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Post Title ~~>FamilyCourtMatters.org Blog Previews, In Hindsight: Short(ish) Summaries (Collected July 1, 2019ff) (Shortlink ends “-adQ”).<~~

I may add some “Taken From/Because” info for each, but in general the reasons are 1) No longer applicable except as a time capsule; life moves on… 2) Too damn long & 3) Embarrassing for other reasons also.  I’m also curious what this personal “Wayback Machine” process may reveal about whether my current writing is just repeating with newer examples or is covering new ground.

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While reading this blog (in other words, elsewhere on this blog now that I’ve started this process), you may see something resembling the top few lines here (post title + purpose inside an orange border) where I removed some extra paragraphs about this blog, why I blog, or the overall situation I blog (see blog motto!) from the top of some post or page to this post. The connecting label here will be originating post title and date published. I’m also adding tags showing only the originating post’s first-published date that’ll read like this: “About My Blog | taken from 2019March24 post.”  Tags display as usual at the bottom of any post.

I already know that as a blogger I’m digging into deeper layers on various subjects and/or entities, spiraling back into them over time, or if connections surface.

I don’t want to keep re-writing, at significant effort, things I’ve forgotten because, once something is written up well enough, it’s no longer the leading edge of my focus.  The drill bit here, the edge, let’s not forget, is the inquiry itself; my curiosity and desire to know, NOT just to show, perhaps the force behind it.  Like any drill bits, focus helps efficiency. (<~~That link is to a “Wiki,” with examples).

Drill bits come in so many shapes, sizes, and materials, depending the substance to be penetrated and how fast they’re going to be spun. They also wear out at different rates depending on their composition, what they’re drilling into (i.e., which surface may be tougher) and how fast rotated (where speed generates heat). I’m no mechanical engineer

I’m saying, it’s more effective to look at certain aspects than other when trying to get through the topsoil of this whole situation involving the family courts and why families are being destroyed, not particularly helped, through them. In some ways, our own ignorance functions as a substance, an opaque mask which needs to be penetrated, aired out, and seen through; but that’s an individual responsibility.

I’m most effective when highly focused without forgetting the overall direction and roadmap, and it’d help communications if there weren’t a need to re-iterate what that roadmap is every time, or every third time, as there’s not a whole team involved here.  This post along with some others summarizing or keeping track of results as I find them (i.e., tables of contents, newly off-ramped sidebars, key posts, etc.) help me worry less about losing the chronology, better access parts of it not still residing just in my own internal “RAM” (or “cache”), etc.

They may also clear out (excess text summaries) prior drill-down sites for anyone who chooses to follow this type of inquiry and start doing (and ideally, posting, too) their own. Or even just to know the material, whether or not it’s written out, when it comes to on-line discussions with others aghast at the situation in public institutions, or what’s driving the ideology/ideologies behind them.

Is it really just beliefs, or a combination of beliefs and incentives, or mostly “incentives”?  Wouldn’t it good be to have extra information on what’s on the menu of possibilities before deciding which meal to order, I’m talking, advocacy-wise?

In another blog** I know I’ve described the business entity (ensconced within public/private financial arrangements) drill-down process as going down a rabbit hole.

[Comments inside this blue-box added July 12, remembering the context and point of reference..]  

**That blog was inspired (I began it) as a mother by a recent family outrage upon a (by then) young adult [son or daughter] and its significance in the larger context of court-connected events at the time), but in the process also deals extensively with family justice centers, who can be identified both organizationally (which parts public, which private, how they blend and where they tend to be housed — i.e., who rents to whom (Private to public, public to private, public to public, etc.) ) and who pays the staff/employees) and, if you’ve been to a few, by typical responses.  I’ve been down a lot of rabbit holes in my time, looking to nail down who or what is the involved entity, and where nonprofits or government grants (i.e., potentially from either the US DHHS or the US DOJ ℅ the Violence Against Women (&/or “Victims of Crime”) Act to address things related to things this blog deals with (the issues coursing through the program-producing/maintaining veins of family court systems throughout the country, and internationally)), which ones — and how much father-engagement/marriage-mongering is taking place in the name of domestic (or “family”) violence prevention and — oh yes, why not also some — services.

Have done more types of investigations since I wrote that blog about six years ago but its topic covers a classic example (being replicated) endorsed by former U.S. President Bush in the early 2000s. It took me a while to understand how fiscally advantageous it was (due to tax-exemption) not to mention due to public/private blending, to co-locate “fragmented” services at “One-Stop Justice Shops” funded by the public, but often controlled or administered by a private tax-exempt foundation, making sure to encourage faith-based leadership (i.e., pastors et al.) to get involved.

Not all buildings labeled “Family Justice Center” seem to be necessarily aligned with “Alliance for Hope International, Inc.” fka the “National Family Justice Center Alliance,” (EIN#113692035<~FY2017 Form 990 in San Diego; also highly active in promoting batterers’ intervention and supervised visitation, etc.  Someone ought to start a blog on this network.  I’ve not posted all I have, but called them out long ago; visible on this post and the one linked just above this text box.  An attempt was made to pass a law designating this model as THE model for co-locating DV and CA services throughout the state.  It gained support from Former President Bush.  SanDiego Union-Tribune Nov. 24, 2017, under “Watchdog” by Jeff McDonald (City Attorney just hired someone (Gael Strack) that refused to cooperate with a 2013 audit of the nonprofit.  She’ll keep both jobs while City Attorney)<~~!!!  Multiple name-changes of this filing entity and of its various “related” (or not) “Camps Hope,” i.e., let us get at those vulnerable kids (and some of their Moms) for nice vacation healing times — let us do the conference circuits and trainings; provide government grants (of course), but no (see their Form 990) we will NOT post our audited financial statements, (for the most part) file on time at the State level (as required by law) or even answer direct questions on short forms when submitting them months late — and all for a budget under $5M, involving government grants AND contracts, too..  

Other search results** show that this (Ms. Strack, along with Mr. Gwinn also likely true) double-paid professional made a career in NOT talking about things like AFCC or “Fatherhood.gov” (at least on public websites) and taking advantage of Survivors as Volunteers (“VOICES”), has been making over $100K a year for a while.  VOLUNTEERS can do something about this by insisting their supported organization file its tax returns on time, post independently audited financial statements voluntarily (Good Grief:  Are former or current victims still concerned about stalking going to want to always provide address in exchange for information?) or go find some other volunteers — and report the organization meanwhile.

City Attorney position in any distinct from District Attorneys, in charge of prosecuting crime (or, under discretionary decision-making it seems, or practical matters, not doing so). Disclaimer: I’m not a lawyer.  **(Dec. 2017 (per url) sublinked through Bio posted at Strangulation Institute, an Alliance for Hope program (see footer © detail)   // [End, comments added post-publication, on July 12].

Down those rabbit holes:  With experience, it’s less overwhelming, but what often shows up is in essence corruption and hypocrisy which leads to an increasing personal awareness of just how powerfully placed the most corrupt manifestations of overall and even individual public sectors are.

The actual harm shows up more on the surface (and often dramatically so, along with long term erosion of basic living conditions).  But below surface, it’s those previously-laid pipelines (whether electric, fiber-optic, water, plumbing & sewage, etc. — and I’m saying that metaphorically**) which show evidence of intent, planning and experienced planning at that.   The infrastructure, the design, itself isn’t “flawed,” it’s predatory.

Divisive and conflicting theories of cause are set up, disseminated, and at certain boiling points, the “resolution” committees (already prepared for this) move into “help.”  It’s disgusting in both quality and quantity.

**While some of those utilities are involved, I’m using those terms to refer to lines of communication, business entities, cross-border societies which provide expense-writeoffs for conferences to plan each new language or theory to drive government-backed commerce to (perpetrate) upon the unawares through basic judicial or other institutions

I cannot live down there mentally; I need to come up for air and food and more casual, normal human being communications.  Condensing summaries here should help my own sense of the need to keep inserting them into posts, or just re-writing which was written OK the first time, although probably in different terms.

Format here is straightforward, just be aware a new heading represents a new summary added:  Block copy & Block Paste. I’ll keep the same color scheme as originating post, and link back to it. If the  material contains new or significant subject matter I’ve also posted on elsewhere, i.e., some show & tell images or links, I’ll try to tag those topics by content.  My second entry below has some content tags already.

Either way (with or without new or significant subject matter), I’ll also tag them by date of where they came from in this format:

“About My Blog | taken from 2019March24 post”

On this post, to get to more than one summary, you must page-down past the ones on top: there are no drop-down-menus or fancy “see more at” linkages.  (If you’re a WordPress user,  so far I compose in “Classic Edit” mode not the newer “Block” mode which might facilitate this, but seems to complicate basic formatting access).I say this because browsing or skimming more than one will not be straight repetition (I’m fairly sure) and will include other material.

Thanks in advance for your time reading on such an important topic for our times, and all times: How we understand our own governments, how to put some back light on backstage operations of advocacy groups, cross-country and cross-jurisdiction database differences, and the vital importance of identifying WHO is speaking when ANY reference is cited.  

Look up those references! whether you see them as footnotes to some publication (academic or otherwise) OR in casual or credential-building reference within a paragraph in some news article.  I try to and, mostly, do!

And was it ever necessary for governments A,B,C, and/or D to make it that hard to follow the money and thus (so hard to) help put the brakes on mis-appropriation of it in the name of public services?

So far (starting list of contents), previews from posts published ~> Jan. 9, 2017# ~> March 24, 2018# ~> July 9, 2019 ~> From HOME Page (“FamilyCourtMatters.org”) removed Sept. 5, 2019, written sometime in 2018 ‘Why So Long?’ ~~>(tba with each new addition)

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Published July 9, 2019,  shortlink ending “-abt” (full title included below).

The following preview is about: 2,151 words.  There is some overlap.


Whether New to You or Just a Helpful Review, Many of My Sidebar Widgets Now Live Here

Post title:  Many of My Sidebar Widgets, Some Mostly Text, Others Mostly Links, Now Live Here! [started June 27, 2019].. (Case-sensitive short-link ends “-abt“).  This post begins with several text widgets and one links widget, and may be revised (as may that Sidebar) after first published. …



RE: The shortlink ending “-abt” whether serendipity (a happy accident) or a sign from the universe…

(Case-sensitive short-link ends “-abt,” Possibly indicating God, or the universe, or random chance, has a sense of humor.  See “Abt Associates” in HHS activities.)

Introducing “Abt (Associates), Devex, Raytheon and the massive expansion of Health and Human Services as industry developed by and for the military turned (while continuing serving those purposes) also to consumer products and bulking up the administrative (executive branch) population management sector.  This is part of U.S. history by way of a window into some of the corporations involved and what they’re up to these days.  (I have a spinoff post for Abt Associates in the works also).

…This reminded me of the consultant Abt Associates, Inc..  Throughout these (ten!) years of looking up HHS grants and grantees, time on HHS.gov websites beyond just its TAGGS.HHS.gov (Advanced Search mode) website, looking at the acquisitions history of groups like Maximus or ICF International (getting fat on federal contracts and/or grants) or reading yet another pilot program evaluation or assessment, along with names like “Mathematica, Inc.” of parenting or fatherhood interventions (federally funded), Abt Associates just kept on coming up.  I gathered they are for-profit consulting of some (or many) sorts.  Seeing this reminder, I renewed my curiosity, wrote a post (fascinating background context of historical relevance) and moved it to another post whose case-sensitive shortlink now ends in “abD” not “-abt.

I added a brief section introducing the “Abt Associates” material only for future reference to Abt, Raytheon and even yet another center at Harvard** (Harvard-Kennedy School of Government) which surfaced through that,  and in general, share the wealth. (This quick search of TAGGS for “Abt” grants (only: does not include any contracts) picked up an unrelated Tennessee Company, ‘ABT Molecular Imaging, formed only in 2006 in Tennessee (vs. Massachusetts).  ABT Molecular Imaging, which relates to DNA sequencing technology, also just filed for bankruptcy (June 2018) and was picked up by the “TeamBEST” family of companies.  Fascinating. For that company, “ABT” is an acronym, not a person’s very short last name, as with Abt Associates named after Clark C. Abt).

**”The Belfer Center for Science and International Affairs” (BelferCenter.org | oil, petrochemical, gas and now investment management family wealth) at Harvard-Kennedy School for Government (HKS.Harvard.Edu) which has many other centers named after famous people and/or their respective sponsors.  Take a look at the list (these Centers represent only those under HKS; Harvard as a whole of course has many more, one of which I’ve also been posting on because of the people, programs, and foundations involved.  Belfer is “RESEARCH, IDEAS AND LEADERSHIP FOR A MORE SECURE, PEACEFUL, WORLD.”

Below that brief section on “Abt Associates et al.” you’ll find [in the form of re-allocated content] historic, basic information about this blog’s message and my relationship to it: summaries written for readers over, mostly, the earlier years.  Unlike posts the sidebar widgets do not generate and display any date-stamp.  When added, they do not display as a link under “Archives” (neither, FYI, do “Pages” as opposed to “Posts.”). I plan to move at least one widget containing a list of links as I have more than one up there, will remove the list of “blogs I follow” which is outdated — and I don’t read their posts much, and will remove some text widgets written over the years to communicate why I kept blogging.

My reading is generated from current developments and as tied to historically active organizations or program I perceive to be impacting the “family court matters” as a field, and particularly, future safety options for women and children within it.  If you’re completely new to this blog, you may not be aware of how deeply embedded “father-friendly” as a systemic cultural and service delivery value is, and how many billion-dollar organizations (as well as formed-for-the occasion miniature, by comparison, hangers-on entities) are involved.    

Bonus Analogy Extra: The “Whale Shark & Remoras” (just two articles) mini-section.

Included for some concrete points of reference to concepts not grasped and discussed (enough) by the public, at least any public I have much access to.  

Overall concepts of this blog include numbers, time, and categories of economic activity by size and place.  By ongoing exposure, I hope to prod people’s own/individual consciences and common sense (i.e., self-respect, integrity) to admit that common court-reform, problem-analysis jargon just may not need common need.  Other more functional vocabulary exists to describe universal realities in non-religious, non-political, [and non-psychological] terms even though the practice of religion/psychology  and politics — with persuasion through combination of force and framing reality — do pervade most human life. 

I want us to see the framing and force tactics that perpetuate size differentials in countries whose governance at least implies representation and equal rights under the law.

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(Picture a large whale shark with remora fish (attached by suckers) (Nearby two images from Dive Magazine DiversUK, “Remoras: Fascinating & Disgusting,” pls. read the fine print above and below the photo from a diver who, with his diving partner Nicole, had some uncomfortably close encounters with remoras — until realizing they were in fact more interested in the nearby sewage…

More on Remoras, for a concrete analogy to the concept of an economic ocean, its currents & inhabitants (including/affecting ALL living people).

A 2011 video of a cormorant diving to get remora off a whale shark shows how much is still not known about (whale sharks).  Article, almost  1-½ yrs ago. I included here for the analogy of small to large, aerodynamic “drag,” and demonstrating that what lies below the surface unknown until it’s actually witnessed, “caught on tape,” surprising even experts, may be “life as usual” to those involved in the struggle for life (like the cormorant).  Specialized food niches and adaptations to take advantage of them.

Watch a Bold Little Bird Dive-Bomb the World’s Largest Fish: Scientists are wowed by a video of a cormorant diving underwater to snatch a remora off the side of a whale shark [[“3-minute read,” National Geographic, Jason Bittel Feb. 3, 2018

…Remoras, or suckerfish, make a living by following larger animals around and eating their scraps. Some even appear to subsist on dung. In fact, these fish have been hitchhiking on sharks, whales, turtles, and manatee relatives called dugongs for so long that they’ve evolved strong suction cups on their foreheads in place of dorsal fins. …(images) || But the cormorant video raises an interesting question: Would getting rid of a hanger-on such as a suckerfish be beneficial to the whale shark? …

Two experts (Brad Norman, Nat’l Geographic, Mark Meekhan, Australian Institute of Marine Science) differ.

Mark Meekan, a research scientist with the Australian Institute of Marine Science, says he and his colleagues have been working to quantify the amount of drag a remora adds to its host as it moves through the water, much as the shape of a car affects its aerodynamics.
One or two remora would be unlikely to slow down a 40-foot whale shark, says Meekan, but when you start adding more and more remoras, those costs can add up. Sometimes, you can see as many as a hundred or more remoras plastered to the side of one shark.
“You’ve got to consider that whale sharks live on an energetic knife-edge,” says Meekan. Every little bit of energy counts.
Norman says the opposite may also be true; remoras could also help whale sharks. After all, it’s thought that suckerfish help keep whale shark skin clean of tiny crustaceans called copepods and other parasites. || “Sometimes I think the shark actually benefits from having suckerfish on board,” he says.

Financially government economies, despite constant talk of debt and budget deficit (much l see of owned assets, and the income they produce) tend to be the larger animals and there’ sno question that specialized organizations feed off this seemingly inexhaustible revenue. In the ocean, the hangers-on may do some cleanup; they also get a free ride and (see “Dive” article) have developed a specialized sucker which is kept on by a fleshy seal and forward movement of the host (fish, turtle or whale). 

Whether it’s symbiotic or parasitic relationship in the natural world, an economic world of public services for public benefit exists, with private contractors, grantees, or service providers we should understand how it works, whether in the fatherhood, violence prevention, in a typical (especially) related fields, such as early childhood development, or in general, behavioral modification, mass public persuasion on ANY key topic, works).

As “Devex” says (see upcoming segment leading to the “Abt Associates” post) they’re just serving the international development industry they estimate to be $200 billion….  

Abt Associates, Inc. (1965ff, first in Cambridge), Social Research & Evaluation Validating the Social Science R&D ℅ (per Devex.com) that $2B Global Development Industry [Started June 25, 2019]. (Case-sensitive short-link ends.  “-abD”)

[Devex.com is a media platform for this industry; Abt Associates also has (or at one point had) advisory board member on its board].

Devex.Com self-definition of their platform referencing the market niche for the $200B industry  (viewed 6-24-2019)

Devex has offices as you can see from its “About” page, in Washington, D.C., Barcelona, Spain and in Manila, the Philippines.

Looking at the Abt Associates website, it was almost impossible to stay at the bottom of the “What we Do” list on any page to get to the bottom where — sometimes — a definition of who or what an agency or firm actually is, as opposed to how great and global it is.  I finally got one screenprint and this phrase, while no home legal domicile in the US (currently, and long-term seems to be Massachusetts; there have been some mergers with out-of-state “Abt-named” entities in recent years).

Abt Associates is an engine for social impact, harnessing the power of data and grounded insight to move people from vulnerability to security worldwide.

That it may be, however, definitions in terms of actual business registration and legal domiciles are more useful.  If an organization or company doesn’t want to cough it up voluntarily around all the advertising, it ought to also be looked up, which (in the moved post) I did, with interest).  While Abt Associates, Inc. isn’t listed on a favorite corporate history (summaries up til about the year 2000 only) website of mine, FundingUniverse.com, a well-known company founder Clark C. Abt did work for (1957-1964) right after his military service, Raytheon, (HQ Waltham, Massachusetts) does.

Raytheon (Waltham, Mass, see also Abt Associates founder (who came straight from Raytheon 1957-1964), Dr Thomas A Kennedy ~ (@2019June26; url shown on image or see Raytheon.com)

And quick search results show that in 2019 it just underwent a merger with United Technologies.  “Who We Are | Raytheon” gives the general idea!  (“67,000 employees worldwide, $27 billion sales in 2018”).  See also the “biography” pdf for its current Chairman, Dr. Thomas A. Kennedy (image of text-only, not thumbnail photo and titles, enclosed nearby), who joined the company in 1983 and has been in this position since? 2014…

IF (When?) you even think about the short version from Raytheon.com’s own company history, key truths emerge about the development of companies, technology and mass-media (to this day).

Read for example about Vannevar Bush 1890-1974 from the AHF (Atomic Heritage Foundation) (concise summary communicates well) and how this intersects with (1922) having introduced the two people who went on to form Raytheon (The Manhattan Project (development of the Atom Bomb in time for World War II), “Science the Endless Frontier,” and much more).  I see also from AHF FAQs the AHF (which I never heard of before this search) is about to close and let some partner organizations take over its material after (this month) — so you might want to check it out now. The foundation was only formed, it says, in 2002 and some of the various funders are listed. It may have been an outgrowth of another website by individual involved in The Manhattan Project who “died suddenly” in 2005.  The AHF website seems well-organized and readable, which I’d expect from scientists, if they were also involved beyond the funding…

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2017 Table of Contents Continues Themes .. & see [Tables from 2012-2016 + Other Stuff.]

For 2017 Link to this post for this year2017 Table of Contents Continues Themes From 2016. See TOC for: (1) 2017 now thru Sept. 21; (2) 2016 All; (3) Sept. 2012 – June 2014, Reverse Chrono, and (4) See Also More Info Below. (case-sensitive, WordPress-generated shortlink-ends 5qZ, first published Jan. 9, 2017, second half of post title and substantial updates added in late September, 2017).  About 9,800 words.

Because: The “Themes for 2017” was constructed in the beginning of 2018. The next summary, says the post, was written March 2018. It made sense then, but in 2019, I don’t need a 2017 blog summary on the top-most posts including Tables of Contents posts.

The following preview is about: 680 words.

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Blog Preview (Some comments added March 2018 — seven numbered paragraphs — but I may take them out later.  I’m feeling conversational today….) After that, a section (in this background-color) on my state’s (California) provider of high-speed, multi-function internet for those fortunate enough to be involved in certain types of universities or institutions within the state (and for which we all pay, indirectly through those funded institutions, increasing “membership fees/assessments”).  The times we live in….

1. This blog is not typical journalism, anecdotal reporting with references to the standard “expert,” the standard “injured parties” for a story line and some promotion of whatever advocacy group or foundation might be associated with fixing the problem.  I believe the situations we face run much deeper (and higher up the decision-making ladder), and I believe that journalism reporting symptoms, while important, is a major distraction from our [the public’s] collectively comprehending and observing over time (in transition), systems — and developing a functional vocabulary (as opposed to the one in standard use for “PR” reasons).

2. Beyond “system failures” (or successes!) of varying types, I found it necessary to start looking more at the macro level of how government and the philanthropic (nonprofit) sectors interact, and  report themselves, as contrasted (often) with what their economic footprints tell over time. In the USA, there’s a public sector, and a private sector.  The word “public” by implication means a government entity and as such, its revenues are NOT taxed, although as an employer it will pay taxes for its employees.  The word “private” means that which is NOT a government entity, for which different reporting rules apply.

3. When within the private sector there is the major tax-exempt portion, and the blending of leadership (for example, on boards of directors) or revolving doors (government service // nonprofits in sequence –or simultaneously) that action itself, given only government — not private corporations — can tax people, the power bloc is consolidated.  As typically consolidated, what next to do but talk about how to help “low-income” families or people — while taking advantage of the same through tax-exemption and — some of these foundations or nonprofits — unbelievably high salaries for some of the leadership, and major profits for the subcontractors.

4. A major difference between them is where any rights exist, and alternatives when those rights are violated.  I’ve looked at thousands of websites and organizations (and tax returns) over the years, and it doesn’t take too long to start recognizing which websites advertise big, and report small (fail to show their financials), or which may look like they’ve been around forever — but it turns out, they were incubated elsewhere, flew (sometimes “under the radar”) as far as reporting their existence through normal means, then are suddenly “spun off” as their own entities (with great graphics and colorful logos, complex websites sometimes).  Patterns emerge.

5. I told you in the blog motto, this is “Uncommon Analysis,” but it’s not “unnecessary” analysis!

6. Over the years, I would’ve appreciated more personal conversations along these lines — there have been some — but when faced whether to hang out with people who prefer anecdotal reporting with a sprinkling of “financial facts,” and those willing to look seriously evaluate where financial facts are to be found — and where they are NOT being found but should be — I’ll choose the latter, who also appear to be fewer.

7. This process is also subject to personal limits and the necessity periodically to deal with events stemming from the original matters surrounding (speaking personally) the reporting of domestic violence and seeking legal intervention to stop it. As I recall, I originally started blogging when it seemed that endless comments on others blogs buried information, delivering it in short burst only, across multiple threads.  When I found many people just re-posting others’ work which was being fed to them –and among advocacy groups for any cause, that can be risky (or, just plain distracting)….. The other thing I remember as starting it was watching websites  — and my hard-worked, researched, linked, and “public-interest” comments — go down suddenly.  The blog serves to preserve at least much of the information.


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AS SHOWN THERE: Title of this post: 2018 Blog Post and New Pages (Full List with Titles) in Standard TOC Format [provided March 24, 2019](Shortlink ends “-9y7” about 4,000 words. Also marked “sticky” until incorporated into the earlier version. It may appear either before it (which would be awkward), or below about seven other sticky posts.  WordPress makes the call on which it is.)

Blog Subtitle:  Absolutely Uncommon Analysis of Family & Conciliation Court Operations, Practices & History.

Blog Motto, other than as implied by my username, “Let’s Get Honest”: ‘A Different Kind of Attention Develops Sound Judgment’ | ‘Suppose I’m Right Here?’ (See March 23 & 5, 2014).

Blog Size and Age (numbers change regularly, but) More Than 780 posts and 56 pages of Public-Interest Investigative Blogging On These Matters Since 2009.

Average Post Size:  Short: 5,000 words.  Typical: 8-10,000 words.  Longer/Too Long, liable to get split: 10-15,000 words.

Typical Post Contents:  “Show and Tell.”  Show includes images (often annotated and captioned), quotes (cited, with links) and many internal links.  A post may take from a few days to a few weeks to complete.  My posts are not just “spouting off” but are designed for people who mostly will not know me personally to hear a perspective based on both experience and investigation which validity has little to do with my personal experience: to not be totally reliant upon my “take” or my or others hearsay (I call it “anecdotal evidence”).

Hearsay or anecdotal evidence (which most mainstream journalism on these topics also are:  essentially, story telling, with the reporters adopting a supposedly neutral stance, and processing their information into an easier read, with basic formats consistent with whoever has sponsored the journal or on-line it shows up in (whether large or small).  My goal is to put more people face-to-face with the direct evidence in a way that the pieces connect, and if that evidence (often from IRS or government sources) is sound, then arguments built from it at least CAN be.  I cannot come face-to-face with most people for personal privacy and safety reasons, but that should not mean, I cannot speak or be heard in matters which have so deeply impacted (harmed!) three generations of my family line.

Posts are sometimes written in series, so may contain references and links to others.  All this adds to the word count.

Blog Administrator/Author Viewpoint: I periodically add personal information, but for safety and overall purpose reasons, this blog is not my personal branding or story.  I write to expose and talk about major, continuing information and insight gaps not covered from specific sources, including types I looked through and/or contacted while seeking help, and sources I looked through and/or contacted when seeking answers why that help was not forthcoming

I am someone, still today, whose key point is as it all long has been, enough safety zone to maintain enough of a living to be independent from any further forms of abuse, threats of violence, and long-term, chronic oppressions, most of it labeled based on my gender, and/or marital status alone — not good enough in a country which claims to be better than that!

The information for this blog and for people in my or similar, often worse, situations (we are many!) is constantly coming from a variety of sources.  I was both encouraged and shocked.  Encouraged, at discovering what’s IN that gap which provides a rational explanation for the situation), but shocked that this situation continues today, mostly because people have been groomed not to, or innoculated against fully (or even better) processing their sources of information, paying attention, and developing sound judgment in order to protect themselves, and collectively, more of us. I want to say this again in 2019 because it is still, from what I can tell, true.

This Table of Contents represents just one year in a blog, and written as most years OF this blog, while still under significant personal duress. I’ve referenced this periodically on the blog (in fine print) and not explaining further this time.

Regarding “family court matters,” and surrounding systems, that system design though not that old, is now entrenched. It’s in a public/private vested-interests, ever-expanding-infrastructure rut; genuine efforts to redirect will address the original ruts in objective, concrete, terms and cut through propaganda presenting them as radical reform and significant improvements.   This can’t be done without identifying (naming: properly! and in objective enough terms not to be involved in guesswork) the basic system components and drivers.

Half-hearted and insincere (want to be seen as reformist, but refuse to address the operations and infrastructure, i.e., system design, and its place in the larger (government/corporate) picture are in my opinion, questionable — at best.

I had more to say, but (re)moved it for structural reasons. Expect it to show up soon under this or similar title. Whatever the title, this link (once activated) leads to it:

Some more information on the “Across-the-Pond” factor in this field was published (by me) last Oct. 22, meaning it’ll also show up in the Table of Contents with full title.  Meanwhile, check it out at http://wp.me/psBXH-8yb, or

…(full title) “ ADR Group (1993), I.D.R. Europe (1989, incl. its recent demise and sale to ADR Group), Family Mediation Council (only 2015), the Civil Mediation Council (2014), and lastly, Resolution – Family First.** (2004), all ‘Ltd.’ Basically ‘AFCC Across the Pond,’ with Significant Interpretation Help from Beta.CompaniesHouse.gov.UK) [Written Feb. 2, Published Oct. 22, 2018” You’ll see this also in the Table of Contents because it was published in 2018.

Tavistock Relationships (newest name, June 2016) started after World War II in 1948. Deep and vital role in the developmt. of methodologies and interventions that help relationships and families. Focus on applied psychoanalysis, psychiatry, psychology and anthropology in individual and family health and to understanding of organizational relationships…”

Mishcon de Reya, international law firm announces it’s entered a partnership with “therapeutic organisation” TCCR (which then changed its name to Tavistock Relationships, as opposed to “Tavistock Centre for Couple’s Relationships”).  Previously posted, as annotated here, on this blog.

I moved this material March 23, 2019, not because it wasn’t written well enough or important (I think it is, and have linked to why) but because I want to get a Table of Contents for 2018 out, which must be manually constructed, in list format, without a long intro at the top on this post. However some captioned images here leave their footprint:

To follow the money requires understanding where it comes from and goes to, which also requires a vocabulary to label destinations & conduits (means of “transport” metaphorically), more than the primarily persuasive, PR-based advertising language the profits from it.

Key to understanding, in plain English, where it “comes from and goes to” is understanding how this has been obscured from the public, and what factors continue to obscure it even further as they multiply.

That language as understood can be applied to the family court fiascoes and situations locally, and internationally, but to be effective for balancing actual (vs. purported) power, I cannot be the only one speaking in economic terms tied to identifiable truths when the topic of “reform” comes up.  “Sorry” (where it applies) that this means getting a little confrontational on prior “problemsolvers” and those who’ve assembled massive websites which texts omit, or give fractional, fine-print, and not timely, identification of key players. (One example I’m thinking of

FAMILY INITIATIVE …#10445272 formed Oct 2016) working w|the Cowans (UCBerkeley, focus “Fatherhood”) + Michael Lamb (Yale grad, psychologist at UCambridge, “The Science of Fatherhd|Fatherhood Global).. (same Michael Lamb who publ. alongside Richard Warshak)

a Florida family-lawyer driven and compiled one often quoted by protective parents, “TheLizLibrary.”  

Helpful to know, but not without the missing ingredients in their proper place.  Without them — it’s a distraction. It argues rhetoric- (Cause) language; barely touches what this blog has reported for years, and is intentionally impacting family courts from realms OUTside those courts.   

Predictable, given the source.  If I can get around to a post on this, I will, however as a battered mother seeking help and being frequently directed to this website, then later visiting it (still up, like mine, after so many years) the missing and “de-emphasized” elements are clear.  IF you make it very far in this blog, that should become obvious.

This information shouldn’t be Absolutely Uncommon this late in the game.  Think about, perhaps, why it still is.

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This is the Dates & links only (Quick-and-Dirty, Version 1) I moved here to make the post and left here as still helpful.

QUARTER 1, 2018:  Sixteen posts: Jan. 3, Jan.4, Jan.8, Jan. 27  || Feb. 4, Feb. 10, Feb. 14, Feb. 23, Feb. 27  || March 4,    __8,*     __9,*  __14,* ~|~   __18,   __23, and  __29 {{announces new page found here}} *March 8, 9, and 14 are “sticky” posts because they hold Oct, Nov. and Dec. 2017 post titles & links.  March 4 isn’t sticky, but I consider it also a key post (Bronfenbrenner Translational Center at Cornell relates to the field of child development, major overlap with custody decision-making and professionals, expert witnesses involved in the field.)

QUARTER 2, 2018: Eight posts  Apr. 6, Apr. 19* || May 2,** May 11, May 13, May 22, and May 24 || June 6 {*Apr. 19 post is “sticky” | ** This May 2 post is the top sticky post on this blog.  

QUARTER 3, 2018: Five posts  July 31, || Aug. 4, Aug. 29, Aug. 31 || Sept. 8

QUARTER 4, 2018: Eight posts.  Oct. 21, Oct. 22 || Nov. 11, Nov. 24 || Dec. 5, Dec. 7, Dec. 11,  and Dec. 25

TOTAL POSTS 2018: Only Thirty-Seven (37).


||(Front page, “FamilyCourtMatters.org” during Sept. 5, 2019 update)

…Published Jan 11, 2018, originally;  shortlink ending (Just type it in: it’s the home page!)

WHY SO LONG? I am not personally available for on-line or dynamic interactive discussion, and so am laying out what I can find leaving as few questions as possible to from where (which evidence and types/sources of data) I came to my conclusions and declarations.  I blog primarily to compensate for information that has been under-reported, strategically, over several decades regarding these systems. People that may disagree with my interpretation may wish to provide another interpretation which dismisses far less evidence and types of evidence (to support the statements), or can argue — meaning, prove, logically — that somehow it’s irrelevant.  In my opinion, arguments that dismiss the most, and sometimes biggest and longest-standing, basic evidence around should be dismissed first, after pointing out the situation and asking, first oneself then others, why would any bona fide (truly concerned) advocacy group or movement only have premises valid under conditions of significant censorship?

And why can’t (so to speak, at times it doesn’t look like a genuine “can’t” but a “don’t” which leads to other questions “why not?”) some well-connected nonprofit leaders keep their corporations registered, and while doing so, fill out a tax returns following its basic directions, most of which deal with categorizing income and expenditures, and having supporting Parts supporting the Summary Page (for example in a Form 990, that’d be Part I). And why doesn’t the federal department of Health and Human Services leadership have more problem with directing millions of dollars to such organizations, year after year (speaking of healthy marriage/responsible fatherhood, “HMRF” for short, funding).

Meanwhile, groups which on the surface, and in some of the casework would seem to be advocating “against all odds” for battered mothers NOT to lose custody of their children, in asking why it happens IN the family law system, come up with explanations which ignore the afore-mentioned federal “HMRF” funding and say it’s lack of resource for appeals AFTER they’ve lost at the trial level (when in fact, many family law cases don’t even involve trials, but instead hearings)? One FVAP — Family Violence Appellate Project(referenced, but in passing, below) was formed 2012 in Berkeley, obviously after the model of a much earlier one in (I believe it’s) the DC area, “DVLEAP, which now has a menu link called “The Problem.”

SO MANY IMAGES, SO MUCH DETAIL ON THEM… I counted the individual images in one preview at about sixty (60), and those grouped within about a half dozen multi-image “galleries”  To view images in the galleries, click on any image, then either use cursors that appear to navigate within the gallery, or where no cursors do (meaning I didn’t choose “slide-show” option), just click the image again to bring up the next one.  Some on-line news articles, or some blogs or organization websites with slideshow home page banners use this function.  For me, this simplifies the image-to-text layout process by grouping. On this blog, those images are usually not there for decoration or “general impressions,” but typically will be full of both fine-print text and numbers (although some may be just a logo or other graphic), from which to better understand a particular element I am discussing at that time.

Such numbers often represent categories of public-funded projects, with receipts for public funding we know obtained in part from taxation, service fees, registration fees, and more (court-filings for those participating:  marriage certificates, birth certificates, etc.).  This page doesn’t feature tax returns, but does show at least one organization’s summary tables, to show size — the organization, a tax-exempt private (it files Forms 990PF) family foundation named after a well-known family lawyer isn’t that large, yet it shows long-term connections to other organizations, local and international.  The table is a visual which over time on this blog compares to other similar visuals of major tax-exempt foundations influencing the legal, judicial.court, and social service systems. It also has active links to underlying tax returns, a source of much more information./////


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