard versions of post titles (with published dates), by Quarters (Q1, Q2, Q3, Q4, 2018).

It does this in two different layouts.  Both Layouts follow short Introductions I and  II only because this ended up being the top “sticky” post on the blog (…which it no longer is // LGH July 28, 2020; it’s one of 13 sticky posts).

Layout by Date Only {{Short Form, no titles: Links by date only (Q1, Q2, Q3, Q4)}} precedes Layout by captioned images displaying full post titles & published dates {{The image captions show only dates published; click on the date wanted to read the associated post}}. 

Images from my blog administrative dashboard (also organized by quarter) display the post titles (and every image has captions  also with direct, clickable, active links – labeled by post date, not title — to each post title displayed in the corresponding image). These are found below the “Read More” link below.

Therefore, the full post titles are displayed only on the images, not as searchable texts on this post;* that’s the “informal” aspect (due to author’s — i.e., my — time and technology limits)! (*You can of course search any specific title on “Google” or on the blog “Search” at top right, if looking for a specific post; but browsing a year’s worth of titles is recommended.

To read any associated post (to a specific title), click on the link provided for that post’s date.  I’ve provided these links twice for every post, as it says in the preceding paragraph:  First layout, by date only, all together (by quarters, Q1,Q2,Q3,Q4, i.e.  Jan-Feb-March | Apr-May-June | July-Aug-Sept | Oct-Nov-Dec) but with no nearby visual showing full post titles.  My post titles are generally too damn long, so omitting them lets me compress that version of the TOC into a short space.

Second layout, two-up* image galleries (organized by quarters) display the full titles — but you must click on the associated date in the caption to go direct to any single post.  The images are from my blogger admin dashboard, which capture the full titles and dates published. (*side-by-side, two columns)

Some “Vocabulary” (from this post title) since this now is the top post displayed on the “Current Posts” page of the blog: just three phrases, next three bullets:

  • “STICKY?”

This post is one of 7 Top “Sticky” posts on the blog and for reasons unknown to me displays in Position #1.

To instead go first to the post reading “Welcome To My Blog,” now in Position #2, click the preceding link.  I do not directly control (or understand how WordPress decides) “sticky” post priorities or see how they cannot be manually numbered). You’re reading the one most recently added. Its purpose is only to provide links to all posts published in 2018, not to introduce the blog. If you are new to this blog, “Welcome To My Blog” (and/or the Home Page of the blog, for which just type “FamilyCourtMatters.org“) may be a better place to start.

  • WHICH “WELCOME TO MY BLOG” POST? (“I don’t see any post by that title.”)

The post which begins “Welcome To My Blog,” (because I thought it would remain at the very top of the blog but which is now in position #2) is not labeled “Welcome to my Blog,” just starts out with that phrase.  It has a much longer title, reflecting one of my major concerns starting off calendar year 2018:

[FN1] It reads “STILL” because, to tell the truth, this has been a major concern for as many years as I have been blogging and one of the reasons I felt it so urgent to write and publicize this public-interest blog, stay connected where possible with my generation and subsequent generations of people going through it.

If I’d had access to a blog like this, and people willing to address its issues collectively, I likely would have acted differently during my time in family courts which followed quickly upon my having filed for protection from domestic violence with young children still in the home.  I cannot say for sure, because it takes time to recover from years of having been battered and threatened at home, and we all grow with increased experience and understanding over time. But I believe I would’ve known where to hit hard legally, and have obtained the data to back it up, earlier.

Mothers are being sheared like sheep (of ongoing contact with their own children, and of– where some existed — savings, income, and functional work lives) in these systems, many fathers are also being set up (if not incited) to start custody battles beyond those kinds of fathers who might naturally do so to “get even” or just reduce child support obligations.

There are SYSTEM components to why it continues to take place, not only personal or psychological ones.

Speaking of the domestic flock analogies and other things that happen to such animals:

Some people, including at times responding officers, have been literally slaughtered by the other parent in the process of attempting to escape potentially lethal and obviously dangerous relationships, while the family court overseers continue to peddle more mental health-based, “intervention” programming focused on behavioral modification. I call this “roadkill” in part because some incidents literally have occurred and victims been left on the road, and because the press often treats it as accidental, or an opportunity to call for more of the programs which didn’t prevent it in the first place.

  • “POSTS?

I said “posts” because there are also pages and I added some this past year.  Usually, I’ll add a post to call attention to any new page, as I did on March 29, 2018.

I often begin posts explaining what inspired them, showing “angle of approach.” If the posts take long enough to be completed, as I continue researching and interacting with others between, a few different angles of approach often develop.  That happened here, too.

While having a Table of Contents hardly needs an justification, I still have this time (for this post) two parallel introductions/angles of approach, with two different reasons for my working to get this TOC out informally (=quickly). Neither introduction is more important than the other, so I’m delivering them both, after which this TOC gets to the actual links to posts faster than TOCs from other years. Compiled in about a day and a half only.

I may (or, may not: see Introductions I & II for why) come back alter and add “tags” or otherwise embellish this post, but for now, it lists and publicizes and provides links to one year’s worth of posts, with as usual, significant personal time and energy put into on each one.

Again, here’s the layout below:  INTRO I, INTRO II (both brief; Intro II points to the substance of the blog and why I’ve taken the “uncommon” approach, but report on why the typical approaches seem designed to fail, to fall short, and to deprive the public of a fully informed consent to restructuring their own government(s)**), (**phrase added Feb 3, 2019 during brief review) then:

  • First, one chrono listing with each post’s dates & links (12 months worth but still shown by quarters),
  • Then, below the “click-to-read-more” link, four mage galleries with the full titles and same links to every single post shown in the captions, one gallery per quarter.  These are screenshots from the blogger’s admin dashboard with some color annotations (color-coded and labeled in part to help me keep which image went where while posting).  They grab some (not all) of the tags, if any, for each post.  Each image gallery has its own section title. It’s a messier format than you’d find in a book, or annual financial report, but still gets the job done.**
  • Occasionally (so far, twice) a short, fine-print “Blogger Status During This Quarter.“***
**(Most books, even self-published ones, have something I don’t — editors, and publishers, maybe even proofreaders or copyeditors too, and, depending on the business plan, the prospect of sales further down the road justifying the layout of either expense, or time, or both).
***Because I was a blogger in motion (personal relocation) this year, I included brief, fine-print notes in the respective quarters about that. I felt it reasonable to let people know why there are fewer posts this year and may continue to be in the near future as well. I’m “playing it by ear” as to how long to keep writing on this platform.


I’m putting out this informal (image-based + quick-links) Table of Contents now rather than a larger, more thoroughly polished one weeks later because I want to communicate sooner on other platforms, like Twitter, and to a few people who’ve shown an interest in my approach to Family Court Matters, and because the topics I posted on recently keep coming up in that context.  

Some of these topics relate to legislation or (for example) resolutions either just passed, or are under consideration (US, UK, possibly also Canada) due to affect custody, divorce, parenting, child support, and personal safety after domestic violence or child abuse.  

I’ve become aware recently of some groups and aligned professionals (some long well-known by name, others newer on the scene and with more recent degrees) who (speaking collectively of both the younger and the older), after decades of promoting certain family-court-connected concepts and practices, are forming more globe-trotting conferences (i.e., conferences alternating continents) and synchronized for certain kinds of trickery involving some of that legislation. The two words “parental alienation” are consistently involved, however, the issues and principles involved are not just psychological, but definitions of what is and is not crime, affecting individual freedoms and personal choice of any not-happily-married-forever parents, i.e., about half of those who even bothered to marry in my country, as well as plenty of those who did not.

The general theme/scheme here is to subject the United States of America to standards to which the EU (and the UK) have already voluntarily subjected themselves, and by which they are now governed — directly impacting divorce, custody, and co-parenting.  While countries subject to other treaties and governments are subject to them, the United States, to the extent it is not (yet), should NOT be functionally subjected to the same standards.   Many of these themes have a close correspondence to certain religions, and historically it’s evident that some countries also have close connections of their legal system to certain religions.  Predictably, associated with these religions are views of the respective roles and value of men and women (i.e., practically, mothers and fathers), i.e., “patriarchy” and the purpose and nature of marriage.

This is deeply unsettling to people such as myself who’ve been subjected as adults to religious-based battering, and I can only imagine it might be even more so to people who (unlike me) were subjected as children to religious-based battering or sexual assault. ALL of these themes deal with power and its abuse. ALL of these themes also deal closely with the nature of government and the relationship of individual people in any country to their consent to be taxed for services and general welfare by their own governments, which is why I think this particular situation must be watched closely — and opposed.  Does the end justify the means — undermining representative government and responsiveness of governments to those it taxes?

How many ends of which kind justify how much undermining of individual rights, worldwide?  Having fought wars to (allegedly) protect those rights time and again, why then lay down while they are instead just given away, functionally?

It’d help me talk about this more on-line to have a handy list of at least the last year’s posts titles, and active links to them, in one place. For 2018 this post is that place.


The older I get, the less I like spinning my wheels, or reinventing ones already hand-tailored to induce A Different Kind of Attention to get to a point of Sound Judgment[1] ~~> i.e.,  Uncommon Analysis of Family and Conciliation Court Operations, Practices, and History [2] ~~ leading to the hypothesis that “Suppose I’m Right Here,” and standing question, “If so, THEN WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

[1] A Different Kind of Attention develops Sound Judgment  [Original, March 23, 2014.  Reformat and Reminders March 14, 2017, Three Years Later]. (Case-sensitive, WordPress-generated short-link ends “-2qM”) “The post is too long.  On the other hand, I take on key entities involved, do some drill-downs, and put timelines and participant names to cover-ups.”

[2] Hard to read in upper right corner, but that’s basically the blog motto.

[3] (Suppose I’m Right, here. . . What Would You Do when the Lights go On? [Published Mar. 5, 2014]. <=shortlink ending in “-2os”). Scroll down through this post for specifics on people and nonprofits, and characterization of typical disjointed (dissociative) storytelling common to the family court reform field; i.e., that dissociation, nonsequitur, irrelevancy-filled and non-coherent rationale BY DESIGN creates a confused, susceptible and self-induced trance in listeners, which is a KNOWN technique of many professionals in the involved fields.  Storytelling itself also “infantilizes” listeners, while using enough verbiage to make them feel more adult.  [[ TWO IMAGES TO BE ADDED HERE; HAD SOME TROUBLE UpLOADING.  THE IMAGES WILL ILLUSTRATE THIS PARAGRAPH AND HELP MAKE MORE SENSE OF IT. THEY COME FROM THAT ORIGINAL POST.]]

It still seems, generally, that without “expert status” from the start, no one can be considered right, even by people regularly defrauded, betrayed, insulted, harmed, or in word, opposed to said experts in certain fields. I.e., no PhD (in a behavioral health, psych- field), PsyD, J.D. or “Your Honor,” means, unqualified to make any judgment.

Ifunqualified to even argue a point, or a series of points leading to any objective true conclusion” describes all population except those in the specific fields — that is, if any and all conclusions must defer to the masters of just two or three fields of “practice” (law, psychology, etc.) — then it would seem that an entire population (excluding those in said expert fields) is unqualified to rule itself, and should openly kneel down and admit this, rather than argue against it.

On the other hand, if it is still possible to argue (prove or disprove) sound, relevant points involving who does and who does not get to see his/her offspring grow up, safely, then that argument should take place on a different verbal, cognitive (and economic) “battleground.” 

That’s what I’ve been doing, and why, from the start of this blog.  Eptly or ineptly as a blogger (visuals, formatting, style consistencies, compensating for what would eventually become a lot of expired links, etc.), my inquiry has been outside the usual on-line and public debates, which I consider strategy to change laws in favor of the special interests involved in those debates.

I’m foreseeing a time to wrap up this blog, and more loose ends in my own life, and get on with it (said life)… in a very different way more in tune with who I am, not who I had to become to survive all this. Even for my own points of reference, I’d like the contents to be more accessible. 

Post title and link reiterated: 2018: A Year On This Blog | Table of Contents (Posts) | This One is “Sticky” [@ Jan. 5, 2019](short-link, case-sensitive, ends “-9p3”, about 4,000 words only)

It’s 2019, and as I’m more active on Twitter, I’m missing a better Table of Contents (“TOC” from here on out) for the past year, or better TOCs for all years on the blog. Some years (2009- part of Sept. 2012) there aren’t any TOCs.

So better  and more tables of contents, or one giant compiled TOC,  would help.

Right now, though I’m first posting informally, images from the blog dashboard.  These don’t have links, don’t display all the tags, but they DO have complete titles and dates published.   Once that’s posted, I’ll come back (ideally) and add links, and who knows? maybe even an interactive table.

What I’m NOT going to invest again however, is all the time, effort, and fine-tuning it took to manually produce the complex but visually organized TOCs for (respectively), 2017, 2016, and Sept. 2012 – June 2014 (as seen and accessible HERE). I’m not willing to again struggle with table formats migrating from one software (like documents) to another (with active links to each post, individually inserted, ALL of them), to yet another (like printing that to a pdf), and uploading/downloading it to yet another (like the blog’s),  backing it up with a blog table (yet another format), then writing a user’s guide, with visuals, to navigating cross-platforms and across time just to even get an overview, a scope (let alone also to read post contents) of this blog.

I’m especially not going to invest that time while WordPress keeps telling me it’s updated its platform and asking when I want to “migrate” (i.e., migrate the blog, a nice way to change an intransitive verb to a transitive) to the new improved way of posting. By now — see current hot political divides and international issues — we should know that, forced or not, people “migrate” — others do not “migrate” people, although they might inspire or force them to.  People don’t “migrate blogs” either, but that’s how usage conflicts with grammar, which exists (I still believe) to make sense of the written word.

FamilyCourtMatters’ Jan. 2018 four published posts. Image’d be titles-only but I added colorful comments on the subject matter of each post.

Here’s a previously doctored and posted image of my January, 2018 posts ~ ~ ~> In January, 2018, I posted on the 3rd, 4th, 8th and 28th (Access by date via Archives calendar). This annotated image shows their titles from the blog administrator’s “dashboard, not the sidebar or as would appear when to the public.  Other Table of Contents images on this page are much easier to read (simpler format).

The months (Jan, Feb., March) presented in order, but Admin Dashboard’s default is latest post on top, so within each image containing more than one title, titles are listed Reverse Chrono.

These titles, and the portions displayed of associated “tags” for each show what was on my mind during that quarter (including for Q1, working hard to update blog table of contents!)

LAYOUT Dates Only, with Links (links also on captions to most of the images with post titles, below). If no link is provided yet, look for that date on “Archives” (Calendar) function at top of this blog, right sidebar or, depending on how soon you read this page, “Last Few (10) LGH Posts” widget on right sidebar.   Dates + Links labeled by quarter; Four “Image Galleries” (Q1, 2, 3 and 4) of post titles and dates.

QUARTER 1, 2018:  Sixteen posts

Jan. 3, Jan.4, Jan.8, Jan. 27  || Feb. 4, Feb. 10, Feb. 14, Feb. 23, Feb. 27  || March 4,    __8,*     __9,*     __14,* ~|~   __18,   __23, and  __29 {{announces new page found here}} *March 8, 9, and 14 are “sticky” posts because they hold Oct, Nov. and Dec. 2017 post titles & links.  March 4 isn’t sticky, but I consider it also a key post (Bronfenbrennar Translational Center at Cornell relates to the field of child development)


QUARTER 2, 2018: Eight posts

Apr. 6, Apr. 19* || May 2,** May 11, May 13, May 22, and May 24 || June 6 {*This Apr. 19 post is “sticky” | ** This May 2 post is the top sticky post on this blog.  See image below these links, image taken from its top section).


QUARTER 3, 2018: Five posts  

July 31, || Aug. 4, Aug. 29, Aug. 31 || Sept. 8


QUARTER 4, 2018: Eight posts.  

Oct. 21, Oct. 22 || Nov. 11, Nov. 24 || Dec. 5, Dec. 7, Dec. 11,  and Dec. 25     TOTAL POSTS 2018: Only Thirty-Seven (37).

IMAGE from top of May 2, 2018, post:  “Welcome to my Blog:  You are on the top post of the page which displays all posts.” (It stays at the top because of its ranking in currently about six “sticky” posts.)

My May 2, 2018 post (top portion only), which is (currently) the top sticky post on FCM

Q1, 2018 in a 2-up Image Gallery (8 images covering 16 posts).  Jan.,Feb.,Mar.:


That’s three months, Q1, 2018.  Q2 up next:

Q2, 2018 in a 2-up Image Gallery (6 images, only 8 posts total; see notes under Q1 for how it displays)


Blogger Personal Status During This Quarter: I was gradually (it became clear) was being forced out of long-term hotel housing, and my independence as a person (and, now, senior) was increasingly at risk. A significant attempt to put me on the street occurred in late May, was fended off in June, and part of July, but at an even higher and even less sustainable price.  The actions were deliberate, abusive, and showed intent to overcome my ongoing, and very vocal (written; I kept a paper trail) resistance to inappropriate control. That’s one reason I was less productive in publishing posts during this season. I was still in California, though.

That’s three months, Q2, 2018.  Q3 up next:

Q3, 2018 in a 2-up Image Gallery (5 images for 5 posts; see notes under Q1 for how it displays).  July, Aug., Sept. 

A diff’t view, August only (this one omits the “tags” so titles would fit on an image, but in doing so it also omits the dates column, which I want included so people could find the posts via “Archive” (Calendar) widget on top right. That is, to access by date published, you have to know the date published!

Blogger Personal Status During This Quarter: In Quarter 3, 2018, I left California and remained in transition until able to finally sign a lease (out of state, location undisclosed) Quarter 4. There was enough moving around and negotiating for places I could afford to live for a week at a time (or less) I didn’t get much blogging done; I was looking not just at housing, but also at where (which city, county, geographic region) to settle into. It was not pre-determined when I left California where I’d end up; I just knew in which direction (most though not all states within the USA are East from California) I’d be driving. It was still a very stressful season…but encouraging to have made the break and to be (let’s face it) already experiencing lower cost of living than where I’d just come from.  That’s not hard to do, considering where I’d just come from!
The difficult part was coming up (actually in process at the time), talking others into letting me into a long-term lease despite no recent steady employment,  ANY employment at the moment, or having good credit — common conditions of people who’ve dealt with (a) domestic violence (years of it) and/or (b) family courts (likewise). I also (in case you wondered) had no (zero) personal connections in the new location who might be character references as to my viability there.

Q4, 2018 in a 2-up Image Gallery (8 images covering 8 posts; see notes under Q1 for how it displays). Oct., Nov., Dec.

//Back Soon, Yours Truly, LGH.

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January 5, 2019 at 6:18 pm

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