Post Title:  Troubled by Trauma Today, while Debating FR Rhetoric (Published Oct. 31, 2012) Post short-link ends “-1cQ”  Wordcount, including a few tables (each word in the table counts) is just under 9,000 words.

(Adding the post title to the body of post itself, with reference to its shortlink, and a date published to the title itself are 2020 Updates.  The topic of Fathers, Inc. came up on Twitter, and I wanted to reference the posts which had already looked at this and its relationship to “Fatherhood.gov” (via drill-downs)while the address was still in NY.  It has since (see for yourself under “Contact” at Fatherhood.gov) moved to Georgia).

I also quickly added margin limits (700px) and a border and switched it to smaller (condensed) font more typical of how I’ve been blogging since blog restructuring (Jan. 2018)….  ALSO, this post (not that common) has long comment (and my response to it) by a mother (“stillhere”) who had contacted me (telephone, email); we networked over, as I recall, at least a year or more, comparing notes as she was out of state (compared to where I was).  Access or add comments at the bottom of any post…//LGH 2020May31

The conversational model of this blog has (I believe) run its course, although the relevance of the subject matter has not.

The subject matter is the constant round-tables, collaborations and strategizing (and all the involved professionals, most of them on the public payroll) on matters immediately affecting the family courts — and the family courts are full of people attempting to resolve criminal issues, in a model which frames these as relational issues.

A look at some of the largest corporations on the planet shows that these are often pharmaceutical corporations.  No wonder mental health is increasingly the paradigm, and governments are more than willing to use this framework to warehouse and silence people who shouldn’t be warehoused and silenced, while failing to incarcerate people who common sense might say, should be.  In this climate, the concept of “justice” as a fair process with checks and balances, and the courts as where this happens, is becoming obsolete.

While the conferences, institutes, initiatives, clearinghouses, “resources,” webinars and web-based toolkits; media campaigns to raise awareness of fatherlessness as a social scourge or (alternately) domestic violence as a social scourge or (alternately) child abuse as a social scourge or (alternately) too much religious influence (or, alternately not enough religious influence) in government as being a threat to individual rights or, alternately …. (get the point? if it’s ALL of the above, then there is an underlying, and larger in scope issue not identified yet).

While all this is going on — and pretty much in every single state — often in the states speaking out loudest about these issues through organizational mouthpieces — and vying for the limelight as being the most loving, the most protective, the most benefical, the most philanthropic groups around — SOMEHOW . . . . .

Women are still getting murdered by their exes, namely, by men, orphaning children into the foster care system, shortly after (or, sometimes, BEFORE) these same women seek help in the form of getting  a protection from abuse, or domestic violence (it varies in names by state)  restraining order.  While they sometimes get them through the criminal system, other times it’s through the civil system, which has increasingly become a joke.

In ADDITION, increasingly (seems to me) women who are not involved with these men — at all — but simply happen to work alongside or patronize businesses where such women work, pending or after divorce. In other words, they got up, they went out, they entered a hair salon or spa alive, and they left it in body bags, with bullet holes. Or on a guerney, to die shortly afterwards. The man was after his wife, but took out a few more females en route, sometimes a male, too.

Meanwhile, somehow, the fatherhood/marriage promotion rhetoric goes on- faithbased or unfaithbased (because of private and federal funding) unabated and as if this were NOT happening and NOT public knowledge.

In such a group I blogged yesterday, “men of faith” were called out (in another media campaign, badly distorting the context of its own theme verse) to take charge of their families as responsible fathers. But their faith institutions (presumably composed of both genders), on the other hand (in this same campaign) were exhorted to treat men better, nurture them, help their depression, participate in healing their wounds, deterring them from committing suicide, and in short be a healing balm — or forget adequate church attendance.  There is nothing more dangerous than an un-nurtured or sad male whose authority in his home has been challenged, I guess, or who doesn’t have a supportive woman in that home.

The person who started this campaign runs an unregistered (or barely registered) nonprofit at NRFC, which is not reporting ANY of its income, that I can see, and yet broadcasts the site anyhow.

Such person apparently has been a responsible fatherhood program manager within NYState ODTA (that distributes welfare funding, I gather), and cites himself as on the board of “Fathers and Families coalition of America” (another organization whose nonprofit filing I can’t find), and an ICF consultant (ICF International being an HHS grantee) and — the sky’s the limit on names one can claim and grants that flow towards the public web presence, how often supported by tax filings??? Not often enough! !!!

From the NYState Charitable Registry Search (Note:  National Fatherhood Initiative is registered in Germantown, MD but operating or collecting in NYState and registered there, as it should) we can see that SOME FR groups do post data — but Fathers, Inc. — which claims to be the contractor for the public-funded NRFC (national responsible fatherhood clearinghouse, see yesterday’s post) — does not.  Moreover, the corporate name of this group in NYS is “FATHERS” and the web-name is “Fathers Incorporated” (no comma), so good luck keeping it straight!).  After one factors out for the religious (which means, also “exempt”) organizations (not 501(c)3s in other words), still the other organizations seem to be doing a little better at giving the public a LITTLE information about their own operations here!

a few more, from NYS:

UNITED FATHERS INTERNATIONAL INC02-61-06NO DATA AVAILABLENFPMOUNT KISCONY

(someone who lives in this state might want to check some more of the “No Data” registrations, if they aren’t religious exempt and are still taking donations).

For an example of how a registered organization MIGHT look on its state site, whether or not I personally approve of this group, it does appear to be filing:

There (above) is the EIN#, there is the website.  moreover, I don’t have to go hunting or trapping to find some of its reports or tax returns.  If you look right here on the site, you can read some annual reports (audited information on where it’s money is coming from, etc.) and even an IRS return.  Contrast with the admittedly smaller (but one wouldn’t know that by looking at the website carefully) “Fathers, Inc.” grid, which givae an address, no EIN# (though there is one) and no website (though there is one)  Moreover, there should be some documents listed below — and there are NONE.  I did eventually hunt down an EIN# — through the IRS website, and then looked up the tax returns.  Basically, there’s a practically vacant one (and a fragment) for (as I recall) the year 2010 for an organization formed in 2004 and tooting its horn up and down the Eastern NY and D.C. area; book tours, speaking engagements, etc., citing executive directorship of this non-nonprofit (??) every time.  In other words, name-dropping, a lot.

This is not responsible fatherhood — it’s irresponsible allocation of public money by people who don’t seem to believe it really IS public money or feel they need to give an account of where it went TO that public!

Evening with Kenneth Braswell, Faith, Family and Fatherhood – Book Lecture / AlbanyFriday, Oct 26 7:00p at The Book Store, Albany, NY Age Suitability: None Specified Tags: social, fundraisers

Evening with Kenneth Braswell, Faith Family and Fatherhood and Birthday Celebration (50+)

Braswell is the Executive Director of Fathers Incorporated and the National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse, which supports President Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative.

In the past year Fathers Incorporated has traveled to multiple cities and conference to elevate the conversation on Responsible Fatherhood.

Earlier this year Braswell and Fathers Incorporated was invited to Mongolia to participate in an International Family Strengthening Conference. His book, “When the Tear Won’t Fall: One Man’s Journey Through the Intimate Struggles of Manhood and Fatherhood,“** and his Ties Never Broken Campaign has landed him in multiple speaking engagements around the country; including this year’s Manpower Conference hosted by Bishop T.D. Jakes.

Category: Talks & Lectures

A media group in Chicago (SMG) has signed him on as a Speakers’ Bureau.  This man with the name “fathers incorporated” has to be handling some money — in addition to the grants he handled as a public employee at ODTA for many years — so why is not Fathers INcorporated reporting it to the public, and why is not the public asking Why it isn’t?  Or does it just not matter?

Roland Warren also grew up without a father.  Therefore, no one else should, ever?

Endorsement by Roland Warren; President – National Fatherhood Initiative

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Here is a tax return (the address matches the organization):

Shows it as a professional society, youth development and “approximate date of founding 2012” although it has a single 2010 filing:

EIN:	201893855
Name:	Fathers Incorporated — Google
Location:	307a Consaul Rd Albany, NY 12205		Report Address Change
County:	Albany County
Ruling Date:	2012   (Approximate year when founded)
IRS Type:	501(c)(3) – Public charity: Religious, educational, charitable, scientific, and literary organizations…
Legal basis for public charity or private foundation status (FNDNCD):	16 – Organization income is <=1/3 investment or unrelated business and >1/3 donated or related to purpose
NTEE:	O03 – Youth Development: Professional Societies & Associations
Most recently completed fiscal year (TAXPER)	12/2011
Total Revenue	$12,400
Total Assets:	$0

(good luck finding a printed form showing even $12,400 revenue).

GUIDESTAR (another resource for looking up nonprofits) also shows it as ruling date ca. 2012, “0” income but (inexplicably) has a 2010 tax return probably obtained from the foundation center, which obtains them from the IRS:

• Original Synopsis
  Presolicitation
  Jul 13, 2011
  6:35 pm
• Changed
  Aug 09, 2011
  5:51 pm
  Solicitation
• Changed
  Aug 29, 2011
  5:55 pm
• Changed
  Sep 04, 2011
  2:46 pm
• Award
  Oct 03, 2011
  1:09 pm

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And (by typing into the general search field on USASPending.gov I found the 2011-2012 contracts for “Fathers Inc”).  Notice the extended 12-month option ($2.7 million) was signed only last month:  09-14-2012..

Transaction # 1 (Definitive Contract)
PIID/MOD: HHSP23320110020YC / 1

Transaction # 2 (Definitive Contract)
PIID/MOD: HHSP23320110020YC / 0

This includes Cost PLUS contract — so how much travel is involved and billable?  Place of performance Washington, D.C. ONLY THREE OFFERS were made for this contract. WHile the firm is tax-exempt and minority owned (obviously not woman-owned), it fits almost none of the many categories of business promotion available — (see the site, it’s a long list).

It is a HUGE red flag that this corporation getting $2+ million to run this site comes from a funky incorporation status….

Contract Information

It takes a lot of indoctrination to turn people’s heads away from the obvious — some marriages (not all, obviously) are very, very dangerous and once in them, leaving them is very, very dangerous — and women don’t always get away.   Three incidents that came up today all involved guns; two murders happened right where the women were living — and one, where the woman was working, and in that one, two others were murdered, three others (ALL female) were injured, and eventually the shooter allegedly killed himself as well.  Two appeared to be recent events, and one was a trial from a 2008 event which, when I read the background, I would have to classify as avoidable and due specifically to weak enforcement for terroristic threats.

So what, exactly, are our (women leaving violent relationships’) options then — we have to live somewhere, and ideally we should be working somewhere.   I personally believe that when children are involved, and one parent has demonstrated a pattern of serious violence and/or threats, that — given this is identified, there should be a required separation IF the non-abusive parent wants this (and isn’t being threatened to say she doesn’t) — and thus a curtailment of generation after generation of kids in foster care (because one parent murdered the other one and went to jail) etc. — might actually occur.

I will say, honestly, that I have been dealing with this issue literally, for twenty years now, since the first blows started landing, and I am not willing to “shut up or go away” about the individuals, groups, or policies that literally shut the doors to leaving violent and terrorizing relationships (which is kept shut often economically, or by controlling the children) — and the funding behind them.

No one and no society has a right to punish a person that long for having made mistake in choice of marital partner, especially after a person has done everything within (her) ability to set boundaries, stay independent, comply with the law at all points, work, and protect her own right to work without imminent threats on her life — including stalking, and ongoing contempt of court orders, met with silence by those who helped obtain them.  OR, for speaking out about it.  

It is not necessary to continue churning out marginalized populations through bad fiscal policies set at the federal level by private interests.  

And it is not acceptable to sacrifice (literally) this many individuals to ideas which don’t hold water when taken at face value.  We should not let it just “slide off our backs” when there are multi-million-dollar program setting up “technical assistance and training sites” to direct $$ traffic down these dialogue drains.

It’s dumbing down the entire culture unacceptably; it seems to me that we have allocated (governmental) “thinking,” decisionmaking, spending, and speaking, to the wrong set of individuals for too long, and for the most part, these collective networks are far more expert at expanding their reach, influence, and attracting more funding to do this every month.

I wanted to address the PEERTA network and its lack of feminist voices as a system problem.  (See example from last post).   This is the networks at work.  The gas in their tank includes money — no website host is free, no conference, speakers are paid, people earn money in this field.  I say, taxation without representation is still unacceptable.

I also have to acknowledge that people who haven’t read as much of this schlock (propaganda) as some of us have, are less disgusted by it simply because they aren’t reading the stuff.  So — as with people reporting individual abuse in the home, which can be day and night, ongoing, pervasive, and escalating — we are going to sound like we are over-reacting in speaking the truth.

Today, I got a running start by referencing another nonprofit central to the FR funding (slush funds, in my opinion) and found another trail of connections straight back to the American Humane Association’s close connection with the HHS/ACF Child Welfare systems and more “schlock” — and I admit, I reacted.

HOWEVER — Today is not just Halloween, it’s the last Day of the famous “Domestic Violence Awareness” month of October.  I call it “domestic violence industry awareness” month anymore.  It was unlikely to pass without some reference to the topic — and life has provided us with some prime examples in the form of newspaper headlines, today.

If no one besides those making a living in the fields can stand (emotionally, or timewise) to talk about these things, then i suggest the subject matter to handle is the financial reports, and cash flow — which is a great diagram and analysis of policies anyhow.  Some logical conclusions about this field and certain leading organizations in it really can be drawn — and from there, a strategy developed to counteract, as I say, the ongoing global consolidation of wealth in the name of public interest.

See Vital LInks/Info to the right.  Most of all, spare me the myths, show me the money, and let’s talk about either child support arrears compromise, lost fundings in the bermuda triangles of welare, where the real profits are going in that field (it’s into software companies, telecommunications companies, and people willing to open their loud mouths without filing corporate or tax returns — which is an indication of shell corporations and misappropriation of grants.

If grants are NOT being misappropriated, then when they are given to nonprofits, these would be posted and visible, along with the EIN#S AND DUNS#S of the federal contractors.

Our national model has assured that money goes away from people who have been silenced and who do not have related professions (in or at government influence level) that profit from talking about problems without solving them or making worse ones.

In other words, for every single one of us, the question of how to maintain food, housing, transportation, access to one’s family members (assuming one is no criminal), self-defense (from criminals — who else would one need self-defense from?), and in essence, the basics to sustain physical — and beyond that, ideally a sense of place and purpose in this world — the psychological and emotional — remains.

When there is easy pickings working for the US government in an over-promoted and under-analyzed field such as the ones springing up around how to distribute excess (supposedly) money the US Government (federal) has remarkably, accumulated, and is dispensing decade after decade – then the “Just let me work, and I’d like some privacy please” individuals are the losers.

The system is too big and too internet laced — no human being can possibly locate all the networks and conferences likely to influence their immediate future safety and well-being once they’ve had a traumatic encounter with the alien creature that our welfare system has become.  This is why I plan to transition my efforts to the ColdHardFacts blog.  The trouble is, the closer one looks — the more widespread insult to logic, intelligence, and a sense of fairness, surfaces regarding these volatiles fields of:

• Marriage
• Fatherhood
• Domestic Violence (protection from)
• Child Custody
• Rapid Revision of the Nations Courts into simply tollgates for the mental health professions
• Rapid conversion of HHS to a tollgate for the mental health professions AND the pharmaceutical professions, as enabled by collaborations with (of course) attorneys and PR Firms.

I chose to look at Fatherhood.gov in particular after noticing and posting on an organization (one of the many, many, many grantees) which it turned out, just didn’t file its tax returns right:

INSTITUTE FOR RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  
& FAMILY REVITALIZATION

3594 Hayes St. NE Ste. 102
Washington, DC 20019-7522
(202) 396-8320 Fax (202) 396-8326 

http://www.responsiblefatherhood.org/  [“Manhood Matters”]

(which website has changed since I last blogged it, apparently, and is now visually spiffed up, and directly connected again to welfare funding/training resources:  shifting graphics, nice logos, emotionally moving images of “iron men,” etc.  I do not remember this link being on it before).  It now reads:

He has become a figurehead — or at least has the endorsement of the AHA (American Humane Association) a nonprofit which deserves its own post and has been (along with Annie E. Casey Foundation) helping transform the meaning of “child protection” into “Dad addition,” period.   I looked at AHA tax returns and do not recall how much of this I blogged (herein), but did alert mothers in my on-line acquaintance to what they are doing in this matter.

Child Protection is not synonymous with Add-a-Dad and until this is understood, violence is going to increase, not decrease around the country. People need to start translating the rhetoric into organizational and economic terms;  WHAT, really, is happening?  In this case, what really is happening is someone is sponsoring a media campaign (sales, products, services) — and usually there is public and private money behind both of them.   In this climate, no non-wealthy individual (parent, specifically)  who doesn’t “get with the program” promote a program, or get under a program’s client list, is going to retain intergenerational transmission of values or wealth.

Look at this!

Ron J Clark’s article featured in American Humane Association national research journal!

Congrats to all of the new 2011 Federal Fatherhood and Healthy Marriage Grantees! (click here to find resources in your area)

(the phrase above — at least the “click here” part — leads to a printout of the grantees similar to the one I pasted on “Vital Info/Links” to the right, i.e., the 2011 ACF press release.  What’s funny is, the overall “Ron J Clark” website reads “responsiblefatherhood.org” but this link (found when I posted it here) reads