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What I do here: I expose the Systems Design, and the Designers, so Y.O.U. can Show Others, and to notify those playing certain games, "you've been flagged." Heard of "disruptive technologies?" Disruptive innovations? Well, this is a disruptive blog. I give people who've already been strung out and stripped down BY the system another place to stand and look at it, and a clear, fairly diagnostic language (vs. pretty logos and moving pictures) to describe it to others. AND, which many don't do, I tell how I found the information; links databases and all. Despite the blog's appearance, I know what I'm doing! You're looking at long-term leverage, in the hands of the "non-experts," in the public interest, not public funded propaganda to drive business to private pockets. Hence, I'm not afraid to ask: ![]() The formula wasn't complex, but the concept itself was just so devious insidious, parasitic, grandiose, and by now, so baked into the economic, institutional infrastructure, people either don't notice, or, in a common, cowardly, but all too human response they see, and just start denying, or looking for nicer explanations of an ugly truth -- where it's heading, and for lack of nicer, but still honest terms, it's heading towards yet more slavery (and tolerating it) and genocide (and tolerating it). As a woman, mother, a family court and domestic violence survivor [yes, he was a hitter, and more], who has already 'faced the music' in more ways than I can count, to the best of my ability, I do not do "denial." I also ask the public, what's left of it, to just not go down that Denial Road, and with it lose more of their innate humanity, perception, and ethics. There is another way out, one with a conscience: Really want system change? Make up your mind to understand government financing -- change yourself first. Find and read your local "CAFR" (government's Comprehensive Annual Financial Reports), a wonderful source of information, with flow chart, descriptions of component or blended government units it's reporting on, and reporting the balances in each fund -- ever heard of a "Balance Sheet"? Looking for this also reveals just how many governmental business entities ARE there? Find them. Read. Think about what you see. What does it mean? As others have pointed out already-- governments tend to pool their investments, for example, "CALPERS" (essentially created ca. 1931) is the largest "public pension" investing platform around, or at least in the country. Getting started earlier sure helped, then adding players (subscribers) over time ALSO did. In 1985, add "CII" Council on Institutional Investors (members: in 31states and D.C.) (LA Times 1985 article on Calif. Politician (state treasurer, assembly speaker) Unruh whose idea it was for the Council so institutional funds could "flex their muscle"; and push for corporate governance reform. Cii members now control $3 trillion of assets). Point being, government holdings are invested, and when pooled like this, are major clout, and the average person never reads even a single government entity's annual financial reports. (I wasn't aware of them til 2012!) ![]() Governments not only invest their funds in business, they also by legislation, patenting, and protections, set them up to win, or lose. So, "know thy government" is a great place to start. (See blog/see links in the blog). This Dialogue continued below under "Really Want Systems Change?"] |
This Absolutely Uncommon Analysis shouldn't be! . . .
Really want system change? Make up your mind to understand government financing -- change yourself first. Find and read your local "CAFR" (government's Comprehensive Annual Financial Reports), a wonderful source of information, with flow chart, descriptions of component or blended government units it's reporting on, and reporting the balances in each fund -- ever heard of a "Balance Sheet"? Looking for this also reveals just how many governmental business entities ARE there? Find them. Read. Think about what you see. What does it mean? As others have pointed out already-- governments tend to pool their investments, for example, "CALPERS" (essentially created ca. 1931) is the largest "public pension" investing platform around, or at least in the country. Getting started earlier sure helped, then adding players (subscribers) over time ALSO did. In 1985, add "CII" Council on Institutional Investors (members: in 31states and D.C.), (LA Times 1985 article on Calif. Politician (state treasurer, assembly speaker) Unruh whose idea it was for the Council so institutional funds could "flex their muscle"; and push for corporate governance reform. Cii members now control $3 trillion of assets). Point being, government holdings are invested, and when pooled like this, are major clout, and the average person never reads even a single government entity's annual financial reports. (I wasn't aware of them til 2012!) ![]() Governments not only invest their funds in business, they also by legislation, patenting, and protections, set them up to win, or lose. So, "know thy government" is a great place to start. (See blog/see links in the blog). Find the named funds; who set them up to start with? I found the DV funds in California, how they were split off in 1999 between the DA's office and the DV industry, and guess what? My Congressman and I are going to have a talk REAL soon about case-dumping of dangerous cases into the family law system, where the marriage/fatherhood/access visitation funding sector can have their way with the kids, and the nonabusive parents, and further expand (rather then reduce) welfare loads, for profits to the state. Your legislators votes on budget. Budgets appropriate. Get it? By the way, every Congressperson, US and state, and I'm told major media gets copies of the relative CAFRs. They just don't really to have that conversation about BUDGET vs. ASSETS which leads to, now WHY are we being taxed, still? It gets down to ownership of the income-producing assets. Connect the dots between funds and funders, grants, and grantees. (Blog links show how). Do this for a while, and the lights will start to go on; illuminating another serious problem: the fundamental truth is, a Very Big Lie is Standard Operating Procedure throughout government, especially social services sector. Now what? A real fork in the road... Now what? Is your Congressperson in on it?Now what?.
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood And sorry I could not travel both and be one traveler long I stood and looked down one as far as I could.... [The Road Not Taken, Robert Frost, 1874-1963, from "The Poetry Foundation"] Once STOPPED at this point, you cannot travel down both paths and be one traveler. It's either retain that humanity, sensitivity to truth, or lose it. Either look down that less-traveled road, Or, do nothing much, and just sign over the decision-making process to others. AFTER ALL, it's not as though cloud-based software, combined with social service programming through welfare and child support systems to continue dumbing down people and smartening up robots! (I kid you not -- see "Neurala, Inc. and Brains for Bots(tm)" And corporate connections between the two! (stay tuned for the post).... Know how I found that? Looking at a tax return, looking up the Chief Operating Officer. AND his Board Relationships. Including this one (talk about putting together a team with international connections!!). The company is a federal contractor, too. Did my doing that take artificial intelligence, was it "rocket science?" (Not hardly!) This NONPROFIT is an HHS grantee and contractor founded in 1974, Ford Foundation capital + Federal agencies, and is the "evaluation and testing" arm of many Responsible Fatherhood projects ("Fragile Families" and the whole 9 yards), to justify the social policies that PRWORA (1996 Budget Act, "Welfare Reform") further enabled by dedicating millions, and enabling "Block Grants to the States" via "TANF." We are granting millionaire nonprofits more millions, WHY, again??? (while cutting funds for FOOD?). For more info, read my blog! It's simpler than it sounds IF you look. Most, just won't. How about you? ["Stopping by Snowy Woods on a Snowy Evening." Observe from a distance, not in the thick of it, consider (I have). And there are miles to go before I sleep, too. If you have stopped and seen, remember to stop back on the way out, and feed the blogger. See "strung out and stripped down" phrase, above. Thanks! ![]() ![]() |
[This text widget added Feb. 2014]. For over twenty years I have been dealing personally, first with domestic assault and battery, a.k.a. violence in the home, then by witnessing how ALL facets of the system collectively keep "Abuse Awareness" in the public's face and on-line, while locally, telling live clients in imminent danger, asking for help for the most part, go away and shut up. Or, when such people look for some agency with the words "domestic violence" or "prevent family abuse," or related sound-bytes on their websites, to show up (sometimes pay for) a class to develop relationship skills for handling one's: stalker, batterer, or the parent that threatened to, or just did, kidnap the kids. The same crowd (generic) also stay positioned for Technical Assistance and Training -- not real-time help. It's probably good they are often on the conference trail; if they stuck around home more, the word might get out locally exactly what "T&TA" means. My translation? "Need Help? Go Away! It's Not Our Job. We Just Train the Trainers. We Consult. Dial in for the Webinar."" (etc) So, what can be done then, meaning, by "us," (we, the people, the public, the huddled masses, or working millions) other than suffering nobly and dying dramatically, dealing with ongoing trauma, or de-sensitizing ourselves to the level of violence and our own government institutions' collective decisions to make business models out of the human tendency to slap others around, bully, lie, steal, terrorize, kidnap and [do things that is normally for privileged civil servants -- for example, in the military, the courts, the social services, an law enforcement, etc. -- and the private security forces for certain multinational corporations]]. We cannot help ourselves by taking the duties of law enforcement into our hands, physically -- that's illegal an dangerous! However I believe there is a way the public CAN help, a way to put a stop to free-fall exploitation, without adding to the ongoing stream of bloodshed (that's no exaggeration) or multiplying marginalized populations (i.e., the poor, those on social services). Individually first, and to each other, "the public" may still have some leverage in examining these TnTA "Go-Away! groups that are more interested in protecting their interests than our children (OR, us). That leverage is in CHANGING how we interact with our own government and whether we continue to feed this system through taxes, fees-for-services, mis-understanding what it's "there" for at this point in time (2014). I'm talking about the cognitive dissonance that comes from taking agencies, nonprofits, and civil servants at face value, instead of, as any good shareholder or investor would, understand the importance of reading the reports of that which we've invested in. The public can't read [enough of the] reports of private financing -- but we CAN of government, and we can of nonprofit sector. I only did because I demanded answers why I should be terrorized first, in my home, second in the community, and why, when law enforcement shoots to kill when they could've tasered, we should call upon them for protection from violence. When they won't enforce orders, then why are the orders issued to start with? Are our lives just some kind of game? Paying better attention to the infrastructure, and fiscal operations (of governments and nonprofits that do business with them) explains the bread-and-circuses use of the internet as opposed to, developing some skills to understand a little infrastructure. So, obviously, I have not gone away completely, or shut up, and as this blog shows, I have been taking notes on where the money is (as that seems to be the primary interest of the service-providers, not the people being served), and finding and reading tax returns, too. |
My other Gravatar (identical photo, below) leads to a 1992! discussion of supervised visitation; this one to a Profile narrative and other key blogs on this subject. Re:why "We can't HEAR you" in situations involving domestic violence (at the prosecution level) further enables "We're Training the Trainers to Raise Awareness about DV" at the nonprofit and DV industry level. Let's talk about who already knew that the VAWA grants faucet (1994ff) was matched, more than equally by a "Marriage/ Fatherhood" promotion faucet (both, federal and private combined), and have collaborated to split that pie, while keeping the public in the dark, which is how the public prefers to be kept about such matters... However this California criminal defense attorney's explanation that: "Domestic Battery" [Penal Code 243(e)1] is the least serious, Aggravated Battery [243(d)] is a Wobbler" (misdemeanor or felony). Yes, you can receive stitches, broken bones, or a concussion, and have it called misdemeanor ("say, what??"). Also, Corporal Injury on a Spouse, Cohabitant, or Fellow Parent [273.5] is per this attorney, a wobbler too. Sounds very wobbly, right? Also note: What sort of penalties am I facing if I am convicted of PC 243(e)(1) Domestic Battery? If probation is granted, which is typical, the court will require you to complete a minimum 1-year Batterer’s Program. The court may also require, in lieu of a $2,000 fine, You pay a maximum of $5,000 to a Battered Women’s Shelter, and/or You pay restitution to the accuser for reasonably incurred expenses as a result of this crime, including medical expenses." Either way, someone is going into a program, although it sounds very wobbly, no matter how it happens. What most do -- when children are involved -- is attempt to get it promptly into the local conciliation court where it becomes a relationship problem ,and services can be ordered, keeping the local DA's hands clear for such things as, stumping for more funds (grants) for more One-Stop-Justice-shops [[=my 6/2010 blog on this]] (family justice centers [scroll down to see]. Actually the first was started by a City Attorney, son of an evangelistic father [search "Gwinn" here], and who grew up on a Christian conference camp center [page 2, here/or hover cursor]). Whether it's Southern or Northern California, it seems to me the religious sector is keeping the justice programs AND DA's offices "all in the family," in this case a Catholic one, leaving people fleeing religiously rationalized, enabled, and covered-up spousal abuse, in truth, nowhere to run. At every turn, we are told to go away and just work it out. So, when "things happen" these officials then explain to distraught parents [been there more than once] why crimes involving CHILDREN, and a mother and a father, just aren't crimes [translation:-why should we prosecute when there's a family court staffed by people who on the faith-based, family and marriage/fatherhood funding streams nearby? What's in it for us?. Go away -- we're busy strengthening the domestic violence field, and Connecting the Dots]. Hunting for, Gathering, and Reporting the Truth... ![]() ...is a public interest cause. If it rings true, and you want this NOT to get buried (again), pls. click and help. Suggested minimum $20. The stakes are always high when truth [in these matters especially] is at risk. Truth also needs to be understood; that takes knowing the context, which also takes TIME. It's taken a very long time, but I have also been. Connecting the Dots, that is. Question: If DV is not a crime or at least not really to be prosecuted, if possible, then what were all the DV professionals doing the whole time, and why? Hmmm... They have been figuring out how to reclassify the crimes as a treatment opportunity (merging organizations), setting up their various nonprofits in mutual-interest, professional providers' alliances (connecting those dots, 2012). Something tells me, despite the verbiage, the plan is NOT to stop, end, prevent, [or any other verb implying cessation, or prosecution] domestic violence, family violence, or child abuse, but simply to set up professions to handle the constant inflow of new customers, that is, the survivors at least. There's no longer even a pretense that this isn't a specialized professional field, although the pretense is kept up, from the laws still on the Penal Code that it's a crime, at least a "wobbler." "Enhancing Leadership Programs for the Next Generation" The future of the movement to end DV [Futures Without Violence?] depends on our ability to successfully invest in young leaders. [from a nonprofit dedicated to training, "Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness, in Santa Clara County, [Charity #132625 Delinquent: Search here] has a retired? Judge LaDoris Cordell on its advisory board. GOOD. See Dec. 2013 Mercury News article about a (truly heinous) hate crime, racial, perpetrated (by 4 Caucasian young men upon a African-American young man, their roommate) at San Jose State. A bicycle lock around his neck, and worse, was involved. A task force was appointed. This same Judge Cordell, as its head, in November wrote the newspaper, asking why this hate crime "wobbler" was charged as a misdemeanor, given that: While each [District Attorney] had his or her own style and approach to leadership of the office, the reputation of that office has remained one of heavy handedness when it comes to filing charges. Commit a crime in Santa Clara County and there will be a very tough response from the district attorney's office. ~ ~ ~ So how is it that these four San Jose State students were charged, not with felonies, but with misdemeanors for conduct that, if proven to be true, was racist, assaultive, and ongoing? ~ ~ ~...A hate crime is a criminal act that causes physical injury, emotional suffering or property damage which is motivated by the victim's race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, physical or mental disability. A felony is a serious criminal offense punishable by confinement in state prison; a misdemeanor is a less serious crime punishable by imprisonment in the county jail for not more than one year. ~ ~ ~What is the message that these misdemeanor charges send to the accused? Bully, intimidate, and racially torment your African American roommate and it's not really that serious. If the allegations are true, these sadly misguided young men, as well as other students who might be tempted to behave in this fashion, are in need of "felony" wake-up calls. . Precisely. All I want to point out is -- the list of "hate" crimes of the same nature, with the same consequences, IF the word "sex" referring to one's gender (male, or not-male//See U.S. Congress!) was included, would up-end the justice system and economy. ![]() The FBI definition again verifies: Perpetrate a criminal offense against person or property to someone because of his or her: race, religion, disability, ethnic identity or sexual orientation, and it's a hate crime: Investigating hate crime is the number one priority of our Civil Rights Program. Why? Not only because hate crime has a devastating impact on families and communities, but also because groups that preach hatred and intolerance plant the seeds of terrorism here in our country. Defining a Hate Crime A hate crime is a traditional offense like murder, arson, or vandalism with an added element of bias What the Family Court system and its environs is telling us (all): "But, do the same any or all of the above to a woman because she's a woman -- and it's business as usual. " So I recommend focusing instead on ways to get those of us IN such situations, but still in the family court system (years later) OUT of that situation. As the system is designed (like abusers know) to prevent access to funds permitting exit, and/or hunt down people who flee, just now the best solution I can think of, as a survivor, is ways to persuade the public NOT that "mothers are people too" but that it's in their best interest to dismantle the system. After over 20 years of dealing with exactly this kind of hate and because I was first, a woman (in a marriage), and an educated woman; second, a single mother by choice NOT in the same marriage, I'm fed up with having everything BUT pervasive violence against women in the USA THROUGH THE FAMILY COURTS, not treated as what it is -- ongoing terrorism based on gender, beyond race and to a degree beyond socioeconomic profile. In practice, currently, the words "domestic violence" means "Give me my next VAWA grant" and at this point, not much more. And yet women are still being killed, locally, and brutally. Men are also killing each other, and adding to this, there are the times law enforcement shoot to kill also. However, what about the child support agency's "compromise of arrears" programs, which women entering the courts are NOT told about going in, based on gender, reunification of families, and which also tell us: A debt to the mother of your children (if you're the father and have been in the custody system long enough) is not a real debt either? This is essentially dishonest. Before you CS-paying men get angry (or your new women), realize I have also a blog called "boycottchildsupport" and check it out, too. I'm serious about it, although I'm still owed thousands by the father of our children, and also need this for survival, although it's not coming. This country is not serious about actually stopping any kind of violence. It's serious about keeping the funding coming for systems of population control for when it gets REALLY violent. "IMHO." |
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Recent posts selecting some Media/Library Uploads and summarizing them. Note, throughout hover cursor over the link for excerpts. This table combines links, connecting narrative, and often a bit more visible if you hover (place, but do not press down to click through to the other website), your device's cursor over the links. These take time to insert, and are there because I feel the summary is important, and/or because face it, people update websites, and the information may be moved, or deleted.
Look and See/Show and Tell (Selected Media/Library Exhibits) (Plus some narrative of course). Nov. 11, 2013. Example: Center for Children & Youth Justice (Washington state). I have blogged (use search). MacArthur is focusing on the juvenile system, pushing diversion vs. incarceration. See here, note the Kids For Cash Luzerne County (PA) case prominent. Media/Library Uploads - the Context. Also Nov. 11, 2013. See orange square titled "Archipelago Parts (of this system)" and other tables explaining when Bankrupt isn't (Scranton, PA), plus other, more experienced economists explaining how a Budget isn't Accumulated Assets and other Financial Lie-Detector Tools. That's major relevancy payload delivery, if you're paying sustained attention. Principles are explained, of course it takes examples to understand them. Rapid Expansion of AOC and CFCCs (Get the sense of the Flow) (Nov. 5, 2013). I set out 8 points (summary basics/hover) on the courts, some FAQs, and remind us to keep an eye on the various "Centers for Families and Children in the Courts," whether in Baltimore at a Law School.....or .... in San Francisco, under the Judicial Council's Administrative Office of the Courts (AOC) [I see California's CFCC is also listed in the John D and Catherine T MacArthur Foundation-supported "Models for Change" directory?? This tells us that that particular Judicial Council/AOC/CFCC office is considered a "Systems Change Model" wanted by, for example, certain philanthropies and other interests]. 3 classic change models [=hover. Lewin Unfreeze,Change,Refreeze; McKinsey 7-step, Kotter 8-Step. Which one are AFCC et al. using to expand conciliation court influence?].. FYI, in war, and also in abusive relationships, change tactics are also used. It's good to know what they are and when in operation! MacArthur-funded "Models for Change: See 8/15/2013 post "Private Wealth Acquisition/Disposition: Bankers Life (1879) MacArthur Foundation (pre-1978)". This is PRIVATELY controlled money dominating court programs. You'll see ("left-lurching") MacArthur Foundation, for example, pouring money into the civil-servant-membership nonprofits (but with connections to statewide influence, preferably) causes, so they can practice on an entire state at a time.. This is top-down system change, and that it's top-down is absolutely intentional. Like I continue to say -- look more closely at the administrative sector. The right-wing does this too. Some of the wealth acquired IS acquired by keeping it under private, family control. Always an interesting study to see where it came from originally. [Continued on Post "New Here?" 2/24/2014]. RECOMMENDED READ... [this widget "outsourced" to a blog post, plus some]... I'll bet this can be stopped. But not alone, and not without organization, and documentation! Any ideas how?? |
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Whether you want it parsed and outlined, or in documented rant form, it will be strategically different, scratch-your-head "Huh?!?" or deeply disturbing "What-the-????" and, in the long run, actionable (like, how can we stop funding the foolishness) information. ![]() The average post is 5,000-10,000+ words (including quotations), results from ongoing, original connect-the-dots investigations and analysis, while referring readers to others who've done their own research under hard conditions, including court-created poverty, trauma, and even sometimes jail (see Richard Fine). Basically, I saw a gap in informed coverage for not just women, but specifically mothers, and stepped in to fill and blog it and point to others' analysis who'd been inappropriately dropped by the roadside. The gap was the connection between federal policy, private nonprofit providers, and the local courthouse. I also felt that the gender wars (both sides) had been exploited by "carpet-bagging" interests as if these interests were neutral, when they were not. I also knew from experience that trauma AND confusion makes one easier to manipulate, while relevant information (and knowing how to get it) are antidotes. Another nonsectarian approach was definitely needed. The blog should (complete with sarcasm) should help some laugh at the lunacy, then I hope "wake the hell up!" about what public money is being used for, and clearly identify the PUBLIC danger which the PRIVAT-ization of government [2001, see p. 16 on "Nonprofits") represents. In this, the family courts' consistently self-congratulating, "problem-solving" model is a significant, and well-heeled part. (see "The Mediation Miracle," as told by a judge; p. 16/2006). The same groups pushing for no-fault divorce (under "irreconciliable differences") also pushed for conciliation courts -- does that sound rational? Was there another motive? Or was it to cause confusion over what is, and is not, a crime, and in that confusion, expand and engage behavioral health services? So, this blog provides an alternate framework for some of the toughest issues of our time; life and death issues, social issues, and economic issues that get to the heart of, what IS government, and where do I stand in relationship to it? It is what I wish someone had provided for my children, their father, and me before I set a single foot in, or responded to a single pleading, in the family court venue. Had I known it, I would've fought harder to get the case dismissed upfront, just as anyone being kidnapped should fight (if they are caught unawares) hardest right at the start, for the best results. Regarding donations -- any level of assistance will help, whether to upgrade the platform slightly (addressing formatting issues), add some functionality, or condensing the information as an aid to other forms of presenting it....or to help me to survive to blog again another day. If it's not yet understood HOW the family court system effectively (and I believe intentionally) functions to keep at least one out of every two parents in marginalized "economic survival mode" year after year, than it's simply not understood, and should be, as these people live in MOST communities today. ![]() I wrote on behalf of and knowing from experience that the people who needed this information the most could afford it the least; they were in survival mode year after year and often facing the challenge of their lifetimes (retaining contact, or re-gaining contact with their own children). As was I. Learning this material changed and empowered me, not in the case (it came too late for that), but as a human being. Some feedback has included (women, in particular) saying it prevented them from going crazy. Basic Truth has a way of doing that. I feel responsible to get the information into a form to document of a system in rapid change...a slice of history from a "user" perspective on these systems ... and which won't be buried (as social media and the internet changes) as the original material from the 1990s was. This groundwork has been done, and I can't continue the work for free. Your donations will help consolidate results into better visual format and they will also help me, the blogger to finalize this project, and still survive personally. Moreover, if they do NOT come in, then I will have a free assessment of its current perceived worth (other than what individuals have said, including THANK YOU!), at this time. Teaching/PR Goals for Parents and Public Include: [Warning: This part will offend some people, but it's a Public Interest part]
Others have already researched and shown that the funds are made up-front in the training for these professions, and sustained by federal grants from both HHS and DOJ sectors. Providers have at times been caught in fraud. Supervised Visitation in particular has been used to punish the nonabusive parent (not the purpose under which it was sold to the public), while "Batterers Intervention Program" serves to diminish, when it has occurred, the concept of domestic violence (battering) as an actual crime, instead attempt to reform (treat) the perpetrator. Whether or not these trainings actually work, the conferences, collaborations, forming more statewide nonprofits, and funding continues -- funding that perhaps might be better given to the household of whoever was battered, which it could definitely help. These professions were lobbied for, have nonprofit coalitions to promote and train others for (i.e., certification to enter the franchise),and at times are even run by people who also at times also control the public grants which support the services, all of which has been documented since at least 1999. I found some in 2013, California, recently (see "Comments" [by SystemicAnalysis] ). Yet they continue to operate. Just imagine -- with ALL that money saved, and fewer loopholes for fraud and theft of public funds (which has been identified year after year), why not have public money used to upgrade and fact-check that HHS grants database, "TAGGS" so we know where at least HHS public funds are going. Or, why not promote rather than "responsible fatherhood" (a nebulous and subjective term with clear religious connotations, varying by the religion) -- something objectively useful to all Responsible Citizens -- like how to read a governmental "CAFR" [that was a link to State of Washington's 2012 CAFR] and find out what funds are for which purposes.. and a ...or a counterpoint to how broke the local courts, schools, parks, etc. are (or, are not), and an organized and coherent window into the balance sheets describing the business of government itself. (I also began to blog at "Cold,Hard.Fact$"). ![]() I also recommend making the nationwide child support system (a fairly recent innovation) obsolete [=another of my blogs] and instead returning yearly administrative billions (about $4 billion enforcement alone) to taxpayers. To quit diverting welfare funds into marriage promotion as a franchised profession!!! [[the average taxpayer has NO idea of its extent..]] and to in general, establish that women do not have to fight each other (or hate men) just because society has declared "single mother" a disability for the kids, and then (just in case it wasn't true), made it happen anyhow through federal policy. Here's a 2003 Arizona Child Support Meeting (judges, Title IV-D directors) in which -- somehow -- Bill Coffin, then an HHS-employed Healthy Marriage promoter -- made a presentation about "Special Improvement" OCSE grants in 3 others states (PA, AL & OH). [Editorial Opt-Out: Some material, full of links and details, moved to separate Text Box ("widget") below, see, "Help Support and Report," below. ...] To acknowledge: This blog began by briefly fact-checking (and it was validated) the basic information found at Liz Richards' National Alliance for Family Court Justice, and the process of continuing to sort, compare, and investigate the grants, the courts, and as the title says, their "operations." I took that research and reporting to a different level and form, adding grants research insight into various advocacy groups and more, from the corporate and nonprofit analysis angle. There are also "how-to" pages such as ("Looking Up a Nonprofit"). Above all, as people continue to experience extreme distress around this issue, I wish them to know "it's not all in your head" -- and there really is a substantial problem. BUT, not to just accept pre-fab or spoonfed solutions: Develop your own understanding and your own voices. Any donations will more likely go into l consolidating and organizing this material. I do not want to duplicate the typical downloadable Technical Assistance and Training model. I just want to get the word out! I am a mother, a veteran of the family court wars and years of domestic violence (religious) during marriage; and as a result of saying "No!" to further abuse after separation, have (like many) suffered loss upon loss while consciously becoming a resource on these issues, along with some courageous writers who follow the financial trail. While I network, I also investigate and have developed an independent voice and viewpoint on these matters to counter the emotionalism, and/or "tell your story" drama, which does NOT help move a traumatized person into a psychologically stable position. It also doesn't help his or her custody case. I am not "PTSD-free" which will be evident in the blog. Who is, after years in the court after years of violence in the home? But that doesn't invalidate the content -- which comes with links, quotes, and footprints for anyone else who wishes to look things up. I am not a nonprofit; any donations accepted will help get information into better format (i.e., upgrade and organize the website), and help this particular blogger (me) survive. Former and even traditional professions are impossible with the ongoing open court cases (plural) and unresolved issues (to this date) with family members. Suggested amounts: $10-$25 if you are a parent struggling with the courts and can afford it, $25 or more if you are able. I have several buttons (same link) here because I tend to "run my mouth" in attempt to cover all bases. Any amount received with thanks -- a tiny % I believe is taken (from amount submitted) with the donate process. ("Donate" button only added Jul. 2013). |
This is a tale of Building Peaceful Families ("BPF")(incorporated 1/3/2005), Healing and Hope (posted 7/28/2013, hover cursor for the content), Domestic Violence Intervention Coalition {"DVIC") Inc. 1/21/2005 [compare with "BPF" date] (this is actually a California Corporation (i.e., BUSINESS) set up as a fiscal agent (?) to handle the monies from the activities of the Council -- which appears to be an advisory agency under the Office of Women's Policy, i.e. part of government. ) the site is advertising: Engaging, Motivating and Inspiring Men: the next step in Domestic Violence Prevention (10/2011 [18th annual. Do the math] conference run by DVIC [that corp]. and selling DVIResources with keynote speakers Lundy Bancroft and Jerry Tello),; and a tale of Mr. Bancroft's alter ego organization (or is it?) Protective Mothers International (not incorporated yet? Apparently not in Florida anyhow; that's the search site) but still has co-founders, apparently). A search for the Activist Woman the 'Healing and Hope" post is protecting, shows "The National Organization for the Respect of Motherhood, Inc." was incorporated 12/18/2012 by a person under LegalZoom from Glendale, CA (Florida-California??) under Ms. Levinson and two others. However, that was quickly dissolved when they never (ever) filed an annual report... Nevertheless, let's protect the mothers internationally (and engage and inspire the fathers).
PMA Blog "About" states:
"Janice along with Lundy Bancroft co-founded Protective Mothers Alliance International in April of 2009. *** Since then PMA has acquired more than 50 state chapter leaders in 30 states and several countries world wide. They have started a PMA blog talk radio show dealing with the many issues that involve the continued abuse by fathers through the family court system. Featured guests on the blog talk radio show are professional advocates in the movement** with a special spot light on giving protective mothers a platform to tell their story. [[;**I believe Mr. Bancroft, wherever he is these days, calls it the mothers' movements, when not schmoozing, fraternizing and inspiring those guys from the fathers' movement. Does Janice know? Does she approve?]] [[Finally found it -- NOT anywhere on the PMA actual site (and I sure went looking, too) -- but in 2009 under Lundy's BLOG called "healing and hope." Look an early -- June, 16, 2009 -- post, "Introducing the Protective Mothers' Alliance." Guess where checks can be (or at least then were) made out to, to support the brand-new PMA? CPPA!
More information about the Protective Mothers Alliance is available at my website, LundyBancroft.com, including our mission statement and principles, with an explanation of how you can start a group in your area and how to reach us. PMA is open to protective mothers and their allies. We have specific projects for children who were harmed by the actions of family courts when they were growing up, called "Hear Us Now," and for men who want to be active for justice for protective mothers, called "Fathers and Step-Fathers for Protective Parenting".
Mothers themselves will be the key leading force in bringing about safety for women and children post-separation##, and in changing the way family courts handle child custody disputes involving abusers. PMA looks forward to your support. Contributions can be made out to "California Protective Parents Association" (our fiscal sponsor) with "Protective Mothers Alliance" written on the memo line, and sent to CPPA, P.O. Box 15284, Sacramento, CA 95815-0284. ###except when the audience is men, in which case, it's men who are going to be the leading force, apparently.... OK, let's get this straight: PMA is a donor-directed "fund" of CPPA (which has no money -- see below, or look yourself). However, to learn MORE about PMA, go to lundybancroft.com (which I have just done, site ends notably *.COM, "Prevention, Response and Healing for Domestic Abuse [not "violence"?] and Child Maltreatment [not abuse?]" and see he has been running healing retreats for women, "The Life That Awaits You: Healing after an Abusive Relationship," led by (yours truly, LB) Retreat fee, incl. meals and lodging: " $385- $460, sliding scale. Maximum size 22 people." Resources for the "Male Allies" includes the multi-million-dollar SF nonprofit "Family Violence Prevention Fund" obviously this website hasn't been updated much since 2010, when they got a new name. [To my shame, I didn't find the CPPA connection until Nov. 2013, I was distracted by the "Florida" location of Ms. Janice...not that this wasn't possibly intentional. The phone contact (941-822-5592) listed is from Sarasota, FL it seems. Here's another "tell your story disaster story site providing that #... It WAS, sounds like, a disaster story...It's from a California chapter of PMA about a Michigan custody case. Hover cursor or click to read the PMA salespitches (plural) at the bottom of the report. ANYHOW, funny what such sites will NOT talk about, but now more of us ARE -- find this type of material on any solicitation to contact PMA! I'm just wondering how it's possible to have so many chapters, donations available for a Florida-Telephone# (but not registered as itself to do business in Florida) to PMA, which is actually advertising for a *.com for Mr. Bancroft. How many other "not really incorporated" alliances, and how much of the donations and fees for PMA are run through CPPA, if any, then? Or is CPPA simply the networking connection for these sales connections?] Here's CPPA Corporate registration in California in the Sacramento (State capital) area... C2178228 10/06/1999 ACTIVE CALIFORNIA PROTECTIVE PARENTS ASSOCIATION KAREN ANDERSON Charity# 114556 (Calif) EIN# 943341470. This organization is hardly funded -- it's not shown over $25K (revenues) except years 2002, 2003, 2004 (for which NO RRFs are showing as there should be). No tax returns for those more prosperous years either, only for 2009, 2010, none for 2011. The RRF for year 2010-2011 is signed by Connie Valentine, Fiscal Officer. The only tax return showing with SOME information (about what they do, although this organization is well-known, and well-loved, to many noncustodial and/or battered mothers), statement 3 (Program service accomplishments): "EDUCATION - COSPONSORED ANNUAL CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE AWARENESS CONFERENCE. TOPICS INCLUDED "FALSE MEMORY SYNDROME" AND "PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME" THE ASSOCIATION ALSO CO-SPONSORED "A DAY WITH CALIFORNIA LEGISLATORS" AND A SERIES OF NOT MENTIONED ON THEIR TAX RETURNS (though known to many mothers) -- that CPPA is along with DVLEAP and "National Court Watch" a co-sponsor (at least now, 2013) of "Battered Mother's Custody Conference" (existed 2003-2013, and exceptionally notable for suppressing overall information about -- what I and some others blog and write on, and had to because CPPA and their many friends wouldn't listen to!!! CPPA leadership often on the podium at BMCC, it seems.... One major attraction CPPA is to many trainers and advocacy groups appears to be the collection and assembly of email lists of distressed parents (particularly mothers) and then sending out of multiple alerts telling them what to do, and who to blurt the story to, which rally to attend, etc. etc. Back to what the "PMA" blogsite tells us, not including who's their fiscal agent, or at least was originally! Janice and Lundy have started a PMA bi-monthly news letter which is another vehicle for education and exposure about family court corruption. Janice continues to move forward full force in shining the light on the truth about the many problems that children and protective mothers face in family court." Sure. Except about the things I've been blogging on since 2009, which I know Janice also knows about (I've told her, and a number of the WHOSE movement??? (my comment there was deleted, so I put one back in...) Well, given this new information, I"m going to hazard a guess that actually PMA is more likely, as well as and along with CPPA, a vehicle for the distribution of private, court-related information from women with OPEN custody cases, and a way to potentially, given the cross-associations, get that information into the hands of the opposing side. POTENTIALLY, is all I'm saying. Could be way off there. Or right-on. Who's to say? So, speaking of the above, and adding to all this peacefulness and let's get along, healing, hopeful, nice stuff -- let's add to the mix a bit of "to the contrary" material from: one former battered mother who lost contact with her daughter through this system with, God bless her, a won't-stop loudmouth (Claudine Dombrowski) and social media skills, and responds to her own excommunication (within two days, looks like) in Reply to Lundy Bancroft. Change is Here. Lead, Follow, or Get out of the Way. Human Rights. Which, FYI inspired the lookup that found this stuff and inspired the post. We all have our different styles, but Mr. Bancroft, unbattered and not a mother, lecturing Claudine Dombrowski, badly battered, and lost custody of her daughter, on her TONE? No can do. I went to respond, look up, and found Santa Clara activities, above... But last summer, Claudine wrote: (excerpts)
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Lundy Bancroft was like the only source for moms like me. the criminal injustices to myself and my daughter it made no sense, Bancroft gave validation, why does he do that, the batterer as parent, it was all we had. we (the mothers) terrified, ordered by the courts via the abuser and the new found court whores to remain silent, to take the beatings to take blame for everything and even things that did not happen. maddening "I lost my child. Who helped me? No one. Did Bancroft help? no. Did NOW help? no Did DV orgs help? no. Who did help?? MOTHERS. Mothers like myself, living in fear, jumping through impossible hoops to just Hold our chil;d again to just hold safely our only mission, our children." "Lundy is a psych. and we all now are beginning to learn the damages done by the psych industry. Lundy as a psych elected to be paid by the county to TREAT batterers, E.G. Batterers Intervention, alternative to Battering, we all know that -- Non remedy but ‘feel good guaranteed creation of roles and groups that do not need to exist. [ Interjection: 9/2010 commentary from his blog on the ideal batterers' intervention group, for society to show they are serious about stopping abuse -- would be two to three years, 2-3 times a week. [hover cursor]. I think this reveals about where it's coming from -- run more classes and therapy, behavioral change, trainings, etc. -- right?]](Claudine writes: )Ok so back to Lundy and his job of teaching batterer intervention groups. He began to notice a pattern, with the abusers, the hatred, the use of the mothers children, hence, Lundys books. Then the one time he does, he choose to do the unthinkable-- public damnation of a battered mother. You did not hurt me Lundy, you hurt so many mothers who feel like you beat them the worst. you were behind the scenes told by countless mothers the issues with Janice -- you ignored them. " So that's when I went looking, found these other corps, and attempted to tell CD (I don't hang in the same circles). And another, (ditto) me ("Let's Get Honest" will do for now)-- who continues to say, "STEP ONE is to find, and read, the tax returns, and watch the money fly away-- or shift quickly from one to another when one's about to be "outed." This pattern of filing, or forgetting to file, and comparing one with another -- is not only interesting, I do believe it's a character indicator. So, this little mini-history, with is characters, corps, and county-connections, also tells us (all) what the domestic violence intervention movement is doing, as opposed to what it's preaching, these days -- and by "these days," I do mean, now. Overall, "We are not amused," it's hardly a laughing matter -- but this one does have an entertainment factor to it. It's a "whodathunkit?!" situation, and an indicator of how gullible the public truly is. IDEA: Legislatively Require ALL current sitting judges AND retired judges to post RIGHT ON THE *.gov website -- ANY AND ALL nonprofits they have formed, along with the EIN#s. You'd be shocked.. Also, enough of them lie (fail to disclose) that there has to be some way to look such things up, too! (continued on 11/1/2013 post. Or check it out yourself). |
[We'll see how appropriate this Gravatar is, but for now, it and it's references are up...]
I am still in shock (but far more activist shock than years ago) over What Happened in the 1980s, 1990s across the country -- to restructure WELFARE justifying this on the basis of BUDGET (which I now understand to be a partial-truth used to clobber Americans with and cause them to quake in fear about becoming what, well, many have already become -- destitute, begging, distressed, and besides that, like me, they have become disgusted with what they thought were some rights, some courts, some justice, some laws in place to protect them, and some due process in those courts. Only to find out the "family" was the patient, and public-funded therapies for private pockets was the plan, and almost any local institution (court, social service agency, nonprofit DV agency, family court facilitator's office, child support agency, law enforcement outpost (police station, etc. to either exchange, or get some help to retrieve children after a weekly court-ordered exchange), and now we have family justice centers, too.
Common sense and understanding that ANY point in time (like between 1999 and 2001), look at several systems to understand which way the profits are flowing, how, and to whom= why, will go a long way. . [NYPort Authority, World Trade Towers, steel core (to address the "pancake" factor if it fell, through a "Collapse into Footprint" design; asbestos lawsuits/liability, gale-force winds, $7 billion of double-indemnity insurance, 3000 dead]... Meanwhile, there's "Clinton Bodycount" (no, I'm not referring to men, women and children who have been murdered, nationwide, around custody, divorce and child support issues, since domestic violence became a relationship problem and not a crime (and divorces went "no-fault" and irreconcilable differences went into Conciliation Courts -- or, if people don't submit, "high-conflict dockets. No, these are specific to the Clintons, whether in Arkansas, or DC, or those evidently in the way or a potential popularity liability.). the site "Clinton Body Count" at least organizes them, into: Most Recent, Most Famous, Dead: Fundraisers, Witnesses, Women,, Investigators, Commerce Dept., and then some people who were accidentally too close, or stumbled upon things near Mena, Arkansas [Ives/Henry], or knew about it [Coney, McKaskle, Collins], or knew about THAT [Rhodes, Winters, Kettleson], or, et cetera. And several more, including attorneys, investigative reporters, and so forth. Re: investigative reporters that suddenly committed suicide, (Casolaro), RedDirtReport (2012, AGriffin) details on: Jackson Stephens, BCCI, drug money [AFDA, the Octopus, etc. Read the first paragraph]. My point isn't to scare, but to be aware. As a survivor of some horrendous enough events, and horrendous handling of just two young people, my only children from only one father, while married -- I do know that the danger and the denial are both dangerous. So, we ought to understand gov't accounting BASICS in historic context, and simply be aware that drug money and money laundering does affect basic institutions. Don't lose hope -- but also don't lose sight of the urgency of the times, or the bedrock truths of what this means to any grandchildren and beyond. [[[Bodycounts as collateral, not primary, damages to increased profits are not new, and they are "bipartisan." Keep eyes on THAT prize, as uncomfortable as the reality is.]]] However, after 9/11 and Homeland, welfare reform's programs kept expanding, faith-based offices opening, and the HHS revolving doors were spinning. DOJ no different, and everyone (but those who have to stand by while they are being helped and demonstrated upon) seems to have their hands in the pie. We forgot to factor in multiple systems converging to control the federal faucet, privatize its showers, and to restore "balance" in the status quo: Fathers, Faith-based, Families and of course it's all about the Children. (Sure yo' right....) In 2014 (my 20th+year since first reporting to family, ob/gyn doctor, clients, employers, neighbors (although they surely knew from the noise and occasional police cars showing up at the home), and of course faith-based groups, that I, Mom, was getting battered, and getting more and more concerned about survival, without means to just walk out, with kids -- and have somewhere other than homeless or in a shelter to land), and having realized now for about 5 years the role that welfare reform played in this -- I just discovered the "Bruce Reed Welfare Reform Series" -- lists, and links to scanned documents of BOXES (alpha by topic) of Wm. J. Clinton Presidential Library's material on these critical years: 1993-1994.
The Welfare Reform Series includes material pertaining to legislative strategy, analysis of state plans, child support, speeches, rollout of the Working Group's proposal, and various drafts of welfare reform bills authored by the Working Group, Congress, and public/private organizations. President Clinton established an interagency group, the White House Working Group on Welfare Reform, Family Support, and Independence (1993-1994), in order to carry out his campaign promise “to end welfare as we know it.” The Working Group was co-chaired by Bruce Reed."
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SUBJECT MEMO:
Obama on Domestic Violence, in “Domestic Violence Awareness Month” (Oct. 08)
OCTOBER 2, 2008 2:18AM
Kelly Lark’s Open Salon blog
“http://open.salon.com/blog/kellylark/2008/10/01/obama_on_domestic_violence
(1) About My (FamilyCourtMatters) Blog, Topic-Switching.
I see it as “Alternating Threads of Thought.” There IS a tapestry involved, imperfect and news-sensitive though it is.
Readers will find that I may skip from topic to topic among my posts. One day, it may be recent news of family annihilations (in the context of divorce and custody). Another, it may be my reaction to administrative non-reaction to this. A third day, it may be a bit of history on the courts, or the next day, I post an article from the 1990s. Yesterday, I tacked on a database (that has been lurking link-side for a long time here), about the US Federal Government, where your $$ went, and how to find out.
(On the $$, I am also working up a separate site . . . . sarcastically entitled “Administering Families, Serving Humanity.” (“http://hhs-acf-ocse-et-al.blogspot.com/“). So far, it’s not yet populated with a post.
Well, possibly that comes from having been a musician, and part of this time, a conductor. Expect different dynamics, melodies, and energy levels. It’s not just about a single tune (“Father’s Rights. Mother’s Rights. Best Interests of Children. Feminism is anti-God. God is anti-woman. Domestic Violence. Child Abuse, or “false allegations” thereof. Parental Alienation vs. Post-divorce pedophiliac behavior. Parental KIDNAPPING. Due Process Lost. Law and (dis)order. in the Courts. Forensic Psychology vs. fact-finding when it comes to child abuse (or for that matter, IPV). “Healthy Marriage” promotion vs. a single citizen’s right to protect herself/himself and her or his children. (Boy, i bet THAT order of genders caught your attention!) … Sob stories, Statistics, suicides, femicides, homicides, familycides, or – – – – is it REALLY all just about the money? Or is it social engineering from on high…))
Clamoring melodies trying to drown each other out, true. But on this blog (although I’m sure you detect to what tune my theme is generally pitched) the idea is to examine many threads, and pick up on the energy level, dynamics, and the cumulative expression. IF the cumulative expression is diminishment of CIVIL rights and due process, we have a problem, folks! If you come to this conclusion, then I have plenty of links for you to do some homework, or search terms to think about to validate / invalidate your conclusions ideas.
IF justice is being bought and sold at the federal mandate (or initiative) level, and the bottom end of the food chain, those with the most to lose in the matter of injustice, then we have a moral / spiritual / serious constitutional issue (which I think we do).
OR, is it just about the heirarchy of studiers (and funding for the studies) vs. studied (the population to be tested, randomly sampled, and have the techniques re-adjusted to achieve a desired result — a GOVERNMENT desired result that was not subject to popular vote or poll) then we have a problem. And that “we” is all of us but those who do not need a country to protect their assets, their families, or their livelihoods.
So Subject Switching here is to be expected. Pick your melody and follow it — or, just float along, feel the tilt and roll of the boat. If you have leisure for the “float along” blog-read, I presume you are not IN the system, because IN the system many of us (without personal connections, or personal resources, or a professional guide — or a professional guide TO the professional guides, who prey on novices) are water-skiers with one ski and a frayed rope, we need to pay close attention to the wake (of the motorboat) and find ways to maintain our stamina on the fly. As such, we will be skiing faster and farther afield, and more dangerously so, than those in the motorboat. If this is you, you might enjoy the thrill of it, or, having had enough, try to let go, slowly sink, and hope shore is within swimming distance. Or, that the boat circling back to see where you were, lets you on board, and doesn’t force more of the same.
After all, a trip through the family law (and child support, psycho-jargon) system, or through the wide-cast trawling nets that reel squiggling, flapping, or stunned catch from the bottom of the ocean (or food chain, as it were), is going to change one’s major relationships: With children, spouse, employment, possibly former social acquaintances, concepts of “liberty and justice for all” and a few more items.
Therefore, it’s my blog, and it’s broad in scope. If you are overwhelmed, welcome to it. It succeeded in communicating — because that’s how families are. If you as a bystander don’t LIKE supporting families (societies) trashed by this, then please come back later and chew off some more data and digest it, or chew it (but don’t inhale — former President Clinton says he didn’t, neither should you. Take time out, but DO come back.) And don’t spit anything dark and nasty at me, either, please! Spittoons ARE available in comments, which I moderate.
Or visit some of the illustrious buttons I’ll be adding later today, and get another take on these items.
Speaking of visitors, this blog is getting viewers from many countries, including a few whose names I don’t even recognize. Please make yourselves known in a comment or two — I get a little nervous when India, Egypt, Pakistan and Saudi Arabia show up shortly after I’ve posted something with the word “honor killing” in it, or something about a brave 12 year old that said, give me the law, not your version of it — to her parents, when it came to marrying too early. Then again, maybe it’s someone else taking heart, which would be wonderful. I do wonder what West Finland, Sweden, and Scotland are doing here, and Washington, D.C., I’m citing your data and commenting on it, so “deal with it,” OK? Los Angeles, if you’re the Courthouse, ditto!
(2) Today’s topic, and how I got to it:
Intro:
How many angels can dance on the head of a pin? Or, how many “awareness” days can you pile into one little month, APRIL, when at least in the U-S-A, many are most sensitively aware to the I-R-S? I believe April was: Sexual Assault Awareness month, Child Abuse Awareness Month, and in a few states, governors were persuaded to tack on “Parental Alienation Awareness DAY.” After all, one needs to even the score every now and then, which PA is intended to do, and in some arenas, has more than. The thing to become aware of as to “PAS,” however, is its author, its origins, its prophets & priests, and the varying (and they do vary — radically) responses of various areas of professional expertise (and grants/salaries) Pro or Con.
Well, I can now scope out the “He Said / She Said // WE (the experts) say” sites, fairly quickly, They tend to have more limited vocabularies, and the themes are fairly simple to follow. This gets boring, and sometimes I like to check one of the regular news an commentary, and just search on a hot term: “domestic violence” or (any of the above). Say, “truthout,” or CS Monitor, or Washington Post, or, today, Salon.com caught my eye.
In between other interests which kind of make up for, I suppose the years when the general tenor of the marital conversation was half a Bible version on gender roles (if you’ve been there, you know which one I mean), or reproof for not living up to my 9 /10ths of the imaginary marriage vows (as opposed to the one I said out loud, before witnesses), or reminding the holder of the 1/10th that if he was the boss and I was the hired hand, where was my pay?, and if working conditions didn’t improve, someone just might be short a hired (oops, “conscripted” hand) for the assigned tasks. Or, recovering from the somewhat predictable response to such protests (see, eventual DV restraining order actually was granted, based on declaration, and in the company of a support organization which had been helping me survive emotionally, learning a few legal rights on the way, until this event) — part of my compensation is an extra prolific range of reading, on-line and off. And, I talk to lots of people about their situation. I am a personal data net. It helps me navigate…and is entertaining at times, too.
So, I searched “Open Salon” on “Domestic Violence” (Parental alienation didn’t yield a single relevant result, which also tells me that this is a specialized vocabulary to this (Alice in Wonder)land, and, that (as in mirrors) normal words read forwards, but only make sense if you understand they are interpreted backwards..
And here it is:
(3) PRE-ELECTION PRIORITY:
“Obama on Domestic Violence” (link):
OCTOBER 2, 2008 2:18AM
Kelly Lark’s Open Salon blog
Ms. Kelly Lark says:
{{“Hail”is too reminiscent of “Heil, H_ _ _ _ _” and I tend to reserve mine for now.. How about, “thank” or “express appreciation”? We are in a republic (ostensibly) not an imperial regime. At least on the books. Let’s wait a little on the “Hail, the Conquering Hero Comes,” or Palm Sunday, as it were.}}
Strengthen Families
President Obama was raised by a single parent and knows the difficulties that young people face when their fathers are absent. {{ DESPITE MY RAILING ON THESE SITES< I FEEL HE TURNED OUT ALL RIGHT. DON”T YOU? HE BECAME PRESIDENT. I VOTED FOR HIM IN PART HOPING HE MIGHT ALSO UNDERSTAND THE SINGLE MOM TAKE ON LIFE.}}
He is committed to responsible fatherhood, (1) by supporting fathers who stand by their families and encouraging young men to work towards good jobs in promising career pathways. The President has also proposed an historic investment in providing home visits to low-income, first-time parents by trained professionals. (2) The President and First Lady are also committed to ensuring that children have nutritious meals to eat at home and at school, so that they grow up healthy and strong.
[The bold below was a technical error and will be corrected later]…
A commitment to stopping domestic violence, which is primarily targeted at women when it comes to fatalities, would most certainly help ensure that the children at least get to grow up, period!!
(1) “responsible fatherhood” is a code word for the uninformed, and boy is IT well funded. By “encouraging young MEN to work towards good jobs in promising career pathways” I would like to note, WHAT ABOUT THE WOMEN?? It’s already abundantly clear it is desirable that the Moms put their kids in earlier and earlier Head Start. The purpose of this is that we go to work. So why do young MEN get our President’s and his wife’s special encouragement, while the young women, some of who are giving birth, don’t even get a mention when it comes to “promising career pathways.” What is expected? Does he want us at home with our kids (but not homeschooling, which is anti-patriotic, I heard), or in the workforce? Does he want to perpetuate the WAGE gap while attempting to narrow the health care gap? What’ gives?
And, I would also like to ask, where is the respect here for some of the older women, who have raised children somehow with or without the benefit of VAWA, and are working also? If we happen to be divorced and NOT playing 2nd string Mom to some children that were Healthily replaced into Marriages that the Federal Government approves of, what are we expected to to do? Take up the slack in the VAWA funding as encouraged to do in the Oct. 08 speech above?
Now, while I see under “Women” this is mentioned, I just wish to point out that when discussing “families” it takes a woman to make one.
“Prevent Violence Against Women
Violence against women and girls remains a global epidemic. The Violence Against Women Act, originally authored by Vice President Biden, plays a key role in helping communities and law enforcement combat domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking. At home and abroad, President Obama will work to promote policies that seek to eradicate violence against women.”
On subsequent posts, I will describe some of the funding for policies that tend to do the exact opposite. When it comes to $$ versus words, a $$ is worth a thousand words, and paints a clearer picture.
Other links on VAWA, not necessarily up to date:
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
The Violence Against Women Act of 1994 (VAWA) is a United States federal law. It was passed as Title IV, sec. 40001-40703 of the Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act of 1994 HR 3355 and signed as Public Law 103-322 by President Bill Clinton on September 13, 1994. It provided $1.6 billion to enhance investigation and prosecution of the violent crime perpetrated against women, increased pre-trial detention of the accused, imposed automatic and mandatory restitution on those convicted, and allowed civil redress in cases prosecutors chose to leave unprosecuted.
VAWA was drafted by Senator Joe Biden’s office with support from a number of advocacy organizations including Legal Momentum and The National Organization for Women, which described the bill as “the greatest breakthrough in civil rights for women in nearly two decades.”
VAWA was reauthorized by Congress in 2000, and again in December 2005. The bill was signed into law by President George W. Bush on January 5, 2006.
Criticisms of VAWA legislation
Various persons and groups, including Marc H. Rudov, Glenn Sacks, Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting (RADAR), and African-Americans for VAWA Reform (AAVR), have voiced concerns that VAWA violates due process, equal protection, and other civil rights. {{ALL OF WHICH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ITSELF DOES….}} None of these groups oppose laws protecting victims of domestic violence. They oppose laws that discriminate exclusively against specific social groups and deny these groups equal protections.
NOTE: Click on “Rudov” (a name I’m less familiar with) for a sampling of the thinking behind opposition to VAWA
PICTURE ME IN THE AUDIENCE, EAGERLY RAISING MY HAND, AS IN A CLASSROOM, JUMPING UP & DOWN FOR ATTENTION.. .. “Sir, Sir? SIR?? I have a question”
Given that many “women” are “mothers,” and the Bush and Clinton administrations are avidly promoting “Healthy Marriages” (meaning, 2-parent households preferred, all others, go to the back of the line, when it comes to custody) “Promoting Responsible Fatherhood,” how are you going to reconcile the domestic violence restraining orders, obtained through the VAWA fundings, with the inevitable trip through the family law system, where another paradigm reigns?
How are you going to reconcile “Promoting Responsible Fatherhood” {{=child support waivers (lowered obligations) in exchange for increased access (to children that may have witnessed Dad beating Mom to the point the law had to intervene)}} with the above claim. As I am sure you know, those movements “rule” in the family law system, and are vastly outfunded compared to this $25million, though we do appreciate it?
Would it not be simpler to de-fang the the policies that are specificall directed AGAINST VAWA and AGAINST the right of a woman to NOT remarry after leaving an abuser, without losing the children that she removed from that volatile environment?
Or, I have another idea. If the “communities of faith” continue (as they have) to operate as a law unto themselves (as they do) in the matter of domestic violence, being as clergy at least, many of them mandated reporters of DV & child abuse, how’s about you remove the tax-exempt status unless they PUBLICALLY post the laws stating that domestic violence, spiritual or moral problem that it is too, IS in this country a felony or misdemeanor crime??
Prevent Violence Against Women
Violence against women and girls remains a global epidemic. The Violence Against Women Act, originally authored by Vice President Biden, plays a key role in helping communities and law enforcement combat domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking. At home and abroad, President Obama will work to promote policies that seek to eradicate violence against women.
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Written by Let's Get Honest
May 3, 2009 at 1:54 pm
Posted in Cast, Script, Characters, Scenery, Stage Directions, Domestic Violence vs Family Law, Funding Fathers - literally, History of Family Court, Lethality Indicators - in News, Organizations, Foundations, Associations NGO Hybrids
Tagged with domestic violence, family annihilation, Feminists, Intimate partner violence, mediation, obfuscation, social commentary, trauma, U.S. Govt $$ hard @ work.., women's rights