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‘Cyanocitta Cristata’* | Blue Jays and Other Resourceful, Smart, Related Species and Their Habitats: (About my Gravatar Image) [ ‘exported’ from LGH Front Page, published Sept. 8, 2019].

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New Post, Previously Assembled material, except part of the lead-in.  As it says, shortening and taken from my January 2018 Front Page, which is undergoing a massive edit Labor Day Weekend (USA) and shortly thereafter (Sept. 2-4, so far, 2019).  Other than a quick read-through for any incomplete sentences and adjusting a phrase (or paragraph break) or too, it’s basically as-written.

It used to be at the very bottom of my Front Page.  I figure many people never got that far.  It’s an easy read..No math challenges or fine print involved….

//LGH Sept. 8, 2019


“Blue jays will attack humans if they get too close to their nesting area.”

‘Cyanocitta Cristata’ | Blue Jays and Other Resourceful, Smart, Related Species and Their Habitats: (About my Gravatar Image) [ ‘exported’ from LGH Front Page, published Sept. 8, 2019]. (short-link ends “–aXL” and as exported and published under 2,500 words). * Originally published missing a syllable (“Cy-an-o”), the letter “o.”  Corrected Oct. 11, 2019 in all occurrences, I think, on blog, incl. the tag.  “mea culpa.” //LGH.

About the Gravatar Image of a Flying Blue Jay.  

Its basic image to me is “flight” but I also consider the blue jay, crow and raven (below) for some other admirable qualities which I feel people, especially women and mothers, already have, continue to need and often demonstrate in dealing with the many systems intended to continue ensnaring us in forms of abusive control AFTER we declared “No Excuse!” by filing for protection, and temporarily obtaining SOME….

Nothing too deep — it just helps me to consider the survival qualities of species common to North America.

For example, attempts to wipe out crows were made (and attempts to wipe out independent-minded mothers raising children without a resident controlling man — or “the state” instead of him — calling the shots, making major decisions, and substituting for our own good judgment and common sense, the “state” official policy towards our kind).  Meaning, mothers who don’t get or stay married to the fathers of their children and aren’t apologetic about it, either.  Moms who still believe they have a right to fight for what’s best for themselves and their children and no innate duty to submit to further degradation, abuse, or domination by people who  don’t see what we see, haven’t experienced what we have, and may not comprehend when “NO!” means “NO!”

Businesses like birds also flourish in certain habitats and adapt to others.  Sometimes they are invasive, marauding species too.

The professions, as an “economic habitat” attract certain fauna and flora.  The problem isn’t just the critters, it’s also the habitat.

And as to these, where the public contributes is through public institutions that  WE FUND UP FRONT and ONGOING.




Those are aspects I had to address in my own life, and make up for the information gap.  While learning myself, I also posted.

IF I HAD KNOWN about the federal incentives, dating back a few decades, to set up and follow through with the “family court fiasco” post-domestic violence, and the aggressive, consistent attempts to saturate professional journals with minimization of it (when not running media campaigns ABOUT it omitting the same government agencies funding fathers’ rights movements specifically mandated — it’s in their original documents — to counter a perceived “maternal” bias in social services and in the family courts — I would have made even fewer compromises.  NOT KNOWING THIS prevents women from bonding around it.

That is also why I felt it necessary to post on the “Broken Courts, Flawed Practices” nonprofits, some from Northern California, (since 1999, 2006, respectively) on the “Battered Mothers’ Custody Conference” (since 2003) (and its adherents and regular presenters) and in the methods used to continually find new “poster child” cases to “throw under the bus” for more publicity to further the “technical consulting and training” conferences, webinars, and speaker resumes of the field.

This is, again, theater — it’s there for a reason, and that reason is NOT the ones stated on the front pages.  The theater is there to derail viewers from the bedrock realities of the system, lest they mutually organize to do something effective about it.  It is there to perpetuate the abuse systems, while “tweaking” and adjusting them slightly back towards “fair” — for which of course, SOMEONE has to train and sell publications.

IN CASE readers are wondering why I am adamant about certain things, and ready not to just “survive through compromise” but dismantling any system which tolerates ram-rodding decent parents into as deep a hole as possible, and which doesn’t abide by its own definitions of the legal process, or justice, or anything approaching — to put it crudely and personified, “tear ’em a new one…”

It’s because I know experientially that compromise on the basic principles of life and relationships does NOT have a good ending.  

The result is further compromise, followed by yet more, and yet more, and degradation of the neighborhood, while clearing the overall habit for increasing levels of built-in criminality. This doesn’t mean all are criminal, but those who are find great places to roost, and those who aren’t, don’t have, apparently, the integrity or ability to flush them out — which would also destroy their own habitats and incomes. I am talking about the penchant to refer-out to “community services” things that deserve a track record, and protection of due process.  In order to get rid of that, a whole different set of “courts” were created.

This appears to be a major thrust of the family court system itself an the enmeshment of behavioral/mental health “standards” as if they were solid, and science (rather than a combination of population control, individual coercion with a mix of religious beliefs and cults among the practitioners… This type of systemic change, I’ve found (through writing this blogs, and in dealing/networking with others about their experiences, but only as add-ons or emphases to what the research already proves) goes ALL THE WAY  to the top of government and relates to privatization, taxation and tax-exempt status.

Focusing on the family — and conciliation — courts as venues driven largely by a few private societies brought the situation into better focus.  I still feel that dealing with them as venues NOT subject to reform, or principles of honesty, integrity, and clean financials — EVER — would be one efficient way of “cleaning house” and reminding us that in this country, the “top dog” should still be law — not the “mental/behavioral health Archipelago.”  Have we learned NOTHING from history yet???  

Truth Fuels Flight, Lies Ensnare. Don’t Hang With, Serve (or Donate to) Tricksters or Their Targets. It’s a New Year — but there is STILL no valid excuse for abuse.


The Blue Jay Image (and recently added caption):  This image encouraged me at a low point in my post-domestic-violence life, when there seemed no end to the ongoing fight for independence from individuals insisting that a condition of leaving that batterer was to simply exchange one form of abuse and set of abusers for another.  While I live in California and blue jay habitat isn’t listed as Western United States, as a bird they have many admirable qualities appropriate, I feel, for people concerned about protecting our young, and keeping predators away.  They also contribute to the environment, and are probably a pretty smart (survival-minded) species.

Blue Jay Information, Photos & Facts (from “American Expedition.us”)

“Bluebirds will mimic the calls of predatory raptors to test whether or not their predators are nearby.”

Blue jays are highly beneficial to the flora and fauna in their ecosystem: their characteristic ‘jay’ call warns other birds of predators, and their fondness of acorns is credited with spreading oak forests across North America.

“Blue jays will attack humans if they get too close to their nesting area.”

BlueJayFacts from AmericanExpedition.US

The Blue Jay (Cyanocitta cristata) is a large, crested songbird native to North America with bright blue coloration. Blue jays are known to be beautiful, intelligent and highly aggressive birds. American Expedition is proud to present informationfactshabitat infobird feeding tips and pictures of the Blue Jay.

From the “Cornell Lab of Ornithology, “All About Birds” for this species.  A few of the “Cool Facts,”  This website also shows “habitat” and that the “Blue Jay” is more eastern US and Canada, while “Steller’s Jay” shows the Western coast.  The quote describes the Blue Jay, not “Steller’s”

From Cornell’s “Ornithology Lab” All About Birds – habitat of the Blue Jay.

This common, large songbird is familiar to many people, with its perky crest; blue, white, and black plumage; and noisy calls. Blue Jays are known for their intelligence and complex social systems with tight family bonds. Their fondness for acorns is credited with helping spread oak trees after the last glacial period.

  • Thousands of Blue Jays migrate in flocks along the Great Lakes and Atlantic coasts, but much about their migration remains a mystery. Some are present throughout winter in all parts of their range. Young jays may be more likely to migrate than adults, but many adults also migrate. Some individual jays migrate south one year, stay north the next winter, and then migrate south again the next year. No one has worked out why they migrate when they do.
  • Blue Jays are known to take and eat eggs and nestlings of other birds, but we don’t know how common this is. In an extensive study of Blue Jay feeding habits, only 1% of jays had evidence of eggs or birds in their stomachs. Most of their diet was composed of insects and nuts.
  • Tool use has never been reported for wild Blue Jays, but captive Blue Jays used strips of newspaper to rake in food pellets from outside their cages.
  • The black bridle across the face, nape, and throat varies extensively and may help Blue Jays recognize one another.
  • The oldest known wild, banded Blue Jay was at least 26 years, 11 months old when it was found dead after being caught in fishing gear. It had been banded in the Newfoundland/Labrador/St. Pierre et Miquelon area in 1989 and was found there in 2016.

Steller Jay takes the Western region, Blue Jay, Eastern US & Canada, it seems…

Blue Jays, the Audobon (Field) Guide to North American Birds tells us, belong to the family containing “Crows, Magpies, Jays,” which according to this site includes ravens.

I thought contrasts with the Common Raven (corvus corax, making a comeback in Eastern US) and the American Crow also interesting. I grew up in the Eastern US and while no formal birdwatcher, watched and heard plenty of them growing up. I still miss the sounds of so many types birds, all four season, but no longer so common… Then again, I’ve been living mostly in major metropolitan areas (a.k.a. large cities) as an adult.   (I’m partial to a diversity of birds — but also of people!!)


Ravens disappeared from much of the east and midwest before 1900.

In recent decades they have been expanding their range again, especially in the northeast, spreading south into formerly occupied areas.

Of the birds classified as perching birds or “songbirds,” the Common Raven is the largest, the size of a hawk. Often its deep croaking call will alert the observer to a pair of ravens soaring high overhead. An intelligent and remarkably adaptable bird, living as a scavenger and predator, it can survive at all seasons in surroundings as different as hot desert and high Arctic tundra. Once driven from much of its eastern range, the raven is now making a comeback. . Both sexes build nest and feed nestlings….

Typically forages in pairs, the two birds sometimes cooperating to flush out prey……regularly eats carrion and garbage.. [[Which means it helps clean up some of that crap!!] Imagine the  planet, whether dry land or ocean, without scavenger animals..]

THE AMERICAN CROW: (corvus brachyrhynchos)

Audobon.org, Field Guide to North American Birds / American Crow.(See bottom-right image detail for photo credit)

Audobon.org, Field Guide to North American Birds / American Crow.Habitat (red = breeding; purple= all seasons..

Attempts at extermination in past have included dynamiting of winter roosts. However, the crow remains abundant, and is increasingly adapting to life in towns and even cities. (!!)...

Woodlands, farms, fields, river groves, shores, towns. Lives in a wide variety of semi-open habitats, from farming country and open fields to clearings in the woods. Often found on shores, especially where Fish Crow and Northwestern Crow do not occur. Avoids hot desert zones. Is adapting to towns and even cities, now often nesting in city parks.

Crows are thought to be among our most intelligent birds, and the success of the American Crow in adapting to civilization would seem to confirm this. Despite past attempts to exterminate them, crows are more common than ever in farmlands, towns, and even cities, and their distinctive caw! is a familiar sound over much of the continent. Sociable, especially when not nesting, crows may gather in communal roosts on winter nights, sometimes with thousands or even tens of thousands roosting in one grove.

The image of a bird taking flight was metaphorically where I wished to be, vis-a-vis certain controlling personalities and tactics applied, and economic vehicles through which they were applied.  And I’m well aware of how it’s tougher now than it was two decades ago, in many ways, for women and mothers to exit battering relationships involving the father of their children — because official federal, state, and often passed down to local (I mean, for the United States geopolitical system, essentially county, or where it applies, regional metropolitan areas organized as such) social policy has continued to emphasize, families and children as father’s property, and those who take exception to this for violent behavior by the fathers as needing their heads examined, and their attitudes “adjusted.”

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