I am an investigative blogger — not an “investigative reporter” — and a domestic violence and family court survivor who chose, early on, to depart from the standard type of reporting and storytelling encouraged by most advocate groups, including “protective parents” and others.  I talk and research entities involved in fighting over the role of the family courts and how to handle abuse within them.

have been blogging (here) since March, 2009.  Since mid-2022 I have been more active on “X” (formerly known as Twitter); much of that quotes or links to this blog.  @LetUsGetHonest

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Title: Table of Contents 2020: FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Just Ten Posts (Jan.-July) and Its Only Page [Publ. May 18, 2021..] (short-link ends “-cKH”** about 5,500 words)

This post is marked “sticky” (pinned to the top) .  Protocol to make a shortlink from the case-sensitive, unique to each post or page three final characters see my “Front Page” (“FamilyCourtMatters.org“).

This is now the topmost of 14 sticky posts accessible through the “Current Posts” doorway (page) to this blog. Some posts are marked sticky to provide access other years’ tables of contents, others just because I consider them basic or important to this field. For example:

Of those 14 sticky posts from January, 2017 forward, I found two I’d like to feature here. The first one (despite its wordy title) was top of the blog when I restructured it, with a “Let’s Talk!” message.  The two posts, both from April-May 2018, and so about three years old now, are:

[Several Paragraphs Removed here, post in edit, July 24, 2021. They may resurface as separate post, but I feel are too expressive and personal in nature (as well as in need of some better copyediting) for this context…. //LGH]

This blog is in part (and part — not all!) of my learning curve in defining WHAT’s taking place (however, you may characterize it as “right” or “wrong” or “good” or “bad.”  Unlike my summary expression here (which I take responsibility for as my experience), most of this blog — according to blog purpose — is to get both men and women (whether involved in the court or bystanders) AND the public witnessing all the chaos — to take a closer look at things that are NOT “hearsay” and “he said/she said” and start talking about those.

Policies to stop domestic violence, poverty, child abuse, and “fatherlessness” and to promote, basically, almost anything, including marriage, same-sex or “man and woman only,” and (fill in the blank if it’s a CAUSE:_____) require resources, typically run through tax-exempt organizations and profiting consultants, media experts, subcontractors, and sub-grantees.  These resources are a combination (overall) of public, private, or both — but the “public” can be easily hidden within a single tax return, as can inter-relationships.

So it gets to be more a matter of, how much do we know and will we bother to find out, about who runs the money through which conduits.  It gets to be about taxes, tax-exemption, and databases (run either by governments — who sometimes also outsource them) describing what entities (public or private) operate, where, and how lawfully and honestly do they do so.

It should be understood that governments (in particular the U.S. government) still seem to hold the income-producing assets in the form of investments, and in the form of control of persons who work and pay taxes (i.e., the power to tax).

We should understand in the U.S.A.**– “how things work” and why some centers of power expand, others disappear over time — and along with them, strands of relevant truth.  In particular here, about the family courts and the issues they handle.

(**Those not living here but dealing with the same causes as so concern me here  — how to safely, with children, leave violent relationships, i.e., CONTINUE to survive — when institutions provide obstacle after obstacle to doing so, would also do well to understand these things, and be aware of what people talking shared rhetoric do NOT mention, as has been established here, the negative impact of court privatization and how federal policies towards family courts incentivize certain “outcomes,” but when individual parents, impacted by exactly those outcomes (i.e., the system and incentives worked, as planned) the same federal courts can and often do claim “not our jurisdiction” and bounce the cases back to state level.  So there’s a dichotomy of responsibility).

I found learning all this, as well as the understanding to be fascinating, interesting, and definitely a “transferable skill.”  My technical skills as a self-taught blogger and (to the degree any such skill exists) social media user (Twitter, mostly), lag far behind, but on these topics, I have confidence on what is, in fact, taking place.

And we are not amused…

[“Stakeholders v. Shareholders” Paragraphs Removed here, post in edit, July 24, 2021, which had been added mid-June, 2021…  //LGH]

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Post in edit, July 25, 2021 …

Many more Paragraphs removed from here, currently (as of that date) resting in draft status elsewhere …  //LGH]

This time (again) I chose to make some peace with my internal urge to speak by getting some expressions, points, observations, off my chest. To skip that section, scroll or page-down below the text (in this color scheme) and the few paragraphs just below it.

Look for the table:  here’s a sample with the first row, showing how it’s organized:

Until I publish some more this year, the same basic posts (up to the last ten) will appear also under the “Last Ten Posts” widget on the narrow right sidebar, a few inches down on the right side.

[[SECTION REMOVED HERE Dec. 15, 2023, to shorten this page//LGH. I’ve left a footprint here only]]

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(No new posts since August, 2020, the lone page I found was April 13.  A list of my other about sixty pages is as a separate “sticky post”– scroll down from the top of the “Current Posts” page to find):

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The table begins right below this line:

Making a shortlink protocol:  Posts begin “Http://wp.me/psBXH” (and add the final 3 characters with hyphen).  Pages begin the same except for a capital “P” in “PsBXH.”  My only post was April 13 and is clearly marked.

For which 3 characters to add for a shortlink, see rightmost column, a convenience mostly for my administrative use (but if quoting a post; please include!). Clicking on post (or page) titles also connect directly to that post (or page). Title hyperlinks are also in short-link format and easily copied and pasted for those who know how to do that.

Publication dates now typically also part of the titles, too.

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