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Give us your huddled masses, your underage daughters: Oconto Co Wisconsin locks up Lorraine, . . .

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Earlier, I (and colleagues — see those buttons on my blogroll!) posted  on the 30-plus individuals involved in ONE mother reporting sexual molestation (and more) of her little girl in Wisconsin,  after CPS workers in 2 counties confirmed it. 

As reported Oct. 17th (DV awareness month, much?) on another blog (calling her a “teen” daughter was inaccurate.  Though the abuse started earlier, my understanding is, she is 11).  You should click on this link also — someone’s comment (wife of a police officer) is relating another account.

Wisconsin Mom Lorraine Tipton (Oconto County) is under fire because her teen daughter refuses to go on visitation with her abuser father, who makes her sleep on the floor and drives with her drunk in the car.  The father, Craig Hensberger, managed to convince the father’s rights judge, Judge David Miron, in power there, to threaten Lorraine with jail if her daughter does not go.  Her daughter was in the emergency room this past Thursday night, sick and frantic, and is currently home with her mom, medicated and scared.  The abuser’s mommy has not picked her up as she threatened to do.  So Lorraine faces jail on Monday.  Please say a prayer for her. 

Here’s a StopFamilyViolence release on it at “RandiJames.com”  File it under “a Thanksgiving to remember…”  I guess…

Daughter Won’t Visit Father? Jail Mommy!

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
November 19, 2009

Contact:
Irene Weiser
Stop Family Violence
iw@stopfamilyviolence.org

WHY IS THIS MOTHER IN JAIL?

(Oconto Falls, WI) Today an Oconto County family court judge sentenced a mother to jail because she was unable to force her daughter to court mandated visitation with her abusive father. The daughter will be sent to foster care if she refuses to live with her father while the mother serves her sentence.
Circuit Judge David Miron sentenced Lorraine Tipton to 30 days in county jail for contempt of court, for her failure to follow the custody order requiring her daughter to live every other week with her father, Craig Hensberger.

 

NOTE:  Anyone see this work in reverse, father jailed for refusing visitation to mother?  If so, let me know — it’s my situation.  I miss my (daughters) too!  And if I file for a contempt (further upsetting someone) knowing the courts or enforcement will do nothing, leaving an angry male on the loose.  Same deal with “certifiably insane restraining orders.”  But there’s not a single qualm about restraining protective mothers.  Fork them little girls over, we want a fresh supply of young flesh, plus that adrenaline rush that comes from dominating a woman,  for those who feel entitled, or have become addicted to this need.

These are country-wide, generational nightmares.  When’s the wakeup call?  What will it take to stop it?

 

She’s terrified of going; she has night terrors and severe anxiety” says Tipton, who admits her daughter hasn’t visited with her father since August.
“I thought the court was supposed to look out for the best interests of the child, not the best interest of the father,” Tipton continued. “I thought once I got out of the abusive relationship everything would be fine. Instead, my abuser is continuing his abuse of me and my daughter with the help of the court.”

Over the course of their on and off 8 year relationship Hensberger was arrested three times for domestic violence and once for child abuse. Since their separation in 2005, Hensberger has been arrested twice for DWI, including once while the daughter was in the car.

Although the court has ordered Hensberger into alcohol treatment and ordered “absolute sobriety” when having visitation, the daughter claims he continues to drink to excess when she is visiting. The father told the court he had stopped drinking completely. The mother recently had a private investigator follow the father, who found that the father drank heavily on a night he was scheduled to have visitation. In court today the father admitted to his continued drinking; nonetheless the judge still sentenced the mother to jail.

 

Clearly this judge marches to the beat of a different drummer, or is it $$?  One wonders…



Hensberger achieved his local 15 minutes of fame in Oconto in March of this year, when he forced his daughter to enter 3 different fishing tournaments using the same fish so that he could collect the money – a story covered widely by local news. While the local media angle related to his transportation of fish against DNR regulations, Ms. Tipton’s concerns were for the well-being of her daughter, who was being taught to lie, cheat and steal by her father. Since this incident, the daughter’s relationship with the father has deteriorated, Tipton claims.
Additionally, the father’s employment is irregular, his house is in foreclosure and he currently resides with his mother. The daughter claims she is forced to sleep on the floor in the living room or in the unfinished basement since there is no bed or private space for her in the small 2 bedroom house.

“Sadly, this case typifies the problems we are seeing in Family Courts nationwide,” says Irene Weiser, executive director of StopFamilyViolence. org. “Family court judges are failing to recognize signs of abuse, and are placing children in harms way. {{I DISAGREE.  THEY SEE IT, BUT CHOOSE TO IGNORE IT.  The KEY TO THIS PROBLEM IS WHAT ARE THESE JUDGES PAYING GREATER HEED TO THAN THEIR JUDICIAL MANDATE HERE?}}  Even worse, instead of investigating the abuse allegations, they accuse the parent making the allegations of being vindictive and punish them for taking actions to protect their children. Often judges seem more concerned with maintaining the child’s relationship with the father than ensuring the child’s safety.”

 

Apparently this mother is now out of jail, and her daughter is back in a different kind of jail sentence, and we will just have to figure out how to grow up around all this.  And the reporters will continue wondering why we have so much rape, violence, and substance abuse, let alone, mental health problems in our country.  Gee, let’s take a wild, educated, guess…

Again, folks, this is not anomaly, some aberration, some weird exception in upstate (or wherever) Midwestern Dairy State (?) .  No, this is the pattern, this is the intent, and this is the practice in the family courts.  You are watching it.  Watch your headlines….

At the risk of hammering in this point of HOW it happens, and why (i.e., pointing to probable cause, not just effects), here’s an excerpt from the NAFCJ.net website as to this practice. 

Further down on this link the “Center for Policy Research” group is mentioned.  Check it out — it’s a key player, and sets a pattern for similar groups…

Meanwhile, I am saying my prayers for the Tipton family (and mine).

Child Support role is often a key factor.  Don’t know if it was this time, but t ypically it is.  A broke Mom can’t stick up so well for her rights. 

ANYTHING below this line is a quote from that NAFCJ site, though not so formatted, which ends my post today. 

One reason I understand this pattern to make sense is watching the pattern of abuse, individually, between the family of origin and my ex, and the role of finances, etc., develop over the years, and a progression to the careful vocabulary / jargon used to justify it. 

There is most definitely a system to the chaos. In fact, chaos is the desired status, from what I can see.  (See also Naomi Klein, “The Shock Doctrine,” referring to continental lockdown, etc.)  When people, or a nation, is in shock, it is vulnerable to dictatorship.  That’s why we must FIGHT LIKE HELL for Constitutional rights for all citizens:  male/female, young or old.  This is a language issue, and then practicing what the Constitution says, eliminating something else in one’s life, and forcing legislators, judges, attorneys, and lawyers to practice what they swore an oath to.  It requires checking public records and trying to stop kickbacks, racketeering, double-dipping, and so forth.  This is the price of freedom — vigilance.  And yes, it matters, if it’s not your immediate neighbor!

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Read about Meyer Elkin’s  role in the AFCC is discussed  toward the bottom of their site  AFCC: History page  .  
Completely omitted from this AFCC history is the very relevant fact that Meyer Elkin also co-founded in 1985, the leading fathers rights group – Children’s Rights Council.  Study these people and their site carefully because it is the “blueprint” of how the courts are organized to rig cases for their paid-up allies.  Nobody has to slip an envelope full of cash into the pocket of a co-conspirators to rig court cases for these people.  It is all done for them by the government.  They get their bribes paid for them !

The  AFCC never mentions the multiple cross-affiliations between AFCC officials and the fathers rights group including Children’s Rights Council (CRC), founded by David Levy  in 1985, along with several other key AFCC people.  While this vital fact is no where to be found on any of their recent literature, it did appear in the early (pre-Interent) CRC hardcopy newsletters,  which NAFCJ possesses, and uses to discredit this group and the judges who collude with them.  Also in these older CRC newsletters was discussion of grants they received from HHS and the people who worked with them on those grants – people like incest promoters Richard Gardner and Warren Farrell.  CRC allies were put into high-level HHS-ACF position such David Gray Ross, as Commission for Child Support Enforcement (OCSE) -starting in 1993 through approx 1999..  Ross was a Maryland Judge, who people who knew him say was a dead-beat dad himself.  He spent his time as OCSE commissioner instituting regulations, programs and policies favorable to fathers and CRC.  He essentially set up OCSE to be a fathers rights child support avoidance and custody switching agencyThis perversion of  OCSE’s  agency’s original legislative mission continues to-date.  This is the reason why so many custodial mothers can’t collect on their child support arrears, while non-custodial mothers are hounded incessantly and even jailed for support obligations assessed beyond standard guide-lines and beyond their ability to pay.   Other evidence taken from HHS Inspector General Web site reveals even worse corruption at HHS-ACF/OCSE.

The AFCC claims their focus is on training judges, custody evaluators and mediators about custody and divorce issues. But in reality they are a father focused organization and promoting alienation theories to explain away family violence by men. In reality they act as a “clearinghouse” for organized case rigging.  They hold conferences about parental alienation but never mention the many professional experts who have condemned it as harmful to children or the link to incest promoter Richard GardnerTheir  scheme involves “recruiting” male litigants through fathers groups and federal HHS programs managed by the local child support agencies for program “services” which are ostensibly for helping non-custodial fathers get their visitation rights so they would have less incentive to default on child support obligations

{{COMMENT: This has absolutely been my experience, and the Center for Policy Research link, and many others, tend to verify it.  I pressed for child support, my kids were STOLEN, and this was rubberstamped.  Have barely seen them for dust since….}}

Instead the fathers get deals to have their support obligations closed and sent to a program paid attorney to litigant [“litigate”] for custody.  The judge hearing these cases proves [“provides”?] payments to the court-colluding fathers attorney and other supposedly “neutral” court evaluators.   None of this is disclosed to the targeted female litigant who sometimes is also ordered to pay the fees of these court professionals (e.g. illegal double billing).. 

The father is encouraged to file repeated motions (usually on frivolous claims of visitation denial or alienation) so the co-conspiring court professionals can get a steady stream of government payments.  {{GOT THAT??}} It appears the judge handling these cases gets a kickback from those being paid (with his approval) based on a few exposed examples.  This is what keeps their litigation game going and going.  They label it high-conflict bitter custody litigation to hide their own fraud.  The blame the mother for everything and keep her away from her children so she will be desperate to go back to court and get a chance to convince them of the truth (which of course they already know, and are exploiting perversely against her).

Basic Judicial ethics prohibits judges from belonging to organizations with people who appear before them in the court cases.  However, this doesn’t stop the crooked  AFCC affiliated judges from appointing Guardian at Litem (child’s attorneys) or court psychological evaluators who are AFCC members to the same cases which the AFCC member judge is handling.  Also the AFCC conducts joint conferences with the CRC – fathers rights group – usually on the subject of Parental Alienation – which they all know has been discredited as being not a valid method for use in court evaluations.

{{NOTE:  Like other organizations (me talking, again), AFCC may have some fine members.  I know some.  However, like our educational system, this system’s history and intent of the organization stands, and I stand by the above summary of it.}}

Other people on AFCC’s Board of Directors are many people closely associated with the Children’s Rights Council.  Their  favorite researcher  —  Sanford L. Braver, Ph.D. — was a recipient of a $10M federal grant.  Braver,  found, astoundingly, as a result of his study that after divorce, women do as well financially as men!   Bradford and many other purported “neutral” expert evaluators all work in concert behind the scenes to issue rubber-stamp anti-woman, pro-abusive father evaluations for the primary intent of deliberately covering up for abusive fathers (as a protection racket fueled by federal program graft).  

Another AFCC founding official is Jessica Pearson, President of Center for Policy Research of Denver, Colorado, which is a primary consultant to the Department of Health and Human Services – Administration for Children & Families (HHS-ACF) which includes OCSE.  Pearson/AFCC have been using their influence for many years to create pro-father programs and protocols which are steered to the pro-father court professionals who train others in the anti-mother evaluation tactics such as PAS.  She has been a frequent speaker at CRC and AFCC conferences and works closely with other fathers rights collaborators to promote PAS in government programs. 

 

The AFCC has many state chapters which conduct conferences, seminars and workshops on their “latest” practices for handling divorce, custody and related family & children litigation.  Most of the identified AFCC professional members routinely practice anti-woman, pro-abuser father PAS tactics against mothers who complain of child abuse by the father.  Most have a documented history of rubber-stamping every mother as an mentally unstable alienator who is the cause of all the problem and unfit to be around her children.  Of course, they know the truth of what they are really doing – is to trump up reasons to make the mother look bad so they can justify recommending sole custody a father accused of domestic violence, child abuse or support delinquencies
 
{{GOt those 3 avenues?  Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, Child Support arrears.  She protests, on behalf of the kids, she loses contact with them.  More business for the court.  Alternately, for a supervised visitation center, another “racket” as far as I am concerned.  LetsGetHonest speaking in that regard, not everyone agrees with me on that.  Jack Straton, Ph.D. and a few others seem to have already, though…”What’s Fair for Children of Abusive Men?”}}
 
This tactic actually works well for them, because so many people are inclined to believe that women can’t take the pressure of martial break-up they “go-crazy”, imagine or even fabricate problems in their attempt to “get-back’ at him.  These tactics are effective against even professional and prominent women.  The commonly heard “bitter custody dispute”  really means: “crazy lying accusatory woman” who drives the man to violence out of shear frustration (lets call this the Alec Baldwin excuse)

{{YOU WANT TO HELP KIDS?  TRACK THEM THAR FUNDS AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT….}}

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Left from previous news release above…
StopFamilyViolence. org is a national activist organization that works to ensure safety, justice, accountability and healing for victims of family violence. Irene Weiser coordinates the Family Court Reform Coalition, a coalition of advocates, professionals and organizations formed in response to the national crisis in the custody court system, where all too often, judge’s order children to live with abusers and punish, silence, or jail the parent who tries to protect the children from harm.

Irene Weiser
Executive Director
StopFamilyViolence.org
331 W. 57th St #518
New York, NY 10019
iw@stopfamilyviolence.org 

 

OK, my commentary again.  See next post (11-17-09) for next installment in this fiasco (or, business as usual, depending on one’s perspective)….

This mother eventually DID go to jail for failing to force her underaged daughter to allow her father to force himself on her, drive drunk, and other forms of child abuse.  What a few judges with an agenda can do in a system that allows this . . . .  We were pissed off, appropriately.  I’m tired of that!  This mother was sentenced to jail, in 30-day stints, until her girl went back for more of the same (as I heard it). 

When the girl caved in, her mother was released.  This story is still unfolding. 

USA, folks, this is not Guantanamo, this is motherhood, USA.  And she wasn’t even a single parent, this time.  How’d you like to marry into that situation? 

Unjustice and abuse affects EVERYONE….

It affects the next generation, assuming they live that long. 

Over the past decade or so, researchers at McGill University in Montreal, led by Michael Meaney, have shown that affectionate mothering alters the expression of genes in animals, allowing them to dampen their physiological response to stress. These biological buffers are then passed on to the next generation: rodents and nonhuman primates biologically primed to handle stress tend to be more nurturing to their own offspring, Dr. Meaney and other researchers have found.

Now, for the first time, they have direct evidence that the same system is at work in humans. In a study of people who committed suicide published Sunday in the journal Nature Neuroscience, researchers in Montreal report that people who were abused or neglected as children showed genetic alterations that likely made them more biologically sensitive to stress.

[After Abuse, Changes in the Brain by BENEDICT CAREY

StopFamilyViolence.org, Feb. 23, 2009]

 

Republicans, Quit Blaming the Poor for their Poverty! (House Ways’n Means/Camp statement re: TANF)

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http://waysandmeans.house.gov/

The HOUSE is who appropriates money for various legislation.  One way to stay up on it is simply to subscribe to email announcements.  See four-day committee hearings 9/11-12-13-14th 2012…

TANF, as I noted last post, frees up more and more ways for states (those in power in state HHS branches in particular) to divert money collected from all originally intended as “AID to FAMILIES with DEPENDENT CHILDREN” (AFDC) to ‘TEMPORARY AID for NEEDY FAMILIES” (of federally-connected contractors and social-engineering-minded professionals..)

Someone else needs to start posing (framing) the questions.  I just showed how, amazingly, some people’s work entails spending welfare diversions from kids and their parents who need it to eat, in order to promote evangelical world views that marriage is the way.  And somehow these proponents are rarely lacking in real estate assets, which only a spelunker could trace –and who has the time and will for that?

WORK ETHICS indeed!  Hypocrites!

How much “work” is involved in going to conferences, attending a training seminar in how to push marriage or fatherhood curricula on xyz population, write off the conference as a deductible for one’s nonprofit formed precisely to take advantage of TANF’s diversionary magic qualities, set up (or buy) a website and then take referrals from your church, child support offices, or prisons?

What this is really about is making sure that more people are working wages, which = more centralized control for those who are close to government (in it, getting grants from it, or contracting from it).

See last post.   Block Grants to States.

Opening Statement
Opening Statement Chairman Dave Camp (R-MI)
Markup of 
H.J.Res. 118, “Providing for Congressional Disapproval of the Administration’s July 12, 2012 Waiver of Welfare Work Requirements” September 13, 2012
(Remarks as Prepared)
Good morning. We are meeting today to consider H.J.Res. 118, a resolution to block the Obama Administration from waiving work requirements in the Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) welfare program.Americans strongly believe that those who are able should work in exchange for receiving federal benefits.  A recent survey revealed that 83 percent support a work requirement as a condition for receiving welfare.  The best way out of poverty is a job, and it is critical that our laws both foster job creation as well as ensure that welfare is always a pathway to work.

Work requirements were central to the success of the bipartisan 1996 welfare reforms.  Those reforms led to more work, more earnings, less welfare dependence, and less poverty among low-income Americans.  And the reforms were unmistakably successful.

For example, employment of single mothers increased by 15 percent from 1996 to 2000, and it remains higher today than in 1996, even after two recessions.  At the same time, welfare caseloads have declined by 57 percent.

However, with their July 12 announcement, the Administration moved to undo the success of the last decade and a half and allow States to waive the welfare work requirements that are at the heart of the TANF program.

To make matters worse, the Administration’s proposal to waive these important work requirements is illegal.  The 1996 legislation, signed into law by President Clinton, does permit an administration to waive certain requirements in the welfare program, which we will hear more about today.  But the work requirement is not among those provisions.  And this was intentional.

In orange, one lie and one irrelevancy.  Who’s on-line to counter this propaganda?  Notice how he went RIGHT to “single mothers” when in fact, now there are single fathers (or remarried fathers) extracting children from working single mothers’ homes, so some of these mothers are now instead simply paying for the privilege of having been robbed of contact with their kids.  Some of these are also paying men who battered them or abused their kids (I am NOT saying it’s all).

It could be that for SOME types of jobs, the way out of poverty was a job — but then again some of the people (in the family court system at least) who are helping put one or BOTH parents out of jobs are either judges or psychologists, or both.  The Wall Street Journal did a study a while back of the highest-paid per hour professions — and guess which two came out near the top?  Judges and Psychologists (at the PhD level).  Guess how THAT came to pass?  Off mainstreaming mental health.

The fact is that the better way out of poverty is owning a prosperous business (suggestion:  Become a federal contractor), making it to retirement on a federal pension, wise investments that put off enough to live on (NOTE:  Not recommended to invest only in the United States, as IT doesn’t….) – — and then, there’s also the immoral, unethical, and illegal way out of poverty called dealing in drugs.  I don’t recommend it (risk levels including getting caught and jailed, or dying, and plus, it makes for a worse globe).  That said, our own government is one of the biggest drug-dealers around (including Pharma, and Narco) which I think is no longer up for debate.  We just don’t like to think about it much.

ANOTHER way out of poverty is to form a shell nonprofit situation (i.e. sell out) for the HHS and take grants to then take more funds from the poor, which is primarily what the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative set the standard for.   I have WATCHED this and BLOGGED this herein.

yet ANOTHER way out of poverty, apparently, is to become a “FAITH BASED” (or “FAITH-BASED”) something or other, and submit an application to the US Department of Health and Human Services.  There are 11 without the hyphen, and 39 (including some individuals with the name “Faith”) without:

Recipient = Faith based

Showing: 1 – 11 of 11 Recipients

Note: One EIN can be associated with several different organizations. Also, one DUNS number can be associated with multiple EINs. This occurs in cases where Dun and Bradstreet (D&B) has assigned more than one EIN to a recipient organization.

Recipient Name City State ZIP Code County DUNS Number Sum of Awards
Alta Vista Faith-Based Initiative Corporation  Double Oak TX 75077-8450 DENTON 361452084 $ 50,000
Faith Based Community Development Corp.  OCEANSIDE CA 92054 SAN DIEGO $ 75,000
Faith-Based Solutions, LLC 

(= BIGggg FRAUD. I blogged)

RENO NV 89502-3709 WASHOE 145755851 $ 1,000,000
Governor`s Ofc of Faith-Based & Community Initiatives  MONTGOMERY AL 36104 MONTGOMERY 124325460 $ 0
Governors Office of Community & Faith Based Initiatives  DETROIT MI 48202 WAYNE 805340163 $ 250,000
Iowa Center for Faith Based & Community Initiatives  W DES MOINES IA 50265-5489 POLK 189950996 $ 1,050,000
National Center for Faith Based Initiative  WEST PALM BEACH  FL 33407 PALM BEACH $ 1,750,000
New Jersey State Office of Faith Based Initiative  TRENTON NJ 08625 MERCER 361857998 $ 0
OH St Governor`s Office of Faith Based & Comm Initiativ 

(Took the money & ran, next Admin (2007) got to do the audit and pick up the pieces.  This office is still in place.  Search “Krista Sisterhen.”)

COLUMBUS OH 43215 FRANKLIN 809031776 $ 3,444,539 
OH St Governor`s Office of Faith Based & Comm Initiativ  (Interesting, got two DUNSs.) COLUMBUS OH 43215 FRANKLIN 809376072 $ 1,534,186
PLEASANT CITY FAITH-BASED COMMUNITY DEV. INITIATIVES  WEST PALM BEACH FL 33407 PALM BEACH $ 75,000

(the next 39 will include this subset, I believe, so let’s approximate maybe 28 more.  Want an eyeopener?  Do follow-up!)

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September 13, 2012 at 9:26 am

When “DomesticViolenceSpeak” becomes irrelevant, almost… Let’s talk, in Duluth, then Denver… (Publ. Aug. 5, 2011)

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FOREWORD (?) March, 2019: Other, more recent posts (Oct. 2017) tell more about similar topics; however the existence of this post in August 2011 shows how long (not very!) it took me, a formerly battered mother NOT coached into “problem-solving behavioral modification theory” regarding men who beat their wives in front of their children, to figure out the blind spots (and mutual vested interests) of the federally-funded, nonprofit-organization-run, centralized, “Coordinated Community Response” to domestic violence movement in the USA.

Mainstream media reporting on problems with the problem-solving programs (like “reunification camps,” recently in the news) and “children going into the custody of batterers” (featured in a 2011 article also well before this, and an ongoing theme) are still, basically, ignoring this infrastructure.



When “DomesticViolenceSpeak” becomes irrelevant, almost… Let’s talk, in Duluth, then Denver… (Publ. Aug. 5, 2011)  Shortlink ends “-OL” (capital letter “O”/ not zero,”0”).  Post length: about 15,500 words.  As of early 2019, my table of contents (there are several) do not go back to 2011.

Post title & shortlink, now my practices, added 2019 along with these comments (and a few images to go with them) on why I’m back on this post nearly eight years later.. (light-blue background, orange borders).

(This post came up in a search of my own for “enhanced judicial training for cases involving domestic violence” after realizing how impressed by it was our current Director of the Office on Violence Against Women (Katharine Sullivan), which office is under the Associate Deputy Attorney of the United States of America (i.e., Federal Government), also head of the Justice Department — of the Executive Branch of federal government.

…Ms. Sullivan joined OVW in January 2018. Ms. Sullivan is passionate about OVW’s coordinated community response and multidisciplinary team focus on combatting domestic violence, sexual assault, dating violence and stalking. …

…Ms. Sullivan presided over 45,000 criminal and civil cases in Eagle County, Colorado during her 11 years as a state trial court judge. {{no mention of whether this means, in family courts or not…although I believe they’d be under “civil”}}…Ms. Sullivan also implemented and presided over two problem solving courts.  In 2016 she was awarded 5th Judicial District Judge of the Year. 

…Ms. Sullivan also implemented and presided over two problem solving courts.  In 2016 she was awarded 5th Judicial District Judge of the Year.

 

Significance:  That enhanced judicial training is provided by “NCJFCJ” ((National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Justice) in association with “Futures without Violence” (formerly Family Violence Prevention Fund,”) both occupying special positions in HHS-funded under “Family Violence Prevention and Services Act” (of 1984, itself an Amendment to the earlier “CAPTA” (Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act).  And both also no doubt receiving USDOJ grants under the later 1994 VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) under which office Ms. Sullivan (now Director, not just Acting Director) of the Justice Department’s OVW now holds.  See two images from July, 2018 (Denver, Colorado training)  “remarks as prepared

One difficulty (from the consumer’s point of view)** with this arrangement for handling domestic violence (i.e., centrally controlled through funding by the US Executive Branch, through statewide coalitions, but dedicated extra-special “resource centers”), especially with the NCJFCJ being one is that the NCJFCJ is composed of family and juvenile court judges, with significant overlap and alignment with the smaller “AFCC” (Association for Family and Conciliation Courts) with specific characteristics most likely to endanger abused women, non-abusive fathers, and children while extracting assets from households (sometimes along with children), ensuring such conflict that sooner or later, people will be driven to utilize (or, at times court-ordered) to partake of professional services of AFCC members, featuring the behavioral sciences.  (**from the providers point of view, it’s the opposite; which I believe is the real “conflict” being resolved)…

 


A blog upgrade since then has altered the appearances of earlier posts, making some of them harder to read (as do any expired image links). Still, this post names key players and features an essay or presentation from Jack Straton, then of NOMAS, on Supervised Visitation. While it’s content still make ssense, in later years (although it shows up here too,) I am much more focused on the organizations networking for certain policies and what they mutually decide NOT to talk about, when it comes to family law and domestic violence issues…//LGH March 2019)

 

2011 text begins next paragraph (below horizontal line).  On March 25, 2019, I removed some of the TAGGS ( US Dept of HHS Grants) tables, a good chunk of the vertical space on the post, to a new post (will be in draft for a while because formats were an issue). Link inserted below where tables removed, will be activate when those are published. That link and temporary title are: Duluth and Denver in DomesticViolenceSpeak (Giant TAGGS.HHS.Gov Tables from Aug 5, 2011 post. TAGGS format has changed since.) (This post — moved material, link ends “-9A5”).
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August 5, 2011 at 8:53 pm

Yes, Child Support Industry IS a For-Profit Government Fraud (“F.R.A.M.E.D.” and other topics)

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Posted originally July 17, 2011. I see from some of the charts that I updated it since (there are tables from HHS of Access Visitation grants showing from year 2014, 2015), probably to clean up the table formats. Visiting it again because of a recent comment (approved 2/17/2016). Searchable terms, “undistributable child support collections.” Beware challenging stockpiles of improperly withheld (by government) wealth — a long time ago, attorney Richard Fine representing John Silva (a father) — did this. Fine also challenged illegal payments to judges from the County after judges’ salaries were officially transferred to the State level (ongoing process of removing local control), and some powerful RE developers. He spent 18 months in solitary coercive retirement (designed to produce behavioral change) and as an old (69,70 yrs old) and lost his law license (was disbarred) as a result.


Since 2011, I became aware of a source of reading government financial statements (“CAFRs, see more recent posts), and and more aware of fund accounting within government. I recommend people (the public), particularly in your areas of subject matter priority, including child support, go hunt down some of these funds, demonstrate you have read and comprehended the basics in those statements, and start asking hard questions.


This blog discusses

Child Support is a For-Profit Government Fraud” From:  “F.R.A.M.E.D.” (framedfathers.blogspot.com) Saturday, May 15, 2010  / Bruce Eden

And while agreeing with the title, makes a few other points by commenting on it.

Family Court Judges order such onerous child support amounts in some cases, along with alimony, daycare, medical expenses, and other expenses, that the father can’t survive. He ends up becoming despondent, leaves his job and drops out of sight. He loses all contact with his child(ren) as a result. This is the government’s ultimate goal.** Breaking up of father-headed families (and then mother-headed ones when there are no more fathers, wherein, the government will come for the children without any resistance)

2014 update, (next few paragraphs in italics)

**The government’s ultimate goal appears to be power and control, for profit.  The entire population, if it became fully aware of the actual profit retained by all levels of government entities (as expressed on their “CAFR” reports I learned in spring 2012 and have been reporting since), many of us would be justifiably outraged, and some of this outrage would not be expressed in nice, compliant, obedient manner.

By keeping us economically strapped through these institutions of perpetual warfare,  against individual rights, constantly eroding them under the premise it’s for our own good (and usually what’s being held over anyone’s head at any point of time is someone else’s poverty.  Put up with more erosion of rights “for the good of the group.”  

At times, the government doesn’t just strip children off their mothers, but gives them back to the fathers after the domestic violence protection has been removed.  That’s the game, folks.  Promise protection, then fail to deliver.  Take situations in crisis (for a variety of reasons, but definitely may include abuse), and exploit them – – – for profit.  What I do, and what I recommend both mothers AND fathers do, is find that profit.  To find that profit, one has to, after the anecdotes and narratives, which speak to the emotional, wounded, and high-charged issues, get clear, cold, hard, focused and analytical — and use that analytical truth in its own words, to expose the systems.  These are not just one system with one results, but multiple systems with multiple goals, depending on what sector they are in.
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Religious Ramblings from Child Molesters

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This may be the world’s quickest post — newsprint articles that raised questions in my faith-filled but sexist/abusive-institution-rejecting mind:

These came up, searching for the Garrido article, and are on-theme:  Connection between religion and child or minor sexual abuse.

Sorry about the dark topic, but without some sunlight, such things just continue….

January 24, 2005

Deal exposes dark chapter from De La Salle’s history

Alleged molestations have left lasting scars

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from THIS newsvine site, MSNBC article, here is a victim’s response:

I am a survivor of rape, for 2 1/2 yrs. I was the a victim of my father’s. After his release I lived in fear for my life for many years, until I found out that he was dead and had been for 2 yrs., at that time. The reason I had to find out for myself after a lot of digging, Texas dropped the ball. The officers in Amarillo (where he was supposed to be) never went out and verified his address, a registered sex-offender on parole. After I found him dead in Arizona they weakly appologized and gave a lame excuse about inadequate staffing. I agree that staffing is inadequate in many police departments, but not in numbers, but in intelligence. I have known many parole and peace officers that would go out of their way to check up on a sex offender in their areas, a couple of them helped me find a sex-offender that was not in their area.

It is time for victims of sex offenders with stories where law enforcement failed them to find lawyers and start filing class-action lawsuits. It is time to DEMAND longer MANDATORY sentences that make NO room for early release. If they wish to find God they can do it behind bars. I am personally all for the death penalty, but I understand where that could be unreasonable. Each state as well as the federal government should be held accountable for their negligence. I understand that until the crime is commited there is nothing to be done. But there is NO excuse for KNOWING that someone is an offender and allowing them to fall through the cracks. This whole story could have been avoided, and because of this cutback or that cop not wanting to stay late on his/her shift filling out a report he was set free AND ALLOWED to do this heinous act to this young woman.

The chief of police says that they are beating theirselves up. WHATEVER!!!!!! I hope that the people of Antioch run you all out of town, parole officers too. I hope that when you apply for a new job and they see anything on your resume in law enforcement in that town for the last 18 years they arrest you for imitating a peace officer. Embarassed should not even begin to cover how they should feel. THEY FAILED!!!!!! Completely and utterly, they failed. If I were Jaycee’s mother or step-father I would hold the state and local officials COMPLETELY responsible. They are the ones that allowed Garrido to touch their lives, they are the ones that FAILED time and time and time again to end her captivity and their hell. SHAME on all of you that failed this young woman and her family, that could have been YOUR daughter. So go home and watch your daughter and hug her and tell her how much you love her and remember how utterly you failed Jaycee. May you always feel incredible remorse everytime you look at her or hear her voice. You are as guilty as Garrido, you helped him hold Jaycee captive.

It is time for the state and federal governments to be made responsible and the only way to do it is to call them to court. It is time for their to be serious punishment for sex offenders that is upheld and maybe even serious consequences for those that neglect to do their jobs, directly allowing a sex-crime to be commited.

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Well, my internet search capacity today isn’t up to snuff.  Here are some other Garrido articles by the same reporter, but not the one I was looking for:

Jaycee Dugard case: Garrido filed to open home institute

The man accused in the abduction and years-long sexual abuse of Jaycee Dugard in 2006 sought to start an institute at his home near Antioch. Whether Phillip Garrido meant to open a school for children — a claim careening across the blogosphere — is …

From JOHN SIMERMAN, Inside Bay Area,  14 Oct 2009

Questioning of Dugard, Garrido detailed

condition to Garrido’s lifetime parole from his Nevada conviction for the 1976 rape of a woman he kidnapped in South Lake Tahoe, the report says. He was now barred from being around minors. But the parole agent and his supervisor looked past the new …

From JOHN SIMERMAN, Inside Bay Area,  5 Nov 2009

Report to detail how California parole agents supervised Phillip Garrido

it a federal case. SACRAMENTO — State officials will release a report today detailing the parole supervision of Phillip Garrido, now charged with holding a young kidnap victim for 18 years and fathering two children with her in the backyard of a home …

From JOHN SIMERMAN, Inside Bay Area,  4 Nov 2009

The article I was looking for is dated 11/14/2009, and relates how Garrido’s same excuse of religious tranformation (and his ramblings) were heard by his 1976 Kidnapping/rape victim as well.  He was “expecting a religious rebirth after troubles with LSD and marijuana use.”  The judge didn’t buy that, and this DA ain’t either.  The fact is, all of us might enjoy some transformational experiences from time to time.  The thing is, not using other people, especially against their will, and especially minors, (or abusing substances) in the process. 

 

El Dorado County D.A. Viern Pierson says, “It is clear he is attempting to manipulate the process, the people involved in the process, and most significantly, his prior victims.”  Articles stated how Jaycee/Alyssa at first denied the claims; only after she heard Garrido had been arrested, did she confess her real name.

Eerily similar, and same timeframe:

Evangelist Tony Alamo Sentenced to 175 Years for Taking Girls Across State Lines for Sex

Monday, November 16, 2009

  {{{The Cocky S.O.B. !!!}}}Evangelist Tony Alamo was sentenced Friday to 175 years in prison for taking little girls as young as 9 across state lines to have sex with them.

The decision punishes him for the rest of his life for molesting children he took as “brides” in his ministry.

Alamo, 75, had denied the charges, claiming they came from a Vatican-led conspiracy against the church he led, called the Tony Alamo Christian Ministries.

During Friday’s hearing in Texarkana, Ark., some of Alamo’s victims testified about how their families were destroyed while the evangelist took over their lives.

Alamo was convicted in July on a 10-count federal indictment. U.S. District Judge Harry F. Barnes said Alamo used his status as father figure and pastor and threatened and threatened the girls with “the loss of their salvation.”

“Mr. Alamo, one day you will face a higher a greater judge than me, may he have mercy on your soul,” Barnes said.

Just before Barnes sentenced Alamo, the evangelist offered a brief statement to the court praising God then later adding:  

“I’m glad I’m me and not the deceived people in the world.”

Alamo’s lawyers said they planned to appeal Barnes’ ruling. His defense offered a doctor who said he suffered from hardening arteries, diabetes, glaucoma and other health problems.

On cross-examination the doctor acknowledged he saw Alamo only once in 2004 and that the purpose of Alamo’s visit was to get an eye lift to make him appear younger.

The evangelist will stay in Texarkana pending a Jan. 13 hearing in which Barnes will decide whether Alamo’s victims will get restitution from him. After that hearing, Barnes said Alamo would go to a federal prison that has hospital facilities.

A woman Alamo took as a child “bride” at age 8 challenged the evangelist from the witness stand Friday to submit himself to God’s judgment. Reading from lined notebook paper, she said Alamo tore her family apart by taking her as a child bride and described how she shook uncontrollably when he first molested her.

“I’m glad I’m me and not the deceived people in the world.”

Alamo’s lawyers said they planned to appeal Barnes’ ruling. His defense offered a doctor who said he suffered from hardening arteries, diabetes, glaucoma and other health problems.

On cross-examination the doctor acknowledged he saw Alamo only once in 2004 and that the purpose of Alamo’s visit was to get an eye lift to make him appear younger.

The evangelist will stay in Texarkana pending a Jan. 13 hearing in which Barnes will decide whether Alamo’s victims will get restitution from him. After that hearing, Barnes said Alamo would go to a federal prison that has hospital facilities.

A woman Alamo took as a child “bride” at age 8 challenged the evangelist from the witness stand Friday to submit himself to God’s judgment. Reading from lined notebook paper, she said Alamo tore her family apart by taking her as a child bride and described how she shook uncontrollably when he first molested her.

Here’s another link, same story:

Alamo’s ‘Child Bride’ Says Evangelist Leader Controlled All Aspects of Life

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Alamo was a prophet, she’d been taught. He was “God’s chosen one.” And she was scared.

“I felt uncomfortable asking Tony to see my dad,” the woman, now 20, testified at his federal trial on charges that he took underage girls across state lines for sex.

“So you had to ask Tony’s permission before you could go outside and see your father?” a prosecutor asked.

“Yes.”

The woman, who left Alamo’s compound in Arkansas three years ago, was one of many witnesses whose testimony offered a rare glimpse inside the evangelist’s secretive ministry. They said Alamo made the decisions: who got married, what children were taught in school, who got clothes, who was allowed to eat . . . The church had a language of its own: . . . Families were prohibited from keeping food at their homes, the 20-year-old woman said. Alamo also banned his followers from eating meat or dairy products. At one point, on a layover at a Las Vegas airport, the woman said she and another Alamo “wife” committed a sin — they ate a cheese pizza.

That type of:

Total Control, defining crimes, training those controlled not to report, a peculiar language to the group, and plenty of wealth (and sex with underaged girls, or boys), and in short — abusive domination of other individuals, redefining families, etc. . . .

 

You see why I constantly mock the Fed’s DESIGNER FAMILIES” and harp on the transformational language of the Family Law Venue?  Why I say, “follow the money?” 

 

Yes, total, inappropriate, shaming/punishing/restricting access to basics (including contact with one’s own family members) are indeed family court matters, and for those (who like me) have had religious tolerance and justification for their own violence or abuse (which I did), based on, for example, gender, and so forthwe recognize the similar abusive religious behavior in secular garb.  I do.

Again, let’s reconsider Lorraine Tipton and Michaela, in Wisconsin.

You shocked at the Garridos and Alamos?  Well, consider the extent of what’s going on across the country (and to an extent, world) in the courts.  Misogyny in action.  Abusive eradication of what were once “unalienable rights” to life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness — as defined NOT by the state, but by the individuals.

Our children, the majority of the country (US) attend public schools where strip searches and lockdowns are now routine words.  Is that what we REALLY want for their future, or our future leaders?  To accept intrusion and daily civil rights violation, condescending attitudes, etc.? 

Do we want wealth diverted and due process excluded?  Not me!

Freedom of religion DOES include not imposing it on everyone else, and a commonality of not committing crimes one against another.  Religion is defined as abusive control of thoughts, behaviors, and so forth.  Faith, and spirituality, are different.

When it comes to minor children, they need a variety, and not proselytizing and shock therapy in any form.  Let them see their mothers, and go outside the home, and stop dissolving families in the name of a better, improved one.  The time to dissolve a family is where abuse HAS occurred, and it is not (repented of) or stopped — PROMPTLY and TOTALLY.

There is no excuse for it.  If none of us know our neighbors, we can’t protect each other, locally.

Well, just those thoughts coming out today.  …

 

Scapegoating, trans-millenial, trans-religion, bipartisan — same old “father absence” (meaning, Single Moms).

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Single mothers have it TOUGH.  Not only do they have to deal , too often, with  that ex that wasn’t absent ENOUGH, like our Lorraine Tipton in Oconto County, WI, facing JAIL for exercising her mother’s instincts and actually function as a personal “Child Protective Service,” when 3 CPS personnel in 2 counties, and a child abuse forensic interviewer confirmed that it had taken place.  That’s TOMORROW, we’re talking about . . . . . Not only do we have to fight like hell to get up to ground level if that guy was abusive or simply unsafe choice to start with, we also bear the blame for all of society’s ills on our narrower-than-his (many times) shoulders. 

U.S. Women have a Congress that has a paltry representation of half the country, I mean, the female gender, and doing a good bit of the world’s work, too.  Women got the vote after slavery was (supposedly) abolished and after African-American males.  Several wars later, whose cannon-fodder came from US, if we actually stand up for our right NOT to be slapped, beaten, strangled, or risk being killed in the home, AND we gave birth, we are being blamed for society’s ills and have to fight indignant males in the family law courts (and out of them) and forget it when it comes to faith institutions, I say.  And then we wonder about Raising Ophelia . . . . . (That’s a book reference). 

In a country that supposedly doesn’t buy into such superstitions as religion, but is supposedly tolerant of those who believe a God, their god, is REAL, any substitute superstitions talk will fill the gap.  Which makes my point, man is a religious animal, either that or mentally lazy.  Or mentally stressed out, such that they’d rather pay taxes and let someone else think FOR them, raise the kids FOR them, and produce healthy marriages FOR them. 

Where they run into REAL trouble is when they run into a REAL mother (meaning, one who knows right from wrong, safe from dangerous, knows the law, and actually protests when it’s broken, particularly with kids involved). 

As my laptop just got stolen, which along with no car makes life rather difficult — this is post-abuse (supposedly) life – – you get to hear from another person who’s more concise, and appropriately sarcastic.

 

I mean, listen to Randi James, who gives meaning to the book “Dumbing us Down” by at least talking back to the authorities.

Notice how (when it begins to cite statistics) how  the golden aura of “stats” seems to lend credibility and au thority to a major foundation’s study.  (Annie E. Casey being among the major ones around, and as far as I can tell, fairly conservative.  They also fund Family Violence Prevention Fund, the great group in San Francisco who (after getting significant increases in federal funding, in fact they’re one of the larger recipients around), showed a marked decrease in on-line presence of the word “Mother.”  I mean, throughout the site.  For reference, see my blog poking fun (although it’s not funy) the Obama administration’s transformation of our President’s single-mother household into a father-absent household.  The word is now “parent” when we want to equalize, and “father-absent” when we want to stigmatize, including by failing to even use the word MOTHER.  Good grief.

Anyhow I give you this post —  (see link).  Have a nice day!

Saturday Single Mothers, Absent Fathers, Pirates, Global Warming and All in Between In 2009,

I can’t believe people are still making the argument that single motherhood causes most of the societal ills, namely high crime rates and teen pregnancy. Have we still not acquired any critical thinking skills along this journey? What about the millions of dollars grant money from DHHS to study all of these problems? How many years do they need in order to figure out the answers?

In this article, it says that 1 in 7 girls at a certain high school in Chicago, are getting pregnant.

The principal in this school states, “It can be a lot of things that are happening in the home or not happening in the home, if you will. Absentee fathers are another factor.” Is that the best answer that he could come up with? How, exactly, are absentee fathers contributing to this rate of teen pregnancy? No, I’m serious, I really need someone to explain to me how NOT having a father allows for a teenage girl to get pregnant…..or better yet, maybe you should first detail what, exactly, is an “absentee father”?

I don’t have a link to the following information, but it was provided by my favorite rape-apologist, Paul Clements:

“(I)n a recent study by the Baltimore-based Annie E. Casey Foundation. Comparing statistics for its Kids Count report, the organization reported that Detroit ranks No.1 in unmarried births among the nation’s 50 largest cities. Of the 16,729 babies born in Detroit in 1997, 13,574 were black, 1,679 were white and 817 were Hispanic. Seventy-one percent were born to unmarried mothers.

 

[[Please click link  to see this (and more) in the original context]].

PS.  When in doubt, or faced with a problem, pour more money at it hoping it will go away.  the HHS and Dept of Educ have been doing this, and STILL our population isn’t “fixed” yet.  Maybe we should let parents do the job (and let Lorraine stay out of jail for doing HER job right).   

Enforce laws equally, or take them off the books.  It takes 9 months and labor, not  including any breastfeeding (if a judge, should you separate, thinks this is permissible), and the least we can do to mothers is not pretend that they have equal rights under the law just because they are (speaking from my country’s perspective) US citizens.  Or have been living here for a generation or so.

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October 18, 2009 at 2:57 pm

A “case in point” of some family court matters. . . . .

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Again, see “selfreportedfool.org” and also see “justice4mothers.wordpress.com” for an article given at the Southern California Domestic Violence Symposium, Pueblo, Colorado:  Angela Warren speech is posted there (and my comment responding to it also). Then go to lizgates library.  Then think about how horrific it is that SOME children don’t sleep in the same house as their fathers at night.  One of these below didnt have a bed, maybe she didn’t sleep too well, either.  And she ain’t sleeping too well these days, as her mom faces contempt on a minor issue (including threats of jail), while the other charges keep dropping by the waysides.  

 

 

File this under “AFTER SHE SPEAKS UP — DOMESTIC VIOLENCE . . CHILD ABUSE”  And Cast Characters, Script, Action.

Disclaimer

What I’m posting here IS hearsay.  I have no firsthand knowledge of the actual events and have not personally met any of the participants (any more than I’ve personally met almost anyone whose writing shows up on my site!).  On the other hand they fit entirely with the patterns being reported nationwide.  Judge for yourself if this account is coherent, chronological, and reports a sequence of events in an orderly fashion.  This Mom requests blogging, I suspect she was just a little annoyed at getting a 30 day sentence, stayed, for (in essence) doing what Moms do, trying to protect that offspring.

Notice the staggering amount of people involved in what otherwise should be a straightforward situation.  I numbered them, making the original flow — well it no longer flows.  I just want us to notice.

Ask yourselves HOW is it possible for any mother to move forward in life with this situation.  As in other cases involving prior abuse, her re-marrying was a hotpoint for the ex.  Who apparently moved back in with Mom.  

I’ll highlight the different individuals involved.  Notice the roles they played in giving one little girl nightmares, along with, I imagine her Mom not a few restless nights also.

I was just going to paste the neatly paragraphed text.  However, I got involved counting the characters involved (about 36 by the end) and other commentary.  ASSUMING for the sake of argument this is factual (I happen to believe it is), this is but a sample of how it can go in the family law venue.  Trust the experts, they are all in control.

By the end you’ll likely see that the end goal is to put a child with a CONCERNED mother into foster care  needlessly, after repeated punitive measures for trying to protect her daughter.  This is how one little girl is learning how the world works.  Learn well, little one . . . . . 

 

AFTERWARDS, I’ll repeat, the uninterrupted text.  We are talking, waking nightmare, people.  For the adults, too.  And lots and lots of BUSINESS for the individuals in the courts, some of who may have personality disorders, I’d guess….

I’m responsible for chopping up the text, all bolds, all bullets, anything in {{……}}} and any scatalogical terms (there are none}.

After, I’ll simply paste the narrative version.  I think the restraint of putting it out beats the lack of restraint of filing repeated contempt orders on a woman trying to be a mother and move on in life, and judges scolding women in court for not getting along with dudes that THEY believe are molesting one of their offspring, especially after 2 separate individuals, qualified to do so, had it confirmed.

 

As this gives names, I assume that it might be found on FindLaw, etc. — the sequence of actions (not including CPS involvement) is likely public record.

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Can be blogged…..names named….agencies….blog blog blog blog blog blog blog….did I say you can blog? yes,,,you can blog =) 

 

A BEDTIME STORY (my title, not hers):

 

In 2003 my abuser forged my signature and had it notarized on a court stipulation giving him “50/50” custody and all back child support dropped, this is a paternity case. The notary was his real estate/insurance agent. The only reason I found out about the forgery is that he tried to remove our daughter, Michaela from daycare and they contacted me immediately.

People:  

  • 1. this woman/mother,
  • 2. her abuser, (Craig Hensberger — see next para.)
  • 3.  notary/real estate/ins. agent (conflict interest?),
  • 4. daughter Michaela, Daycare.
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I filed a police report regarding the forgery, the DA, Jay Conley, he said that “even though we know who the likely suspect is there was no proof that my abuser, Craig Hensberger, did this”. Even though no one else would benefit from such an arrangement but the “likely suspect”.

  • 6.  Whoever took Police report (police unnamed)
  • 7.  DA Jay Conley (dismissive, even though it represented, if true, perjury and affected custody)
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I got a handwriting analysis done on my own and presented that evidence to the DA, he stated that only “proved it was not my signature”, he refused to do anything. 

  • 8.  Whoever did handwriting analysis
  • 7.  DA (again) dismissive (again)

I went to court in front of Family Court Commissioner, Frank Calvert, of Oconto County, who just happened to be the GAL on my divorce/custody proceedings in 1997 who recommended custody to my ex abusive husband, John Fetterly.

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9.    Former Abusive Husband, John Fetterly

10.  Former GAL, antagonistic {{give custody –of 3 older daughters?, not shown yet — to ex-abuser}} in 1997, now Family Court Commissioner, Frank Calvert.  CONFLICT OF INTEREST MUCH?

 

It was also Mr. Calvert who made sure that in his recommendations that in order for me to have primary placement with my older three daughters I was to have a “stable living environment away from Craig Hensberger”.

 

In 2003 Mr. Calvert moved up in ranks from lowly GAL to Family Court Commissioner and even with me expressing to him my concerns of his ability to be impartial I was ignored, chastised and intimidated by him. 

 

He refused to hear or see any evidence regarding the forgery and kept it as is, “50/50” custody and ordered child support in the amount of $25 per week based on 50/50 custody even though the father had placement every other weekend. 

 

Character note:  ex-abuser also forges.

 

The weekend of Fathers Day in June 2005 my daughter was in the custody and care of her father. {{indicates mother was likely obeying a court order}}  On Saturday of that weekend he was arrested for his second DUI in less than a year with our daughter as a passenger in the middle of the day

 

Seems to be a cluster of behaviors.  I fail to see the mothers’ involvement in this situation — he got himself arrested, apparently, while daughter was with him, not her.

 

At this time I had decided to move out of the state {{Fairly understandable in context??Or maybe there was another reason…}} and per the county rules sent a certified letter to my former abuser to notify him of our move. He refused the certified letter and it was returned to me, although he was alerted that I was planning on moving and then filed an objection to my move. 

 

{{Do these men read from the same rulebook?  Wasting her time, and money, obstruction of co-parenting communication.  Been through this myself.  Certified letters don’t grow on trees.  And aren’t free of $$ or time.}}

 

We again went in front of Frank Calvert who appointed GAL, Aaron Krzewinski. 

 

  • 11.  GAL, Aaron Krzewinski. 
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  • COMMENTS:  Clear difficulties here.  Rather than actually rule on them (abuser, drunk & arrest, possibly forging a letter to gain ground in time with child, child support only $25/week), Family Court Knee-jerk reaction:  “QUICK!  Look official, call in another court professional.”  Note:  litigant (mother) questions the Commissioner’s impartiality.  WHAT are the chances that Calvert & Krzewinski are perhaps — cronies??

 

 

They ordered that my child stay in her current school but that Craig’s mother was to do all the transportation and supervision of placement. 

  • 12.  Craig’s (ex-abuser’s) mother.

 

{{COMMENT.  This woman/Mom wants to move.  Perhaps she has legitimate reasons, perhaps according to the court she doesn’t.  Are they discussing the reasons?  NO.  The first court reaction is punitive!, to make a stipulation regarding her daughter’s schooling (since when are courts educational experts??) and give transportation control over to the mother of the abusive ex — even though the same? judge had refused to allow her custody of her older 3 daughters unless she found stable housing AWAY from this same guy, Craig H.  Now how’s she supposed to do that if she can’t get away, period?}}

 

{{As to this practice — involving the abuser’s parents.  My comment:  They raised an abuser, right?  So how “cool” is that little one going to be in his or her care?  Parents set values.  Whatever happened to the adult offspring’s values, if he abused women?}}

 

This was when my former abuser anger began to escalate and he vandalized three vehicles of mine which rendered them useless as well as loosening all the lug nuts on my tires which could of killed me as the tire fell off while traveling to work one morning. 

 

13?  I’m going to hazard a guess that maybe she reported this (police).  I’m going to hazard a guess that perhaps she got help replacing the tire that fell of her car while it was going down the road.  At a minimum, passer by.  Then again, I have changed a tire and used a jack.  I bet she was just a little shook up and pissed off….

 

{{3 vehicles in order, or that she had simultaneously?  Doesn’t say.  }}

 

{{Note;  Sounds like so far, it’s a near-total “rout” in court.  He just won.  But, to punish her for being challenged? or caught (as in, DUI), here comes some vandalism, potentially lethal.  Oh yes, and she appears to be working.  Tire fell off en route to work.  Anyone hear about interfering with work as a characteristic of abuse??}}

 

Finally in October 2005, I moved in with my mother who lived well within the 150 mile radius I was allowed to move without notifying him. 

  • 13.  The Mom’s Mom.  An identified 13th party.

{{Sounds like financial independence is an issue here….Again, she is complying with court orders, ridiculous though they seem, at least to me}}

In December he served 20 days in jail for his DUI w/our daughter (the minimum is 30 days) and he also was allowed out on “Huber” so that he only had to report to jail at night when he was done working or not working. 

  • 14-15?  At least one jailer.  you know, that’s gboing to be more than one person involved in a man staying in jail 20 days.  But we’ll just chalk it up to ONE.

{{a free cot, and possibly one hot?  That’ll show him not to endanger children by driving drunk..  Kind of reminds me of Nicholas Soppa, head of OCSE, which comes under the noble HHS dept. of US government, who was (while working and I bet at a good salary) spending nights or was it weekends in jail over back “family” support}

After he did his time he filed a motion to enforce placement when he was in jail for most of December.

 

Again FCC Frank Calvert chastised me in court for not hav[ing] legal representation and stated that if he could make me move back he would.

{{See character #10 above, who now has affected the family’s (and see other 13 involved) life in:  1997, 2003, and here, 2005.}}

He then gave my former abuser every weekend custody and ordered that I drive roundtrip every weekend because my abusers license was suspended. He stated that it wasn’t “his fault I moved, it was mine”. He also refused to review child support and the $25 weekly was upheld. 

{{Gas, and weekend time, does not grow on trees.  But apparently this woman is supposed to make it.  Meanwhile, Commissioner Calvert appears to have some true 21st century notions of who is responsible for another individual’s criminal behavior.  Let’s see:  DUI vs. attempting, in accord to first stipulation to find stable housing AWAY from abuser, to move away froma buser?  Clearly the latter behavior needs to be punished….}}

In August 2006 I moved back to Oconto County with my then fiancé’ soon to be husband, Chad Tipton. 

  • 16.  Chad Tipton.  Must be a brave man, what with Hensberger, Calvert et al around.  Very perhaps, what with taking it so hard, repeatedly, on the chin from the court (after from the men, as described as “abusers”), our Mom here would like to have a companion or partner.  Perhaps Mr. Tipton found something to admire in her.  I can see it — stamina!  Well, I only speculate, but here is a 16th person in the drama.

It was the Labor Day weekend and we were set to drive her for visitation with her father. {{translation:  comply with court orders}} 

My daughter stated that she was scared to go because her father was putting his finger in her “butt crack” down her pants, she made a motion of up and down. She made this revelation and stated how uncomfortable it was to her.  {{note:  Labor Day means 3 days in a row. I don’t know how the 50/50 was arranged, but the little girl was in school part of the days.  Now she’s facing a 3-day, non-school weekend with Dad alone…}}

 

I immediately contacted Marathon County CPS who interviewed my daughter. They did make a TPR and advised that Oconto would then handle it when we moved there after that weekend. 

  • 17.  Marathon County CPS.  {I’m guessing that this is the county where her mother lived, within the 150 mile radius.  Or thereabouts}.  DAUGHTER IS INTERVIEWED.

During the first weeks of September 2006 my daughter was met at her school by Oconto County CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel

  • 18.  Ocoton County CPS, Carrie Silbernagel.

After not hearing from Ms. Silbernagel 

{{Note:  Not hearing???  A mother has just presented a daughter in another county, to that CPS worker, who believed the daughter’s account of sexual abuse by her father, and made a TPR.  Assuming this WAS true, how do you think a mother might feel?  How would a CPS worker assume a mother might feel?  yet it was up to the MOTHER to follow up with the 2nd county’s CPS.  Note — if this worker had followed the case at all, she’d have seen prior domestic violence and problems with the girl’s father, which should’ve been a red flag.  If she’d been overworked and couldn’t bget to it, than admitting that would’ve been the more honest thing to do}}.

 

I contacted her and she was very volatile towards me. Stating that she didn’t believe my daughter, that she believed she was “coached” and that she had children younger than my daughter who could provide specific details such as smells, times of days, etc. but my daughter did not. 

  • Apparently this worker doesn’t know much about “DID.”  Look it up.

She stated that she knew of my “history with CPS” and reporting false allegations of sexual abuse. I asked her to explain as I had never made any other report to CPS regarding sexual abuse. 

{{That phrase is a red flag (key phrase) to those who are familiar with some of the literature from the fatherhood movement.  Discreding DV and child abuse seem to be part of it.    }}

She referred to another CPS worker that I had allegedly spoke to in 2004 regarding my older daughter. She made comments that she “knew ALL about me” etc. 

{{In other words, without directly talking to this mother, and having dismissed her claims without informing the mother she did so, this new worker she has correctly analyzed her character.  WHAT ABOUT THE REPORT FROM MARATHON COUNTY?  Filed in the trash bin??  Welcome to this arena, folks!!}}

When I pointed out that my daughter is in danger as her fathers history of driving drunk. She then stated that “driving drunk with his child didn’t make him a bad father, he made a bad choice”.  {{And could’ve killed a child…}} She refused to take any action and the matter was closed. 

{{WELCOME to “DUE PROCESS AT CPS.”  Sound like too much authority vested in a single person??}}

In May 2007 my former abuser decided to file for sole custody of our daughter as his behavior was to the point of madness since I was getting married on July 7, 2007. 

{{This is what Presidents Bush, Clinton and Obama WANT, right?  And a whole BUNCH of conservative religious denominations across a few diffferent faiths.  No father absence, no female-headed households, these girl(s) are going to have a man in the home.  One less social crisis to worry about, right?

. . . .wrong . . . . . . }}

{{Sounds to me as though this is fully 10 years after she separated from Mr. John Fetterly, with a relationship inbetween?}}

It was during this time that FCC Frank Calvert recused himself finally after I had filed a complaint against him with the Wisconsin Judicial Commission regarding his impartiality and biasness.  [bias]

  • 19.  Wisconsin Judicial COmmission X however many they are, plus any support staff involved in the process.

{{Exercising her free will to protest wrongs.  Sounds like I read that in the Constitution somewhere.  Unbelievable, really, but the Wisconsin Judicial Commission — were they going to act or did the fact that she was serious wake up Commissioner Calvert, lest he get a real blot on his name??}}

By this time he was already facing charges of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon {{a.k.a. vehicle}} as he tried to run my then fiancé’ and 13 yo daughter in a grocery store parking lot one night as he waited outside for us. 

{{Had he done so, those charges would’ve also had an added charge, laying in wait.  }}

During that summer he was given… 

  • 20.  Since Calvert recused himself, let’s assume another judge (unnamed) is involved.  I’m up to 20 now, not including any grocery store personnel involved in witnessing the vehicular stuff.

every other week custody and they kept it that way until school started. Every bad behavior he gained more and more custody as the GAL was continually getting more money. 

{{Seems to be a pattern; I’ve noticed this too.  GAL is drawing a salary.}}  

By January 2008, last minute he agreed to joint custody and dropped his sole custody claim

{{i.e., “I’m dangerous to others, do not appear (if so, none is showing up in the narrative) to have found another woman, or let go of THIS one, despite, she’s about to remarry and is trying to have a life…..  But I still want JOINT custody of that daughter, even though I’m DUI, molesting (alleged), and dangerous in a vehicle (alleged).”}}{{Abusive habit:  Making outrageous claim, then backing up a foot, perhaps.  Typical of the controlling personality.}}

In February 2008 my daughter came home and said that her grandmother had forced fed her soup and then her vomit while threatening to beat “her ass” with a wooden spoon if she didn’t eat it

{{see personnel, #12, above….}}{{See my prior comments on the “wisdom” of giving kids to the custody of an abuser’s parent.  Sounds, like mother, like son .}}

 

I contacted CPS {{DOES she have another legal option?  Women are not so easily let off the hook in contempt of court orders in family law venues, FYI}}  and was told that the same CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel whose last name was now Burke as she married would contact me. 

  •  Not quite a player in the case, but I’m counting.  Add #21, Mr. Burke, simply indicating change of status for CPS worker.  Again, did Mr. Burke know that his new wife is blowing off charges of child molestation?

After I told her of the force feeding incident she stated that she wanted to get down to the bottom of this “once and for all”. 

  • {{Like, by checking some facts??  the phrase “get down to the bottom of this “once and for all” indicates a lack of patience, irritation.  Not exactly receptive. . . . . .  Indicates there’s a real puzzle to be solved, not a potential abusive situation.}}

She suggested to take my daughter to a neutral third party who would interview her, I agreed. Although she only needed one parents permission she made the appointment at the Child Advocacy Center when it was the fathers placement time to avoid any of my ‘coaching’ etc. 

  •  

On February 25 my daughter was picked up by Carrie Silbernagel Burke 

{{not coached or influenced by her, naturally — the woman who had ignored Michaela’s first set of complaints about her Daddy’s habit of putting his finger down her butt crack and moving it up and down….}}

and had my child interviewed by Sara Schumacher who was a forensic interviewer for child abuse victims. 

21 Real (not theoretical, like newlywed Mr. Burke)  “neutral 3rd party.” to interview I believe Michaela..Sara Schumacher who was a forensic interviewer for child abuse victims.

The interview was recorded and transcribed. During the interview not only did my daughter tell of the soup incident but once again how her father sexually abused her. She told both Sara Schumacher and Carrie Silbernagel Burke that he father had instructed her to lie that day to them. 

{{Perhaps with 2 there, this little girl feels a little safer.  Age?  In 2003, she was in day care.  This is 2008.  Can’t be TOO old}}

By that afternoon I received a call from Carrie telling me that they were substantiating the abuse and placing my daughter with me. 

{{Did I hear an apology anywhere from Ms. Carrie? Or a note of any future policy changes made in light of this oversight?}}

I thought that the nightmare was finally over. The CPS worker advised my husband and I that it would be a good idea if we left town for the night, get a hotel room as when she contact Craig he was extremely upset. She also advised that we should immediately file a child abuse restraining order for the TPR would not help protect my daughter very long. She explained that they would be filing a CHIPS (child in need of protection) petition {{Signifying??}}  and she would be in contact with us. 

{{So now, the Dad that was driving drunk and wasn’t a bad dad, had just made a bad choice, had been identified as making more than one “bad choice” AND they are acknowledging a possible volatile reaction.  Of course FCC Calvert (then GAL?) had noted this years ago, and it was I bet in the file.}}

The next day I filed child abuse restraining orders against Craig and Betty Hensberger and it was granted by Oconto County [[JUDGE or FCC, I presume]] Richard Delforge for 30 day pending the CHIPS petition. 

  • 22 (possibly already in the picture, above)  Richard Delforge.)

 

By March CPS {{NOTE:  2/25/09 interview with child identifies abuse}} was already back pedaling and we were advised by Carrie Burke that Corporation Counsel, Robert Mraz, 

  • 23 Corporation Counsel, Robert Mraz (unclear in context who this is….Which corporation?)

stated that I was already “protecting my daughter in Family Court” when in fact there was no such order but only the one in which she was to go every other week. Then CPS offered for both parties to sign a stipulation agreement for “co-parenting” classes for both parents

{{Never miss an opportunity to push those “co-parenting” classes.  Ladies, Gents — I suspect that some of this activity was funded by ACCESS VISITATION funding, and suggest you look into the finances of whoever was involved there….Like Child Advocacy Center?}}

They never even ordered any alcohol or drug assessment for Craig whose history of alcohol abuse was severe. {{Why fix an identified problem, when unidentified ones left to be pioneered through co-parenting classes?}} My attorney at the time, Michael Perry,  advised me not to agree to the stipulation and also my former abuser refused to sign. 

  • 24.  Attorney for mother, Michael Perry.

Also in March he was acquitted of his charge of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon (i.e., vehicle) (what about lying in wait?). Somehow my former abuser contacted my ex husband and had my older daughters recant their statements. When this was brought forward to the DA, Jay Conley of possible witness tampering, he stated it wasn’t because Craig only talked with my ex husband. 

  • {{In the absence of other facts, should I presume this was the equivalent of mind-reading, or Seance 101?  For WHY daughters might recant see my last post, Giles Amicus Brief about this topic.}}

On May 21, 2008, my daughters 10th birthday, an Administrative Appeal was held by recused FCC Frank M. Calvert. 

{{exCU U U USE me??}}

My lawyer and I were not privy to this hearing in which (1) my former abuser, (2) his attorney, (3) Corporation Counsel, Deputy Director of Oconto County CPS Greg Benesh [[I think this is 3rd, and not 2nd) and (4) Carrie Burke were a part of. {{WHY not Sara Schumaker, who’d done the interview?}}  {{Commentator added the #s in paragraph}}

  • 25 Craig H’s attorney John D’Angelo (see below)
  • 26 if not same person, Greg Benesh ((above) County CPS.

The only reason my attorney learned of this hearing was due to my abusers attorney, John D’Angelo, sending a copy of [[transcript of?]] the hearing in which Mr. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations. My attorney advised me to get the recording from the hearing and I did. {{see Mr. Mraz, counsel, above?  I’m getting a little lost on the hearings…Plus, hadn’t Calvert recused himself earlier?  So this was then his SECOND hearing while recused??}}

{{As such, that hearing was illegall and should be scratched from the record.}}

What I heard was chilling as my character and credibility was more of an issue than the actual abuse. 

{{In other words, we are indeed in the family law venue, and not in a criminal investigation of outrageous abuse of a child, which she has now reported 3 times to 3 different workers}}

Especially in which Mr. Calvert snickers and makes fun of me that he’s “well aware of the difficulties with Ms. Fetterly-Tipton”. My lawyer instructs me to file a complaint with the judicial commission as Mr. Calvert had recused himself and he had no right to hear that case. When I requested the CD recording of the hearing Mr. Calvert’s assistant Julie Depouw stated that perhaps Calvert “forgot” he recused himself. A complaint was filed with the judicial commission regarding the ongoing bias and unethical practices of Frank M. Calvert. 

  • 27.  Mr. Calvert’s assistant Julie Depouw .  Let me see, does SHE have any ethical constraints in her behavior, as a civil employee, I’m presuming?

In July 2008 my former abuser wanted his placement times back. {{At about that time, this mother wants her LIFE back, i bet…}}  We went to court and after my two witnesses testified, 

  • 28, 29 – Mother’s 2 Witnesses

Sara Schumacher and Greg Benesh, Judge David Miron ordered a recess. 

  • 30.  Judge David Miron.

My lawyer, my former abuser’s lawyer, GAL Krzewinski met in chambers.

My lawyer returned to say that the judge was not going to hear any more testimony because so far we had not proven that there was any substantial change in circumstances for change in placement. {{As bad as that placement was to start with, given the child abuse, drunk driving, and overall harassments}} He also stated that due to her father subpoenaing my daughters counselor, Jennifer Werner, 

  • 31  Daughter, abused, is GOING to need a counselor, who is Jennifer Werner.  Is this now the 4th individual/expert the 10 yr old is confiding in? Since the courts have pretty much discredited her MOM.  Who is paying for that?  The abuser?  The courts (taxpayers..)?

her (Ms. Werner’s) supervisor 

  • 32 Child’s Counselors’ supervisor.

wrote to the judge to tell of his disdain that she was being ‘used’ as a pawn in this proceeding and she had no knowledge of the ongoing custody dispute (her counseling records do not reflect that). 

{{how can you counsel without a little background info?  At a minimum, prior legal proceedings are GOING to influence a child’s perceptions and give it some context}}

My lawyer stated I had to agree to two supervised visits, one overnight unsupervised, one weekend unsupervised then back to week on week off

{{Pardon me, but what the F___K??}}{{First of all, the attorney represents the mother, and not vice versa! and this is a protective mother.}}

providing that GAL Krzewinski and newly appointed counselor, Mike Mervilde, found no reason for that schedule, and they didn’t. 

  • 33 Counselor (GAL or counselor? Mike Mervilde…for FATHER (see below)

When I had tried to make further appointments with Mike Mervilde I was thwarted by saying that he was only court ordered to see her twice. When I requested copies of her counseling records I was told that my daughter wasn’t the patient, her father was. 

 

By the very first unsupervised visit my daughter came back stating her father was drinking and driving with her. Every other week she was coming home from his home with lice. CPS said that wasn’t neglect. My daughter refused to go for visitation and in October her father filed his first of three contempt motions on me

{{. . . .  not having a vital life of his own at this point, or other pursuits in this world….}}

I was found in contempt by Judge Miron and it was ordered that my daughter be forced to live with her abuser for five weeks straight, I was not allowed visitation

{{See STOPFAMILYVIOLENCE.org and elsewhere; NAFCJ.net, see all kinds of indications nationwide that children are being sent to live with their abusers after reporting abuse.  The clear intent of this is to tell BOTH the Moms AND the kids, they must NOT report abuse of any sort, up to and possibly including incest — or at least sexual molestation of a LITTLE GIRL.  I guess Wisconsin never heard of, or doesn’t care about, Joyce Murphy case…..}}

This was when I was first accused of PAS, a.k.a. ’brainwashing’ her. The judge stated that he believed that I had “poisoned” my daughter against her father. When I shook my head slightly the judge yelled at me to not shake my head at him.

{{Let me annotate.  By protesting, this Mom had gotten a crooked (i’d say) judge to recuse himself, Calvert.  Now here’s Miron (I think), and is he a bit better?  ??}}


She left on 10/31/09 and returned on 12/05/09.
During that time she was tormented and tortured by her father and grandmother. My daughter still says that was the worst time of her life. 

In February my daughter came home and said her father caught a 8lb Walleye and kept it alive in his 100 gallon fish tank for two weeks. He then proceeded to use her and sign her up for three different fishing derbies in one weekend with the same fish. He told my daughter if she told no one she would receive an ipod. The total of $150 of prize money that was won in my daughters name she never saw one penny or an ipod. 


Her father was caught in his lying, cheating and stealing but blamed her for “ratting him out”. This was the turning point that my daughter lost any last respect for her father, she would ask me, “why would he do this to me?”,
I had no answer, I still don’t. 

{{He’s a user….}}

She missed a weekend visit in March, by Monday he went to her school with the police to pick her up. {{MAYBE he had another kind of contest to win 2 weeks of child support for, $50 a pop}} She refused and the Gillett police officer, Gary Pemmrich, threatened my daughter that he would take her down to juvenile hall, she would be placed in foster care, she would never see me again and that she would have to go to a new school

  • 34.  Serve and protect (Dads) police officer Gary Pemmrich.


It was after this That my former abuser brought me to court again for contempt, the judge did not find me in contempt and dismissed it.
This was when Judge Miron made a threat that perhaps neither parent was fit and maybe he would put her in foster care. 

{{AND NOW YOU HAVE THE ENDGAME PLAN.  NOW, THIS IS THE MOM’S ACCOUNT, BUT THEORETICALLY, THE TROUBLE SHE’S CAUSING IS REPORTING ABUSE THROUGH THE PROPER CHANNELS, AND FUNCTIONING AS A MOTHER, FOR WHICH ONE TIME BOTH MOTHER AND DAUGHTER WERE PUNISHED, BY DAUGHTER SPENDING A5 WEEKS WITH 2 ABUSERS.  IS THIS OR IS THIS NOT A TECHNIQUE OF WAR, TO TORTURE RELATIVES FOR LACK OF “COMPLIANCE”??}}


He then changed the order that each parent could pick up the child directly from school rather than the police station as the drop off. {
{EVEN THOUGH — SEE START OF STORY — CRAIG H. HAD DONE THIS ILLEGALLY BEFORE, AT HER DAYCARE, HAVING ALLEGEDLY FORGED A JUDGE’S SIGNATURE, 5 YEARS EARLIER….}}

Shortly after she returned from her week placement stating how cold she was at her fathers, stating his electricity was “broken”. The next week it was the same, finally CPS was alerted that there was no electricity, running water/plumbing, refrigeration for food etc. They then began staying at his mothers small two bedroom home, my daughter was given a choice of either sleeping on the living room floor or the unfinished basement. By August my daughter had been frightened several times by her grandmother driving her drunk, specifically one occasion where they took her out with them to the bar and as the grandmother stumbled out of the bar she proceeded to get into the wrong vehicle and then drove them home, drunk. 

 

My daughter asked to stay at my home on his weekend 8/7/09 due to her older sisters coming for a visit. She kept saying how relaxed she was, how well she slept in an actual bed in her own room. She called him and told him she would not return to his mothers house because she had no bed or bedroom there. By 8/12/09 he filed a motion of contempt on me but waited until last minute 9/18/09 to  have me served. Due to the untimely notice it was dismissed, He soon filed another contempt. 

{{FILING CONTEMPT MOTIONS SEEMS TO BE A LIFE SKILL THIS GENTLEMAN HAS PICKED UP ALONG THE WAY….IF NOT SUSTAINING A SEPARATE LIVING ARRANGEMENT SUFFICIENT FOR A GIRL TO HAVE A LITTLE PRIVACY.}}

 

At no time after school started did he ever go to school to retrieve his daughter. In court on 10/14/09 he and his mother perjured themselves that she has her own room, I’m brainwashing her, they don’t drink. When asked why he didn’t go pick her up he would say he was “working” or he was “busy” but I was being held accountable. On 9/4/09 we drove up to the grandmothers house for my daughter to retrieve her clarinet. We requested the assistance of Oconto County Sheriffs Deputy Ryan Zahn, who happens to be the nephew of Craig Hensberger, grandson of Betty Hensberger. At no time did the grandmother attempt to keep my daughter at her residence, her father according to his testimony was working. 

  • 35, Oconto Co Sheriff’s Deputy Ryan Zahn — purpose?  Normal pickup with a volatile situation.  She wanted a witness, I bet.  Too bad about the nepotism factor.

Judge Miron found me in contempt {{FOR WHAT?  GOING TO THE HOME?? TO GET A CLARINET??}} and ordered me 30 days in county jail, with it stayed and ordered that my daughter be picked up by her father on 10/16/09 after school. I was also found in contempt and ordered 30 days in county jail for claiming my daughter on my taxes even though he has an order to do so the IRS will not allow him to since he unlawfully claimed her from 1999-2007. Also because she lived with me exclusively from Feb 2008-August 2008 which the federal government agreed I could claim her. Judge Miron also made his threats again that maybe he would “contact CPS because neither one of us is a fit parent and maybe he should take he away from both of us”. He stated that maybe foster care was the best place for her. 

{{This judge is obviously trying to create a paper trail that would justify that outrage.  How is a mom supposed to function around all this?  And yet she’s trying…..}}

Since the (improperly delayed) contempt motion being served on 9/18/09 my child has began sleep walking, having night terrors, and was placed on Xanax for her sleep disturbances and anxiety issues brought on by her father. She has stated she is not going with her father ever again, she can’t and won’t. She won’t be in school tomorrow due to her flu and is adamant that nobody can make her go, not even me. 

{{end of narrative}}

UNINTERRUPTED VERSION:

In 2003 my abuser forged my signature and had it notarized on a court stipulation giving him “50/50” custody and all back child support dropped, this is a paternity case. The notary was his real estate/insurance agent. The only reason I found out about the forgery is that he tried to remove our daughter, Michaela from daycare and they contacted me immediately.

 

I filed a police report regarding the forgery, the DA, Jay Conley, he said that “even though we know who the likely suspect is there was no proof that my abuser, Craig Hensberger, did this”. Even though no one else would benefit from such an arrangement but the “likely suspect”. I got a handwriting analysis done on my own and presented that evidence to the DA, he stated that only “proved it was not my signature”, he refused to do anything. 

 

I went to court in front of Family Court Commissioner, Frank Calvert, of Oconto County,[[WISCONSIN]] who just happened to be the GAL on my divorce/custody proceedings in 1997 who recommended custody to my ex abusive husband, John Fetterly. It was also Mr. Calvert who made sure that in his recommendations that in order for me to have primary placement with my older three daughters I was to have a “stable living environment away from Craig Hensberger”. In 2003 Mr. Calvert moved up in ranks from lowly GAL to Family Court Commissioner and even with me expressing to him my concerns of his ability to be impartial I was ignored, chastised and intimidated by him. He refused to hear or see any evidence regarding the forgery and kept it as is, “50/50” custody and ordered child support in the amount of $25 per week based on 50/50 custody even though the father had placement every other weekend. 

 

The weekend of Fathers Day in June 2005 my daughter was in the custody and care of her father. On Saturday of that weekend he was arrested for his second DUI in less than a year with our daughter as a passenger in the middle of the day. At this time I had decided to move out of the state and per the county rules sent a certified letter to my former abuser to notify him of our move. He refused the certified letter and it was returned to me, although he was alerted that I was planning on moving and then filed an objection to my move. We again went in front of Frank Calvert who appointed GAL, Aaron Krzewinski. They ordered that my child stay in her current school but that Craig’s mother was to do all the transportation and supervision of placement. This was when my former abuser anger began to escalate and he vandalized three vehicles of mine which rendered them useless as well as loosening all the lug nuts on my tires which could of killed me as the tire fell off while traveling to work one morning. 

 

Finally in October 2005, I moved in with my mother who lived well within the 150 mile radius I was allowed to move without notifying him. In December he served 20 days in jail for his DUI w/our daughter (the minimum is 30 days) and he also was allowed out on “Huber” so that he only had to report to jail at night when he was done working or not working. After he did his time he filed a motion to enforce placement when he was in jail for most of December. Again FCC Frank Calvert chastised me in court for not have legal representation and stated that if he could make me move back he would. He then gave my former abuser every weekend custody and ordered that I drive roundtrip every weekend because my abusers license was suspended. He stated that it wasn’t “his fault I moved, it was mine”. He also refused to review child support and the $25 weekly was upheld. 

 

In August 2006 I moved back to Oconto County with my then fiancé’ soon to be husband, Chad Tipton. It was the Labor Day weekend and we were set to drive her for visitation with her father. My daughter stated that she was scared to go because her father was putting his finger in her “butt crack” down her pants, she made a motion of up and down. She made this revelation and stated how uncomfortable it was to her. I immediately contacted Marathon County CPS who interviewed my daughter. They did make a TPR and advised that Oconto would then handle it when we moved there after that weekend. 

 

During the first weeks of September 2006 my daughter was met at her school by Oconto County CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel. After not hearing from Ms. Silbernagel I contacted her and she was very volatile towards me. Stating that she didn’t believe my daughter, that she believed she was “coached” and that she had children younger than my daughter who could provide specific details such as smells, times of days, etc. but my daughter did not. She stated that she knew of my “history with CPS” and reporting false allegations of sexual abuse. I asked her to explain as I had never made any other report to CPS regarding sexual abuse. She referred to another CPS worker that I had allegedly spoke to in 2004 regarding my older daughter. She made comments that she “knew ALL about me” etc. When I pointed out that my daughter is in danger as her fathers history of driving drunk. She then stated that “driving drunk with his child didn’t make him a bad father, he made a bad choice”.  She refused to take any action and the matter was closed. 

 

In May 2007 my former abuser decided to file for sole custody of our daughter as his behavior was to the point of madness since I was getting married on July 7, 2007. It was during this time that FCC Frank Calvert recused himself finally after I had filed a complaint against him with the Wisconsin Judicial Commission regarding his impartiality and biasness.  By this time he was already facing charges of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon as he tried to run my then fiancé’ and 13 yo daughter in a grocery store parking lot one night as he waited outside for us. During that summer he was given every other week custody and they kept it that way until school started. Every bad behavior he gained more and more custody as the GAL was continually getting more money. 

 

By January 2008, last minute he agreed to joint custody and dropped his sole custody claim. In February 2008 my daughter came home and said that her grandmother had forced fed her soup and then her vomit while threatening to beat “her ass” with a wooden spoon if she didn’t eat it. I contacted CPS and was told that the same CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel whose last name was now Burke as she married would contact me. After I told her of the force feeding incident she stated that she wanted to get down to the bottom of this “once and for all”. She suggested to take my daughter to a neutral third party who would interview her, I agreed. Although she only needed one parents permission she made the appointment at the Child Advocacy Center when it was the fathers placement time to avoid any of my ‘coaching’ etc. 

 

On February 25 my daughter was picked up by Carrie Silbernagel Burke and had my child interviewed by Sara Schumacher who was a forensic interviewer for child abuse victims. The interview was recorded and transcribed. During the interview not only did my daughter tell of the soup incident but once again how her father sexually abused her. She told both Sara Schumacher and Carrie Silbernagel Burke that he father had instructed her to lie that day to them. By that afternoon I received a call from Carrie telling me that they were substantiating the abuse and placing my daughter with me. I thought that the nightmare was finally over. The CPS worker advised my husband and I that it would be a good idea if we left town for the night, get a hotel room as when she contact Craig he was extremely upset. She also advised that we should immediately file a child abuse restraining order for the TPR would not help protect my daughter very long. She explained that they would be filing a CHIPS (child in need of protection) petition and she would be in contact with us. 

 

The next day I filed child abuse restraining orders against Craig and Betty Hensberger and it was granted by Oconto County Richard Delforge for 30 day pending the CHIPS petition. By March CPS was already back pedaling and we were advised by Carrie Burke that Corporation Counsel, Robert Mraz, stated that I was already “protecting my daughter in Family Court” when in fact there was no such order but only the one in which she was to go every other week. Then CPS offered for both parties to sign a stipulation agreement for “co-parenting” classes for both parents. They never even ordered any alcohol or drug assessment for Craig whose history of alcohol abuse was severe. My attorney at the time, Michael Perry,  advised me not to agree to the stipulation and also my former abuser refused to sign. 

 

Also in March he was acquitted of his charge of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon. Somehow my former abuser contacted my ex husband and had my older daughters recant their statements. When this was brought forward to the DA, Jay Conley of possible witness tampering, he stated it wasn’t because Craig only talked with my ex husband. 

 

On May 21, 2008, my daughters 10th birthday, an Administrative Appeal was held by recused FCC Frank M. Calvert. {{SEE BELOW}} My lawyer and I were not privy to this hearing in which my former abuser, his attorney, Corporation Counsel, Deputy Director of Oconto County CPS Greg Benesh and Carrie Burke were a part of. The only reason my attorney learned of this hearing was due to my abusers attorney, John D’Angelo, sending a copy of the hearing in which Mr. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations. My attorney advised me to get the recording from the hearing and I did. What I heard was chilling as my character and credibility was more of an issue than the actual abuse. Especially in which Mr. Calvert snickers and makes fun of me that he’s “well aware of the difficulties with Ms. Fetterly-Tipton”. My lawyer instructs me to file a complaint with the judicial commission as Mr. Calvert had recused himself and he had no right to hear that case. When I requested the CD recording of the hearing Mr. Calvert’s assistant Julie Depouw stated that perhaps Calvert “forgot” he recused himself. A complaint was filed with the judicial commission regarding the ongoing bias and unethical practices of Frank M. Calvert. 

 

In July 2008 my former abuser wanted his placement times back. We went to court and after my two witnesses testified, Sara Schumacher and Greg Benesh, Judge David Miron ordered a recess. My lawyer, my former abuser’s lawyer, GAL Krzewinski met in chambers. My lawyer returned to say that the judge was not going to hear any more testimony because so far we had not proven that there was any substantial change in circumstances for change in placement. He also stated that due to her father subpoenaing my daughters counselor, Jennifer Werner, her supervisor wrote to the judge to tell of his disdain that she was being ‘used’ as a pawn in this proceeding and she had no knowledge of the ongoing custody dispute (her counseling records do not reflect that). My lawyer stated I had to agree to two supervised visits, one overnight unsupervised, one weekend unsupervised then back to week on week off, providing that GAL Krzewinski and newly appointed counselor, Mike Mervilde, found no reason for that schedule, and they didn’t. 

 

When I had tried to make further appointments with Mike Mervilde I was thwarted by saying that he was only court ordered to see her twice. When I requested copies of her counseling records I was told that my daughter wasn’t the patient, her father was. 

 

By the very first unsupervised visit my daughter came back stating her father was drinking and driving with her. Every other week she was coming home from his home with lice. CPS said that wasn’t neglect. My daughter refused to go for visitation and in October her father filed his first of three contempt motions on me. I was found in contempt by Judge Miron and it was ordered that my daughter be forced to live with her abuser for five weeks straight, I was not allowed visitation. This was when I was first accused of PAS, a.k.a. ’brainwashing’ her. The judge stated that he believed that I had “poisoned” my daughter against her father. When I shook my head slightly the judge yelled at me to not shake my head at him.

She left on 10/31/09 and returned on 12/05/09. During that time she was tormented and tortured by her father and grandmother. My daughter still says that was the worst time of her life. 

 

In February my daughter came home and said her father caught a 8lb Walleye and kept it alive in his 100 gallon fish tank for two weeks. He then proceeded to use her and sign her up for three different fishing derbies in one weekend with the same fish. He told my daughter if she told no one she would receive an ipod. The total of $150 of prize money that was won in my daughters name she never saw one penny or an ipod. 

Her father was caught in his lying, cheating and stealing but blamed her for “ratting him out”. This was the turning point that my daughter lost any last respect for her father, she would ask me, “why would he do this to me?”, I had no answer, I still don’t. 

 

She missed a weekend visit in March, by Monday he went to her school with the police to pick her up. She refused and the Gillett police officer, Gary Pemmrich, threatened my daughter that he would take her down to juvenile hall, she would be placed in foster care, she would never see me again and that she would have to go to a new school. 

It was after this hat my former abuser brought me to court again for contempt, the judge did not find me in contempt and dismissed it. This was when Judge Miron made a threat that perhaps neither parent was fit and maybe he would put her in foster care. 

He then changed the order that each parent could pick up the child directly from school rather than the police station as the drop off. 

 

Shortly after she returned from her week placement stating how cold she was at her fathers, stating his electricity was “broken”. The next week it was the same, finally CPS was alerted that there was no electricity, running water/plumbing, refrigeration for food etc. They then began staying at his mothers small two bedroom home, my daughter was given a choice of either sleeping on the living room floor or the unfinished basement. By August my daughter had been frightened several times by her grandmother driving her drunk, specifically one occasion where they took her out with them to the bar and as the grandmother stumbled out of the bar she proceeded to get into the wrong vehicle and then drove them home, drunk. 

 

My daughter asked to stay at my home on his weekend 8/7/09 due to her older sisters coming for a visit. She kept saying how relaxed she was, how well she slept in an actual bed in her own room. She called him and told him she would not return to his mothers house because she had no bed or bedroom there. By 8/12/09 he filed a motion of contempt on me but waited until last minute 9/18/09 to  have me served. Due to the untimely notice it was dismissed, He soon filed another contempt. At no time after school started did he ever go to school to retrieve his daughter. In court on 10/14/09 he and his mother perjured themselves that she has her own room, I’m brainwashing her, they don’t drink. When asked why he didn’t go pick her up he would say he was “working” or he was “busy” but I was being held accountable. On 9/4/09 we drove up to the grandmothers house for my daughter to retrieve her clarinet. We requested the assistance of Oconto County Sheriffs Deputy Ryan Zahn, who happens to be the nephew of Craig Hensberger, grandson of Betty Hensberger. At no time did the grandmother attempt to keep my daughter at her residence, her father according to his testimony was working. 

 

Judge Miron found me in contempt and ordered me 30 days in county jail, with it stayed and ordered that my daughter be picked up by her father on 10/16/09 after school. I was also found in contempt and ordered 30 days in county jail for claiming my daughter on my taxes even though he has an order to do so the IRS will not allow him to since he unlawfully claimed her from 1999-2007. Also because she lived with me exclusively from Feb 2008-August 2008 which the federal government agreed I could claim her. Judge Miron also made his threats again that maybe he would “contact CPS because neither one of us is a fit parent and maybe he should take he away from both of us”. He stated that maybe foster care was the best place for her. 

 

Since the contempt motion being served on 9/18/09 my child has began sleep walking, having night terrors, and was placed on Xanax for her sleep disturbances and anxiety issues brought on by her father. She has stated she is not going with her father ever again, she can’t and won’t. She won’t be in school tomorrow due to her flu and is adamant that nobody can make her go, not even me.

A few PIPL:
Frank Metcalf Calvert
Judgment for money Dec. 08, satisfied APril 09:
Capital One Bank USA NA vs. Frank M Calvert
Oconto County Case Number 2008CV000451[Image of Lady Justice]The Consolidated Court Automation Programs (CCAP) / Wisconsin Circuit Court Access
Civil Judgment(s) $ 22,132.54 (Paid in full)
(Actually the link is a court system search tool).
 OK, I pulled up Craig T Hensberger, so here it goes: Technically this ain’t copying well, but it tends to verify the report that they guy
is very active legally, and a lot of cases are getting dismissed. . . . . 

 

 

<>02-28-08

Lorraine F Tipton vs. Craig T Hensberger 

Oconto County Case Number 2008CV000097 

The court did not issue an injunction against the respondent in this case. The reasons were stated on the record and 

may be explained in the final order. No adverse inference should be drawn against the respondent when an injunction 

is denied or a case dismissed. The fact that a petition was originally filed means nothing

 

<>02/20/2003

Lorraine Fetterly vs. Craig Hensberger Brown County Case Number 2003CV000322

 

The court issued an injunction against the respondent directing the respondent to not engage in certain conduct. The prohibitions are described in the injunction.

<>02-19-03 Craig T. Hensberger vs. Susan L Younger Oconto County Case Number 2003CV000061

Harassment Restraining Order. Delforge, Richard (Responsible Official)

Ms. Younger is about 38, and two attorneys involved:  Hensberger’s is David D Brown and hers Burke, Edward D.  In otherwords, he is filing a harassment order on HER.  Status:  Closed.

<>06-26-01 Oconto County Case Number 2001SC000577 Wells Fargo Financial vs Craig Hensberger

(Small claims of some sort)

Well, Mr. Craig T. Hensberger appears to have a twin brother (same birthdate, including year) called Craig I.  When you put it together, there show 22 cases (Oconto & Brown Counties) with him on it, including Ms. Younger’s harassment order against Him.

But just so y’all know the FISH story was apparently not a FISH tale, here’s one:

06-20-02 State of Wisconsin vs. Craig I. Hensberger Oconto County Case Number 2009FO000215

The defendant Craig I. Hensberger was found guilty of the following charge(s) in this case.

  • Transport Live Fish Away from Waters or Shores of Restricted Waters. This is not a criminal offense and results only in a money penalty for this offense.  (Let’s hope the $150 won paid the fine in full….)

Oconto County Case Number 2005CM000033  

The defendant Craig I. Hensberger was found guilty of the following charge(s) in this case.

  • Disorderly Conduct, a class B misdemeanor, Wisconsin Statutes 947.01.

Oconto County Case Number 2005CT000093

The defendant was charged with both OWI (2nd w/ Passenger < 16 Yrs Old) and Operating w/PAC-Passenger <16 Yrs(2nd).

The defendant was found guilty of OWI (2nd w/ Passenger < 16 Yrs Old) and the other charge, Operating w/PAC-Passenger <16 Yrs(2nd),

was dismissed by the court.  Craig I Hensberger was found guilty of OWI (2nd w/ Passenger < 16 Yrs Old),

an unclassified misdemeanor, Wisconsin Statutes 346.63(1)(a).

That passenger was the little girl . . . . apparently . . . . . . Clearly some priorities are upside down:  Where are all this mother’s “misdemeanors,” and if they aren’t there, then how come she and her daughter are being punished in this manner?  And who the heck is Susan L. Younger in the case?

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October 16, 2009 at 12:00 pm

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