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Keeping Uncle Sam Away from Toddlers (IWF article)

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For once, I agree with “Independent Women’s Forum”

 

 

Brief #22 

IWF Policy Brief 

Cutting-edge analysis of the news of the day from the Independent Women’s Forum 

 June 11, 2009 

Keep Uncle Sam Away from Toddlers: 

The Case Against Government Funding for Preschool 

By Carrie Lukas 


 

Executive Summary 


The President has suggested that greater federal 

government support for early childhood education is an 

important component of improving educational 

opportunities in the United States and would be an 

investment in our human capital.  Yet there is little 

evidence to support the case for greater federal 

involvement in preschool. 


While policymakers assume that an investment in public 

preschool will lead to improved student outcomes, the 

research on the effects of preschool is far from 

conclusive.  Some studies have linked preschool 

attendance with short-term gains in student test scores 

and other education-related outcomes, but those 

improvements fade over time.  Additionally, most studies 

that have found significant gains associated with 

preschool have focused on lower-income or at-risk 

student populations.  There is no reason to think that such gains would also occur among the general 

student population, which is the target of most “universal” preschool proposals.  Still, other studies 

have linked increased time in preschool with negative social behavior, which would suggest that

encouraging greater use of preschool could contribute to as many problems as it solves


 

 LINK:

 http://www.iwf.org/files/ccd51591aa7467a111d9f4437830ea9c.pdf

This is better viewed as PDF than on here. 

 

However, as a reminder:

 

The words School, Education, and Learning are not synonymous, if you think about them.  

 

The attempt of the present (and past) administrations to equate the U.S. Public School Educational system with either Education, or Public, is linguistically and financially ridiculous.  

 

Language is not math.  For example, anyone declaring, openly, that

 

10+10 =/= 20

 

would probably not become President, Governor, or a U.S. Senator or Assemblyperson.  It lacks a certain credibility.  It creates a certain cognitive dissonance, until the missing data shows up,  such as, perhaps:

 

10(-15+5)+10=/=20

EVEN a US public school 4th grader PROBABLY (wish I could say this for sure) would recognize that something was amiss with that equation.  If they knew the symbol “=/=,” which is unlikely, come to think of it.  It is simply my intent — in this blog — to show some of the missing math behind the Linguistic Cognitive Dissonance of Government Proclamations that are getting people killed, or raped, or keeping them artificially on welfare.  This is NOT rocket science, it simply takes — like the best most effective kind of learning will — being highly motivated to know, and being willing to remove a few blinders and sunglasses that have made the glaring facts a little less difficult to handle.

 

Unfortunately, we have had Presidents (plural), and U.S. Senators AND Representatives (I haven’t checked all the “governors” yet) pronouncing a similar epidemic and supposed problem without substantial questioning of it — from the general public.  Now, that simply lacks credibility.  I posted, after Mother’s Day, the data that “fatherhood” was NOT woefully, federally underfunded in 2009, 2008, or at any identifiable time since about 1995.

 

 

 

There’s perhaps more than one reason it’s sad that “religion” (supposedly) was deleted from the public school system.  Now, as a person who has taken some serious hits — literally — under the guise of “wives submit” as from the Bible, I have seen its underbelly.  But there are SOME upsides to some of the wisdom in some of these holy writs of the major religions.  For example, how sad that all women about to engage in a sexual — let alone marital — relationship, didn’t understand this simplicity:

 

(I’ll give a version I have no respect for — it even comes across in this one):

 

GOD’S WORD® Translation (©1995)
A gullible person believes anything, but a sensible person watches his step.

Now, when nearly an entire nation is this gullible, on one of the FIRST places I would look is at the educational system.  

OR,
“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”
(end of “James 3,” King James Version)
There ARE few areas more full of strife, confusion, and “evil works” that the family law system, as testified to by the family annihilations of people in it, or about to go into it.  Unless NAMBLA is your cup of tea.  Now, the US is not just the Western hemisphere’s, but the WORLD’s largest (per capita) jailor.  The jails are so full that domestic violence offenders and sexual offenders are getting released to re-offend, and sometimes kill, too.  Every now and then, we throw an honest professional protesting the corruption in jail, too, just for good measure.  (Google “Richard Fine”) or disbarr them (Google Barry Goldstein).  Women, sometimes with their children, are fleeing to other countries for their children’s safety.  Others are not so lucky.  

So, a logical question would be, “what’s the strife  ABOUT” and the envy?
As a domestic violence survivor, I will clearly tell you, it was about CONTROL, and there were three primary tools and techniques (let alone the many subsidiary, supplemental ones):  1.  MONEY   2.  PHYSICAL FORCE (good initially to establish who’s the boss) 3. TIME (wasting mine).  The FIRST arena of control was to break down my infrastructure — credit, then bank account.  Oh, and transportation.
The physical assaults began when I was already somewhat dependent because of the care of one toddler and one inside me.  Parts of my body that were attacked included neck (most frequent), leg (to pull me off the chair), and face/mouth (covering mine, but also nipple, and right after nursing.  What KIND of person would do that?  I had the bone-chilling experience of hearing/reading the child that was assaulted in the womb later, much later, declare that she remembered being in it.  There are few things, short of foolishly getting myself killed (and leaving them without the protection, or a later reference for truth, when they are older and hungry for answers, of “what happened in our family line?”) that I would not do to protect, advocate for, and remove from danger these daughters.  
Any male, or gang of males that would institutionalize a policy stating that fathers — all fathers, with basically little discrimination — are important, and all female-headed households are the source of our nation’s woes, is forgetting or deliberately covering up this type of behavior, which I already witnessed, was justified itself on THAT type of talk.  

Look:  go up in public and try to categorize an ethnic group in the same terms, and see who elects you.  
Just as my ex, intent that his side of reality prevail, took my kids (illegally) and cut off all contact, lying before, during and after the process (this is documented, and not slander, I have the signed under penalty of perjury documents) and then continued to break every court order since, with brazen impunity, it seems very “odd” that our fatherhood friendly administration is so intent on getting these little children OUT of their parent’s homes and INTO hatcheries overseen (shall we expect the same level of competence?) by this same government.
There is also a reason that the family courts are continuing the process.  I think that therefore, addressing the issues of pre-school, zero to five, head start, and child care, are NOT really tangential to the issue of family court.   Continuing with another forgotten proverb:

 
OR, simply
“…For the love of money is the root of all evil…” 
In this blog, I link to search tools, challenge public proclamations about the state of affairs, and have all but begged people to “follow the money.”  I just showed you which:  Branch/Department, Operating Division of THAT department, and programs UNDER that department, some of this money is housed in.  I have posted charts and tables, slowing down the page-load speed, in an attempt to show you the Federal Parentheses transferring money from one group of people (producing RED ink) to another group of people, producing professional, publishing careers.   ~ ~ ~10(-15+5)+10=/=20 ~ ~
 
In this field, WHO — out of HOW MANY domestic violence prevention programs, even the most prominent ones, are actually “following the money?”  I learned – the hard way — to look at who is funding THOSE programs, as well as who is on their boards and management teams, and to notice linguistic changes over time.  Pronounce after me:  

“misogyny”

As to “every evil work,” if you don’t think raping, kidnapping, or killing little boys and girls –whether in school, or in the care of a recently parentally-educated father on a weekend visitation — or shortly after his wife attempted to leave him –is an “evil” work, then, well, I guess you should check out some other blogs that, in an “adult” manner, blame the entire CLASS (gender) of women for the world’s ills, while still taking advantages of their services in bed, in child care, and in the office, and possibly as household domestics.  
Or just go back to sleep mentally, and fork over your dollars to the IRS trusting that it will be well-used, and that if you duck YOUR family won’t be affected.  Note:  the sleep thing can be done at work, sometimes, school (trust me, I did, and still came out in top 3% of my (public school) class), and in a variety of faith-based institutions, MANY of which are driving government policy.
We are approximately half the world’s population; common sense says, there is some variety in each gender.  This is not true in Congress, though.  
What I’m CONCERNED about is that there may not be much more variety given the trend, in educational options for the up and coming generations.  They will not know how to have a stable bond with EITHER parent at this rate, and I have to ask why.  The real “gap” will not be gender but haves versus have-nots.  MY experience that the ONLY way to level the playing field, was homeschooling, and figuring out a more efficient way (we’re talking simple math:  + +  – – ) to make a living.  
It has been a VERY long time since I equated the monolithic public school system with anything approaching education, as opposed to indoctrination.  

What motivated me to find out WHY Family Court AND the child support system uniformly didn’t do their assigned and proclaimed jobs was being slapped in the face (while minding my own business) when they didn’t.  It bounced me out of work and back onto dependence. The LAST thing I wanted after leaving domestic violence, and the last lesson I wanted my smart children to absorb:  Sell your soul to the highest bidder, and cast your lot with whichever parent is NOT under prolonger, personal fire.  

 

Language is NOT math, yet it does have a FEW logical rules attached, for example as a thesaurus would show, NOT all nouns are synomymous.  

When the same President (and Administration) that tells us, an epidemic of fatherlessness just rained down from heaven, and female-headed households are doomed for disaster (Say, what?  Are you or are you NOT President?) because struggle and hard times (or emotions) were involved, now says that:

Education = Public School Education only

Head Start actually helps long-term

(and this same President has virtually deleted the concept of ‘motherhood” and the word “mother” from public dialogue)

(and the concept of “educational choice” as allowing charter schools (which are also government-funded) ignoring that “homeschooling” DOES exist (and many times works better), and other such propaganda,

 

Then we have not only a linguistic, but also a financial crisis in credibility.  We have a cognitive crisis becoming a mental health crisis. NOW, I have a question:  Who stands to profit from an ongoing source of cognitive dissonance? (let alone “high-conflict” divorces).  WHO is profiting from the womb-to-tomb, paid for by the people involved in it (and even others without children) cognitively dissonant proclamation that “Big Brother Knows Best” when it comes to “education.”  The more correct word is mass-indoctrination.

Sound analysis of ANY problem comes from looking at the history of it, and linguistics are a GREAT clue.

 

And as it relates to family court matters — mine — as a single mother, I did not have time to waste, and as a mother (period), I didn’t appreciate having my daughters’ education slowed down while fighting my ex (who did not graduate from college, and at the time was not even working steadily, nor had he an exactly stellar track record as to lawful lifestyle — see prior domestic violence) and a member of my family with whom he’d had a male-bonding moment (who had not himself had children, nor taught extensively as I had, nor for that matter, bothered to report, refer, intervene, or acknowledge that when I filed that restraining order with kickout, there was a collection of weapons in the home, often used to intimidate me out of Independent Woman actions (such as participating in music events without ex present), and talk of suicidality.  Which, incidentally, didn’t go away with the piece of paper.  

 

On the pronouncement that I “couldn’t” do what I at the time both had been, and was, I was forced (by a family law judge) BACK into a lifestyle that had already been tried, and found VERY wanting, by my household — not the person driving the situation, which was not even a parent and had no legal standing to do so.  When reminded of the “no legal standing” in a firm manner, I was then harrassed by mail repeatedly, and (being busy) was on the verge of taking legal action on this (simultaneously with attempting to renew a restraining order, which that mail in fact was enabling the father to break), only to find myself suddenly in a full-blown custody suit by the person who had attempted to offer his own daughters’ visitation time to this particular couple.  

 

I thus believe that the basic problem in some of these discussions is simply that of common literacy.  

 

The picture below is ONE usage of the word SCHOOL  

 

If you want to understand the public school educational system in this country, in a paradigm, look at this picture:

  

 

5-

 

 

ot.  

 

 

 

NOW:  You are the parents of a beautiful child, or several children.  You have to work a job (not own a business, learn to handle investments, inherited wealth, were raised in a Senator’s household, are not an attorney as is at least one prominent father’s rights advocate, Mr. Leving (very cozy with President Obama, and hailing from the same state), and because your job doesn’t pay too well, you and/or the partner (spouse) living with you, are going to MISS the most formative years and hours of your beautiful children’s upbringing.  Every day, someone else is going to be their “prime-time” trainer and values assigner, and you will get the leftover of YOUR day and of THEIR day to remediate, inculcate, supplement, or HUG them — hopefully.  YOu have been taught that this is how life is, and always will be.  It isn’t for everyone, but right now, it is for you, and people you associate with you.  

 

In the above picture, would you want your child to grow up to be a little fish in a pack of fish at the bottom of the food chain (almost), or would you want to teach him to be a shark (given only those two options?), and at least swim free for a while, and have some teeth, and respect.  Heck, even have a blockbuster movie named after you ‘Jaws.”

 

Would you want to toss the dice and hope the shark doesn’t get YOUR kid (or rely on prayer), but understand that part of the deal is, darting this way or that IF a shark comes near during school hours (and certain types of personalities ARE attracted to crowds of children, it’s true), while one of their classmates is eaten up instead?  

 

Would you want your child, for reasons of simple survival, to learn by example how to act like the shark and consider other human beings as part of his food chain (whereas, when it comes to humans, they ARE the same species, if not personalities).  

 

This shark was designed to use its teeth, and swim, act, and behave in certain manners.  PEOPLE do not have to.

 

Here’s another type of  No Child Left Behind behavior, named after a different animal:  Google (images for) “Goose-step.  Even the phrase “No Child Left Behind” indicates none are excelling (which is on many levels also a lie, as it only refers to this one system).  What a narcissistic mindset.  If the government doesn’t do it, it can’t be done, or doesn’t matter.  It doesn’t count.

 

FOLKS:

It’s not about “education” it’s about “Schooling.” 

 

http://johntaylorgatto.com/

(Primary book dates back to 1990, “Dumbing Us Down.”  Still true today).

 

AH WELL, Independent Women’s Forum is MUCH more moderate in its proclamations.  Perhaps they are all still married, or have not lost children in the mix somewhere. I’ll stop. . . . No more comments from me below (I think one short interjection, that’s all).  See the original site, above.

 

 

(BELOW HERE IS QUOTATION:)

 

 

  

“There is also reason for concern that greater government involvement  in preschool could actually reduce the quality of 

education available to  and received by many children, and discourage parents from enrolling children in programs that 

reflect their values.”  


Depending on how programs are structured, government preschool programs could encourage parents 

to switch from private preschool providers to subsidized public programs.  The often dismal record of 

our public school system in providing children with a quality education in kindergarten through 12th 

grade should caution policymakers about the potential quality of public programs for three- and four- 

year-olds.  


It’s also worth noting that there is nothing in the Constitution that would suggest that providing early 

educational opportunities {{LetsGetHonest comment:  or any other education…}} is a proper use of federal power. 

The care and education of children, 

particularly children as young as three and four, should the responsibility of parents, not Uncle Sam.   


Introduction 

Among President Obama’s campaign promises was to 

increase the federal government’s commitment to early 

childhood education.  Specifically, on their campaign 

website, candidates Obama and Biden describe their 

“Zero to Five Plan,” which would emphasize not only 

expanding educational opportunities to three- and four 

year-olds, who are typically not yet eligible for public 

kindergarten, but “early care and education for infants.”  

Specifically, President Obama pledged to create “Early 

Learning Challenge Grants” that would be given to 

states to support their efforts providing educational 

opportunities for those under age five and to help move 

states toward “voluntary, universal preschool.”1 


The President and Democratic Congress have already begun to expand federal government support for early learning initiatives.  The $787 billion economic 

stimulus package (officially entitled the American Recovery and Reinvestment Act) included more than $1 billion over two years for the federal Head Start program, which supports educational opportunities for three- and four-year-olds from low-income families, and $1.1 billion over two years for the Early 

Head Start program, which supports initiatives for infants, toddlers, and pregnant women.  Other money included in the stimulus package for education programs (such as funding for the Individual with Disabilities Education Act and Title I) will also be used by states to bolster early learning 

programs.2   (footnotes below)


Individual states are also increasingly creating programs to subsidize or provide preschool opportunities 

for parents.  For example, Georgia, Oklahoma, and Florida already offer universal preschool, and 

numerous other states (Arizona, New Mexico, Washington, South Carolina, Virginia, and West 

Virginia) have all considered proposals that would move in that direction.3   

 

  



Supporters of these programs believe they will better prepare young children for school, improve 

student’s education, and lead to better life outcomes.  For example, during a speech to the Hispanic 

Chamber of Commerce, President Obama argued:  

Studies show that children in early childhood education programs are more likely to score 

higher in reading and math, more likely to graduate from high school and attend college, more 

likely to hold a job, and more likely to earn more in that job. For every dollar we invest in these 

programs, we get nearly $10 back in reduced welfare rolls, fewer health care costs, and less 

crime.4



Yet as this policy brief highlights, policymakers shouldn’t assume that such results will come expanded 

government support of preschool, especially as government’s support expands beyond the low-income 

or “at risk” student population.    

Does Preschool Improve Student Outcomes? 

Those supporting increased government provision of preschool typically suggest that the money 

invested in such programs pays off by creating much larger benefits for individuals and society at large.  

They claim that high quality preschool programs lead to improved student outcomes and ultimately a 

more educated, productive workforce and expanded tax base.  Yet a balanced look at the available 

research on the effects of preschool should give policymakers pause.   

Most evaluations of preschool programs which are cited as evidence of their great potential benefits  

have analyzed programs that serve low-income children and those considered at risk of failing to thrive 

in traditional public school.  And even when studies are focused on disadvantaged populations, the 

research is far from a slam dunk in proving preschools’ long-term efficacy.  As Darcy Olsen, an 

education analyst and president of the Goldwater Institute, writes:   

Taken as a whole, a review of the research shows that some early interventions have had 

meaningful short-term effects on disadvantaged students’ cognitive ability, grade-level retention, 

and special education placement.  However, most research also indicates that the effects of early 

interventions disappear after children leave the programs.5 

The program that is most frequently touted as evidence of the great potential benefits of universal 

preschool is the High/Scope Perry Preschool Project.  And indeed, this study, which began in the 

1960s and has followed an experimental and control group for 40 years, has found meaningful benefits 

enjoyed by those who participated in the program on a range of outcomes, including high-school 

graduation rates, adult crime, and earnings.  Yet researchers caution against assuming that the impact of 

this program would be replicated by a universal preschool program serving the general population.  As 

education analysts from the Lexington Institute explain: 

It’s important to note that there were only 58 preschoolers in the experimental group (and 123 

in all, including the control group), and all were not only disadvantaged but deemed at risk for 

“retarded intellectual functioning and eventual school failure.”  They received one or two years 

 

  

“Several states have 

implemented aggressive 

preschool programs and 

there is little to suggest that 

it is paying off in terms of 

improving the states’ overall 

education climate.” 

of half-day preschool and home visitations.  This was certainly not a large or representative 

group, not even of the disadvantaged populations, and it is a real stretch to generalize results 

into a rationale for pouring billions of dollars into public pre-K for all, including the children of 

affluent families.6  

Evaluations done on Head Start, the federal program 

dedicated to providing preschool opportunities for low- 

income families, are also not encouraging.  Generally, 

studies show initial modest gains in terms of student 

abilities and outcomes, but those gains quickly dissipate.  

By early elementary school, researchers could find no 

differences between the test scores of those who had 

participated in Head Start and peers who hadn’t 

participated in a preschool program.7 

Even many proponents of preschool programs for those in the low-income or at risk population have 

cautioned against assuming that the benefits enjoyed by that population would translate into similar 

benefits for the general population.  James Heckman, a Nobel prize winning economist, makes the case 

for increased investment in early education programs for disadvantaged populations because of his 

belief in its potential for significant payoffs.  However, when asked about universal preschool 

programs, he reiterated the case for targeted programs, explaining “Functioning middle-class homes are 

producing healthy, productive kids.  …It is foolish to try to substitute for what the middle-class and 

upper-middle-class parents are already doing.”8  

And indeed, if more preschool was a surefire way to improve student outcomes among the general 

population, one would expect to find ample evidence of that dynamic already occurring.  Several states 

have implemented aggressive preschool programs and there is little to suggest that it is paying off in 

terms of improving the states’ overall education climate.  As education analysts from the Reason 

Foundation wrote in the Wall Street Journal: 

[T]he results from Oklahoma and Georgia—both of which implemented universal preschool a 

decade or more ago—paint an equally dismal picture.  A 2006 analysis by Education Week 

found the Oklahoma and Georgia were among the 10 states that had made the least progress on 

NAEP.  Oklahoma, in fact, lost ground after it embraced universal preschool:  In 1992 its 

fourth and eighth graders tested one point above the national average in math.  Now they are 

several points below.  Ditto for reading.  Georgia’s universal preschool program has made 

virtually no difference to its fourth-grade reading scores.9 

Rates of preschool attendance have soared during recent decades.  The Department of Education 

estimated that, in 1965, five percent of three-year-olds and 16 percent of four-year-olds attended 

preschool.  By the beginning of this decade, 42 percent of three-year-olds and 68 percent of four-year- 

olds were enrolled in preschool.10  Yet the data on important educational outcomes—from 

 

  

“There is significant 

evidence to suggest that 

there is a link between the 

amount of time young 

children spend outside of 

their parents’ care and 

behavioral problems.”  

performance on nationalized tests to graduation rates—has shown no significant gains during this 

period, and in some cases have declined.11  

There is also cause for concern that encouraging greater enrollment in preschool may not just fail to 

produce positive results, but it could lead to some adverse outcomes.  Some researchers have found 

evidence suggesting that increased enrollment in preschool programs could lead to problem behaviors.  

For example, one study conducted by researchers at Stanford 

University and University of California, Berkeley concluded 

kindergartners who had attended more than fifteen hours of 

preschool each week were more likely to exhibit aggressive 

behavior in class.12  

Negative behavioral effects would likely be particularly 

pronounced if the government moves in the direction of 

President Obama’s “Zero to 5” proposal to encourage the 

enrollment of babies and young toddlers.  There is significant 

evidence to suggest that there is a link between the amount of 

time young children spend outside of their parents’ care and 

behavioral problems.  The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, for example, 

conducted a study of children in ten geographic sites who were followed from birth to kindergarten and 

found an association between greater amount of non-maternal care and behavioral problems: 

The more time children spend in any of a variety of non-maternal care arrangements across the 

first 4.5 years of life, the more externalizing problems and conflict with adults they manifest at 

54 months of age and in kindergarten, as reported by mothers, caregivers, and teachers…more 

time in care not only predicts problem behavior measured on a continuous scale but at-risk 

(though not clinical) levels of problem behavior, as well as assertiveness, disobedience, and 

aggression.  It should also be noted that these correctional finding also imply that lower levels 

of problems were associated with less time in child care.13 

In summary, the evidence simply does not support the claims of universal preschool proponents that 

an investment in early education will pay off in terms of improving the educational and life prospects of 

the general population.  

Crowding Out Private Preschool Providers 

Another reason for concern about the potential for greater government involvement in preschool is the 

potential that, as government expands its support for early learning opportunities, parents could end up 

having fewer options for their children’s education instead of more.  To the extent that the government 

creates specific center-based programs or focuses its support on programs provided through the public 

school system, policymakers would be putting private schools and early learning centers at a 

disadvantage.  Parents committed to enrolling their children in a preschool would face the choice of 

paying for private preschool or sending their children to a subsidized public option.  As a result, many 

 

  

“Lawmakers would be 

better off focusing on 

identifying why the 

public school system 

regularly fails so many 

of its charges instead  

of expanding its 

mandate in education.” 

parents who currently pay for private early learning opportunities may switch to enrolling their child in 

a public school. This dynamic could result in the elimination of private options, and fewer choices for 

parents.  

The potential crowding out of private preschool providers in favor of government-run options should 

be of particular concern to those who see early education opportunities as critical not just for skill 

development, but for children’s socialization and moral development.  Given the reticence of so many 

advocates of increased educational funding to allow any dollars to reach any organization that isn’t fully 

secular (for example, through a voucher or other school choice program), it is likely that many states 

would exclude preschools with a religious affiliation from participating in any government supported 

preschool program.  This means that many parent who currently choose a facility in part to support 

their values and provide additional moral education will find themselves with a difficult choice of 

forgoing the subsidized service (supported with their tax dollars) or forgoing the moral environment 

they had hoped to provide to their children.  

Problems with Existing Government Run Schools 

Before lawmakers extend the responsibilities of the public 

education system to include three- and four–year-olds, it would 

be prudent to examine how it is performing its existing duties 

in serving students eligible for kindergarten through twelfth 

grade.   

President Obama himself has been critical of the performance 

of many public schools:   

And yet, despite resources that are unmatched 

anywhere in the world, we’ve let our grades slip, our 

schools crumble, our teacher quality fall short, and other nations outpace us. …The relative 

decline of American education is untenable for our economy, it’s unsustainable for our 

democracy, it’s unacceptable for our children — and we can’t afford to let it continue.14 

And indeed, a look at the statistics about our public school system’s performance is sobering.  The 

National Assessment of Educational Progress, a standardized test designed to assess the overall 

performance of American students, regularly shows that the system is failing too many of its students:  

in 2007, one third of 4th graders and one quarter of 8th graders scored “below basic” in reading, and 

nearly twenty percent of 4th graders and 30 percent of 8th graders scored “below basic” in math.  More 

than one-quarter of American children don’t graduate from high school. And, as President Obama 

noted, the United States often lags behind other developed nations on academic tests despite spending 

more on education.15  

The disheartening performance of the public school system should caution those who would believe 

that greater government involvement in the lives and education of our youngest children will necessary 

 

  

“Government programs 

that support preschool 

also fail on the measure 

of fairness:  they 

support the choices 

made by some parents 

over others.”  

improve their prospects.  Lawmakers would be better off focusing on identifying why the public school 

system regularly fails so many of its charges instead of expanding its mandate in education.   

There Are Better Ways to Support Parents with Young Children    

Government programs that support preschool also fail on the measure of fairness:  they support the 

choices made by some parents over others.  For example, many parents believe that they are their 

children’s best teacher and would prefer to keep a parent at home with their three- or four-year-old.  

And, even if preschool were generally associated with benefiting most four-year-olds, certainly there are 

some who would do better with another year at home.  Parents are 

best positioned to determine if preschool, and what kind of 

preschool, will benefit their children.  Government programs that 

subsidize specific services, instead of children, would discourage 

parents from making decisions based on their children’s unique 

needs.   

If the real goal is to support the educational development of young 

children, lawmakers would do better by providing a refundable tax 

credit to families with children of an eligible age, which could be 

used to pay for preschool, other educational services, educational 

materials, such as books and age-appropriate curriculum, or even to compensate for the reduced 

earnings enjoyed by families that opt to keep a parent at home.  Such a tax credit would give parents 

more latitude to make decisions based on their personal beliefs and situation, and would be superior to 

merely expanding government services to provide for a select group of children.  

Conclusion 

While lawmakers rarely seem concerned about the founders’ intentions, it is worth noting that there is 

nothing in the Constitution to suggest that using taxpayer money to support preschool programs in a 

proper role for the federal government.  Policymakers claim that using taxpayer money to fund more 

access to preschool enhances the greater good, but there is little evidence to suggest that this holds true 

for the general population.  There is also reason for concern that there would be unintended 

consequences to pushing greater enrollment in publicly-supported preschool programs, both for 

individual students and for the education system as a whole.   

Lawmakers would do better by focusing on improving the existing K-12 education system, instead of 

seeking to expand it, and to helping families provide for their children by reducing their tax burden. 

 

About the Author 

 

Carrie Lukas is the vice president for policy and economics at the Independent Women’s Forum and 

author of The Politically Incorrect Guide to Women, Sex, and Feminism.  

 

{{I said above, I do not swim in the same direction on ALL the issues here, particularly domestic violence and feminism.  The thing about feminism is the backlash,  My goodness. . . .  }}

 

 

  

Endnotes 

1 

 Available at: http://www.barackobama.com/issues/education/index.php#early-childhood. 

2 

 Christina A. Samuels, “Stimulus Providing Big Funding Boost for Early Childhood,” Education Week, March 27, 

2009. 

3 

 Darcy Olsen and Lisa Snell, “Assessing Proposals for Preschool and Kindergarten:  Essential Information for 

Parents, Taxpayers, and Policymakers,” Reason Foundation, Policy Study No. 344, May 2006, p. I.   

 

4 

 “President Obama’s Remarks to the Hispanic Chamber of Commerce,” New York Times, March 10, 2009.  

Available at:  http://www.nytimes.com/2009/03/10/us/politics/10text-obama.html?_r=1&pagewanted=3. 

 

5 

Darcy Olsen and Jennifer Martin, “Assessing Proposals for Preschools and Kindergarten:  Essential 

Information for Parents, Taxpayers, and Policymakers,” Goldwater Institute, Policy Report No. 201, February 8, 

2005, p. 4. 

6 

 Robert Holland and Don Soifer, “How Sound an Investment?  An Analysis of Federal Prekindergarten 

Proposals,” Lexington Institute, March 2008, p.10. 

Shikha Dalmia and Lisa Snell, “Universal Preschool Hasn’t Delivered Results,” San Francisco Chronicle, October 

17, 2008.  

8 

Robert Holland and Don Soifer, “How Sound an Investment?  An Analysis of Federal Prekindergarten 

Proposals,” Lexington Institute, March 2008, p.9-10. 

Shikha Dalmia and Lisa Snell, “Protect Our Kids from Preschool,” The Wall Street Journal, August 22, 2008.   

10 

 Darcy Olsen and Lisa Snell, “Assessing Proposals for Preschool and Kindergarten:  Essential Information for 

Parents, Taxpayers, and Policymakers,” Reason Foundation, Policy Study No. 344, May 2006, p. 6. 

 

11 

 Dan Lips, Shanea Watkins, Ph.D. and John Fleming, Does Spending More on Education Improve Academic 

Achievement?,”, Heritage Foundation Backgrounder #2179,  September 8, 2008. Available at:  

http://www.heritage.org/research/Education/bg2179.cfm. 

 

12 

 Shikha Dalmia and Lisa Snell, “Protect Our Kids from Preschool,” The Wall Street Journal, August 22, 2008.   

13 

 National Institute of Child Health and Human Development Early Child Care Research Network, “Does 

Amount of Time Spent in Child Care Predict Socioemotional Adjustment During the Transition to 

Kindergarten,” Child Development, July/August 2003, Volume 74, Number 4, 989. 

 

14 

“President Obama’s Remarks to the Hispanic Chamber of Commerce,” New York Times, March 10, 2009.  

Available at:  http://www.nytimes.com/2009/03/10/us/politics/10text-obama.html?_r=1&pagewanted=3. 

 

15 

Dan Lips, Jennifer Marshall, and Lindsey Burke, “A Parent’s Guide to Education Reform,” The Heritage 

Foundation, September 2, 2008. 


Responsible Citizenhood – What’s Health, Which Humans, What Services: (Welcome to “HHS”)

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NOTE:  Post in progress, likely to be split into two.  Right now, it’s rough riding

 

 

 

My “Save to Draft” link vanished, so I either “publish” or all this “perishes.”  Sorry to Pile it Higher and Deeper.  Check back later if you don’t have galoshes on today.  Check it out now, if you are an investigative sort, I”m chock full of hot links (trails to follow — trails to where $$ are being spen)t.  

 

The article from IWF talks about Head Start.  It’s at the VERY bottom.  Being me, I had to illustrate where “Head Start” and “Early Head” start lay, federally speaking.  Head Start is a huMONGOUS Federal Investment, almost as much as hauling Dads out of prisons and putting them back in touch with the kids, in exchange for lowered child support payments to make the welfare rolls look better.  If this results in a few familywipeouts, well, there are other government entitites to clean up, investigate (supposedly) and propose further incursions on the 2nd Amendment, and other civil rights, ONE of which is to be alienated from money you earned, or determining how to spend it, either — I suppose, to help protect us from ourselves in a bulletless manner.

 

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Normally I am not on the same page as IWF Independent Women’s Forum.  Why?  I’d pinpoint it as this — they’re not on the same page as me when it comes to the importance of VAWA — I’m as independent as the best of ’em, but I’d like to speculate that if a number of these libertarian-style writers had actually been the target of abuse, or had children kidnapped or parentally-stolen, and were unable to get justice for their retrieval, I think the tune would go a little differently.  A close friend of mine, who witnessed much of what happened, and how it affected me, commented that the libertarians are great with the THEORIES, and are mostly theory too, no compassion.

 

Whether or not that’s so, I’ve had a busy few days, and will let this Policy Brief  “to the contrary” on the megalith of Head Start as being pushed by our current President, speak for me.  I do agree on this matter.  

 

For a perspective, here’s a graphic: (with pie chart) showing HHS segment (from a certain 2008 document)

 

 

Catalog of Federal Domestic Assistance (CFDA) provides a full listing of all Federal programs available to State and local governments (including the District of Columbia); federally-recognized Indian tribal governments; Territories (and possessions) of the United States; domestic public, quasi- public, and private profit and nonprofit organizations and institutions; specialized groups; and individuals.

 

Head Start is CFDA “93.600”

 

Fiscal Year: 2009

 

CFDA Prog. No. Popular Title CAN Award Amount
93.600 Head Start $ 5,772,627,164
Total: $ 5,772,627,164

 

 

And we’re in June.  Here’s 2008:

Fiscal Year: 2008


CFDA Prog. No. Popular Title CAN Award Amount
93.600 Head Start $ 6,677,528,436
Total: $ 6,677,528,436

 

 

And that’s not counting “ARRA Head Start” or “ARRA Early Head Start.” which you can look up separately.

 

. . OK, since you begged me:  

Fiscal Year: 2009, ARRA Head Start

CFDA Prog. No. Popular Title CAN Award Amount
93.708 ARRA – Head Start $ 20,191,359
Total: $ 20,191,359

 

and for good measure:

 

 

 

 

 

 

While we are at it, I’m feeling ornery, so I’m going to post the DISCRETIONARY grants, by type, for FY 2009 only.

Le’ts hope our government is indeed full of prudence and discretion (wisdom) in the matter of the total at the bottom of this chart:

This report shows the number of discretionary grants and associated dollar values organized by the four major activity types shown below, and their subcategories.

Research – Includes traditional research projects by individual investigators and other broadly based traditional and other research as well as research career programs. NIH awards about half of these grant dollars.

Services – Includes grants to deliver health or social services, treatment and rehabilitation programs, education and information programs, and programs to detect health problems. ACF awards the majority of services grants.

Training – Includes research and health professions training programs, education projects, and rural area health care training. NIH and HRSA award most training grants.

Other – Includes construction projects, grants for the planning and development of health programs and health resources, evaluations, and health infrastructure awards—a small percentage of the total discretionary grants.

FY:   2011  2010  2009  2008  2007  2006  2005  2004   

 

Activity Type Number Dollars
Research
SOCIAL SCIENCE RESEARCH (INCLUDES SURVEYS) 45 $2,134,706
SCIENTIFIC/HEALTH RESEARCH (INCLUDES SURVEYS) 30,574 $10,705,113,249
Research Subtotal 30,619 $10,707,247,955
Services
DEMONSTRATION 917 $545,381,046
HEALTH SERVICES 2,662 $1,198,502,612
SOCIAL SERVICES 2,048 $6,029,628,475
Services Subtotal 5,627 $7,773,512,133
Training
TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE 38 $1,356,536
TRAINING/TRAINEESHIP 3,591 $544,297,132
CONFERENCES (INFORMATION TRANSFER/TECHNOLOGY TRANSFER) 12 $71,811
Training Subtotal 3,641 $545,725,479
Other
OTHER 3,875 $4,169,016,838
PLANNING 7 $0
CONSTRUCTION 13 $0
FELLOWSHIP/SCHOLARSHIP/STUDENT LOANS 2,003 $57,647,835
KDA (KNOWLEDGE/DEVELOPMENT/APPLICATION) 174 $15,011,235
Other Subtotal 6,072 $4,241,675,908
Grand Total 45,959 $23,268,161,475

(For those of you who came out of the US Public Education System, that’s $23 with a B as in Billion.

Aren’t you curious about the “other” category?  I am….) 

 

 

 

 

Some (not alll) agencies.  The FIRST number to right of name is number of OFFICES< then SECOND is the number of PROGRAMS:

 

 

 Department of Agriculture 22 207
View this item Department of Commerce 12 91
View this item Department Of Defense 14 45
View this item Department of Education 12 167
View this item Department of Energy 0 33
View this item Department of Health and Human Services 17 358
View this item Department of Homeland Security 0 106
View this item Department of Housing and Urban Development 6 126
View this item Department of Justice 18 117
View this item Department of Labor

 

Department of State 7 21
View this item Department of the Interior 11 196
View this item Department of the Treasury 4 6
View this item Department of Transportation 11 80
View this item Department of Veterans Affairs 3 39
View this item Environmental Protection Agency 10 100
View this item Equal Employment Opportunity Commission 0 7

 

Of these 17 “Offices” (a functional, not geographic term)typically known by their initials (Cf.  “FDA”) are these.  Again, the number to the RIGHT represents the # of programs under this “office.”

 

Administration For Children And Families 70
View this item Administration On Aging 16
View this item Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality 2
View this item Agency For Toxic Substances And Disease Registry 6
View this item Centers for Disease Control and Prevention 38
View this item Centers For Medicare And Medicaid Services 22
View this item Food and Drug Administration 3
View this item Health Resources and Services Administration 82
View this item Indian Health Service 15
View this item National Institutes of Health 56
View this item Office Of Disease Prevention And Health Promotion 1
View this item Office Of Minority Health 5
View this item Office Of Population Affairs 5
View this item Office of the Secretary 19
View this item President’s Council On Physical Fitness And Sports 1
View this item Program Support Center 0
View this item Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration 14

 

In terms of dollars (see below, 2008), only CMMS (Medicare and Medicaid) had more than ACF:

HHS Grants By OPDIV

This report shows the total number of grants (mandatory and discretionary) and total number of grant dollars awarded by each HHS operating division (agency). It also shows the percentage of the total number of grants, and the percentage of total grant dollars that each agency awarded with respect to the total number of grants and grant dollars awarded by all HHS agencies. Of the total HHS grant dollars, the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services (CMS) awards about two-thirds; the Administration for Children & Families (ACF) awards about 20%; and the National Institutes of Health (NIH) awards less than 10%.

(FY displays as 2011 for some reason, but these are 2008 figures).

FY:   2011  2010  2009  2008  2007  2006  2005  2004   

OPDIV Number #% Dollars $%
ACF 7,799 10.28% $46,151,691,513 17.40%
AHRQ 307 0.40% $84,085,143 0.03%
AOA 1,141 1.50% $1,385,629,076 0.52%
CDC 3,486 4.59% $4,424,589,279 1.67%
CMS 1,000 1.32% $181,153,208,973 68.29%
DHHS/OS 631 0.83% $877,067,242 0.33%
FDA 142 0.19% $36,823,882 0.01%
HRSA 6,137 8.09% $5,870,873,213 2.21%
IHS 673 0.89% $1,203,106,391 0.45%
NIH 52,057 68.59% $21,113,804,312 7.96%
SAMHSA 2,525 3.33% $2,973,765,742 1.12%
Total 75,898   $265,274,644,766  

 

 

 

OK, let us now look at those 70 ACF programs:

Below, the # (93.###) is the “CFDA” Number used in the TAGGS database cataloguing usage of grants — down to who got them, and at least a nominal description, as well as, er, how much was allocated and when.  So those CFDA  #s are a research tool for the informed citizen.  Catalogue of Federal Domestic Assistance (CFDA, get it?)

I’ve colored, highlit, italicized, and bolded many of them.  How MANY of these programs overlap with each other, and are VERY much entwined with the topic of this blog — family court matters.  

For example, if child support were consistently enforced, PERHAPS more Moms could stay home with infants, saving money at Head Start centers.  However Motherhood is not in consonance with “promoting Fatherhood/”health marriages” policy of late, which means, bring Dads back, more access.  This means sometimes Moms then have to go out and replace that child support she just lost at custody-switch time, which then, if Dad also has full-time work and not a stay-at-home second wife, would necessitate possibly more child care, right?  See the merry go round?  

Of course, see also the article on the Boyhood project, and the commentary that the US is the world’s largest (by per capita) jailor, which is probably a factor in so many fatherless families, maybe even as much as them danged feminazi’s saying, stop hitting us! and letting women out of abusive situations.

I want us to see the incredible breadth and scope of activity under this department.  And to make a note of research tools, and to understand, the next time your local state, county, or city says they’re broke, that there may be some federal reasons why.  ALL of these are under the Executive Branch of government.  Responsible Citizenhood entails learning about them — before you become desperate for services from one or more of them!

 

 

DIVISIONS (Programs) under Administration of Children and Families:

 

 

 

 

  View Community-Based Abstinence Education (CBAE) 93.010 Community-Based Abstinence Education (CBAE) Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Healthy Marriage Promotion and Responsible Fatherhood Grants 93.086 Healthy Marriage Promotion and Responsible Fatherhood Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – PROJECT GRANTS, L – DISSEMINATION OF TECHNICAL INFORMATION   View Enhance the Safety of Children Affected by Parental Methamphetamine or Other Substance Abuse 93.087 Enhance the Safety of Children Affected by Parental Methamphetamine or Other Substance Abuse Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Infant Adoption Awareness Training 93.254 Infant Adoption Awareness Training Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Transitional Living for Homeless Youth 93.550 Transitional Living for Homeless Youth Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Abandoned Infants 93.551 Abandoned Infants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Promoting Safe and Stable Families 93.556 Promoting Safe and Stable Families Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS, B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Education and Prevention Grants to Reduce Sexual Abuse of Runaway, Homeless and Street Youth 93.557 Education and Prevention Grants to Reduce Sexual Abuse of Runaway, Homeless and Street Youth Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Temporary Assistance for Needy Families 93.558 Temporary Assistance for Needy Families Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Family Support Payments to States_Assistance Payments 93.560 Family Support Payments to States_Assistance Payments – ?? Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Child Support Enforcement 93.563 Child Support Enforcement Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS    View Child Support Enforcement Research 93.564 Child Support Enforcement Research Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Refugee and Entrant Assistance_State Administered Programs 93.566 Refugee and Entrant Assistance_State Administered Programs Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Refugee and Entrant Assistance_Voluntary Agency Programs 93.567 Refugee and Entrant Assistance_Voluntary Agency Programs Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Low-Income Home Energy Assistance 93.568 Low-Income Home Energy Assistance Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Community Services Block Grant 93.569 Community Services Block Grant Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Community Services Block Grant_Discretionary Awards 93.570 Community Services Block Grant_Discretionary Awards Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Child Care and Development Block Grant 93.575 Child Care and Development Block Grant Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Refugee and Entrant Assistance_Discretionary Grants 93.576 Refugee and Entrant Assistance_Discretionary Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View U.S. Repatriation 93.579 U.S. Repatriation Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Improving the Capability of Indian Tribal Governments to Regulate Environmental Quality 93.581 Improving the Capability of Indian Tribal Governments to Regulate Environmental Quality Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Refugee and Entrant Assistance_Wilson/Fish Program 93.583 Refugee and Entrant Assistance_Wilson/Fish Program Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Refugee and Entrant Assistance_Targeted Assistance Grants 93.584 Refugee and Entrant Assistance_Targeted Assistance Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View State Court Improvement Program 93.586 State Court Improvement Program Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Promote the Survival and Continuing Vitality of Native American Languages 93.587 Promote the Survival and Continuing Vitality of Native American Languages Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Community-Based Child Abuse Prevention Grants 93.590 Community-Based Child Abuse Prevention Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants For Battered Women 93.591 Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants For Battered Women’s Shelters_Grants to State Domestic Violence Coalitions Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS    View Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women 93.592 Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters_Discretionary Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Job Opportunities for Low-Income Individuals 93.593 Job Opportunities for Low-Income Individuals Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Tribal Work Grants 93.594 Tribal Work Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Welfare Reform Research, Evaluations and National Studies 93.595 Welfare Reform Research, Evaluations and National Studies Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Child Care Mandatory and Matching Funds of the Child Care and Development Fund 93.596 Child Care Mandatory and Matching Funds of the Child Care and Development Fund Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Grants to States for Access and Visitation Programs 93.597 Grants to States for Access and Visitation Programs Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Services to Victims of a Severe Form of Trafficking 93.598 Services to Victims of a Severe Form of Trafficking Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Chafee Education and Training Vouchers Program (ETV) 93.599 Chafee Education and Training Vouchers Program (ETV) Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Head Start 93.600 Head Start Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Child Support Enforcement Demonstrations and Special Projects 93.601 Child Support Enforcement Demonstrations and Special Projects Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Assets for Independence Demonstration Program 93.602 Assets for Independence Demonstration Program Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Adoption Incentive Payments 93.603 Adoption Incentive Payments Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Assistance for Torture Victims 93.604 Assistance for Torture Victims Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Family Connection Grants 93.605 Family Connection Grants – ???? Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Native American Programs 93.612 Native American Programs Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View President 93.613 President’s Committee for People with Intellectual Disabilities (PCPID) Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families L – DISSEMINATION OF TECHNICAL INFORMATION   View Mentoring Children of Prisoners 93.616 Mentoring Children of Prisoners Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Voting Access for Individuals with Disabilities_Grants to States 93.617 Voting Access for Individuals with Disabilities_Grants to States Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Voting Access for Individuals with Disabilities-Grants for Protection and Advocacy Systems 93.618 Voting Access for Individuals with Disabilities-Grants for Protection and Advocacy Systems Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS, B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Basic Center Grant 93.623 Basic Center Grant Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Developmental Disabilities Basic Support and Advocacy Grants 93.630 Developmental Disabilities Basic Support and Advocacy Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Developmental Disabilities Projects of National Significance 93.631 Developmental Disabilities Projects of National Significance Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View University Centers for Excellence in Developmental Disabilities Education, Research, and Service 93.632 University Centers for Excellence in Developmental Disabilities Education, Research, and Service Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Children 93.643 Children’s Justice Grants to States Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Child Welfare Services_State Grants 93.645 Child Welfare Services_State Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Social Services Research and Demonstration 93.647 Social Services Research and Demonstration Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Child Welfare Services Training Grants 93.648 Child Welfare Services Training Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Adoption Opportunities 93.652 Adoption Opportunities Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Foster Care_Title IV-E 93.658 Foster Care_Title IV-E Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Adoption Assistance 93.659 Adoption Assistance Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Social Services Block Grant 93.667 Social Services Block Grant Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Child Abuse and Neglect State Grants 93.669 Child Abuse and Neglect State Grants Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Child Abuse and Neglect Discretionary Activities 93.670 Child Abuse and Neglect Discretionary Activities Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women 93.671 Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters_Grants to States and Indian Tribes Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Chafee Foster Care Independence Program 93.674 Chafee Foster Care Independence Program Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – FORMULA GRANTS   View Unaccompanied Alien Children Program 93.676 Unaccompanied Alien Children Program Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – PROJECT GRANTS   View ARRA - HEAD START 93.708 ARRA – HEAD START Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – Project Grants    View ARRA – EARLY HEAD START   93.709 ARRA – EARLY HEAD START   Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families
B – Project Grants   View ARRA - COMMUNITY SERVICES BLOCK GRANT 93.710 ARRA – COMMUNITY SERVICES BLOCK GRANT Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – Formula Grants   View ARRA –  STRENGTHENING COMMUNITIES FUND 93.711 ARRA – STRENGTHENING COMMUNITIES FUND Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families B – Cooperative Agreements   View ARRA – CHILD CARE AND DEVELOPMENT BLOCK GRANT 93.713 ARRA – CHILD CARE AND DEVELOPMENT BLOCK GRANT Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – Formula Grants   View ARRA – EMERGENCY CONTINGENCY FUND FOR TEMPORARY ASSISTANCE FOR NEEDY FAMILIES (TANF) STATE PROGRAMS 93.714 ARRA – EMERGENCY CONTINGENCY FUND FOR TEMPORARY ASSISTANCE FOR NEEDY FAMILIES (TANF) STATE PROGRAMS Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – Formula Grants   View ARRA – TEMPORARY ASSISTANCE FOR NEEDY FAMILIES (TANF) SUPPLEMENTAL GRANTS 93.716 ARRA – TEMPORARY ASSISTANCE FOR NEEDY FAMILIES (TANF) SUPPLEMENTAL GRANTS Department of Health and Human Services
Administration For Children And Families A – Formula Grants

 

Below, you may now see why IWF might be squawking about whether More, Earlier, Better (0-5 actually helps, or for that matter, is best.  For that, please (now) see the next post (date:  06-19-09)

An Oral Fixation on Fatherhood as it relates to Bovine Growth Hormone?

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Family Law Adjudications affecting infant health. . . . . 

This is an extension of the previous post on the poor Australian kids that had to adjust weekly from cow’s to human  milk because of a 2006 law about Shared Parenting.  That’s not sharing, that’s kid-kickball.  That’s jug-juggling.  What set of men (and 2nd wives) dreamed that one up?

 

Inspired originally by Daniel Slack, whose Newsvine seed said this:

I do not understand why it would be OK to drink from a cow Teat, but not from a human Teat. I have found evidence to the detrimental effect of cow’s milk with Bovine Growth Hormone. One study not only shows evidence that it leads to obesity and excessive male breast development, but suggests that drinking nonorganic milk will give women a 42% higher chance, and men a 20% higher chance of developing Breast cancer.

Mostly, I wrote the article so that people will start questioning why we believe what we believe is OK. Society says it is OK to drink cow milk. Society also says we should expect politicians to lie, judges to take bribes, and car dealers to try to rip us off. How far back are we personally willing to push the boundaries of what society says is acceptable? Is it worth it, to improve your health?

If the government could so intervene in and screw up one of the most basic human instincts, other than making babies (or trying to, or trying NOt to, but still going through the motions), such as eating, specifically sucking it down (“raw,”) perhaps we can learn, individually and communally to stop sucking down the dialectic straight from the government teat, grow out incisors, molars, and wisdom teeth, and chew our own data.

And nurse and educate our own kids, too.

(I promise to stop milking this analogy — in the next post.  Not this one.  It’s just SO appropriate. . . . )

In this post, we progress (discursively, that is), from Human Milk to Cow’s milk (raw), through pasteurization, the regulation of the stalwart “we want it raw” farmers (by the federal government, who else? Protecting the rest of us from Common Sense, or Independence) and then through the natural battle some people, and farmers, go through to SELL it, Raw, and eventually will land back to the topic of how can a separating couple in Australia navigate these treacherous, debate-ridden waters of whose milk to feed, or express, for their growing offspring, after they grew emotionally apart as adults?  Mom’s or Cow’s?

I got to remembering this book, “The Milk of Human Kindness (Is not Pasteurized).”  One benefit of homeschooling, I forgot to mention, is that time to read and browse bookstores (half-priced ones especially) and libraries, helped improve my own literacy level, as well, and that was coming in with two college degrees and professional experience itself pretty varied.  But what about LIFE experience, and then reading up on that?

Sometimes things I read years ago leap alongside my thinking to contribute to the present dialogue.  When thought is actually processed, this happens more and more.

WHAT does this have to do with Fatherhood (proclamations)  and oral fixations?

Well, I think that SOME fathers and men, have a fixation on orating about things of which they have insufficient personal experience.

And it shows in this topic of one basic human nutrient — not Dad, but food.

 

Paternal Pro/Efficiency (expertise, regulation) vs. Maternal Nurture

I think that ideally the world should be ruled — in small sections only, and somewhat fluid ones — by a balanced partnership between men and women.  I do not think women should rule the world.  I do not think ALL men are tunnel-vision, efficiency-obsessed, better at getting things done (and more callous about who gets hurt in the process), and we already explored that maybe their Corpus Callosus is NOT skinner than ours (and if so, it may or may not be relevant).  I think that the idealized, ritualized, stereotyped MYTHs of MANHOOD (as opposed to manliness, or masculinity which, believe it or not, I DO appreciate, so long as choice is involved and gender stereotypes (his, and mine) is not rammed down my throat, allegorically speaking)  (and which would be a pretty comprehensive description of the previous “marriage”) are deleterious to us all.  The widespread acceptance of these myths (added to pornography), and now enshrined in government declarations, resolutions, policies, and initiatives, show us that the genuine article is probably in short supply. (Or, is otherwise, and more productively, occupied).

OK< . . . . 

John Stoltenberg (1945[1]-) is an American radical feminist activist, scholar, author, and magazine editor.[2] He is the managing editor of AARP the Magazine, a bimonthlypublication of the United States-based interest group AARP (formerly American Association of Retired Persons), a position he has held since 2004. Although he formed a relationship with and eventually married Andrea Dworkin, he considers himself gay.[1]

Hmmm.  I’ll have to think about this a little more.  I know the book “The End of Manhood” (as a virtual concept) spokes sense to me, a woman whose humanity had to disappear while her sole defining characteristic, allowable in marriage, was my gender, thereby I gather helping bolster a husband that was less secure of himself than he appeared initially.  I will put it together with this one (whose author has actually been decorated by the Fatherhood promoters, like the above book, the title to this one is also misleading:  “Hating Women.”  My copy is dogeared and underlined.  

Review excerpt:  

Boteach’s book is primarily a discussion of image and perception, which he sums up in eight archetypes, four female and four male. He then gives examples of his stereotypes via the media and through his experiences working as a rabbi and counseling. Anecdotal as some of this stuff may be, it’s still powerful. 

(SToltenberg)  He holds degrees in divinity and fine arts. He is well known as a feminist activist and author. He has written a series of books and articles criticizing traditional concepts of manhood or maleness, such as “Refusing to Be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice” (Meridian, 1990), “Why I Stopped Trying to be a Real Man,” [1] and “The End of Manhood: A Book for Men of Conscience” (Penguin USA/Plume, 1994).

He created “the Pose Workshop,” which entailed men adopting the poses that women strike in pornographic shots (intended partly for men attending Christian retreats), a version of which was broadcast on BBC television. He was Andrea Dworkin‘s life partner for thirty-one years. They began living together in 1974; in 1998 they married. He was a founder of the group ‘Men Can Stop Rape’ [2] and conceived and creative directs the group’s ‘My Strength’ [3] campaign which aims to educate young men on sexual relationships, consent and rape.

Stoltenberg is credited with the quote “Pornography tells lies about women. But pornography tells the truth about men.” The quote is from the essay The Forbidden Language of Sex in his book “Refusing to Be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice” (Meridian, 1990).

 

SUFFICE IT TO SAY (don’t laugh!), I am much more interested in relating to genuine human beings with more than the stereotyped posturing to offer in their dealings with me.  These could be (and have historically been) either male or female.  The topic of Me Tarzan, You Jane is temporarily interesting only, and in certain contexts only, and cannot sufficiently handle all that life requires of all of us these days.  While our sexuality certainly affects and influences the rest of us, JUSTICE should not be tied to GENDER.  And one gender should not have a national totalitarian power to define ITself, the OTHer gender, Childhood, or for that matter, parenting.  Or, as today’s topic is, nutrition, either.  The more I look at the major institutions in this country, the more inhuman they seem to be in origin.  

They are like false idols, bending reality to fit theory, even when it comes to infants, and like the bed of Procrustes, that fits EVERYONE (he says, to potential guests).  “Come on in.

I will say that some are, and too many of these orally fixated on making pronouncements folks happen to have found an outlet, if not calling in religion, and from there to politics, and from there to regulatory agencies coaching government.  All along the way they are pronouncing esoteric truths, some of which a lowly MD or so will later then expose as, well, not waterproof.

Format of this post:  MOST of it is quotes, generally the titles are the URL, with chronology (years) as headings.  Generally speaking, any emphasis (italic, bold, color) is mine.  Summary comment at the bottom, as usual.  This first, blue, segment, is me, though:


MILK, CONSIDERED

 

 

Milk is so basic as to be considered essential to the beginning of life.  It is a noun, literal and figurative, and the verb is also literal, for some involving human contact, and for others, mass-produced mechanical teat-receptors.  The figurative use, “milking the moment” (which I am, in this topic) relates back to the basic format, person milking cow.  By hand.  So let’s consider how this plays into what type of THINKING permeates (or is that saturates) the family law field?

I am old enough (or was raised rural enough?) to remember a milk truck, with cold bottles delivered early, and cream at the top, and old ones turned back in.  Now, homogenization is the rule, in education as well as in milk, as well as in legislation.

The Exodus of Insight:

For example, in California, it used to be possible to get raw cow’s milk.  There was a concerted effort to outlaw it.  This had nothing to do with health and everything to do with politics.  Pasteurization may clean things up, but it also (due to heat) destroys enzymes, which we NEED.  And the presence of pasteurization, this book asserts, ended up covering up some pretty squalid additions to cow’s milk, on the basis it was all sterilized to s start with.

Nursing, then has (d)evolved in this country, I gather, from Mom’s mammaries, raw (although I’m sure the word “raw” dated closer to pasteurization, to Cow mammaries, RAW, to Cow mammaries, Pastuerized, and then sooner or later we have Dr. McDougall, among others probably, being an M.D., noticing a few things about pasteurized milk.  

And we then have…

1985

The Milk of Human Kindness, even if Bovine, is Raw, not Pasteurized, and here’s why:

According to “TheMilkBook.com

(Review:) The Milk Book – The Milk Of Human Kindness Is Not Pasteurized –

The Milk Book – How Science Is Destroying Nature’s Neatly Perfect Food. Children are denied whole milk because pediatricians are obsessed with the cholesterol myth. These same gutless wonders don’t say anything about children drinking half-a-dozen bottles of Coca-Cola a day, stating before breakfast! But kids can’t get a decent glass of milk. Adding vitamin D to milk is a risky business. The New England Journal of Medicine reported many cases of vitamin D intoxication resulting from excessive fortification of commercial milk. Today, you can’t get a decent glass of milk. Even if you buy whole milk, thinking it is better than that sickly blue stuff called skim, you can’t win, because all of the commercial milk is homogenized. I am convinced that homogenization is even more detrimental to the nutritional quality of milk than the heat processing called pasteurization.

– William Campbell Douglass II, MD (I believe this book,which I have read, came out about 1985.)

What is the logical thing to do then?  Outlaw raw (cow’s) milk, naturally. Dirty, natural, dangerous stuff, just a step above, say, breastfeeding from a human.  Disgusting!  In Mad Cow Loco mood, the Federal Government squirts some sense into the populace:

NOT TO BE OUTDONE,

1986

“In 1986, the federal government banned all interstate shipments of raw milk, cream and butter.”

 

1989



 

 

 

  • ScienceDaily (Aug. 5, 2005)An analysis of 21 studies that have investigated the link between ovarian cancer and the consumption of milk products and lactose has found some support for the hypothesis that high intake is associated with increased cancer risk. The results of this analysis, published online August 5, 2005 in the International Journal of Cancer, the official journal of the International Union Against Cancer (UICC), found that support was stronger in cohort studies, compared to case-control studies, which offered varying results. The article is available via Wiley InterScience at http://www.interscience.wiley.com/journal/ijc   

  • Since a positive correlation between ovarian cancer risk and the consumption of milk products and lactose was first reported in 1989 , many epidemiological studies have further examined the relationship. However, these studies have yielded conflicting conclusions. 

  • To better understand the uncertain relationship, researchers led by Susanna C. Larsson of the National Institute of Environmental Medicine at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden, conducted a meta-analysis of relevant case-control and cohort studies., many epidemiological studies have further examined the relationship. However, these studies have yielded conflicting conclusions. To better understand the uncertain relationship, researchers led by Susanna C. Larsson of the National Institute of Environmental Medicine at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden, conducted a meta-analysis of relevant case-control and cohort studies.

2003 (URL):    

 

 

 

Ron Shmid, ND, a naturopathic physician, outlined the laws governing sales of raw milk in his 2003 book The Untold Story of Milk:

“Twenty-five states technically allow on-farm sales of raw milk, but nearly all place restrictions on the farmer by limiting the amount he may sell, banning advertising, imposing excessive fees or regulations, or allowing local town Boards of Health to ban sales. Two of those 25 states limit sales to raw goat milk… Eleven of these 25 states have provisions allowing for some retail sales, but in most such sales are limited by many of the same restrictions… In practice, however, raw milk is available in stores only in Arizona, California, Connecticut, and Maine…

Six states allow sales of raw milk for animal consumption only, without requiring the addition of dyes… Two states make all sales of raw milk illegal with the exception of raw goat milk when prescribed in writing by a licensed physician… In two states, Montana and Washington, the situation is murky. Regulations could be interpreted to allow sales of raw milk but state officials do not follow these interpretations… Sixteen additional states and the District of Columbia make all sales of raw milk illegal…

In 1986, the federal government banned all interstate shipments of raw milk, cream and butter.”

[Editor’s Note: ProCon.org received an e-mail from the Weston A. Price Foundation on Sep. 27, 2007, alerting us to the fact that as of Dec. 1, 2004, the states of Washington, New Mexico, Pennsylvania, and South Carolina also began allowing the sale of raw milk in stores. That brings the total to eight states that allow in store sales of raw milk (This information was confirmed by ProCon.org through additional research in Sep. 2007 and again in Sep. 2008). For a listing of all state laws pertaining to raw milk please see (etc.)

What happened to the proverbial, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!”  That’s why my ex used to say when a baby was sleeping, and I as Mom attempted to modify, say comfort or safety level with something that might wake her.
In bureaucratese — if it’s self-sustaining and not significantly harmful, outlaw it, as encroaching on the government’s territory, which is regulation, licensure, and taxation, naturally.  For our own good.

 

2004, Dr. Mercola:

Joseph Mercola, DO, an osteopathic physician, stated in his April 24, 2004 article “The Real Reasons Why Raw Milk Is Becoming More Popular,” published on his website:

“Raw {COW’s} milk is a highly health-promoting food… While it is certainly possible to become sick from drinking contaminated raw milk, it is also possible to become sick from almost any food source. But it seems that raw milk has been unfairly singled out as a risk, when only a very small risk exists…

Raw milk is an outstanding source of nutrients including beneficial bacteria such as lactobacillus acidophilus, vitamins and enzymes, and it is, in my estimation, the finest source of calcium available…

 People who have been allergic to pasteurized milk for many years can typically tolerate and even thrive on raw milk. Raw milk is truly one of the most profoundly healthy foods you can consume, and you’ll feel the difference once you start to drink it.”

 

2005 

Well, 20 years later, the local yokels are fighting back, some.  Here’s commentary:

(TOM PHILPOTT, 11/28/2005)

 

RAW MILK, HOT COMMODITY

Despite a recent crackdown, Washington State’s raw-milk policy might point way forward.

In a nation riddled with diet-related maladies like obesity and diabetes, the official fear that greets raw milk is impressive.

You can waltz into any convenience store and snap up foods pumped liberally with government-subsidized high-fructose corn sweetener, deep-fried in government-subsidized partially hydrogenated soybean oil. Yet in many states, teams of bureaucrats devote themselves to “protecting” us from raw milk — and imposing onerous fines on farmers who dare sell it.

Some states ban raw milk outright; others have erected elaborate barriers between farmer and consumer. Here in North Carolina, for example, I have to pretend I’m buying animal fodder when I visit a nearby dairy farm to pick up a gallon or two of raw milk.

Even so, consumers are increasingly demanding it, banding together with farmers to form Prohibition-like cells from New York City to Portland. To me, it tastes better, more alive, than even the best pasteurized milk; and I tend to believe the health claims made for it.

According to this AP article, Washington State is stepping up enforcement of its raw-milk restrictions, which are actually relatively enlightened. The article says that in Washington, farms that sell raw milk must be “licensed through the state, which requires monthly testing of the milk and inspection of the farm and milk bottling room.” Further, “each bottle must contain a warning label saying it may contain harmful bacteria.”

However, a law that went into effect July 1 allows the milk to be hand-bottled. That means farms don’t have to lay out large investments in bottling equipment — a requirement that would eliminate milk sales as a potential revenue source for many small operations.

As long as compliance costs are low, Washington’s raw-milk code could actually help build the market for the product. While I think that consumers are their own best health inspectors — I wouldn’t buy raw milk from a farm I hadn’t inspected myself, or whose operator didn’t have a top-notch reputation in his or her community — many people don’t feel comfortable consuming something as potentially dangerous as raw milk without government oversight.

(There is of course a bitter irony here: The government has long shown itself to be more responsive to corporate dictates than public-health concerns. To cite just one example: The FDA continues to countenance the use of hydrogenated oil, despite decades of evidence of its deadly effects.)

Direct-marketed raw milk is a potential boon to dairy farms that have languished for years under the heel of rising costs and stagnant prices for their goods. Consolidation in the dairy-processing industry means that in most places, a single buyer exists for a farm’s milk output. By selling direct to consumers, farmers have more leverage to get a decent price.

2006

California, too!

Raw Milk in the News

Randall Neustaedter OMD

 (Sept. 2006)

First, bags of spinach were found to be contaminated with E Coli, which made people sick. The strain of E Coli in the spinach (0157:H7) was the same strain found in those people who were sick. Now four children who consumed raw dairy products from Organic Pastures dairy have become ill with E Coli as well. At least one of these children had the strain 0157:H7 confirmed on lab tests, the same strain present in the contaminated spinach. However, tests of the raw dairy products have failed to detect any E Coli in samples.

Nonetheless, the California State Veterinarian, Dr. Richard Breitmeyer, has placed a temporary ban and recall of all raw milk products from Organic Pastures as a precautionary measure

Like most foods, the less processing that dairy products undergo, the more nutritious it is. Although pasteurization will kill potentially harmful bacteria in milk, it also destroys bacteria and enzymes that help people digest and absorb nutrients in milk. The benefits of consuming raw milk have been advocated by many groups. The website www.realmilk.com (operated by the Weston A. Price Foundation) describes these many benefits (www.westonaprice.org). Others are critical of dairy product consumption by humans in any form (www.notmilk.com).

An alternative to raw milk is organic, non-homogenized (cream top) pasteurized milk. Homogenization distributes the fat in milk throughout the solution, but also makes the fat unavailable. The fat is needed for calcium absorption and is a good source of saturated fat for children.

Parents who have found that switching to raw milk products solves the problems associated with processed milk, may have more difficulty now obtaining raw milk, and will get more pressure to use pasteurized dairy products. And the whole issue of dairy product consumption is a hotbed of controversy.

It is illegal for dairies to produce and sell raw milk in 23 states. Consumers have found ways to get around these laws by buying milk directly from farmers. And in California and other states where raw milk is legal, dairies have been able to supply consumers with their products through health food stores. But state health departments frown on raw milk production and often go after dairies.

In California the health department has forced the Organic Pastures dairy to indefinitely stop all distribution and recall all raw dairy products from stores because of an alleged connection to four children who have E Coli illnesses. 

 

So far, this is still about the condition/quality of COW’s milk (just a reminder)

2008


From: Organic Consumers AssociationMore from this Affiliate 
Published April 7, 2008 08:22 AM

California Threatens to Outlaw Sales of Raw Milk

California raw milk producers warn that a new law to impose strict requirements on raw milk, will outlaw and require the disposal of perfectly safe milk. AB 1735 requires that all raw milk sold in California be tested for 10 coliform bacteria per milliliter or less. But raw milk producers and activists say that most coliform bacteria is perfectly safe, and that tests are already carried out for a handful of such bacteria, including E. coli 0157:h7 and Listeria monocytogenes, that can cause disease in humans. The new law does not require testing for those bacteria.

“My customers’ choices are now being limited by a law that makes no sense,” said Mark McAfee, owner of the country’s largest raw dairy, Organic Pastures. “Why test for coliform bacteria when you can test for pathogenic bacteria directly?” 

“Officials cite health risks to raw milk, but once milk has been pasteurized, all the anti-microbial and immune-supporting components are reduced or destroyed,” said Sally Fallon, founder of “A Campaign for Real Milk.” 

. . . 

MAY, 2008, some Canadians ex-press themselves on the general interface between raw milk, government health care (require raw-milk drinkers to opt out of health care coverage?), government interferences in daily life, and choice to smoke cigarettes, eat Twinkies, etc.

 

And here’s an interesting discussion, pro, con, complete with testimony and statements from propononents and opponents:

Is raw (cow’s) milk more healthful than pasteurized milk?

 

(A few links above led here also):

Now, back to Mama and MOTHER’s MILK (NB:  I think you need to have been a mother, or at least pregnant, before you can produce, although not having tried myself before I became pregnant, I can’t say for sure.) Anyhow, for the sake of consistency, I prefer “Mother’s” to “Human” milk.

 

2009

The Milk of Human Kindness – Uses for Human Breast Milk

News Type: Event — Sun Apr 26, 2009 12:19 AM PDT

Every year, the citizens of the United States drink on average 21 gallons of milk. Most of this milk is from cows. Ever since I heard that PETA wanted Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream to use human milk, {{For the record, yes, I DO object, women are not cows!  We are already being treated as surrogate mothers in the courts, and sometimes functioning as them in life.  Let’s keep it to the first part of life, and OK?  STOP the ObamaInterventionProgram to get them babies away from them Mamas and into child care (and her into WalMart or somewhere else) and put them back with their Moms.  It’s better for Moms, too.  Let’s learn how to take care of our relationships, for once in our life!}}{{There are already ads enough for women and men of a certain age to sell their eggs and sperm;DNK if blood;  too bad I missed them while trying to collect child support arrears}}

I {author, not blog author} have been researching about the advantages and uses of it. Here is what I have come up with.

)Human Breast Milk has been used as a medication for thousands of years. In the ancient world, breast milk was sometimes consumed as Medicine, in Fertility Rituals, and in other religious ceremonies. The Ancient Egyptians used are honey and human breast milk as medicine. Not only did they have medicinal values, they also are believed to have been used to ward off evil spirits and demons. It is even theorized that our ancestors not only breast fed their children during long migrations, but also breast fed their men too!

7) It helps fight off long term health problems. Breast milk can help prevent ear infections. People who drink it are less likely to develop asthma, Multiple Sclerosis, and help prevent some food allergies. It is said that Breastfeeding protects against cancer, helps prevent heart disease and even relaxes tension caused by stress . People with GI disorders and organ donation recipients also benefit from the immunologic powers of human breast milk. Talk about a health drink!!

Antibodies (also called Immunoglobulins) are made by the body’s immune system in an attempt to protect it from harmful substances such as bacteria, viruses, fungus, or animal dander. The antibodies work by attaching to these substances so that the immune system can destroy them.

There are five major types of antibodies: IgA, IgG, IgM, IgE, and IgD. All are found in breast milk. IgA antibodies protect body surfaces that are exposed to outside foreign substances. They are found primarily in the nose, breathing passages, digestive tract, ears, eyes, vagina, saliva and tears. This makes IgA particularly important for babies who are always putting things in their mouths.

In patients that are suffering from immunilogical diseases, such as AIDS, Leukemia, or Hepatitis, or patients recieving a therapy that deteriorates the immune system, such as chemo or radiation therapy, have shown the benefit when supplimenting their diets with human breast milk.

For more information:
http://www.breastfeeding.com/allabout.html

6) People are always complaining in the USA, about stupid people doing stupid things. People cutting us off, insulting us, and even lacking common sense. Well, turns out that Human Breast Milk may actually increase intelligence. Studies show breastfed infants have higher IQ s than bottle fed infants.

For more information:
http://www.breastfeeding.com/all_about/all_about_iq.html

5) Breastfed babies grow up to be leaner than bottle fed babies. Maybe it has to do with the fact that babies digestive systems are still in development. Then again, it maybe just that babies are trying to fill a psychological need with food. When a baby nurses with its mother, he is learning the basics of relationships. He is learning the recognize boundaries for good behavior, and what is not acceptable. The closeness that develops during breast feeding carries over to any relationships later in life. We, as Humans, learn by example.


Read more at:See full size image http://www.schizophrenia.com/sznews/archives/004125.html

{{NOTE:  this is a MAN speaking!  He’d never qualify for a government post….}}

There are more and more people considering the advantages of breast milk not just for the treatment of illness.

4) PETA wants Ben and Jerry’s ice cream made from Human Milk. People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals sent a letter to Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield, co founders of Ben & Jerry’s Homemade Inc., urging them to replace cow’s milk they use in their ice cream products with human breast milk, according to a statement recently released by a PETA spokeswoman.

more on this :
http://www.wptz.com/news/17539127/detail.html

3) Swiss restaurant to serve meals cooked with human breast milk . The owner of the Storchen restaurant in the exclusive Winterthur resort will improve his menu with local specialties such as meat stew and various soups and sauces containing at least 75 per cent of mother’s milk.

more on this:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/2976181/Swiss-restaurant-to-serve-meals-cooked-with-human-breast-milk.html

2) In France, a “dairy” produces Human Milk Cheese. Founded in 1947, the cheese Cosma was able to recover the wealth of a farmer ancestral tradition Ardennaise forgotten until then. Indeed, the Petit Singly, the only cheese with woman’s milk , has long remained in the shadow of specialty cheeses, ordinarily milk cow, goat or sheep.

In France, no other product of this quality is listed, the Petit Singly has managed over time refining its taste thanks to the expertise of the master cheese maker, Patrice Cosma. Tinged with a touch of hazelnut and a subtle caramel color, sweetness and its basis will only tempt you.

For more information on this:
http://membres.lycos.fr/petitsingly/

1) A Business in Miami, FL wants to promote the virtues of Human Breast Milk Ice cream. U.S. citizens consumed an average of 23 gallons of bovine milk in 2001. Quite an astonishing amount when you consider that Homosapiens are the only organisms known to consume milk beyond infancy. Even more extraordinary is the fact that humans are the only organisms that consume the milk of other animals!

Female mothers in the Class Mammalia produce nutrient-rich milk for consumption by their own newborn babies. Humans have attained the unique (and bizarre) position in the food web from which they exploit the reproductive cycle of other animals (particularly Bovidae) for food. Adding to the cultural mystique of milk consumption is the widely held taboo against consumption of human breast milk either by unrelated individuals or persons beyond some generally unspecified age.

It is the mission of MMICCo. to challenge the traditional paradigm that there is nothing abnormal about conversion of mammalian milk into luxury food items. Mother’s milk is a natural creation that we should celebrate, but is the milk of other species truly fair game for human consumption? If so, why isn’t human milk? Our hope is to provide a delicious frozen product while framing this conversation in a way that leads to fruitful progress in consideration of the ecological niche of Homosapiens.

For more information on this:
http://www.bio.miami.edu/muscarella/mothersmilkicecream.html

I do not understand why it would be OK to drink from a cow Teat, but not from a human Teat. I have found evidence to the detrimental effect of cow’s milk with Bovine Growth Hormone. One study not only shows evidence that it leads to obesity and excessive male breast development, but suggests that drinking nonorganic milk will give women a 42% higher chance, and men a 20% higher chance of developing Breast cancer.

Mostly, I wrote the article so that people will start questioning why we believe what we believe is OK. Society says it is OK to drink cow milk. Society also says we should expect politicians to lie, judges to take bribes, and car dealers to try to rip us off. How far back are we personally willing to push the boundaries of what society says is acceptable? Is it worth it, to improve your health?

Here are some more informative sites for further information:

This one is the world famous La Leche League, promoting Worldwide Awareness to the benefits of Brestfeeding

Legislative records show that raw milk dairies were specifically discussed during the debate on AB 1735, but neither raw milk producers nor consumers were consulted on the legislation

Hmm, there is a certain parallel to the low-income parents who were being randomly studied, categorized, and legislated about when it comes to family law, as well.  Not to mention, I do not recall a NATIONAL poll at any time on the wisdom of fatherhood becoming the new state religion, moreso than, say, motherhood.  I wonder how many of the about 50% of the US population (women, i.e.) were indeed consulted by the legislators (primarily male), governors (I believe ditto), and pastors (probably still so), etc. promoting these policies.

Finally, my last “find” on the issue of, at least, cow’s milk.  Be sure to check out the study on link to cancer:

http://www.milksucks.com/index2.asp

A question comes up, as to pushing milk in the school cafeterias.  I have worked in an urban area (more than one, actually), where it could be sarcastically but with some relevance said, the major health risks were homicide and diabetes.  Some people, and populations, have allergies to cow’s milk.  The aspect of the public schools as a dairy-dumping ground comes to mind.  

Just because it can be mass-produced doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.

I think this commentary goes for almost any primary aspect of life, including parenting, education, families, fatherhood, and nursing.

I think trying to indoctrinate an entire country from the top-down is an oppressive, fat burdensome Big Brother.  Or is that, “Mama”?

Only, it ain’t motherhood, these days, it’s fatherhood.  Time to let go of the oral fixation on making pronouncements, in private, and enforcing them upon the general public.  And when they don’t work out as planned, making more pronouncements, and telling the general public, we’re out of funding.

Let’s get off that virtual teat, OK?

And create (how?) a brave, new, world than this one.

 

On reflection, I omitted an important year, in my chronology of human food, above:

1984

 Like George Orwell’s 1984, this novel (Brave New World) depicts a dystopia in which an all-powerful state controls the behaviors and actions of its people in order to preserve its own stability and power. But a major difference between the two is that, whereas in 1984 control is maintained by constant government surveillance, secret police, and torture, power in Brave New World is maintained through technological interventions that start before birth and last until death, and that actually change what people want. The government of 1984 maintains power through force and intimidation. The government of Brave New World retains control by making its citizens so happy and superficially fulfilled that they don’t care about their personal freedom. In Brave New World the consequences of state control are a loss of dignity, morals, values, and emotions—in short, a loss of humanity.

Rhetorical Questions about the Rhetoric

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This was originally my long intro to the Boyhood project post.  Then I had mercy on the readers, and split the post in two, saving my sarcasm (and the graphics) for this one, and splitting off the more sensible discussion to the previous post (“Suicide, Incarceration — a guy thing..”)

I have long felt that some of the difficulties the US Lower, and Disappearing Middle Class is experiencing today were intentional and pre-programmed.  I have long felt that the monopoly on public education had more causes than even the jobs bank it obviously is.  The dysfunction is necessary to the employee  / consumer / militaristic economy.  If I had to choose between causes, in my 50s plus (without further specifying!), I have debated with friends whether to go after the family law system dysfunction, or the educational system dysfunction.

Again, the word “DYS”function depends on one’s point of view.  If that point of view is of having assets sufficient to generate wealth for onesself and one’s offspring (or sufficient to TEACH them how to do this), the “Dys” seems quite optional.   

Anyhow I hope today’s post is a break from boredom, and taking ourselves too seriously in the supposed matter of He vs. She.

 

MEN:

Aren’t you BORED with all the postings about the domestic violence homicide/suicide/familycide statistics, and people who blame it on women (including some of the women killed) for leaving their men to start with?  (Same rationale would complain about runaway slaves over a century ago…)  Aren’t you BORED with all the pro and con drivel about Parental Alienation (It’s junk science.  It’s God’s truth. It’s abuse of children.  It’s used to counter valid accusations of child abuse, etc.)

Aren’t even some of you bored with the “promoting responsible fatherhood” news articles (timed to Mother’s Day) reporting it as if it just sprang up unaided from the grassroots folk, or full-grown from the reporter’s sudden discovery of these issues, naked like Venus from a seashell, or for that matter, Athena, fully armed, from Zeus’s head?  **

Zeus Giving Birth to Athena

How many of you do not really buy the concept that feminism did the same, fully grown out and supposedly unaided, from women’s own heads?  

Not even “Eve” (for you fundamentalist Bible-thumpers, if not readers) just sprang out of Adam’s side,  but was surgically (and  while Adam was unconscious, in a deep sleep) extracted by God for companionship, not for being treated and trained like a dog….

 

 

 (Although by the time of this version, ca. 1493 century,  before she was fully born, it appears she was getting lectured….).  By the time of, say, the Civil War, USA, the desired shape, state, and color of the future “Mrs. Adam” was at least per Steinhardt, pale, naked, innocent, inactive).

Anyone who has been around competent dogtrainers realizes that abuse is not part of this, and that using a single woman individually for a punching bag, or ALL women verbally, for a rhetorical punching bag, and justifying it on some lofty ideal makes  — or should! — a public laughingstock.  

Kind of like many women have their wombs surgically extracted, for profit, often for frivolous reasons, called “hysterectomies,” and they we are protrayed as “hysterical.”  Kind of like children are often surgically extracted from stable households, also for pay and on frivolous causes.  Doing this,  reporting this, and analyzing this is BIG business:  in fact, is driving institutes, centers, and majors in reputable universities around the USA.  (But, not the topic of this post). 

No, the births of most ideas, & doctrines take time and don’t just drop onto the scene fully-formed!  Feminism, like “responsible fatherhood,” has identifiable benchmarks, history, and spokespersons.  

WOMEN:

Aren’t you BORED with the:  All divorced or unmarried single mothers receiving welfare or protesting abuse are:  lying about the abuse;feminazi lesbians intent on destroying, God, country, and the family; and  while we’re at it, so is VAWA. Are you bored with hearing how women (unless we are married, staying at home with 2.5 children and not on welfare) are all out to soak their exes and are gold-digging bitches who should’ve remembered their place in society, and in general, poor men?  {{Ignoring who went to the factories while men went to war in the early 1900s}} Or that we’re having babies to get child support or welfare?  Or that if one woman was caught making up a rape or child abuse report, or abusing a child, therefore we ALL are and should be suspect if we do?

Are you bored yet, with the prolonged conflict, artificially generated, between the government-sponsored Healthy Marriage, Family, Fatherhood rah-rah in the court systems (and associated realms), and the sensitivity-training in the (almost bankrupt, and non-literacy producing) public schools, as to LGBT, how innocuous Islam is and awful right-wing Christianity is (In reality, the latter is drawing closer to the former when it comes to women).

Are there others around who have questioned, like me, whether the REAL “divide and conquer” Family Law policies may not actually be Men vs. Women, but Haves vs. Have-nots?  The students with the material studied (i.e, populaces), And have noticed the uncomfortable resemblance between social and behavior sciences (including at times their history) and eugenics, and other atrocities that supposedly the World Wars I & II addressed and are skeptical that our “new, improved” system of compulsory education {design dating back to the Industrial Age, and formatted after Prussian military regime, with a mixture of anti-Catholicism for good measure} will teach children fair-mindedness, and good human values, and is NOT a replication of indoctrination systems from other, prior, totalitarian regimes?

 

TERMINAL BOREDOM BY RHETORIC

In my personal life, other than the DV, the frightening aspects, the chaotic and backwards financial policy of my years of abuse, the OTHER times I was determined to get out was when being subjected to yet another (long) lecture on:

  • Men rule, because of their Y chromosome (anatomical reference deleted)
  • Women should shut up, because they aren’t smart enough to have input into “the big picture.”
  • It’s been this way since Eve, which you are (when I wasn’t , alternately, “Satan”)

I didn’t put it on my TRO, but death of psyche by conversational boredom was also a hazard of not leaving that situation.  No matter, the other valid reasons (including weapons, and use of them, etc.) were on there.  

Face to face with this behavior, or publically exposed through the airwaves, it’s not funny.  It results in real blood and death.  There are similarities between this rhetoric and propaganda preceding genocides, or attempted genocides, in recent centuries.  Step ONE is to objectify and dehumanize the targets, and blaming them for society’s woes.  The next step is purging.  After a while, one becomes sensitive to the pre-purge talk.  People become aligned with group identities, losing their own in the crowd and gangs.  

Anything that can draw us/you/them all out into humanity, which includes dialogue, embrace, empathy and accountability (ability to sometimes be part of a community, but to have a separate identity from this as well) will help reduce, I believe, the damages.  

I used to function in the expressive arts (particularly music).  

 

In the next post, I speak back to some more NON-sense, drum-beating, war-talk on feminism.    

  • For example, overlooking the topic of PTSD in returning war veterans, instead blaming women for trying to protect themselves from it, and their kids, in returning traumatized men.
  • For example, linguistic confusion with the concepts in the “Declaration of Independence” (let alone Constitution & Bill of Rights) with a concept so vague and all-encompassing as “Patriarchy.”  Fools! — King George was “patronizing” (a.k.a. “using!”) the colonies, a.k.a. he was pimping/exploiting them.
  • As to “Feminazi” (an attempt to associate Feminism with Nazi-ism.  In fact, the compass points the exact opposite direction:  Wikepedia, for what it’s worth, has this to say:

Usage

Feminazi is a portmanteau of the nouns feminist and Nazi. The on-line version of the Merriam-Webster dictionary defines the term as used in a “usually disparaging” manner, to describe “an extreme or militant feminist”.[2]

[edit]Popularization

The term was popularized by conservative talk-show host Rush Limbaugh, who credited his friend Tom Hazlett, a professor of law and economics at George Mason University, with coining the term.[3] Limbaugh originally stated that the word “feminazi” refers to unspecified women whose goal is to allow as many abortions as possible, saying at one point that there were fewer than twenty-five true feminazis in the U.S.[6]

In practice Limbaugh has used the term “feminazi” for much wider contexts. Limbaugh also used the term to refer to members of the National Center for Women and Policing, the Feminist Majority Foundation,

and the National Organization for Women, which has over 500,000 members.[7][8][9] 

[edit]Criticism

Some consider use of the term “feminazi” ironic because feminists and other political dissenters were among the victims of Nazi concentration camps and Nazi work camps.[11]Gloria Steinem said in an interview, “Hitler came to power against the strong feminist movement in Germany, padlocked the family planning clinics, and declared abortion a crime against the state—all views that more closely resemble Rush Limbaugh’s.”[12] Many prominent German feminists like Helene StöckerTrude Weiss-Rosmarin and Clara Zetkin were forced to flee Nazi Germany.

{{Comments:  In the “Non-Sense” counterpart to this post, I highlight the VERY militant talk from the masculinity-mongers.

Other than Helen of Troy’s beauty (and was it really her fault?), I feel it safe to say, women are not launching ships and wars.

Calling feminists militant is sort of the pot calling the kettle black…}}

 

Seems to me that somewhere in there, freedom of religion was a force in some people brought to the U.S.  Slavery was another.  Fleeing oppression in other countries (or famine) was another.  Now, we are exporting oppression from the USA worldwide, and through a variety of institutions.  One has to ask, why?

 

Mythology . . Violence. . . 

 

More on “Athena”:

Source:  http://www.richeast.org/htwm/Athena/athena.html

“The birth of Athena, chief of the three virgin goddesses, can accurately be pictured if you imagine an earthquake measuring 8.6 on the Richter Scale, Hurricane Andrew and an eclipse taking place simultaneously. According to Murray (1895), the goddess of warfare was born from the mighty head of Zeus, with Hephaestos performing the delivery by using his tools to smash Zeus’s head open. Athena was the product of the union brought about when Zeus swallowed his lover, Metis, the goddess of prudence. Zeus was warned by Earth that the son they would have together would prove more powerful than himself and would be murdered by his son just as Zeus had murdered his father, Cronus. Zeus decided that he must prevent this and take action. Casually, he proposed that Metis play a game of changing shapes and when in the shape of a fly, Zeus opened his mouth and swallowed her. For a while after, Metis sat in his head and when it was decided that she was to have a daughter, Metis wove a grand robe. When Zeus started suffering from painful headaches and crying out in agony, Athena was delivered. She was fully armed and grown, sporting her aegis, a protective goatskin that contained magical powers.”

USA: “Fathers, Return!” UK: “Mothers, Give us your Children!”

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Some posts virtually write themselves from the news articles.  These two from the TIMES UK reflect the current dismissive attitude towards women in particular, and non-court-experts in general.

 

Another insane event in the serial, unfortunately NON-fiction, documentary of

Designer-Families by Family Court Fiat:

 

What are we human beings, giving birth, being biologically related to each other, an affront to the state on that basis?  Are we clay to be manipulated emotionally, psychologically, and geographically  — particularly if we don’t fit a certain IQ limit, household construction, or actually, as MOMs, want to see & hug our own children, and not get governmental permission to do so after producing them through  conception, 9 months or so gestation, labor (which IS work!), and delivery?

There was an  older book in the US for women called “Our Bodies, Our Selves”

It must be obsolete, I guess.  Now, ladies, you are channels for the adoption industry, your religion (or his), you are surrogate mothers, and fatherhood enablers.  Unless you maintain rigorous adherence to stipulations that are, well, not exactly published openly, by your local government, apparently whatever your country of origin.  Or, remain off the radar by staying married (no matter what the cost), and not complaining if your offspring is strip-searched at the local school (Samantha Redding), and not getting cancer and hoping for an alternative treatment (many parents), by not openly declining a public education system known to be inferior (me), and not reporting domestic violence, child abuse, or attempting to collect child support when Dad don’t want to pay.  In short, if we lay down FLAT after giving birth to children, perhaps no one will notice, and our maternal bond may survive — however, this may not be the best role model for sons or daughters.

These articles would be entertaining if they were, in fact, fictional. Allegedly, they are not.

 

“Mother too “stupid” to keep child” and “Court takes child of “stupid” mother, were mis-filed under women & families in the Times, and should be, I believe either under politics or under:

Totalitarianism:  A User’s Manual”

 

How to Promote Responsible Fatherhood?

The man in Tennessee (last night’s post) has 21 children to choose from, none of which he plans to support, and he will be hard put to comply with “national fathers’ return” policy without violating other laws against polygamy.  As a low-income father, he would be for whom the child-support arrears abatement programs (as run through the family law system via the US Dept. of Health & Human Services), he would be a prime candidate.

 

How to Eliminate Loving Motherhood:

This 24-year-old woman in England was stamped, judged, labeled, and ordered to give up a 3- year old daughter she loves because she’s not “smart” enough, despite having been found smart enough to understand the court process!

(note:  When I first heard the article, I thought I might have found a legal standing for getting my kids back, until I remembered which genders were involved….)

Apparently the adoption market is slow?, and so this woman was simply declared unable, and thus, forbidden to represent herself (with her choice of solicitor) in court in this matter,  given a government solicitor who then ignored her instructions to protest the forced adoption.  

Later, a psychiatrist declared her competent enough, but the (family) court still replied “we are not impressed.”

She couldn’t be too stupid, because this case is going up a notch to the international level.

Nor were her parents (too old) or her 27 year old brother allowed to assist her with her own daughter, on which he comments:

 

Rachel’s brother Andrew and their parents all offered their services but were rejected for reasons varying from being too old to having played truant from school.

Andrew, an articulate 27-year-old, said: “The guardian that the court appointed for K even said that I have learning difficulties, although she had never met me. These people are ridiculous. What’s worse, the judges overlook it and still think they are credible professionals.”

 

I am concerned about copyright compliance and hope readers will themselves check out these two articles.

 

The Sunday Times
May 31, 2009

Mother ‘too stupid’ to keep child

 Daniel Foggo

A MOTHER is taking her fight to the European Court of Human Rights after she was forbidden from seeing her three-year-old daughter because she is not “clever enough” to look after her.

The woman, who for legal reasons can be identified only by her first name, Rachel, has been told by a family court that her daughter will be placed with adoptive parents within the next three months, and she will then be barred from further contact.

The adoption is going ahead despite the declaration by a psychiatrist that Rachel, 24, has no learning difficulties and “good literacy and numeracy and [that] her general intellectual abilities appear to be within the normal range”.

> > > > >. . . . .

After the psychiatrist’s assessment of Rachel, the court has now acknowledged that she does have the mental capacity to keep up with the legal aspects of her situation. It has nevertheless refused her attempts to halt the adoption process.

John Hemming, Liberal Democrat MP for Birmingham Yardley, who is campaigning on Rachel’s behalf, said: “The way Rachel has been treated is appalling. She has been swept aside by a system that seems more interested in securing a child for adoption than preserving a natural family unit.”

 

 

And in the related article:

Court takes child of “stupid” mother

Rachel protested and secured a solicitor to give her a voice in the family court. But by the time of the crucial placement hearing her pleas had been silenced. This was because her “stupidity” had been used as a means to deny her something else: the right to instruct a lawyer.

Instead, the official solicitor was brought in to speak for Rachel. Alastair Pitblado, the government-funded official, is appointed by the courts to represent the interests of those who cannot make their own case, such as mentally incapacitated people.

. . . .

Rachel’s protests over her treatment were dismissed. The official solicitor had acted “entirely properly” in capitulating to the council since Rachel’s case was “unarguable”, the Court of Appeal ruled.

The decisions of the family court and the appeal court relied upon reports drawn up by a psychologist 

However, according to a new report by a leading psychiatrist, Rachel is far from deficient. He said she had “demonstrated that she has more than an adequate knowledge of court proceedings”.

“She has good literacy and numeracy and her general intellectual abilities appear to be within normal range,” he wrote in a report.

“She has no previous history of learning disability or mental illness and did not receive special or remedial education.

“Rachel fully understands the nature of the current court proceedings, can retain them, weigh the information and can communicate both verbally and in writing.”

 

Actions Concerned Women (potential mothers) might take:

 

I have been considering this for a while, as a woman who did education and professional work first, and had something to offer our children as well as husband, I had children around 40 years old.  The abuse began almost immediately, and lasted about 10 years, til I finally figured out where was the legal advocate to help it stop.  Apart from two daughters, intentional, not accidental, those years were a nightmare, a danger, and an eye-opener.  They also just about trashed my ability to work in this profession, and DID close down my credit.  I kept, energetically, reforming and resourcefully creating myself in work to survive — while negotiating down and working off arts and other classes for growing daughters, keeping at least THEM in music, languages, art, etc., and from this point, meeting a variety of interesting professionals and other intact families, including some professional women, some stay-at-home Moms, and others.  I was allowed to do this “for the children,” but attempts to engage myself were strongly resisted, and sometimes punished for, or threatened out of.  

Two years off Food Stamps post-marriage, the case was re-directed into Family Court.  Not knowing, I didn’t protest and seek how to get it back into the point at hand:  Renewing a standing restraining order.

After Five Years of that, and escalations, I have become unemployed, lost both kids, dis-illusioned, alienated, still without credit (and now, car) and back on Food Stamps — I again, hope, temporarily.  My attempt to separate from abuse (without separating the children from my abuser, who was their father) in effect separated me 100% from my family of origin, profession, faith communities (for the most part) and very much alienated from the institutions I formerly took for granted.  

I encouraged the non-alienated mainstream to also no longer take these for granted in ANY aspect.

I became more and more radical feminist in views, understanding more fully now how this was simply a response to insulting degradation of women throughout the world. ln the USA, women went to work to replace men who went to war. Then they came back and we were to go back also and become the idealized “nuclear” family, warm, fuzzy, nostalgic, and prosperous (see Norman Rockwell).  The GI Bill and other government initiativesi (plus some of our parents’ hard work) made possible college educations.


We got our college educations and did the logical thing with them — went to work.  Some of us also sought meaning in other communities, including religion (propserity is not a ‘religion’) and/or service within our fields of study.  Others I know did Peace Corps.  I conversed regularly and on many topics and in many venues, with men and women from other continents, and who had been raised in them.  Zaire, Ethiopia, Belize, Nigeria, Switzerland, Finland, Norway, Spain, Mexico, Kenya.  USA:  East Coast, Midwest, Southerners, West Coast.  Educational levels:  GED through Ph.D.  Faiths:  Christian (several brands), Catholic, Atheist/Agnostic, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, Unitarian, undeclared.  For the most part, these were not problematic.  We worked or studied and hung out, period.  

Then I married someone who looked like me and whose family appeared to have a similar background.  I loved him and married in good faith and with honest intents, expecting that our marriage would be a mutual work in progress, not that I would become this person’s “project” as soon as vows were exchanged.  I did not do a criminal background check, and probably might have explored medical family history as well.  No one was mentoring or watching in these matters.  I married someone who came from similar religious background, and seemed articulate.  My family of origin were not Christians or significant points of reference, and never really had been, the majority of my life.  We all just went and did what we did, period, in different parts of the country and for different reasons.  Asking advice and sharing insight was never really on the family menu, and communication was scant in general.

And shortly after marriage, all hell broke loose.  The main theme of the marriage became “domination,” “reformation” and “assume the position!, (doormat)” particularly after I was pregnant with second daughter.  This theme was carried out in front of many of the similar types of associates, as I was able to reach them by either employment, or daughters’ school contacts, or within reason family.  

We spiraled through a series of pastors and churches,  most if not all of who knew that physical abuse was happening in the home, and did not know or refer me to law, and did not intervene, though plenty of strong young men were associated and, had that been in their vocabulary, certainly could’ve.   It was also commonly known that my husband was attempting to keep me without transportation or access to a bank account, that I had to beg for necessities and struggle at times for clothes.  No one felt it appropriate to transgress the castle in the home as to, how we were doing things within it.  

It was known that we were often uninsured by choice, after which an accident happened at his work, requiring surgery.  I dashed from my home job (a rare music lesson) at his phone call, to help, literally, pick up the pieces, followed him to the hospital (DNR exact location) to have a slice of his bone put into another place for health. For a month, I helped this injured man use the restroom and dress [[wrists being hurt]] after this accident, and thereafter, when the people that had operated on him called, wanting their cash, I negotiated with them a reduction in the bills, which was accepted, and but not respected by the same father who had at this time control of our cash flow.  . . . .  As I had small children, and other responsibilities at home, it was becoming irritating interrupting my business to handle his, but without follow-through, and in the context when I’d already urged that actual health/accident insurance be gotten for him, AND us, an idea rejected like many others. An expensive “cost-savings” it turned out to be, too.

I helped him through tax season and we all helped with tools, sometimes the extensive laundry, and occasionally on the job (construction). 

I also worked, trying not to provoke anger by being too highly recognized at any particular type of work, and for several years sought permission (!) to enroll in a University extension to learn a different skill, as mine was “tabu.”  Finally, I asked a relative to provide the first tuition, took the emotional retaliation for this, and proceded to complete three courses in this field, with a good grade average, and get job referrals from the professor.  Attempts were made to sabotage my participation (through withholding transportation, or delaying child care even in the home).  The same techniques that worked earlier getting me out of my chosen profession worked also in jeopardizing other types of work.  Mail was intercepted and some of it tossed; I got a private PO box:  not acceptable.  I started a business from home on a dime:  not acceptable.  Finally I was ordered to work FT nights, and write in my salary on his applicatino for credit (not to be shared).  By this time, I was in compliance mode, and thereafter attempted to separately contact the credit company as to the “coercion” factor in my signaure they’d just seen.  It was too late, and one of the major mistakes of this marriage.

Things continued to escalate, including weapons, physical injury and in general, I was getting more and more frightened, and the house more and more dysfunctional (utilities-wise).  The safest place for my children and me to be appeared to be NOT at home, which is a crazy half-lifestyle.  I couldn’t fully “exhale” at home, for the most part, except while engaged in acivities with the girls.  Routines were not respected, or schedules, and the constant interruptions kept one off-balance.

Due to attempts to keep me carless we spent lots of time on public transportation, which is great for teaching children to read (so many signs with large letters, all CAPS:  Stop, Door, Exit, Open, and so forth), but lousy for efficiency, and very frustrating.  Little distances, such as even as few as 3-4 miles, sometimes took hours to go, with stroller and bags and two toddlers.   

After such difficulty for those years, it was important and unbelievably empowering to have operational control over my own life.  Results began to be tied again to effort, and not consistently sabotaged to create failures.  Even moderate successes provided their own incentive and energies.  Some momentum was built up during these years while the restraining order was on.

To be institutionally forced and emotionally blackmailed into a state of taking arbitrary orders again grates on the soul.  The concept of moving forward in life and expecting to take 5 steps in a row has basically left my thinking — at some point, the psyche won’t stick its neck out again.  I am currently working on this, and on ways to remove my exposure to sudden sabotage again, because by now the stakes (and debt) seem higher, there is less reservoir of good will in the general community (based on work performed for them) and there is this energy/age factor.  

It’s been a good exercise, but my brain is tired indeed, and what I had been working for — children, and profession – are out of the picture for now, and I can’t see yet that progress or results even happened.  This is how it goes trying to leave a controlling personality who is able to locate other controlling personalities to work with him, and find institutions to support the same premise.   Many things get sloughed off in the process, and lots of “idols” bite the dust (which is good, obviously).  Hope gets detached from the immediate and hinged onto the more philosophical.   If that explanation is helpful. 

 

Trying to put some themes to all of this, and in the larger historical (last few decades in my country) context, the clearest one I can see is male backlash to feminism, as expressed through a variety of male-designed institutions.  Women are quite as much involved in hating and oppressing themselves, or others, and this is hard to take and see.


We get this situation where a woman is too “stupid,” supposedly, to raise her own child that she loves, and where family members who also love her and would like to support the situation (handling the “safety” concern) were automatically discredited.  However, in cases (USA, Sheila Riggs) where a separating mother seeks to protect her four children from TWO generations of abusers who ARE relatives, she is jailed, and an inter-state battle develops (California/Texas) on the issue.  Another woman has to flee the U.S. to protect her children.  Yet in the UK, a woman with supportive family is still going to have her daughter forced out for adoption, unless she can win in court.

It appears, on networking and reading, that my situation is common after abuse in marriage:

IN the marriage, we were suddenly hated for being too independent, too educated, and too “uppity.”  Our bodies, including sensitive parts of them, including neck, nipples, womb, face, teeth, buttocks, are targeted for assault as well as many times personal property (symbolic destruction of valued things), relationships with outsiders, and engagement with the world outside the home.  If we try to lie down flat enough, we are hated for being too passive.  If we stand up tall, we are hated for standing up tall.  Finding no safe way to “be,” let alone be ourSELVES, fully human, we then get help and evict the batterer to protect our bodies and (many women, this becomes  the thing that saved THEM, because after a point, they don’t care about themselves so much), we wanted to protect our CHILDREN.


So we go to court, becoming single, and separate, getting a restraining order.

For a while, this functions, sort of, and lives are stabilized and rebuilt.  Perhaps we seek child support, perhaps we seek a 2nd relationship, perhaps we simply seek to grow more independent — and we are then in family court fighting AGAIN for independence.  We again seek help and sanctuary elsewhere.


In many faith communities, we are again hated or treated suspiciously for being SINGLE, having divorced our man.  Sometimes the families that didn’t protect (or teach boundaries to start with) dismiss us again for being single (this was my case), which is translated in the communal mind as “reverting to infantile,” when the fact of th ematter is, we had a fast course in growing up, and wise to the evils and dangers in this world, AND doing something mature — fight back, seek protection, or flee.  Those are adult-level survival skills, and no sign of being infantile.

Nonprofits direct such women here, there, and so and so.  Not knowing the full scope of the politics, the courts, or our legal rights yet, we sometimes sign away portions of them.  We compromise the Full Stop NO!! unintentionally.  We still thing that the basic institutions represent us and will help, and, mentally, do not suspect THEM of being as dishonest, volatile, and abusive as our ex (or, extended family, Or, extended community) was.  Surely he was the abnormality and the exception.

We go instead of to nonprofits, to law, to law enforcement, and to refusing to bargain away any more rights, and find THAT system hostile to women.


Researching, in stunned distress (and many years later), WHY, we (I speak for myself and others I have dealt with), manage to get infrastructure enough going, process a LOT of dialogue, and find out that it’s coming from our FEderal government, and has been going on for over a decade, Presidents Republican and Democrat alike and fueled in great part by some of our own religions.


We follow the news, noticing what indicators preceded the latest family wipeout, foster care disgrace, or failed situation.  We follow (I have) research institutes dedicated to “violence against women” and absorb adn believe their statistics, only to learn that equally powerful and widespread associations, well-positioned, are spreading doctrines, year after year, and with far more funding than we have, that DIRECTLY oppose what we just read in a reputable source  (I refer to NCJRS justice database in the US, and other sites listed on my blogroll).  The truth is out, but few are interested.


I also strategically examined WHY is it that each time I go to court, I lose something significant, no matter how ridiculous the accusation, and how easily available evidence to the contrary is. I learned a strategic principle:  It seems the courts / judges don’t like women who appear to be informed; and they DO apparently sense a kinship with men who commit crimes.  They do not respect compliance with their own court orders, or see it as a character indicator, although disobedience by a woman can be severely and quickly punished.


I analyze the fact that I have been in analysis mode too much, although that happens to be still safer for me than in action mode, which typically provokes a retaliation.  In this Dizzy DMZ manner of life, time moves on.

I hope that that “stupid” British woman can outsmart the court that labeled her, hire a psychologist to evaluate their behavior(s), and get them to give up more kids trapped in spheres of influence.  A spiderweb comes to mind.

 

Other means I have considered:  A female moratorium of about six months (worldwide if possible) not just on sex, but also on child-bearing.  It’s clear that to enforce the moratorium on sex, we’d have to find a safe place for all the minor children, boys and girls.  We would inform the gentlemen that (for a change) if THEY would be good boys, they will be rewarded, physically and emotionally.

That is, of course, the message women have been given, century after century.

This of course is impossible, but it would seem that if auto workers can strike, or other laborers, well, why not US?  Why should we as a gender be colonized?  That “sucks,” if you pardon the colloquialism.

I’m sure this would be gladly espoused by the healthy marriage folks (like the pun?), and probably resisted with open “arms.”  Yes, this is obviously hypothetical, temporary in nature, and probably not possible.  

But at least it might be a break from Designer Family by Court Decree, which is a recipe for women, as well as now men, becoming emotionally detached from the “Fruit of the Womb”

With the word “Islam” meaning submission, and the other religions placing a premium on this, and with the federal governments, courts, schools, etc., across the world also demanding submission in the name of (whatever the current greater good is), I am not hopeful for any worldwide solution.

It’s not the pay, it’s the ability to retain a relationship with the fruits of our labor, that is at stake here.


Irresponsible Behavior in Promoting Responsible Fatherhood

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I was ALMOST done for today, when I saw again another site of a man protesting the DV laws.  

Being the snoop that I have become (bloodhound when I smell a rat?), I went from this link back through “Equal Justice Foundation” (which has automatic contributions from Federal Employees, but promotes known fatherhood shucksters, hucksters, lawyers, and media experts, including this one):

 

Barack Obama on the Jeffrey Leving Radio Show

It even has captions for the audio-impaired, which my PC currently is.

Here’s another resounding promotion of FATHERHOOD a few days before MOTHER’s Days, from these same two.  At first I thought it was related directly to the “fatherhood woes” MSNBC article I recently commented on.

“Obama and Leving To Endorse Responsible Fatherhood on Soul 106”

Chicago May 9. PR/Newswire:  Attorney Jeff Leving’s Exclusive interview with  Presidential Hopeful Senator Barack Obama will appear on the Jeffrey Leving Father’s Legal Rights Radio Show  on (what appears to be close to Mother’s Day 2008, again……).

The Focus of the Inteview will be on Obama’s Responsible Fatherhood and Healthy Families Act that he re-introduced.  As President, Obama will sign this family-strengthening act into law.  (after him here comes Senator Evan Bayh, same deal).  Fatherhood woes, MY EYE!

Less than a year later, in the same Land of Lincoln, a Governor was arrested for attempting to sell Obama’s Senate seat.  

(Link is the 12/08/08 Times online.UK report,)

The Governor of Illinois was arrested yesterday for allegedly trying to sell Barack Obama’s vacated US Senate seat to the highest bidder.

The arrest of Rod Blagojevich and John Harris, his chief of staff, cast a light on the home state of the President-elect, which has a history of endemic corruption.

The charges include allegations that the Democratic governor, who has served two-terms, conspired with Antoin “Tony” Rezko, a former friend and political donor of Mr Obama, in schemes requiring individuals and companies to pay kickbacks in return for state contracts.


This appears to be business as usual.  (The Oldest Profession — Salesmanship).  (AND the 2nd oldest, in a sense….)

Here is the SENATE Task Force on Responsible Fatherhood (Bear in mind — this task force is at least 10 years old)

http://www.fatherhood.org/tf_senate.asp

Members are invited to speak at NFI events held throughout the country, including Congressional briefings and the annual Fatherhood Awards Gala, and are regularly updated on any developments and new research findings relevant to the fatherhood movement.

The Senate Task Force is co-chaired by Senator Evan Bayh (D – IN) and Senator John Thune (R-SD).

 

The Members of the Senate Task Force:
Lisa Murkowski – AK
John McCain – AZ
Christopher Dodd – CT
Michael Crapo – ID
Sam Brownback – KS
Barbara Mikulski – MD
Arlen Specter – PA
Robert Bennett – UT
Jeff Sessions – AL
Jon Kyl – AZ
Tom Harkin – IA
Pat Roberts – KS
Mitch McConnell – KY
Mary Landrieu – LA
Edward Kennedy – MA
Susan Collins – ME
Olympia Snowe – ME
James Inhofe – OK
Jim DeMint – SC
Tim Johnson – SD
Kay Bailey Hutchison – TX
Orrin Hatch – UT
Mike Enzi – WY

Here is the “Congressional” One (i..e, House of Reps, I gather):
Being a member of the Congressional Task Force on Responsible Fatherhood signifies a commitment to the responsible fatherhood movement and a
devotion to supporting legislation that promotes and fosters responsible fatherhood. Members are invited to speak at NFI events that are held throughout the country, including Congressional briefings and the Annual Fatherhood Awards Gala, and are regularly updated on any developments and new research findings relevant to the fatherhood movement.

 

 

WAIT A MINUTE!  AREN’T THERE ELECTED REPRESENTATIVES?  

 

 

ARE THEY NOT LEGALLY RESPONSIBLE TO ALSO REPRESENT THE INTERESTS OF THE MOTHERS IN THEIR CONSTITUENCIES, AND INFORM THOSE MOTHERS AS WELL AS THOSE FATHERS, WHAT’S UP?  ARE NOT WOMEN APPROXIMATELY HALF THE POPULATION IN THESE STATES AND MOST LIKELY DISTRICTS? THEN WHY ARE THESE ELECTED REPRESENTATIVES SIGNING ON, CARTE-BLANCHE, TO A “MOVEMENT”??


The Congressional Task Force is chaired by

Reps. Joseph Pitts (R-PA), Mike McIntyre (D-NC),

Robert Aderholt (R-AL), John Sullivan (R-OK), and Eleanor Holmes Norton (D-DC).

The Members of the Congressional Task Force:
Dennis Cardoza – CA-18
Bob Filner – CA-51
Jack Kingston – GA-1
David Scott – GA-13
Sanford Bishop – GA-2
Luis Gutierrez – IL-4
Donald Manzullo – IL-16
Daniel Lipinski – IL-3
Mark Souder – IN-3
Mike Pence – IN-6
John Sarbanes – MD-3
Elijah Cummings – MD-7
Chris Van Hollen – MD-8
Roy Blunt – MO-7
Bob Etheridge – NC-2
Walter Jones – NC-3
Sue Myrick – NC-9
Lee Terry – NE-2
Donald Payne – NJ-10
Peter King – NY-3
Todd Platts – PA-19
Joe Wilson – SC-2
John Duncan – TN-2
Zach Wamp – TN-3
Kay Granger – TX-12
Chet Edwards – TX-17
Solomon Ortiz – TX-27
Frank Wolf – VA-10
J. Randy Forbes – VA-4


 

What IS this, a perpetual motion machine, administration to administration?  

http://www.responsiblefatherhood.com/aboutthecouncil.html

The Illinois Council on Responsible Fatherhood is a state commission established by the Illinois State Legislature to promote the positive involvement of both parents in the lives of their children.

 It’s very name indicates the truth.  It has assumed that women are most normally the caretakers of the children, and because of this, and ONLY because of this, has chosen to try to equal the balance by  representing the interests of fathers.  Across the board.

 

Our Mission
The mission of the Illinois Council on Responsible Fatherhood is to significantly increase the number of children in Illinois that grow up with a responsible father in their lives. We seek to do this through:

1) Raising public awareness of the impact of father absence on children

2) Assisting state agencies and other service providers the resources they need to promote responsible fatherhood

3) Reforming perceptions within state agencies and other service providers regarding the role of fathers as parents

4) Advocating for programs, policies and legislation that will encourage the positive involvement of fathers 

The Responsible Fatherhood Act
Signed into law – Aug. 5, 2003

Judge Stuttley – February 16th, 2008 Symposium on Parental Alienation Syndrome

{{The American Prosecutors Research Institute discredited this as far back as 2003.  Didn’t deter Judge Stuttley, I suppose….}}


Alex Roseborough – March 1st, 2008 Symposium on Psychology and the Law and Its Affects on Fatherhood

{{that’s “Effects,” . . .. }}

Jeffery Leving – March 1st, 2008 Symposium on Psychology and the Law and Its Affects on Fatherhood

Annual Reports 
2008 – 2007 
– 2006 – 2005 – 2004

In ILLINOIS Dept. of Health and Human Services alone:

Administered by: Bureau of Child and Adolescent Health


The mission of the Illinois Fatherhood Initiative is to end father absence by connecting children and fathers and promoting responsible fatherhood by equipping men to be father and father figures. The Illinois Fatherhood Initiative has developed the “Boot Camp for New Dads” program to address this issue. This is a national hospital-based program for expectant and new dads to prepare them to be actively involved fathers. The Boot Camp curriculum is a half-day workshop for expectant fathers held at local hospitals or community-based organizations. Each expectant father is taught the basics of being a new dad: how to hold a baby, change a diaper, what to expect in the first months and much more. This unique community education program for first-time fathers has Boot Camp veterans (together with their two to three-month-old babies) show the ropes to soon-to-be dads. These new dads return as veterans, continuing the cycle and offering their best advice to the next class.  

Its target population is “First time fathers”.  Illinois Fatherhood Initiative is currently involved with 20 hospitals located in high-risk communities in Illinois. During the last year, over 1,000 men attended Boot Camp for New Dads in Illinois.

 

Founder’s Message

Illinois Fatherhood Initiative (IFI) was created in February 1997 (3 years after VAWA passed. 1 yr before the US Senate posted the National Return to Fathers’ day, etc….) to address the increasing problem of father absence in society.  Research indicates that some 24,000,000 children – 1.1 million in Illinois alone – are growing up today in homes without their father.

David is founder of Illinois Fatherhood Initiative, the country’s first state wide non-profit fatherhood organization, whose mission is connecting children and fathers by promoting responsible fathering and helping to equip men to become better fathers and father-figures.  IFI has programs in schools, hospital, and workplaces across Illinois.  

 

Are we DONE yet?  It’s been 12 years!  I find the concept that this is NEW a little odd.  Why are there continual re-introductions of this act, and who is monitoring its success?  Are fewer families getting annihilated?  Are more Dads paying child support?  Are women who left their men getting back with them, with POSITIVE results?  Are fewer boys sowing their wild oats, and fewer girls deciding to have babies without a man in the home?  

 

 

No, I did not notice that in May 2008 (see distant reference above, on this post), Presidential Hopeful then-Senator Barack Obama was adding to my uncollectable child support woes by signing on, AGAIN, to MORE fatherhood initiatives, which were woefully unattended to, not noticed in the US Senate or House of Representatives, and woefully underfunded as well:

 



However THIS one was a year earlier 2008.  Why I didn’t notice in 2008?  I was attempting to chase down EDD after the DV order having been overturned, and the DCSS  (translation: OCSE) having refused to enforce child support OR standing custody orders, I became job-less.  As I worked in a NON-state-funded Nonprofit (a.k.a., the Catholic Church), I got zero unemployment.  Serves me right for not having known better than to, female, work in a church that for centuries wouldn’t let young girls (only boys) sing some of the most beautiful choral music around.  And had to settle out of court on child abuse cases. However, at that time I DID, until just previously.  All contact with my kids had been erased under what I NOW realize to be an out-come based, federally-funded policy to reduce child support arrears for fathers by granting them more access to their kids, no matter why such access was restrained to start with (say, prison, anyone?).  

While I was unaware of THIS:

OMB Control No:  0970-0204 

       Expiration Date:    11/30/2008 

 

(OMB = Office of Mgmt & Budget) 

State Child Access Program Survey 

 

 

 Program Reporting Requirements 

For Participation in the 

Grants to States for Access and 

Visitation Program – 

Description of Projects & Participant Data

 

Purpose 

 

The purpose of this survey is to provide information to Congress on the progress of services 

provided under the Child Access and Visitation Grant, the goal of which is to “…support and 

facilitate a noncustodial parents’ access to and visitation with their children.”   

 

As part of the Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity Reconciliation Act of 1996, states 

are required to monitor, evaluate, and report on programs funded through this grant program in 

accordance with regulations prescribed by the Secretary.  A final rule delineating the program 

data reporting requirements was published by the federal Office of Child Support Enforcement in 

the Federal Register (64 FR 15132) on March 30, 1999, and specifies the collection of data as 

follows: 

 

“Section 303.109(c)  REPORTING.  The state must: 

(1) Report a detailed description of each program funded, providing the following  

information as appropriate: service providers and administrators, service area  

(rural/urban), population served (income, race, marital status{{WHY NOT GENDER??}}), program goals, application  

or referral process (including referral sources), voluntary or mandatory nature of the  

programs, types of activities and length and features of a completed program; and 

 

(2) Report data including: the number of applicants/referrals for each program, the total 

number of participating individuals, and the number of persons who have completed  

program requirements by authorized activities (mediation—voluntary and mandatory, 

counseling, education, development of parenting plans, visitation enforcement— 

including monitoring, supervision and neutral drop-off and pickup) and development of  

guidelines for visitation and alternative custody arrangements.” 

        

The local service provider is: 

 …responsible for completing the “Local Service Provider Survey” for clients served and  

submitting this information to the state who, in turn, will submit it to OCSE .  {{OFFICE OF CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT}} A new 

feature of the survey (see Section D:  Local Service Provider Worksheet) requires that  grantees report on the following: 

 

REQUIRED OUTCOME

#1.  Increased NCP parenting time with children. 

(NCP = non custodial parent) 

 

DEFINITION of Required Outcome: 

“An increase in the number of hours, days, weekends, and/or holidays as compared to 

 parenting time prior to the provision of access and visitation services.” 

HELLO, FOLKS?  It’s NOT about the children, it’s about the Fed wanting the TANF (welfare) roles to look better, and about CHILD SUPPORT enforcement — and THAT looking better by this method:  A “required outcome” of more time with the children, which then would justify lowered child support arrears for the (typipcally) fathers.
Please tell me how is it that a LEGAL PROCESS can, by Federal Mandate (or funding is withdrawn), have a “REQUIRED OUTCOME” except that this legal process become itself a fraud and sham?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

HERE is from 2006 — ALONE:

 

Nationwide, States Deliver a Range of Access/Visitation Services

States determine services to be provided which include those defined in authorizing legislation (i.e., mediation, counseling, parent education, development of parenting plans, and visitation enforcement, including supervised visitation and/or neutral drop-off and pick-up). All services must be related to the overall goal of the AV program which is to “…enable states to establish and administer programs to support and facilitate non-custodial parents’ access to and visitation of their children….”

The majority of States provide more than one service, and in many instances, parents are the recipients of more than one service. Listed below are the number of parents that received each service type and the number of States that provided these services in FY 2006.

Number of parents that received each service type and the number of States that provided these services in FY 2006
Service Type Number of States Number of Parents
Mediation 40 17,654
Counseling 31 4,529
Parent Education 36 47,994
Parenting Plans 38 15,340
Visitation Enforcement: Supervised Visitation 46 16,089
Visitation Enforcement: Neutral Drop-Off/Pick-Up 32 5,025

EVERY ONE of these ASPECTS HAS BEEN CALLED INTO QUESTION IN RE: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SITUATIONS.  EVERY ONE OF THEM IS ALSO ITSELF A RICH SOURCE OF JOB-REFERRALS WITHIN THE COURT COMMUNITY AND AN OPPORTUNITY FOR FURTHER KICKBACKS AND ABUSE.  A WOMAN IN CALIFORNIA HAD A DAUGHTER IN SUPERVISED VISITATION, AND MADE WAVES WHEN THE SUPERVISOR HAD A SLAVE/MASTER RELATIONSHIP INVOLVING BESTIALITY (ETC.) AND INFECTED HER DAUGHTER.  MOM HIT THE ROOF, CALLED WASHINGTON, WHO CALLED BACK, AND ATTEMPTED TO GET THE JUDGE RECUSED.  THIS DIDN’T HAPPEN, SAID JUDGE WAS MERELY SWITCHED.  MOREOVER, THERE IS THE ASPECT OF DOUBLE-DIPPING OF FUNDS, AND SO ON AND SO FORTH.  WHO IS SUPERVISING THE SUPERVISORS, AND TRAINING THE PEOPLE TO DO SO?  WHO IS DESIGNING THE PARENTING PLANS, AND ALSO PROFITING FROM WRITING AND SPEAKING ABOUT THEM?  SAME COURT PERSONNEL, MANY TIMES, ASSIGNING THE PARENTS TO THEM.  WHAT A JOBS BANK . . . . . 

(I just added a link to the “Blogroll” for this pdf, which is recommended reading, and was found at “stopfamilyviolence.org”  it is reporting troublesome matters as of 2002 regarding these programs (co. “MIINCAVA”).  

 

I.The Growing Call for Supervised Visitation Programs 

For years, judges have asked parties litigating custody cases to find “neutral third parties,” generally 

a family member or close friend, to supervise visitation. {{AND  NOW YOU KNOW WHY THEY HAVE BEEN ASKING THIS — FEDERAL GRANTS REQUIRE THIS}} This can be a daunting task for a volunteer, 

however, given the time and energy required of a visitation supervisor. Even if a family member 

or friend agrees to supervise visits, he or she may be vulnerable to the noncustodial parent’s demands 

and threats, rendering the supervision ineffective.4There is also a risk that the volunteer may simply 

not believe the allegations made about the visiting parent and may decide to only loosely monitor 

the visit, further endangering the child.5 Supervised visitation programs6 address this problem by 

providing ongoing contact between a child and his or her noncustodial7 parent in the presence of 

a neutral third party in cases where physical or sexual abuse, neglect, parental dysfunction, or do- 

mestic violence has been alleged.8These programs often include a variety of services9 ranging 

from one-on-one supervision with a monitor continuously in the room, to visits in large rooms 

monitored by several supervisors.10 Expertise of staff also varies; because of limited resources, 

many programs must rely heavily on volunteers, students, and paid community members to provide 

monitoring of visits.11The level of security present at programs also varies, with only some programs 

offering on-site private security officers or law enforcement personnel.12

 

I.The Growing Call for Supervised Visitation Programs 

For years, judges have asked parties litigating custody cases to find “neutral third parties,” generally 

a family member or close friend, to supervise visitation. This can be a daunting task for a volunteer, 

however, given the time and energy required of a visitation supervisor. Even if a family member 

or friend agrees to supervise visits, he or she may be vulnerable to the noncustodial parent’s demands 

and threats, rendering the supervision ineffective.4There is also a risk that the volunteer may simply 

not believe the allegations made about the visiting parent and may decide to only loosely monitor 

the visit, further endangering the child.5 Supervised visitation programs6 address this problem by 

providing ongoing contact between a child and his or her noncustodial7 parent in the presence of 

a neutral third party in cases where physical or sexual abuse, neglect, parental dysfunction, or do- 

mestic violence has been alleged.8These programs often include a variety of services9 ranging 

from one-on-one supervision with a monitor continuously in the room, to visits in large rooms 

monitored by several supervisors.10 Expertise of staff also varies; because of limited resources, 

many programs must rely heavily on volunteers, students, and paid community members to provide 

monitoring of visits.11The level of security present at programs also varies, with only some programs 

offering on-site private security officers or law enforcement personnel.12 



FOR MORE ON THIS, SEE THE LINK TO RIGHT OF THIS PAGE. . .. NB:  The word “high-conflict” is code for “we don’t really believe it was domestic violence or child abuse.”  

 

BACK TO THE ACCESS/VISITATION GRANTS PAGE, FY 2006:

It is important to note that parents are counted once per service and that the amount of time or service hours devoted to each parent is not collected. As a result, parent education yields high numbers of parents served because it usually entails a one-time-only participation in a 2-4 hour seminar. Supervised visitation, on the other hand, is considered a time-intensive service that a noncustodial parent (NCP) utilizes over a period of time usually determined by the court. States do not report on the development of their service guidelines.

Access Services Result in Increased Parenting Time with Children

In FY 2006, approximately 34,212 fathers and 36,830 mothers received access and visitation services. In addition, 25,667 NCPs increased parenting time with their children. ((This can be misleading, because for a single exchange to take place, typically both parents are going to be involved.  the point is, they need supervised visitation because someone  was abusive!  or, someone reported abuse, and supervised visitation was ordered in retaliation!)(see my earlier post today, Jack Straton, Ph.D. talks about this).  “Supervised Visitation Time” is PAID-FOR TIME, and is a performance.  It lacks the quality of the spontaneous, SAFE relationship that would otherwise exist.  It is a concept that arises from a wish to overcome the sole custody, or no-contact situation requested when there has been either violence towards a parent, or abuse of a child to start with! ! !

Parent Referral Sources to Access Services

Courts continue to be the primary source of parent referrals (50%) to AV services. Child support agencies completed 22% of parent referrals in FY 2006, a slight drop from 24% in FY 2005.

Local Service Providers

In FY 2006, States contracted with 327 court and/or community-based, non-profit service providers for the delivery of access and visitation services.

Funding by State

Access and Visitation Grants:

Federal Allocation and State Match

Total

Number of parents that received each service type and the number of States that provided these services in FY 2006
State Federal Allocation State Match Total Funding
Alabama $142,610 $15,846 $158,456
Alaska $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Arizona $179,474 $19,942 $199,415
Arkansas $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
California $988,710 $109,857 $1,098,567
Colorado $130,679 $14,520 $145,199
Connecticut $101,505 $11,278 $112,783
Delaware $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
District of Columbia $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Florida $519,757 $57,751 $577,508
Georgia $272,041 $30,227 $302,267
Guam $100,000 $0 $100,000
Hawaii $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Idaho $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Illinois $329,141 $36,571 $365,712
Indiana $164,289 $18,254 $182,544
Iowa $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Kansas $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Kentucky $115,835 $12,871 $128,706
Louisiana $175,073 $19,453 $194,525
Maine $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Maryland $176,152 $19,572 $195,724
Massachusetts $171,937 $19,104 $191,041
Michigan $289,707 $32,190 $321,897
Minnesota $123,675 $13,742 $137,417
Mississippi $113,215 $12,579 $125,795
Missouri $171,130 $19,014 $190,144
Montana $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Nebraska $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Nevada $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
New Hampshire $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
New Jersey $217,628 $24,181 $241,809
New Mexico $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
New York $605,368 $67,263 $672,631
North Carolina $272,566 $30,285 $302,851
North Dakota $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Ohio $334,160 $37,129 $371,288
Oklahoma $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Oregon $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Pennsylvania $341,055 $37,895 $378,950
Puerto Rico $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Rhode Island $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
South Carolina $142,481 $15,831 $158,312
South Dakota $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Tennessee $178,061 $19,785 $197,845
Texas $646,627 $71,847 $718,474
Utah $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Vermont $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Virgin Islands $100,000 $0 $100,000
Virginia $192,500 $21,389 $213,889
Washington $171,388 $19,043 $190,431
West Virginia $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
Wisconsin $133,236 $14,804 $148,040
Wyoming $100,000 $11,111 $111,111
 
$10,000,000 $1,088,889 $11,088,888

Background Information

Designated State Agencies

In 1996, governors designated the State agency responsible for administering the Access and Visitation Grant program. To date, the majority of State access and visitation programs are managed by either the State Administrative Offices of the Court or State Child Support Enforcement Agencies.

Designated Federal Agency

The Office of Child Support Enforcement, Administration for Children and Families, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services is officially responsible for managing this grant program.

 

I told you above, it’s not about the kids, it’s about money — and the transfer of it.

Staff Contact:

 

Tracie Pogue, Program Specialist
Office of Child Support Enforcement
Administration for Children and Families
HHS
370 L’Enfant Promenade, S.W.
4th Floor
Washington, DC 20447
Email: Tracie.Pogue@acf.hhs.gov

 

Enabling Legislation

The “Grants to States for Access and Visitation” Program (42 U.S.C. 669b) was authorized by Congress through passage of the Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity Reconciliation Act of 1996.

The goal of the program is to:

“…enable States to establish and administer programs to support and facilitate non-custodial parents’ {{TRANSLATION AT THAT TIME — FATHER”S!! }}  access to and visitation of their children….”

States are directed to accomplish this goal through the provision of services including, but not limited to:

  1. mediation (mandatory and voluntary);
  2. counseling;
  3. education (e.g., parent education);
  4. development of parenting plans;
  5. visitation enforcement (including monitored supervision and neutral drop-off/pick-up); and
  6. development of guidelines for visitation and alternative custody arrangements.

Important Note

This is a formula grant program. States have the discretion to decide what services to provide, organizations to be funded, geographic areas to be covered, and persons to be served.

 

 

Annual Funding

$10 million appropriated each year by Congress.

 

Here is a less recent link regarding VAWA, complete with a lot of tables.

I am not able to take more time today to make sense of it.  I KNOW that when I went for help, and searcheed high and low for it, it was not found, to be able to protect as a single-by-choice, competent, working mother, to continue safely engaged in my work, which otherwise would’ve been able to support this household.  The DAD had been contributing less and less, with little to no enforcement.  Violent style incidents (including stalking) continued to escalatel adn expand in scope and quantity up to, and beyond the point my daughters were finally (and in some exasperation on their part, continuing to be unwilling participants in this), they were stolen on an overnight visitaiton.  I could not get them back or prevent that action.  After that, I still could not, yet, enforce child support arrears, or stop the FURTHER stalking that took place.  

 

From my perspective, it certainlyo seems that the decks were stacked against me.  I believe these two movements :  “Fatherhood” (in name at least) and “Violence Against Women” are working contrary to each other, both of them soaking up tons of federal, state, local, and nonprofit community $$.  

In my about 18 years of involement in the abuse (enduring, the attempting to leave), I have ONE and one ONLY positive experience of intervention by any police officer in any community in which I have lived.  After our case went to family law, it appears to me that I became an “enemy” of the officers I sought help from, with a single exceptin or two of neutrality.  Simulataneously, as finances got worse (and worse), the car was increasingly ticketed and cited, including once at 3am in front of my own house (where no garage was available, or off-street parking) and after I’d already been to court to get an extension on registration.  Before this deadline had expired, the car was towed, and later sold, making it nearly impossible to get to work around here, certainly work that would sustain a livelihood.

Here’s a link:

http://digital.library.unt.edu/govdocs/crs/permalink/meta-crs-4130:1

You can attempt to decipher it yourself.  I was Googling “2006 Funding of VAWA act.”

Ireland’s CPS Woes — Convicted Sex Offender Training Young People for Child Protection Workers??

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Warning:  My post today starts in Ireland, but ends up back in the USA.

This is a little more complicated than “Who’s Policing the Police?”

Who’s Watching the People Training the Trainers to Watch the People?

This was prompted by an article that came to my attention called

Moral of This Grim Tale is Lesson in Passing Buck

As best as I can decipher the T&C of the Copyright here, I must only point to the home page, not the actual page of the article in question.  So if you want the whole thing, I have given you title of article, and home page of “http://www.independent.ie

This appears to be a universal, and world-wide problem.  The  more the agencies, the less the accountability, and SOME agencies attract inappropriate sorts.  Unfortunately some agencies and institutions (including schools of many sorts, not just one “sort”) attract unscrupulous sorts because that’s a clear and steady place CHILDREN are found.

It seems to me that the wholesale dismantling of the family unit, in the name of protecting and educating children, needs to be addressed.  The mass failures need to be addressed.  I do not believe it is possible to stop every crime from happening.  But if I DID want crime stopped, based on my personal, and extensive experience, I would rather (next time) see what I can personally do, when it hits me in the face (pun intentional) than, as we WOMEN are taught to do, call out for someone to intervene and help.  Yeah, right.  

The report into how Niall McElwee, a well-known child protection expert, was able to remain in his post at Athlone Institute of Technology for two years after having been convicted of indecent assault of two young women makes for grim reading.

Yet, in the first of a series of shameful lacks of adherence to child protection procedures, no restrictions were put on the lecturer’s behaviour.

 Yet a convicted sex offender was still appearing regularly in the media and at conferences and academic gatherings the world over.  

It is clear no referral system exists between our two largest social care authorities. McElwee will probably argue that, as far as he was concerned, if the gardai and the HSE knew of his conduct, and both saw fit to continue working with him, then he was surely in the clear. Yet common sense dictates that a call should also have been made to his employers in the Athlone Institute of Technology, where he was charged with training young people to become child protection workers. Having a sex offender in that important role seems ironic, to say the very least.

(The original has hyperlinks in the text, and related articles to the side.)

 

I noticed visitors from other countries (no comments so far, eh?), including Belgium, Bucharest, Egypt, Saudia Arabia, Canada, Australia, Trinidad, and a few places I had to look up on the map.  This site gets some views.  Well, welcome Ireland, I guess you have similar issues here.  

Kind of reminds me of the sketch of the Max Escher hands I was familiar with, growing up.  Metaphorically, this is basically what I think America at least is turning into.  It has become a nation of pronouncers and declarers (all in the best interests of the kids, and to protect them).

It is absolutely essential that we ALL begin studying the ‘studiers’ and researching the researchers.  Unless we LIKE dropping off our tax dollars in order to hire people to execute policies promoted, many times, by a wealthy foundation driving institutions, initiatives and Congress on a vision of the wealthy about what to do with the poor, mostly, how to manage them.  (And keep them poor).  

I personally want answers for the language degradation that has drenched the brains of people wishing to tell me how to:  leave abuse, raise children, what lifestyle to work, what personal priorities to espouse, what is and is not “OK” when I can read laws that already exist and say this.  There is practically not one word which can be taken at face value, yet we are supposed to do this.  I don’t.  As I said, no wonder “mental health professionals” abound in certain circles — and once established a profession has to continue.  Where to find more clients?  Produce them

I didn’t know that Ireland, also, had similar issues.  Perhaps if worldwide, we people who are being studied and protected (or our kids are) by these institutions in such a manner that, as adults, they see fit to address what happened to them in class action lawsuits, we might communicate about alternative theories than Farming Out Our Thinking, Letting Our Own Self-Suffiency Exit [Stage Right]

That acronym is “FOOTLOOSE” and was just made up.  It makes about as much sense as “Health and Human Services” (HHS, the major U.S. Federal grant-making agency) in charge of doing so.  Maybe I should delete an “O” in the 2nd syllable, because somewhere, footing (“grasp on reality”) has indeed been Lost.  

Remember that old science fiction film (with alien invaders, only recognizable if you had special glasses), called

“SERVING HUMANITY” ?

This was accurate.  Not til the end of the movie does it become clear that this refers to a menu, and people were the food.  Yes, they were “serving humanity,” for sure.

WHEN STUDIED< STUDY BACK.  WHEN REPORTED ON, REPORT BACK! WHEN PROPHESIED OVER (in essence, that’s what a lot of these studies are in concept — simple proclamations.    (Well, not quite as simple or well-written, as the Declaration  of Independence, true).

I declare this based on my recent (internet-based) scrutiny of programs that have been scrutinizing the huddled masses, and sorting them by color, shape, income category, marital status, and of course, gender.  In our school system we also sort them, (within schools already sorted by several of the above statistics) by how well they perform according to their peers, and the wider public, all of which is then reported and discussed on high, and then sometimes, even personally presented by a representative from someone on high.

I declarae that this appears to have been the source of some of the puzzlement and confusion in the family law systems, where we expect “laws” already in place to protect “families” to be fairly enforced, and not (beyond our reach, and without information to us) that policy-makers entering into prisons, child support offices, and in conventions on parenting education and fatherhood, conduct random samplings  and then nationwide infrastructures to tie TIME  with Kids to MONEY for KIDS, and shift wealth around accordingly.   I do not approve of “outcome based” education. As a mother and educator, I know that if the engagement, the joy of learning and the understanding that learning is a necessary and enjoyable skill (in fact, way of life) is the principle, then the stick -and-carrot approach is not the MAIN approach.  I have a higher opinion of children than that.  

Nor, do I wish to enter into a courtroom and find out years later that agencies working in the background — but driven by governmental POLICIES — have determined (Big-Brother, In Loco Parentis, “JUST-us” theories — to, for its own ends, use a “carrot and stick” approach with noncustodial fathers (including incarcerated ones and middle and higher class ones as well), particularly to fathers /spouses who have used the same approach on the wives, particularly when it comes to the stick (hands, implement, weapons, etc.)  That philosophy is going to infantilize a nation, PERMANENTLY.  

Recently, in California, a six foot tall Dept. of Education Head (Federal), Arne Duncan, was seen towering over some youngsters (this is called “PR”) and then proclaiming on TV that California Schools have “lost their way,” and no, they will not be considered individually, but will sink or swim together.  This is called, “No Child Left Behind,” and Big Brother stepping in to scold and fix what (er, Big Brother designed and forced on the general public to start with).  

My gut response to having a 40+ male appointee (and I”m 50+) hailing from a city I used to live and work (in the schools) in, Chicago, come to California and lecture us about having lost our way — was, “ON WHAT BASIS HAS AN ENTIRE STATE BECOME YOUR AUDIENCE, TO BE SCOLDED LIKE A BAD CHILD?” And within this state are thousands of parents whose children are not even in the public school system.  What hypocrisy.!

Meanwhile, in one Northern California school, a (female, naturally) middle school (think “puberty” and you have the general age range if you’re not from this country)music teacher was surrounded by a group of children and stoned.  Not to death, but rocks werre thrown at her, there was injury, and her escape was prevented.  She was punished for attempting to set a limit on some of their behavior.  Thankfully, and children were arrested.  The District brought in more law enforcement through the end of the year.

And in another school district, a superintendent being brought in (to clean up a mess, naturally — it’s why the come in, right?), in a noble move, said that HIS seven year old would attend a local elementary school.

That’s noble.  At least he’s willing to sacrifice his own child, as well as others.  

I have a separate blog on education (infantile in size, so far), and another one (pre-natal in state) on the topic of Administering Families and Serving Humanity, and yes, that was sarcastic.  Prepare to be shocked.

But these are related topics.

Meanwhile, any public discussion of any type of schooling NOT federally-mandated, budgeted, and NOT doing less for its dollars than almost any existing business I can think of, will not make the evening news.  

 

The cartoonist to the left has inserted hands writing checks.  

The Declaration of Independence

Read, and understand.  What was this Declaration of Independence FROM — from what?

Drafted by Thomas Jefferson between June 11 and June 28, 1776, the Declaration of Independence is at once the nation’s most cherished symbol of liberty and Jefferson’s most enduring monument. Here, in exalted and unforgettable phrases, Jefferson expressed the convictions in the minds and hearts of the American people. The political philosophy of the Declaration was not new; its ideals of individual liberty had already been expressed by John Locke and the Continental philosophers. What Jefferson did was to summarize this philosophy in “self-evident truths” and set forth a list of grievances against the King in order to justify before the world the breaking of ties between the colonies and the mother country. We invite you to read a transcription of the complete text of the Declaration.

 

SO DO I:

IN CONGRESS, July 4, 1776.

The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,

When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.–That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, –That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security.–Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid world.

He has refused his Assent to Laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good.
He has forbidden his Governors to pass Laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his Assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them.
He has refused to pass other Laws for the accommodation of large districts of people, unless those people would relinquish the right of Representation in the Legislature, a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only. 
He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual, uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their public Records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures. 
He has dissolved Representative Houses repeatedly, for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the rights of the people.
He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected; whereby the Legislative powers, incapable of Annihilation, have returned to the People at large for their exercise; the State remaining in the mean time exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within.
He has endeavoured to prevent the population of these States; for that purpose obstructing the Laws for Naturalization of Foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migrations hither, and raising the conditions of new Appropriations of Lands.
He has obstructed the Administration of Justice, by refusing his Assent to Laws for establishing Judiciary powers.
He has made Judges dependent on his Will alone, for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries.
He has erected a multitude of New Offices, and sent hither swarms of Officers to harrass our people, and eat out their substance.
He has kept among us, in times of peace, Standing Armies without the Consent of our legislatures.
He has affected to render the Military independent of and superior to the Civil power.
He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution, and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his Assent to their Acts of pretended Legislation:

For Quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:
For protecting them, by a mock Trial, from punishment for any Murders which they should commit on the Inhabitants of these States:
For cutting off our Trade with all parts of the world:
For imposing Taxes on us without our Consent: 
For depriving us in many cases, of the benefits of Trial by Jury:
For transporting us beyond Seas to be tried for pretended offences

For abolishing the free System of English Laws in a neighbouring Province, establishing therein an Arbitrary government, and enlarging its Boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule into these Colonies:
For taking away our Charters, abolishing our most valuable Laws, and altering fundamentally the Forms of our Governments:
For suspending our own Legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever.
He has abdicated Government here, by declaring us out of his Protection and waging War against us.
He has plundered our seas, ravaged our Coasts, burnt our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people.
He is at this time transporting large Armies of foreign Mercenaries to compleat the works of death, desolation and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of Cruelty & perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages, and totally unworthy the Head of a civilized nation.
He has constrained our fellow Citizens taken Captive on the high Seas to bear Arms against their Country, to become the executioners of their friends and Brethren, or to fall themselves by their Hands. 
He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavoured to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian Savages, whose known rule of warfare, is an undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.

In every stage of these Oppressions We have Petitioned for Redress in the most humble terms: Our repeated Petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A Prince whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.

Nor have We been wanting in attentions to our Brittish brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred to disavow these usurpations, which, would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our Separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, Enemies in War, in Peace Friends.

We, therefore, the Representatives of the united States of America, in General Congress, Assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the Name, and by Authority of the good People of these Colonies, solemnly publish and declare, That these United Colonies are, and of Right ought to be Free and Independent States; that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as Free and Independent States, they have full Power to levy War, conclude Peace, contract Alliances, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things which Independent States may of right do. And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor.


The 56 signatures on the Declaration appear in the positions indicated:

IF these facts had shown up in, say, “Family Court,” the response would be, “you are blaming us!  Stop blaming us!  You are stuck in the past,” (etc.).  Yet, if a people within a nation can peaceably assemble to seek redress of grievances — and other countries have followed this example (Republic of Philippines, 2004), why cannot an individually, peaceably do so in a courtroom?

And how is it possible to seek redress, when the act of listing the grievances is then itself new sort of speech-crime, called, remembering them and speaking up?  (Parental Alienation, etc.)  We do not all live in the “eternal now of the spotless mind,” but are affected by a chain of events (see above), particular when said events cause suffering.  

It has to be acknowledged that the phrase referring to the merciless Indian savages later led to intentional genocide, a reversal.  In an irony to the HHS structure (which you may read on their FY2008 self-description) there is an IHS which has more discretion over how to use its funds than the other agencies.  That is a separate post.  

It has to be acknowledged that the signers of this declaration (and authors) did not, most likely, envision either Indians or African Americans (to them, slaves) voting.  It has to ALSO be acknowledged, and should be publically, that WOMEN having this power to vote also was not on the horizon at this time.  However, the words stand and express a declaration of independence against tyranny.

I could make a good case for the family law system falling under “inciting domestic insurrections,” and the conflict between the standards in the compulsory education system (LGBT sensitivity, no prayer, political correctness, not to mention the many fads and phases which simply teaching:  reading, writing, and math have been subjected to) with the standards held by many conservatives who then go, with their connections, through Congress to “promote fatherhood” on the basis that is has somehow disappeared is another one.  

Anyone who intentionally wastes my time and goes about to slow down, dumb down, indoctrinate, and/or traumatize MY and their father’s) OFFSPRING (children, in our case, daughters), is pretending to act, not acting, in their best interests.  This IS being done, on a national basis, and I am tired of it.  However, I have done nothing here, but report, and in the spirit of the above Declaration of Independence.  

When I took a stand against the above, I became instant enemies with some forces I didn’t know existed (to this day).  When I went to law for help, innocently, I then found a hornet’s nests of personalities I would never have, knowing this, freely associated with.  Preventing anyone from exiting dangerous and oppressive situation when alternatives to that situation exists, IS a form of tyranny (a.k.a. “abuse.”)  

Do YOU have time to take out (from life) to watch the people training the trainers to protect your children? (OR, educate them?)  I don’t.  I’d rather do it myself.  I believe that quite possibly if the economic structure were not so dependent on dismantled families, we might have “healthier marriages” and more funds with which  to feed, clothe, educate, and set our children on a healthy passage in life.

We cannot do this by chasing myths and accepting every foollish fallacy handed down from on high!

I hope in future posts to compare some of the language behind this one, and the multiple FACTUAL allegations presented in this declaration with the simple-minded assertions that jump start some of the proclamations put out  by the United States Congress to solve problems IT declares existed, and starting SWEEPING reforms and policy changes, at our expense and to our detriment many times.

The rhetoric — and format — of these proclamations is not even in the same league with the one above, yet have effected a sea-change in the basic judicial processes, balance of powers, in transgression of several passages in the Bill of Rights.  These have not been announced openly nationwide.  They have been conferenced, but not voted on in general elections properly.  And they produce strange fruit.

Congressional Task Force on Father Promotion” (Google result)

Today’s post, however is long enough.

I am going to post it next.

In 1998, the House of Representatives, and in 1999, the Congress, resolved as you are about to see.

For a reference point, the “Violence Against Women Act” had only passed in 1994.

One wonders why the unanimity on fatherlessness so soon after this one, which gave women a way out of violence, and primarily in the home.

 

 

British Voice on International Problem: Family Courts

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PLEASE NOTE:  This is not my post or writing!  I post it here to get your attention.  Unlike most of my posts, this one has none of my commentary.
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June 17, 2006

Guilty until proved innocent: the grotesque reality of family courts

Will we be able to report if a mother kills herself through the grief of loss?

THERE IS SOMETHING I wanted to write about today. But I cannot. I cannot even tell you that I cannot tell you, because to do so might be to imply what it was I wanted to write about. And that might lead you to infer that I was referring to a situation that I should not refer to. Get it? No?

I am beginning to understand why so few journalists write about cases in the family courts. The lawyers are patiently diminishing my file of potential cases week by week. But at least I am learning about the armoury of secrecy that social services can deploy which prevents scrutiny of the removal of children from their parents. 

John Sweeney, an investigative reporter and presenter on the BBC’s Real Story, describes reporting on the family courts as being as difficult as reporting from Zimbabwe. Of the seven child abuse cases he has covered in the criminal courts over the past few years, all have ended in the quashing of convictions. Some of the defendants — Angela Cannings and Sally Clark — have become household names. But of the five cases he has covered in the family courts, all have ended in the parents losing their children for ever. You will probably never know the names of those people. Their names must be changed and their faces blocked out, to “protect” the children. It is hard to expose miscarriages of justice when the stories are drained of human content. 

What I have found extraordinary is how often highly able lawyers are uncertain about what we can and cannot write. Despite the issuing of a model order last year by Dame Elizabeth Butler-Sloss, then head of the Family Division, the court orders that limit press coverage are still often so badly drafted as to be completely unclear. Sometimes the order that is drawn up by the court bears no relation to the draft that the press was sent in advance of the hearing. Sometimes we are notified of the order too late to make representations against it. It costs money to fight these orders. Local papers in particular cannot afford to consult lawyers all the time. The result is self-censorship: one errs on the side of caution. We end up conspiring to silence families. 

The irony is that the injunctions are becoming more draconian just as a door is opening in Whitehall. Harriet Harman, the Minister for Constitutional Affairs, has announced that she will consult this year on opening up the family courts to greater scrutiny. This is a positive step. But make no mistake: the same old authorities are gearing up to argue that openness is inappropriate where children are involved. 

Even if that particular battle is won, there will still be miscarriages of justice. For the Government’s consultation will not deal with some fundamental unfairnesses at the heart of the system. The first is the threshold for conviction. In a criminal court, you are innocent until proved guilty, and you can only be convicted if your guilt is beyond reasonable doubt. 

A family court, because it cannot imprison you — only condemn you to serve a different kind of life sentence by taking away your child — “convicts” on a balance of probabilities. You cannot plead not guilty. In fact you are often penalised for not showing “remorse”. The assumption of guilt starts with the first referral to social services and continues into the courtroom, where few judges allow parents to call experts in their defence. New medical research is slowly demolishing the textbooks on child abuse: including various new and innocent explanations for certain types of fracture that are currently thought by social workers to be diagnostic of abuse. But this new thinking is rarely permitted into the family courtroom. 

Wrongs are compounded by the irreversible nature of the judgments. It is generally accepted that once a child has been adopted, the parents cannot see that child again even if they have managed to prove their innocence. They cannot even refer in public to that child by name. Yet this is utterly wicked. Yes, it will be desperately tricky to reunite innocent parents with children who have been adopted by other loving families. But it is a challenge that society must rise to. It is just not good enough to use the manifest difficulties as an excuse for not even trying. Lorraine Harris, who was cleared after serving a jail sentence for shaking her baby to death, when it was proved that he had a blood disorder, has little hope of ever seeing her other child again. We only know of her because her case went through the criminal court. How can this be? How can we pile wrong upon wrong? 

The more I study this area, the more unanswered questions appear. Will we be able to report if a mother kills herself through the grief of loss? Or will they say that this, too, would not be in the interests of the child? Will we be able to report if an adopted child continues to suffer from precisely the complaints that were originally taken to be evidence of abuse? If the family courts are opened up, will there be any redress for parents who protest their innocence, who were convicted in secret? A little more light, please, into the dark corners.

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May 13, 2009 at 2:25 PM

Obamaland: Domestic Violence Awareness pre- and post-election

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SUBJECT MEMO:

Obama on Domestic Violence, in “Domestic Violence Awareness Month” (Oct. 08)

OCTOBER 2, 2008 2:18AM

Kelly Lark’s Open Salon blog

http://open.salon.com/blog/kellylark/2008/10/01/obama_on_domestic_violence

 

(1) About My (FamilyCourtMatters) Blog, Topic-Switching.

I see it as “Alternating Threads of Thought.”  There IS a tapestry involved, imperfect and news-sensitive though it is.  

Readers will find that I may skip from topic to topic among my posts.  One day, it may be recent news of family annihilations (in the context of divorce and custody).  Another, it may be my reaction to administrative non-reaction to this.  A third day, it may be a bit of history on the courts, or the next day, I post an article from the 1990s.  Yesterday, I tacked on a database (that has been lurking link-side for a long time here), about the US Federal Government, where your $$ went, and how to find out.

(On the $$, I am also working up a separate site . . . . sarcastically entitled “Administering Families, Serving Humanity.”  (“http://hhs-acf-ocse-et-al.blogspot.com/“).  So far, it’s not yet populated with a post.

Well, possibly that comes from having been a musician, and part of this time, a conductor.  Expect different dynamics, melodies, and energy levels.  It’s not just about a single tune (“Father’s Rights.  Mother’s Rights.  Best Interests of Children.  Feminism is anti-God.  God is anti-woman.  Domestic Violence.  Child Abuse, or “false allegations” thereof.  Parental Alienation vs. Post-divorce pedophiliac behavior.  Parental KIDNAPPING.  Due Process Lost.  Law and (dis)order. in the Courts.  Forensic Psychology vs. fact-finding when it comes to child abuse (or for that matter, IPV).  “Healthy Marriage” promotion vs. a single citizen’s right to protect herself/himself and her or his children.  (Boy, i bet THAT order of genders caught your attention!) … Sob stories, Statistics, suicides, femicides, homicides, familycides, or – – – – is it REALLY all just about the money?  Or is it social engineering from on high…))   

Clamoring melodies trying to drown each other out, true.  But on this blog (although I’m sure you detect to what tune my theme is generally pitched) the idea is to examine many threads, and pick up on the energy level, dynamics, and the cumulative expression.  IF the cumulative expression is diminishment of CIVIL rights and due process, we have a problem, folks!  If you come to this conclusion, then I have plenty of links for you to do some homework, or search terms to think about to validate / invalidate your conclusions ideas.

IF justice is being bought and sold at the federal mandate (or initiative) level, and the bottom end of the food chain, those with the most to lose in the matter of injustice, then we have a moral / spiritual / serious constitutional issue (which I think we do).  

OR, is it just about the heirarchy of studiers (and funding for the studies) vs. studied (the population to be tested, randomly sampled, and have the techniques re-adjusted to achieve a desired result — a GOVERNMENT desired result that was not subject to popular vote or poll) then we have a problem.  And that “we” is all of us but those who do not need a country to protect their assets, their families, or their livelihoods.  

So Subject Switching here is to be expected.  Pick your melody and follow it — or, just float along, feel the tilt and roll of the boat.  If  you have leisure for the “float along” blog-read, I presume you are not IN the system, because IN the system many of us (without personal connections, or personal resources, or a professional guide — or a professional guide TO the professional guides, who prey on novices) are water-skiers with one ski and a frayed rope, we need to pay close attention to the wake (of the motorboat) and find ways to maintain our stamina on the fly.  As such, we will be skiing faster and farther afield, and more dangerously so, than those in the motorboat.  If this is you, you might enjoy the thrill of it, or, having had enough, try to let go, slowly sink, and hope shore is within swimming distance.  Or, that the boat circling back to see where you were, lets you on board, and doesn’t force more of the same.

After all, a trip through the family law (and child support, psycho-jargon) system, or through the wide-cast trawling nets that reel squiggling, flapping, or stunned catch from the bottom of the ocean (or food chain, as it were), is going to change one’s major relationships:  With children, spouse, employment, possibly former social acquaintances, concepts of “liberty and justice for all” and a few more items.  

Therefore, it’s my blog, and it’s broad in scope.  If you are overwhelmed, welcome to it.  It succeeded in communicating — because that’s how families are.  If you as a bystander don’t LIKE supporting families (societies) trashed by this, then please come back later and chew off some more data and digest it, or chew it (but don’t inhale — former President Clinton says he didn’t, neither should you.  Take time out, but DO come back.)  And don’t spit anything dark and nasty at me, either, please!  Spittoons ARE available in comments, which I moderate.

Or visit some of the illustrious buttons I’ll be adding later today, and get another take on these items.

Speaking of visitors, this blog is getting viewers from many countries, including a few whose names I don’t even recognize.   Please make yourselves known in a comment or two — I get a little nervous when India, Egypt, Pakistan and Saudi Arabia show up shortly after I’ve posted something with the word “honor killing” in it, or something about a brave 12 year old that said, give me the law, not your version of it — to her parents, when it came to marrying too early.  Then again, maybe it’s someone else taking heart, which would be wonderful.  I do wonder what West Finland, Sweden, and Scotland are doing here, and Washington, D.C., I’m citing your data and commenting on it, so “deal with it,” OK?  Los Angeles, if you’re the Courthouse, ditto!  

(2) Today’s topic, and how I got to it:

Intro:

How many angels can dance on the head of a pin?  Or, how many “awareness” days can you pile into one little month, APRIL, when at least in the U-S-A, many are most sensitively aware to the I-R-S?  I believe April was:  Sexual Assault Awareness month, Child Abuse Awareness Month, and in a few states, governors were persuaded to tack on “Parental Alienation Awareness DAY.”  After all, one needs to even the score every now and then, which PA is intended to do, and in some arenas, has more than.  The thing to become aware of as to “PAS,” however,  is its author, its origins, its prophets & priests, and the varying (and they do vary — radically) responses of various areas of professional expertise (and grants/salaries) Pro or Con.  

Well, I can now scope out the  “He Said / She Said // WE (the experts) say” sites, fairly quickly,  They tend to have more limited vocabularies, and the themes are fairly simple to follow.  This gets boring, and sometimes I like to check one of the regular news an commentary, and just search on a hot term:  “domestic violence” or (any of the above).  Say, “truthout,” or CS Monitor, or Washington Post, or, today, Salon.com caught my eye.  

In between other interests which kind of make up for, I suppose the years when the general tenor of the marital conversation was half a Bible version on gender roles (if you’ve been there, you know which one I mean), or reproof for not living up to my 9 /10ths of the imaginary marriage vows (as opposed to the one I said out loud, before witnesses), or reminding the holder of the 1/10th that if he was the boss and I was the hired hand, where was my pay?, and if working conditions didn’t improve, someone just might be short a hired (oops, “conscripted” hand) for the assigned tasks.  Or, recovering from the somewhat predictable response to such protests (see, eventual DV restraining order actually was granted, based on declaration, and in the company of a support organization which had been helping me survive emotionally, learning a few legal rights on the way, until this event) — part of my compensation is an extra prolific range of reading, on-line and off.  And, I talk to lots of people about their situation.  I am a personal data net.  It helps me navigate…and is entertaining at times, too.

So, I searched “Open Salon” on “Domestic Violence” (Parental alienation didn’t yield a single relevant result, which also tells me that this is a specialized vocabulary to this (Alice in Wonder)land, and, that (as in mirrors) normal words read forwards, but only make sense if you understand they are interpreted backwards..

 

And here it is:

(3) PRE-ELECTION PRIORITY:

Obama on Domestic Violence” (link):

OCTOBER 2, 2008 2:18AM

Kelly Lark’s Open Salon blog

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. 

The one time when all people are supposed to remember this problem, and perhaps think about it.  In my group, it is the month to get preachers to preach about the unacceptability of domestic violence.  A lot won’t though, because it “encourages” divorce.

I know it is a difficult topic. It is a difficult thing to live through and then admit that you lived through it.  It is extremely difficult to deal with on a regular basis in trying to help.  It’s a soul-sucking, terrible, situation to deal with these  women and their children trying to escape this violence.  But it is so much worse to BE  them, of course.

 But it is always, always, a lesson in the great courage of women.  The women who escape these situations with nothing but the clothes on their back are awe-inspiring – but they don’t know that.  They are simply terrified women  doing whatever they need to do to protect themselves, and more often, their children.

True, I agree, and Thank you, Ms. Larson. “Soul-sucking” is a great, and accurate description.
Thus, your soul has to just dig down deeper, sprouting roots & new leaves. The trouble is, without
adequate safety / separation, the abuser, seeing these new roots and new leaves, tends to escalate, point for point,
to stay on top (sometimes literally) of the power balance.  This is where it gets dangerous, and the individual has to 
face the reality that STRENGTH for the victim (or support) is perceived as CHALLENGE for the batterer/dominator.  Should she keep a LOW profile, or a STRONG profile?  She has to assess risks, while in the court system, she is BEING assessed as to how compliant and submissive she is to these new authorities, with a totally different paradigm, motives, and operating procedures.  For her personal integrity, and safety, she must CONTINUE to say the strong NO, and be backed up in this by the institution that delivered the restraining order!  Institutions also need to realize that abuse runs in families and that  not all families stick by the victim.  Their statements have to be fact-checked and sniffed for bias.
Therefore, She (he) faces a Catch-22, a paradox.  Society respects those who strenghthen themselves, and overcome.
But that abuser, if not repentant, reformed, or restrained, perceives this as throwing down the gauntlet, or as an emasculation (if the DV was rooted in that gender dynamic).  
(it’s a personal pruning as well). It discovers what it’s made out of.
I have experienced this escalation, and it frightened me, severely, to hear authorities trivializing what my instinct knew to be red flags.  I felt like the person at the end of the race cars, wildly waving the flag, but the cars simply didn’t stop.  Crashes later happened, which were then blamed, and clean-up duty was assigned.  (Sorry, that was personal commentary there)…

Ms. Kelly Lark says:

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, so, I  give you  Obama’s statement today,

so we all know he has not forgotten us, and to hail Joe Biden for the VAWA act once more.

{{“Hail”is too reminiscent of “Heil, H_ _ _ _ _” and I tend to reserve mine for now..  How about, “thank” or “express appreciation”?  We are in a republic (ostensibly) not an imperial regime.  At least on the books.  Let’s wait a little on the “Hail, the Conquering Hero Comes,” or Palm Sunday, as it were.}}

“Today, I join all Americans in observing Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  At a time when one in four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime, it’s more important than ever that we dedicate ourselves to working on behalf of the thousands of women who suffer in silence.  {{We WHO?  Some have been all along…}}{{I resent the characterization of “suffering in silence.”  Rather, the silence is deafening to those of us who actually do reach out, and report.  That silence after reporting is ALSO heard by our abusers, and may result in silence the NEXT time. So it’s often a matter of tuning the community’s ears – – not just to reporting, but to tthe laws, the edifices in place to help (and their shortcomings and conflicts of interest), and to the broader definition of DV than broken bones and blood.  And to its effect on children.    Leave it to a man to say we suffer in silence as a whole, although it’s clear many do…}}

Too often, victims of domestic violence don’t know where to turn, or have no one to turn to.  And too often, a victim could be someone you love.  That’s why, as a State Senator, I led the fight in Illinois to pass one of the strongest employment protection laws in the nation, ensuring that victims of domestic violence could seek shelter or treatment without losing their jobs.   {{Shelter/Treatment?  how about Justice/Law enforcement prosecution Help?  I don’t want to underestimate this, but I personally wasn’t showing up with broken bones, but still lost work through trauma, harassments, and direct orders.  Shelter is a first step only and these shelters have their own issues, too.}} That’s why I introduced legislation in the U.S. Senate to provide $25 million a year to domestic violence prevention and victim support efforts That’s why I co-sponsored and helped reauthorize the Violence Against Women Act. And today, I am so proud to have Senator Joe Biden, the man who wrote that groundbreaking legislation that gave so many women a second chance at life, as my running mate in this campaign. {{Well, I am thankful for that legislation too.  Now, are you aware of the groundswell of retaliation against it, or not? }}

{{$25 million sounds like a huge amount.  Spread throughout the country, and compared to funding already in place to WEAKEN the effects of VAWA (let alone a system that tends to do this, probably not accidentally) it has a different ring.  More, below  Thank God for it.  BUT, I have a question.  When I went looking — HARD — for pro bono help to support my 2nd application for a restraining order, or my FIRST contempt of the multiple thousands of $$ child support arrears, I found nothing effective.  Where was that part of the $25million.  HOW’S COME every time I faced my ex in Family Court (and someone coached him to get the case there, too), I see indications that he was getting financial support for legal help, and expert coaching on how to railroad my civil rights?  HOW’S COME when the ABA Commission on DV (or toolkit, you can look it up) advises clearly, along with Family Violence Prevention Fund (or “endabuse.org”)’s “toolkit to end domestic violence –which very fine toolkit, one now has to hunt for on their site) — when that highlights the IMPORTANCE of enforcing child support orders after DV, instead I found an agency intent on NOT enforcing it til custody was switched from me to the batterer, for the first time since we separated?  HOW’S COME when I went to a mediator, he did abide by the rules, and categorically ignored domestic violence, which was an issue all 3 times?  HOW’S COME there is practically no accountability (a “complaint form,” after one’s life was just upended) for quality control in this mediation — yet I see the whole system is adamant about mediation as THE formula, whereas organizations that do research say, it is NOT workable in cases where domestic violence exists?  So, the system makes a token nod — and in a way that eradicates due process (right to answer the charges one is accused of in open forum) by “separate — but unequal — meetings with a court-appointed mediator.  HOW’S COME that mediator “recommends,” but this should not happen in true mediation?  And many, many more “How’s Come’s?” come to my brain.  Especially as I began to review Federal budgets, emanating from the White House, some of which you will see below, shortly.

HOW’s COME?  with all the effort  ~ specifically coming up on a decade’s worth ~ ~ I put into getting free from abuse, with my eyes on alert, my mouth open, and my rudder set straight, it so far has failed, 10 years post-restraining order  Are we only doing triage and then throwing the flapping women up on the shore?  Or, are organizations focused on their own}}

  • As President, I’ll make these efforts a national priority.  {{OUT OF HOW MANY HIGHER RANKING NATIONAL PRIORIOTIES< SOME OF THE CONTRADICTORY TO THIS ONE??}} This month, and every month, we must fight to bring domestic violence out of the darkness of isolation ** and into the light of justice, especially for minority and immigrant women, and women in every community where it goes unreported far too often.  We’ll stop treating this as just a woman’s issue, {{WE WHO?  CLAUDINE DOMBROWSKI, KAREN ANDERSON AND OTHERS HAVE ALREADY BROUGHT IT TO THE INTERNATIONAL / UN LEVEL, FAILING TO FIND HELP IN THE U.S. ON IT? WE ARE ALREADY CALLING IT A CIVIL RIGHTS AND HUMAN RIGHTS ISSUE.}} and start recognizing that when a woman is attacked, that abuse scars not only the victim, but [“also” is grammatically correct] her loved ones, sending currents of violence that ripple across our society.  
  • {{On this one, the word “scars,” though effective is weakened.  It is already in the headlines, unchecked, it can and often does not just scar, but also KILL the victim and/or her loved ones.

  • Re:  “loved ones” — Future First Lady Obama, Michelle, help us here.  You should understand.  “loved ones” includes KIDS.  Why no mention here of the overlap between domestic violence, and traumatized kids.  OR, of DV and child abuse?  It’s not exactly rocket science on this, at this point, 2008!    I find “loved ones” too vague.  I love my KIDS.  I separated from their father, who was abusive.  He saw them, but he lost his privilege to LIVE with us.  In this, I, their mother, sought to make a point of what is and is not acceptable treatment of young ladies.  Or older ones.}}
  • We need all hands on deck to address this – [1] neighbors willing to report suspected crimes,{2] families willing to help loved ones seek treatment{{{Batterers’ Programs being proved efffective somewhere that I’m unaware of yet?}} and {3} community leaders {{DOES OR DOES NOT THIS INCLUDE “COMMUNITIES OF FAITH?? INCLUDING SOME OF THOSE ON YOUR ADVISORY BOARD??}} willing to candidly discuss this issue in public and break the stigma that stops so many women from coming forward.
  • {{Sir, with respect, all hands LOCALLY are already taking the brunt of this — nonprofits are overstressed, police officers responsding to DV calls sometimes lose their lives, too.  A woman (this is VAWA, hence the gender) traumatized, in shock, or in the hospital leaves a blank — an expensive one — in someone’s life; either her kids, or her businesses’ (suppose she’s a teacher?  Or in a place in front of many people?  Or a pastor?  Or a lawyer?  Or a DV advocated herself?  Or a woman caring for an elderly parent?  Many of us get attacked for being too “uppity” in our professions, and if we have managed to somehow overcome that, this is a professional disaster, which becomes a financial disaster all too soon”   So, WHICH “WE” DO YOU MEAN HERE?  HOW ABOUT POLICYMAKERS?}}

 

FINALLY, IN 2008, PRESIDENT-ELECT OBAMA SAID, PER THIS OPEN SALON BLOG:

“Together, we’ll make it clear that no woman ever struggles alone.”  (I hope so, I’m reserving applause, though).  I just reviewed the “We’s” versus the “I’s” (Pres. elect Obama).  I heard ONLY one “I,” only one promise.  And that was in the opening statement.  “AS PRESIDENT, I”LL MAKE THESE EFFORTS A NATIONAL PRIORITY.”  

{{HOW??  Tell us NOW what you — not all of us — plan to do.  After all, you want the vote, right?  What’s your commitment, in DETAIL.}}. . .  As it played out, I have looked already — this same remarkable “lack of detail” is in the White House Agenda.  I have already posted on it, and one of my top links to the above right is a 4-page summary of just how much of a “priority” DV is in the big pictture.  It is LAST on the agenda, and mentioned in appropriate token vagueness:

Department of Health and Human Services” (this is a link)

The subtitle (page header) reads “NEW ERA OF RESPONSIBILITY”

The Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) is the Federal Government’s principal 

agency for protecting the health of all Americans 

and for providing essential human services {{LIKE<, STAYING ALIVE??}}

This (FY2010) Budget provides $768 billion in support of HHS’ 

mission that will bring down costs and expand coverage 


The reserve is funded half by new revenue and half by savings proposals that promote efficiency

and accountability, align incentives toward quality, and encourage shared responsibility (etc. etc.)

 

Let’s compare $25 Million (whether this be 2009 or 2010, the above promise is an indicator): If your high school math is in place, $25,000,000 / $768,000,000 = $25 / $768,000 = or 0.00325% (alternately, 0.0000325). National priority.  Now, I know that the USDOJ administers VAWA, but I am unsure whether its funding actually comes from HHS.  (I will find out, though!)

ANOTHER “QUICK LOOK” WAY IS TO SEE WHERE DOES THIS VAWA COME UNDER THE DEPT. HHS FY 2010 DESCRIPTION.  FOR EXAMPLE:  DOES IT MAKE “FUNDAMENTAL HIGHLIGHTS?”  Look and see (the answer is No).

Does it as such rate its own heading (no).  It shows up LAST, not bolded, in 4 pages of elaborate agenda with details of amount of funding:  The heading on alternate pages reads “NEW ERA OF RESPONSIBILITY” and addressing violence against women, or intimate partner violence (which overlaps with child abuse, can lead to homelessness and death, and does, etc., and has been tagged as potential cause of substance abuse and other troubles under http://www.acestudy.org (Adverse Childhood Experiences — see my link to right) — this does not make the “CHANGE.gov”‘s administrations honor roll, even.

 Domestic Violence comes under “Other Presidential Initiatives” like this:

 

Provides Support for Other Presidential 

initiatives.

The Budget includes funding to reduce domestic violence and enhance emergency 

care systems It also expands the treatment ca- 

pacity of drug courts including services to protect 

methamphetamine’s youngest victims Substance 

addiction is a preventable and treatable chronic 

condition and this initiative helps address the 

most urgent needs The Budget also provides re- 

sources to reduce health disparities, which the 

President has identified as an important goal of 

his Administration 

 

 

The sum total level of description, herein, are the words “reduce domestic violence.”  There is plenty more detail in almost any of the other 17 plans.  Each merits its own paragraph.  REDUCING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE COMES IN #18.5 of 18.

Hardly a “priority,” eh?  ???

Let’s check back at whitehouse.gov — maybe they did better for 2009: (I have also already posted on this):

FAMILY:

Ten days after taking office, the President established a White House Task Force on Middle Class Working Families, led by Vice President Biden. The Task Force is focused on raising the living standards of middle-class, working families across America.

The President’s American Recovery and Reinvestment Act provided needed support to families enduring difficult times.

ALREADY I see I’m not on the map.  We were a middle class (lower) working family plagued by (my husband’s) domestic violence, which has resulted in him, basically dropping off the map economically since separation (FYI, part of the economic abuse, ongoing) and me being forced out of it back onto welfare.  So out of the gitgo, many families, being in this situation, are not on the map economically as to being rescued.  HOWEVER, let’s look.  Under the “FAMILY” is this statement above, that this AMERICAN RECOVERY & REINVESTMENT ACT is to help “families enduring difficult times.”

Domestic violence is long-term difficult times, until it is stopped, or the perpetrator is separated from his victim, and held accountable.  However, a problem arises (among them, jails are full).  ANother problem is the alternate white house agenda of putting fathers (ALL fathers, apparently) back in their kids lives.  I am wondering whether a female-designed program might just have accounted for the concept that under the all-inclusive category of “WOMEN” (in VAWA) are many MOTHERS.  We are approximately half the population, or 51% I heard?  Most of the other half came from some of us.  If the 1 in 4 abuse figure (25% of the 51%) is appropriate, then I think this is a significant enough percentage to merit a mention under “family” in our white house agenda.

Under “Families” are 7 bullets, none of which refers to violence within the families.

Under helping Working Families, it’s not mentioned either.

Under STRENGTHEN FAMILIES, do battered Moms (or women) (or children) make a mention?

Strengthen Families

President Obama was raised by a single parent and knows the difficulties that young people face when their fathers are absent. {{ DESPITE MY RAILING ON THESE SITES< I FEEL HE TURNED OUT ALL RIGHT.  DON”T YOU?  HE BECAME PRESIDENT. I VOTED FOR HIM IN PART HOPING HE MIGHT ALSO UNDERSTAND THE SINGLE MOM TAKE ON LIFE.}}  

He is committed to responsible fatherhood, (1) by supporting fathers who stand by their families and encouraging young men to work towards good jobs in promising career pathways. The President has also proposed an historic investment in providing home visits to low-income, first-time parents by trained professionals. (2) The President and First Lady are also committed to ensuring that children have nutritious meals to eat at home and at school, so that they grow up healthy and strong.

[The bold below was a technical error and will be corrected later]…

A commitment to stopping domestic violence, which is primarily targeted at women when it comes to fatalities, would most certainly help ensure that the children at least get to grow up, period!!

(1) “responsible fatherhood” is a code word for the uninformed, and boy is IT well funded.  By “encouraging young MEN to work towards good jobs in promising career pathways” I would like to note, WHAT ABOUT THE WOMEN??  It’s already abundantly clear it is desirable that the Moms put their kids in earlier and earlier Head Start.   The purpose of this is that we go to work.  So why do young MEN get our President’s and his wife’s special encouragement, while the young women, some of who are giving birth, don’t even get a mention when it comes to  “promising career pathways.”  What is expected?  Does he want us at home with our kids (but not homeschooling, which is anti-patriotic, I heard), or in the workforce?  Does he want to perpetuate the WAGE gap while attempting to narrow the health care gap?  What’ gives?

And, I would also like to ask, where is the respect here for some of the older women, who have raised children somehow with or without the benefit of VAWA, and are working also?  If we happen to be divorced and NOT playing 2nd string Mom to some children that were Healthily replaced into Marriages that the Federal Government approves of, what are we expected to to do?  Take up the slack in the VAWA funding as encouraged to do in the Oct. 08 speech above?

Now, while I see under “Women” this is mentioned, I just wish to point out that when discussing “families” it takes a woman to make one.  

“Prevent Violence Against Women

Violence against women and girls remains a global epidemic. The Violence Against Women Act, originally authored by Vice President Biden, plays a key role in helping communities and law enforcement combat domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking. At home and abroad, President Obama will work to promote policies that seek to eradicate violence against women.”

 

On subsequent posts, I will describe some of the funding for policies that tend to do the exact opposite.  When it comes to $$ versus words,  a $$ is worth a thousand words, and paints a clearer picture.  

 

Other links on VAWA, not necessarily up to date:

 

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

The Violence Against Women Act of 1994 (VAWA) is a United States federal law. It was passed as Title IV, sec. 40001-40703 of the Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act of 1994 HR 3355 and signed as Public Law 103-322 by President Bill Clinton on September 131994. It provided $1.6 billion to enhance investigation and prosecution of the violent crime perpetrated against women, increased pre-trial detention of the accused, imposed automatic and mandatory restitution on those convicted, and allowed civil redress in cases prosecutors chose to leave unprosecuted.

VAWA was drafted by Senator Joe Biden’s office with support from a number of advocacy organizations including Legal Momentum and The National Organization for Women, which described the bill as “the greatest breakthrough in civil rights for women in nearly two decades.”

VAWA was reauthorized by Congress in 2000, and again in December 2005. The bill was signed into law by President George W. Bush on January 52006 

Criticisms of VAWA legislation

Various persons and groups, including Marc H. RudovGlenn SacksRespecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting (RADAR), and African-Americans for VAWA Reform (AAVR), have voiced concerns that VAWA violates due process, equal protection, and other civil rights. {{ALL OF WHICH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ITSELF DOES….}}  None of these groups oppose laws protecting victims of domestic violence. They oppose laws that discriminate exclusively against specific social groups and deny these groups equal protections.

NOTE:  Click on “Rudov” (a name I’m less familiar with) for a sampling of the thinking behind opposition to VAWA

PICTURE ME IN THE AUDIENCE, EAGERLY RAISING MY HAND, AS IN A CLASSROOM, JUMPING UP & DOWN FOR ATTENTION.. ..  “Sir, Sir?   SIR??  I have a question”

Given that many “women” are “mothers,” and the Bush and Clinton administrations are avidly promoting “Healthy Marriages” (meaning, 2-parent households preferred, all others, go to the back of the line, when it comes to custody) “Promoting Responsible Fatherhood,” how are you going to reconcile the domestic violence restraining orders, obtained through the VAWA fundings, with the inevitable trip through the family law system, where another paradigm reigns?  

How are you going to reconcile “Promoting Responsible Fatherhood” {{=child support waivers (lowered obligations) in exchange for increased access (to children that may have witnessed Dad beating Mom to the point the law had to intervene)}} with the above claim.  As I am sure you know, those movements “rule” in the family law system, and are vastly outfunded compared to this $25million, though we do appreciate it?

Would it not be simpler to de-fang the the policies that are specificall directed AGAINST VAWA and AGAINST the right of a woman to NOT remarry after leaving an abuser, without losing the children that she removed from that volatile environment?

Or, I have another idea.  If the “communities of faith” continue (as they have) to operate as a law unto themselves (as they do) in the matter of domestic violence, being as clergy at least, many of them mandated reporters of DV & child abuse, how’s about you remove the tax-exempt status unless they PUBLICALLY post the laws stating that domestic violence, spiritual or moral problem that it is too, IS in this country a felony or misdemeanor crime??

I have another question:  It has been shown and reported well (see “The Batterer as Parent,” by Lundy Bancroft) that one of THE most important ways to help children recovver from the trauma of seeing a caretaker abused is to be supported in their relationship with the nonabusive spouse.   Are you or are you not aware that when a protective parent comes into the family law system, she is likely too get stripped of, in either order, her kids (and access to them), or her finances.  How are you going to reconcile the competing members of your supporters in this matter?  Are you willing to lose the support of some of the prior administration in order to protect women and children, and reduce taxpayer waste in these matters?
May I speak to your wife on these matters?  
Are you aware that the mere presence of a woman in a high-ranking policy post does not mean she isn’t sexist, still?  
ARE YOU COMMITTED to upholding the U.S. Constitution even if it affects your constituencies?
These are things I as a woman AND mother whose case was badly mishandled from the outset, right out the door of the domestic violence kickout order, and I believe SOLELY because I had children.
A picture is worth a thousand words.  You have conjured images above that don’t resemble the reality, the ugly reality of these matters.  You have called to a “we” but “we” who already have become “we’s” in this matter have questions about some “You’s.”  Are you willing to confront some of the “father’s rights” policies that have impoverished and put a risk women, mothers, coming out of domestic violence.  ??
I will look at the overall picture of funding, and not just a single, impressive figure, in assessing whether as President you have put our money (not yours, but OURS, as citizens) where your mouth was on this month.
WHERE I WAS IN OCTOBER 2008:  Unemployed due to unchecked DV.  NOT the economy (in this particular situation).  Disgusted with the previous entire year’s re-run through the nonprofits that don’t acknowledge that domestic violence affects job stability, and credit, with my inability to get EDD, but time wasted in the process, and with the lack of charity access to some very, VERY basics such as:  cell phone (for safety, and to receive callbacks from potential clients or employers), and bus passes, once my car went down for the count (again).  Without car, consistent cell phone (and yes, I called ALL that I could find of the supposed organizations to providei them), and without income to provide food even, my health went down and trauma level (exposure) went up.  I was also stalked this year, and mocked for reporting it to my family, but managed to squeak out a single police report.  
For some of us, domestic violence is not just a monthly awareness.
Add to this, my increasing awareness that all of this was avoidable if ONE sector had done it’s assigned job honestly and ethically.  I knew which ones, and I sought it.  I was rebuffed, and my kids are still living with their batters, as are many, many mothers with whom I associate.  
Where else I was in october 2008 was, losing heart.  But as I say above, we women have ways of sprouting roots and new shoots.  The cycle of jobs and relationships, though, is getting “old.”
Thank you for your time. . . . . . . 

Prevent Violence Against Women

Violence against women and girls remains a global epidemic. The Violence Against Women Act, originally authored by Vice President Biden, plays a key role in helping communities and law enforcement combat domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking. At home and abroad, President Obama will work to promote policies that seek to eradicate violence against women.

Profile in Courage — India, Age 12

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We had a “just say no” to drugs, and “There’s no excuse for abuse.”

Also, our administration is still paying top dollar to promote “Healthy Marriage” (whatever that is, but roughly translated it means, we want people off welfare) and even had “just say no to sex outside marriage” (abstinence education), which some religions at least say they endorse, and trying to get the young men (this was the initial rationale for the movement) who have been, many of them, through our educational system, to become “responsible fathers.” And paying top dollars, including dollars earned by single mothers and other women, for this. 

Meanwhile, in India, a fairly recent law says no marriage before 18 (girls) or 21 (boys).  (Photograph) 

Her story from the CS Monitor is below.

Rekha Kalindi, a 12-year-old girl living in Bararola, India,refused to get married when her parents tried to arrange one; she wanted to stay in school. Her revolt, and those of two other girls in the region, have halted new child marriages in their rural region of West Bengal, India. The legal age for marriage in India is 18 for girls and 21 for boys. But arecent study published in the Lancet found 44.5 percent of Indian women in their early 20s had been wed by the time they were 18. Of those, 22.6 percent had been married before age 16, 2.6 percent before age 13.


This is what I think, on the topic in USA:

(1st half blog:  me blogging.  2nd half.  The story which so inspired today, perhaps there is still hope.) 

Education and cultural values – USA style.

  • Thankfully no one married me off at 12.  Thankfully, I was allowed to complete not only high school, but also, college, twice.  I was not dealing with substantial gender issues, that I recall, in my work life.  Sometimes, but not primarily.  I also got my B.Th. from an organization that ordained women, and we worked alongside me in many fields.  I continued to also do music during these years, which were exciting and adventurous also.  
  • It was after marriage  – mid-30s (not that late, really, for our culture) — as a fully adult, functional, working, contributing member of society that the infantilization of me (by virtue of gender and the pro-forma definition of marriage in this person’s mind, which I didn’t know in advance) became, and was enforced for many years, with a vengeance.  I have come to realize that while I was taught to work, my family in particular taught me nothing (by example, or discussion) about marriage, but their actions indicated that having a man (live-in) was mature, and supposedly not, wasn’t.  When I finally threw him out, someone somewhere, relegated me back to immature status, and this is how I became exposed more fully to the dysfunctional segmentation of the college-educated liberal/progressive (childless) mindset, along with others in my family who did have children, but did the routine, farm them out, and get the high-paying job means of balancing the family budget.
  • This has been a painful process, and I recently began to appreciate much more my faith (which incorporates at least a coherent system of reference) and music (which, we’re told, DOES affect how one things and reacts and sees things in life).  It’s dynamic, and puts you in dynamic relationship with LOTS of people.  So, for better or for worse, does evangelism (although that was always the weaker aspect of my involvement, I didn’t LIKE it).  
  • Anyhow, this young woman got a hold of a 2nd point of view (perspective) on herself.  This is invaluable, an actual conflict of values, and then hopefully working out the differences.  We CANNOT avoid this in the global situation, it is necessary to hash it through logically, legally, and personally.  I h
  • I said, and say, “just say no” to domestic violence, and that the family court system, which ignores its own laws in order to satisfy other priorities, and support other professions, should not be dealing with these cases, at all.   And my thinking so is based on solid experience, a decade of it coming up soon here.  I know what a difference it made, financially, and as to safety, and as to what my daughters are being taught now which is the exact opposite of what my filing for a restraining order and LEAVING told them about limits between a man and a woman in marriage.  My state, California, has in practice undermined that standard (and our mutual standards of living, of civil rights, and many more urgent things that are not fully on the new administration’s scope, as examined by funding and relative rhetoric in the matter.  STILL, women are seen as channels to provide kids, who are the cash (and, too often, sex) commodity, and THIS HAS TO STOP!

Here, women who put the priority on mothering, working their fields around it, are also not as popular (these days) with feminist organizations. These organizations address multiple issues regarding women.  

But my issue (this blog), right now, is topic-specific, and venue-specific, i.e., the courts and the organizations that are working to undermine due process, many of which are outside the courts.  And that these “outside the courts” situations sometimes have body counts.  

If “women of faith” leave their man for due legal cause (having finally discovered the law, which I just about guarantee you will not be shared in those venues), they are often abandoned by that church for doing so (after all, the abuse happened while they were involved, $$, tithes, etc., are involved).  Thereafter, though charity can and occasionally refuge sometimes do (sometimes do NOT) trickle down from that tax-exempt source, that charity, or temporary refuge does not replace or fix what was broken.  Generally speaking, the tragedy doesn’t even cause the doctrine or practices of the church to even miss a beat.  They continue downplaying abuse, continue putting out ridiculous (no reference to the law) pamphlets about how to help someone caught up in it.  In this manner, the religious organizations (i’m talking Christian, which is my primary exposure) continue to set themselves above and apart / ‘special’ from the laws in place to protect women and children from violence — or, in the case of child support, from simply being robbed, which is another way to end up on charity (and how I was).

It takes money to run a church.  If violent men were properly confronted (and properly includes PUBLICALLY) and admonished, for an example to others, chances are THAT church at least would make it clear that within its ranks, this is unacceptable.  Oddly enough, I’ve found the ones that are real strong on no sex outside marriage (from the pulpit and printed materials) are quite weak on this issue.   I was recently in a prominent one here that was made fully aware (by me) of the situation:  child support arrears, children stolen, court orders violated, profession wrecked, I am on charity (again).  I had some hope they might put their regal authority (as pastors) and go down to the other place and simply let the other pastor/outfit know that those cute kids’ Dad was in violation of the law, will you please support and encourage him to get on the proper side of it?  In other words, I as a person in this place was respecting authority (and they had some) and clearly asking that it be wielded to help a single woman who had lost her children to a batterer  Nope.  But they did say something about going down to confront him on adultery.  Good grief!

So, it was made clear that there is a professional, I guess, no-competition law between these outfits.  Which is how I again deduced that “what it’s about” is something other than actual “righteousness,” but like any other business, profitability.  

We are OK to be recipients of charity, but not equal partners in crime, or as it may be “faith.”  When it comes to speaking, teaching, or almost any of the venues.  This is personally reducing a woman to her gender, but in all the other areas of life.  It is not ‘protective,’ but socially and spiritually eroding.  This is how it should go, in the courts (and also what the law says):

How hard is this?  Violence verified?  Then

NO contact with abuser.  No joint custody, no regular vistation. We are raising generations of children to accept a discrepancy between law and law enforcement, between crime and consequences.  This is basically re-writing the English language, and endorsing “double-speak.”

Sometimes years go by, in which a woman has to rebuild her relationships (social, work, etc.) often enough, and also heal, rediscover the non-abused, non-degraded, intelligent resourceful self.  During these years, sometimes child support is ordered, and that becomes another lever of control, as do the visitation exchanges (and mine were WEEKLY with my batterer, from the very start, practically.)  In my case, the family of origin, I suppose aghast that I’d gotten divorced (Which is odd, as we’re liberal, atheist, supposedly, and both my relatives married a man on his second wife, as did my own mother), and perhaps their oversight had been exposed.  Or, perhaps, it was that I didn’t take orders from them, after ahving stated clearly I wasn’t takeing them (in fact, giving a few) from my husband any more.  

When as she is rebuilding, he is, with support, continuing to tear down, this is extremely destructive.  Eventually, this can get to a family law venue, where she is told to “get along” with this clearly destructive (as measured by compliance with court orders, is one way, another is compliance with the law in general) personality, a literal impossibility.  

I say, and when a woman (or, OK, man?) is just coming out of that high-risk, potentially lethal situation, if there are children, they are taught by this state that it is NOT excusable to beat on a woman.  

This is not going to happen if the legislatures, law enforcement, judges, and (when they ARE necessary) custody evaluators do not get on the same page.  What is happening instead is that these personnel are getting together, out of real-time involvement with the public and people served, and gettting together on an entirely different page than what the law says.  They are on the “therapy” page.  Uninformed us, we read the literal law (and even case histories) and think that in this venue, it should have weight.

So I THINK:

If a domestic violence restraining order is granted — we hope, properly — then he loses custody, PERIOD.  Visitation, maybe later.  No Joint Nothing.  No more high-conflict custody, and everyone get back to work.  Men are still paid more per $$ anyhow. And IF he physically abused her, financial abuse is also probably (although I’ve known cases where it isn’t).  

They are respected in light of their work and expected to succeed in it, this is what men in this culture have been rewarded for, and what supposedly “manhood,” culturally and religiously (see recent post).  Simultaneously, in the courts, and in divorce, there is a call to Have one’s cake and eat it too, and its not called p_ _ _ _   envy, but rather the other part, that we have, and that is a natural bond we sometimes have with children we have raised.  If you don’t believe me, then go back and read the 1984 Surgeon General’s declaration that breastfeeding is healthy.  (I have personally been attacked on this part, right after nursing, good grief!).    

Many times the violence is a matter of her “womanhood” to start with, and an entitlement to hit.  Why should it be part of “childhood” to see this at home?  Or to experience a protective parent (largely female, but that’s the term) thereafter being browbeaten in court, or even go homeless as a result of it (yes, it happens).   

DV = No Custody would at least, he would not prevent HER from getting back to work if he’s kept distance.  This is a punitive effect, and intended to be seen as so.  I am sick of the family court trying to “even the score” artificially in these situations.  This is called “lying,” with evasive, euphemistic jargon, and if there is anywhere it’s important not to lie, it’s in pursuit of “justice.”  There’s no excuse anymore for beating each other up.   Yet, we saw a case the other day (last post, Rosenberg article) where police arrived just in time to see a young man, blaming circumstances, decapitate his little sister, after having already killed another.  SOMETHING ain’t spiritually right in USA-land…).  I think we should teach women and girls self-defense, for real !  ALL of them….

As over here, in India, 

having a law as to safety of young girls (&  boys) & women doesn’t get it enforced or culture changed.

Thus, this article is not really “off-topic.”   

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She just said “No!” to marriage.  At 12.

And was heard, and the ripple effect continued, helping others.

(In our country, we still have children saying “No!” to being sent to live with convicted child abusers, or women-batterers, and they are NOT heard.  Women who protect their children from this by failing to comply with court orders that violate existing laws have been jailed, and have had to figure it out).  

The story is self-explanatory and is below.  

http://www.csmonitor.com/2009/0424/p06s07-wosc.html

India listens after a child bride says ‘I won’t.’

The girl’s courage has prompted India, where nearly half of all females wed before age 18, to consider the consequences of marrying young.

Nearly half of all Indian females get married before turning the legal minimum age of 18. The requirement has been in place for more than three decades, but centuries of custom don’t change overnight – and that’s especially true in Bararola, a land carved up into small farm plots and crisscrossed by dirt paths that takes at least a day’s journey to reach from Calcutta. But even here, some people are taking a stand.

Many locals eke out a living making beedis, a leaf-wrapped Indian cigarette. Rekha was rollingbeedis with her parents inside their mud-hut home when they broached her nuptials.

“I was very angry,” says Rekha. “I told my father very clearly that this is my age of studying in school, and I didn’t want to marry.”

With the help of friends, teachers, and administrators, Rekha accomplished what the law alone has not. No child marriages have taken place in the surrounding villages where she and two other girls refused to marry last summer, and similar approaches are meeting some success in other regions.

“We have a strong law and we need to find the people who can advocate for [it],” says Sunayana Walia, a senior researcher at the Delhi office of the International Center for Research on Women. “All the [successful] interventions are tapping the girls … so they are able to campaign on this issue, along with community participation.”

 

DETERMINED NOT TO FOLLOW HER SISTER’S PATH

South Asia has the world’s highest levels of child marriage. A paper published in the Lancet,a British medical journal, in March found that 44.5 percent of Indian women who recently reached 20 to 24 years of age had been married by the time they were 18. Of these, 22.6 percent were wed before age 16 – and 2.6 percent before 13.

Child brides face greater health risks and their babies tend to be sicker, weaker, and less likely to survive childhood, according to UNICEF. The child-welfare agency also cites research from Harvard University that found that even a one-year postponement of marriage increases these girls’ schooling level by a third of a year, and their literacy by 5 percent to 10 percent.

Rekha learned about the dangers of child marriage firsthand when her older sister got married at age 11. She is now illiterate, and lost all four of her children within one year of birth.

“I had a talk with my sister,” Rekha says. “She said, ‘You have seen me, I’ve lost my children…. It’s good you stood against child marriage.’ “

Rekha had other motivations as well. Like many children here, she had to leave school to work for her family. But she was granted a rare second chance to improve her education through a goverment program called the National Child Labour Project, which, in her district of Purulia, offers remedial education to 4,500 children. Rekha says she did not want to stop school again on account of marriage.

“They love to come to school,” says Prosenjit Kundu, the district project director. “These schools are the only place where they are treated as children. Otherwise, they are workers.”

Yet they aren’t entirely sheltered from the adult world. Five children from each school are bused to extra lessons in the nearby city through the Child Activist Initiative, which is partly funded and supported by UNICEF. The kids, including Rekha, are given leadership training and informed of their rights on a range of issues from forced labor to the legal age for marriage. The girls think up solutions and teach others back in the village.

{{SCHOOLS TEACH VALUES.  WHAT HAPPENS IN THEM IS IMPORTANT!}}

The Purulia program is new, but has already helped Rekha and two other girls refuse to marry under age – saving, by example, many of their friends from the same situation. Similar child rights programs backed by UNICEF operate across India and involve more than 60,000 children in Bangladesh. The programs are also credited with recently helping another girl in Nepal refuse early marriage.

EVEN THE PRESIDENT IS LISTENING

In Rekha’s case, her parents initially did not listen to her. But she soon went to friends and teachers. They all came to talk with Rekha’s parents, including Mr. Kundu, the government official. That collective support for her and work with her parents was crucial, says Kundu. {footnote1}

“Children are not taken seriously in families,” he says. “A girl of 11.5 years who takes a decision for her own against the family members’ will – this is an enormous, courageous act.”

During a visit from two foreign journalists, the barefoot Rehka, dressed in bright purple and yellow, fielded questions confidently, despite the crowd the interview attracted. In February, she addressed a gathering of 6,000 beedi workers, asking them to allow their children to stay in school and delay marriage. Her best friend, Budhamani Kalindi, says she hasn’t gotten any pressure to marry now that Rekha has become such a role model.

“It’s terrific how you get that ripple effect of one being brave, sticking her neck out … and then others following,” says Sarah Crowe, a spokeswoman for UNICEF in Delhi.

Those ripples extend all the way to the president of India, Shrimati Pratibha Devisingh Patil, who, after reading about Rekha in the Hindustan Times newspaper, has requested to meet her. That makes her father happy, and he says he supports her staying in school.

The custom has proved hard to change, says Ms. Crowe, partly because it’s often embedded in poverty. Sometimes parents marry off a daugter to lighten their economic burden, though the problem extends into the middle and upper classes too, she adds. It’s also incorrectly assumed that an early marriage will protect the girl from violence and sexual abuse from men.

Enforcement of age laws, meanwhile, is hampered by the lack of birth records. Only 40 percent of births in India are registered; in Bangladesh, the number is just 10 percent.

“You can’t prove a child is a child if you’ve got no certificate,” Crowe says. The international community is working hard on birth registration, she says, but it’s a daunting task in a place like India that has more than 1 billion people.

Back in Bararola, one of those billions faces a brighter future. Rekha says she wants to be a teacher when she grows up.

Is she open to marriage eventually? “Anything after 18,” she says, “but not before 18 at all.”

 

 

{my “footnote1″}  Yes, the collective support is important.  While I do not mean to trivialize the differences, how is it that international organizations will support the law overseas, but within the U.S., when a variety of agencies sometimes come to judges and present evidence of abuse, this is discredited, or sometimes not even allowed to be considered, by a presiding judge?  When judges are not ethical, a country is going to go down fast!  I think that the U.S. needs to be more honest about what is going on within its own borders, and that includes mis-appropriation of federal funding to produce desired outcomes in court (vs. truthful/ just / due process ones).   This collective effort involved the input of a  young lady, and her friends.  

(The link also leads to a video of the reporter discussing how this situation came to pass.)

…”Reporter Ben Arnoldy discusses Rehka Kalinda, her family, and potential reasons behind her self-awareness.”

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