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Table of Contents 2019, FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Posts + Pages: January 1 – Sept. 30 (so far).

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Table of Contents 2019, FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Posts + Pages: January 1 – Sept. 30 (so far).(Shortlink ends “-ayV”. About 8,000 words (w/ two months’ of updates extending the table, incl. some with tags).

Posted August 5,* Updated Oct. 2 (* So this post shows on the table, chronologically under Aug. 5th).  Also a link to it was added to my top right sidebar, within the “GO TO: Current Posts…” widget) which also has  Table of Contents 2018.  With the Oct. 2 update, I also marked this post Sticky, making it generally hard to miss.  If you want an idea what I’ve been blogging recently, TOCs 2018 and 2019 are both recommended reading (browse titles) as well as anything which made it onto my top right sidebar widget.

No single essay (post or page, even with the exhibits) can expose an entire network developed over the decades, expanding and evolving in its many roots, branches, tendrils above and below ground (direct public awareness ℅ storefront websites and periodic MSM feature stories). Understanding comes with exposure over time and seeing some of the basic operating principles in action, which I blog in a show and tell manner.  I’m just not focused on anecdotal narrative based on individual cases, not even my own. (See blog motto: “A Different Kind of Attention Develops Sound Judgment”).


Table of Contents 2019 is leaner and less cluttered than previous ones and unlike them (TOCs for 2012-2014, 2016, 2017 and large posts to go with each) incorporates any new pages by date published. Table of Contents 2018 (<~second version, published March 24, 2019; short-link ending “-9y7”) also includes pages. The “ARCHIVES” function does not. Here, I highlit pages bright-yellow because the short-link protocol for them differs (by just one capitalized letter) from that for posts.

While I have fewer pages overall, the ones I do have tend to be as important as key posts, or often paired with them.  Some exist to give more in-depth detail on a topic a post may have introduced.

IMPROMPTU COMMENTS (with the latest/October 2 update):

In September 2019, I worked extensively on (condensing) the massive Front Page to the blog, resulting in some off-ramped posts, connecting links, and updates.  I’m not sure how much longer I can keep this blogging up and wanted it more accessible.  All my indicators are there’s still nothing like it out there, written by someone with experience of both the domestic violence protection and the family court system but despite that, focused on obtaining data available to common people (i.e., people without access to academic journals, insider information on the courts, or individual court cases) to show system organization as a rationale and solid base for system reform.** (see “Clarifications,” next inset)

** Clarifications added Oct. 3 and may be off-ramped soon.

In other words, unlike

  • most family court reform organizations’ leaders** leadership, I am actually a member of the class allegedly being protected or which these leaders seek to protect  [** detailed at bottom of “Clarifications” section]


  • most protective parents (typically characterized — and likely most typical — as mothers)  or domestic survivors with the family court devastation or “my children were murdered (or kidnapped) on court-ordered visitation (or even supervised visitation)” nightmare experiences, being a member of the class allegedly being protected/which these leaders seek to protect,

I didn’t sell (give away, essentially) my story in exchange for hope (or, to make a living at it after other lines of work were cut off through the process) as coached and facilitated by the family court reform  (mutually) self-anointed ‘thought leaders’.  

Mothers who have already lost in court, and/or lost children, are sought out (“trawling for trauma”) and encouraged to focus on telling one’s tragic story, stirring major “pathos” credibility, which can then be linked (in the press, already “if it bleeds it leads” mentality to attract readers) to “fixing family court practice” rather than investigating the operations & finances, thereby strategically delaying the inevitable “outing” of key nonprofits who organized to set up the same courts, such as AFCC, NCJFCJ, NCSC, NCCD, NACC and others — and distracting from the blueprints: how these organizations do this knowing about and intent to be sustained by existing (with efforts to add more) federal funding streams, while working to internationally standardize practices.

What such mothers don’t seem to realize, while failing to investigate (a) the court-connected nonprofits and (b) the U.S. (especially post-PRWORA) federal grants that feed them and thus notice how BOTH the domestic violence advocacy and fatherhood fields were developed separately but have in fact always collaborated privately, even about policy [EXAMPLE:  Batterers Intervention as Standard Practice is built into the widely distributed “Duluth Model,” as is “Coordinated Community Response” which obfuscates the funding track] is that sooner or later their stories will fade from public attention, and the cycle of ignorance repeats itself in the press.

The worst ones can be exploited for years (I’ve seen it!), but there’s always a need for “fresh blood,” while aged-out children, now adults, are brought into the “family court reform” fold to testify at conferences, STILL knowing little about operations.

While all these I listed above are well-known key organizations, (outside apparently the traumatized Moms and domestic violence organization/court clientele) that exhibit the overall public/private business model, that model I believe is best seen looking at them in collaborative operations, the closest leverage to the family court systems seems to be AFCC, and that’s the organization which seems to have been the most hushed up by the (self-anointed thought leadership), EVEN THOUGH many individual researchers, investigative bloggers (I’m not the first!) continued to bring it up, and most of us know that they know.

It seems that what you do (or fail to do) after you know matters the most.

**(Nonprofits who manage to get cited, and eager to file amicus briefs, testify before task forces, and to the extent their leadership has academic connections, publish in a law or other journal), some getting minor USDOJ/NIJ grants to start finally backing up the [ridiculous and barely supported] numeric claims about the family courts, others working more getting their names alongside the former in media articles about the problems in family courts).  See my June 29, 2014 post for a list as of about that time, but I’ve known before then.  Collectively, they make this blog necessary, and its basic work, harder.  In my “58 Essays” and “Acknowledgements” (now second and third sticky posts on this blog) —  Acknowledgements, Executive Summary (Current Projects | Rolling Blackouts) and What Makes This Blog “What You Need to Know” (July 31, 2019). (<~~Click to Access; shortlink ends “-auh”, also marked sticky). I gave these groups a backhanded credit for the existence of this blog. Women, mothers with custody challenges who have already been betrayed by this crowd (discovered usually in hindsight) then don’t and sometimes properly can’t, trust each other, either —  certainly not when it appears some personal knowledge of our “stories” (cases) is then used to direct the desperate to certain professionals working with/for the opposing side, or sabotage a case in process.  I’m not the only person who calls this “throwing mothers under the bus.”

ON THE OTHER HAND, it’s possible to be aware that telling your story mid-litigation in exchange for “help” or hope that “someone”  — perhaps a female (or male) “Prince Charming”? calling out the right battle cry (“Arguing PAS”) —  really may ride to the rescue and champion the cause, and FIX the broken courts, so the suffering may not have been in vain) may just not be so wise.  At some levels, it may even be stupid. Why not instead, look more closely at how government works — by at least STARTING to follow the money and (thereby) see just how little accountability, and how many built-in conflicts of interest exists, most of which the current heroes aren’t interested in, probably because they’re already, and I keep finding evidence they’re hoping to be in on it soon.

“If a few more kids get killed on the way towards THAT noble, if not downright holy, crusade, so much the better for publicity.” seems to be a shared mentality.  Seeing this, I chose not to join up mentally or socially, not that this caused me to shut up….. //LGH Oct. 3, 2019

[Continues from just above the Oct. 3 inset] The family court system has been but shouldn’t really be characterized as either politically progressive or politically conservative, whether meaning in the USA or elsewhere.  It is what it is, and developed over a timeline with specific agents, and actors already in place and in power.

In more than one country family courts continue to have damaging effects and outcomes (“roadkill”).  I see that both the actors (people, associations, and/or institutions such as universities, or parts of the federal government (USA) who helped originally set up the family courts and the (self-appointed/system-anointed) family court reform movements (protective parents, battered mothers, family rights, etc.) have professional “story-tellers” with revisionist, fictionalized, or just plain dumbed-down, illogical explanations bordering on mythical fairytales with religious superstition for those bad outcomes, including but not limited to headline-making “roadkill.”

I chose early on to go look at who’s funding such myth-making; what an expedition it’s been!

By the way, more logical answers (which we need unless there’s a strong urge to “play the fool” and continue to be exploited because it’s more comfortable socially to join existing movements than start one) continue to be hard to argue against, as shown by collective refusal to engage, to co-opt with a highly diluted version (I say this with specific websites in mind), and in general refusal to mention this blog by name while, I know as blog administrator, many of the same groups and their leaders (as well as, per “statcounter” certain universities, government entities, and followers from specific countries) have been following it.  {END, “Impromptu Comments” //LGH Oct. 2, 2019)


The main, but not only important content, on this page is the table which looks like and begins:

2019 FAMILYCOURTMATTERS.org, The Year (So Far) in Posts,* 2019

(with approximate word counts for each and “tags” for some)

URL: short-link ends:
Jan.5, 2019 2018: A Year On This Blog | Table of Contents (Posts) | This One is “Sticky” [@ Jan. 5, 2019]

Under 4,000 words, but see also, below, Table of Contents 2018 (<~second version, better format, published March 24, 2019; short-link ending “-9y7”)

Feb. (no posts were published this month)
March 4


How 501©3 “The Next American City,” with help from at least Five BIG Foundations, lost its “American,” while Devastated Detroit’s DESIGN is Anointed by UNESCO (Written Sept. 2016, but Published Mar. 2019). (about 8,600 words)

“The post was fully written in 2016 as you see below (except this update in this background-color) but, through my oversight, was not published until now, 2019.”


As of September 30, there are over three dozen posts and pages (mostly posts) in 2019.

FINDING IT AGAIN LATER: A link to this Table of Contents is the sidebar, on “Current Posts” widget.  As of Aug. 31, 2019, I’m adding a link to this table to the top of several recent posts (not all of 2019 posts) for convenience.  As of Oct. 2, it now includes posts (and a page or so) for September, and now marked “sticky” = you’ll see it pinned at or near the top of this blog.

A WORK IN PROGRESS: So far it’s only for the first three quarters of the year.  Assuming the blog continues to grow, I’ll update this Table of Contents, probably at the end of each month, up through December 31, 2019.

COLOR-CODING in the TOC: For some posts I added separate rows with tags, immediately beneath the row for each respective post, labeled “TAGS” in the left column and “n/a” in the right.  I labeled “Sticky” posts “STICKY” in the left column, no extra highlighting.  I called attention to any new pages because they are highlit yellow.  (and marked “PAGES” in middle and right-hand column).

BELOW THE TABLE are some excerpts in the form of screenprints from a few posts I felt held substantial drill-downs and relevance; i.e., I felt that if you understood those, you could understand similar situations and the larger landscape in which our family courts operate (“transferable skills” and awareness).

LAYOUT OF THIS POST:  <>PREVIEW (above, you just read it) [a “Read-more” link] <>OVERVIEW (“year in review & commentary, next, pale-pink background), [a second “Read-More” link] <>”OF INTEREST (A table within a table/blog merger,” tan background describes a special project this year) <>a quick “LEGEND” (explaining the table and use of short-links), <>THE TABLE, then <>”EXTRA CONTENT (excerpts) for SOME POSTS (by date)” some excerpts as described just above.

A lot of words, many links, but structurally nothing fancy:  SUGGESTION: FIRST, BROWSE THE TITLES! (and lists of tags) for a sense of overall content and basic themes.

My LONG TITLES are intentional, to keep some vocabulary, basic concepts which I find are often neglected in standard advocacy or mainstream media rhetoric, in mind through repetition.  The habit also helps me with internal references: after all, over 800 individually written posts is a lot to keep track of!  Within the table, click on any title to access that post (or page).  You can also click on tags, but they are there mostly for description.

I do not re-post (though I often quote others’ writings on blog, mainstream media, organization or public institution (i.e., government websites) as appropriate to comment or respond. If it’s on here, I wrote it except where referencing or quoting others.  The voice on this blog is my own on its subject matter, and the perspective developed over time.


2019 Overview: This year was hard work on several posts, including merging a blog, completing previous year’s tables (2018), cleaning it up, and no real cessation in ongoing attention to key situations.  I continue do this innately, no matter what the season, and hope some day to have more people, others with whom I can discuss this — as opposed to others who may wish me to do their own “homework” for their specific situations, rather than starting to do it themselves — and teaching others how to, or (more common) others who wish I would quit looking things up and bringing things up about the standard “family court practices” advocacy which just, apparently, can’t handle the topics I keep bringing up.

I used to jump to attention more often when specific requests or crises showed up.  Right now, they could surface in almost any state, so I’ve continued to focus on specific KEY states which provide clear examples of how the family courts were set up, and what types of programs are being run through them, and how (where clear enough) financed by both public and private sectors.

In 2019, as other posts have brought up, I was completing an interstate move begun last summer, under duress and having already been forced out of anything sustainable (i.e., a rental lease).  I am still operating solo as to the blog, and for the most part, this type of research and reporting.  I worked hard this year to make it more approachable and complete (tables of contents) and may be reaching (or beyond) the limits of what a blog, only, can convey, without a live person to point to it, run a workshop, etc. — activities my personal situation, for now, precludes doing.

Perhaps some of us — should agreement in lines of research develop or converge–  should form a “semi-secret” society like those I keep running across evidence of, sell it under “social science – economics, “comparative public/private accounting”, get an on-line professional journal started (someone will have to show up with a PhD I guess) and have our own peers review articles. That’s after all, what several key organizations involved in family courts (in various countries) have already done….  Maybe some university could be persuaded to name a special center after it… or we could get an NIJ grant to study other NIJ (and HHS) grants usage in social science R&D and organizations historically tasked with evaluating the same..

(I believe it’s the June 22, 2019, “By Now We Should Know” post which takes on the concept of using the word “professionals” as opposed to specifying “in WHAT” by a certain international, multi-disicplinary organization. But memory sometimes fails, which is where tables of contents (and writing things down!) helps!)

“JUST kidding…”

Just in case, though, I’ll work on some catch-phrases, sound-bytes, and buzz-words… The key seems to be, pick a phrase — just two or three words are all that’s needed —  pick words SO common they’re in use everywhere, assign a context-specific meaning we understand, but the general usage has so many different meanings, no one else would.  Arrange any two of them so it’s unclear whether one is a verb or not, although verbs should be avoided unless they are to STOP something no one could really disagree with — like “Stop Violence”…

Anything with the words Child | Family (or ‘Families’) | Prevent, Stop or End | “Abuse” in any area should do.  Better yet, add “Community” “Action” or “Educate” “Resource Center” “Clearinghouse” “Center” “Initiative” “Coalition” (ad lib, ad infinitum)….

Tweak it some, get the downloadable webinar going… certify others in OUR version of truth, keep it going….such a deal. If it’s an utter failure (like so many existing ones), just add a “QIC” (Quality Improvement Center)… get conference locations in whatever our personal “bucket list” global destinations might be …

(Just describing what I’ve seen in practice…and still, somewhat, just kidding…)

Applying total structural consistency in format can be a roller-coaster ride when you’re running things impromptu from the start.  I’m also tired of being constantly on poor-quality databases, or high-quality (but showing clear bias in their owners) academic journals, plowing through footnotes and bibliographies without the audience to talk to them about who’s on — and not on– those footnotes and bibliographies, in terms of unstated organizational affiliations.

Meanwhile, enjoy browsing the titles, tags, or added visuals (images, an embedded tweet or two) content below the table of contents.

“OF INTEREST”  (A table within a table/blog merger)

Special Project: April 7, 2019 post holds index & links to my Family Court Franchise System blog, basically representing a blog merger).


I started a project this year under duress to preserve content from another of my family-court-related blogs on a non-Wordpress platform, shows up as an April 7 post  —  see “The Family Court Franchise System” (Blogspot.com, 2012 only, 40 posts and 7 Pages) Is Now Grafted into FamilyCourtMatters.org here (WordPress.com) as of April 7, 2019 [Updated (shortened) July 2-5, 2019]. Despite the time and effort spent merging these information onto FamilyCourtMatters.org here,  I haven’t yet hit “Go” to individually re-publishing the saved posts.  Browse the list of post titles (I called it “index” to distinguish from these tables of contents) to see subject matter I’ve been studying all these years. Organizations and situations are named; these organizations and situations continue active, some still “volatile,” still.  THE OLDER VERSION OF POSTS LISTED THERE MAY BE UP IF THE ORIGINAL BLOG DOMAIN STILL IS; LINKS TO BOTH SHOWN.

This also demonstrates in part how long I have been reporting on such things, without charge, in the public interest, and on my own initiative.  Whether that’s the “mother” in me, or the heightened sense of justice which comes, perhaps, from surviving years of (marital) abuse, someone else can judge, but a few times this year, including two posts on June 29, I did state “Why I Continue to Bother…”

In September 2019, I worked extensively on the Front Page of this blog (Shortening, organizing it) resulting in several off-ramped and updated in the process posts. I have also been more active on Twitter in recent months and may includes links to each platform on the other one’s.  Keeping the media straight across various platforms is sometimes an administrative/filing issue as well as technical.

LEGEND: A quick GUIDE to the TABLE

If you’re already familiar with the blog, the “right-hand column” “short-link information” is review.  It’s also (essentially) on the top sticky post of the blog as of today, again. Skip down to the “legend” (Yellow-highlit means a PAGE, blue-green means “Tags,”; such rows belong to the rows above, are labeled “TAGS” in the left column and “n/a” in the right.  I labeled “Sticky” posts “STICKY” in the left column, no extra highlighting….). Table of Contents is (January 1 through August 31). Approximate word-count for each is in the center column under its title, and a few extra comments may show up there too.  Below the table are a few more visuals, but not much more explanation as in some other years’ Tables of Contents.

Right-hand column explained: Not needed just to view.  To view, just click on the post (or page) title.

I publicize the short-links on all (new) posts or pages, and here for my administrative (internal/external cross-referencing) ease, and for anyone who may want to forward or publicize a link to one of those LONG post or page titles.  The right-hand column shows how each post (or page)’s specific link ends.   Easy to use:  “a, b, c.”

(a) Know if you’re on a post* or page.** Pick the appropriate basic shortlink URL below–copy it and paste, or just type (if you’re accurate typist) into wherever you want that link to go (a tweet, a post, a comment, an email).  I have it memorized and usually just type it in, then type or copy in the extra ending characters (as in, from the right-hand column on this table).

*FOR POSTS: Case-sensitive (after the “wp.me/”) short-link for posts begins: http://wp.me/psBXH-

**FOR PAGES: identical, except the “P” is upper-case:  http://wp.me/PsBXH-

(b) Add to that character string you just copied or typed in “a” the three-character short-link from the right-hand column (only one hyphen “-” needed) for a complete url.

(c ) Use combined short-link if quoting, referencing, tweeting, or re-posting (always credit the exact post or page, please; dates published especially helpful too, and my username is “Let’s Get Honest” (Twitter:  @LetUsGetHonest) and this blog’s name is at the top:  FamilyCourtMatters.org). NB: The blog’s name is not the username or vice versa.

I have over 800 posts and nearly 60 pages; failing to include a specific link when referencing something I’ve written isn’t fair play.  If you reference, include the link and date published, unless it’s a very general comment and stated in that way.  Including specifics when discussing, debating and especially when quoting is common courtesy.

“Legend” (Some rows are highlit different colors; others are labeled more “quietly”

  • (1) pages  are highlit yellow)

  • (2) Occasional rows highlit light blue-green contain tags for the previous entry.  Where you see a light blue-green or “TAGS” row, the related post is the row just above.  The tags rows have the most words.  Tags are separated by commas. They can be clicked on, but are here mostly just for description. I don’t tag consistently; to find all occurrences of specific interest (like an organization or professional’s name), use the blog’s “Search” function instead.

  • (3) “Sticky” posts are labeled “STICKY” but not highlit differently
  • (4) Below the table I have supplementary content, which is explained there.

Thanks in advance for considering this information and learning to look and talk up some of these organizations, public/private intersections and situations.  Learn to screen organizations quickly by looking up their basic information. //LGH August 5, 2019.



2019 FAMILYCOURTMATTERS.org, The Year (So Far) in Posts,* 2019

(with approximate word counts for each and “tags” for some)

URL: short-link ends:
Jan.5, 2019 2018: A Year On This Blog | Table of Contents (Posts) | This One is “Sticky” [@ Jan. 5, 2019]

under 4,000 words | STICKY |(But see also, below, Table of Contents 2018 (<~second version, publ. March 24, 2019; short-link ending “-9y7“)

Feb. (no posts were published this month)
March 4


How 501©3 “The Next American City,” with help from at least Five BIG Foundations, lost its “American,” while Devastated Detroit’s DESIGN is Anointed by UNESCO (Written Sept. 2016, but Published Mar. 2019).

(about 8,600 words)

“The post was fully written in 2016 as you see below (except this update in this background-color) but, through my oversight, was not published until now, 2019.”
March 4 TAGS Post “How 501©3 “The Next American City” Tagged with  (TAGS ARE SEPARATED BY COMMAS). n/a
March 15 Again, the question is: “Don’t like long, convoluted post titles? Don’t shoot the messenger: Did I conceive, gestate, give birth to, nurture and L.A.U.N.C.H. these “Great Ideas” ? (Started mid-Dec., 2018; Publ. “WYSIWYGG” March 15, 2019). (about 12,000 words) -9md
March 15 TAGS Post “Don’t like long, convolusted post titles? Don’t shoot the messenber:..” Tagged with  (TAGS ARE SEPARATED BY COMMAS). n/a
March 20 Interlocking, Dysfunctional Definitions, Cont’d: “NJII, a NJIT Company,” and (how, exactly, NJ became) “the State of Innovation.”
(8,600 words)
March 20 TAGS Post “Interlocking, Dysfunctional Definitions, Cont’d: NJII, a NJIT Company” Tagged with   n/a
March 24 2018 Blog Post and New Pages (Full List with Titles) in Standard TOC Format [provided March 24, 2019] (about 4,000 words | STICKY (see also Jan. 5 , 2019 entry, above) -9y7
Apr. 10 Running the Maze, Triathlon-Style, Continuing To Leave a Broad Trail of Breadcrumbs, Field Guides, Consumer Alerts etc. (about 7,000 words / conversational tone /reflects my opinion and perspective) -9IU
Apr. 19. “The Family Court Franchise System” (Blogspot.com, 2012 only, 40 posts and 7 Pages) Is Now Grafted into FamilyCourtMatters.org here (WordPress.com) as of April 7, 2019 [Updated (shortened) July 2-5, 2019].

Approx. 10,000 words including the index (table of contents) to the blog merger... Check back here periodically for which of those 47 indexed reports (post & pages) have been re-published on this blog”  ||  STICKY

May 6 More about those perspectives and key concepts (and actors). (See Also upcoming “A Closer Look At — and Alternate Interpretation of — Who’s Funding Poverty Research..)” (Started April 19, 2019, Published May 6).

The post is too damn long (almost 17,500 words but not going to be split;  read in installments!)

May 6 TAGS (Despite the length, it seems I didn’t tag this one.  See below post for “related posts” — May was a busy month) n/a
May 6 Apparently Common Family Court Reform Practice (Why my Uncommon Approach is less “Flawed”) [Published May 12, 2019] (About 14,000 words including footnotes.  Introduces a new Page). -9Qq
May 11 PAGE~~>  WHY? Should I Stop! Look! and Listen! (to such long posts)? [May 11, 2019]

Under 2,500 words.  Seems mostly exhortation. (That last character “-9Sl,” is a small “L” ~ ~ ~>)



May 13 A Closer Look At — and Alternate Interpretation of — Who’s Funding Poverty Research (Hint: The Poor….) In New York (Columbia Univ. SSW), Wisconsin (University of Wisconsin’s IRP), and let’s not forget New Jersey (Princeton University’s Welfare-Reform-Focused “…Center for Research on Child Well-Being”). (Pt. 1 of 3=”-9LJ”)(Written mid-April, Split in 3 mid-May, 2019]

(Started about April 17, 2019. Before split, 14,606 words; Part 1 is about 4,200 words).

May 14 A Closer Look At — and Alternate Interpretation of — Who’s Funding Poverty Research (Hint: The Poor….) In New York (Columbia Univ. SSW), Wisconsin (University of Wisconsin’s IRP), and let’s not forget New Jersey (Princeton University’s Welfare-Reform-Focused “…Center for Research on Child Well-Being”) (Pt. 2 of 3=”9Tx”).

(About 6,500 words here, w/ some overlapping paragraphs added from Part 1.)

May 15 A Closer Look At — and Alternate Interpretation of — Who’s Funding Poverty Research (Hint: The Poor….) In New York (Columbia Univ. SSW), Wisconsin (University of Wisconsin’s IRP), and let’s not forget New Jersey (Princeton University’s Welfare-Reform-Focused “…Center for Research on Child Well-Being”). (Pt. 3 of 3=”-9TC”)  (About 8,500 words). -9TC
May 16 Ten Footnotes to Two Posts: “More about those perspectives…” (May 6) and “Apparently Common Family Court Reform Practice…” (May 12, 2019). “(I estimate these footnotes will total about 6,000 words=why they’ve been moved here).”

(Footnote “Susan Schechter Lab” (at UNH)  updated with an “addendum” May 17= post is now 7,600 words)

May 18 Classic AFCC Combos, Collaborations, and Commonalities (Ret’d California Judge/Consultant Leonard P. Edwards, Texas Supreme Court Justice Debra H. Lehrmann) and What’s WITH Middletown, Connecticut? ||(Written May 12, Daytime. By Sundown, Another Mom Was Gone: Dead. Supplemented, Published May 18). Updates to follow, not here.

 material written by Mothers Day 2019; that’s May 12;With updates on events starting May 12, …now 7,500 words.

May 19 PAGE~~>DV LEAP’s New Website Still Derails OPEN (Uncensored) Discussion of The PROBLEM, Digging A Deeper Hole for Survivors of Abuse and Their Children (Started Jan. 27, 2018 | Publ. May 19, 2019).

(about 5,800 words)

“I had a need for this info. in a 2019 post; went looking for it, found this one still in draft, published it the next day (May 19, 2019) rather than re-post the same images.  This is a continuing theme, and it fits within my recent (May 12 – 18) posts.  In case you have some doubts when I really did start this post, I’m adding images from the page’s “revision history” at the bottom.”


May 25 Women Judges still form (funky-filing) Nonprofits to Run Fatherhood Programs | Men Judges still form Countywide DVCC’s + Obfuscate the Funding. Santa Clara County, CA (Six Years Later)

(about 10,000 words).

May 25 TAGS (This also includes some “Categories” I’d added):
Posted in (“Categories“) 1996 TANF PRWORA (cat. added 11/2011)Cast, Script, Characters, Scenery, Stage DirectionsChecking Out a Nonprofit (HowTo)DV advocacy +FR networking=More Funding for themWhere (and why) DV Prevention meets Fatherhood PromotionWho’s Who (bio snapshots)Tagged with 

May 26 What’s ARKANSAS** got to do with H.Con.Res.72? (Passed 2018, U.S. Congress Senses that State Courts Sorta Oughter Better Prioritize Child Safety in (and IMPROVE) Custody and Visitation Adjudications) (Published May 26, 2019]. ”

 ….By Day Two (especially once I got into the Urban Land Institute’s relationship to this situation) it’s … about 14,000 words, including a footnote and all image captions, all post titles, of course. (Middle character of that shortlink is a capital “O” as in Ohio)
May 26 TAGS Posted in (Categories): Business EnterpriseCast, Script, Characters, Scenery, Stage Directionsmoney launderingWho’s Who (bio snapshots)
Tagged with 
June 16

Mix’ n Match Misleading Terms: QIC, Coordinating Councils, Collaboratives and Commissions | Which Organizations Use Them | Which Parts of Government Control and/or Fund Them…(June 16, 2019)

(About 16,400 words; about ⅓  subject to “sudden post-publication re-allocation”)..

“This post [was long] in draft…from Memorial Day in late May right up to Fathers’ Day mid-June, today.  Finding a stopping point on endlessly connected issues, [including] disturbing, new-to-me examples of [an ongoing] theme, was a challenge.”

June 22 By Now We Should Know!” (Impromptu Re-cap of Key Players addressing [how to handle] Domestic Violence especially as it impacts Family Courts) (Apr 28 ~> June 22, 2019).  (now exactly 6,000 words -9NU
June 22 TAGS Tagged with  n/a
June 29 In About 2,500 Words,** Why I Still Bother… [Published June 29, 2019/#1 of 2]

**Post title originally: “In About 1,000 Words…” I had to adjust the title several times but quit, cold-turkey, before 3,000 words.

Then I <>added two image galleries with captions and connecting text and three or four more individual images ….<>expanded one of the early “**” references while copyediting for grammar, then footnoted it… <> added to the very bottom a bio blurb from one of the added image captions for a Mark Rodgers, of The Clapham Group (Charlottesville, Virginia), on the Alliance for Early Success‘s (“AES” in Kansas but legal domicile Nebraska) Board of Directors,..

which information is fascinating, I’m currently writing on because its a classic example of..

..why we all need better language and to establish the habit of identifying, digging up the financials, and comparing them to the public relations material, even when it shows up at Harvard University (https://developingchild.harvard.edu), or backed by people (with heirs) listed in Forbes if not THE richest in a state, others in the same class.

June 29 TAGS-1 Tagged with  n/a
June 29 Three Footnotes to About 2,500 Words on Why I Still Bother (to Blog). (#2 of 2,June 29, 2019)

(just over 3,000 words).

June 29 TAGS-2 Tagged with  (Should also add “American Conservative Union” (ACU) and its foundation, which are on the post, cf “The Clapham Group”)
July 1
FamilyCourtMatters.org Blog Previews, In Hindsight: Short(ish) Summaries (Collected July 1, 2019ff)I may add some “Taken From/Because” info for each, but in general the reasons are 1) No longer applicable except as a time capsule; life moves on… 2) Too damn long & 3) Embarrassing for other reasons also.  I’m also curious what this personal “Wayback Machine” process may reveal about whether my current writing is just repeating with newer examples or is covering new ground.

(This post is an experiment  | currently about 6,400 words.  I use it to extract excess explanation from other posts; each entry is dated and a Date added to the “Tags” too.  The above footprint text (inside orange border) is left at each point of extraction…The post also provides a sort of ‘Wayback” machine of summary blurbs from the blog.  Post content is still individually interesting; may feature specific organizations under research (see “Devex, Belfer Center, Abt Associates, Raytheon, etc.” in next “TAGS” row.) //LGH Aug. 5, 2019)



July 1 TAGS Tagged with 
July 9 Many of My Sidebar Widgets, Some Mostly Text, Others Mostly Links, Now Live Here! [Published July 9, 2019].. (Current wordcount, almost 12,000 words (incl. those sidebar text widget contents). -abt
July 9 TAGS Categories: BiosphereBusiness EnterpriseCast, Script, Characters, Scenery, Stage DirectionsChecking Out a Nonprofit (HowTo)money launderingOrganizations, Foundations, Associations NGO HybridsTrain-the-Trainers Technical Assistance GranteesWhere (and why) DV Prevention meets Fatherhood PromotionWho’s Who (bio snapshots)

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July 13 CENIC!! (Corporation for Education Network Initiatives in California). And National LambdaRail + the New Owner of the Los Angeles Times: My 2019 {{~~ CENIC Notes and Updates.  (about 10,600 words) -aed
July 13 TAGS Tagged with 
July 19 More, Some Earlier, Sidebar Widgets Now Live Here (+ See Related July 9 post) [This one, Published July 19, 2019]  (about 6,400 words)  -ahh
July 27 The “C” in “Comprehensive Annual Financial Report” Doesn’t Mean “For Nerds Only”! Short Pre-|Review Sampler. (Published July 27, 2019) (about 8,500 words)

(Wide-ranging: a few links to upcoming posts (re: Maryland & Connecticut), for some reason a footnote on Kentucky’s Court Systems (Divorce-Education tying in naturally to AFCC).  When I looked up the word “nerd” a reference to similarities between nerds and (symptoms of) Aspergers was mentioned (Wikipedia).  Footnote not helpful; I looked further and got, very interesting:

“Illuminating article for sure, and situation, and its formal layout (and being open-access) is definitely appreciated..” (MY comment re: the Molecular Autism article).

July 31


Acknowledgements, Executive Summary (Current Projects | Rolling Blackouts) and What Makes This Blog “What You Need to Know” (July 31, 2019).

(10,000 words.  That includes two lengthy footnotes, one of which I expect to remove to its own post.)

July 31


58 More Essays (Pages) on Essentials** of the Family Court Arena. **IMHO, as expressed 2009-2019. -ar9
Aug. 5 Table of Contents 2019, Family Court Matters’ Posts + Pages: January 1 – August 31 (so far).

(about 6,000 words)

Aug. 7 A Health System Flush With Cash — because ‘Smoking Causes Cancer’ (1998 Tobacco Class Action Litigation MSA Payments, and Tobacco-Related Taxes Impact ‘in perpetuity’ on Systems Affecting Family Courts) ((Begun Early June; Publ. Aug. 7, 2019)  Currently 5,200 words -a6m
Aug. 14  What’s happening to the Tobacco MSA Billions? From American Legacy Foundation (2002 Form 990 for EIN #911956621) to ‘Truth Initiative Foundation’ (Same Entity, New Name), Audited Financial Statements Promised but Not Produced. (Publ. Aug. 14, 2019) (about 8,855 words) -aE7
Aug. 14 TAGS Tagged with 
Aug. 16 UPDATE: Truth Initiative Financial Statements (YEJune2018) Surface Within 24 Hours of My Post Noting Their Odd Absence (This Update Publ. Aug. 16, 2019). (about 2,000 words). -aGH
Aug. 16 TAGS Tagged with 
Aug. 24 The Dangers of Derailment from “First Things First!” in Family (and Conciliation) Court Reforms to Save Children from Violent Parents (and/or Prevent or End Violence Against Women)(+/- Aug. 20, 2019)

(about 13,000 words)…

Aug. 24 TAGS [I need to add tags to this post!]
Aug. 28 MY Concerns about the July 21, 2019, Collective Memo of Concern to WHO about (‘What else?’ – parental alienation!) [Aug. 28, 2019]  (After Aug. 29 update, now still under 6,000 words.  EMERGE, Inc. LCCEWA, & more)… -aSg
Aug. 28 TAGS [I need to add tags to this post!]
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Sept. 7  Coercive Control and Co-Opted Conversations in Connecticut (Rutgers Professor Evan Stark, his wife Yale MD, Ann Flitcraft, Serial Global BIP Entrepreneur(?), Safe&Together’s David Mandel) = LGH’s FrontPage Sept. 2, 2019 Subsection #2 (about 8,000 words, revs. stll expected) -aUL
Sept. 8

“Blue jays will attack humans if they get too close to their nesting area.”

‘Cyanocitta Cristata’ | Blue Jays and Other Resourceful, Smart, Related Species and Their Habitats: (About my Gravatar Image) [‘exported’ from LGH Front Page, published Sept. 8, 2019]. (as exported under 2,500 words).

Sept. 9 ‘From The Beginning, March 2009, FCM Has Been More About This Organization Than Me’ (FrontPage Sept. 2019 Subsection #1, Published/Expanded Sept. 9). (as off-ramped, only about 1,500 words, with a mini-preview, about 2,500 words only, at the end of the day [9/9/2019] just over 6,000 words). -aUu
Sept.15 Builders and their Blueprints: Who, Really, Designed the Family Courts, How, and Since When? (“The Evidence Speaks”) [Started Aug. 17, 2019, Published Sept. 15].

(Shortlink middle character is capital “I” as in the personal pronoun or “Idaho) (ca. 8,800 words).

Sept.16 Caught! Chronically Usurping Communication btw. Government and the Governed, Pushing Back Legal Boundaries Set by Subject Matter and Geopolitical (State and National Borders), Undermining, basically, The USA [Published Sept. 16, 2019] (about 8,600 words with footnotes).  [This post names+explains basics (incl. People, Institutions, Professions, Personalities (Vocabulary, Timelines) influencing family courts’ purposes & principles] -bj4
Sept. 16 TAGS [Over one dozen tags, only added Oct. 2.  Important basic vocabulary/concepts influencing family court purposes & principles]

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Sept. 18  Health Systems Still Flushing Cash into — WHERE is it going again? (About 20 Years AFTER Tobacco Master Settlement Agreements + Other Tobacco Tax Revenues like Prop 10 in California Propping Up Public/Private “First 5” Circuitry) [May-June, 2019, Published Sept. 18].   (unbelievably) under 5,000 words!)  -aaH
Sept. 19 Families In Transition due to Parental Kidnapping |An archaeological dig on who quotes whom (Canadian CRC, Nancy Faulkner, Dorothy Huntington, ‘Parental Alienation’): [LGH Frontpage Subsection #3 Sept. 4, 2019, Published Sept. 19].

(as off-ramped, under 4,000 words written, probably between January and December 2018; with lead-in, about twice that). Some lead-in comments made earlier, some just before publishing September 19, 2019.

Sept. 19 PAGE~~>If Parental Kidnapping (Domestic or International) is ALWAYS Child Abuse, Where do the UN CRC and the Hague Convention fit in? (D. Huntington then ℅ AFCC-related* The (Judith Wallerstein) Center for the Family In Transition, M.W. Agopian, N. Faulkner (1999), Merle H. Weiner (2000, Fordham) (moved here Jan. 18, 2018, from my then-new [LGH Front] page, publ. as a page Sept. 19, 2019, See Also a new post, Sept. 21)) PAGE:


Sept. 21 “If Parental Kidnapping (Domestic or International) is ALWAYS Child Abuse, Where do the UN CRC and the Hague Convention fit in? (D. Huntington then ℅ AFCC-related* The (Judith Wallerstein) Center for the Family In Transition, M.W. Agopian, N. Faulkner (1999), Merle H. Weiner (2000, Fordham)” [Published** Sept. 21, 2019] LGH Front Page Off-Ramp Subsection #3 (under 1,000 words because exists to publish & link to two related subjects w/ some historic, some more “current events”  in both system changes & media coverage of the family court system). -b8j
Sept. 30 ‘We Must Have a Stomach for the Details and Willingness to Look at the Numbers…’ (Orig. Jan. 2018 on LGH Front Page | Updated, Supplemented & Published Sept. 30, 2019). (about 7,500 words) -aYW

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EXTRA CONTENT (excerpts) for SOME POSTS (by date):

(The occasional screenprint I felt inspired to include, by post Title/Date):

Some screen shots and at least one embedded tweet **from key posts are here below the table, labeled by post. **(I tend to attach media to my Tweets.  That media isn’t necessarily on the blog library.  Linking to the Tweet makes them easily available to click on — within Twitter).

Why:  TO FURTHER PUBLICIZE BOTH THE CONTENT and the PRINCIPLES THAT LED ME TO IT, BASIC PRINCIPLES IT ILLUSTRATES (“how things work”): The more time progresses, the more “finds” on connectivity between situations and the larger drivers of the economy (affecting family courts, of course) show up.  I worked hard on the drill-downs and summarizing them; which both the tags and the occasional screenprints added here, demonstrate.

Willingness to read tax returns I find is often a short-cut to comprehension — if you comprehend what’s on and what’s missing from, the average tax return.  Read enough of them and understand what’s also missing from most journalism (storytelling) and often even testimony before a state (or federal or other) legislature or task force, too.

Definitely a good point of reference, overall. I still hope people will read and understand — but that still comes with effort.   I am not paid for this effort.  Anyone who consistently puts this much effort in would naturally hope it benefits more than just him/herself, which is, after all, the purpose.

For March 4 post:

How 501©3 “The Next American City,” with help from at least Five BIG Foundations, lost its “American,” while Devastated Detroit’s DESIGN is Anointed by UNESCO (Written Sept. 2016, but Published Mar. 2019). (short-link ends “-4iT”)

The organization in 2005 had a $50K grant from Rockefeller Foundation, three on the board of directors, and was looking pretty broke.  Then some of the bigger-guys kicked in (I posted all their tax returns, as of that date (Post was written in 2016, see table of contents) and noticed that one condition, possibly, of receiving the extra support was dropping the name “American.”  It also moved to Philadelphia, where organizations …

…(Businesses) don’t have to file annual reports, or in fact, very often at all. As of date of that post (and tax return cited) it didn’t qualify under the 33% rule of being a charity; it had to use the 10% “Fact and Circumstances” text that it was, generally, a charitable purpose org. (See Image3)


For March 20 post

Interlocking, Dysfunctional Definitions, Cont’d: “NJII, a NJIT Company,” and (how, exactly, NJ became) “the State of Innovation.”

(from the post, I see I also had a Bit.ly link and tweeted it at the time):

Too many red flags there also, but I start below with the recent Bloomberg article. I have already Tweeted some of this () (@LetUsGetHonest, Twitter thread, March19, 2019, three tweets and one reply with attached “media” (images), and some links to more information) , but do not expect a discussion to make this post. It should be a separate post.  Feel free...to pay attention and cut through the PR to concrete, declarative statements about what is taking place among how many individuals with what collective vested interests.

Most relevant seemed to me how such a seemingly and (self-described as “SME”) small entity, only recently registered with the State of New Jersey  DOR (2012, 2016) and in two different name formats, with the latter one NEVER being referenced in print, that I could see, in association with the brand, while the NJII itself only incorporated in 2014, could suddenly have major mentors (see “name-dropping” link above), connections to Dun & Bradstreet to the point of obtaining access to a giant data platform as is described, so quickly.

Who, really, owns whom (or owes whom) in THAT situation also speaks loudly.

I’m embedding the Tweet here, too.  This also helps if some of the background or corporate law in NJ is reviewed, which the post also does, some… (Click on “Show Media” if needed to view).


FIVE ScreenPrints from the same post, March 20, 2019 (#1 from the top, #5 asks a basic question again:  Why that structure?).  I made the images “large” but you can navigate from one to the next after clicking on any single one.

Technology hint requested:  If anyone knows how to designate an intermediate size for an image gallery (WordPress allows this in normal images, but I DNK how to do it within a gallery) I will make the images smaller than “large” but larger than “medium” for easier reading.  I just don’t know the html for it; should it be expressed in % or “px” or “em” or what… Image clarity is a problem in slideshows, or I’d set them up that way..

May 6 post

More about those perspectives and key concepts (and actors). (See Also upcoming “A Closer Look At — and Alternate Interpretation of — Who’s Funding Poverty Research..)” (short-link ends “-9MU” 17,335 words.)  The next screenprint shows (WordPress-generated) three related posts; their titles reflect subject matter).  The tops look identical only because I’d posted the similar content near the top of each one…



June 16, “Mix ‘n Match Misleading Terms” post

Mix’ n Match Misleading Terms: QIC, Coordinating Councils, Collaboratives and Commissions | Which Organizations Use Them | Which Parts of Government Control and/or Fund Them…(June 16, 2019) (“-9ZS” a  very long post…)

The following screenprints show what was on my mind at this time as I did drill-down after drill-down on just one, tangled situation crossing several different states (and USA’s northern border), ℅ in part some new-age spirituality behind at least one of the off-shored entities fascinated with VERY early childhood education (public-supported of course) for absolutely everyone (at least in certain social classes…).  It tied into Harvard…and parts of it into early domestic violence organizations (etc.).

Not shown — another “Clearinghouse” from Wisconsin, ‘NCALL’ and its relationship (backing by) the Greater Milwaukee Area Community Foundation (or similar name; see bottom of that post).

One image has an inset from my sidebar (10 most recent posts) which in this context should be ignored.  It’s the surrounding text I wanted to capture for these screenprints.

To go back to the top of this post, click on its title again:

Table of Contents 2019, FamilyCourtMatters.org’s Posts + Pages: January 1 – Sept. 30 (so far).(Shortlink ends “-ayV” .  Just under 6,000 words. Posted August 5, updated Aug. 31.  This link also now shows on top right sidebar, on the “Current Posts” widget, clearly marked)

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