Abbreviated Title:  Moms New To … #FamilyCourtReformists Rhetoric 2002-2022, [You] Have Other Options.. [March 20, 2022]. (Case-sensitive short-link ends “-dVE.”

The previous post ends abruptly because I just moved about a third of it here.  Points of reference from the previous post saying “below” may now be here instead.  Please treat the overlap of subject matter as review or repetition — no harm in saying it again…

Posted ASAP because of its strong tone, especially towards the end.  I start with a verbally colorful rant about who I mean by “Moms” and some “TABLE TALK” about why this blog may be a difficult read and why it is a difficult write. The determination to speak, or what to speak is the easy part; so is finding what to report by now also, but turning this into comprehensible essays while writing straight onto the blog is tough and often tedious.

The subject matter is personal to me because I also lived through the systems I report on, but I chose to investigate from a different perspective. When I didn’t follow the assigned script or continually cheer on those who did (and the thought-leaders involved), I quickly found my writing sidelined, ignored, rarely linked to, and NEVER acknowledged by the FamilyCourtReformists as even existing, let alone as legitimate.  (Years of “statcounter” showed who in government and at universities was nevertheless watching this blog, including District Attorney’s Offices, universities (yes, those East Coast Ivies and more).

This shunning cost me social bonding and social-media referrals, but compared to what I lost (and it was a loss) in social/emotional bonding with others who also lived through this I have gained more in clearer insight to the system in motion and the system’s fiscal structure. That understanding was and still is worth much more than any cost in less social support and bonding. Taking a stand also helped me retain my conscience and self-respect and usefulness to others who can see through fake advocacy.

Full Post Title: Moms New To and Seeing Through #FamilyCourtReformists Rhetoric 2002-2022 Have Other Options.. [March 20, 2022].   (“-dVE”)

Women in my situation shouldn’t be bonding indiscriminately long-term: there’s a duty of basic survival: to keep people in frequent contact with us, our support systems we engage in (on-line, phone) honest and maintain “iron-sharpens-iron.” Conflict pe se isn’t bad.  Constant compromise is: there IS a war on, always, to gain or retain basic freedom, liberty and individual freedom of choice in life.  There’s a duty to resist propaganda and make sure consent is really informed consent.

You will not find me presenting my findings as I see (most) journalists doing: dropping names, citing experts, and expansive reporting on individual cases in the middle of that hoping (and even saying) this is and should pass for “investigation” and research.  It’s not: it’s journalism.

More journalism — especially of this type — is not what’s needed here.  In its place, we need more average, regular individuals to understand that boilerplate articles (quoting experts, or copying existing campaigns, add in a custody case or two to personalize it) don’t qualify as investigation or research so they can discover what it does mean and engage in that.  Investigation and research means LOOKING into the supporting schemes which must include the money and obtaining a basic understanding of the infrastructure — the flow of resources and finances.

Flow of information follows the resources. Pick some nonprofits or non-profit sponsored websites (I do — often) or consortia and see which major corporations are sponsoring them… 

You can’t look into finances without exploring entities and the public/private sector and sooner or later arrive at an understanding of what taxation accomplishes — and what the largest (billion-dollar, hundred-million-dollar assets) — tax-exempt foundations corporations exist to do.**

**Not exactly what’s on the labels.

Name me any journalist currently reporting on the family courts, custody disasters, reform movements, domestic violence, or even AFCC.  For any one doing that (I don’t see ONE), I can name probably five who are putting out, regularly, strung-together articles establishing themselves (and the names dropped in every article, often from the #FamilyCourtReformists lobby), not bedrock truths. They are publishing and being published regularly.  I cannot do a review or critique for every single one.  I talk about type so it can be recognized.  Over time, I’ve done several (most recently, illuminating how a Forbes Woman had affiliations with an AFCC_drenched nonprofit registered (entity address at least) in New York State, called “Family Kind, Ltd.”  Look it up!

Again, this post is:

Moms New To and Seeing Through #FamilyCourtReformists Rhetoric 2002-2022 Have Other Options.. [March 20, 2022].

(Case-sensitive short-link ends “-dVE.”
The two previous posts were published earlier in March:

I’m not redefining which “Moms” I mean. Many know already because they’re in the middle of court cases or reeling  and dealing from the consequences of the same.  This message would go for anyone else (Dads, decent people, others reading that rhetoric over concern about the levels of criminality and violence being diverted into the family court systems, while others seek to radically alter the “punitive” parts of the criminal justice system — and those others entail major tax-exempt foundations willing to, and boasting about how they have already — run “systems change” pilots on entire states).

I do have some words to say about that Lobby and its tactics, which speak to its purposes.  After that sound-off (which it is), several paragraphs long, look for some “Table Talk” (several paragraphs) which looks and starts like this:

Table talk is essentially empathizing and acknowledging some challenges my readers may have comprehending this information…  then again, start doing what I recommend doing, and lights should start turning on without all my explanations… Learning how to learn by doing… it’s work; it’s not a downhill slide without effort.

Below that is the transported exhortations from my March 19 (also brought in from the March 7) posts. Currently in all about 5,500 words.  Not a tough read…

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