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Paying off “Coalitions Against Domestic Violence” Programs =/= Stopping DV!

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I tweet.  This post came from a recent tweet by NCADV:

NCADV ‏@NCADV

THE 30 for 30 FATHERS DAY CAMPAIGN CALL-TO-ACTION!http://conta.cc/Kg0Lxf

which leads to another fatherhood promotion: ‘CALLING ALL DADS WE WANT YOU!”

Calling all Dads out there and everywhere: Are you searching for a different and positive way to celebrate Father’s Day while supporting for the cause to end violence against women?

Keep in mind that the words “Domestic Violence” (as Family Violence, Interpersonal Partner Violence, etc.) has become an industry, funded only in part by the “VAWA” act and grants from the “Office of Violence Against Women” under the US DOJ.

  • Reminder: (USDOJ is a Department in the Executive Branch of the United States (Federal) Government; not to be confused with the JUDICIAL branch is the court system, topped by the Supreme Court.  The Executive Branch person has to win, or steal, and election every four years, and then swear an oath to preserve and protect the Constitution — before He (or even, potentially, She) can then begin issuing Executive Orders to undermine it (further).
  • At least in my parents’ lifetime, the top of the LEGISLATIVE branch was supposed to be the Constitution itself, as enacted by an elected Congress responsive to WE THE PEOPLE.  So when the words “DEPARTMENT OF” come up with the word “JUSTICE” we should remember who is its CEO, which is the current President.

In 2011 I exposed how “Family Violence Prevention Fund” had altered its vocabulary to match is FUNDERS, specifically fatherhood-obsessed ones.  Family Violence Prevent Fund — probably not because of me, but as part of the onward and upward expansion — got a $250,000 (as I recall) HHS grant for a website facelift namechange, and some more real estate in SF.  Now it’s not just stopping FAMILY violence, but has expanded (with international focus) to provide (WHO?) with “FUTURES WITHOUT VIOLENCE”  (How many futures?  Where do my offspring fit in that global  picture?).

Some may not know this, but of all the Statewide ‘COALITIONS AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE” that YOU (if you pay taxes in or to America [USA]) — statewide coalitions get HHS funding, but the overseeing umbrella one, NCADV, doesn’t get one directly — and so has become a masterful marketer and fundraiser.  SOME OF ITS FUNDING COMES FROM A % IF THE TAKE OF THE HHS-SUPPORTED MEMBERSHIP ORGANIZATIONS (STATEWIDE COALITIONS).  I posted quite a bit on one of the larger ones, “PCADV” _- Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence — over at Scranton Political Times — yesterday. Main Message Board, topic

Former Custody Master Peter Povanda loses license to drive and practice law” (I’m just chock full of information and insight over there, as well — ask the forum!) (Scroll down til you see tax returns and “PCADV”).  Context:   Barbara J. Hart (formerly of PCADV?) is now up in Maine.  It all gets various interesting, to see how the DV organization manage NOT to talk about the devastating impact of the PAS-driven family courts (unified, high-conflict or otherwise) and how they are setting up and expanding GAL (Guardian ad litem) programs which appear to be — in my opinion — in place to COVER UP, not STOP — serious and serial child molestation.  That study came from (in part) background lookups on a GAL whose fraudulent (TBA, but suspected) BILLING PRACTICES brought on a federal lawsuit (by a custody evaluator, no less) and the FBI.  We hear a grand jury is in the works, the courthouse has been raided.  Fascinating stuff — but the PCADV never ceases to amaze (me) and expand….

REGARDING NCADV, it has many graduated membership benefits and is a pretty smart fundraiser.

I have actually bought some of the (Mineral Fusion) body products which donate a portion to the NCADV.

They also run expensive conferences with even (since 2010?) a special “CUSTODY TRACK” (for extra cost) and at these conferences, various professionals can promote their wares and continue to not talk about the topics I’ve been blogging on for the past three years –and these groups should have, if they were truly concerned about violence against (women) mothers, children, fathers, and families.

I’d point readers to my comments on a fine blog by a noncustodial mother survivor of domestic violence who was homeless (through wage-garnishment) working FULL TIME middle class salary at the same time.  How did NCADV expect all us women struggling with feminist backlash in the family law venue to get down to their conference, buy their sh1t, including the ideology, and why should we be promoting it (without some commissions to help replace lost child support or wages)? ???

I tweet and caught one from NCADV recently — predictably there’s a plan to exploit Father’s Day.  (Did I miss anything much around Mother’s Day, perhaps?) :

Pixel Reveal Collage

The Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign is an innovative fundraising initiative that will raise US$1 million for Women’s Aid Organisation (WAO) Malaysia & USA’s National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV).

30 For 30 is a marathon blogging campaign that features interviews with 30 fathers from around the world about the joys of being a Dad and how Dads can help prevent and stop violence against women in positive ways. These 30 interviews will be published throughout June 2012 with one interview featured per day on The Pixel Project’s blog.

In January 2011 I posted, “what rhetoric are you?  Mother, Father, or Mediator?”  Whichever one, it’s usually about the money, and not whatever the rhetoric claims it’s about, in my opinion.
One can learn a lot looking up trademarks, when the helper organizations seem to be full of them.

U.S. TRADEMARK SEARCH FOR ‘DOMESTIC VIOLENCE”


Serial Number Reg. Number Word Mark Check Status Live/Dead
1 85551818 CADVA CARIBBEAN AMERICAN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS TARR LIVE
2 85551719 CADVA TARR LIVE
3 85416047 THEDVU TARR LIVE
4 85407790 FOLLOW YOUR HEART…AND CLOROX WILL FOLLOW YOU. HEALTH & WELLNESS HOMELESSNESS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE LEGAL GLBT ENVIRONMENT SOCIAL SERVICES ANIMALS EDUCATION MENTORING HUNGER & FOOD DISASTER RELIEF CIVIC RELIGIOUS ARTS & CULTURE CHILDREN & YOUTH TARR LIVE
5 85093104 4005066 SAFEHOME SUPPORT FOR SURVIVORS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
6 78946268 3665187 SIGHLENT STORM DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RADIO TARR LIVE
7 78647591 FROM BATTERY TO BRAVERY SUPPORTING VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR DEAD
8 78588590 SPOUSES AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR DEAD
9 78473090 CERTIFIED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SPECIALIST TARR DEAD
10 78174358 NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SHELTER TARR DEAD
11 77710592 3895929 THE LODGE CERTIFIED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CENTER TARR LIVE
12 77628255 3704527 DVCCC TARR LIVE
13 77571458 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 101 TARR DEAD
14 77556757 3626124 STEPS AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
15 77554577 3610656 ‘GENTLE’MEN AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
16 77350213 3484048 NNEDV TARR LIVE
17 77350145 3484045 NNEDV FUND TARR LIVE
18 77350141 3484044 NATIONAL NETWORK TO END DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FUND TARR LIVE
19 77350071 3484041 NATIONAL NETWORK TO END DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
20 77350057 3484040 NNEDV TARR LIVE
21 77339871 3522866 I AM MY SISTER’S KEEPER DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
22 77339797 3522865 I AM MY SISTER’S KEEPER DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
23 77172679 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – THE WAY OUT TARR DEAD
24 77076396 3367297 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SURROGATE DIALOGUE TARR LIVE
25 76649985 3514530 SPEAK OUT AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AVON FOUNDATION TARR LIVE
26 76536043 2888617 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DOES NOT RESPECT AGE TARR LIVE
27 76531244 2839979 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DOES NOT RESPECT AGE TARR LIVE
28 76381493 2730895 CENTER AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
29 76337658 BREAK THE SILENCE ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR DEAD
30 76270967 2634625 EMPLOYERS AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
31 76191622 2679785 NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE TARR LIVE
32 76080376 2618731 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS NOT KOSHER TARR DEAD
33 76073962 THE INTERNET COMPANY PROVIDING SOLUTIONS TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR DEAD
34 75679357 2554186 CERTIFIED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE COUNSELOR TARR LIVE
35 75792998 MEN AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR DEAD
36 75491821 2313324 PROVIDING A FOUNDATION OF HOPE FOR VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR DEAD
37 75463916 2282267 THE PARTNERSHIP AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR DEAD
38 75463898 2286818 THE PARTNERSHIP AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR LIVE
39 75463056 2366864 SAFE PLACE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & SEXUAL ASSAULT SURVIVAL CENTER TARR DEAD
40 75279065 2142801 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ANONYMOUS TARR DEAD
41 75138617 2129954 STAMP OUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TARR DEAD

Funny how trademarks are — like people who’ve been subject to “domestic violence” — in one of two categories:  LIVE or DEAD.
Almost anyone or any corp. can get in the game (maybe I should!).  Trademark for #4, above is registered to the Clorox Company:  “Follow Your Heart, and Clorox will Follow You” and only started in Aug. 2011:
Mark Image
In a trademark registration, the “G&S” (goods and services) section tells you what it actually represents (is selling):
HEALTH & WELLNESS HOMELESSNESS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE LEGAL GLBT ENVIRONMENT SOCIAL SERVICES ANIMALS EDUCATION MENTORING HUNGER & FOOD DISASTER RELIEF CIVIC RELIGIOUS ARTS & CULTURE CHILDREN & YOUTH
Goods and Services IC 035. US 100 101 102. G & S: Charitable fundraising services, namely, providing individuals with the information by which to choose charitable organizations and make personal contributions to charity
#11 above is owned by a shelter in Chester, PA (probably funded by PCADV, but I’m not checking just now):  their trademark:
Mark ImageG&S:  PROMOTING PUBLIC AWARENESS FOR THE NEED TO PREVENT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ASSIST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS. FIRST USE: 20080900. FIRST USE IN COMMERCE: 20080900G
Registration Date November 3, 2009
Owner (REGISTRANT) Domestic Violence Center of Chester County non-profit organization PENNSYLVANIA P.O. Box 832 West Chester PENNSYLVANIA 193810832
The “National Domestic Violence Hotline” dating to 1996 (and heavily HHS funded) is owned by a nonprofit in Texas, “The Texas Council on Domestic Violence, Inc.”  etc.  Probably the graphic/words below is also trademarked.
Texas Council on Family Violence
They are going to hold conferences, yes?  here’s one:  a 2012 Statewide COnference.  Naturally, they are going to bring in someone from Minnesota (I think TX and MN must be sister-states — see my 1/2011 post on “Happy New Year…what rhetoric are you?” which probably points up Michael Hayes (OAG TX/Child support office) running north to a Fatherhood Summit in MN at the time.)
WOW — that sounds real official — they must really be helping women survive DV and stopping men from battering!
Well, the first Two speakers there show their affiliations and a description of what this council does shows, they are pretty much in all the same business — and NONE of this business involves Stopping the Family Law system from transferring custody of a minor child to his/her/ (their) abusing them and/or battering their Mom   . . . ..  Father, so at least mothers can exit violent relationships without having to commit human sacrifice of their offspring, which last I heard was an allegedly pagan practice that developed nations would find abhorrent (not including sending off youth to wars…).
THAT field was left open, which is where the groups with names referring to the crisis in the Courts, Our Broken Family Courts (conference funded by a powerful and extremely wealthy & influential Nicolas Cummings family whose goal includings mainstreaming psychological intervention to primary healthcare, and donated to set up Ph.D. programs for psychologists, claimed to have trained half the psychologists in California.  See my other blog The Family Court Franchise System, search for the post….)  OR names like “PROTECTIVE PARENTS’ or “BATTERED MOTHERS” etc.  In other words, there was an open market niche, which is being filled as we speak, and do not think for a MOMENT that these groups (or at least some of them) are lusting after the federal grants stream and their day in the sun also.  WILL THEY BLOG AFCC/CRC/NACC?  …. Maybe, I know I’ve helped (with a few others) force their hand — but it will be a censored and possibly garbled version of the truth.

(NOTICE THE MULTIPLE AFFILIATIONS.  MELISSA SCAIA also Associated with or trained by the DAIP, below) (i may have posted earlier on the org.)

Pre-Conference Institute Speakers (my comments in {{ }} or (( ))s )

Melissa Scaia,
MPA, Advocates for Family Peace, Grand Rapids, MN

Melissa Scaia is the executive director of Advocates for Family Peace (AFFP), a six-program agency that provides services to families experiencing domestic violence and child abuse in Itasca County, Minnesota.  As the executive director of AFFP she provides leadership to the organization, coordinates the Itasca County Coordinated Community Response (CCR) to domestic violence, . . .

(an Ellen Pence idea, we hear….)

co-facilitates a group with men who batter, and co-facilitates a group with women who have used violence.  She provides training and technical assistance as a consultant for Praxis International and serves as a faculty member for the Family Violence Department for the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges.

{{This may explain why the NCJFCJ has no real interest in hearing about who their own system of judges is helping exacerbate post-DV familicides and help send families bankrupt or traffick kids through the courts, etc.}}

She has also conducted trainings for the Battered Women’s Justice Project, Duluth Domestic Abuse Intervention Program (BWJP comes under DAIP), and the National Network to End Domestic Violence.  (SEE TRADEMARKS ABOVE).

She has testified as an expert witness on domestic violence in criminal court cases.

She wrote her master’s thesis on the effects of domestic violence on children and wrote her doctoral dissertation proposal to address supervised visitation services for battered women.

??? ???  I think she meant, for batterers — was this a Freudian slip?  Because increasingly it’s the mothers who are being forced to pay the courts to see children who’ve been removed from them and placed with the batterers!   IF YOU CLICK ON MY GRAVATAR, ABOVE, jack stratton, Ph.D., says it well — however note the heading:  He said it at a Duluth Abuse Intervention Program conference….

Just a reminder of some of the moulah behind this, per TAGGS alone (doesn’t include any justice department grants):

Recipient Name City State ZIP Code County DUNS Number Sum of Awards
MINNESOTA PROGRAM DEVELOPMENT, INC  DULUTH MN 55802-2152 ST. LOUIS 193187069 $ 19,901,530

of which the 2010-2011 gives a clue:

FY Award Number Award Title Budget Year of Support Award Code Agency Action Issue Date DUNS Number Amount This Action
2011 90EV0416  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION AND SERVICES 1 0 ACF 09-17-2011 193187069 $ 1,000,000 
Fiscal Year 2011 Total: $ 1,000,000
FY Award Number Award Title Budget Year of Support Award Code Agency Action Issue Date DUNS Number Amount This Action
2010 90EV0375  FOUR SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION & TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE 5 0 ACF 09-15-2010 193187069 $ 1,178,812 
Fiscal Year 2010 Total: $ 1,178,812

Ellen Pence and Casey Gwinn — Will the real Minnesota Program Development Inc. please stand up? (=one of my posts)

She has contributed to numerous publications related to supervised visitation and domestic violence.  She recently co-wrote a curriculum and DVD for working with men who batter as fathers entitled, “Addressing Fatherhood with Men Who Batter”.  She recently partnered in completing a curriculum with Ellen Pence, PhD and Laura Connelly entitled, “Turning Points:  A Nonviolence Curriculum for Women.”  She has also participated in numerous roundtable advisory discussion groups for the Office on Violence Against Women through the National Judicial Institute on Domestic Violence related to: differentiating types of domestic violence, custody, and batterers intervention programs.  Recently, she attended a United Nations Expert Meeting on Domestic Violence in Almaty, Kazakhstan as a US representative on Coordinated Community Response to domestic violence.  Outside of her work she is a wife, mother of two young children involved in hockey and figure skating, a local school advisory board member to her children’s elementary school and a former United States Figure Skating Association instructor.

Scott Miller,
Domestic Abuse Intervention Program, Duluth, MN

Scott Miller has worked for the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project since 2000.  As the Team Leader for the DAIP, Scott coordinates Duluth’s Coordinated Community Response to domestic violence.  Serving as both system advocate and coordinator of the men’s nonviolence program, he is instrumental in the evolving work being done in Duluth.  Scott trains nationally and internationally on the components of the Duluth Model of intervention and helps develop new resource materials and curricula for use in communities working to end violence against women.  Scott has also co-authored the new DAIP men’s nonviolence curriculum Creating a Process of Change for Men Who Batter.


~ ~ ~ They believe in their product (BIP, Supervised Visitation) and that TRAINING EVERYONE (and a “Coordinated Community Response”) will work.  Personally, I wish that there had been NO diversions of TANF/OCSE to support my ex-batterer; he was already entitled enough twhen I left him.  I cannot think of a more STUPID invention than “supervised visitation” and the fact that a TODDLER got raped in one in Trumbull County, Ohio recently, or that providers have been caught in grand larceny, etc. (Viola Stroud, Dutchess County?, NY, Genia Shockome case) should’ve caused the leadership to reconsider.
Here’s what the TEXAS COUNCIL on FAMILY VIOLENCE says it is, and what it does.  Who am I to withstand such force, funding, and coalitioned expertise?

What is the Texas Council on Family Violence?

As one of the largest domestic violence coalitions in the nation, TCFV’s membership is comprised of family violence service providers, supportive organizations, survivors of domestic violence, businesses and professionals, communities of faith and other concerned citizens.  As a membership-focused organization, TCFV is firmly committed to serving its members, communities in Texas and thousands of victims of domestic violence and their families.

Yeah, while there is a “Community of Faith” (Calvary Open Bible church) being SUED by six sisters in California, as we speak — for their pastor’s and CPS’ complicity in covering up YEARS of sexual molestation of these children (starting when they were toddlers) up through — for some of them — their twenties.  At least two of their sisters “told all” to a pastor in 1995, and in 2002 — and when the pastor tipped off the father that CPS was coming, they endured 16 days of torture before the visit.  No one talked to them without a parent present (gripping their hand). . . . . . Afterwards their Dad (like my ex-batterer father who skipped out on thousands of $$ of child support by stealing our kids, then later abandoning him.  So much for these programs helping INcrease “responsible fatherhood” at least in his case! )) — laughing, knew he was home free, and rented an apartment next door or nearby.  There, allegedly (according to this article) — the mother / wife (FAMILIES being the FOUNDATION of this nation, right, according to federal policy!!) — picked one girl at a time to go to Daddy and get raped.  Did I mention nieces also?

See yesterday’s blog.

I FLED a religious-based abusive marriage, and found NO help intervening at ANY point in time from ANY pastor over a seven-year period. I know other women and have spoken to women since, one of who escaped (fled) such a situation (not sexual abuse, but family abuse) in an Orthodox (I believe it was Greek or Armenian) family.  She married an atheist and looked very happy and settled when I met her.

FAMILIES are control systems, as are FAITH COMMUNITIES.   You cannot with as religiously zealous a “theology” such as Coordinated Community Response or writing curriculum after curriculum produce a lasting, non-brainwashed character change.  The best kind of character changes are those provoked from the inside in response to circumstances, including actual consequences for committing crimes.

These two words should NEVER inhabit the same physical — or ideological — space:  “FATHERHOOD” . . . and “MEN WHO BATTER.”  Men who batter can stop being fathers immediately, sending a message to future men who batter that these two activities will NOT co-exist peacefully!  Til then, transferring wealth to service providers will be only that — transferring wealth to service providers.

Which is fine — IF it’s not public money! Hey, a sale is a sale, but taking public money through income tax and redistributing it to stuff like this is wrong!   Look what this one does, which may explain why all the beautiful websites, conferences, affiliations and in short, things no mother is likely to have until this crowd gets “real” about the family court fiascos, which follow DV anyhow…..

TCFV’s three major focus areas are:

Support to Service Providers: TCFV educates and trains victim advocates, criminal justice personnel, health care providers, faith communities, businesses, advocacy organizations, service providers and allied professionals in communities throughout Texas and the nation.

Public Policy Development: The TCFV Public Policy Team strives to serve as a unified voice before the Texas Legislature on behalf of domestic violence victims by supporting the drafting and passage of laws that will assist victims and survivors.

Prevention: The TCFV Prevention Team supports the prevention efforts of local programs across the state and works to create an environment in Texas in which all can work collaboratively to stop domestic violence once and for all.

If it’s once and for all, why does the curricula read things like ADDRESSING FATHERHOOD with MEN WHO BATTER, both of which (present tense verb:  “men who batter” and “addressING fatherhood”) indicate a continuous, ongoing situation with no end in sight?
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May 21, 2012 at 8:06 pm

Things that Don’t Compute: DV Sensitivity Training for Faith-Based Organizations…. SERIOUSLY??

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PART I – Six Sisters Sue, including their former Pastor

Am I supposed to “take it on faith” that major DV organizations care who lives, who dies, and which children are being molested by their own,while their church-going parents know damn well that no one’s going to report, as mandated.

More than the care about their program funding and absolutely fantastic websites . . . .

MEANWHILE:   Look at this article by Malaika Fraley of the Contra Costa Times:

By Malaika Fraley
Contra Costa Times
© Copyright 2012, Bay Area News Group

Posted:   05/16/2012 10:16:47 AM PDT

News for six sisters sue antioch cps


ABC30.com
  1. Antioch sisters suing for missed chances to stop years of sexual abuse

    San Jose Mercury News‎ – 4 days ago
    Ranging in age from 9 to 16, six sisters had been sexually abused by  Child Protective Services went to the Dutro sisters’ Antioch home Aug.

    ANTIOCH — Ranging in age from 9 to 16, six sisters had been sexually abused by their parents virtually every day since they were toddlers before finding hope in 1995 that their nightmare would end.

    Instead, they say, it grew more horrific as the people they counted on to rescue them — police, child-welfare workers, their church pastor — failed to deliver.

    A year after their parents were imprisoned for sex crimes spanning 20 years, the Dutro sisters — Glenda Stripes, Amber and Sarah Dutro, Martha McKnelly, Frances Smith and Christina Moore — are now suing the people and agencies they say failed to protect them as children by not following laws and procedures for handling child abuse.

    Child Protective Services went to the Dutro sisters’ Antioch home Aug. 18, 1995, after police had garnered two confessions from their pedophile father because 14-year-old Glenda had disclosed to a church pastor that she was being molested. Had they been given a moment alone with social workers, the sisters say, they would have told them they had been tortured for 16 days in preparation of the CPS visit, after the pastor had tipped off their parents days before calling police.

    But CPS, like police, never talked to them apart from their parents, and a light punishment for their rapist father only exacerbated their hellish existence.

    1995.   SEVEN YEARS LATER, in 2002, SARAH Dutro (then a teen) gives the pastor a full history of abuse, trying to spare others:

    The lawsuit, filed in Contra Costa Superior Court last week against Contra Costa County, city of Antioch, Calvary Open Bible Church in Antioch, and seven individuals who are either current or former CPS, police department or church employees. It alleges the defendants were negligent and failed to fulfill state-mandated duties that, if done, would have spared the Dutro children years of further abuse.

    One defendant, Calvary pastor Anthony Lee, is named for not contacting police or CPS when a teenage Sarah Dutro gave him a full history of the abuse in 2002 in an effort to stop her mother, Glenda Lea Dutro, the church’s youth adviser before her arrest, from hosting sleepover parties for children from the congregation at the Dutro house.

    Bruce Dutro was the primary sexual abuser, while Glenda Lea Dutro facilitated the crimes, often handpicking children for her husband. Both parents physically, psychologically and verbally abused and neglected the children, two of whom are biological nieces that the Dutros obtained legal guardianship of and raised as their daughters from ages 3 years and 18 months.

A THIRD time, the girls spoke up, this time to protect young children from Mexico.  FYI — a lot of evangelical protestant churches in California (I can’t speak for Catholics) seem to love to head down to Mexico for missionary work.   Supposedly:

For some of them, the sexual abuse lasted into their early 20s.

The parents were arrested in 2009 after an eight-month investigation launched by Antioch police after the sisters came to the department for the third time. The sisters said they were hesitant, having been burned by authority figures before, but anxious that their parents were working with the church to adopt a family with small children from Mexico.

Deputy district attorney Graves and Antioch police Officer Blair Benzler restored their faith in the criminal justice system by getting the 2011 conviction

Let’s go over this again.  The first reporting was 1995.  The conviction was 2011.   Let’s call that one full generation of nonresponse…

I think many women who have been to domestic violence support groups will verify with me that there are loads of Christian women in there, and some of them married to a pastor or a prominent deacon.   I am a Christian, but as a result of what I also have seen as to “coverups” I will not attend. Why should I support such an institution, whether it’s Opus Dei related or similar to this crap, above.  There IS NO EXCUSE, and this is a hallmark of such groups — their mandated reporters, for the most part, don’t.  I was being assaulted in the home in the 1990s, and sought help from plenty of pastors (not only them, but they knew).  This is what happens:  some churches are taught to imitate their leaders.  So there’s a collective silence.

Then, here comes the narcissistic domestic violence agencies and — because they’re into technical assistance and training, and are authorities, “surely” the leadership in the faith communities will respond to their really cool sensitivity trainings, and start sticking up for women.     Actually, if the faith community never does respond, it hardly matters — because the primary activity (other than helping run shelters) these groups are into is training and publicizing.  So long as that can continue, who cares if the agenda isn’t working, and is guaranteed NOT to work?

Do they seriously think none of the faith authorities read a tax return, program goal?  For example, when PCADV’s reads:

(TAX RETURN 2009) purpose:  (#3) “To expose the roots of domestic violence in the institutionalized subservience of women in this culture.

. . .that the Bible-toting evangelical communities (some of who are also in on the faith and fatherhood grants streams) are going to buy that line of thinking?  There are still plenty of groups around who don’t let women speak from the pulpit, and are actively coaching men in how to control their women.  And they aren’t going to go “feminazi” talk especially when it comes to LGBT matters?   Even the book of Genesis is pretty clear (let alone of how it’s further bastardized in practice and preaching) – the trouble with Eve was her independence from her husband, and conversing with ‘the serpent.’

excerpt, talking about “Emotional Abuse.”

✔controlling and/or limiting her behavior (e.g., keeping her from using the phone or seeing friends, not letting her leave the room or the house, following her and monitoring/limiting her phone conversations, checking mileage on her car, or keeping her from reading material, activities and places that he does not approve of)

✔ interrupting her while she is eating, forcing her to stay awake or waking her up

✔ blaming her for everything that goes wrong

ALL of these (and a lot more) were routine in my years of marriage, and going too far afield DID result in retaliation when I got home.  He also retaliated upon the children in attempt to sabotage some of my work relationships by simply not showing up in time to watch them when it was known I had to go, not enough gas in the car to get back home from the event,  sleep deprivation or interruptions (to be shouted at, or lectured), or trashing the house while I was out.

A leopard doesn’t change his spots through sitting through classes, before or afterwards, and GRRrrrreat way to continue control post-domestic violence is for the courts to order joint legal and/or joint physical custody.   This basically means people can’t get away.  

Someone has to TRULY not understand the religious minds in what’s going on (talking, USA, today) to believe that this stuff would change a pastor’s attitude, or a church’s.  For example — do we not yet understand how the Unification Church has been pushing “True Parents” and the healthy marriage/fatherhood programming, or politically how much Sun Myung Moon’s funding of the far right (meaning, conservative religion) is going on?  Have we not read anything by Jeff Sharlett (“The Family” re: the Bushes) The Dominionists, I mean, even some mainstream are starting to catch the drift, here  http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2011/08/14/dominionism-michele-bachmann-and-rick-perry-s-dangerous-religious-bond.html; I’m not sure I’d agree with that’s where it comes from, alone (referring to the 1960s and Rushdoony.  It’s been around before.  Like, say, “A.D. 381” or earlier….}}

Meanwhile, the theory that people can be trained out of bad behavior by enlightened education — and not something like, for example, if it’s a church that has been complicit in covering up child abuse, domestic violence, etc. — the pastor’s out and the church loses it’s nonprofit status pretty quickly if that pastor AIN’T out.  They fire pastors for less than this, so it shouldn’t be  a hard concept to grasp if it’s presented with teeth not just “T&A” or rather “technical assistance and training.”

I hope these sisters win every dime they’re entitled to and that the public gets so sick of paying settlements for failures of their own officials that they decide to take a stand voluntarily against child abuse right where it counts– and that includes in the churches.   I’m saying this as a woman who reported to immediate family first (who were worse than useless initially), and my own pastor at the time, weeks later after another, similar, only worse incident occurred.  Both were in my home.  Both were with a toddler in the home at the time, a close witness, and both were while I was pregnant and involved me being thrown to the floor, straddled, slapped repeatedly IN THE FACE while being shouted at by this guy.

It got worse from there . . .. And as I have daughters, I am also seriously concerned (as we speak) about my own family member’s obsession with them, and manic need to keep me from having a real relationship with my own kids.  It’s known that there is incest in an involved family line (actually ,two involved family lines) as well, although it was not an allegation in our family law case.

Some churches may be decent, but many are hellish, and I mean that in the truest sense of the words.  Like batterers, they don’t come out drooling and spitting, but smooth and empathetic many times. On the inside, it’s pretty much like Jesus said — whited sepulchers.  And maybe for some, ignorantly. . . . . .    Let’s put it this way — what those sisters said is entirely credible (as a possibility) based on my own awareness of this situation, and my own case history.  I know how it goes.

Just a reminder — the Jaycee Dugard case also came from the same town, Antioch.  

 

Malaika Fraley and the Contra Costa times should be commended for this reporting.  I intend to follow up when I’m less deeply affected by it, which doesn’t make for very good writing, here.

 

PART II

Over at Scranton Political Times recently, as more evidence that a GAL is recommending custody of little children be switched to fathers who injure mothers, or later get convicted of raping other minors, I have some more commentary — from today.  Others (who live in the area) have said that a recent man arrested for raping a teenager over many years, also had his own custody case involving both DV and child abuse; he got custody.  Search “Tunkhannock” or “Maurice Hunting” on the site, it’ll show up.  Meanwhile, I’m talking about Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence and one of their subgrantees (who is in Scranton), the “Women’s Resource Center” — below.  Hopefullly there’s enough to chew on.  I discuss the HHS grants some as well (easier to view on the forum than below):  Notice all the earmarks:

http://scrantonpoliticaltimes.activeboard.com/f319624/main-message-board/

 dare you to scrutinize these grants:

Recipient Name City State ZIP Code County DUNS Number Sum of Awards
PENNSYLVANIA COALITION AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE  HARRISBURG PA 17112-2669 DAUPHIN 156527558 $ 40,196,794
PENNSYLVANIA COALITION AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE  HARRISBURG PA 17112-2669 DAUPHIN 166527558 $ 945,000

Like, grant 90XP0223 ($85K in 2008, $297K total, congressional earmark)

a training, education, and prevention institute on domestic violence and homicide prevention”

from “Washington Watch

Prevention, Education and Training Institute Project
$250,000

Sen. Robert P., Jr. Casey (PA) requests $250,000 for:
Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence (PCADV)
Harrisburg, PA

“For the first time, USReps are required to publish their requested earmarks ONline”  Rep Holden D-17 requested $377 for this:

PRESS RELEASE on creating this institute, with Case & Specter

A big one is the “National Resource Center on DV” (marked “Discretionary” — most are).     $8 million over 5 years (HHS)

Since 2005:

Award Number: 90EV0353
Award Title: DEMO PROJECT FOR ENHANCING SERVICES FOR CHILDREN EXPOSED TO DV **
OPDIV: ADMINISTRATION FOR CHILDREN AND FAMILIES (ACF)
Organization: FAMILY AND YOUTH SERVICES BUREAU (FYSB)
Award Class: DISCRETIONARY   ($350K so far)

**popular now, why not expand (note:  how could Penn State Univ have ever happened, Sandusky, with this giant communicator & trainer, PCADV in the same state, Harrisburg?)

They already have a “National Resource Center” which is primarily on-line links to publications (as far as I can tell).  But why stop a good thing?  So here’s $750K or so more, do start up another one:

Award Number: U1VCE324010
Award Title: NATIONAL ON-LINE RESOURCE CENTER FOR VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN
OPDIV: CENTERS FOR DISEASE CONTROL AND PREVENTION (CDC)
Organization: NATIONAL CENTER FOR INJURY PREVENTION AND CONTROL (NCIPC)
Award Class: COOPERATIVE AGREEMENT

( $728K since 2007, small so far).

Goal of the National Resource Center (since 1994):

“To change belief systems and practices that support violence and abuse that disproportionately affects women, and other marginalized people, the DVAP recognizes and promotes the participation of the entire community in building social intolerance towards domestic violence…”

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence

Flowchart — interesting:

FlowChart.jpg

Here’s a profile from a group that tracks nonprofit salaries, revenues, etc (EERI), up through 2004.   Its contributions and its revenues are about equal (??), and ca. $26 million (see bar chart).  SO WHAT IS IT SELLING?

TAX RETURN 2009 shows one of its purposes  (#3) “To expose the roots of domestic violence in the institutionalized subservience of women in this culture.

Who Messed with my Message? DNK, but here’s the rest of it…

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Huffington Post does moderate its comments and has been caught censoring some from protective mothers (long ago, it was circulated).  I was responding to Ms. Stevenson’s commentary on recent legislation affecting the Americans with Disability Act (2008 revs, which clarified it after previous interpretations so narrowed the act as to exclude many disabled, including the war-disabled by PTSD).

I quoted a piece from Courthouse News (12/2011) which predated some MSM commentary on the Pentagon misdiagnosing veterans with PTSD to avoid paying for help.  Thanks a lot, they just survived a warzone and are coming back messed up, but that being messed up wasn’t from war, it was really just a “personality disorder.”

For anyone who’s come out of abuse (the frying pan) and landed in a custody contest (the fire), this sounds REAL familiar.  Hopefully my blog here is “off-road” enough no key-logger or anyother stranger will feel the need to play games with it while I put out this message, again, continued from comments section at Huffington Post, re:  Corporate Lobbyists waging war on the Disabled

“Comment continued @ blog (http://wp.me/psBXH-14M) I think this is vital information”

(see last post).  I was adding a comment to direct to here, and while typing, half the post disappeared (without keyboard contact on my part.  That’s PROBABLY what I get for comparing war to domestic violence, and the Pentagon’s handling of vets to the family law systems’ handling of “DV-Vets,” and following up with a recommendation we get the next President to RESCIND the faith-based Executive Orders from 1/29/2001 (first two issued by George Bush in a  possibly stolen election) and then posting how six sisters in California are suing CPS and the church which covered up YEARS of sexual abuse by their biological parents.

Some of us have been in this “reporting coverup of abuse by major US institutions” long enough that the hacking thing just happens, and it happens in reference (apparently) to specific topics  I also note that the US DODNetwork has been on my site a little more than I’m comfortable with.

The top half was deleted, but there’s the conclusion I come to.  Really, the problem is that U.S. Citizens have tolerated too much institutional abuse already, starting with the income tax and private banking, proceeding quickly to destroying the currency and forbidding people to accumulate private gold for (decades), and so forth.  Basically wars are about Private Greed anyhow (see the book of James for some pontification (:   on that).

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1A. The Pentagon tried to dump its responsibility to its own vets on others by misdiagnosing PTSD as nonreimbursable PD (personality disorder), meaning someone else has to pay, or they can just stay injured. It did this to over 22,000 vets since 2001…

2A. The family law system (Conciliation Courts) tries to dump its responsibility to citizens on the public at large by habitually misdiagnosing individual crimes (domestic violence, child abuse, stalking, kidnapping, etc.) as relationship, family matters, meaning someone else has to pay, or they can just stay injured. Since at least the mid-1990s it has this down to a system and is spitting out situations that involve crime scene cleanups.

2B. On 1/29/2001, GWBush issued his first two executive orders (http://tinyurl.com/6oozeww, & http://tinyurl.com/7e2dqss) = (yet) more faith-based involvement in: DOE, DOL, HHS & HUD. These were Presidential orders and had to be followed; they also need to be rescinded! Why? See “six sisters sue state officials for missing sex abuse.” http://tinyurl.com/7w93o92

Response to Huffington Post Blog “Corporate Lobbyists..Discriminate Against the Disabled” (Anne Stevenson)

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Here’s the article:

Anne StevensonAnne Stevenson

Corporate Lobbyists Discriminate, Declare War on Disabled (Show This to Your Legislator)

Posted: 04/30/2012 12:15 pm

As millions of disabled vets return home from ‘Gulf War II,’ corporate lobbyists and their legislative henchmen have declared waragainst the disabled. Suddenly, it’s OK for legislators to portray disabled citizens who seek equal access to education, employment, programs, and services as whores, parasites, or leaches. Calls to minimize society’s investments in the contributions of disabled citizens are everywhere. Citing the cost of trivial compliance measures, some pro-corporate legislators recently called for legislation scaling back the Americans with Disabilities Act Amendments of 2008 (ADAAA). The Equal Employment Opportunities Commission (EEOC) has repeatedly rejected the call from disability advocates for public input on new regulations and instead held secret meetings this week to revise its guidelines.  . . .

And, towards the end, she hits an area that hits close to home, as she again cites Disabled Vets and the invisible (at first) PTSD

To really understand why the ADAAA is necessary, one needs to understand how Senator Dutton’s proposed legislation will harm the disabled. Let’s be clear that Senator Dutton’s proposed reforms will exclude millions of disabled veterans, especially those who suffer from invisible impairments such as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Traumatic Brain Injuries (TBI.) The Bureau of Labor Statisticsreports that a staggering 29.1 percent unemployment rate for young veterans under 25 who served in Gulf War II. These statistics do not take into account the 908,000 veterans who were still waiting for the Veterans Administration to decide their disability claims as of October 2011.

Also exhibiting stereotyped, parochial thinking – “Disabled Access” must mean wheelchair ramps, handrails on bathrooms, swimming chair ramps etc.  For small businesses.  Anne asks, “what about the access to the courts, police stations, etc.?”

Sen. Dutton’s argument also fails because it assumes that the courthouse itself is ADAAA compliant, or that the disabled litigant will not need accommodations for his impairment in order to access to the court’s programs and services. Justice Department reports show that many courts and law offices voluntarily refuse to comply with the ADAAA, but only become compliant when sued for damages.

Which also brings up the question — at least to this chickie — what about when the courthouses THEMSELVES are what is triggering that PTSD, and not without cause?

I literally spent hours on this one  Part of it is, squeezing information into 250 word segments; the other part deals with the struggle to communicate what’s important — but doing so requires talking about emotional triggers, in asking for reform.  Added to that, the situation I’m speaking of (below) in my life, and for many, doesn’t have an “expire-by” date.  It’s ongoing.  It’s not in closure.  One reason this rarely gets closure is public policy — as I state below, initially as “BackAtya” on the site.

Yes! —

What about the courthouses becoming ADAAA compliant, what about PTSD ? Consider the causes: serving abroad- or inhabiting- the USA can cause serious, very real disabilities — and the 2008 amendments address that not all these involve swimming pool lifts or wheelchair ramps.

(http://www.courthousenews.com/2011/12/30/42665.htm)
“The Pentagon has “systematically and wrongfully discharged” more than 22,000 veterans since 2001 “on the basis of so-called ‘personality disorder'” – rather than [PTSD] – to deny them medical care and save … $12.5 billion in medical and disability payments”

Personality disorder is a wide-ranging term used to cover symptoms right to the verge of schizophrenia. Post-traumatic stress syndrome however is linked to a trauma that may be severe and short-lived, such as combat, or prolonged, such as childhood abuse. PTSD may be so severe as to be indistinguishable from personality disorder.
     “Personality disorder (‘PD’) is a pervasive and inflexible pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of an individual’s culture and leads to distress or impairment. Symptoms begin during adolescence or early adulthood,” the complaint states.
     For the Pentagon, and the veterans, the distinction is that treatment for PTSD is covered by Pentagon policy; treatment for personality disorder is not.

I used to think differently — until it happened to me after about 25 years in SF Bay Area, a season of serial trauma and unbelievable, needless losses. Custody policies in the courts literally prevented my family from leaving a serial batterer husband after first helping us separate from him through DV restraining order. Payback was essentially federal ownership of our children through the courts. Shock & horror became routine.

Long-term spousal abuse may cause physical injuries, work losses, and PTSD which abates with safety. But — got kids? Then the “therapy” the family is prescribed is YEARS of ongoing, often weekly, contact with the abusive partner AND with the enabling courthouses= more and more primary triggers of PTSD with cumulative impact (http://digilib.bc.edu/reserves/sc563/mcgu/sc56341.pdf).
(cont’d…)

CONTINUATION (comment not submitted) from 1st HUFF POST COMMENT BEGINS HERE:

…Where do all the disabled come from? Well …. “Here’s how it works” with my kind:

Since the 1960s, certain people–judges, attorneys, psychologist sorts–set up “family law.” Fueled by (?narcissism?) they sought to dismantle & dilute clear criminal law with nebulous behavioral health jargon,* causing chaos and confusion only an expert could analyze, so justifying even more therapeutic jurisprudence (*See 1975 for INTENT). Literally, the mental health profession cut a deal with the courts at public expense. Laws were passed.

Later, post-1970s, when domestic violence became a crime, these same people lobbied hard and leveraged their fine connections to keep it still Focused on the Family.   Add Welfare Reform (1996 & Feminist backlash Marriage/Fatherhood Funding), and next thing you know women got shepherded, like sheep, right from restraining order (some, even from shelters) to court-appointed family mediators, who speak “relationship,” not law. There, a single mother’s very healthy survival (and protect the young) instinct (“Leave!“) at once is labeled a relationship disorder (“high-conflict divorce,” “parental alienation,”) and if she continues to act on that instinct, she is punished by sanctions to encourage a more submissive attitude.   

So now, she has two — not just one — sources of punishment:  the ex (with whom interaction continues) AND the courts and this poor relationship will continue, often enough, for years.  

Anne*  just explained the Rx of federally-funded fatherhood.  After some haggling, the VAWA-funded DV groups simply cut a deal with the Family/Marriage/Father-Friendly, too!   Now, both rhetorics get established DOJ & HHS funding streams, engage in similar activities, even with each other, and (ssh!) don’t tell respective clientele about just how much fun training judges, running PR campaigns, conferences, and buying prime real estate, ($11 million of it in the SF Praesidio) to buy Futures Without Violence, really is!  The “rhetoric” differs in public, but tax returns tell it straight.

[*Stevenson, author of article I’m responding to]

So, some mothers are fleeing with kids, but still get hunted down & jailed; others [unaware of the funding] stay, comply with routine court-ordered visitation and hope against hope for some legal backup. We [I was one] choose known, ongoing risk of ending up childless, homeless, or dead, (with or without Dad) over known, ongoing risk of becoming a fugitive, caught, and permanently separated from our children, or ending up in a shallow grave — or left to die in a snow-filled garbage can in a storage unit  (This literally happened:  Teri Jandusa-Nicolai of Racine, WI, remarried and pregnant was just picking up her little girls; the divorce had been finalized three years earlier.  She lost the baby she was carrying and all her toes and spent over 18 hours in that garbage can  She’d left the man originally because of abuse). . . 

SO, the scene is set and here in the USA, including California (North, South and Central) for women with children and leaving domestic violence — or seeking to protect sons or daughters from child abuse — this is the new “normal”– a recipe for court-connected PTSD. Literally, such parents are walking POWs, some MIA…As such, the real hazard to small businesses (like beauty salons? 2011 Seal Beach, CA(1) ; 2008 Martinez, CA (2) -is hardly vexatious lawsuits under 2008 ADAAA.

(1) the mother + 7 more (2 men 5 women) but not the Dad. (2) not the mother but 3 people (her cousin, the Dad, and responding office).

This dichotomy has created a public war zone: business losses, property demolition (http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/feb/06/josh-powell-blows-up-children) blood, smoke, crime-scene cleanups, hostage-taking. Orphans. Carpetbaggers and snake-oil sales.

Sen. Feinstein’s worried about vexatious ADA lawsuits? I can tell her and her presiding judge daughter a better way, and my story, or at least the rest of it.  I called her office a few years back, asking for help, was told, isn’t there a domestic violence outfit that can help?  Seriously — I expect I should.

SUMMARY as to Revising that ADAAA (2008) —

Until our own (sic) primary institutions stop seriously injuring our own citizens, let ADAAA (2008) stand to protect them. Oakland and Richmond are still dangerous places to live, high homicide rates — but Let’s Get Honest less than some families or leaving those dangerous families.  I know– I raised mine there

 

Speaking of  this court-connected, post-DV (only it doesn’t stop!) PTSD:

The most obvious analogy would be war. OK, we “get” (can label) war — troops come home, they’ve been in a REAL (overseas) war, with guns, knives, bombs, living moment to moment, watching comrades get blown up, and being finely tuned to survive (fight or flight) on a moment’s notice, being hypervigilant (more than an untrained person would be) to changes in their environment which might signal dangers, being closely bonded with (perhaps) their teammates and hard to identify with others who haven’t gone through this intense experience . . . . . .it could be long times of boring routine, but on a moment’s notice and unpredictably, back in action…

“OK,” says the public, “we get that” (even if the Pentagon, wishing not to pay the costs, tries to blame the soldiers by calling it a personality disorder, adding to their trouble, and alienation….) Even a recent movie, “The Lucky One” starts out exposing this, it starts in battle, home on a hair trigger with his nephews, and a cross-country pilgrimmage (with dog) for a meaningful relationship…  We can understand that a loud backfiring might resemble a gun, startle response.  But this is America, a democracy, we have justice here, we have all kinds of resources.

 

YES, but —

. . .. wait a minute! How many of the above factors really do, ALSO, characterize domestic violence?  They literally do; I know. Not a fighter jet or tank, but guns, knives — yes.  Things, even hands, objects that can maim and kill and what’s possibly worse — entrenched systems that can take our immediate relatives — children — hostage, and extort almost anything for contact with them again.  Unpredictable, and no DMZ, really.  The difference is certain segments are IN this war, long-termand others are not; they are simply paying for it coming, going, through taxes, and through living in the same area as  (or working with) some family trying to leave abuse.

There are things you probably can tune out that I don’t.    For example, let’s assume you are a couple and neither one is abusing the kids.  That’s one less thing to be seriously concerned about.  BE THANKFUL!  Suppose you are not fighting someone who has promised to remove you permanently from your children — and has weekly or bi-weekly access to them, plus knows where everyone works, goes to school and sleeps.  BE THANKFUL!   Suppose, for all their flaws, you have reached middle age with a few family members you can talk to and are not fighting in court . . . or, you get to see your children periodically or if not, at least they have not been bait in a tribal feud with paid spectators, which this system is.  BE THANKFUL!

 

Many of us have had relatives who are veterans or who fought in overseas wars and returned to the United States, with or without their trauma, disabilities, and/or PTSD.  But this one is on the home turf, and despite frequent roadkill, is somehow still “under the radar” for much of America.

Read this account — which involves SIX women and several pastors.  They’re adults now, and they tell why they didn’t tell all when CPS came by, and how it might’ve gone had someone been more intelligent.  This also hails from the same town as Jaycee Dugard.  Now that I have your attention:  here it is:

(less than some families)

This is more common than we admit and overlaps part of my life.  More another time….

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May 17, 2012 at 8:28 pm

The term “HIGH-CONFLICT” — Docketed, Trademarked, Franchised, and Distributed!

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Post title: The term “HIGH-CONFLICT” — Docketed, Trademarked, Franchised, and Distributed! Published May 10, 2012 (About 5,500 words; case-sensitive short-link ending “-14I” + some re-formatting for easier “cite”)


HIGH CONFLICT is turning out to be a HIGH-CASH-COW in the Family Law business:

High Conflict Case Management

A new program has been instituted in San Diego to deal with certain High Conflict Cases.  A number of therapists and a small group of lawyers and judges have participated in training to manage these cases.Attorney Robin A. Devito is one of the few lawyers selected to participate in the initial training program.  For more information, contact Robin’s Office.

If you click on the attorney’s name, the assortment of terms is typical AFCC, and she notes she was trained by Joan Kelly of Northern California Mediation, Center. etc.   All the phrases are in place:  Collaborative Law, etc.

Robin was trained in mediation through the Northern California Mediation Center, by Joan Kelly and Nancy Davis, in 1994.  She is a trained Collaborative Practitioner, and a member of both Collaborative Practice groups in San Diego, and the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals [IACP].  She conducts mediation, and handles Collaborative cases.

The emphasis of her practice is Alternate Dispute Resolution and Private Judging, each of which is consistent with her solution-seeking approach to resolving Family Law matters of all types.  She is frequently hired by other lawyers as a mediator, settlement conference judge, arbitrator, or private judge, to help them resolve their clients’ cases, spends much of each week active in that capacity.

[Basic description above unchanged May 2012-May 2018. Link: https://www.divorceandmediation.com/high-conflict-case-management.html;  In case that changes, a “screen print” (image) to the bottom of this post. // //Blog administrator LGH, 5-14-2018]

This is simply what the family law system is about  It wants to order more services– that’s the name of the game:  Now there are HIGH-CONFliCT DOCKETS or PROGRAMS showing up in various states and jurisdictions, with some serious repercussions.  Always it’s the parents’ problem (usually a communication problem) they can’t co-parent, even if one of them is committing incest.  Talking about this, or supporting a child if they are afraid to see the parent can cause serious conflict with the courts, and might get you sent to jail, or being forced to pay supervised visitation for not being more cooperative.  

In a NJ County, this is what’s likely to happen if there’s “high conflict”:

    • Custody Neutral Assessment Program 609-518-2515

The Custody Neutral Assessment Program (CNA) is available for high conflict cases** that are inappropriate for, or are unable to be resolved, through mediation. This program utilizes several mental health practitioners in the community who meet with the parties, discuss contested issues and make clinical recommendations to the court on how to resolve disputed issues.

    • Expert Evaluation Program 609-518-2515

The Expert Evaluation Program is a clinical service available for high conflict custody cases that are not appropriate for mediation or Custody Neutral Assessment. Cases are referred by court order to mental health evaluators within the community for psychological or psychiatric evaluation. Completed reports are submitted to the court to provide the judge with clinical insight of the case prior to making a final decision.

{{**if you have conflict, you have a mental health problem… this is how abuse and DV cases will be managed from here on out, apparently.  There is no such thing as individual responsibility for cruelty, or abuse, or contempt of court, etc. – — BOTH parents will be held responsible and psychologically evaluated.  This MAY just explain why court dockets are so full….}}

I thought I’d “Seen it All” in how many ways the words “high conflict” could be used, but it appears I was wrong.  So today, here’s another look at how it can be trademarked, franchised, certified, shrinkwrapped, and sold.

Perhaps there’d be less conflict of more professionals were able to handle conflict with their re-branding of common criminal behavior as a psychological personality aberration on the part of the protecting or reporting parents, often female:

I have other blogs (that look better) — see The Family Court Franchise System, particularly the page (and also a post or so) on Connect-i-cut’s High Conflict Docket.

Which also made headlines – or at least a lengthy piece — by journalist Keith Harmon Snow on the nightmares American mothers are going through when it comes to coverup of serious child sexual abuse, to the tune of being extorted by supervised visitation provider, etc.

U.S. FAMILY COURTS SACRIFICING MOTHERS & CHILDREN
Family Courts Behind an Epidemic of Pedophilia & Judicial Abuse

keith harmon snow

First publication: 01 May 2012
Edits & Revision: 03 May 2012


A five month investigation reveals an epidemic of violence and corruption facilitated by Family Courts in the United States.  Children all over the United States are being taken from their protective mothers and delivered to abusers.  Behind this epidemic of judicial abuse are organized networks involved in racketeering and corruption, channeling and disappearing billions of dollars of U.S. taxpayers money every year.  Insurance companies are being defrauded by medical and mental health professionals rewarded handsomely for producing quack studies that criminalize loving mothers and protect abusive fathers.  With clear evidence of racketeering and corruption, high court judges and insider lawyers use and abuse the Family Courts system to destroy protective mothers and deliver life sentences of suffering to innocent children. 

Rich, poor, middle-class… No child in America is safe.

That happens to be true (we are in short, becoming quite the police state…..) although I still need to contact him (again) about this approach to the problem.  He is a reporter, not a litigant or parent snared by the system, and has a mixture of traumatized parents’ reports and the professionals, but very little on the organizational (corporate) structures that set this up.   But the case that got his attention — was the one in Connecticut where a HIGH-CONFLICT REGIONAL DOCKET had been set up.  THis is become a practice around the country.  WATCH OUT! — it’s not good news!!

All I intend to post today is a link to a program (Not necessarily a DOCKET) in San Diego area which shows some of the moulah to be made by franchising into the words “High-Conflict” and teaching parents how to cut it out.  Click and read — it’s fairly self-explanatory if you have some exposure to this system (and the AFCC jargon):

http://www.highconflict.net/instructors/become-an-instructor-2/

This one appears to have been slapped together — jump on the bandwagon.  I don’t know that the pricing reflects this — it’s HIGH!

BECOME A HIGH CONFLICT DIVERSION PROGRAM INSTRUCTOR OR COACH

HIGH CONFLICT DIVERSION PROGRAM

TEACHER CERTIFICATION WORKSHOPS 2012

Kingston New Jersey – June 8-11  2012

Austin Texas – July 27-30

We are very excited that you have expressed interest in High Conflict Diversion Program™.  The High Conflict Diversion Program™ was founded by Brook Olsen in 2006 as a resource for assisting parents in high conflict divorce with strategies to help them reduce the conflict in their custody issues and to educate therapists, attorneys and family court professionals in alternative ways to deal with high conflict divorce. The program, currently in San Diego County, is both court-ordered and non-court ordered in which parents in high conflict custody battles attend.

The High Conflict Diversion Program is committed to educating the family courts, family court professionals and parenting educators throughout the country about high conflict divorce through leading edge strategies for changing how parents deal with this difficult situation.

We are offering a four day workshop where we will be teaching cutting edge knowledge to become a certified High Conflict Coach and High Conflict Diversion Program™ Instructor.

. . .

This Program is already recognized in many counties in California, Florida, Colorado  and Puerto Rico and continues to grow in recognition through out the US and Canada. The first two days must be taken as a prerequisite.

This workshop is offered to mental health professionals, attorneys, parenting educators and family court professionals and by interview to other professionals wanting to teach this work.

We understand that your time and money are very important and realize the current economic situation makes investing in this education difficult so we have reduced the cost of this training to $1699 for the 4 day training. That is a reduction in the original cost of $300.00.

(continue reading, and most of us, I believe, will recognize the basic marketing program and buy-in (entrance fees) “sell.”)…

Brook D. Olsen

Director: High Conflict Diversion Program LLC

(the “ABOUT DIRECTOR” page is blank, currently)

Here’s the program’s own LinkedIn (where I learn that Brook is a man (?) and thereafter you can click on Brook or Debra Dupree (co-instructors?) and read more about their backgrounds, too.

 and Transitions for Life Mediation (both DUPREE): & Founder, Brook Olsen:

The Relationship with California Secretary of State (that matters) — well apparently it doesn’t matter:  She also registered it in 2007 (late in the year), not 2005 as website claims (typical!)

Entity Number Date Filed Status Entity Name Agent for Service of Process
200731810061 11/08/2007 CANCELED RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER, LLC DEBRA DUPREE

(street address in El Cajon, now lists a real estate attorney there….)

Transitions for Life, if the bottom row,  just registered a month or so ago; if you click on it (or search again at CA Secretary of State Business Search site) has no street address listed:

Entity Number Date Filed Status Entity Name Agent for Service of Process
C2699054 02/11/2005 SUSPENDED TRANSITIONS FOR LIFE CENTER, INC. SHARON HEASTON
C3447150 01/23/2012 ACTIVE TRANSITIONS FOR LIFE INC. LEGALZOOM.COM, INC.
  1. TFL Mediation | LinkedIn

    Transitions For Life Mediation is about providing better solutions for divorcing families. We offer flat-fee Divorce Packages™ and hourly programs to help 

However a website http://www.lifetransitionsinc.net/ shows up a parent education group in Massachusetts called “MOVING FORWARD”

Moving Forward an educational program to diminish the effects of divorce on children and adults

Our 2-session program meets in Littleton and Chelmsford, in Massachusetts, on Fridays 6:00-8:30pmand Saturdays 9:30am-12:00pm.

Workshop fee is $80.

This parent education workshop is approved by the Chief Justice of the Probate & Family Court, Commonwealth of Massachusetts.

Under the High Conflict Diversion Program’s site,

I count 15 instructors (read the pricing, do the math) and this website appears to be still in construction.  Perhaps Brooks was a little late on this bandwagon….

How to screen for potential clients (i.e., divorces that could be roped into this):

  1. By starting early in the divorce process, we can look out for potential “red flags” surrounding certain behaviors that will identify substance abuse issues and other indicators that suggest that a High Conflict scenario** may be present
  2. By working with attorneys in the early stages of potentially High Conflict divorces, we will increase the probability of obtaining a settlement agreement before the proceedings collapse.
  3. We teach communication skills and help our students to identify, and then responsibly avoid, “triggers” that lead to conflict. These skills are not only helpful during the divorce and parenting, but are also highly useful in maintaining a better relationship with a new partner or spouse. These communication skills also help the attorney-client communication stay clear and on track.
  4. By helping students think “outside the box,” we help empower them to rely on their own inner resources, rather than the court system, to remedy their situation.
  5. We help identify, both directly and indirectly, the belief patterns, triggers, coping mechanisms and survival strategies that prevent parents from accessing their capacity to disengage from a High Conflict divorce and move on with their lives.
  6. We teach centering and relaxation techniques to help students to calm down prior to, during and after contact with a non-cooperative ex-spouse, depositions, meetings with attorneys, court appearances and things of this nature.

** Notice that emotionally triggering terms like “child abuse, spouse abuse, kidnapping, stalking” etc. are not mentioned.  In fact, that’s part of the plan, evidently.  Domestic violence and child abuse (etc.) can obviously be handled by teaching (BOTH sets of) parents better communication skills, under threat of excommunication or being court-ordered into more classes, or loss of contact with one’s kids, etc.

What IS it about the City of San Diego.  So much (baloney) proceeds from this one city and it’s Family Justice Center Alliance, Relationship Training Institute (not current with their charitable filings, I suspect kickbacks at this point, take court-referral business), the attempt to get KidsTurn legislated (SB 577 was it?), not to mention Kids Turn San Diego, and Enron by the Sea.  The “California Healthy Marriages Coalition” (Stoica/Leucadia, etc.) is in the area, apparently — and getting multiple millions of HHS (Still — $2.5 million in 2011, jsut like old times) and it just goes on and on.  Anyhow, here’s a snippet from Debra Dupree’s “Relationships that Matter” website.  It does seem she’s a sucker for ANY training program she can stick up on the credentials page:

Debra moved into the field of Mediation in 1994 with advanced certifications in Workplace and Family/Divorce Mediation in 2005 & 2007 and attained the world-renowned CINERGY Certification in Conflict Coaching in 2009. Debra is also certified as a High Conflict Diversion Program (HCDP) Coach & Workshop Leader,** an authorized New Ways for Families (NWFF) Therapist and Mediator,*** and Parent Educator & Coach for  Transitions for Life (TFL).

The San Diego Superior Court and Family Court Services for High Conflict Divorce cases regularly refers cases to Debra to help families and businesses stay out of court.## Debra is an active member of the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists (CAMFT) and its local San Diego Chapter, the Southern California Mediation Association (SCMA) as well as the Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR)

CINERGY(r) (originator from Canada)
CINERGY (tm) - Peacebuilding... one person at a time
 **Probably for the price shown on the site, well over $1,000.
***New Ways for Families” is ? a Bill Eddy “thang.”  See my post about “Another AFCC wet dream” — and High Conflict Institute.
##Let’s hope that keeping families OUT of court is the only “perk” San Diego Superior Court and Family Court Services derives from referral business, but I’m not holding my breath.

New Ways for Families is a structured parenting skills method with short-term counseling to reduce the impact of conflict on the children in potentially high-conflict cases. It can be used whenever a parent or the court believes one parent needs restricted parenting (supervised, no contact, limited time), at the start of a case or any time a parent requests it–including after the divorce.

This method emphasizes strengthening skills for positive future behavior (new ways), rather than focusing on past negative behavior – while still acknowledging it. It is designed to save courts time, to save parents money, and to protect children as their families re-organize in new ways after a separation or divorce, for married or never-married parents. This method can be used in family court, mediation, collaborative divorce, or even post-divorce with the assistance of a Parenting Coordinator or High Conflict Case Manager.


Goals of New Ways for Families

  1. To immunize families against becoming high-conflict families during the separation and the divorce process.
I have no problem with this — if only the family courts would simply stop dealing with criminal matters, and where the crime has been identified, apply “you abuse you lose,” such that the ONLY cases involving co-parenting are those WITHOUT sexual, child, or spouse abuse.  THEN maybe those other things might work.  Then again, most parents have better things to do than (after running their kids to and from school, and themselves to and from work) go sit down in another court-ordered class, particularly of the psychoeducational sort.

New Ways for Families is a new method being tried in San Diego County for handling high conflict parenting cases in family court. Supervising Family Law Judge Lorna Alksne has authorized the downtown San Diego judges to try this method for three months, then it will be evaluated for further use.

 . . .

Step 1: Getting Started

Parents can agree to use New Ways, or a judge can order it while also making temporary parenting orders, support orders, and restraining orders. Then, each parent selects his or her own Individual Parent Counselor from a list of local counselors trained in the New Ways method. Before the counseling begins, each parent prepares a Behavioral Declaration and a Reply Behavioral Declaration, which are the only declarations provided to their counselors.

Hopefully this spells out why the family courts have become a “RACKET,” without me having to add much more.   You want referral business?  You buy into the system. Did we mention, there are probably still access visitation (federal grants to states, distributed from AOC downward last I heard) which ALSO help set up parent education programs, been going on since 1996…. taking welfare grants to the states, and just “diverting” some of it. For the public’s own good.  We can see this co-parenting thing “really helps,” from the Seal Beach, CA incident of (I believe it was last fall), where “only” 8 people were murdered by a man who didn’t feel that 56% parenting time was fair, and who’d already had a prior restraining order on.  His wife, and 7 others died.  HE DIDN”T (Scott DeKraii).

RE:  Judge Laura Allksne, she seems to have both mens’ and women’s (i.e. protective parents) groups angry with her.  This ANGIEMEDIA site has it exactly right, although I can’t say I’m entirely on the same page with the blog overall:

POSTED THIS PAST APRIL 21, 2012:

Eileen Lasher of the California Coalition for Families and Children was interviewed twice in 2011 by Walter Davis on his show Progress in San Diego. Dr. Emad Tadros,* an outspoken critic of the San Diego family courts, joined them in the first interview. The second interview was shown in two segments.

(*Dr. Tadros discovered the fake credential of a custody evaluator, Stephen Doyne, and has been heavily punished for publicizing this:  “Zoe the Cat” etc.) 

In the interview segment below, Lasher discussed her experiences with the misconduct of minor’s counsel attorneys and how taxpayers and parents are paying for what is in her view an organized criminal enterprise. She says children and parents are being abused by the courts and points out the taxpayers and the abused parents are paying the financial costs for this misconduct.

San Diego Family Courts: Organized Crime Ring Targeting Middle and Upper Classes

Lasher contends the San Diego family law courts are operated as a criminal business that siphons the wealth from families and places it in the hands of the attorneys and experts such as custody evaluators. She views judges who appoint custody evaluators and minor’s counsel attorneys and many of those attorneys as particularly culpable. A minor’s counsel attorney is to participate in a custody case by representing the children. However, such attorneys often have conflicts of interest. They also typically run their own family law attorney business and are also in some cases are attorneys who are involved in probate cases and serve as “pro tem” judges in family law court.

Discussion focused on how low income families seldom have minor’s counsel attorneys and psychological evaluators ordered by the courts. These families have little money, so it is not lucrative to put them through the family court extortion process reserved for people who have some money. Middle income or higher income families often suffer from these expensive costs because they have significant assets and income that can be exploited by the divorce industry.

You have a house, so the attorneys and court want your house to be forced into sale so they can keep the proceeds and ensure their own wealth and job security at the expense of you and your children. You have retirement savings, the attorneys want those, too. There are college savings for the kids? Those can be raided, too.

How better to extort all or nearly all of a family’s wealth than to threaten their children? The attorneys and judges know how lucrative this extortion is and are eager to bring it into play when they see income and assets that can be pillaged.

If the parents don’t have substantial assets, the grandparents might. The court and its allies know that threatening their grandchildren is often an equally effective way to “financially gangrape” the family.

OR (molestation case apparently involving this woman):

  1. Saving Damon – Saving Damon from his identified molester

    but Judge Lorna Alksne wanted to try a local psychologist, Dr. Breffni Barrett, first.  by Judge Lorna Alksne–with no supporting facts or evidence whatsoever.

Some of the families are having very high conflict with the way the courts do business, particularly when their custody evaluators are sporting fraudulent credentials . . . . . ANYHOW, under “NEW (court-ordered) WAYS FOR FAMILIES, INCLUDING THOSE WITH RESTRAINING ORDERS PENDING OR ON AND AS IT SAYS, BEING TESTED (OR BY NOW, IN PRACTICE) UNDER THIS PARTICULAR JUDGE’S WATCHFUL PRESIDING EYE:

Step 2: Individual Parent Counseling

This includes 6 weekly sessions with a separate, confidential counselor for each

parent using a Parent Workbook. Both parents are ordered into this counseling at

the same time, with no presumptions about who is more difficult. The focus of

these sessions is strengthening and practicing three skills: flexible thinking,

managed emotions, and moderate behaviors.

More on Mr. Brook Olsen from Mediate.com — catch the terminology?

Brook D. Olsen


Brook D. OlsenBrook Olsen founded the High Conflict Diversion Program in 2006 and continues to direct its evolution. Curantly Brook is training new teachers throughout the USA to teach the High Conflict Diversion Progream™ in their local communities. Brook is a Certified Parenting Educator with the International Network For Children and Families, a Certified Divorce Mediator, and Life Coach. Brook helps develop high conflict parenting programs for the San Diego Family Courts, and helps educate therapists and attorneys in high conflict divorce.  Brook’s training includes six years of study with Dr. Michael Mamas in the field of transpersonal counseling, trauma counseling and meditation. Brook completed three years of training in trauma resolution through the Foundation for Human Enrichment with Peter Levine and is a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner.  Brook co-taught the High Conflict Intervention Program for two years for the San Diego County Family Court System. Brook is a licensed Holistic Health Practitioner and Certified Clinical Nutritionist. He is also trained in Interpersonal Communication and High Conflict Resolution.
Here’s a page on Dr. Michael Mamas, a.k.a.

Maharshi Maheshananda (Dr. Michael Mamas)

Maharshi Maheshananda is the visionary and developer of Mount Soma.  Maharshi is a Master who brings out ancient Vedic Knowledge, the Knowledge at the base of all religions, in modern terms.  He is also the protector of the Knowledge, making sure Knowledge is brought out in its purity.

Maharshi MaheshanandaMaharshi was an honors student in physics and mathematics at Ohio State University prior to obtaining a Doctorate in Veterinary Medicine and a Masters in Business Administration. For nearly a decade, Maharshi lived a monastic life, studying with great saints and spiritual teachers from India and around the world.  From the wisdom and knowledge he gained, Maharshi derived a profound and practical approach to personal growth and health, one that transcends both traditional and alternative methods.

Maharshi is the only person from the West to ever be awarded the title Adhyatm Vidhya Visharad (mastery of the highest Knowledge of the soul) from Bhagavan Yagnyavalkya Ved Tatavagyan Yogashram, the Sanskrit College at the University of Gujarat, which was given to him in 2007.

An explanation of the title “Maharshi Maheshananda”:  A Rishi is a seer – one who sees the truth of life, the foundation of existence, and the mechanics of its manifestation in life.  A Maharishi is a great seer – one with the gift of being able to reveal that knowledge to others and help people cultivate a physiology that embodies the Knowledge.  Mahesh is a name of Lord Shiva.  Ananda means bliss.  Maheshananda means bliss of Lord Shiva, or one who is loved by Shiva.

iving in California has its advantages, there are the obvious benefits like Yosemite, great restaurants and magnificent sunsets, and then there are the not so obvious advantages like . . . schools. In San Diego alone, there are easily a hundred schools, from high schools to hang gliding schools and from computer schools to . . . schools for enlightenment. One need only scan the yellow pages and if you can dream it, someone has created a school for it.

One such school is the School for Enlightenment and Healing. The school was created by Dr. Michael Mamas, a former veterinarian, as a progressive training program for the development of hands-on-healing.

(so long as Mr. Olsen is not running KidsTurn Classes…)

ABOUT THE TRADEMARKING:  This can be searched, and gets entertaining AND informative.  For example, the short-lived trademarked term (still be advertised on the web for sale) was actually “abandoned” by Mr. Olsen in 2009:=.  First used in commerce:  Feb. 2007.  Trademark Filed, May 2008.  Abandoned, February 2009.

Entity Number Date Filed Status Entity Name Agent for Service of Process
200904410130 02/04/2009 ACTIVE HIGH CONFLICT DIVERSION PROGRAM, LLC BROOK DELL OLSEN

Mark Image

Word Mark HIGH CONFLICT DIVERSION PROGRAM
Goods and Services (ABANDONED) IC 041. US 100 101 107. G & S: Education services, namely, providing personal coaching, classes, seminars and workshops in the fields of conflict management, dispute resolution and mediation; On-line journals, namely, blogs featuring information on conflict management, dispute resolution and mediation; Publication of journals; Publication of training materials and other publications related to such programs or related to the subjects of divorce, family conflict, conflict management, dispute resolution and mediation. FIRST USE: 20070201. FIRST USE IN COMMERCE: 20070201
Standard Characters Claimed
Mark Drawing Code (4) STANDARD CHARACTER MARK
Serial Number 77466340
Filing Date May 5, 2008
Current Basis 1A
Original Filing Basis 1A
Owner (APPLICANT) Brook D. Olsen INDIVIDUAL UNITED STATES 28481 Gordon Hill Road Valley Center CALIFORNIA 92082
Attorney of Record Jason Belice
Disclaimer NO CLAIM IS MADE TO THE EXCLUSIVE RIGHT TO USE “CONFLICT” APART FROM THE MARK AS SHOWN
Type of Mark SERVICE MARK
Register PRINCIPAL
Live/Dead Indicator DEAD
Abandonment Date February 20, 2009
NEW WAYS FOR FAMILIES is still “LIVE” trademark:
Mark Image
Word Mark NEW WAYS FOR FAMILIES
Goods and Services IC 041. US 100 101 107. G & S: Educational services, namely, live and on-line training and curriculum development of a structured parenting skills method with short-term counseling for families involved in Family Court proceedings and distributing workbooks and guidebooks in connection therewith. FIRST USE: 20090101. FIRST USE IN COMMERCE: 20090101
Mark Drawing Code (5) WORDS, LETTERS, AND/OR NUMBERS IN STYLIZED FORM
Trademark Search Facility Classification Code SHAPES-COLORS-2 Design listing or lined for two colors
SHAPES-MISC Miscellaneous shaped designs
Serial Number 77848927
Filing Date October 14, 2009
Current Basis 1A
Original Filing Basis 1A
Published for Opposition August 10, 2010
Registration Number 3866592
Registration Date October 26, 2010
Owner (REGISTRANT) High Conflict Institute, LLC LIMITED LIABILITY COMPANY ARIZONA 7701 E. Indian School Road, Suite F Scottsdale ARIZONA 85251
Description of Mark The color(s) blue and brown is/are claimed as a feature of the mark. The mark consists of the words “new”, “ways” and “families” in lower case letters in brown and outlined in blue; the word “FOR” in upper case letters in blue.
Type of Mark SERVICE MARK
Register PRINCIPAL
Live/Dead Indicator LIVE
So this ‘New Ways for Families” (trademark) is less than two years old as we speak.  It’s important for AFCC personnel to keep in front of the crowd with new programs, as the old ones are getting discovered, and sometimes lawsuits being filed over them.  The money appears to be in getting people to buy into becoming a certified trainer of (pick your product) — although who’s to know for sure?
“RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER”:
Serial Number Reg. Number Word Mark Check Status Live/Dead
1 78380846 RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER TARR DEAD
2 78038409 RELATOMIC.COM::BUILD RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER TARR DEAD
3 77793107 CREATING RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER TARR DEAD

(none of these related to the above products or service; just FYI, hardly an original term):
INTERNATIONAL NETWORK FOR CHILDREN AND FAMILIES” — is a Gainesville, FL Corporation of predictable business plan:

Would you like to make a difference in your community?
The Parent Instructor Network Training is a 40 hour intensive, personal training that will certify you to teach the popular Redirecting Children’s Behavior parent education course.  INCAF is one of the only organizations that require their instructors to get their certification and maintain their certification through continuing education. Your certification offers you the opportunity of experiencing the joys of teaching a successful course that empowers families.

The International Network for Children and Families trains people throughout the world to establish their own local parenting courses based on “Redirecting Children’s Behavior”. INCAF provides you with all the skills and materials you need to start a successful seminar business, facilitating a world-renowned course.

BROOKS OLSEN bought into this one, and so gets to also advertise off its website as well:

igh Conflict Divorce Resolution (HCDR) Instructor Training

High Conflict Diversion Program™
Teacher Training Certification

The High Conflict Diversion Program™ was developed by Brook Olsen to assist parents in high conflict divorce to acquire the tools essential to extracting themselves and their children from the devastation of high conflict divorce. The San Diego Family Courts as well as the Alameda County, California court system refer parents in high conflict custody battles to this program.

We are in the process of building a network across the U.S. in order to make this revolutionary program available in as many court jurisdictions as possible.

The High Conflict Diversion Program™ Teacher Training Certification is an intensive, professional training offered under the INCAF umbrella that qualifies individuals to teach the High Conflict Diversion Program™. This training is offered to parenting educators, therapists, attorneys and Family Court professionals. It is approved by the California Bureau of Behavioral Sciences for 28 CEUs and by the California Bar Association for 14 MCLEs. The course is a proven practice builder as well as an important resource to the community.

Why become a High Conflict Diversion Program™ Instructor?

  • To help families through one of the toughest life transitions.
  • To give parents the skills needed to stabilize their own as well as their children’s lives.
  • To play a key role in changing the way family courts understand and deal with the individuals and the dynamics involved in high conflict divorce.
  • To gain a cutting-edge tool that has been proven to help build your private practice and fill your RCB classes.

We are currently taking deposits from professionals who are interested in the Teacher Trainings. The current training schedule is as follows:

Oakland, California: September 8 through 11
Orange County, California: October 10 through 13

Is this the Mrs?

http://peggyolsen.com/classes/

About Your Instructor

Peggy Reynolds-Olsen is a certified parent educator with the International Network for Children and Families, a licensed Holistic Health Practitioner and Registered Craniosacral Therapist (RCST). For the past 18 years she has been a healing arts practitioner in the San Diego area. Working with infants, children and adults, she specializes in the treatment of early developmental trauma, attachment and bonding issues. Her passion lies in helping families create a healthy nurturing environment for the exploration of their full potential as they support each other along life’s journey . .

COURSE COST

$395.00 per couple per 5-week course. $100.00 to repeat Includes text and work book

$230.00 per single person

This parenting program is approved by the San Diego Family Court Serivces (sic)

From “divorce-support.about.com

Did your attorney make mistakes during your divorce?

My children and I have been held hostage in San Diego Family Law Court for 16 years without any issues being resolved. It is a “high conflict” case which means the attorneys deliberately churned the case for high fees using the children as a source of revenue. We are not the only ones.

Were you the victim of an unethical judge?

I have had several unethical judges and numerous commissioners. I have met with at least 50 other litigants who are currently suffering the same form of racketeering.

Here’s a FLORIDA-based “HIGH CONFLICT DOCKET” by none other than 20th Judicial Circuit (lee county), AFCC Board — Judge Hugh Starnes, and co-hort Sheldon Finman, Esq.  Searchable on this blog (the names, Association of Family Law Professionals, etc.):

June 17, 2010

“The Development of the Lee County High Conflict Docket”

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina @ 1:43 pm

Many thanks are in order to Judge Hugh E. Starnes, a retired circuit court judge, who has volunteered his time, along with Dr. Deborah Silver and Sheldon Finman, Esq., to assist families going through “high conflict” family law cases involving children.  “High conflict” cases can be defined as divorce and custody cases where the parties have been involved with their cases for a long period of time and have not reached a resolution.  Often times, it is the children that suffer the most harm in “high conflict” situations.  Judge Starnes and his team have designed a case management program that enables the parties to come to the court and attempt to problem-solve with professional assistance so that the cases can progress in a manner that may be more suited to the children’s needs.  Hopefully the program will report success and funding will be in place to continue to support the program in the future.

(ALL 3 individuals mentioned above are Florida Chapter of AFCC and instrumental in getting that chapter opened, and passing a parent coordination statue in the state, over the veto of a Governor (2004) and objections (valid ones, no doubt) from domestic violence advocates, who were outmaneuvered and strategically just not up to the opposition….)

This young? attorney will probably carry on the tradition of problem-solving courts (the parents are the problem) with solutions provided by referring professionals, including judges and their friends.

Christina L. Holly, Esq. has been selected for inclusion in Super Lawyers® – Rising Stars Edition 2010. Only 2.5% of eligible lawyers in the state of Florida were selected!

This image added during 2018 update, from https://www.divorceandmediation.com/high-conflict-case-management.html (Robin A. Devito, Esq. page). In 2012 I didn’t know how to do screen prints. Click images to enlarge and notice “Associations” on left side-bar (do not include AFCC, but do include a common interest in “Collaborative Law” as started up (from my understanding) by AFCC members.  It’s a general theme..

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