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If Obama had been born after Promoting Responsible Fatherhood…

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(TYPICAL of what Promoting Responsible Fatherhood  can do to already Responsible Mothers. . . . )

(after switching custody, without due process, in order to achieve this out-come based, presidentially-desired population profile:)

MOST responsible mothers will test and attempt to find justice in the family law system, not always knowing that the case was decided from a Top-Down federal initiative, and that while they may NOT get competent free legal help in family courts (as they did in obtaining, perhaps an initial restraining order), many fathers, deserving and undeserving // incarcerated or free // low-income OR high-income too — may have been receiving referrals, coaching, and pro bono legal advice, or forms preparation, to oppose them before they hit the courtroom.  If this doesn’t work, then mediation will be forced, as it’s far easier to persuade a single mediator than actually compile the facts and evidence actually required, by law, to switch custody)….

Where I was last week:

For approximately a week I’ve been struggling with Internet down, and negotiating with service providers, etc.  Living hand to mouth, I received an unexpected gift of $60 which would repair a simple power cord. My used laptop, which itself was charity and took me 11 months (after my last employment) to get to (another adventure) has a power cord that, thankfully, was sold in a city a short commute away only. The round trip commute “only” cost $10 (which I didn’t have).  

Coming to my local haunt to figure things out (brought by someone who is familiar with me by side of road and gave a lift again, saving $2.00 bus fare), there was another local Mom I know in similar situation (though her details varied) who gave me $20 and some paper goods (knowing that Food Stamps don’t buy these, FYI).  There is indeed a host of information not possible to personally understand unless you spend a long time marginalized.  I did not grow up marginalized, there was help getting me to this state (again).  

For example, the importance of cash flow, and split-second timing sometimes.)  A little compassion — not to be often found in the larger institutions, where children are commodities, as is our prolonged distress, in fact it’s a business —   goes so far, is so fantastic!  I do not think people who haven’t been through a little hell (if there be such folk) can appreciate this.  

Also today, inexplicably, $XX.cc of the $XXX.cc (of multiple $XX,XXX.cc’s total child support arrears) due each month appeared without warning on a little debit card connected to the great child support enforcement system that has (I have come ot learn) bargained away justice for MOms in support of Promoting Responsible Fatherhood.  FYI, grants show clearly that where our government LOOKS for some of these responsible fathers is in prisons and by communicating with parole officers, etc. 

Now I have to decided whether that $xx.cc goes to (a) keeping home phone/internet on (b) a bus pass or (c) keeping, for safety reasons, a cell phone on.  SIt will pay ONLY one of the above.  This is the type of situation, I suppose, all those multiplce choice questions in elementary school (if you went public) prepared us for.  What do you think?  To me, safety seems paramount, which means cell phone.  But I’m hungry.  Thus, it’s most likely, however, that I will go have something to eat, and put a bit on the phone (paying twice as much per minute), which goes off at 3:30pm today, I’m told.  that $xx.cc amount WOULD pay for an entire month of unlimited cell use (one relief for sure!), however stomach counts, and so does the ability not to have to hitchhike, at my age, and with the amount of STUFF I bring along daily, including papers, laptop, and sometimes a change of clothes.   Can we say, “Infrastructure of the Individual?”  

This is another thing that forays through one or, worse, more, of a federally-mandated, top-down, and guns-toting officers enforced policy with a few layers of administrative personnel as gatekeepers (between you and who’s funding it and why) is likely to dismantle:  INdividual Infrastructures.  If it’s stable, it’s a threat to the system, and something must be shifted around — take from Peter to prop up Paul, by way of Phillip, whose idea this was (actually SOME of the prime movers, not just enablers, in these systems, originating them, are women). 

While I do that, here’s another self-report of a trip through the “Family” “Law” system, and how what appears to be a competent mother gets dumped on in order to satisfy the state-endorsed religion that “a kid without a father involved — ANY quality father” is like a fish out of water, not “a fish without a bicycle.”

I also had a close call, this week, with Fathers’ Rights in the Making (generation 3?) by getting thrown out of a church I’d fled to, for some company, for — yes, you heard this — speaking up.  The problem was, my plumbing.  I was almost physically ejected after the 2nd minute.  Unbelievable, and this was in a home, not even a large formal setting.  I am entirely too curious about reporting from the front lines about groups of people who seem angry that women got the vote, laws were passed to restrict PUBLICALLY beating us, and so compensate by as much as possible publically humiliating intelligent ones who actually speak.  

Silly folks, don’t they realize this is where feminists came from to start with?  They got pissed off, that’s all.  I’m beginning to think this at least.  The only people who actually think second class citizenship, or for that matter, abject poverty and slavery, are good ideas, are those profiting from it.  And for THAT, you will have to research who is getting the grant money to generate study after study justifying the kind of results you read about below here:  

What I’m trying to say here is, my uneven reporting and prose is a direct factor of having to deal with the situation, while also attempting to report on it.  As a general principle, I’d say, if you probe deeply to any website which is EXTREMELY polished and professional, they probably haven’t gone through it themselves, only dealt with families who have.  The situation never seems to end, so we have to publish on the fly, kind of like some of the men who had the audacity to translate the Bible into the common language (whether German, English, or Spanish). Going up against the Spanish Inquisition takes courage, for sure.  The capacity of man to crucify man (and women, and children) never seems to end, and generally, it has to do with exposing some nonsense.  

NEVER show up smarter than someone else who has control over your kids.  

NOTE:  taking hostages is a characteristic of war.  Why is the US Government waging war on mothers?  (sorry folks, the statistics do NOT support it as a war on fathers, based on $$ allocated at Federal level).  Then again, there

http://womenmakenews.com/content/white-woman-without-her-black-looking-children-family-courts-make-mistakes-dont-get-fixed

Her story is here.  The link above has a few more links also:

If what happened to my kids had happened to young Barry Obama, he would have been stripped from the primary care of his mother and turned over to the father who left him, likely changing the course of his life.

Like the President’s mother, I was blinded by youthful idealism to the extreme dangers of entering a mixed marriage.  While I knew the judicial system historically opposed mixed marriages, I was naïve to the fact that U.S courts have historically treated non-black women who marry outside their race worse than black men and women themselves.  Until 1931, such women would be stripped of citizenship.  Such marriages continued to be illegal until the late 1960s.  

MOTHERS SOMETIMES LOSE

Since then, such women often lose custody of their “black” looking children.  Such was the case for me when Judge Thomas Koehler of Iowa City, IA ordered that “physical characteristics can be a determiner in awarding custody.”

Although I was the primary caregiver of my two young children, and the sole breadwinner when I filed for custody from my estranged ex, the Court awarded physically custody to my children’s father.  He is black African.  I am Colombian-American.

The court did not question that my ex had no known employer (and hasn’t for over six years) or that “money works differently” for him.   Nor was the court interested in my ex’s arrest at the  nation’s Capitol for appearing dressed as a suicide bomber (in the name of ‘art’) or other threats and assaults made towards various individuals throughout the country.  

In this era, people wrongly assume mothers only lose custody of their children if they have a drug problem or police record of some sort.  However, in contested cases, the man gets custody an overwhelming 70% of the time – and often these men are the most violent.

WEDDED THEN LEFT

 
In March of 1997, I married Nigerian artist Olabayo Olaniyi in Santa Fe. Our son, Oba, was born in December of that year. The following year, we moved to Iowa where our marriage disintegrated.  When our second child, Aluna, was a month old, we officially separated.  

My ex left Iowa (green card in hand) and traveled to be an artist-in-residence at the University of Michigan.  I remained in Iowa, moved into my own home, and continued to run my bilingual home daycare.

HONEY, I FORGOT THE KIDS 


Aside from my ex’s philandering and financial irresponsibility toward our children, my life remained relatively peaceful and joyous for a full year-and-a-half…until I filed for divorce.

“YOU WILL FLY NO MORE…I AM WARNIG YOU, CHRISTINE!”

At first, my ex played the game of hide-and-seek.  When found, and served with divorce papers, death threats rolled in and my ex filed for sole custody of our children.

Despite recorded threats, 50/50 custody was ordered.  Devastated, I moved to Michigan to facilitate the temporary order.  Twice over the next few years, I tried to move the case to Michigan where we all lived.  Iowa refused to give up this case. 

In the meantime, the family member who kept us from living on the streets had her home shot at.  My daughter returned from a visit with a visible mark.  My son confirmed that their dad got mad when she wouldn’t stop crying and asking for me.  Photographs of this incident went ignored.  

Fortunately I was offered a full-time job after one day of work and moved into my own home six months later.  Bones and moldy gourds were left on my doorstep (courtesy of my ex.)  In addition, my ex and his former student were arrested in D.C. 

The Iowa court could care less.  As far as Judge Koehler was concerned, my concerns over the aforementioned actions were all proof that I “hated” my ex.  

After a bizarre seven day trial, where my ex was allowed to sing in Yoruba and admitted to asking me for two abortions, the court awarded him primary custody and a substantial amount of child support (more than his reported income).    

POLICING THE INSANITY

A blue book will tell you about any vehicle, but nothing exists to warn you about our lemon-of-a-court system.  Now, that I’ve learned of the systemic problems within our judiciary, I would say you’d be insane to trust the court to determine custody.  

No accountability exists for family courts.  A former prosecuting attorney admitted to me that  “Judge Koehler had his mind up” and the present prosecuting attorney made clear that she won’t prosecute the provable perjury in my case because it’s a “civil matter.”  The media is no better-–refusing to expose corruption unless it happens to involve a movie star or morph into a criminal case.  

HUMAN RIGHTS ABUSES IN THE CIVIL COURTS 

Attorney Diane Post is the leading attorney for this case against the U.S government for its human rights abuses in the Civil Courts of America.  My case will represent the state of Iowa in her action which is supported by several organizations, including the ACLU.  Like men in  the main cases cited, my ex has a record of violence that went ignored.  Unlike people in those cases, my and I children remain alive and manage to thrive in our work, education and allotted time together.  My children have never wavered in wanting to come home and I will spend the summer in court fighting for their return.  

Unlike before, now I know such action holds danger.  Yet, like my hometown hero – Sojourner Truth – I intend to fight for the just return of my children.  Like Sojourner’s son Peter, my children never would have been stripped from me if it weren’t for the color of their skin

Fatherhood Woes, So Woefully Underfunded, these many years…

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Image: President Barack Obama and his daughters, Malia, left, and Sasha

Hopes rise for progress on fatherhood woes

Obama seen as key figure in campaign to promote responsible dads

By DAVID CRARY

The timing of this article — the week before Mother’s Day — was not lost on us mothers who lost our kids to the “promoting responsible fatherhood” initiative.   Please see article — I don’t want to infringe on AP, I”m already taking on the court system and a father who stalks, plus a two government-endorsed professionals in my own family in several matters….

 

NEW YORK – With a centennial celebration of Father’s Day coming next month, and a new president committed to supporting better parenting, liberals and conservatives alike say the political stars may be aligned for major progress in promoting responsible fatherhood.

{{GEE!  I wonder where the author got THAT term from?  (see below)}}

It’s an issue that’s been divisive in the past, even as research made clear that the estimated 24 million children growing up with absent fathers — a disproportionate number of them African-American — are at higher risk in regard to poverty, crime and other social problems.

 

If we read on, we will note that:

Fatherhood bill

 

Obama already has demonstrated his interest in fatherhood issues in multiple ways.

He is a past co-sponsor of an ambitious fatherhood bill that Democrats Sen. Evan Bayh of Indiana and Rep. Danny Davis of Illinois plan to reintroduce in conjunction with Father’s Day.   Many of its provisions are aimed at removing barriers that deter noncustodial fathers from providing financial support to their children.(##)

 

Obama also has designated responsible fatherhood as one of the four priorities of his new faith-based advisory council, a politically diverse group of religious and civic leaders.

“This could be the real signature issue of this council,” said Jim Wallis, founder of the liberal Christian social-justice network Sojourners. “If we’re going to pursue this — and we must — you need to break up the left-right culture-wars polarities.”

Among the conservative council members sensing new opportunities on fatherhood is the Rev. Frank Page, a former president of the Southern Baptist Convention

 

EVEN in the token comments (a few lines each) from Gay Rights and NOW, the word “fatherhood” or “responsible fatherhood” is being drilled in.  Gee, I wonder why:

REPETITION SURE IS TO INDOCTRINATION, EH?

I’ve been wanting to post this for a long time, about how “recent” the miserable inattention to the issue of fatherhood has really been (only about 10 years of federal initiatives, minimum).

 

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90FR0104  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 474,640 
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90FR0092  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 694,061 
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90FR0060  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  OFA  $ 223,808 
90FR0059  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 852,000 
90FR0058  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
90FR0057  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 436,671 
90FR0056  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD, PRIORITY AREA 3  ACF  ACF  $ 465,533 
90FR0055  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 400,000 
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90FR0038  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
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90FR0033  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 470,000 
90FR0032  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 465,000 
90FR0030  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 462,000 
90FR0025  RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD CLASSES WITH INCARCERATED FATHERS. CONCURRENT WORK WITH MOTHER/CARETAKER OF CHILD, TO LEARN RESP  ACF  ACF  $ 441,387 
90FR0022  RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD SINGLE ACTIVITY GRANT, LEVEL 1: MEN IN THE MAKING  ACF  ACF  $ 480,000 
90FR0021  STRENGTHENING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD PROGRAMS FOR LOW-INCOME, NON-CUSTODIAL FATHERS -LEVEL 2  ACF  ACF  $ 998,912 
90FR0019  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 464,896 
90FR0014  ‘BEING THE DAD’ RESPONSIBLE PARENTING PROJECT TYPE OF PROJECT: RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD SINGLE AC  ACF  ACF  $ 490,651 
90FR0013  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD: BUILDING PATHWAYS FOR LATINO FATHERS  ACF  ACF  $ 1,499,372
90FR0083  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 205,834 
90FR0009  CHICAGO DEPARTMENT OF PUBLIC HEALTH, PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD PROGRAM, PRIORITY AREA 2  ACF  ACF  $ 325,000 
90FR0002  IDAHO DADS MATTER! RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD PROJECT  ACF  ACF  $ 379,753 
90FR0074  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 400,000 
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90FR0076  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 1,000,000
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90FR0037  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 1,000,000
90FR0036  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 995,624 
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90FR0031  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  OFA  $ 1,000,000
90FR0029  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
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90XP0197  HEALTHY MARRIAGE PROMOTION AND RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  OPRE  $ 50,000 
90FR0003  THE ST. VINCENT DE PAUL ENHANCEMENT PROGRAM IS A RESPONBLE FATHERHOOD PROGRAM PROMOTING HEALTHLY, MARRIAGE, PARENTING AN  ACF  OFA  $ 240,021 
90FR0006  PASSAGES  ACF  ACF  $ 764,008 
90FR0005  LIGHTHOUSE SKILLS FOR YOUNG FATHERS PROGRAM  ACF  ACF  $ 880,000 
90FR0001  FATHERS IN FOCUS NETWORK  ACF  ACF  $ 490,592 
90FR0102  PEOPLE OF PRINCIPLES “PARENTING OPPORTUNITIES FROM PRISON” PROGRAM  ACF  ACF  $ 850,000 
90FR0100  AVANCE-EL PASO STRENGTHENING MARRIAGES PROGRAM  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
90FR0099  PROMOTING ADVANCES IN PATERNAL ACCOUNTABILITY AND SUCCESS (PAPAS) PROGRAM  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
90FR0096  RESPONSIBLE FATHERWOOD WORKS- PRIORITY AREA 3  ACF  ACF  $ 486,938 
90FR0090  IDENTITY, INC.  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
90FR0089  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHHHO  ACF  ACF  $ 900,000 
90FR0087  DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA FATHERHOOD INITIATIVE  ACF  ACF  $ 4,000,000
90FR0071  PROMOTING REOPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 424,034 
90FR0046  COLLABORATIVE FATHERHOOD PROGRAM OF WILMINGTON, DE  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
90FR0039  PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERWOOD  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
90FR0028  FAMILY STRENGTHENING PROJECT  ACF  ACF  $ 750,000 
90FR0027  FULL TIME FATHERS WILL PROVIDE EMPLOYMENT ASSISTANCE AND JOB PLACEMENT, CHILD SUPPORT CONNECTIONS, PEER SUPPORT GROUPS A  ACF  ACF  $ 497,696 
90FR0026  ENGAGING THE FAMILY IN THE RECOVERY PROCESS – AN INNOVATIVE APPROACH FOR THE MAX-OUT OFFENDER  ACF  ACF  $ 583,527 
90FR0026  ENGAGING THE FAMILY IN THE RECOVERY PROCESS – AN INNOVATIVE APPROACH FOR THE MAX-OUT OFFENDER  ACF  OFA  $ 334,366 
90FR0024  VCC CLUB DE PADRES  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
90FR0023  COOS-CURRY INITIATIVE “STRONG DADS SHOW KIDS YOU CARE” STABALIZE FAMILIES THROUGH A COMPREHENSIVE ASSESSMENT, TRAINING A  ACF  ACF  $ 650,000 
90FR0017  ECONOMIC STABILIZATION OF FORMERLY INCARCERATED FATHERS  ACF  ACF  $ 492,000 
90FR0015  JEFFERSON COUNTY FATHERHOOD INITIATIVE PRIORITY 4  ACF  ACF  $ 870,419 
90FR0012  KISRA FATHERHOOD PROGRAM  ACF  ACF  $ 946,048 
90FB0001  NATIONAL FATERHOOD CAPACITY BUILDING INITIATIVE  ACF  ACF  $ 1,999,068
90FR0020  CHILD FIND OF AMERICA’S PARENT HELP – TELEPHONE BASED INTERVENTIONS TO HELP DISPUTING, PARTED PARENTS IMPROVE THEIR EMO  ACF  ACF  $ 490,414 
90FR0018  FATHERS TO DADS: A PROJECT TO TRANSITION COPPER COUNTRY FATHERS INTO RESPONSIBLE PARENTS PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOO  ACF  ACF  $ 500,000 
90OJ2021  USING MARRIAGE EDUCATION TO FOSTER INVESTMENT IN FATHERHOOD: A LONG-TERM COMPARISON OF INDIVIDUAL VS. COUPLES LEVEL INTE  ACF  OPRE  $ 1,168,166
90NI0014  MARRIAGE MATTERS  ACF  ANA  $ 250,000 
90AM3152  NATIONAL TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE CENTER FOR MULTI-GENERATIONAL AND CIVIC ENGAGEMENT PROJECTS  AOA  AOA/OSCP $ 1,932,885

 

Click on any grant for description of the grant, primary recipient, and you can then click on the primary recipient for a look at what else they do.

Your time would be better spent here, than reading almost any blog. Hunt and gather a little data, so the wool is not pulled over YOUR eyes, at least!

Evolution, my eye!  It was promoted, by PRESIDENTIAL DIRECTIVE.  

Barriers to access to children have included, historically, such things as restraining orders, incarceration (including for crimes that may or may not have included sexual abuse, or assault on others) and so forth.

These may have been promoted as targeting low income (and they did), but middle and high-end guys got in there too, including free legal help.

 

One abstract includes how prisoners were given free legal help to modify their child support arrears down to approximately $19 a month.  This is simply child-trafficking, at public expense, done without mothers informed consent, and in an absolutely unethical manner.  

Not from the Administration of Children and Families, but from the National Center for INJURY PREVENTION and CDC (DISEASE CONTROL), I give you (and dare you to translate the meaning of)

 

http://www.cdc.gov/od/pgo/funding/CE09-002.htm#SectionIII

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Adaptations of Evidence-Based Parenting Programs to Engage Fathers in Child Maltreatment Prevention

Background

Parent Training programs are the most promising approach to date to prevent the two most common forms of child maltreatment (neglect and physical abuse). Specific parenting programs have shown efficacy for reducing re-occurrence of maltreatment (Chaffin, Silovsky, Funderburk, Valle, Brestan, Balachova, Jackson, Lensgraf, & Bonner, 2004; Lutzker & Rice, 1987), and for preventing abuse in families where it has not occurred (Bugental, Ellerson, Lin, Rainey, Kokotovic, & O’Hara, 2002; Daro & Harding, 1999; Olds, Kitzman, Cole, & Robinson, 1997).

If you quote the right experts, you can say anything.  Personally, I thought that VAWA and CPS (Child Protective Services) existed to preven violence and protect children.  The beauty of parenting programs is, they never stop the cash flow. 

Batterers treatment programs do NOT have a resounding success.  

This is problematic because research has shown that the role of fathers in child maltreatment perpetration is substantial; studies have reported that as many as 48% of maltreatment cases involve fathers as perpetrators. Furthermore, almost two-thirds of male perpetrators were reported as being the only perpetrators, indicating that prevention efforts involving mothers in these cases would not address the areas of need in these families (US Dept of Health and Human Services, 2005).

 

Apparently that nugget hasn’t trickled down to the judges who continue to order BOTH parents into parenting programs.  Or punishing the Moms alone by simply custody-switching to Dad when she protests, er, maltreatment.   Hmm…

I note how grant applicants specify by year, WHICH US DHHS document is being quoted.  I’d LOVE to get my hands on that one…  My primary evidence (other than personal, anecdotal, and “mainstream medial” accounts of the latest family annihilation (or, for that matter, school shooting, I have not heard of ONE perpetrated by a female) has been the USDOJ homicide statistics.  

Well, I leave you to the rest.  

 

I THINK I’LL GET SOME PRESS COVERAGE ON MOTHERS, TIMED TO FATHERHOOD DAYS, WHAT DO YOU THINK?

(SEE MY LINK TO THE SIDE:  THE END OF MANHOOD) (on the topic of these mythologies).

 

 

 

 

 


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